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What does this even mean?
/r/seduction23/11/24 05:06 PM
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It boils down to me not having social skills because prior experiences of poor social interaction and bullying. You can hardly be confident if you can't back up that confidence mentally. You can fake it in your mind if you can delude yourself but I can't as I'm hardly delusional.
/r/seduction18/11/24 02:05 PM
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Don't worry I'm medicated. I feel stressed cuz' you know, no social skills. Is this comment supposed to cure my depression? 😂 If you wanna say something smart I'm all ears, but so far "don't be depressed" isn't much of a revolutionary idea.
/r/seduction16/11/24 08:50 PM
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I don't really walk up to anyone with being negative, unless being stressed and scared counts as being negative, but I can't really control that unfortunately.
/r/seduction16/11/24 04:37 PM
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I don't scream with anyone. I do go to therapy for depression. And most women are perfectly fine getting approached by guys, just not in a creepy or hyena like way. Are you sure. I just went out alone yesterday to a bar alone to socialise. I asked to join to a group of 7 (they were playing a table top game) and they looked at me like I was a freak. The girl next to me said that she always attract males she doesn't like. I didn't even asked her out. Can you explain why this happened if "most wome…
/r/seduction16/11/24 01:58 PM
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Sure. Confident people has confidence because results and past successes. I have none of those.
/r/seduction16/11/24 01:03 PM
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Women reject people much more often, this is s fact. Most women are not comfortbale when approached by guys so while it is better in real life it isn't easy.
/r/seduction15/11/24 11:18 PM
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Yes, so what? Don't act like women in the real world don't reject people.
/r/seduction15/11/24 10:56 PM
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Girls in real life don't give a shit either.
/r/seduction15/11/24 10:48 PM
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And he is afraid of the consequences.
/r/seduction11/11/24 06:01 PM
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It is because she is only looking for attention or ego boost.
/r/seduction10/11/24 09:35 PM
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I knew most about what you said. TL;DR: Women are just generally more attractive than men. The reason is genetics. Women don't need to work out in order to attain their female body features.
/r/seduction17/10/24 06:39 PM
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Let's assume he isn't projecting. Why do you think he is wrong? There are studies showing that women find most men unattractive, while men are more balanced in this regard.
/r/seduction29/09/24 05:08 PM
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I can totally imagine the girl telling everyone how she met OP while being saved from the other guy. It's totally a fate thing in her eyes. This is even a thing in many movies...
/r/seduction05/08/24 06:58 PM
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Sure, but the others say that rules 1&2 make OP win even if he was the one approaching (If he was in the other guy's place).
/r/seduction05/08/24 06:55 PM
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Why would dog parks more awkward then organizations, clubs, raves, local meetups? People go to dog parks to play with their dog not to talk to people, or am I wrong? People tend to form cliques and tend to not like strangers butt in from my experience, so I wouldn't say that meeting new people is extremely easy.
/r/seduction12/05/24 10:19 PM
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There is a zero probability that you won't find someone out there as good as her; if not, even better. How are you so sure of that?
/r/seduction07/05/24 09:32 PM
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What would you suggest for people with no friends when it comes to meeting new people?
/r/seduction07/05/24 09:30 PM
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Natural selections I guess
/r/seduction07/05/24 09:22 PM
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Where do you approach people if the club is the 99%? Strangers + 5% rejection rate is unbelievable.
/r/seduction07/05/24 09:19 PM
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Some people are just oblivious no matter how hard they try
/r/seduction07/05/24 09:16 PM
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Yeah, at that point its time to give up
/r/seduction07/05/24 09:13 PM
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If you're a 6', 120lb man, you're going to be about less than useless in the gym your first time. 6 months of consistent training and you're going to be adding plates to your sets. 3 years of focus and you've packed on 50lbs, look fantastic, feel fantastic, and are strong as fuck. I've done this one and didn't work, meaning I gained next to no muscle. Also, what if your faking is shit and puts you in a worse position that you've started with?
/r/seduction09/03/24 09:31 PM
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You're still in a better place than if you were the kind of guy who doesn't know how to interact with women at all. This is the part when people would say that they are human too just as much as men.
/r/seduction09/03/24 09:26 PM
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You are kind of too deep sinking yourself into the theory until you can't see reason of marriage beyond money or exploitation. Objective scoring have many aspects from personality to finance and looks where you can't say that a 600 pound anyone can be a 10... Read. Understand.
/r/ExRedPill09/03/24 09:18 PM
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The only group that matter is yourself, IMO, because there can be a value difference, for example many people love gossiping but I hate it, therefore I'm "weak" or "boring" to these people but I don't care. I think that people should sit down and really think through their values in pen and paper style, then they should try to intentionally live by it. A good starting point is trying to become someon who is considered by society (and/or you) a good father. And this book: Nathaniel Branden: The S…
/r/seduction02/06/23 01:17 PM
