| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 27 | Do they believe their own lies? | TheSwedishEagle | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/02/24 09:17 PM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| -9 | Picky at 55...Using the word "females" in that context is cringe. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/06/26 06:25 PM |
| -2 | How do I deal with this rageWell those are the only two types of moms. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/06/26 03:28 AM |
| -6 | How do I deal with this rageMARRIED moms are much better | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/06/26 03:13 AM |
| 2 | How do I deal with this rageTherapy, man. I was so angry I couldn't even breathe sometimes. I learned anger is a secondary emotion. In my case secondary to grief, abandonment, and sadness. I learned to let go of the anger and feel the other emotions. It's not pleasant but it is better than the blind rage. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/06/26 03:07 AM |
| 3 | What was the thing that made you say you no longer love your wife?Have you sought therapy? | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/04/26 06:19 AM |
| 5 | What was the thing that made you say you no longer love your wife?Wives are supposed to be the ones that care the most but not in my experience. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/04/26 02:33 AM |
| 7 | What was the thing that made you say you no longer love your wife?Mine didn't say that exactly but did want to "sow her wild oats" and then settle down with me after. WTF is wrong with some people? | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/04/26 02:30 AM |
| 2 | STBX sleeping with someone elseSorry to hear that. That sucks. The best way to get over a woman is to get under a woman so get to it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/04/26 04:15 AM |
| 5 | Wife decided we should separate two days ago. Then last night I found her in the back seat of our car with another guy. Fuck.She's for the streets. You are doing well. You will do better than a trashy woman like that. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/03/26 04:14 AM |
| 8 | Want a divorce but want to keep the last name of the husbandThey can have whatever name they want. In my circle most of the married women never changed their names to begin with. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/03/26 06:24 PM |
| 9 | Ex-Wife has brought new boyfriend into our house and refuses to make him leave; Can I do anything?Make sure you bring a hot young woman home to loudly fuck | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/01/26 04:36 AM |
| 20 | She wanted to prove she could do it without me 🤣Same story. She needed to prove to herself that she could live on her own as an adult. Except for the car I gave her and all of her expenses I covered (other than her rent). Delulu. Luckily, no kids. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/12/25 07:03 PM |
| 13 | She wanted to prove she could do it without me 🤣Kids need to know dad isn't a deadbeat. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/12/25 06:59 PM |
| 3 | For those of you with verbally abusive and controlling wives, how did you feel after divorce.Sounds familiar. Criticized my lack of friends but drove all of her own off (hypocrite) and never let me go out anywhere without her to meet anyone because god forbid I might talk to a woman. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/11/25 08:25 PM |
| 3 | Husband wants a divorce, I'm 32 F with three kids, am I dateable after this?Yes. I know several women older than you who remarried with three kids (or more)! | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/08/25 02:41 AM |
| 2 | Why is “work on yourself and maybe she’ll notice” always the advice when a wife wants a divorce?It’s so that you will be fit and mentally healthy for the next woman | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/08/25 06:37 AM |
| 1 | How did you rebuild a network of male friends?Gay nightclubs | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/06/25 11:59 PM |
| 8 | Now wife works out and loses weightPretty typical. My sister’s ex gained a lot of weight and after the split he hit the gym and lost it all. She asked why he didn’t do it beforehand. Well, duh, he was trying to attract a younger woman which he eventually did. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/03/25 12:25 AM |
| 18 | Why do men become the boiled frog so often?I learned from my dad that it was important to maintain the marriage and provide for the family even though my mother actually made more money than my dad. He always put his own needs behind those of my mom and the kids. He always drove the oldest car, ordered the least expensive item on the menu, and wore the cheapest clothes compared to my mom. That’s where I learned it was the right thing to do to sacrifice for your family. Husbands don’t leave their families no matter how bad it gets because… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/03/25 04:50 PM |
