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Building PowerTheShearerComplex/r/TheRedPill01/05/18 12:05 AM
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Field ReportTheShearerComplex/r/TheRedPill12/09/19 12:27 PM
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It’s why the majority of plates brake
/r/askTRP17/03/21 07:37 PM
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I would say this is partially your fault for not vetting her properly. If you’re vetting for an LTR, make sure you vet on whether they plan to stay in the same country as you long term. If not don’t waste your time on those girls. You just end up in this situation
/r/askTRP09/03/21 11:56 PM
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What do you even mean by what’s right and good? Who decides this? The fact of the matter in around the next 100 years were will all be dead and none of our achievements will likely mean shit. Focussing on achievements too much makes you unhappy as deep down you know it’s a taking you away from the one thing that truly matters.
/r/askTRP15/02/21 12:54 PM
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Lol you’re so in her frame it’s unbelievable. Why would you just gym Saturday instead? In fact gym shouldn’t take more than an hour minus 8 hours sleep, that gives you 15 hours to do something else
/r/askTRP13/02/21 05:25 PM
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You jumped the gun way too fast here. If your LTR is hot, which she should be, she will have multiple orbiters texting her at all times. It’s just the name of the game of dating hot girls, higher competition and stress is a occupational hazard when playing that high up the chain. Girls saying other guys are hot are for this exact sort of reason, so the insecure guys nope out and they are left with the Chad who doesn’t give a fuck as he knows he’s attractive and is a better catch. Why would he gi…
/r/askTRP20/01/21 09:07 PM
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This is abit late. I am a guy who’s late 20’s, I do know one or two guys who are in their 40’s who bang 20-24 year olds. Although, they are good looking guys, who own their own businesses and spend a lot of time “gaming” women. So I know for a fact it is possible and not some false hope. I have no reason to lie and comment days later when I know no one else will see this but you. Of course you do need certain things lined up for it to be a regular thing. But a lot of guys can achieve this if the…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/20 02:31 PM
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How did she respond?
/r/askTRP27/12/20 11:10 PM
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So you’re a life coach or you just watched that content?
/r/askTRP22/10/20 03:34 PM
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She was probably feeling guilty. She needed to relieve that guilt so messaged you. Plus guilt and anxiety can be x10 if hungover. I wouldn’t meet up with her again even if she’s into it. Major red flag that this girl is slightly unhinged. Sometimes it’s knowing when to say no, that will save you a hell of a lot of hassle down the line
/r/seduction11/10/20 12:05 PM
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Wtf, that’s definitely the weirdest flake I’ve ever heard of
/r/seduction11/10/20 12:00 PM
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I suppose if you grew up with it then it’s only natural it’s part of your identity. It’s pretty simple if it comes up just laugh about it and move on. Just be like “lol I used to be ballin but now I am delivery driver, I’ll be challenging Bill gates again very soon. Anyway [change topic]...” Tell them it’s a temporary thing in a funny, chilled way.
/r/askTRP10/10/20 05:21 PM
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Would you want to be with a girl who’s attraction to you is based on your wealth?
/r/askTRP10/10/20 05:11 PM
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Suck it up bro
/r/seduction25/07/20 02:01 PM
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Yes, but you can change being an introvert
/r/seduction07/07/20 09:55 AM
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Meh it’s some random on reddit. They are not exactly going to spend a week seducing them and playing hard to get to see a picture of legs. Best strategy there is just to straight up ask. Especially if she brought up the topic.
/r/seduction27/05/20 12:16 PM
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Yup move to Eastern Europe and a lot of 20-25 year olds only date 40 plus guys.
/r/askTRP26/05/20 08:21 AM
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Hey bro, chances are you will be fine but let this be a lesson. Remember this feeling. From now on you will make sure to use a condom. Also may sound weird but masturbate with a condom a few times and practice putting it on, until you have it down to like a pit stop on formula one. This could literally save your life.
/r/askTRP22/05/20 09:35 AM
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Lol if you’re getting friend zoned it isn’t because of emoji’s.
/r/askTRP20/05/20 01:04 PM
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Sounds like your main issue is you don’t have abundance. You need a few girls going on at once, so when one inevitably drops of due to random reasons, he’ll even a pandemic, you have other girls. So your not starting at ground zero. That said, dry spells are part of the game and even top level guys are going to get unlucky in periods and feel like they have nothing. You gotta keep driving on. Getting creative.
/r/seduction11/05/20 09:14 AM
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You don’t need to avoid them, but don’t give them life stories. Just keep them short and sweet with some humour. The best thing is to make a statement at the end then she will give her opinion and start talking about herself again.
/r/seduction12/12/19 09:30 AM
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Issues for me is a lot of the girls don’t look like their pics.
/r/seduction05/12/19 05:30 PM
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People would definitely pay for it. People always pay for shortcuts (not saying that’s a bad thing).
/r/seduction05/12/19 05:29 PM
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At least you have a killer story for worst date now!
/r/seduction09/11/19 09:02 PM
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So you mention you want to give up as you have invested a lot of time trying to learn but you’re not approaching that many girls. I am questioning how much “effort” you are actually putting in. And I don’t mean this in a nasty way. Just my honest observation. The only way you get good is through experience. Forums and books won’t help you improve. If you want to have more options with girls you want, you need to be talking to a lot more girls you want and likely getting rejected a lot more. If y…
/r/seduction22/10/19 09:51 PM
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You need social calibration to understand how hard to press the throttle and when to pull back. The only way you get this is through experience. Trial and error. You can’t learn social skills from a book. You get it from being social and pushing yourself out your comfort zone. Here’s the bit you don’t want to hear- you need to be prepared to humiliate yourself and fail initially. Maybe you even come across as creepy to one or two girls initially but you will soon learn. “Naturals” probably went …
/r/seduction22/10/19 09:44 PM
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How many girls are you approaching a week?
/r/seduction22/10/19 09:35 PM
