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Your "friend" is a giant douche and not really your friend. F' him. Tell the girl she's his side chick. Win at life.
/r/seduction22/02/22 06:56 PM
5

Basically, stop caring about what women may or may not think, or whether or not they'll like you. It'll subconsciously reflect in how you carry yourself, and then you'll naturally exude more appealing and attractive vibes.
/r/seduction03/02/22 06:25 AM
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Dude you had 3 girlfriends already, which is 3 more than I ever had at your age. Why are you even worrying about “girls not liking you?” They like you, maybe not the ones you like but there’s nothing wrong with you. Eventually one will come that you’re also into.
/r/seduction14/03/21 05:34 AM
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If you say "just here to have fun" like the OP, would "fun" in that context automatically imply sex? I'm so socially clueless about that that I would think it literally meant that the going out to the bar/talking to people would be the "fun" part.
/r/seduction09/08/20 02:56 PM
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That was my initial thought. Or that they were in the middle of an argument.
/r/seduction04/01/20 10:30 PM
22

This all seems quite he said/she said. She may well have been his girlfriend.
/r/seduction04/01/20 05:58 PM
1

So basically, everything.
/r/seduction04/12/19 03:53 PM
1

To each his own. My point is that eating out at a place with counter/bar seating can make for a great date.
/r/seduction29/11/19 11:56 AM
2

I do dinner dates all the time in places like sushi restaurants, where you sit side by side at the bar. Anywhere with counter seating and you can banter with the chef. It’s nice and can help facilitate a fun rapport all around. It’s probably a bit unusual in the USA, though.
/r/seduction29/11/19 06:27 AM
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Train game is tough. I’m always kicking myself for not approaching in train cars. But yea it feels awkward, especially when the train car is full and yet people are completely silent as is the norm here (am in Asia).
/r/seduction04/07/19 12:43 PM
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Was it “In Your Eyes” by Peter Gabriel and was he wearing a trenchcoat?
/r/seduction27/06/19 09:08 AM
1

Ah, Diet Coke is horribly artificial to me. I’m actually not trying to lose weight like the Op, but would like to cut out Coke or at least minimize it as it’s petty much my only dietary vice left. I don’t drink coffee, so I wonder if Coke is kind of a substitute caffeine-wise. There are mainly two times I want the thing, when I wake up in the morning and when I’m eating something salty (especially shellfish). Something about the iodine and sodium being offset by the Coke is so gratifying. But I …
/r/seduction05/06/19 06:14 PM
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I don’t have a sweet tooth though, and rarely ever eat other sugary things. Something about coke is engineered to be addictive. And it apparently makes you even more thirsty after you’ve had it. Funny is that a lot of those waters with a hint of fruit or whatever taste artificial to me.
/r/seduction05/06/19 06:02 PM
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I've been drinking some of the San Pellegrino, Izze, etc. brands. But every once in a while you just want that super carbonated, gross-ass coke with a ton of ice lol
/r/seduction05/06/19 04:38 PM
1

Sure. But it’s also just because it’s damn tasty.
/r/seduction05/06/19 02:37 PM
2

Soda is that one thing I find hard to kick. Need me an icy coke at least once a day.
/r/seduction05/06/19 06:15 AM
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One question, OP. What part of the world are you in? I notice slight differences in attitudes between being in the USA (west coast, big city) versus diff parts of Europe, etc. towards Asian guys for sure.
/r/seduction13/05/19 07:35 PM
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Hmm, when I break up the sentences into individual messages it reads more like a chat and feels more natural/casual to me though. I guess it depends on one’s style?
/r/seduction12/05/19 11:37 PM
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What's the rule of thumb on sending multiple texts to break up a text that requires more than one sentence? Or is it better to send a the whole paragraph in a single text?
/r/seduction12/05/19 08:22 PM
6

