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TheThirdT/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/16 01:16 PM
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You understand nothing. You have everything backwards. The reason you put the kids to bed is to get something from your wife? Do you not want to build your relationship with your children? Do you not enjoy spending time with your kids? Why are you trying to appease your way into your wife's pants? From the way you describe her, I would be actively avoiding spending time with her. You say she is fat, lazy, moody yet you are chasing her? What does this say about you?
/r/askMRP27/01/20 02:52 PM
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Your thinking is all fucked up. If a person has value, you cannot extract it by sucking up. You offer value and receive value in return. Value for value. In order to have value to offer you must invest in yourself. As a first step you gotta fix your thinking.
/r/askMRP22/01/20 01:31 PM
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technique (leverage) is a force multiplier. If you have zero force but infinite leverage you fail. If you have infinite force but zero leverage you fail. You should train both technique and force production for success. How much time to devote to either is up for debate.
/r/askMRP08/12/19 01:50 PM
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The shoulder stretch sounds similar to the german hang. Pulling in and out of the german hang is a great mobility movement too.
/r/askMRP06/03/19 01:09 PM
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Time to be a good boy and listen to mommy.
/r/askMRP04/02/19 01:35 PM
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Sounds like you have a plan. Best of luck.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/19 09:43 PM
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Better for who?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/19 09:17 PM
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Why are you worried about what she wants? She is free to want whatever she wants. Tell her no and stick to it. Bitter and resentful is the worst way to go thru life. When it comes to relationships never do anything you do not freely want to do otherwise you will grow that bitterness.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/19 01:35 PM
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You seem very angry and bitter about your life. I am glad you are beginning to take some small steps towards change. Best advice I can give you right now is to not wait on lifting weights, start as soon as possible. You can channel your anger into the gym and use your reading to understand where that anger comes from.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/01/19 02:37 PM
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Good. I am glad your life is improving. Be careful not to use your wife's reactions as a measure of progress. You must remain the measure. Do you feel like you are miss understood often? Is it important to you that you are understood? As you probably know, a lot of the principles of BJJ can be applied to all parts of life. In a relationship, by over reacting and resisting you give her leverage to control you. Let her emotions move around and wear herself out. You don't need to say much, timing a…
/r/askMRP29/01/19 03:40 PM
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You are only seeing yourself thru your own eyes or how you want to see yourself. You also want us to see you the way you see yourself. Your mind is closed to the possibility that much of the advice given applies to your situation. By not opening your mind, you are resisting or fighting to preserve your perception of reality. As long as you continue to resist, change will be impossible.
/r/askMRP29/01/19 02:52 PM
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You are weak and you are using your kids as an excuse to remain weak.
/r/askMRP25/01/19 10:06 PM
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"Communication" is how the male is turned into a beta (if he wasn't already one).
/r/askMRP24/01/19 02:20 PM
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If you are only hitting single reps on the third week +1 set, you may want to drop your training max so you can at least hit 3 to 5 clean reps on the +1 day. If you are having a really good training day and kill the AMRAP set you can always up the weight and add a few joker sets. Resetting the training max will lower the intensity for a few cycles but will let you hit some rep PRs at weights you lifted on previous cycles.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/01/19 01:58 PM
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Yes or after reading the sidebar and implementing what works (for you) hopefully you wont have any more pussy ass questions to ask. ​ The answers you receive here will be some variation of "do this it worked for me" or "this was what was wrong with me and this is how I fixed it" but you need to figure what is wrong with you and figure out how to fix it. It is going to take some time and effort.
/r/askMRP21/01/19 09:23 PM
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Having a mommy not enough and now you need a daddy too?
/r/askMRP21/01/19 09:11 PM
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There is an interesting thread on the add I came across on r/thelastpsychiatrist called "This is the Dove Sketch Ad for Men".
