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| 1 | Rushing into a Separation AgreementWhile I agree, in some circumstances I feel like they're the same. For example, I'm in North Carolina. We have to physically separate for 1 year before we can actually divorce, so I haven't left, and we're going to mediation to try to hammer out a separation agreement. If we can't, I'm honestly not sure what the next step will be, but I know that I wasn't leaving with no separation agreement in place, at least yet. And for me, this separation agreement is our divorce agreement. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/09/21 12:26 AM |
| 1 | Split Custody - still pay child support?Did the kids get old enough to age out of child support, or ? | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/09/21 03:04 AM |
| 3 | Am I making a mistakeNote that a lot of places view child support, in a case with a large income disparity, as essentially mandatory. You can try to turn it down, but it's not for you, it's for the kids. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/08/21 12:35 AM |
| 6 | Need adviceIt's not entirely her problem if the house goes into foreclosure. He'll lost equity in it as well, and will tank his own credit score in the process. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/08/21 05:32 PM |
| 1 | How do you rip the bandaidI'm curious, how old are they? | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/08/21 01:12 AM |
| 2 | Struggling with the truthI'm never going to be able to unread and think of it any other way now. At least it gets the same point across. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/08/21 01:11 AM |
| 1 | Hey guys. Not divorced yet but she’s drifting away fast. I’m become somewhat unhinged with despair trying to change her mind but I think it’s only making it worse and her decision easier. Any advice for how I can be to hope for a change in the outcomeJust be aware that in some places, even if it's no fault, an affair can figure into either making or increasing Alimony. That's how it is in North Carolina. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/08/21 03:52 PM |
| 3 | How much is this 💩supposed to cost!?If you could go back, would you do it the same way, or would you take some kind of deal ( was there ever anything close to something palatable knowing where it would eventually end anyway?) | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/08/21 12:10 AM |
| 1 | Don’t know what to doI mean, you do you, but you'll never be able to trust her fully again. Maybe, MAYBE after one time cheating, but after a second, one that escalated to the point that she was "in love" and led to starting divorce proceedings, you'll never be able to be sure she isn't doing it again. At the VERY minimum, a postnup that is heavily tilted in your favor, and couple's counseling. If she's really turned over a new leaf, the postnup won't matter because it'll never be used. But, she shouldn't get to run… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/08/21 05:29 PM |
| 3 | A Weird EpiphanyThat sucks, and I feel that. However, absolutely huge props to you for doing what you could at the time, and continuing to work on yourself now. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/07/21 04:33 PM |
| 3 | A Weird EpiphanyThis is where I am/was. She refused to try, refused couple's counseling. I was doing better, helping more, getting help for myself, but it was already past the time that it would have helped. I can't change it now, but I wish she'd have mentioned she was unhappy for the years she claims she was prior to it just being over. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/07/21 04:29 PM |
| 1 | Met a wonderful women today…This is the only thing that makes me "ok" with the needing to be separated for a year prior to divorce in my current state. We're in the very early stages of working out a separation agreement, but even if things go poorly, that first year is essentially "house money." We'd have to be separated for that year anyway. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/07/21 05:14 PM |
| 1 | Post divorce experienceWhether this can/will actually happen for me, it's good to hear that it can, and good for you for making it happen. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/07/21 07:11 PM |
| 2 | Post divorce experienceThe 'single man' period was eye-opening. Dating in your 40s for most men is almost a complete opposite from dating in your late teens, early 20s. How so? Is it something like that the power dynamic has shifted? | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/07/21 05:29 PM |
| 1 | For those with a mortgage, where did you move immediately post divorce?Yeah, I'm not agreeing to it. She told me she wanted to separate and drafted a fair* separation agreement with her lawyer to present to me. I've only done my consult with my lawyer (and paid my retainer), but he laughed as I was reading through the highlights of it. He made a copy of it, but said we weren't even going to work off of that one and that we'd just draft our own. I'm still early in the process, so thanks for the heads up on the staying in school district. Every little bit I know up f… | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/07/21 11:29 PM |
| 1 | I'm a recovering divorce lawyer - AMAI mean, I guess maybe because it's a nice big pot of cash up front, but why would she accept that at a significant discount? | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/07/21 06:25 PM |
| 1 | I'm a recovering divorce lawyer - AMADivorce Diary? I'm in the very early stages of getting a separation. I assume this is just a daily journal of what you did, any highlights, etc? Anything I should make sure to include/not include? | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/07/21 06:14 PM |
| 1 | For those with a mortgage, where did you move immediately post divorce?Is this location based (as in you need to stay in the same school district), or universal? I've only done a consult with my attorney so far, so we're not far into the process (still living together), but the "stay in the same school district" hasn't come up. In the separation agreement she's presented me, it indicates that the children would go to school where she resides. I assume that'll be something that my lawyer will address, but this this is the first time I've heard this. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/07/21 06:04 PM |
| 3 | Never let her see you bleedMan, I feel this, and we haven't even separated yet. Stay strong, and remember that being a good Dad is the best thing you can do for them. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/07/21 05:49 PM |
| 1 | How does divorce work in a state which requires one year of separation before either party can file?I only ask because I'm right at the beginning of everything in NC. STBXW wants to separate, and has already drafted an agreement. I've spoken with 3 lawyers and they've all laughed at it, said "Do what you want, but I would never recommend anyone sign that." They've also advised not to leave the home until we have something done. They've all been optimistic that it'll be settled before court would take place, but with how low the offer she made was (under 15% of our net worth), I'm doubtful it's… | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/06/21 06:21 PM |
| 1 | How does divorce work in a state which requires one year of separation before either party can file?I take it from this that you didn't have a separation agreement in place prior to you move out? I'm trying to get that hammered out before I consider going anywhere. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/06/21 05:29 PM |
| 1 | $10k unaccounted forI mean, even if she didn't admit it, seems like a pretty easy paper trail to follow. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/06/21 04:52 PM |
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