| 7 | I can’t wrap my head around how she is doing so wellShe probably already went through her grieving process before even asking for a divorce. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/10/24 03:53 AM |
| 3 | Should I win my wife back even through I know that she was 100% about to cheat and was going traveling with a goal to get laid?No. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/10/24 03:01 AM |
| 1 | Separating and Divorcing after 20+ years, worried about getting back in the dating game after so long...Sounds right! ;) | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/10/24 03:03 AM |
| 2 | 60 year old male here who just wants to casually date for the rest of my life. Is that even possible?So maybe the OP needs to find women who are established and financially secure. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/09/24 05:40 PM |
| 8 | 60 year old male here who just wants to casually date for the rest of my life. Is that even possible?I have two single sisters in their late 50s. Both have been married and have no desire to ever get married again. They own their own homes and don’t want to be controlled by a man. They like companionship but I would be surprised if they ever remarried. That doesn’t mean they want ONS, though. More like FWB. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/09/24 03:21 AM |
| 5 | Married men should never buy a house; always rent from your parentsOr just get a prenup | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/09/24 01:10 AM |
| 3 | Anyone else think about "switching teams"?Same. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/08/24 12:24 AM |
| 0 | Is your new girlfriend way better than your ex wife?Sorry, I was just joking. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/08/24 07:43 PM |
| 2 | Is your new girlfriend way better than your ex wife?Is that you Donald? | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/08/24 06:29 PM |
| 16 | Guys, the peace of mind and silence is truly worth itIf I could choose between a woman and a bear I’d choose the bear. Maybe it would kill me and put me out of my misery. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/08/24 02:43 AM |
| 8 | Guys, the peace of mind and silence is truly worth itMine has apologized only once in 32 years and when I later told her how much I appreciated it she claimed to not remember apologizing. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/08/24 02:37 AM |
| 9 | Wife started dating an older man as soon as she said, "I want a divorce"All I want to say is that I am proud you dropped drinking. Keep working on that. Hang in there, man. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/07/24 05:15 AM |
| 8 | Anyone divorce just because attraction was lost?She sounds awful. Let her torture some other dude and go find a woman to love you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/07/24 04:52 AM |
| 8 | Should I stop going to the gym where my wife had her affair?Quit the gym, dude. She teaches there. Her new guy is there. Nothing good is left for you there. I know you have some friends there but it isn’t worth torturing yourself over. How are you going to feel when you stumble into them fucking at the gym again? | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/06/24 12:07 AM |
| 4 | I found out that she had a picture of me naked that she’s been circulating.If you look good let it circulate and maybe it will lead to your new girlfriend | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/06/24 05:04 AM |
| 6 | I hate my wifeI feel you. My partner also says I am not kind to her. Well, that is because I am so angry and resentful. It is hard to not lash out but that will just result in a divorce. Is that what you want? My advice is this: You have every right to be upset but you have to share that with her in a more productive manner. You are not helping your case if she says she is afraid of you. It will just drive her away. Have you ever heard the saying? : “The beatings will continue until morale improves.” You are … | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/06/24 05:26 AM |
| 1 | Acknowledging an important dayLeave it. Not your problem anymore. She wouldn’t do the same for you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/06/24 04:59 AM |
| 0 | Dating in your high 40sToo many questions… | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/05/24 02:59 PM |
| 1 | Dating in your high 40sShe’s witty, pretty (was VERY pretty when younger) with a good sense of style, works out, is a very good singer, likes to cook Italian, is a good mom with nice sons from her first marriage, treats her dogs well, and has a decent job (secretary undersells her role which is more of a business admin). When she is alone working she starts singing to herself sometimes and it’s like an angel is in the office. I like how she crinkles her nose or winks when she is teasing. I don’t know her well personal… | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/05/24 04:43 AM |
| 6 | Dating in your high 40sThe tattoos | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/05/24 02:00 AM |