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/19 02:20 PM
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This is good advice. If you have a barbell you can power clean the weight and do standing overhead press and all you need is the barbell. Eventually if you stick with a home gym get a power rack and bench.
/r/askMRP17/01/19 01:40 PM
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Why do you want to save the marriage? All the advice is contained in the sidebar. Have you read it?
/r/askMRP10/01/19 02:03 PM
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If you are going to do something, you do it. It shouldn't matter what anyone else says about it. For me if my wife reminds me to do something I was planning on doing, I thank her for the reminder and do the task as my planning allows. The cookie thing could be handled with some AA or AM. If you are reacting to your wife then you are in her frame. You seem to be very angry and reactive. Is that how you see things? Is there some history of you lacking discipline to complete tasks or maintain a hea…
/r/askMRP10/01/19 01:47 PM
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I can see this is serious for you and I would begin to think less of my wife if this happened with any frequency. It seems like you think that the people you care about will think less of you if they see the stupid shit your wife posts on facebook? I wonder if you did not take this so seriously if there would be easy ways to diffuse this with those that reached out to you. Remember, there is no such thing as bad publicity (LAW 6). You are the only judge you must answer to. If you judge the behav…
/r/askMRP09/01/19 09:29 PM
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What was it about your wife's comment that bothered you? ​ Your wife probably knows she behaved badly and wants to change the narrative to save face. I wonder if you are engaging in something similar after changing your plans and rewarding your wife for her bad behavior. ​ ​ ​ ​
/r/askMRP09/01/19 06:32 PM
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Start reading the sidebar. Good luck.
/r/askMRP21/12/18 01:35 PM
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marriage is not war
/r/askMRP18/12/18 07:52 PM
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Good advice. How have you implemented this to make your life and the lives of those around you better? A few examples would be helpful. I like to think of the ego as a filter through which you perceive reality. It has its own agenda namely identity protection and the status quo. Not sure if the crazy guy on the bus is ego driven probably more schizophrenic and unable to filter reality at all.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/12/18 02:01 PM
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Her getting mad is OK. Her watching the kids more is OK. Getting a baby sitter to watch the kids while you go to classes is also OK. If salsa dancing is truly something you want to pursue, you should do it. ​ This would have been a good time to practice some of those assertive skills like fogging and negative inquiry outlined in WISNIFG.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/18 09:58 PM
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That's exactly right.
/r/askMRP08/12/18 03:34 PM
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Good points. I always wanted to go to Tahiti. You ever been?
/r/askMRP08/12/18 03:32 PM
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What is the difference between asking permission from MRP or permission from the wife?
/r/askMRP07/12/18 03:19 PM
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If you had a fight, you probably didn't "hold frame". You didn't handle the situation right and you feel bad because you let her judge your actions. If you are being manipulated it is because you allow it. Next time don't get in a fight also read WISNIFG.
/r/askMRP07/12/18 03:03 PM
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You did not set a boundary. You made a threat that you never intended to follow thru on. Now you are looking for a way to save face. ​ If it was a boundary about your life and how you will live it,he would have papers in hand and you would no longer be supporting her.
/r/askMRP03/12/18 02:31 PM
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You are desperate. Desperate is not attractive. You are looking for tricks. There are none. You are wanting to control your wife. You can't. You have fostered this relationship for years. There is no quick fix. Best to figure out what is wrong with you that allowed you to act against your own interests for years and fix that.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/18 07:49 PM
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A good rule of thumb is if you have to ask permission (post on MRP) to cheat you are not operating in your frame (you are not your own judge). You say you control the finances yet you fear the financial repercussions of divorce. If you control the finances why not invest the money in a way that benefits you in a divorce scenario? Why not consult with a lawyer to fully understand the financial issues? You also mentioned you fear the social repercussions. Both of these fears are because you have a…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/18 07:27 PM
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You don't run dread. You are dread. By pursuing your mission, you bring value to your life and all the lives of the people you interact with. The fear of losing that value is the dread experienced by the other. It is experienced as a low level anxiety that acts as a guard against complacency. Cheating successfully means cheating in the context of your own frame. Before you can cheat successfully you have to become the type of guy who can. If you are chasing a meta-emotion (desiring to be desired…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/18 07:03 PM
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What is your marriage doing for you? What would you lose if your wife divorced you? What do you fear? ​ If you want sex but aren't the type of guy to cheat you have a few options:become attractive and maybe the wife becomes attracted (or maybe not), become attractive and get divorced to pursue other women, become attractive and become the type of guy who does cheat and pursue other women. All of these start with becoming attractive. ​ ​
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/18 10:09 PM
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Remember its just your turn. Appreciate her for what she is. Always work towards your goals. Relationships should be enjoyable and positive. You are likely the problem. Read the rational male (and all the sidebar books).