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“Partner selector” really sounds like victim blaming with extra steps Why? Women do have to actively select for the best person it is in their best interest. You can't just live in society and take everything as given that is naive as hell... Most interpersonal violence is done by close family/friends so to your last point… no lol Seems like you don't understand statistics... According to you only friends and family can be a danger to you which is wrong on so many levels...
/r/seduction20/05/23 11:41 AM
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women have to improve themselves as well Sure but not neraly as much as men. They achive much more with much less improvement because of what men value primarily. the fact many are constantly being vigilant against potential threats from men So you say women need to be a good partner selector? Sure. I would say it is much easier then being the initiator. You can reduce the threat by selecting using social proof or selecting from close social circles.
/r/seduction03/05/23 10:11 PM
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Just answered for an other guy, so I just copy paste it here: Thank you, someone actually asking for explanation instead of calling names 🙏 First it is mostly goes for dating: >what about being a woman simple? Being a woman is single when it comes to dating. All she has to do, generally, is to wait for the guy to show up, then she enjoys his game and all the courtesy after which she either gives him a chance or rejets him. Then the whole thing starts over. It's mostly passive or requires very li…
/r/seduction01/05/23 07:17 PM
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Thank you, someone actually asking for explanation instead of calling names 🙏 First it is mostly goes for dating: what about being a woman simple? Being a woman is single when it comes to dating. All she has to do, generally, is to wait for the guy to show up, then she enjoys his game and all the courtesy after which she either gives him a chance or rejets him. Then the whole thing starts over. It's mostly passive or requires very little energy. what makes being a man complicated? In order to be…
/r/seduction01/05/23 06:45 PM
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Didn't meant it as advice but more of general difference between men and women
/r/seduction01/05/23 06:23 PM
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I would argue that it is true if not ever part of life, but absolutely when it comes to dating and relationships. If you had any counter argument you would have said that, tho...
/r/seduction01/05/23 06:19 PM
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Good point but for a lasting relationship I believe there should be a strong foundation of will. Some literal criminal can have strong will but have bad morals (or none)
/r/seduction30/04/23 09:30 PM
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"Women are complicated, but being a women is simple Men are simple but being a man is complicated"
/r/seduction30/04/23 06:19 PM
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If you've put in the effort to: Build a body you're proud of Learn how to hold a conversation Curate an attractive wardrobe Eat right Reach ambitious goals Whithout these especially the last point you have no value and you are noting The sooner you realize this and accept it the sooner you start to grow "To become a woman is birthright, but to become a man takes skill and effort"
/r/seduction30/04/23 06:17 PM
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I got worse: There was a guy who said that: "you need to interact with a women for weeks before she becomes interested in having a relationship with you"
/r/seduction30/04/23 06:03 PM
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Too busy, but then what?
/r/seduction25/04/23 06:36 PM
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Still there is a difference between the 2
/r/seduction25/04/23 06:36 PM
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"decide to persevere and remain confident in themself (even when they don’t actually feel confident.)" You mean pretend instead of remain
/r/seduction25/04/23 06:00 PM
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I'm in a bar right now and came here alone and can't get myself to talk to a single living thing
/r/seduction25/04/23 05:57 PM
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What settings does this apply to? If you aren't for seducing your friends you will need a setting where you are out with your frends and have stranger girls joining up. Depending on your friend circle this could be a cope for many guys
/r/seduction02/04/23 03:56 PM
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Just as I said. It isn't if she is exploiting you. I love the US what is it upon divorce half of the man's posession, noice mate.
/r/ExRedPill28/11/22 12:21 PM
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Sure he could have a more solution based approach, but I don't think he is that wrong with his assesments. I think the usual applies just like when it comes to rejection: "Suck it up, Man up, Grow some balls" I guess you don't like his heavy approach which is fair I guess.
/r/ExRedPill25/11/22 03:25 PM
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I asked for the basis per se. I hoped that you actually have a reason to call him that.
/r/ExRedPill24/11/22 11:02 PM
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Depends on what you call manupulation like some dating techniques can be very manipulative and any of them can be used for the purpose of ganing sex. Why are you treating redpill like it is solely about manipulation and all those bad stuff? Like sure all those exist but I would say that it is only a minority and you can very well find content creators who does not agree with those sentiments.
/r/ExRedPill18/11/22 02:59 PM
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Any source of this him being a "douchewaffle" you mentioned? I hope you have some foundation.
/r/ExRedPill18/11/22 02:33 PM
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Not only most of the attendees are usually women, everybody in there has this super friendly and "accept everyone/love everyone" Really? I would instantly assume that the only reason guys would attend is the high concentration of women.
/r/ExRedPill11/11/22 05:37 PM
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I would disagree with you. As an enlightened blackpiller (😂😂) I realize that what the blackpill says is just a rough estimate of the workings of dating especially when it comes to cold approach and online dating (meaning when meeting a stranger your looks has a very big impact on how things are going to go) Blackpill essentially is a buttkick which urges you to take things seriously and slaps you in the face with the reality that it might take more effort to have success than you would have thou…
/r/ExRedPill11/11/22 05:13 PM
