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There could be any number of reasons for this, but keep in mind that she is still going on dates with you. Take it for what it is, and just have a fun together. There doesn't always need to be sex involved, and when a girl is actually interested in a guy, she may want to hold back the sex to make sure he's actually interested in her, and not just her body. Just have fun and go with the flow
/r/seduction18/02/14 03:02 PM
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When you're single, you don't have anyone you NEED to impress, and there's no one that's constantly thinking about you. I think the extra pressure is making you insecure, and, as I said, it's something you need to work on
/r/seduction07/12/13 12:48 AM
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Your issue is that you are vulnerable in your relationship because you deeply care about someone. Find out what about her lack of response or inadequate response is upsetting you, and work on dealing with those issues within yourself. You won't ever be truly happy unless you are confident in your actions and yourself. Meditation is something that helps, just as writing down your emotions as a means of understanding them.
/r/seduction07/12/13 12:26 AM
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Chat up girls in your classes, maybe linger a bit after class and get their interest. Suddenly, midterms are approaching and people start to get nervous. BOOM Invite girls to a study session, possibly make a study group out of it. This is casual, can be legitimately useful, but also takes the pressure off your interactions. Things go well, you start talking more. "Hey I'm hitting up the college bar tonight? If you show up before 9 I'll buy you a drink ;)"
/r/seduction01/10/13 02:00 PM
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I disagree partly with you're saying. If you're passionate about the woman you love, it stands to reason that romance follows. Girls lose interest when the person they fell for stops being the person they want them to be. Be yourself, live your life knowing that passion fuels everything you do. Love shouldn't inhibit your life, but take it to another level Just my two cents
/r/seduction01/10/13 01:53 PM
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I'd go, have a good time, but give her friend some extra attention. Be friendly, touchy and fun. She wants to see your face, but who says you have to want her? Her friend doesn't know you and this is a perfect chance to win her over. Godspeed
/r/seduction01/10/13 01:49 PM
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Most of what Mystery method talks about is still really relevant today, but the beautiful thing about pickup theory, is that you're free to use whichever methods work best for YOU. Read his stuff, and then try to understand why it works. You don't have to dress like a space cadet, but that will get you attention. Use your judgment, and don't be afraid to make a fool of yourself.
/r/seduction06/06/13 02:13 PM
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IOIs are still really useful to keep an eye out for...
/r/seduction06/06/13 02:10 PM
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I feel like this is a life lesson for anything, that few people fully internalize.
/r/seduction01/05/13 06:35 AM
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Seems like what you actually need to do is talk to this girl and ensure your intentions are in the same place. Communication is key.
/r/seduction15/04/13 06:17 PM
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Older people have learned to listen far more carefully than a younger crowd, as they have more life experience. When dealing with people of any age, the best results always come from getting them to explore themselves through you. They want someone to be interested in what they have to say, and you just have the be the person there listening to them. Once you build trust, you can build relationships and friendships with ease. Remove intent from your interactions, and people will love you for it.
/r/seduction15/04/13 12:00 AM
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Honestly, what this article fails to make clear is just how omnipresent our filters are. People are afraid of rejection, on both sides. With that said, could you honestly tell me that you like everyone you come in contact with, let alone girls? You don't have to like everyone, and neither do the girls you pursue. Now stand up, acknowledge who you are and what your experience, or lack of, means to you, and put it aside. The moment you can remove all expectation from your interactions, that's when…
/r/seduction10/03/13 12:12 AM
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You can't always hope to f-close in a night. A lot of people won't even tell you to k-close her in the club. The higher-class they see, the more negging they need. Bring them down enough to escalate, and you'll have them in a night.
/r/seduction20/02/13 06:57 AM
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Because you found a girl that wanted to fuck you based solely on your looks. She didn't care about your game. Also, you assume girls test you far more than they do. To be honest, girls are a lot simpler than that. Just go with the flow and answer questions confidently. As for the AFCs, they're just boyfriends who got dragged to the club against their will, only to see some asshole hit on their girls. Look at their end of the story, before judging them, and think about how your actions would make…
/r/seduction19/02/13 12:47 PM
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I wouldn't get too caught up with the hole money thing. It's really not a big deal if you don't make it out to be. I try to pay because I think it's what I would like done in her seat, and more often than not, she'll insist on paying her half. As for the date itself, try to sit next to her, rather than across from her. Insert occasional kino, but don't feel any pressure to escalate things too quickly. Most importantly though, just let go and be yourself. I know this sounds cliche, but girls can …
/r/seduction19/02/13 05:00 AM
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The problem with online dating is that most of the girls there get completely flooded with messages from all sorts of guys. They could pick ANY guy they want on the website to go out with them, while the opposite isn't true in the slightest. I find that success on edating stems from constructing a generic comment that will elicit responses from people. The ones that seemed to succeed the most were the ones that flat out attacked the girls, like indirectly calling them pretentious, in a nice way.…
/r/seduction19/02/13 04:54 AM
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There isn't a rule of thumb to follow because everyone lives different situations. If you get tunnel vision, you'll get overly invested with no guaranteed results. I'm not saying go fuck a bunch of other girls, just remember that you're a prize, and that she should reciprocate some of the effort.