| 6 | Dating in your high 40sRich, handsome, tall, doctor driving a Lamborghini and you are trying to date via apps? | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/05/24 01:59 AM |
| 2 | Dating in your high 40sMy secretary is an attractive woman in her 40s and she just got married for the second time. I think she’s a catch. Her new hubby is a lucky guy. I wish I knew how they met. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/05/24 01:57 AM |
| 3 | Why does everyone call their ex a narcissist?My point is that when looking at the population of divorced people narcissists are probably overrepresented compared to the population at large. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/05/24 04:35 AM |
| 1 | Why does everyone call their ex a narcissist?They always think the other person is a narcissist once you decide to take care of yourself and leave. How dare you! | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/05/24 12:45 AM |
| 8 | Why does everyone call their ex a narcissist?Narcissists tend to get divorced so there probably are indeed a lot of divorced narcissists | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/05/24 12:44 AM |
| 1 | Women keeping their ex-husbands last name after the divorceYou are clueless | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/05/24 02:51 PM |
| 3 | Women keeping their ex-husbands last name after the divorceAnd then you have to go to every entity you do business with and change it there and update all the legal documents, titles, email addresses, business cards etc Changing the name itself is easy. It’s what comes after that is a pain. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/05/24 03:13 PM |
| 0 | Women keeping their ex-husbands last name after the divorceIt’s a pain to change it and a pain to change it back. Some people don’t want to bother. Two of my sisters are divorced. One kept her husband’s name even though they never had kids. The other one divorced twice and changed her name back after each divorce even though she only had kids with her first husband. Why do you care? | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/05/24 04:16 AM |
| 9 | Took Her Less Than Two Months To Find Another ManBe like my dad was when he found out my mom had married another man: “I feel so sorry for the guy.” And then when he later died: “Oh, I am so happy for him!” | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/05/24 05:28 AM |
| 2 | Do you guys tell your dates about your divorce?I would mention that up front. For some it’s a dealbreaker. For others it’s a plus. If you’re a dad mention that as well. Edit: If the divorce was a very long time ago (like 20 years ago) and you have no kids then maybe don’t bother. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/04/24 05:43 AM |
| -1 | I’m the cheater…my storyYou managed to screw up not just one but two relationships. That takes a special talent. So why did you do it? At least you could have been having fun with the young woman as long as it lasted. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/04/24 02:59 AM |
| 1 | California and life time alimonyGet a job that pays under the table like my sister’s scummy ex. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/04/24 04:20 AM |
| 2 | If you read between the lines, she just wants to get new dick. This is the reason why she lost feeling for her good husband and father. The family and her child's stability doesn't matter.A lot of women want to be chased. Security is boring to them. Women obsess over whether a guy likes them but when a guy loves them they take it for granted. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/04/24 02:35 AM |
| 3 | Wife is divorcing me, do I have to me macho here and pretend it's not killing me?Why are your kids not talking to you? That would hurt the most. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/04/24 12:50 AM |
| -1 | He was emotionally abusive and narcissisticIt’s not anything to do with his politics but his personality. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/04/24 02:35 PM |
| -4 | He was emotionally abusive and narcissisticIf you want to see a true narcissist in action look to The Donald | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/04/24 06:50 AM |
| 2 | He was emotionally abusive and narcissisticI think that they hate men. My partner will even outright say that she hates most men and that the world would be a better place without men. Maybe it is an over correction to having been dominated for so long. Maybe it is true that most men are shitheads. A lot of them are. However, one thing that is true is that the woman can’t possibly be at fault and if she did do anything bad it was just in reaction to what a horrible person you are so you deserved it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/04/24 06:46 AM |
| 4 | Post divorce dry spellYou won’t find people at bars, man. The bar scene is for young people and alcoholics. Online dating is worth trying but you should be going to meetups and making new friends - guys and gals both. That way maybe you get invited to some parties or other events and grow your social circle. I say this as a guy with two single good-looking female friends in their 50s. They are constantly going hiking or to classes (like photography) to have fun but also to meet men. They are out there and lonely, too… | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/03/24 05:04 AM |
