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OpinionThe_Def_Of_Is_Is/r/MensRights06/04/15 06:29 PM
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It's the quintessential example of the impossibility of proving a negative, and it just so happens to be a teapot in a retort to a fallacious tea as consent video! I really loved your simple style otherwise; perhaps it was ultimately for the best.
/r/MensRights19/02/16 06:16 PM
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I now how to go see the original, but given the analogy, I'm disappointed you didn't throw a Russel's teapot argument in there.
/r/MensRights19/02/16 05:48 PM
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What illogical blather. A large portion of this sub is people screwed by the family courts over their children. I hate to break this to you, but that means they had sex. Ask your parents about it, they'll explain how it works.
/r/MensRights19/02/16 03:25 PM
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No, but I can't afford access to the paper to see if it matches up with my limited personal observations extrapolated.
/r/MensRights17/02/16 11:57 PM
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This is a bad law. A minimum sentence on being considered for renewing an educator license would make far more sense. Even with passes being too common, discretion on the judgement is rather important for the US legal system to not become even worse.
/r/MensRights17/02/16 05:33 PM
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This is pure unsubstantiated bullshit, but my guess is cheating predicates a lot of divorces, and women are much quicker to go straight to divorce when catching a cheating spouse than the other way around.
/r/MensRights17/02/16 05:26 PM
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The funny thing is she had her own movie greenlit... and then she got pregnant and couldn't do any of the stunts. How are you going to have a BW movie with no action scenes of the main character?
/r/MensRights15/02/16 04:39 PM
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Unfortunately but deservedly, she got downvoted to hell.
/r/MensRights12/02/16 10:04 PM
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Someone should link the OP from that (for some reason stickied) Feminist AMA that insisted people can be associated with MR label or positions and not be silenced in their spaces. She never replied to anything I posted unsurprisingly.
/r/MensRights12/02/16 06:54 PM
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Like many problems with the legal system in the US, it's a collision of both intentions.
/r/MensRights11/02/16 01:29 PM
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You can platform as for rights for men, but a feminist worldview contains many assumptions incompatible with men's rights. Some people tried to explain that by challenging certain tenants of your belief, which seemed to offend you. I don't see evidence you seriously considered once that you were not an authority on any facet of gender issues with your minor in women studies. You may have a degree but where is the academic rigor?
/r/MensRights08/02/16 02:26 PM
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I'm glad you called out the "I already linked it" tactic she's been employing as a power play.
/r/MensRights08/02/16 01:14 AM
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OP you know far too little about the world, or even the numbers that come out of the people that do know about a tiny aspect of the world, to speak as an authority on the way it works.
/r/MensRights08/02/16 01:13 AM
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It's all fine and dandy to tell us "this is the way I believe the world is" but why should you be taken seriously if you shut down any discussion that does not seemingly fit with your bold assertions?
/r/MensRights08/02/16 01:05 AM
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At first I thought you were being an ass and downvoted you on my first pass through this "ama". But then I saw how many of her views come from a place of arrogance, and refusal to address anything that didn't fit into her already established beliefs... now I'm in complete agreement.
/r/MensRights08/02/16 01:04 AM
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It's an absolute certainty if you have no interest in examining information that may or may not contradict your beliefs.
/r/MensRights08/02/16 12:59 AM
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I'm not sure this was a good idea. I'm sure no one is going to be objective about the brutal beating she is taking when presenting incomplete or poor arguments and I doubt much of the MR sub will not extrapolate this one poorly received view as poster child for what's wrong with dialogue with all feminists.
/r/MensRights08/02/16 12:54 AM
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islamaphobia It is reasonable to look at how Islam as a religion is practiced and call it objectively wrong for the human condition. That's not racism, that's having moral fortitude. Can you explain why feminists, of all people, fight so hard to protect the "dignity" of the most misogynistic major religion on the planet?
/r/MensRights08/02/16 12:43 AM
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even though false rape claims are between 2-8% That's not even close to the realistic number.
/r/MensRights08/02/16 12:36 AM
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This is really bad for men in the event of a draft. Because now every man drafted is shipped to the front lines, no matter where they would be of most use (and better efficiency in a military is directly lives saved).
/r/MensRights03/02/16 12:26 AM
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The big schools in my state did not, because it was already law that they had to pass on criminal complaints to the police. I don't particularly care to specify though. I will turn the question around though - have you heard of anyone getting sued for noncompliance?
/r/MensRights15/01/16 05:15 PM
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Yes, Obama vicariously wrote a dumb letter. Do you know what happened to the institutions that ignored it (and continued policy of handoff to the police)? Nothing. Do you know what happened to those who did follow it? They are getting sued out the ass and the DoJ refuses to help them (other than advise them to settle so it doesn't reach a real court and end the insanity universally). In other words, the DCL only empowered already existing psychos by letting them know the highest level approved.