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where is the evidence that people behave rationally in any area let alone mate selection? I don't think that this matters. Even if we aren't thinking rationally while dating (or interacting with a potential mate) there are patters of behaviour of which upon understanding you can have intentional measures that can grant you more chance of success. (see: pickup artistry) What I talk about is certain biases (ex. looks wise the majority of women would reject if you are shorter) then there are emotio…
/r/ExRedPill11/11/22 04:52 PM
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so much of what red pill says is available in other places in a more positive way. I might lack some information but I don't think there is any media that can replace the redpill ideologies that you mention in a one-in-all package. From my understanding redpill, as all the other pills, mainly focuses on the dating aspects with the assumption that you should improve yourself to be successful. So the main aspects are fashion, grooming, fitness, dating strategies, social skills improvement, financi…
/r/ExRedPill11/11/22 04:41 PM
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he’s also a ginormous asshole. Why? Seems like you just got emotional ​ Content like his is actually dangerous. It’s honestly so incredibly toxic. For the weak minded people who can't handle reality, should man up IMO. There is a minimum intelligence needed to realize that he doesn't say that you should stop trying or anything. But I mean this is an exredpill sub so everyone is a 10 I guess.
/r/ExRedPill11/11/22 04:14 PM
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If you married a 10 and she likes you…then you a 10 This isn't how this works. What you're talking about is an overall perspective scoring and this can be skewed. For example her reason for marriage could be money oriented and exploitative. Objective scoring have many aspects from personality to finance and looks where you can't say that a 600 pound anyone can be a 10...
/r/ExRedPill11/11/22 04:06 PM
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If you are a sub5 in the looks department then be prepared to have a dead beadroom especially if you continue to sink, meaning that you stop caring about your looks. Your overall rating can be higher even if you are a sub5 at looks. So if you have a great extroverted and social personality or have a lot of money for example that can be a saver. He never said that you can't ever have a girlfriend all he says that you will have problems especially if you have higher standards, but it seems like pe…
/r/ExRedPill11/11/22 04:01 PM
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Wouldn't solve shit
/r/seduction11/10/22 05:02 PM
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I would distinguish between hookups and relationships but maybe I'm just naive. ​ Because thanks to dating apps, even those ok looking girls can get fucked by 8-9/10 looking men. Tinder is for hookups. You want to get your shit together just to hookup with a girl? If so that is overengineering a more efficient approach would be to hire an escort as the emotional connection is about the same. ​ Why would they pick you? Sure, when it comes to dating things are very different becasue it is long ter…
/r/seduction16/09/22 10:34 AM
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Thanks for taking the time for your reply. The problem is the pipeline "good looks --> i want to f*ck them". Well, I do have many criterias, in fact one of the most fascinating aspect of dating is how some people can get to sex after the first date, or the 3rd which is an incredibly short amount of time if each date is like 2 or 3 hours long. What I meant is that the pipeline start with sexual appearance, and THEN it is about getting to know the other, which is primarily about finding the redfla…
/r/seduction02/09/22 11:51 AM
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Yes, people will eventually find out what works or what not. As a basic concept it is good I guess
/r/seduction02/09/22 08:58 AM
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You are having good points. The other part is learning to enjoy the process.
/r/seduction02/09/22 08:56 AM
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"If you have lack of experience in this, then you have no merit to judge." I didn't judge you, but I have my opinion and curiosity in this topic. "The point of going out is to meet a stranger, develop a connection, become acquainted" In a 2-3h long date or the 3rd date on average? This is why I find this topic fascinating, intimacy requires trust yet it usually takes less time to develop then friendships. Also doing all this work to bang a mere acquaintance and then start the whole cycle again.
/r/seduction02/09/22 08:39 AM
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Little bit vague and esoteric
/r/seduction02/09/22 08:30 AM
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Well maybe due to my lack of experience but it isn't for me, furthermore I can't really imagine being intimate with a stranger. How is this for you? "pushing past all your fears and insecurity to prove to yourself that you can take action and achieve anything you want." You do extreme sports too?
/r/seduction02/09/22 08:20 AM
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"You are not above average in one single thing in your life." Millionare, gold medal in Olympics, or celebrity, which one? "You are not above average in one single thing in your life." Most people are average thats how this works. If you believe that he has no chance in dating then you must believe that humanity will go extinct because the lack of breeding as about half the population won't have children. "You just don't want to put in the work." I guess pussy isn't hard enough a motivatior for …
/r/seduction02/09/22 08:15 AM
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Does pussy really that such a huge motivation for you?
/r/seduction02/09/22 08:05 AM
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"why would you choose to be pessimistic when you have a choice?" Because the good choice's outcome and expected outcome is usually night and day. So the outcome in terms of improvement is slimmer than the width of a hair.
/r/seduction02/09/22 08:01 AM
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"Guys, we know when you approach us for sex or just because you think "oh ! a nice looking female" "Having someone being interested in you, as a person, not just as a mate." So here is the problem. If you don't know the guy, for example meeting someone at a bar, he IS approaching you because of how you look as he knows NOTHING about you (or he does which could imply that he is a stalker in the worst case). So his approach is purely based on sexual intentions. The difference at this point is whet…
