TheWonderingIsle Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
30	Don’t let them baby trap you ladies. Very bad things can happen. Hell to the yes	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/03/21 12:59 AM
2	The fact that an entire gender has gotten away with normalising this disgusting, misogynistic habit is quite chilling Anorexia. I never thought about it that way.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/10/20 12:58 AM
48	Most Stay-at-moms do not get the luxury of building a career, or even the luxury of a personal life This is how women end up in a financial trap with no support. That term is incredibly necessary. Economic and social displacement isn’t cool. But a respectful term for it absolutely is.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/10/20 12:52 AM
6	Never make a man go to therapy or attend relationship counseling with you. They will only do the bare minimum needed to get you to stay. It’s a waste of time and money. Work on the assumption they will never change. This is the real truth, here.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/09/20 10:57 PM
24	This sub is going to get banned soon. It’s time to leave Reddit ladies. “Misandry kink” needs to be higher. It’s the only reasoning Reddit scum will tolerate.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/06/20 01:52 AM
14	This type of gaslighting is still abundant on mainstream Reddit subs. WTF is this absurd comment?? I love you. Best real laugh in a while.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/06/20 02:54 AM
7	LibFem pickmeishas does threesomes, sex parties, and FWBs but never once orgasms with a partner because she can’t master basic communication. Why is a person with such poor boundaries and low self advocacy skills giving sex advice? Pornsickness makes this imbalance of sexual give-and-take even worse. It was already difficult to persuade a man with a strong erection to take an interest in giving oral or stimulating the clitoris. Now, you have to perform necromancy on a dead dick before anyone gets off at all. The typical male partner just has no idea that his female partner deeply desires him in a way that he can’t desire her, because he cultivates and satisfies his desires with porn instead.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	11/06/20 11:21 PM
3	He made a lot of points even for hetero girls 😂 “who would want to be attracted to walking trash!” Re: “bitch” and slapping the camera, yeah. His comments are on point, but his male privilege is still showing. I was laughing up until I cringed away when he raised his hand to hit.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/06/20 04:18 AM
5	Woman Leaves BDSM community because, surprise surprise, they protected the powerful man who did things to her without her consent. Who would have guessed a community based on sexualized misogyny would do such a thing?! Oh wow, this research publication is by Bessel van der Kolk! (He wrote The Body Keeps the Score, a great read on trauma theory.) Great share!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/05/20 10:35 PM
3	Woman Leaves BDSM community because, surprise surprise, they protected the powerful man who did things to her without her consent. Who would have guessed a community based on sexualized misogyny would do such a thing?! I hope you can share eventually, when you feel good about sharing. You have willing listeners. This sounds important to you.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/05/20 10:30 PM
17	Porn needs to start being shamed again. Don’t call it natural. Don’t accept it. Make a contemptuous and disgusted face when you see a guy talk about it, or a woman support her SO’s porn habits. As it turns out: raging narcissism, sadism, nihilism, and misogyny. All wrapped in a third-wave feminist male package.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/04/20 03:37 AM
10	HV Fucking M. Nothing but respect for this man and his wife. [Couldn’t repost...] Oh my god, this phrase	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/04/20 04:44 AM
7	TIL about Emilie du Châtelet, a scientist who in 1749 feared that bearing a child at 42 would be the last thing she did. She worked furiously on a magnum opus that would eventually change the world of physics. Within days of completing her work, she gave birth to a daughter and died soon after. It saddens me too. She must have been lonely in her last year. But I trust she found fulfillment and solace in her achievement. “After dinner, around midnight, she started writing again, only stopping when she collapsed into bed around 5 a.m. She got three or four hours of sleep before waking up and doing it all over again the next day. Such had been her schedule for the last several months.” Her health may have declined during this period of high stress and little sleep, making complications mo…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/04/20 04:19 PM
18	Men are crabs in a bucket when it comes to healthy, monogamous relationships. Other men in your man's life are more capable of sabotaging the relationship than other women are, and here is why Great post. Male jealousy, casual misogyny, and conscious/unconscious sabotage are definitely powerful factors that need more discussion and active observation like yours. I agree, Cain and Abel are still among us.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/04/20 05:39 AM
10	Can we talk about manners? Not as long as I have anything to say about it! :)	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/04/20 02:48 AM
49	This is what happens when you compromise and date a pornsick man. This guy chose porn over his girlfriend and told her to fuck off and thinks he’s not the asshole. Yep, this phrase is a NEON RED FLAG	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/04/20 05:29 PM
6	If you expect less, don't be surprised to receive less - EVIDENCE Bless Chump Lady for speaking the truth. Going to search for that now...	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/03/20 06:48 PM