Lol tattoos and piercings are the polar opposite of edgy by now.
/r/seduction12/05/19 12:03 PM
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I wish I could believe the same. But from experience, it hasn’t been the case. OCD/anxiety disorders are all about intrusive, unwanted thoughts that bubble up and seriously impact one’s ability to live a normal life. At best, they can be managed with behavioral therapy.
/r/seduction30/04/19 04:10 AM
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This EXACTLY. From experience, I tend to think that my mistakes and failings are all my fault alone, which propels the vicious cycle of self-doubt and inadequacy.
/r/seduction30/04/19 03:42 AM
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How do you know I don’t? Within the context of this discussion, my point is that negative ways of thinking can often creep back in even if you feel like you’ve been making progress in cases of depression or bi-polarity.
/r/seduction30/04/19 03:38 AM
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I remember reading about some general who advocated making one's bed in the morning to instill in oneself a feeling of accomplishment. But that requires being able to actually get out of bed first. "Manning up" is ideal, but for people who are bi-polar or have severe enough depression, staying motivated and maintaining positive thoughts/habits is difficult to maintain. You think you're doing alright, then something triggers you and and you slide right back into self-loathing, self-doubt, and all…
/r/seduction30/04/19 01:14 AM
1

What if you can't even get out of bed in the morning to go to the gym or run on the treadmill? Society tends to stigmatize seeking help when it's needed.
/r/seduction30/04/19 01:04 AM
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Of course life's not fair. But how did you manage your anxiety and depression or get to the point where you could love yourself in a healthy way? Did you go to therapy? Did you take meds? Acknowledging that you might need help at some point is not necessarily passing the blame, imo.
/r/seduction30/04/19 12:57 AM
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I agree, especially about the art part, but what if you try and try and consistently fail? At some point is it eschewing responsibility or passing the blame to say "hey, maybe what I really need is some medication to help get me where I want to be because it's not working out otherwise?"
/r/seduction30/04/19 12:32 AM
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What if it is in your genes, though? Not so much talking about outward appearances or height, but rather anxiety and depression, which are often physical things that have to do with imbalances in brain chemistry.
/r/seduction30/04/19 12:23 AM
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Sure. But that’s why I don’t even bother when in LA.
/r/seduction11/03/19 04:03 PM
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LA girls are super entitled as a result. I don’t even bother trying with them.
/r/seduction11/03/19 10:37 AM
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I've been doing it. It takes some getting used to, but it's good because you get your responses right away instead of having to wait for replies, wondering if you've been ghosted, or whatever. Also jokes and sarcasm that can come off ambiguous or fall flat over text will be much more effective.
/r/seduction05/01/19 07:18 PM
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Be hot.
/r/seduction25/11/18 04:48 AM
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What if the music is too loud and you can't really hear what people say to you and so your brain kind of shuts down as you find it too overwhelming to try to maintain a conversation, much less be fun and flirty about it?
/r/seduction28/10/18 01:22 AM
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Who says anything about housewives or other peoples’ girlfriends? I’m talking about having conversations with people in general, men or women, in any public place. Sometimes that leads to something. It’s called being friendly. Craigslist, on the other hand, is a den of crackheads and desperate ppl who are down on their luck. I suspect it’s a generational thing based on your description.
/r/seduction22/09/18 06:34 PM
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You met your S/O on Craigslist? That to me would be a thousand times creepier than having a friendly chat with a total stranger at the grocery store or something.
/r/seduction22/09/18 06:05 PM
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OP, your insights here are appreciated, but, honest question, how would you suggest people meet each other if not for cold-approaching? At bars? On dating apps? Both of those cater to very specific demographics; not everyone goes to bars, and apps like Tinder generally only work for the superficially attractive. Dating co-workers is a no-no, while activity groups and friend circles are by definition limiting. It also doesn't help that society expects men to initiate interaction. Hence, you wind …
/r/seduction22/09/18 10:15 AM
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It doesn't sound like OP is being manipulative or unnecessarily dramatic, but rather bipolar or outright depressive, in which case help is of utmost importance.
/r/seduction08/09/18 10:57 AM
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Totally disagree here. After the first kiss, the guy is much more comfortable with initiating. At least I am.
/r/seduction01/09/18 01:24 PM
0