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I will. I’ll be enjoying my free pussy that actually wants me to fuck her purely because she enjoys it. You have a good one dude.
/r/TheRedPill21/10/19 01:11 PM
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Okay I am sure you are all running million pound businesses, working 20 hour days and have no time for girls at all.
/r/TheRedPill21/10/19 12:52 PM
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Lol you know red pill has been infiltrated by incels when buying prostitutes is deemed an acceptable strategy. Enjoy sharing with homeless guys.
/r/TheRedPill21/10/19 12:33 PM
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No they don’t. But that doesn’t change the facts that paying for sex is defined as the sexual strategy of beta bux. Read the rationale male.
/r/TheRedPill21/10/19 12:21 PM
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You may be on the wrong sub. Red Pill is a sexual strategy. If you don’t want to make the effort to speak to women, then red pill isn’t for you. Maybe something like MGTOW or some random incel forum would be better for you. Also you don’t have to go to a club if that’s not what your into. Read the sidebar.
/r/TheRedPill21/10/19 11:45 AM
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Beta Bux is the sexual strategy of using money to attract girls and get laid, usually because you have little other value to offer. What’s that got to do with a flesh light?
/r/TheRedPill21/10/19 11:36 AM
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Okay you don’t want to put the work in and would rather just be a beta bux (being a beta bux isn’t necessarily bad it’s a strategy as you say). Cool, as long as you accept that, then you do you. You can still have a good career etc.
/r/TheRedPill21/10/19 11:26 AM
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I don’t moralise anything. My point was you are by definition a beta bux if you pay for prostitutes or are a sugar daddy etc. If you accept that cool, but don’t try and male hamster it away.
/r/TheRedPill21/10/19 11:12 AM
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It’s by definition beta bux. As long as you accept that, that’s fine though.
/r/TheRedPill21/10/19 11:05 AM
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Alpha isnt fucking a girl you just met, nor is it beta to pay for sex. Its about mentality. Someone whos confident, menrally strong ,yadda yadda. Male hamstering is real. How is it different from beta bux to pay for sex?
/r/TheRedPill21/10/19 10:31 AM
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It’s a private programme, so only way to get it now would be to pay for it or torrent it or something.
/r/seduction10/10/19 09:31 AM
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No I hadn’t met her. I basically got her number and Instagram from a 15 minute interaction from day game. We had a couple of messages back and forth but she stopped replying and I just didn’t message her again. A couple of weeks back after a few plates broke, I decided one last try on quite a few numbers in my phone that never went anywhere. So I sent a batch ping message to 20 or so of them. She answered, and we have met up banged since. Pretty crazy. Only thing I can think of was timing, she w…
/r/askTRP19/09/19 09:20 PM
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Ah yeah I do have their numbers. But one I’ve had for over a year (day game number that I’ve recently reignited).
/r/askTRP19/09/19 01:45 PM
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Get more than the average dude yes. But it’s diminishing returns. Too many guys think it’s a linear thing, the more jacked you are, the more girls you get. It doesn’t work logically like this. Remember girls don’t act logically, they act emotionally. As I said if his sole aim is to get the hottest girls possible on a regular basis, he has hit a very good level with his body, so it’s likely better to max up other areas of his life. But hey if you just want to get as big and ripped as possible the…
/r/askTRP18/09/19 08:16 AM
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Yeah I’d say currently your at optimum levels for attracting girls. I found once you reach that sort of level, you have to put so much more effort in to get even bigger again (we are talking gym daily, diet on point, sleep etc) without getting that many more results. If your sole aim is to attract girls then your better investing that time in getting unreal at game, or building a great business or career to help become that true well rounded 9/10. The fact is the majority of girls aren’t actuall…
/r/askTRP18/09/19 07:34 AM
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Well your asking how to respond. So you obviously want to give a “good” response. Just say you enjoy lifting.
/r/askTRP09/09/19 07:38 AM
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Why do you care what other people think? If you enjoy lifting weights, just say you enjoy lifting weights.
/r/askTRP09/09/19 06:47 AM
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It good, but I definitely think a lot of his concepts around texting etc are very much out dated.
/r/seduction19/07/19 09:43 AM
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I know this too well. Was dating a super agreeable, submissive girl who was feminine and very traditional, became deluded and thought I found a unicorn. WRONG...After 6 months she tree swung to a doctor who started hitting on her. If she is agreeable with you, she is agreeable with everyone else. Little does this guy know she will likely free swing to the next flavour of the month.
/r/askTRP27/01/19 08:36 PM
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Some minor feedback but I noticed in 2 of the pics your wearing the same outfit. Makes it look like you have a shortage of photos.
/r/askTRP24/01/19 10:05 PM
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I did say outside London
/r/askTRP24/01/19 10:01 PM
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Yeah it’s similar sort of advice to don’t use social media. Thing is a lot of TRP advice is starting to become outdated (a lot of the original players in the space are getting older now) the worlds changed a lot in just 10 years. Most women have their own careers now and their own jobs which they can live off comfortably. So they care less about money. If their partner earns a decent wage it’s seen more as a bonus. It’s more about how their partner makes them feel and what value they bring emoti…
/r/askTRP24/01/19 01:19 PM
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Okay this is the least important problem I think I’ve ever heard about. Sounds like people who lay awake at night worried about their reddit karma. Go out and just talk to a few girls.
/r/askTRP22/01/19 01:21 PM
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I seriously don’t understand why anyone would care about a fake internet number? I must be missing something. Do you get money for a specific number of days completed or something?
/r/askTRP22/01/19 01:16 PM
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I know you wrote this a while ago but dam this hit me had.
/r/TheRedPill16/01/19 02:04 PM
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Okay what I was said was slightly tongue in cheek . However, do you want to know the REAL reason why watching anime is a huge waste of time? Because it’s a distraction . People in this sub may have goals to get their dream girl, set up a profitable business, bring value to their community, hell as you say even some level of expertise at basketball. To achieve these things you need to sacrifice stuff, you need to be a certain type of person, with certain type of traits. How many top business peop…
/r/askTRP11/01/19 09:19 PM