/r/askMRP29/11/18 09:29 PM
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Are you sure about the pedestal? You talk her up in your original post. You think you can't do better. You think its your fault she set up a date with another guy. Are you sure your judgement is not clouded? ​ ​
/r/askMRP29/11/18 09:03 PM
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What do you want? Are you getting it? What are you doing to get what you want? Why do you need to break up with her to start losing weight and eating healthy? If you thought she is something she is not then you have her on a pedestal and likely have limited your options to only her. Best advice I can give is to work on yourself and not worry about her. ​ ​
/r/askMRP29/11/18 04:55 PM
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Excellent post but despite your public service most people only learn by experience or not at all.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/18 07:16 PM
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Nothing wrong with some beta behavior. Everything is relative to you being your own mental point of origin. You don't use dread...you are dread. Questioning your actions, worrying about others actions, doing something that makes you cringe, seeking advice means that you have inner conflicts that you need to deal with.
/r/askMRP28/11/18 07:01 PM
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How did you fuck up? This could good be a great catalyst for change. Why are you worried about losing your wife and why isnt your wife worried about losing you?
/r/askMRP28/11/18 06:32 PM
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Don't want to give up being the victim? Guess what no one gives a shit if you are a martyr. You have created your identity around being the victim and now using your child as a way to protect that identity.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/11/18 08:05 PM
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I am glad she is getting help, but her problems are her own. There is nothing you can do to fix her. Don't stop pursuing your goals or living your life.
/r/askMRP14/11/18 02:04 PM
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Why do guys keep engaging this petty bullshit? Maybe she takes so long to fold the laundry to get away from you. ​ Stop suggesting...how about telling the kids its time to fold their laundry and showing them how to fold and put it away. Stop worrying about your wife's complaints. Stop "telling" things to your wife. Stop asking the wife to make the kids help. If you want them to help you make them. Why would you want to run after her and yell? Why are you seeking arguments over laundry? Why are y…
/r/askMRP13/11/18 03:12 PM
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This is why WISNIFG is such a critical book for those who cant stop DEERing.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/18 07:15 PM
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So what are you gonna do about it? or are you just looking for a hug.
/r/askMRP09/11/18 07:07 PM
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Congrats on the weight loss, but you still need to shed several pounds of excuses.
/r/askMRP09/11/18 06:36 PM
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What's wrong with her paying and doing everything when its her birthday?
/r/askMRP09/11/18 06:32 PM
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oh I forgot to mention that none of those things you listed are threats. They are just situations you find yourself in. You may perceive them as threats because you have based your identity around those things. I am a good parent (having a drug addicted child threatens that image). I am a good husband (having a cheating wife threatens that image). I am a strong person (constantly being manipulated by the MIL threatens that image).