10	If you expect less, don't be surprised to receive less - EVIDENCE Yep. I bought into some of what she said in Mating in Captivity. For a moment it actually helped me when she talked about men who are emotionally enmeshed with their mothers and why they struggle with intimacy. Her recommendation made sense that the unavailable man’s spouse should withdraw, focus on herself, and let her husband pursue her—surprisingly compatible with FDS. But I slammed the book shut when she wrote that if cheaters want to reconcile with their spouse, often the best way is the “F…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/03/20 06:45 PM
18	If you expect less, don't be surprised to receive less - EVIDENCE That concept of “finishing school” for narcissists gives me chills. I think that happened with me... things absolutely got much worse after therapy. The primary benefit was that I learned enough to develop the resolve to GTFO.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/03/20 06:34 PM
31	Are men more driven by wanting attention than sex now? Ding ding ding. This is absolutely the dynamic we should be talking about and I’m glad you brought it up. Our whole generation as young women was groomed to be “sex-positive” but that’s not what this is. It’s porn-positive. It’s grooming-positive. Not sex-positive. The sex is not being had for chrissakes. The statistics show it. And the good sex is practically nonexistent. I swear, as a sex-loving person, my disappointment is immense after growing up hearing “men only want one thing...” Yeah, no…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/03/20 07:04 AM
15	Some of them are starting to get it “Monstered.” I’m gonna use that one, nice. *Edit- but very sorry about the monstering you went through, that’s awful. :/	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/03/20 12:03 AM
4	In one sentence, comment your best dating advice...GO! This. You don’t want to have to learn this one the hard way. My cheating ex justified keeping a “good friend” around who had cheated on his wife, i.e., “not all cheaters are bad people.” Actually, yes they are. They’re still human, but they did wrong, and there’s nothing wrong with questioning their character. It’s important to question the character of their enablers, too.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	09/03/20 06:55 AM
5	They really don’t know the limit I wish I were more surprised. But I know this depraved behavior, too. I’m sorry you experienced that. Congrats on toughing it out being single for your mental health. Trust your instincts. You have friends and supporters here.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	09/03/20 06:29 AM
10	Red Flag vs Green Flag when telling a man he has upset you I’ve never seen a green flag in this situation, except once, from a very very good high school teacher. :( Thank you for verifying you have spotted it in the wild!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/03/20 10:35 PM
36	I was reading replies from non-cheating married who were asked why they had refrained from cheating on their wives. The overwhelming response? High value question right here. I don’t doubt that self-selecting Redditors in a given thread are a skewed sample. But holy hell, there are a lot of them.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/03/20 04:42 AM
27	Anyone else notice that men are slowly making the word “porn” a synonym for “obsession”? I’m seeing in everywhere .. “food porn”, “word porn” and now “cabin porn”? How can we call this depravity out, and STOP IT?! My ex and I watched a kids’ cartoon once that featured really positive, healthy relationship dynamics. Good parent-child relationships, healthy friendships, respect in general. The main character was an elementary school girl. He called it “relationship porn.” He said, “aww yeah, that’s the good shit right there.” He was HUGELY offended when I called him on it. I said it was a clear example of the pornification of everyday life. His response? I was a horrible prude and everyday life isn’t pornif…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/02/20 04:05 AM
40	Despite 2 restraining orders, Amie Harwick’s LVM ex-boyfriend broke in, strangled her, and threw her off a balcony, ending her life. Reminder to break it off EARLY and COMPLETELY with LVM, before they get attached. “Several outlets report Harwick went to court twice to seek restraining orders against Pursehouse, whom she dated more than a decade ago.” Dated, that’s it. Who knows—maybe she did break it off early...	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/02/20 04:26 PM
5	I realized that giving a man ANY emotional support is infinitely more valuable than the money he spends on you Thank you. Grateful for this forum. ❤️	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/02/20 08:27 PM
14	I realized that giving a man ANY emotional support is infinitely more valuable than the money he spends on you Emotional support is incredibly valuable. I agree; even if it is for your husband, be careful. It is a completely bespoke gift, tailored to your recipient, which tends to become an investment over time. It appreciates in value as it is tailored more and more to the recipient and the relationship. Over time, your recipient starts to feel entitled to automatic dividends from that investment. Furthermore, as the recipient comes to depend on it—as if depending on a substance—they need more and more …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/02/20 06:04 PM
9	These dudes get it Bahahaha! Necromancy... I love you.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	11/02/20 05:18 AM
58	It's okay to not want to "try new things" in bed. I wish I could upvote this more. That “either/or” is perfectly succinct. I know the feeling of being so starved for sexual intimacy (sustained, curious, tender attention) that I desperately welcomed the “subconscious rage.” For me, the choice was either that or male starfish. Devil’s bargain.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/02/20 04:56 PM
8	Please tell me there are men out there with more emotional maturity than a three year old and that I’ve just been unlucky? That’s Holy Grail material right there. It’s a rare man who has a strong, mutually respectful relationship with his own father who led by example. His emotional maturity is very likely a related phenomenon.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/12/19 07:36 PM