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Because it’s for kids.
/r/askTRP11/01/19 02:37 PM
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Isn’t therapy 90% just letting people talk for an hour. Then maybe interjecting ever so often with “and how did that make you feel?”
/r/askTRP11/01/19 01:48 PM
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Join a few clubs whether that’s climbing, MMA, CrossFit, improv, football (soccer), great way to make Male friends.
/r/askTRP11/01/19 09:15 AM
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Generally a lot more reserved/ closed off and less chatty. But Irish girls accent is amazing and they are quite hot.
/r/askTRP10/01/19 05:49 PM
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Not using social media to your advantage in this day and age is like Coca Cola not running adverts on their and instead flyering houses. It’s never been easier to showcase value.
/r/askTRP10/01/19 04:55 PM
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Doesn’t matter, go out and approach 10 girls this week. Then keep doing it until you get good.
/r/askTRP08/01/19 11:24 PM
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Thumb wars and silly nicknames definitely work.
/r/seduction08/01/19 10:20 PM
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Stop blaming your parents for your situation. Take responsibility for your own life. No one else will, so you will just waste away and die into nothingness. That should scare you so much more than anxiety over brushing your teeth twice a day.
/r/askTRP04/01/19 10:01 PM
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Yeah that’s what I was thinking. I was looking and udemy and YouTube vids are a lot cheaper to learn. But I imagine 80% of it is doing it with others or infront of others, so think I’ll invest in some group classes.
/r/askTRP03/01/19 04:12 PM
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Not until you take some action on this.
/r/TheRedPill03/01/19 01:33 PM
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Basically you’re fucked either way. The fact you have to ask this question means you’re already beta and even if someone gives you the perfect answer here. You’re mask will fall at some point anyway. I say this as someone who has been in your exact same situation. You may as well say whatever you want and how you feel and if you fuck up, guess what, you win anyway as you learn a valuable lesson and take that into the next girl (I.e you become less beta), if you pass then the girl likes you for y…
/r/askTRP25/12/18 08:05 PM
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The transplanted hair likely won’t fall out but all hair around it may. So you will probably need at least 3 procedures and then likely still not be able to cover your whole head.
/r/askTRP24/12/18 01:23 PM
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Spill the beans, was she hot?
/r/askTRP21/12/18 01:10 PM
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How did you afford to do this? Did you not have a job to pay for bills etc?
/r/askTRP21/12/18 12:57 PM
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Needs more photos of you with friends. Possibly one of you with a group and there’s a girl or a dog, to be classed as ultimate.
/r/TheRedPill13/12/18 09:49 AM
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Jesus, you should be getting up at the latest 8am and going to bed between 11.30 to 12.30 every night. Unless you work night shifts, nothing productive happens after 10pm.
/r/askTRP11/12/18 04:52 PM
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The Alchemist- it is a novel about a shepherd who chases after some gold- but very insightful and chasing after you dreams- short light book that only takes 3-4 hours to read. Will inspire you. No More Mr Nice guy- book on how to go after what you want more and how to be less of a push over The One thing- how to set and achieve the main goals you want to achieve with useful real life examples. The rationale Male- useful if you want to be more “alpha”/ successful with women Models-Mark Manson- on…
/r/askTRP06/12/18 03:11 PM
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Certainly, what area of life do you want to improve most?
/r/askTRP06/12/18 03:03 PM
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Read at least one book a month. So maybe half an hour to an hour’s reading a day.
/r/askTRP06/12/18 12:26 PM
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It’s not what you say, but how you say it.
/r/seduction02/12/18 08:30 PM
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Can confirm this. Even if these tactics work on a girl (which it will with some girls, no doubt), as OP says you put them in the box. Therefore, the real reason they are chasing you is to try and regain the power and get out of the box i.e seeking validation from you- that may even lead to sex. However, once they get the validation they crave or they visibly win you over (I.e you bang), they achieve their goal and grow bored- the illusion is lifted. Unless you can put on this act for ever which …
/r/seduction30/11/18 04:49 PM
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There’s only one cure to your problem. Tomorrow literally go out and walk up to the first girl you find attractive and say: “Hey, I know this is random, but I seen you walk by and really liked your [insert interesting thing about her], So I had to come and say hi. Take fucking action! You will shocked how little the rejection affects you.
/r/askTRP23/11/18 02:22 PM
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I get the point your making. She’s not the special snowflake you imagined her to be. But I’m going one step deeper and asking why are you attempting to make this point.
/r/askTRP21/11/18 01:18 PM
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Doesn’t change the fact your getting jealous over a girl, who isn’t your girlfriend, hitting up other guys.
/r/askTRP21/11/18 01:04 PM
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Meh part of being a man is realising life can be unfair and to take it on the chin and keep grafting anyway without whining (people hate whiners). Don’t concentrate on how easy some others peoples lives are, as you can never win that game. Someone is always richer, better looking and more charming. Oh and by the way you probably have it a million times better then some dude in Africa walking 10km every day for a sip of water that will give him violate diarrhoea for the next week. Just concentrat…
/r/askTRP19/11/18 04:44 PM
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I’ve been gaming a few years now, approaching 100’s of girls, so I’ve learned a lot about the initial approach, in a variety of high pressure situations (coffee shops, queues, shops) it’s all about calibration and showing you understand the social situation at hand. My general rule is if there’s an awkward situation or an elephant in the room, is to call it out. Just be super honest and say you seen you matched but rarely check bumble or whatever, so you thought you’d message her on insta to see…
/r/seduction19/11/18 03:16 PM
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How would anyone find out? Think how apple got caught making older devices shitter and yet a lot of people still buy their products.
/r/seduction19/11/18 03:05 PM
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What the statement above fails to incorporate is if the guy is truly a 9, he probably has about 75% of girls within his age demographic throwing themselves at him (even plenty with boyfriends). A good friend of mine is a part time model and banker, as a joke (experiment for me) I got him to go on tinder, with some of his modelling shots and within a 24 hours he had over 100 matches and around 20 girls straight up messaging him first asking him to “come around or asking if he is free, not just a …