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/18 04:55 PM
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You do want ever you want. There is no "True RP Man". If my wife was dabbling with flirtation, I would begin dabbling with divorce. No way I would have a kid addicted to heroin living in my house. They would be on there own. If they sought my help to get clean I would help as much as possible. If you fear losing something or fear change you will always be a bitch and act like one. You don't know how to respond because you are still reacting. You are responding based on how your actions will be p…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/18 04:37 PM
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Sounds like a nice evening, but I wouldn't have addressed the email. Just delete it. If she wants to talk she know how to use her mouth.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/18 04:25 PM
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​ Part of the favor the other man does for you besides showing you the type of woman you have married is that her cheating can be used to your advantage. If your wife cheats on you and feels guilty about it, you can leverage that guilt in the divorce proceedings. If her hypergamy is in full swing and she is looking to branch swing, you may be able to use that for a speedy divorce.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/18 04:05 PM
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You can't fix her bad behavior only your reaction to it. If I was in your shoes, I would get out of the lease and find my own place to live.
/r/askMRP08/11/18 09:09 PM
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Sounds like you don't have any frame. You are just reacting to your wife. Nothing wrong with having emotions, sometimes they tell us important things about ourselves. You can't really control your emotions only how you react to them. ​ Just let it go and proceed as if it never happened. Before you can "maintain" frame you have to develop your frame, become your mental point of origin. One day when your wife tells you a joke you will be able to just laugh and the only emotion you feel will be ple…
/r/askMRP08/11/18 04:51 PM
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I get laid whenever I want. But what has changed the most over the last few years is the "I want" part.
/r/askMRP07/11/18 07:10 PM
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I stopped caring about sex in the terms you are trying to define it in. At some point you will realize life it too short to keep score.
/r/askMRP07/11/18 07:07 PM
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Feelings come and go. Sometimes my wife has a shitty day and just an acknowledgment of her bad day and a hug is enough to lift her mood. Other times a little active listening to help her explore her feelings is called for. I do these things because I care for her as my wife and as another human being. ​ Why is your initial reaction to cut her down? Why would you need to justify or start an argument about what she said? Why would you need to lie to wife about what she said? Why do you assume your…
/r/askMRP07/11/18 06:55 PM
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Seems like everyone does the BBB variation. Wendler recommends switching up the assistance lifts every few cycles. I typically rotate between BBB 5x10, Triumvirate (3 accessory lifts (3x8-12) that complement or work specific portions of the main lift), First Set last (3x8-12 of first set of main lift), Dips and Pull ups (100 to 150 of each).
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/18 09:53 PM
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You have only been married for a month? She cheated the day before the wedding? She has been hanging out with the same guy after wedding? ​ End this nightmare as quickly as possible.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/18 09:33 PM
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just can't stop the DEER?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/11/18 09:16 PM
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Is it a bluff? All you did was talk where is the action?
/r/askMRP06/11/18 03:11 PM
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Fuck me or fuck you. Check out the stages of dread for some context. ​ ​
/r/askMRP31/10/18 03:00 PM
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This can't be real, but... ​ Why would you want to go out on an evening event with this woman? Why do you care if she stays at her sisters for a few days? Why do you not call her bluff on divorce and present her with divorce papers? Why would you sleep on the couch? Why would you give her permission to slap you? Why not jerk off whenever you want to? Why would you let someone else make rules for when you can fuck or not? ​
/r/askMRP31/10/18 02:56 PM
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She is full of shit. Divorce her but offer her the same deal if this is what you want.
/r/askMRP29/10/18 06:07 PM
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what exactly are you throwing away? If you need a roommate or house cleaner those are pretty easy to find.
/r/askMRP29/10/18 05:58 PM
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If you can't make a decision like this on your own then you should default to no. I see you are hoping on a lot of external things will somehow improve your life (wife going to therapy, healthcare to make therapy affordable, FWB to strengthen your frame, goodwill of FWB). You need to take action to achieve the things you want. Letting things happen will always be ineffective. ​ ​
/r/askMRP29/10/18 05:53 PM
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Yes, but whose? This guy seems clueless. Worried about dread level 4 when the only thing he has fucked in 2 months is his hand.