/r/seduction02/09/22 07:53 AM
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"And that's harder to learn than game." Is it tho?
/r/seduction02/09/22 07:34 AM
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Or use the commoly used strategies known as having game and other psychological manipulations.
/r/seduction02/09/22 07:30 AM
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"walk you through it, telling you what to do" I mean the a good chunk of potsts here are like that. I see no problem with that as not everyone born a know-it-all, like you I suppose.
/r/seduction02/09/22 07:27 AM
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*Sighs *Opens wallet
/r/seduction02/09/22 07:04 AM
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"They don't really see you as appealing unless you have something else to offer." This is where looks-maxing and having expensive stuff on you comes in. "and simply hope they won't reject you." In most cases it is already determined and you simply can't ask for her time to get to know you better. This is where the game and other psychological manipulating stuff comes into the picture.
/r/seduction02/09/22 07:01 AM
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How are you doing that "putting yourself out" ? Is it just walk into bar, find the table with the highest female:male ratio table, go there throw a witty joke camouflaging the asking for joining?
/r/seduction02/09/22 06:56 AM
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Oh, I thought you start conversations with the customers. I suppose the underwear section is a no-go in the cloth shops.
/r/seduction01/09/22 10:30 AM
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"By approaching someone." That's kinda creepy if you think about it. "You simply do what people have been doing for billions of years and just like, be normal." Can you elaborate? What do you mean normal? The last 100 years or are anything but normal compared to the other billions.
/r/seduction01/09/22 10:26 AM
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Does this mean that I'm high value? 😮
/r/seduction01/09/22 10:17 AM
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Exactly, like who tf does greetings nowadays, even in real life just a lit handshake with homies. Greetings are for interaction with boomers. You want to be close to them, also why waste time. Exactly, make it fate or smth like that, make it low effort from your part like you have millions of options. Using psychlogical stuff helps there are plenty of books out there.
/r/seduction01/09/22 10:16 AM
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Have you ever hit on women in a clothing or a grocery store?
/r/seduction18/08/22 07:19 PM
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"Just act on instinct when you get the feeling." Except if you are weird I guess
/r/seduction06/08/22 08:23 AM
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"There’s more to a relationship than just sex 🙄" Sure and I'm not denying that, but age does olay a big role in it too. If you have no experience then you have never had a long term relationship ever and after the age of 30 most people are looking for marriage materials not inexpreienced people who don't even know what they want...
/r/seduction06/08/22 08:08 AM
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"if they actually like you." That is a whole lot of "if". Nowadays if you don't want to fuck after the second or third date you "lack attraction" and "just playing with her" Also, without experience one will be shot much sooner as not knowing how to kiss will be a gigantic red flag... The problem isn't what I want. She will be the one not tolerating the dumbfuckery that I call "sex" at least not for a long time.
/r/seduction27/07/22 11:21 AM
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"just follow your animal instincts." What if you don't have that?
/r/seduction27/07/22 11:10 AM
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Ah, fuck! Bruh moment, when Rule 5 contradits all of the above...
/r/seduction27/07/22 09:46 AM
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"the right girl will come and you won’t even have to try.",,** Must have social activities *Must be social ***Highly advised to have sexual experience
/r/seduction27/07/22 09:42 AM
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I didn't know, that's why I asked, thanks
/r/seduction06/07/22 10:29 PM
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Why are you practicing your game?
/r/seduction05/07/22 10:52 PM
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I know what you mean, not wrong
/r/seduction04/07/22 10:25 PM
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You must keep em' numbers high, amirite?
/r/seduction04/07/22 12:14 AM
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If it is so then why you do it?
/r/seduction04/07/22 12:07 AM
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What does take action means in a bar setting? Walkig up to a girl talking to 2-3 dudes or walking up to a girl chilling with her friends?
/r/seduction03/07/22 11:13 PM
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1 year of working out can yield significant results but 2 gives the bets results in terms of time and efficiency
/r/seduction03/07/22 11:11 PM
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Sounds like a huge waste of time, imo
/r/seduction03/07/22 11:03 PM
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The dancing is just camoflage in reality it is 4D chess.
/r/seduction03/07/22 11:00 PM
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Living in a county with a population of 9 million so my chances are quite bleak tbh
/r/seduction03/07/22 10:51 PM
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I have been 2 times in 2 different bars in my life. Went there had some drink sat there for a hour and went home. I thought bars are places for soicalization but I was very wrong. I could do this more but don't see the point. Guess you will tell me to initiate interactions but that is kinda weird if you think about that you basically attempt to join in a close friend group night out with zero info on them or a potential double date. I have no idea how people "get out" and "meet more people". I g…
/r/seduction03/07/22 10:48 PM
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I agree with this
/r/seduction03/07/22 10:36 PM
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Literally unbreakable. No dubt never.
/r/seduction03/07/22 10:11 PM
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Sure I like to design circuits and fumble with arduino, also propagate plant cultures from cells in petry dishes (mostly carnivorous ones), and read about some gene editing science and other new technologies. Basically 99% male oriented stuff.