Do people still use numbers? Does anyone ask for social media instead?
/r/seduction21/08/18 11:14 AM
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“Basically, she's trying to feel you out. If you don't have any actual interest in her, tell her for god sake, so she's not giving herself false hope that something might develop between you two.” The same for women with men. So many guys simply can’t get the hint and wind up in the creep zone.
/r/seduction08/08/18 08:44 PM
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This guy is awesome, but fuck Tinder and their ELO nonsense. The app for regular dudes has become like standing in line at a club in Hollywood.
/r/seduction03/08/18 03:58 AM
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OP you live in a culture that for generations has emasculated the Asian male. I know because I’m Asian too, and the best I can say is work through it as best you can. Dont let anyone tell you that Asian men aren’t generally viewed as less attractive in the USA, because they are. On an individual level, there are always exceptions, but you’re going to find lots of women disqualifying you simply due to your race. Don’t let that be an excuse for anything, though, man up and go for it, and also take…
/r/seduction28/07/18 09:58 PM
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It’s much easier to escalate when you don’t really like them though. Tips on overcoming that?
/r/seduction15/07/18 12:33 PM
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Being East Asian makes it a bit more difficult it seems.
/r/seduction14/07/18 03:57 AM
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Start by not thinking of people in terms like hb6 and hb8.
/r/seduction26/05/18 09:50 PM
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It’s so much better when they tell you that straight up.
/r/seduction26/05/18 09:47 PM
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Waell shit.
/r/seduction19/05/18 08:23 AM
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Both. Due to the lingering subconscious effects of Western colonialism and of having the advantage of socio-economic privilege, White western men will either stick with white women or, if they date outside their ethnicity, it’s often (but not always) because they fetishize them. For instance, yellow fever,” where their attraction towards Asian women is based on stereotypes of submissiveness or exotic mystique.
/r/seduction13/05/18 09:25 AM
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Socio-economic conditioning. What you see in movies, magazines, the media. Subconscious aspirations towards affluence. White becomes the ideal standard of beauty. Basically you’ve been brainwashed. And there’s a hierarchy to it. Same reason asian men and black women are generally considered the least attractive in the West when it comes to dating.
/r/seduction13/05/18 08:51 AM
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Bookmarked! This is exactly what I need to know as well.
/r/seduction10/05/18 04:31 PM
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Ignore, but maybe hit her up again later. Weeks or months later. She might well miss your attention, and contact you again. Don’t bank on it though, just divert your attention elsewhere. It’s always a push/pull.
/r/seduction03/05/18 07:24 AM
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She was calling/texting him, not the other way around. He might have been too available and answering her calls, but it doesn’t seem like he was the needy one, rather her. But it sounds like she’s confused or neurotic or is having second thoughts now. I feel like if he backs off and ignores her for a while she’ll be the one changing her mind and want something more.
/r/seduction27/02/18 07:01 AM
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I'm not really talking about that, though. That I can kind of understand. I'm talking about being in the friendzone but then eventually liking your friend. It apparently weirds them out and they feel like they can't be your friend anymore, even if you're ok with just staying friends.
/r/seduction07/01/18 08:21 AM
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I've definitely been in the #1 situation, but it doesn't make sense to me. Probably because I'm a guy? If I "like" a friend I've grown close to but she doesn't feel the same way, that's fine, and I am completely ok with just staying friends. I even just laughed about the rejection when she expressed she wasn't interested. But then she'll be the one to get all weird and disappear. So I really have no idea what she's thinking.
/r/seduction07/01/18 08:08 AM
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I never understood the bit about losing the friendship- if you want to hit it but she doesn’t, but you’re already good friends, why would it ruin anything... because of feelings? Can you explain that further?
/r/seduction07/01/18 01:32 AM
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That's been my sticking point as well, and I'd imagine it would be for anyone who typically gets some nerves leading up to the moment. And for everyone who says "let it happen naturally," that's no help.
/r/seduction20/11/17 12:53 AM
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Most guys simply don't know how to express interest.
/r/seduction16/08/17 03:54 PM
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Good point!
/r/seduction13/08/17 02:26 PM
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Thanks! This is the kind of advice I'm looking for. How do you gauge when the girl is approachable? Do you wait for the usual eye contact or smile? Often the girl is dancing in a huddled group of friends or freaking her BFF, I'm assuming those are moments of no-go?
/r/seduction13/08/17 10:22 AM
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Come on, it should be obvious the "mating ritual" bit is a joke. It's true, just like everything jn r/seduction is about ultimately about human mating rituals, but we're not really here to discuss behavioral psychology or whatever. A joke, y'all Are there ways to engage on the dance floor without saying anything at all, using dancing/body language that doesn't seem creepy? Often the music is simply too loud.
/r/seduction13/08/17 10:17 AM
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It is what it is. But keep it on the downlow, m'kay?
/r/seduction13/08/17 04:59 AM
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Cool will check it out. I have a feeling that I tend to come off like I'm looking for a relationship when really I'm not. I've tried to follow the general advice on avoiding this (keeping things light and flirty, going on low-stakes dates as opposed to fancy dinners, etc.), but something still seems to be off. It's almost like I should try NOT to get to know the girl if I want to just have sex with them, yet I always wind up connecting with them too well conversationally. Which probably puts off…
/r/seduction27/04/17 06:51 PM
1