/r/askMRP26/10/18 06:23 PM
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Forget about her reasons (you are right that asking her is a bad idea plus she probably doesnt know anyways). You need to ask yourself: "why am I choosing to be celibate"? That is a question that can at least be answered.
/r/askMRP26/10/18 06:20 PM
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how about what are his reasons for this?
/r/askMRP26/10/18 03:41 PM
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Are you fucking her? Women tend to turn into bitches when they arent getting it good.
/r/askMRP25/10/18 07:48 PM
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Sounds like things are going well. Don't stop now wildman. Its a common saying that MRP fixing the man. Often MRP creates the man, acting as the initiation into the masculine world where boys can become men.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/10/18 08:22 PM
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If you are lurking, its for you.
/r/askMRP23/10/18 12:59 PM
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A t-shirt for the gym I train at.
/r/askMRP05/05/17 12:41 PM
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Oneitis is taking it too far. Its a sickness. But like Pook says once you have pictures of multiple women on the bulletin board in your mind, you will no longer be desperate. Its the first step to developing abundance. Always cultivate options.
/r/askMRP05/05/17 12:21 PM
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If you meditate, the you should be very aware of the transience of feeling and emotions. When I get angry, I try to immediately notice/feel my anger and remind myself that it will pass. Then I ask myself why am I angry. This question usually allows me to uncover the convert contract or unrealistic expectation which speeds up my acceptance of reality and gives me something to work on in the future.
/r/askMRP10/04/17 01:33 PM
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The point is to start living life for yourself and doing the things you want to do. Because life is short and pretty soon everything you care about will be gone, everything you have built will be gone, and no one will remember you or anything u have done.
/r/askMRP26/10/16 06:50 PM
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Nothing feels better than lifting heavy weights and hitting a PR. I felt like a god the other day after hitting a single chin-up with 2 plates hanging between my legs. If I lost everything tomorrow, my first thought would be "how am I gonna get my lifting in today?"
/r/askMRP26/10/16 06:33 PM
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If a woman is going to cheat, she will cheat. You don't trust her, and you don't even trust your own gut. You are not in control of your life. When your control yourself, you don't need to control others. All these stories of guys needing proof to pull the trigger reminds me of the story of Julius ceasar's divorce of a wife surrounding a scandal and possible infidelity. When asked why he divorced his wife without any proof of wrong doing, he said "ceasar's wife should be above suspicion". Have y…
/r/askMRP26/10/16 01:56 PM
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Why are u acting so pathetic? So what if she doesn't want to spend time with you? This is just more time you can spend doing what you want. Why don't you start behaving like you are single RIGHT now and stop wasting your time worrying about her. Start using your brain cycles to figure out what you want and how to get it. From the way you describe your situation you do NOT have a wife so why don't you start acting like it. Someone once said MRP is practicing being single. Are you sure you are doi…
/r/askMRP24/09/16 03:06 AM
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Look at the positive...You can do whatever you want without any interference from her. If she wants to hangout in the bedroom all day, good, now you can spend the whole day doing whatever you want. If you don't know what you want to do with your time, figure it out. The more I improve myself I find the woman is only a distraction from the mission.
/r/askMRP23/08/16 12:55 PM
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A good starting point would be to learn the basic positions and good posture in each position. Start with that and practice framing, shrimping, and bridging which will help your defense a lot. Stephan Kesting has a free app and ebook called BJJ Roadmap that lays out the basics.
/r/askMRP26/04/16 06:37 PM
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Your friend has asked you to play a part in his wedding. The wedding and toast is not about you. If you cannot accept this then decline. Otherwise, try to be the best friend you can to your friend and come up with a toast appropriate for the venue.
/r/askMRP26/04/16 12:36 PM
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rub her feet with your dick and then stick it in her mouth
/r/askTRP22/04/16 06:23 PM
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She has done you a tremendous favor. Not sure what your question is, but if it is "what should I do now?" then read the sidebar and start living your life.