/r/seduction03/07/22 09:59 PM
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Um what? You never pointed out the importance of reason. You said "want to be left alone" leaving alone someone means NOT interacting with them for ANY reason. The reason for talking to strangers be it girls or not is to get to know them but the funny thing is that they immediately assume that you want to hit on them so it doesn't really matter why you do it in their eyes.
/r/seduction03/07/22 09:47 PM
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"I'm sure at some point there's been a girl who's had a thing for you." Not in the last 6 years, but could have happened, I just never noticed. The only reasonable thing that I can guage is the invested energy in me, but that needs a longer time and very scarse.
/r/seduction03/07/22 09:40 PM
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I mean it isn't that hard, I just have to 'sacrefice' myself, meaning that I should choose interests and hobbies based on popularity instead of what I like.
/r/seduction03/07/22 09:27 PM
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So basically in your first paragraph you said that one should build a life that taked 10 years and spend about 50k for fixing oneself just to approach. And THEN I should learn how to flirt and stuff? Being a 26 year old virgin is perfectly okay by your standards and marriage should be in mind in your 40s.
/r/seduction03/07/22 09:20 PM
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Natural interactions and 99.99% want to be left alone? That is kinda contradictory. I totally abide by this rule I have never been in a relationship and had basically 0 female friends. Bad advice.
/r/seduction03/07/22 09:12 PM
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What are you preferences, hitting on girls talking to multiple guys or girls in close friend groups?
/r/seduction03/07/22 06:33 PM
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Yes, not much winning, as I have very little common interests with women
/r/seduction03/07/22 05:54 PM
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"It's not rocket science but ya'll make it into just that.." Well, I have 0 idea what is a flirty eyes especially if I don't know the person, I know girls who likes to touch guys but that is basically normal for them. Also, I don't know how to escalate especially if I have to do it smoothly and wittily. From my unexperienced point of view it is always one step from stepping over the line and coming off as a wierd pushover or pervert. I guess rocket science isn't rocket science for rocket enginee…
/r/seduction03/07/22 05:33 PM
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Just kidding, never even had female friends 💀
/r/seduction03/07/22 05:15 PM
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Well thanks, man your advice have incredible results, never loosing once.
/r/seduction03/07/22 05:10 PM
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Smink, nails and fancy clothes put on a toxic industry which portrays the top 10% as an attainable goal. Please don't make me laugh...
/r/seduction03/07/22 05:09 PM
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So you say that you simply talk to girls respectfully and admirably and then just turn the conversation sexual when you think it will work because you think she will like to get turned on?
/r/seduction03/07/22 05:06 PM
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His brain went 404 because he can't imagine handling a woman like a normal person when he is attracted to her. I kid you not 😂
/r/seduction03/07/22 05:01 PM
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That is right, I never cared about sex never got any sex. I'm gald I'm still winning at 26.
/r/seduction03/07/22 04:38 PM
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Except if you are asocial, then please force yourself
/r/seduction03/07/22 04:12 PM
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"we are raised to be less superficial" While girls dominate the beauty industry 💀
/r/seduction03/07/22 04:08 PM
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Exactly, be a player
/r/seduction03/07/22 03:48 PM
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The first paragraph only works for women as it is way top passive. "you'll go farther and learn more no matter the type of relationship." It is going to be a friendzone first and stays that way.
/r/seduction03/07/22 03:42 PM
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Aka how to get girl-friends...
/r/seduction03/07/22 03:36 PM
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Good God, I guess it really sucks to be unexperienced. My f*cking PhD is easier then this. It is funny how players have the upperhand.
/r/seduction03/07/22 03:35 PM
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Sure, thx
/r/seduction03/07/22 03:18 PM
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So, what is the interaction looking like? Do you ask the time or a specific place or just a simple compliment? Do you start off with the weather or simply just invite her for a coffee? Do you ask her about her political opinions or just keep small talk?
/r/seduction27/06/22 03:00 PM
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"women often are afraid of men in general and will keep distance" A pinch of paranoia or social fobia and you have a disaster basically. That would be a case of not worth the try.
/r/seduction11/05/22 08:06 AM
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I guess it comes down to being convenient with expressing emotions while not letting them take over. Thanks for your answer.
/r/seduction10/05/22 09:44 PM
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If you treat 2 as the same as 3 then that is extra assertiveness points. Basically assertiveness is you being the boss and calling the shots whole open to changes that suits you aswell. Being confident means that you give zero f*ck about the outcome because it doesn't have an impact on you as a person and you have endless opportunities.
/r/seduction10/05/22 04:57 PM
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Can you explain or illustrate what you mean "vulnerable AND strong"? Is this the same way for women when they are vulnerable or is there a distinction? "Then go back to being a macho man." Isn't going from vulnerable (like crying for example) to a "macho" in like 5 seconds would be creepy?
/r/seduction10/05/22 04:49 PM
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Exactly, but becoming a professional singer, a CEO of a multidollar company or just simply a millionaire are also good alternatives.
/r/seduction07/03/22 12:31 PM
1