Here's a follow up question to your steps here. How do you convey that you simply want casual sex, as opposed to a relationship? One can be great at socializing but simply wind up with a lot of friends, or with members of the opposite sex who want something more because they think YOU want something more, even though you really don't.
/r/seduction27/04/17 06:31 PM
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This might be the best thing I've read yet in this sub. Not just because I tend to fall flat with a lot of the other techniques/suggestions, but simply because this feels like the most natural way of getting where I'd like to go. Thanks, OP!
/r/seduction23/01/17 09:20 AM
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I tend to feel like that's still part of the date/evening, though. After which I'll ignore 'em until a few days later/time to meet up again, etc. Is that weird?
/r/seduction11/12/16 02:03 AM
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Is texting goodnight, great meeting you, get home safe, etc. ok? I tend to do that, always thought it was just common courtesy.
/r/seduction10/12/16 07:47 PM
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Lol couldn't tell from your pics. Thought you were maybe a tanned white guy, but fair enough.
/r/seduction23/11/16 03:50 PM
2

Solid, but tell me how to get laid on Tinder as an Asian guy in the USA.
/r/seduction23/11/16 03:17 PM
1

Yea I'm pretty introverted and do suffer from social anxiety on some level at least. When I go out (with women, or even with friends, sometimes) I find that I have to treat it like a performance, or like stepping on stage; I need to psych myself up for the human interaction and wind up feeling drained afterwards. Not sure how to relax or what it would take for flirting to become actual "fun" for me, aside from just doing it over and over again until I get used to it like most advice seems to sug…
/r/seduction16/09/16 10:18 PM
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No prob, I tend to over-analyze everything and try to figure out the why, which I should stop doing anyway and just take things for what they are. Pretty sure that would likewise improve my game considerably.
/r/seduction15/09/16 11:28 PM
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That I'm not very good at reading subtle hints at all. Compound that with the usual venues for pickup/social interaction and it's massive sensory overload; brain is even more inclined to shut down.
/r/seduction15/09/16 09:39 PM
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It's not meant to be advice, and I'm not saying we shouldn't man up. But I wonder how much of it is societal conditioning. Just as the complexities of modern life have contributed to producing guys who don't know how to take charge, how much does say, slut-shaming prevent women themselves from being more straightforward.
/r/seduction15/09/16 08:11 PM
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Not too keen on the patriarchy and the whole birthing thing, but other than that, sure, why not?
/r/seduction15/09/16 04:54 PM
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Like I said, in a perfect world.
/r/seduction15/09/16 03:36 PM
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Like another commenter posted in here, I'm fairly introverted and typically in my own head. Throw in loud music, a crowd, and alcohol and my brain tends to shut down. It becomes difficult to actually process what people are saying and doing, much less read subtle hints. Clubbing and loud bars can be really unpleasant.
/r/seduction15/09/16 03:24 PM
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This is all great and well, but I do wish women would dispense with the subtle hints, feel free and empowered to make the approach, or just say "I like you." In a perfect world.
/r/seduction15/09/16 01:30 PM
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That's awesome. I guess as Asians, we're not going to get as many of those initial IOIs (or Tinder matches). I find that I do much better in foreign countries in Europe, etc. though perhaps it has as much to do with my own state of mind when I'm traveling as opposed being at home.
/r/seduction06/09/16 04:35 PM
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I'm no expert on African American issues, but I'm guessing it has something to do with long held stereotypes, whether or not black women conform to Western ideals of beauty, "nappy" versus straight hair as symbols of status, etc.
/r/seduction06/09/16 03:05 PM
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This has a lot to do with how certain minorities have historically been stereotyped in the media. Asian women are considered exotic, mysterious sex objects, while Asian men are seen as effeminate, nerdy, or untrustworthy. When it comes to African Americans, I'm less familiar, although black men are stereotypically hypersexualized.
/r/seduction06/09/16 05:16 AM
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Statistics bear it out. For example, there's a famous OK cupid report that shows Asian men and black women as being the least desired partners, by a WIDE margin, when it comes to dating.
/r/seduction06/09/16 05:12 AM
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You're absolutely right, of course. But results haven't borne themselves out thus far. Check back with me in two years, the time it took the OP to get his game down.
/r/seduction06/09/16 04:23 AM