/r/askTRP22/04/16 06:15 PM
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You cannot control what she does nor should you try. All you can control is yourself. If you feel very strongly and need to create a boundary it could be "I will not have a wife that reconnects with old flames", then when/if this boundary is crossed you act accordingly by ending the relationship and no contact. If I was in your shoes I would be hitting the breaks on marriage. Take the time to absorb the sidebar and reassess what you want from your life.
/r/askMRP21/04/16 01:18 PM
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Just ghost her. Let her resume contact and respond if you want. Next time do not justify your decisions to her. Read receipts is some trivial shit and it's telling that she is such a bitch about it. HAve you started on the sidebar material? WISNIFG would be a good read for u.
/r/askMRP21/04/16 11:45 AM
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why are these texts from your girl bothering you so much? Why are you thinking about her reactions? Just enjoy your time out of town by getting stuff done, meeting some new people, and finding some cool stuff to do.
/r/askMRP20/04/16 09:08 PM
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You don't have to respond at all. If you plan on calling her later after work, you could go with "cool. talk to you tonight". If she brings it up in conversation and won't let it go, practice fogging, broken record, and negative inquiry: "I can see that this is bothering you, but the I have set up my phone the way I want." "I get that you feel like I am ignoring you, but this is how I want my phone setup." "I don't understand. What is it about my phone that is wrong?" "What is it about the way I…
/r/askMRP20/04/16 08:59 PM
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You are thinking too much about this. I would just respond "cool. see you tonight"
/r/askMRP20/04/16 07:03 PM
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This is a reasonable request, but also something most people would do on their own. Maybe turn stuff like this into some fun by chasing her around to give her a hug or something. I look at these type of questions as an opportunity to make up some random ridiculous reason for being upset. Like "I bought a box of 10,000 staples today but when I counted them there was only 9999 so I am super pissed and now I will have to return them next month." Why not initiate on the couch? Use teasing, kino, pla…
/r/askMRP20/04/16 06:51 PM
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Why do you want to voice your opinions? Do you need to change other peoples minds? Why do you care what other people think? I deal with others by not caring what they think and realizing that they don't truly give a shit about what I think. I always try to lighten the mood with playful jokes or sarcasm because being serious is a real bummer.
/r/askTRP20/04/16 05:51 PM
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Ego. Upon introspection through meditation and journaling, I have found that most of my anger and negative emotions are because I am invested in beliefs that reality demonstrates to be false. My unrealistic expectations cause me anger and beliefs that should be discarded are held on to because of fear. How about you?
/r/askTRP20/04/16 05:41 PM
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You should walk away. She is not the type to start a family. Her offer for affairs is her attempt to manipulate you. You can have guilt free affairs in any relationship if that is what you want. Remember you are your own judge and guilt is your choice.
/r/askTRP15/04/16 12:34 PM
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First OWS post. Been at this for about 6 months. Things I am owning: Lifting. I have not missed a day in the past three months. Some lifts have stalled. I believe this is partly due to programming and not getting enough sleep. I am considering program changes and coming up with a plan to shift work out times so that I can increase sleep to a minimum of 7.5 hrs a night. Diet is on track. Shit tests. This was a stumbling block, but reading the sidebar, stoicism, and practicing meditation has helpe…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/16 08:36 PM
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So you just listed a bunch of stuff you that you don't like or don't want to do....What is you want out of life? If you can't answer this question, think about it until you can.
/r/askTRP14/04/16 07:50 PM
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You need to start putting it into practice and living it. The reading does no good if you never do anything with it. Try to internalize the concepts by taking risks, trying new behaviors and creating new habits. Just like strength training, start light and slowly add more weight and/or reps. Always think about forward progress. Overtime it can become natural.
/r/askTRP14/04/16 07:40 PM
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Texts are for logistics only, but my first thought was "Yes. I used my tears for dressing."
/r/askTRP14/04/16 07:23 PM
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