/r/askTRP19/11/18 02:53 PM
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It depends. If you’ve been hitting the gym more than 2 years then high volume is key for building muscle. There’s a reason the top bodybuilders don’t just smash 45 minute high quality sessions.
/r/TheRedPill14/11/18 01:14 PM
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That’s the issue, it does come across as autistic over text as people can’t tell tone. I’m sure it would be funny in person.
/r/askTRP05/11/18 07:55 PM
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I think your ELO drops if you don’t swipe regularly/ daily. So wouldn’t be very sustainable. So the “Sniper” tactic isn’t that effective.
/r/askTRP05/11/18 12:01 PM
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How many girls are you approaching in real life?
/r/askTRP04/11/18 11:00 AM
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For some girls looks matter, for other girls they don’t. It’s why game is massively a numbers game, if your not good looking.
/r/askTRP02/11/18 09:21 AM
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Depends what you mean by game. Pick up lines no. But raising confidence, body language vibe and social skills will definitely raise your value to those around you and will therefore increase SMV.
/r/askTRP02/11/18 09:11 AM
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Oh yeah you 100% need to hit the gym. I’ve been doing so for the last 6 years and noticed a big difference. Key thing I’ve realised is girls aren’t bothered about height for heights sake it’s all about appearing dominate. The more physically domineering you look, the more feminine the girl feels when she’s with you. This makes her feel good, as a lot of girls want to be/ appear feminine obviously. It’s like would you date a 6 ft 3 butch girl? No, very likely not, as it would feel very immaculati…
/r/askTRP31/10/18 09:36 PM
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I was very similar to you. Very baby faced up until late 20’s. When within a year my beard came in and by the time I was 28ish. I looked very good for my age and basically like a good looking 22 year old. I don’t know what changed in terms of my facial aesthetics but I’ve noticed getting a lot more attention from girls. Some guys are just late bloomers and mature like a fine wine, it’s usually the younger looking ones. Start smashing the gym and working on a bullet proof mind set and you will st…
/r/askTRP31/10/18 09:05 PM
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Please do, or DM me if you want to keep it more private.
/r/TheRedPill31/10/18 05:21 PM
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How have you managed to line up so many dates? Online dating or cold approach?
/r/TheRedPill31/10/18 09:41 AM
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Yeah that’s the mental dilemma I’m battling with. She’s hot but I can feel myself getting more and more attention from hot girls and don’t want to risk it all for 15 mins with a girl who may be carrying some serious STDs. However, it’s hard to work out if I’m overreacting.
/r/askTRP25/10/18 07:21 PM
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Condoms don’t protect against Genital warts or Herpes.
/r/askTRP25/10/18 07:20 PM
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Have something to wake up for.
/r/askTRP25/10/18 06:48 PM
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Maybe you don’t give a direct compliment as you’re not confident? To be honest, I don’t think to compliment or not matters in the first 10’seconds the girl isn’t really listening. She’s been snapped out of whatever she’s doing and trying to work out what’s going on. You’re focus should more be on body language and vibe. If that is chilled it will calm her down and you can say almost anything (that isn’t gross or offensive).
/r/seduction11/10/18 09:47 AM
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There’s no such thing as liTerally AWALT if that’s what you mean. AWALT is a generalisation in and of itself.
/r/askTRP07/10/18 11:41 AM
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Same thing happened to me but after 6 months. However, I don’t necessarily agree with your first point on boring questions. If you’ve been seeing a girl for quite a few months and regularly banging I don’t think constantly trying to “game” the girl is needed. Just act like a normal guy but make sure your spicing it up in person. Make sure you use balance and calibrate accordingly. Basically I doubt she finished it because you asked how her day. In fact if you want to keep a plate spinning you sh…
/r/seduction24/09/18 03:37 PM
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But why don’t you care for it? What do you not like about it?
/r/askTRP21/08/18 08:51 PM
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Ask yourself why do you not care for socialising?
/r/askTRP21/08/18 06:14 PM
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Wow my main plate literally ticks everyone of those. I was thinking about LTR’ing her.
/r/askTRP20/08/18 12:06 PM
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Can speak from experience that this is the case. I’ve personally found texting every other day leading up to the date. The initial texts need to be non-needy funny statements. Also a lot of the time the girl will text you first.
/r/TheRedPill18/08/18 09:54 AM
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Yeah that’s exactly what I was thinking.
/r/askTRP15/08/18 10:10 AM
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Wow I think you may have just hit the core of hypergamy.
/r/TheRedPill14/08/18 04:07 PM
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I think the point is they love you as long as you meet their needs or give them what they truly want. If you stop doing that, they will stop loving you. It’s getting over the myth of unconditional love that is at the core of red pill. Only your parents is possible of that, even then it’s extremely rare. For example (albeit slightly extreme) you pull a “high quality” girl, who a lot of guys are chasing but she decides for whatever reason she wants to be with you. You have the same personality thr…
/r/TheRedPill14/08/18 02:04 PM
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Does he have a book out?
/r/TheRedPill14/08/18 01:22 PM
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This transformation isn’t an over night thing, it’s a long battle that will slowly turn over the course of years and not months. Set boundaries and then stick to them that will slowly increase your self esteem.
/r/askTRP02/08/18 11:23 AM
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What happens if your in a LTR and bang daily?
/r/askTRP01/08/18 04:45 PM
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Yeah it sounds like she is low SMV aswell.
/r/askTRP20/07/18 09:15 AM
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Yeah may be different in America, but I’ve never met a high quality rational girl who has a weed dealer.
/r/askTRP20/07/18 08:58 AM
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Shit happens in life, it’s inevitable but it’s how you handle it what makes the difference and you seem to handle it well. It may sound weird now, but you will be thanking this girl for dumping/ cheating on you in 2 years time. Hit the gym hard, work on your appearance and style, rid yourself of all bad habits and ridiculous distractions, further your career, pursue your passions and in 2 years time you will be banging girls of your dreams. You will look back and think wow bullet dodged, what wa…
/r/askTRP18/07/18 11:35 PM
4