/r/seduction17/02/13 08:28 PM
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Look at your approach. Be assumptive of your situation and make an effort to change it. Talk to people and look and them in the eye. Talk to girls and don't beat yourself up if they have boyfriends. Make friends with anyone. By expanding your social circle you'll increase your chances at finding a girl you'll like.
/r/seduction16/02/13 07:09 AM
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It's sign of neediness. You assume she's bullshitting you
/r/seduction15/02/13 04:39 PM
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The default with anything should always be call, but this is temperature testing. Age has nothing to do with preferences such as these. Evaluate what she wants and lead her that way.
/r/seduction14/02/13 08:54 PM
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This is the sort of shit my managers would pull, and to be honest, I see through it. The big shot is nothing without the workers at the bottom because sales companies are giant pyramid schemes. He's flashing his money to motivate them to be like him, despite that being a glamorized goal. Motivating people with money and fear can only go so far. There's a reason he's on top, and that's because he learned to shut off his emotions, if he wasn't born a psychopath.
/r/seduction13/02/13 04:29 PM
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I'll give it a look! Thanks for the suggestion
/r/seduction12/02/13 11:22 PM
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Haha for sure! We should Skype some time! Hope you're enjoying your time in Asia
/r/seduction12/02/13 11:21 PM
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Haha have I encountered the mighty Victor?
/r/seduction12/02/13 05:13 PM
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The thing you need to learn right now is to control your desires. You want companionship because you feel lonely. That loneliness is caused by a lack of confidence due to a lack of sexual experience. You convey desire in your actions when you set expectations. Removing those expectations can be difficult, and there are times when I find myself becoming invested in them, but I remember to take a step back and look at things objectively. People always glamorize their exploits as a means to seek ap…
/r/seduction12/02/13 04:30 AM
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I know it sucks to progress with a girl and have it fall flat, but every failure brings you a step closer to success. Glad I could help! I also recommend reading the post I just submitted, as it contains a lot of the insight I've accumulated. http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/18ctmr/combining_sales_and_seduction_to_control_your_life/
/r/seduction12/02/13 04:15 AM
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You went on two dates and probably didn't have any physical escalation. You talked about past relationships, which made you compare you to other people that brought her frustration. Kino allows you to infiltrate her bubble, and eye contact assures confidence. You cold approached her, but became more invested than she was very rapidly, which explains the situation. I've had the same problem in the past, and simply remembering to never get more attached than she will avoid problems with rejection …
/r/seduction12/02/13 04:02 AM
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A good book that helped me with this is Models: Attract women through honesty by Mark Manson. I recommend you give it a read
/r/seduction14/12/12 04:57 AM
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You're approaching the situation wrong. You're seeing them as sex objects rather than people. You see 8-10s as a trophy, but really they're just people born under different circumstances. You're desperate to succeed and they see it, so let go. Another thing to ask yourself is: when will it be enough? How many girls will you have to sleep with before you're satisfied? Try maximizing each opportunity and finding out what exactly you want in a woman (besides sex).
/r/seduction14/12/12 12:24 AM
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I know this, but my lease will be up in just a short while. If I can pull this off, it'd be great. Only problem is that if either one of us gets attached, problems could arise quickly. I was really hoping for someone with positive experience in this area, that could offer insight. Of course, I know how bad it could turn out if botched.
/r/seduction09/12/12 01:12 AM
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You can't blame other people for the way you are. AA is the result of convenience. It's far easier to stand back and not talk to a girl, as you'll never be rejected. Eliminate the fear of loss, and you'll be able to play ball.
/r/seduction24/11/12 09:46 AM
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I went in as a Banana suit last year and I had girls tell me I made their night. If you go in knowing you're the life of the party, you will succeed. Girls were asking me to touch "the banana". It was surreal.
/r/seduction21/10/12 08:27 PM
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