Well then I guess I'm kinda fucked, don't I? sigh Thanks.
/r/seduction06/03/22 09:38 AM
1

i definitely want something with you, if you say that you want it, or else why would i even be talking to you trying to hit on you?” Duuude. Weren't you the one who said there is more than looks? Something like personality? Don't play the fool here you approach because the person looks attractive but that doesn't mean that you stay because of that. Long story short you approach on because she looks good on the outside but you might as well leave if she is rotten inside. Not everyone is so desper…
/r/seduction06/03/22 09:28 AM
1

A bar arguably isn't the best place to find her Where do/would you try?
/r/seduction06/03/22 09:10 AM
1

Have you managed to get a girlfriend with this method or that isn't the point at all?
/r/seduction06/03/22 09:04 AM
1

If we met through a social circle or party so there's already some oblique connection there? That would require the added difficulty of getting into a social circle which isn't easy imo
/r/seduction06/03/22 08:35 AM
1

So let's that a random ass person like me would meet you in a random ass location. You talk with that person for like 2 hours and then offers you an invitation like this. Would you really accept?
/r/seduction05/03/22 11:25 AM
1

I enjoy. The problem that they don't seem to enjoy meaning that with just one meeting it is hard to establish a friendship that is so deep that you can invite them to hang out or the opposite.
/r/seduction05/03/22 08:21 AM
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So much effort just to get a date... Seems like I should hire some friends.
/r/seduction04/03/22 10:24 PM
1

To those who thinks it IS impossible: You can't convince anyone on this matter ever as they will come up with endless amount of reasons why that is not the case from the female population of the world to advices like basic hygiene and confidence. Long story short it is useless as you have endless options to succeed. Here are some asinine options for those who wouldn't even give a shot approaching women. (NOT usable for dating) If you really think you have absolutely no chance then take a step fu…
/r/seduction04/03/22 10:06 PM
1

Thank you. I do not enjoy bars and clubs but at the same time I don't have social circles despite attending university at the moment.
/r/seduction26/02/22 10:19 PM
2

Just kidding
/r/seduction26/02/22 08:31 PM
1

There are many other ways, that are more effective to get to know new people or girls. Can you tell me what are your recommendations?
/r/seduction26/02/22 08:23 PM
1

Don't pat yourself on the back for being morally or strategically superior to the guys who want to actually learn how to fish. Don't worry mate I don't. I personally don't participate in immaginary fishing competitions. I don't fish for brags either. I think most people would have a better life if only they wouldn't switch to baits they don't like just to catch as many fish as they can because the other fishermans said so. Instead they should use their most liked bait so they can catch the best …
/r/seduction26/02/22 08:05 PM
1

Yes.
/r/seduction26/02/22 07:57 PM
1

No
/r/seduction26/02/22 07:55 PM
1

Why do you pretend to be someone you aren't? Because uninteresting guys without seduction, game, flirting have no right to get women, at least that is what the guy above you said and even lower chance.
/r/seduction26/02/22 07:49 PM
1

The only problem with this is you have to basically make all this the core of your personality or all of this is fake at the end of the day.
/r/seduction26/02/22 07:45 PM
0

YOU should be the one judging THEM! You should be saying whatever you really think and feel, comfortably, and giving ZERO fucks about how they feel about it... Chad: So, 6 months ago I started a business and it is going well, if it fails then I might just end up actually utilizing my diploma as surgeon. Me: That sucks, I'm really sorry for you. I'm currently unemoloyed and still living with my parents. based on whether or not they meet YOUR standards. That just creates a Venn diagram that has no…
/r/seduction26/02/22 07:35 PM
3

In the friendzone that is
/r/seduction26/02/22 07:21 PM
2

Who would have thought that those cheesy Hollywood lines would work I'm wondering what type of girls are these working on tbh.
/r/seduction26/02/22 07:18 PM
6

Depends on why you are fishing. If you are fishing for numbers you are right. If you are fishing to get the best fish for you, then you aren't right.
/r/seduction26/02/22 02:08 PM
1

Absolutely, a yes or know from a girl depends on what you present them. If you present yourself as a fit, well-dressed, social, funny guy then that is a yes. So trying to "be better" is still an advice, imho
/r/seduction26/02/22 01:46 PM
1

+1
/r/seduction26/02/22 01:42 PM
1

If anything you are kinda weird as most women prefer to meet strangers at public places in case of getting assaulted, you should be more careful, imho.
/r/seduction26/02/22 01:32 PM
0

Lesson: Contextual jokes are like duble edged swords makes you intelligent and creative but if you don't get them it reeks boomer vibes. Immagine not getting a squid game reference...
/r/seduction26/02/22 01:24 PM
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Yes and if one boob is bigger always start with that, if not then choose the right one if she is left handed and the left one if she is right handed Edit: This is a joke (forgot to /s )
/r/seduction26/02/22 01:18 PM
2