I don’t mean this to be harsh but she probably cheated on you as you have low SMV. Girls are always testing the waters to see if they can get a better guy. Gaming nerds are pretty low in the hierarchy.
/r/askTRP18/07/18 11:25 PM
7

I.e is it a good idea to be a orbiter?
/r/askTRP18/07/18 09:55 AM
10

“Thanks Mom”
/r/askTRP18/07/18 09:49 AM
1

TLDR; stop being a pussy and approach even if they are in groups. Will you embarrass yourself initially? Very possibly but you will soon learn. You need those initial rejections to lower your ego, if you want to get far in this game. You need to stop giving a fuck, a lot of rejections will help you with that, weird right? See simply just approaching a girl as a win. Whatever happens after that it doesn’t matter, you’ve already won. Outcome independence. Now stop overthinking and just fucking APP…
/r/seduction14/07/18 01:02 PM
1

Sounds like you weren’t into her. It’s happened to me before. If you aren’t attracted to someone you will be repulsed by doing anything sexual with them. Filter the girls better and don’t waste your time on girls you aren’t attracted to, it massively damages your psyche.
/r/askTRP13/07/18 04:07 PM
8

You are coming at this from the totally wrong mind set. No-one graduates and then just falls into their dream job/ sector straight away you have to grind and enhance your skills. Learn what you love and hate. Yes, start looking at other careers and DON’T beat yourself up, you haven’t wasted 4 years. However, there’s a saying...in your 20’s work for someone else, get paid to make mistakes on some elses dime. Understand how work environment interactions/ managing clients works. Then in your late 2…
/r/askTRP12/07/18 05:56 PM
12

Who cares what the other girls think. It doesn’t matter how hot your girl...friend is. You are approaching this from a beta mindset already and will no doubt turn the girls off at the party either way. Just go to the party with who ever wants to come and be cool, and have the most fun there. If your really that bothered about pre-selection make sure you hang around with hotter girls in the future.
/r/askTRP12/07/18 01:20 PM
1

She had better options at the time, now she feels you are an option. She probably wasn’t that attracted so will likely jump to another guy as soon as someone (in her eyes) better comes along.
/r/seduction06/07/18 11:27 PM
7

Realise that it’s actually an insecurity. Really what you don’t like is the fact that she is more experienced in you. Therefore, you see yourself as inexperienced and probably not the “best” she’s ever had. The way to overcome it is to get more experience, realise sex isn’t a big deal at all and then get good at sex. If your unreal at sex you don’t give a fuck about other guys as you know you will fuck her brains out.
/r/seduction06/07/18 05:36 PM
1

Find him on LinkedIn and message him. Most uni professors will have a LinkedIn these days.
/r/seduction04/07/18 10:00 PM
1

I think your 100% right, I’ve become the dreaded outcome dependent. I’m starting to realise even following redpill to the letter, these sort of situations can certainly sneak up on you. After doing this for 2 years and massively improving every aspect of my life, it’s easy to see yourself as a redpill god, spinning plates left, right and centre, laughing at all the “betas”. Then along comes a girl your former beta self could only dream of and it knocks you down to Earth with a bang. I suppose it…
/r/askTRP04/07/18 09:58 PM
1

So if she’s sending a text every day. How to I apply to the 2/3rds rule?
/r/seduction04/07/18 04:03 PM
1

Yeah I think you’re right. I wouldn’t mind getting more serious with her, as I say she literally ticks all my boxes. The thing is I don’t want to turn into an orbiter or become betaised or whatever the word is around her.
/r/seduction04/07/18 04:02 PM
12

You both need to chill the fuck out and not see sex as such a big thing or something to “give away”. It’s something you should both just do if you enjoy doing it together, just like holding hands or kissing. I can guarantee the first time you both have sex it will be messy, awkward and probably not that “deep” or enjoyable as both of you are so inexperienced at it and don’t really know what your doing. You will think “is that it” and will probably come away slightly disillusioned that you have b…
/r/seduction04/07/18 03:12 PM
1

Got a girl who I’m banging at the moment and she literally texts me first thing every morning. If they are very attracted, they will text first.
/r/askTRP29/06/18 10:45 PM
1

Yeah it’s literally the hardest thing to get right because your vibe can’t be faked (as it’s subconscious body communication) and you can’t get good by reading about it. The only way to get a good vibe is experience and practice, once you’ve done 300/400 approaches you just don’t give a fuck anymore and you let go of all insecurities and negative thoughts and are just totally unfiltered and in the moment with the girl, and your not outcome dependent. In terms of the structure it’s all automated …
/r/seduction27/06/18 04:31 PM
1