| 1 | Honey DoThat’s crazy. Is she having second thoughts? Are you? | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/03/24 04:25 AM |
| 11 | I (40+m) sucked in the bedroom according to my soon to be ex wife (40+F) our marriage was 20 years. I still love her we have been many decades together. How do I stop torturing myself by imagining another man pleasing her and making love to her the way I didn't?She stayed with you 20 years so you did something right. She is just trying to hurt you. If you sucked in the bedroom she played a part in that, too, for not trying to fix it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/03/24 02:35 AM |
| 13 | Hooked up with somebody for the first time since the divorce, not sure how to feel about itThink about your wife out with some guy and you will get over it quick. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/03/24 01:09 AM |
| 4 | Thoughts now that I'm divorced and almost 'done' with her.That’s horrible, man. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/03/24 11:47 PM |
| 11 | Thoughts now that I'm divorced and almost 'done' with her.Yes, we can be enablers by not being forceful enough to stop bad behaviors and prioritizing ourselves. We only have ourselves to blame for that. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/03/24 11:46 PM |
| 3 | Anyone just say "fuck it" and blow everything up when there aren't any "traditional problems"?I am with you on a lot of what you say but why do you hate your children? That’s messed up. Think about your own shitty parents. Is that what you want for your kids? You can be better than that, man. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/03/24 03:38 AM |
| -14 | The guy she left me for delivered my foodIf a smoking hot young female delivery driver wanted to hook up no strings attached would you have a problem with it? | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/03/24 01:51 AM |
| 1 | The guy she left me for delivered my foodHe sounds nice | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/03/24 01:47 AM |
| 5 | Nice Guys Who Get Trapped “Raising” an Immature Princess Wife are Always Disposable at the End. NOT YOUR FAULT!!! REPEAT!!!My partner spent a good amount of time telling me today how she’s NOT a princess while we discussed why she moved all of my suits out of my side of the closet and into the closet with the cat litter without asking me so that she could have more closet space. You can’t make this shit up. Reason she’s not a princess: She put linens and towels in what had been my side of the closet instead of her shoes and clothes. Mind you these linens aren’t linens we both use. They are for her use only. No menti… | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/03/24 06:49 AM |
| 3 | Don't Ever Look BackHey, man. At the end of the day you have to live with yourself. I am sure there were things that made you fall in love with her and she is still the mother of your children. You won’t feel guilty at all. You tried. That’s all you can hope for. Your kids will thank you later. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/02/24 07:34 AM |
| 4 | Do they believe their own lies?If you don’t agree with something they are doing then you are controlling. If they don’t like something you are doing then you are a jerk for continuing to do it. I don’t know that I can ever be in a relationship with a woman again. My parents are divorced. Mom remarried. Dad never did. He had one LTR and they broke up. That’s it. My partner’s parents are also divorced. Her mom remarried twice. Her dad never so much as dated again. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/02/24 06:04 AM |
| 6 | Do they believe their own lies?I am sure in her mind you were an asshole that deserved what you got. Anytime a woman is unhappy it is a man’s fault. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/02/24 04:36 AM |
| 7 | Do they believe their own lies?I have no problem admitting the poor choices I have made and the bad things I have done. I thought we could be honest about that but apparently not. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/02/24 10:22 PM |
| 11 | Why is it so hard to watch recent ex wife date?Agree. I wouldn’t want to know any details. I would hope he bangs her and leaves her for a younger woman shortly after. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/02/24 05:02 AM |
| 1 | Realizing My Wife Emotionally Abuse MeMore like: I am a lifeguard and I will watch you practice swimming yourself but if you start to drown I will jump in to get you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/24 05:55 AM |