Sex jokes go brrrrrr
/r/seduction26/02/22 01:11 PM
1

Just out of curiosity at what palces do you cold approach people?
/r/seduction26/02/22 01:07 PM
2

The trends are that chad meme isn't a meme so being an Okay chill guy is like nothing. The reply you wrote is true and the problem isn't learning to do them but integrating them into your core. Because if you are an introverted and shy person by default then emularing this high-octane chad personality after scoring the girl is kinda impossible.
/r/seduction26/02/22 01:01 PM
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not worth the headache for the return Headache if you take it too seriously and the other fella said this would help you getting over rejections. For example there are people who are afraid of playing games (this could be single player or competitive) after achieving a new record because they are afraid of not performing as good next time. Try not to set expectations.
/r/seduction26/02/22 12:40 PM
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You guys aren't really arguing about the same thing: The initial claim was: forces one to face uncomfortable situation, think quick on the spot and improves confidence by reducing anxiety, and over time you’ll have no fks given attitude ie care less about rejections. All these will improve other aspects of your life. This means that cold approaching helps you with anxiety, improvision and communicating with (hot) strangers which is valuable if you believe in the importance of first impressions. …
/r/seduction26/02/22 12:32 PM
1

unhealthy ways to dismorph oneself I was thinking of hardcore copycat syndrome when you adopt your social circle's popular likings instead what you like. This could be clothing, hairstyle, music taste, food, etc. Honestly, it seems like you have the right ideas but make excuses against them that make no sense. You are spot on. I'm introverted with social anxiety so it's kinda difficult for me to interact with people and on top of that I don't like when people get the "wrong impression" of me. Ho…
/r/seduction24/02/22 07:19 AM
1

I guess it's the usual plan and improve what you can an then just do the numbers game.
/r/seduction24/02/22 07:01 AM
1

... incels get clowned on and challenged at every turn. People use the term "incel" very loosely from the guy who didn't have a girlfriend for the past 2 years to the 30 year old virgin who despises every living and non-living women on earth and beyond. I love challenging ideas so I'm at the right place it seems.
/r/seduction22/02/22 07:53 PM
3

Also, be good at sex. Yes, that is where the vicious circle begins. Any suggestions?
/r/seduction22/02/22 07:42 PM
3

I don't like when people attribute everything to confidence. It is important nonetheless but it is such a contextual and unreliable varibale so contributing all the credits to it makes it overrated, imo.
/r/seduction22/02/22 07:12 PM
2

Just have to break the ice. Usually it just freezes back for me.
/r/seduction22/02/22 07:01 PM
1

that's because they have a great sense of humor or excellent personality. I think that these are both harder to change. Humor nowadays relies on contextual stuff and cross referencing which requires both good creativity and memory and also comminicational skills. Excellent personality is very subjective and complex so going beyond adhering to good values (being a stand-up person) is problematic as it invites unhealthy ways to dismorph oneself. Adhering to good values doesn't necessarily make one…
/r/seduction22/02/22 06:45 PM
2

I know most of y'all think being charming and having personality Yes probably that could be true, but if not then this is something that is hard to chnage. You're probably hella funny and charming with your friends, but forget to be when you are around a girl. This is much more complex. First most people can't be funny and charming among strangers, then comes the fact that the given person is a girl which raises expectations and on top of all this in some 5head ways you should signal attraction …
/r/seduction22/02/22 08:37 AM
1

To be honest I'm not seeing that. Outgoing people usually want to look good and since good clothes look better on a fit body many starts working out just for that and social media. And as you said it is indeed a bug plus which creates competition.
/r/seduction22/02/22 08:08 AM
1

So I need friends, thanks. Keep going!
/r/seduction22/02/22 08:01 AM
3

Yeah, being shredded basically becomes mandatory. How did you make yourself love working out, tho?
/r/seduction21/02/22 10:03 AM
2

True dat, amen
/r/seduction21/02/22 09:36 AM
2

You are fine I'm 25 with less experience than you have. Don't give up and good luck.
/r/seduction26/01/22 08:53 AM
1

I don't remember I mentioned "soul" ever but I would use emotional connection when you are on the same wavelength and understad each other well so you are compatinle with her in a sense. SMV is basically looks which is a rough competition while personality can be very unique
/r/seduction26/01/22 08:21 AM
1

And you think that the only way to express genuine attraction is implying that I want to fuck her?
/r/seduction26/01/22 08:17 AM
1

Are you acting like a guy who is sexually turned on by the woman and wants to fuck with her Then what is the difference between going for a date and going for getting laid? I don't think that a guy should be acting like "he wants to fuck her" because that can give off bad vibes especially the first date.
/r/seduction25/01/22 10:00 PM
1

If any of you decides to get married then the guitar skills are better then seductuon because who are you goning to seduce at that point?
/r/seduction25/01/22 09:46 PM
1

Or being funny to attract women. Or being good at flirting to attract women. Nah, these are basic skills that everyone has.
/r/seduction25/01/22 09:41 PM
1