She was just looking for some validation from you.
/r/askTRP27/06/18 09:14 AM
5

Hi man, just want to say your story sounds similar to me (minus the divorce). 100% stick at it. When I started out it took me like 200 approaches just to get a number, although for the first 100 I barely even attempted to close. The first year is really hard, where you encounter sticking point after sticking point. When your focusing on one sticking point, one you beat earlier will come up again. It is like spinning plates, just keep going. The one piece of advise I would say is it’s 80% in your…
/r/seduction27/06/18 08:13 AM
1

One of the truest posts I’ve seen on here.
/r/askTRP25/06/18 05:23 PM
9

I thought this initially but then you just end up wasting time on girls you don’t find attractive and missing out on big opportunities with girls you do find attractive. It’s better to just crash and burn with the attractive girls initially in my eyes but to each your own.
/r/askTRP21/06/18 01:31 PM
3

She’s not coming back. It’s over. I repeat it will never be as a good as it was, it will always be worse. If her head has been turned once, it will happen again. Maybe not straight away but in a years time. She’s that type of girl. You’ve dodged a bullet. Just tell her your not interested anymore and move on with your life and get on YOUR journey. You’ll be thankful for it when you’re going out with a girl whose extremely attracted to you in a years time.
/r/askTRP20/06/18 04:36 PM
9

Can confirm height does play a part. Unfortunately as “small guys” if you look too big you look like a bowling ball. Broad shoulders is good though. Makes sure you have broad shoulders, big guns and decent abs and you don’t even need to be body builder big to make the girls swoon. In my experience, the gym is 100% diminishing returns in terms of pulling girls. As-long as you look like you hit the gym and look after yourself that’s enough, anything over that is overkill and likely is more ego try…
/r/askTRP17/06/18 11:58 AM
6

To be honest I think men are made to hang out in groups/ packs. There’s a reason soldiers build strong bonds with each other. It may sound gay but as men we need masculine energy in our life as well as feminine. The ting and the yang. Hanging out with other guys keeps us grounded, chilled and with more perspective. I can be having the worst day ever with work or some girl but if I hang out with lads over a few beers/ sport (insert hobby) I’m generally way more chilled and happier and just think …
/r/askTRP11/06/18 08:19 PM
1

To start off with there’s a lot of guys on who constantly try to out alpha each other and pretty much bullshit to make themselves look better, so I wouldn’t take as what anyone says on here as gospel. But I agree, I think showing vulnerability can work if used in very limited situations. For example, I know this bouncer who works out at a fairly exclusive bar in my city. He managed to get me and my friend in one night and we made it our mission to approach the hottest set in the whole place no m…
/r/askTRP11/06/18 01:47 PM
0

To be honest if you’ve been on this journey long enough you start to realise there’s less and less a right or wrong answer and everything isn’t black or white. Quite the opposite. Just like if you hit the gym for a few years, there’s no one routine that is optimal for everyone over another. We each respond differently and that’s fine. That’s the way evolution made us. If this guy felt that he played a part in forcing this girl to drink and drive and was genuinely sorry for that, then who cares a…
/r/askTRP08/06/18 10:45 PM
1

Yeah I do agree there. I think it’s almost like a cycle. You start off really wanting to improve yourself and if you stick with it you achieve your goals but then you realise the actual thing you set out to achieve wasn’t the thing to make you happy but the struggle and the connections you made with people along the way. It’s one of the reasons I don’t think people should go “monk” mode for a long period of time.
/r/askTRP08/06/18 05:18 PM
1

Meh I think everyone is irrational at times. We are only human and not robots. I wouldn’t beat yourself up too much.
/r/askTRP08/06/18 04:27 PM
1

I mean could she not have ordered a cab if she had been drinking? Seems crazy to me that someone would just drink and drive like that. Massive red flag.
/r/askTRP08/06/18 12:25 PM
3

Sounds like you have some issues you have to sort out if it’s unbearable about being with yourself. Do you like yourself? Would you hang out with yourself, if you were someone else?
/r/askTRP08/06/18 08:08 AM
4

This journey takes years not months. Like 5-10 years. It gets harder before it gets easier. Learn to love yourself and you won’t be lonely.
/r/askTRP08/06/18 08:06 AM
5

With out getting into too much personal detail, what was your issue with 25-26? Lost and didn’t know what to do?
/r/TheRedPill07/06/18 04:20 PM
2

Dude, gains are all about volume! More volume more gains (aslong as correct form and progressive overload is used). You will make massively more gains hitting the gym 6 days a week than 3 days a week. I did a 6 days routine, and my biceps and shoulders exploded. Due to other commitments I only hit it 4 days a week now, which has slowed my gains but after 5 years in the gym without missing a session, I’m happy where my body is now.
/r/askTRP07/06/18 11:28 AM
1

Yeah message comes off as way to “gamey” and try hard. Just be a normal guy, dude. Drop one or two SUBTLE spikes/ inneundo’s if you have to spike the conversation up but focus on getting a meet up sorted. You come across in the messages as a guy who never talks to hot girls and is like an excited puppy because you finally get the chance to. This tells the girl everything she needs to know within the first message. All this trying to pass shit tests and trying to say cool lines to the girl over t…
/r/askTRP07/06/18 11:16 AM
1

I think if we are talking about aesthetics then bodybuilders obviously look bigger. For example, I’m 5ft8 and been doing natty bodybuilding for 5 years and everyone mentions I go to the gym. I have a 6 ft 1 friend who’s in it power lifting for 2 years, he’s strong as fuck but unless he has his shorts on you can’t really tell he hits the gym to be honest.
/r/TheRedPill06/06/18 05:15 PM
1

Not true look up Dorian Yates, it’s about time under tension and form if you want to get bigger. To increase time under tension, generally it’s better to go lighter. Doing 40 seconds of slow pain staking barbell curls will get you bigger than 3 heavy reps of barbel circle. That’s why they say leave your ego at the gym door.
/r/TheRedPill06/06/18 04:02 PM
2