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Are you pulling supermodel, non-anime geek 9's and 10's? If so good on you, your game is strong. I'm in California as well, but when I go to the more mainstream, trendy spots I rarely ever get so much as eye contact. I'm not saying it's impossible, just that the deck is indeed stacked and thus far, my expectations have required tempering.
/r/seduction06/09/16 02:36 AM
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Yea, there seem to be a lot of anime/Asian pop culture obsessives lately. This is good (and bad) for Asian guys; it's progress in a way, but we're also being fetishized. I actually don't mind the fetishization too much, because shit, it's new to me and nice to be desired for whatever reason, but am personally not into all that anime/pop stuff and the girls tend to be far too geeky for my tastes. Your friend, as an African American woman, is along with Asian men, part of the least desired demogra…
/r/seduction06/09/16 01:23 AM
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I find a lot of the advice on this sub is great, but it frankly doesn't take into account "white privilege." Asian men (and black women) start out with a huge handicap in the USA (and much of the Western first world nations) in that we're seen as unsexy or are discounted before we're even out the gate in most cases. Things seem to be gradually changing for the better, but still it's hard to overcome, issues of confidence, etc. aside. And good luck when it comes to "9's and 10's" and supermodels.…
/r/seduction06/09/16 12:54 AM
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Oh absolutely. I don't disagree at all, although it does get discouraging when you're the odd man out in normal (mixed crowd) situations.
/r/seduction05/09/16 06:10 PM
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Great post, but convince me that being an Asian dude in America is not at least a somewhat limiting factor.
/r/seduction05/09/16 04:06 PM
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This is probably where I traditionally fuck up. I tend to go for the goodbye kiss on the first date no matter what, thinking that if I don't make a move physically, I'll wind up friend zoned. Is there a general time frame or # of dates/meetings before you guys go for it?
/r/seduction30/08/16 09:31 PM
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This is interesting. When people talk about strong eye contact for building sexual attraction, "the intimate gaze," as you mentioned, do you look like, directly into the other person's pupils? I find "looking into their eyes" (pupils) incredibly hard to do and wind up looking at that spot between the two eyes atop the nose, and wondering if I look cross eyed.
/r/seduction27/08/16 04:22 PM
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As a woman, how do you truly feel about guys who pay for the meal? I do that from time to time simply because I want to. Usually I can afford to spend money more than the girls I date (they tend to be a bit younger or less a part of the professional world than me) and I would rather they save theirs. And it has nothing to do with expecting sex in return or anything of the sort, though of course I'd like to hit it at some point as any man would. I honestly don't want people to spend their cash wh…
/r/seduction14/08/16 07:08 AM
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I think my problem is that I've always thought they were one and the same. Dating leads to sex, sex leads to a relationship, etc. There seems to be a whole vocabulary of language and signals just for getting laid that has historically escaped me.
/r/seduction28/07/16 05:55 PM
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Thanks that's what I was looking for, a more thought out answer with some context. I always thought that part of building rapport meant opening up and inviting conversation about heavier stuff, but like you say, knowing where to draw the line comes from experience.
/r/seduction28/07/16 09:22 AM
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Do you literally just keep it light and flirty the whole time, avoiding topics of substance, when you're out with a woman with the intent of getting laid? Serious question.
/r/seduction28/07/16 02:27 AM
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Sure, makes sense. How do you strike a balance, though? If you're out with somebody you naturally want to know what's going on with them, what they're about, etc. Which leads to them talking about their problems, hopes, aspirations, whatever. Or do you seriously just bullshit about nothing over drinks and get laid?
/r/seduction27/07/16 09:08 PM
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Oh I'm pretty good at casual conversation, and I meet people all the time. Frankly, I listen too much! Seems to be why women always want to tell me about all their problems, and I wind up being the advice giver/empathetic friend. You said you deflect when that happens. All that PUA stuff about negging, cracking jokes, being witty. It just doesn't occur to me to say stuff like that. That's what I have a hard time with.
/r/seduction27/07/16 08:47 PM
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4 is my biggest problem. How do you build a rapport otherwise? I suck at flirting and talking about meaningless stuff. All the cocky funny PUA stuff does not come natural to me, and winds up coming out canned.
/r/seduction27/07/16 07:35 PM