| 6 | Did your Wife start seeing a Therapist before she filed for Divorce?As someone who started seeing a therapist on my own I think that there could be some blame with a bad therapist but it’s not really the right way to look at it. It could have just as easily been a girlfriend encouraging her to leave. The therapist just provides a sounding board for her to come to her own conclusions. In the end she’s a grown woman and she’s going to make her own choices. About 25% of couples who divorce wish they hadn’t which means about 75% don’t. Is she in that 25%? Who knows.… | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/02/24 07:11 PM |
| 1 | How do you start dating again?You underestimate what tenured professors make at big schools by quite a lot. That said, older women aren’t impressed by that as easily. Still, you are correct that he’s got some status and women like that. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/01/24 11:54 PM |
| 1 | How do you start dating again?No problem being with a student or postdoc as long as they are not yours. I am not sure it’s a good look, though, and it will only lead to heartbreak as a young woman will only be with an older man for so long. You might find one that wants a green card. That said, never date where you work. It seems to work out for some people but I think it’s a really bad idea because if things go south your career can go along with the relationship. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/01/24 11:53 PM |
| -2 | The great sex v. Mentally/Financially stable thingThis is all kinds of wrong. First, I am not a woman. Second, no she did not “let herself go.” If anything the stress of being a single mom meant she lost weight. Most of the women I know who got back into dating after a break are actually nice looking. You are really reaching here. Last, her ex-husband was a drug addict. He lost his job as a firefighter because of his cocaine and alcohol problems. They even put him through a recovery program before letting him go and he could just not stay clean… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/01/24 11:03 PM |
| 0 | The great sex v. Mentally/Financially stable thingWhat do you mean was she desirable? She’s got a good-looking husband (also divorced) who treats her well so I am going to say yes she is. Yes, she filed the divorce because her husband was an abusive alcoholic and drug addict. Should she have stayed? She was a single mom for a very long time and only decided to date once her youngest was in high school. I see this pretty often actually. I can point out a lot of women who took themselves off the market for 10-15 years until deciding to date again… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/01/24 09:48 PM |
| 6 | The great sex v. Mentally/Financially stable thingI am not so sure that’s true. There are a lot of women who got married and had children, the marriage broke down, and then they decided not to re-enter the dating scene to concentrate on themselves and their kids. Once the kids reach a certain age they start looking for a partner again. This was the case for two of my sisters. One of them hadn’t been with a man for a very long time. She met a man at work and he asked her out repeatedly over the years before she finally decided to do it and now t… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/01/24 06:40 PM |
| 6 | When Did This Forum Get the Ridiculous Mod?I got banned from another sub and given a warning from a Reddit admin (not a mod) for hate speech and I can’t figure out what that hate speech was. I am a very liberal person who despises hateful abuse of any minority so I have no idea what Reddit is talking about. They said an AI flagged me and an admin confirmed it. It’s crazy. The best way to make sure someone doesn’t do something against the rules would be to tell them exactly they did wrong instead of leaving us to guess. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/01/24 05:25 PM |
| 5 | ConfessionWhy? Do you have doubts? If you have no doubt then stop pursuing it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/01/24 02:40 AM |
| 5 | When did you know the spark just wasn’t going to return?So you went to therapy and identified a lot of problems. Are you trying to fix them or do they seem insurmountable? | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/01/24 06:40 PM |
| 1 | Should I do counseling after 25 years?How do you know she has checked out, though? Isn’t that what the counseling is supposed to help you determine? | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/01/24 06:30 PM |
| 5 | Do you ever get lonely, and start missing / thinking it wasn't as bad as it was?She showed her true colors. That’s awful. I am sure it helped you get over her very easily. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/01/24 10:15 PM |
| 2 | It's so telling: I am shocked this is happening but none of my friends are.Yo Adrian! | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/01/24 05:17 AM |
| 1 | Scientific study on loss of love in marriage and women.“The husband’s sexual desire was irrelevant to anybody’s marital happiness.” Ouch! | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/01/24 05:13 AM |
| 1 | Wife asked me to move out this morning…What does her age have to do with anything? | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/01/24 10:09 AM |
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