That’s not true in terms of hypertrophy it’s about time under tension. Which is why higher rep ranges are generally advised. I think at least 40 seconds under tension each set is the optimal amount. There’s a reason bodybuilders have bigger muscles than powerlifters, although powerlifters are stronger.
/r/TheRedPill06/06/18 04:01 PM
2

Sounds like his friend is doing him a favour. OP should have more self respect than to become emotionally attached to a girl who has rejected 3 times and clearly isn’t interested. That’s one one those things you thank a friend for down the line.
/r/askTRP05/06/18 08:29 PM
1

So if an alpha is successful and say sets up a successful business whilst pursuing his journey, he will be viewed as a beta as girls will always see him as a potential provider?
/r/TheRedPill05/06/18 04:01 PM
1

It depends, one what type of girls your trying to pick up and if your trying to do it through DMs on Instagram or not. Generally if your cold contacting through DMs your insta has to be better than the girls to stand a chance.
/r/askTRP05/06/18 03:38 PM
1

Exactly, I’m not too sure what /r/redpills hate for Instagram is as a tool guys should have. The only thing I would say is it takes a lot of effort to build up (like years), so it’s definitely better to prioritise other areas first and then just build it organically as the quality of your life builds.
/r/askTRP05/06/18 03:10 PM
1

Yeah my main point was if you already built an amazing life I.e decent wealth, travel a lot and can get some really interesting photos together then Instagram can be an amazing SMV tool. Like it instantly bypasses months of shit tests with girls who have to learn about you from scratch. Once you get it to a certain level it’s like easy mode for SMV, but whether it’s worth getting to that level when you can focus on other areas of your life is another question.
/r/askTRP05/06/18 03:08 PM
6

I mean surely you can see this is abit different. How has he betrayed you? You’ve done nothing with her and infact been rejected 3 times. Bro’s before hoes is generally regarding not going where a bro has gone. Due to whatever reason, she’s not interested. Therefore, why can’t your friend make a move if she’s interested in him? This just sounds like your ego is hurt. You don’t own her or your friend.
/r/askTRP05/06/18 12:02 PM
2

I can see where your coming from but I get the impression you’ve never had a “good” Instagram profile before, otherwise you wouldn’t be saying this. That wasn’t a pop at you as 90% guys can’t achieve that without spending a shit load on PR or becoming famous. Anyway, I know a guy who is an up and coming soccer player for a fairly big team in Europe, so he has around 100k followers. He literally just DM’s 9/10HBs on there and pulls them from there. Girls will fawn over his high SMV, him being ric…
/r/askTRP05/06/18 11:14 AM
1

So alphas don’t acquire resources?
/r/TheRedPill05/06/18 11:01 AM
10

Thing is, can a guy not be both. I.e so far in their career that they can be seen to provide for a family but also a massive alpha in bed? This is what confuses me about the red pill. Can a guy not take dual forms aswell. If you read the sex god method, although in a sexual context, the author advises regularly switching between dominant sex and emotional sex (i.e variety) to keep the girl guessing. This gave me an epiphany that your normal behaviour outside of sex should be similar.
/r/TheRedPill05/06/18 08:14 AM
1

If you need some advice on lifting or fashion let me know
/r/askTRP04/06/18 01:41 PM
15

Shows massive insecurity. It’s pretty much a beta way of trying to control her. Ironically she will probably end up leaving you because of this.
/r/TheRedPill31/05/18 12:59 PM
3

It depends on what sort of text you send. I always send a random none needy ping text the day after and haven’t had any issues. Although generally the girl will message you before that anyway if you have been unbelievable in bed. However, when I started out, I tried radio silence for a week, the girls definitely became more generally flakey, which would match with your experience.
/r/askTRP30/05/18 10:53 AM
2

Sounds like your insecure about your shagging ability.
/r/askTRP24/05/18 07:01 AM
3

Does seem abit weird that she would ring him to tell him she didn’t do anything, when he would have no way of knowing about it in the first place.
/r/TheRedPill23/05/18 10:41 AM
4

To be honest, physique is only a very small part of SMV.
/r/askTRP19/05/18 06:49 PM
1

If your doing cold approach for getting dates, your going to fail, as you probably won’t get any for the first year and then you’ll give up. Cold approach is one of the hardest things you can get good at and it takes years of practice. You have to enjoy making connections with people. It takes a lot of patience and a LOT of rejection. Start lowering your expectations and setting your self small goals. Like approach 3 girls a day for 30 days. After each day note your mindset before and after each…
/r/seduction09/05/18 04:47 PM
1

That’s definitely just you to be honest. The thing is, the point of doing day game when you’re advanced isn’t just to farm numbers, it’s to create interesting funny interactions with absolute no outcome independence. Life’s too short why not create a unique situation. Ive got plenty of girls numbers from day game, but my general vibe is just trying to brighten up someone’s day/ create a special moment/ bubble with that person and if I find them interesting then maybe I’ll get their number to mee…
/r/seduction09/05/18 04:39 PM
2

Just checked out your photo, I thought you would be way uglier on the back of how you described yourself. Thing is aslong as your like a 5/10 or above you should be able to at least get numbers. The reason you aren’t getting numbers is due to inexperience. Forget about your looks for a second, 60 approaches is not a lot at all. Some guys will do that over a weekend. If you have poor social skills, and unconfident your looking at anywhere from 200-500 approaches until you start to say any major i…
/r/seduction09/05/18 04:34 PM
7

To be fair she’s attractive, that photo isn’t he best.
/r/TheRedPill08/05/18 04:29 PM
2

You shouldn’t have to be in “state” to approach. Learn to approach in any states. The key is to accept what ever state your in, in that moment is good enough and then just say fuck it and approach. To many guys think they have to be ridiculously charming and blow the girls socks of with their high state/ charisma. However, that isn’t real and a lot of girls know that. Honestly a lot of the time just approaching the girl is enough.
/r/seduction05/05/18 11:58 AM
5