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I'm terrible at clubs, slightly better at bars. Mainly at places when the music is too loud, I have to strain to hear what people are saying and wind up shutting down mentally. How do you deal with that? I'm down for trying some new joints and seeing someone with good club skills in action.
/r/seduction04/07/16 09:21 PM
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Do you always go for the close right after the club or the very first time you meet them? I typically get their info and try to meet up again later, but with varying results. Maybe I should actively hit up clubs and bars more.
/r/seduction04/07/16 05:55 PM
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Good to know. I've only tried the LA mainstream thing in spurts, with less than stellar results. But your game sounds stronger than mine lol. I find I do well when I travel, and that foreign girls tend to be more open minded/receptive towards Asian guys. When it actually comes to hot white girls, I frankly don't know where they hang out these days. You see them at Coachella and EDC, and then they just kind of vanish back to wherever they came from. Clubbing on the eastside is mostly Latinas and …
/r/seduction04/07/16 05:38 PM
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So you're Asian too. That does in fact complicate things, especially if you're after the attractive white girls. If your game is tight and they give you the time of day, great, but it's indeed harder to be seen as more than an outsider with the mainstream LA entertainment crowds, based on my experience. Conversely, you can party or promote within the Asian Am club scene, though that may not be what you're after. Hate to say it, but LA is incredibly segregated like that. How was it in Chicago or …
/r/seduction04/07/16 07:52 AM
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LA is really stratified. The girls you find at clubs in Hollywood tend to be the wannabes from the Valleys. The actual models/actresses/8+s are quickly snatched up by the "in" crowd of entertainment industry riff-raff. If you're FROM LA, like I am, you can see there's a clear separation between the locals and the ones who came here to "make it," in terms of where to hang out, whom to associate with. it's always been that way, but is probably worse these days. The solution is to actually play the…
/r/seduction03/07/16 10:33 PM
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That's part of it, though. Most of the women at clubs in LA are not very attractive. The hot ones are at parties in the Hollywood Hills. Gain access to them and I'll gladly provide your wing support.
/r/seduction03/07/16 07:27 PM
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LA is TERRIBLE for meeting women. The whole "beautiful LA actress/model/California girl" whatnot exists up to a point, but the logistics of the city are a real challenge. Mainly, when you're in your car all the time going from place to place, the sidewalks are empty, and urban face to face interaction is severely limited. When you have to drive home after a night out at a bar, pickup is also made awkward. I suppose if you live in a mildly more pedestrian-friendly part of the city (downtown LA, S…
/r/seduction03/07/16 11:25 AM
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I don't disagree about the need to convey sexuality from the get go. Just that I don't want some innocent unicorn.
/r/seduction18/05/16 05:15 PM
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These are a bit assumptive. I tend to be quite the same way in that I need to warm up to a person first. But that doesn't mean I want a unicorn innocent princess. I tend to prefer to get to know someone better before I want to fuck them.
/r/seduction18/05/16 04:25 PM
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I've been learning to care less over the years, but I think core of the problem is that I find the idea of sex, especially with someone I don't know too well, kind of icky. Is that weird?
/r/seduction21/01/16 05:50 PM
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I have OCD. That's EXACTLY what I do. I've been to therapy for it. And when it comes to physical escalation, I believe that has something to do with it. On some conscious or subconscious level, sex has always seemed like this irrationally gross thing to me. Hence, not wanting to escalate physically unless I really, really know a person well. Usually, by then we're already really good friends lol.
/r/seduction21/01/16 05:43 PM
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What about when your problem is that you don't want to escalate physically until you've established comfort? That's where I historically fuck it up. It takes a long time for me to feel comfortable enough around another person. Might be shyness, or OCD or something.
/r/seduction21/01/16 06:15 AM
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Where/what's your demographic? I think it all depends. I'm 30+ and have one or two friends who are steadfast in their refusal to use social media, while I've gotten to the point where receiving or making a phone call actively irritates me lol.
/r/seduction14/01/16 12:41 AM
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That's the way I see it. Does anyone actually use their phone anymore? I don't even use regular texting/sms unless the person is a Luddite or over 35. Even then, a lot of people are on FB (or other messaging apps) just as much as anything else these days.
/r/seduction13/01/16 07:28 PM
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