Combine that with being funny and you have all the girls in the world literally
/r/seduction25/01/22 09:40 PM
0

spend an entire night at the club no matter how embarrassing it is. When you leave im the morning you wjll feel tremendous power and self respect because you challenged your fears. Done that didn't work.
/r/seduction25/01/22 09:20 PM
1

‘Connection’ from girls is based on your perceived SMV. This is an absolute red flag. If your SMV determines that she is choosing you or not then It's just a matter of time until you are replaced simple as that.
/r/seduction25/01/22 09:11 PM
1

you are coming across as trying too hard Isn't approaching a stranger already constitutes as trying too hard? signals to them that they are the chooser/buyer Women are always the chooser unless you are top 10% percent category like Brad Pitt
/r/seduction25/01/22 09:07 PM
0

I don't know about half of those you mentioned in many ways. Isn't push and pull are just basicly toying with people? Wtf is cold readings? Also if you can sing and play the guitar then you're halfway through being a chad
/r/seduction25/01/22 09:04 PM
1

You need to be able to generate emotional spikes *Grabs a knife *Butters the bread
/r/seduction25/01/22 08:58 PM
2

ok, thanks
/r/seduction25/01/22 08:36 PM
1

Weight training is more dangerous, basketball is also more dangerous for that matter. I did not compare playing basketball and weight training to being social literally. Being social isn't nearly as dangerous Except for the public shaming and the potantial of getting beaten up by someone.
/r/seduction25/01/22 07:26 PM
-1

May I ask why would that be?
/r/seduction25/01/22 07:18 PM
1

In basketball terms it kinda feels like you are saying that I should turn around and close my eyes before shooting the ball with the previous comment. I agree with your comment here but except basketball you should have used weight training as an example as you can make such mistakes that gives you serious consequences in terms of injury.
/r/seduction25/01/22 06:01 PM
1

Vulnerablity isn't confidence. Funny you say all this while downvoting all my comments... I guess it is hard to take so many rejections so props to you if you are genuine that is.
/r/seduction25/01/22 05:53 PM
1

Don't tell me that you go to a bar and say that line to a girl who is with her friends... that would be ridiculous
/r/seduction25/01/22 03:49 PM
1

Either you are sarcastic or trying to trap me.
/r/seduction25/01/22 03:47 PM
1

Well no, I never go to a random bar alone. Well that explains a lot. Your friends are you best tools to grow and leave crazy experiences, choose them wisely. I have theoretically none and I have absolutely none who likes to hang out. Well, I don't have places where I like to go at all.
/r/seduction25/01/22 03:45 PM
1

Coddling people helps them not. I agree with that to an extent.
/r/seduction25/01/22 03:32 PM
1

Lmao that was good and also sadge for both of us...
/r/seduction25/01/22 03:30 PM
1

Best fake it till you make it strategy
/r/seduction24/01/22 01:02 AM
1

Do yourself a favor, check to see if you have a brain. If yes then, for the love of all things holy, act like it.
/r/seduction24/01/22 12:42 AM
1

Well you at least you said more than "just be confident".
/r/seduction24/01/22 12:39 AM
1

When I read comments like this I always wonder how that "meeting new people" looks like in action. You you go to a bar alone and there are people sitting at tables with their friends and nobody alone. What do you do just sit down uninvited or you just ask them if it is okay? Then what if they are talking about their friend-group specific stuff because that is off topic for you? Do you specifically target a certain girl/guy ratio group? For me this is like when someone says that being a car racer…
/r/seduction24/01/22 12:31 AM
1

How do you manage talking to strangers who are not alone? I mean you just go and start talking to a random women who is with 2 or 3 other guys sitting at a table. Don't tell me to approach lonely girls because that is just fairy tail as most people go to bars with friends or talking with a guy.
/r/seduction24/01/22 12:21 AM
1

How do you manage talking during workouts?
/r/seduction24/01/22 12:14 AM
1

You can open girls with literally anything, it doesn't matter. Is a can opener sufficient? 😀
/r/seduction24/01/22 12:02 AM
1

My masculine analytical skills solved this case: It's your username and genetics (being handsome).
/r/seduction23/01/22 11:58 PM
0

You make it so simple!! And where would you use this simple line? Coffee shop, a bar, or in a library?
/r/seduction23/01/22 11:55 PM
1

Well if it works it will if not then the next one might will same logic like the one liners
/r/seduction23/01/22 11:53 PM
1

Well I feel no seductuon from those lines of someone would say those to and that person is a stranger on top of that I would be offended but I'm not a woman. Are you sure you aren't just conventionally handsome? That would explain a lot.
/r/seduction23/01/22 11:48 PM
1

That would require me taking a lot of Xanax or alcohol preferably both...
/r/seduction23/01/22 11:40 PM
1

I thought that teasing and roasting is done between friends or if you just really want to annoy someone honestly.
/r/seduction23/01/22 11:32 PM
1

And that is why having random boners are problem
/r/seduction23/01/22 11:08 PM
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