I think this is a self esteem issue, your scared you will get hurt again, so you try to convince yourself girls aren’t worth it.
/r/seduction04/05/18 05:11 PM
11

3 months is absolutely nothing. It will take you 1-2 years to get any decent results, depending where your starting from. You are absolutely not entitled to results just because you took some minuscule action. Either give up like 90% of guys or man the fuck up and keep plowing on.
/r/TheRedPill01/05/18 12:34 PM
16

You shouldn’t ever compare your ROI to other people’s ROI. That’s a losers mentality. There’s always someone better looking, bigger and more intelligent than you. Even if your 8/9 out of 10. There’s always someone with a “better life”. Who gives a fuck. Just do the best with what you have, that’s all you can do. Trust me with this mindset you will be a lot happier, even if you’re not smashing models on the daily.
/r/TheRedPill01/05/18 12:10 PM
2

You’re getting there
/r/TheRedPill01/05/18 10:41 AM
1

It means your not putting enough effort in to improve yourself. You say you hit the gym well done. But how many girls have you honestly approached in the last month?
/r/TheRedPill30/04/18 12:58 PM
3

Sounds like your displaying a big insecurity. Chances are she may clock onto your beta behaviour.
/r/askTRP30/04/18 10:01 AM
0

Yeah you messed up. A lot of your questions to her come across as extremely needy, which will be super unattractive to her. For example, asking if she wants to be with you in general....after one date, that’s just plain super needy. You’re communicating that you are invested more than her, which will scare her away. If you offer commitment too early to a girl she has won and she will get bored and move onto a high social value guy. You need to maintain the mystery, that’s what really builds the …
/r/seduction27/04/18 11:49 AM
2

Seems like your putting too much pressure on yourself. Make sure to stop an enjoy the now aswell. It will actually make you more attractive.
/r/askTRP27/04/18 11:47 AM
15

The issue you have is experience. Most naturals probably socially went through want you are going through (I.e making social mistakes until you get good) when they were 11, most normal guys 15-18. Everyone has times when they look back at their youth and cringe and think socially I’d never do that again. That’s what you need to go through now. You won’t get good in a vacuum. You need social experience, and you need to learn through trial and error what works and doesn’t work. It doesn’t matter h…
/r/seduction26/04/18 02:21 PM
5

To be honest, I’ll get downvotes but if you follow redpill to the t it won’t work. You have to adopt the mindset and other elements that work for you. Every girl is different so it’s all about calibrating. But also every guy is different so what works for one guy won’t work for another, just like the gym. It’s about learning the fundamentals (like the gym) and then playing around with it and creating your own style.
/r/askTRP26/04/18 01:23 PM
16

She obviously has serious mental issues and probably is a toxic person in general though, you can’t compare her to the average girl. If your dating high quality girls 90% of the time none of this would have happened.
/r/TheRedPill26/04/18 12:17 PM
-6

Okay I’m 99% sure your a troll but I’ll bite. I mean first off in terms of the boat analogy, you can just turn your phone off. Stupidity aside. An alpha is someone who is top of the social hierarchy. They don’t need to pay hot women to have sex with them, as hot women will do it for free....because they actually enjoy it. One hot woman is offering for free, the other will do it for £1000. Which one do you take? If you don’t have women offering you sex for free then your probably not an alpha.. i…
/r/askTRP25/04/18 01:24 PM
7

But they are not paying them to leave though.... would the girl be there / having sex if she wasn’t getting paid? Secondly would the guy pay her to sit around and chat? The payment is quite clearly for sex. FYI most alphas would have 6/7 plates so wouldn’t need to pay for sex to get their needs met.
/r/askTRP25/04/18 01:10 PM
3

This is so true. Getting fucked up ruins game.
/r/TheRedPill24/04/18 12:43 PM
1

It’s not useless if the qualification at the end of it gets you a better job though.
/r/askTRP24/04/18 10:46 AM
1

Sounds like your already making excuses.
/r/askTRP20/04/18 07:17 AM
3

The grass is always greener. There’s nothing you can do about it now. If you want sex now, then that’s what you should be focusing on.
/r/seduction19/04/18 04:31 PM
2

Hey man, you approached and closed your already in 10% men. Keep smashing it.
/r/seduction18/04/18 07:54 PM
6

Next her. There’s literally millions of other girls to talk to.
/r/seduction18/04/18 05:43 PM
7

Confidence doesn’t just magically happen. It takes years of work. The key to getting there is indifference. Don’t put pressure on yourself, it’s okay to make mistakes, it’s okay embarrass yourself, it will happen, it’s completely natural. The key to getting over anxiety, isn’t fighting it or channeling it. It is just observing it. When you get anxious about something just stand there for a few moments and fully observe it. How do you feel? Where are you feeling it? Let it rise up and then reside…
/r/seduction17/04/18 06:46 PM
4

Yeah apt of his explanatory notes almost repeated verbatim what he just said, proving it can’t of been subtle.
/r/seduction21/03/18 01:07 PM
14

Yeah I’d never full on question a girl about her sexual behaviour via text before I’ve even met her. Seems very off. As the OP mentions above, the potential for sex as some point in the future is implied through the girl agreeing a date, discussing this potentially explicitly shows the girl you don’t get how dates work and therefore probably haven’t been on many.
/r/seduction21/03/18 01:05 PM
3

Yeah I actually had this discussion with a group of girls the other day. They said they prefer guys who are taller than them. Considering they were all 5 ft 4ish, they are probably saying height doesn’t matter to them outside the extremes. It’s abit like guys who think girls only date rich guys when most just want you to have your shit together.
/r/seduction27/02/18 08:23 PM
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