/r/MensRights15/01/16 04:39 PM
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You can't afford $400/hour it's that simple. What you need yesterday is to find out where she is because that makes a big difference in how to precede. There are services for that, although I have never used any so I must withhold suggestions. When you find her, sue for a paternity test. You say you know it's yours, but by virtue of your "male privilege" you really can't yet. You don't even know if the baby was born at all, let alone kept. Maybe she is now homeless after a mental break. Where is…
/r/MensRights13/01/16 09:10 PM
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It's really more simple than that. Most of these 'unilateral' decisions are from people who can't afford a baby but want one anyway. The state refuses to pick up the tab. Unless adoptions could be forced for financial reasons (ultimately a horrifying state power that should not be granted) you can't get this freedom unless you get society as a whole to give a shit about individual men. Lesson: don't sleep with people who don't have careers they care about.
/r/MensRights12/01/16 07:26 PM
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If you don't fight CPS they will ruin your life just to feel justified for their intervention. Do not make the mistake thinking cooperating kindly will help you!
/r/MensRights13/12/15 04:29 AM
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If your standards have a spine she will. Found the problem.
/r/MensRights08/12/15 01:17 PM
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There pretty much can't be a severe conflict on the scale of WW2 again, at least while all of humanity is stuck to this one rock. It would be nuclear winter long before the stakes got that high.
/r/MensRights08/12/15 12:57 PM
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The draft means two incredibly different things then to men and women. Most draftees don't see combat, but the choice not to being reserved exclusively for women is wrong, and means less of those non-combat roles for men to boot. The draft is an archaic concept anyway, where people are property of the leaders. So many people seem to think this change will hasten its demise. I say no, it will shelter it from being dismantled by only applying the gross negatives to a minority.
/r/MensRights08/12/15 12:45 PM
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It's a trap. Women will be required to register yet never would be required to actually serve because none would pass the official physical requirements. Meanwhile, those who volunteer will be allowed to cause logistical nightmares and double standards in order to accommodate the physical equivalent of an average at best soldier.
/r/MensRights08/12/15 12:20 PM
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I'm not. The cost of finding that needle in a haystack is not worth the benefit. All those people who get injured during training, the duplication of facilities in already constrained operations, the inevitable increase in interpersonal drama... to what end? We already can't manage the budget well enough to take care of the already existing burdens, like the unresolved scandals in the VA. We will kill more "bad guys" and lose less "good guys" through this change?
/r/MensRights03/12/15 06:24 PM
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I predict the PMC (where they don't have to pander to the public) business to boom. Of course the cost/benefit of moving to mercenaries as a primary fighting force is hardly a comforting salve.
/r/MensRights03/12/15 06:19 PM
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Boy Scouts has all manner of co-ed programs. Girl scouts refuses to work jointly with them despite many calls and invitations. BSA has problems but it would demolish what little value my Eagle rank has left to kowtow to feminism. The co-ed venture scouts meetings were a nightmare and a constant parade of people pulling in their current date and dropping out when they broke up.
/r/MensRights22/11/15 10:26 PM
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That is disgusting behavior but you resolved it correctly. However, did you ever follow up with your friend? I think you should reach out to see if there is more to this reaction. She may just be a bigot, or there may be a reason behind her irrational fear; if it's the latter, it may be worth saving the relationship and likely in the process, changing her mind.
/r/MensRights15/11/15 07:09 PM
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That sub is weird. The majority of the sub is egalitarian or MRA, but you have to walk on eggshells around the few feminists or you will get banned quickly. You are also allowed to bash men but not feminism or ahem controversial feminist icons.
/r/MensRights14/11/15 11:18 PM
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You can't fight the government by refusing to pay your taxes. The individual doesn't have that power, hell the state doesn't have that power anymore. On the upside, the nation-state concept itself is eroding so the real answer is to get into the organizations that are succeeding them - the corporations. There is your clear path to real change. However I'm replying just to let you know I appreciate your contributions here and I'm not sure why the votes are swinging so wildly. I think GoHo is gros…
/r/MensRights04/11/15 04:29 PM
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US criminal system is broken. All the bad actors have absolute immunity AND discretion. It's a bad scene, don't expect it to help you.
/r/MensRights12/10/15 09:29 PM
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Do you have any idea how many people executed were later found innocent? Even after the lengthy appeal process? I hope you're trolling.
/r/MensRights01/10/15 05:42 PM
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How about enforcing an actual debate format instead of just trying to create a "safe space"?
/r/MensRights28/09/15 05:35 AM
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Even better, you get the "this post broke no rules but we are removing it anyway" nuke sessions.
/r/MensRights28/09/15 05:33 AM
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That sub bans you for disagreeing with feminists. They don't ban you for disagreeing with feminism though so I guess it's an improvement over the default?
/r/MensRights27/09/15 02:10 PM
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Feminists report like mad anytime they are offended, and if not obliged they leave. How do you expect to have anything but an echo chamber?
/r/MensRights27/09/15 02:08 PM
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Yeah, just look at FeMRAdebates. You get banned for calling Anita a con artist or rejecting a feminist strawman but calling the entire MRA hateful whiny babies is A.Ok.
/r/MensRights27/09/15 02:06 PM
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The therapist is likely a bad actor in this situation, reinforcing the assumption that you abused your daughter. Recommending you leave was an assumption of guilt and there is a history of creating false memories in healthy adults from the profession. I would assume the truth is lost to your daughter by now.
/r/MensRights11/09/15 06:02 PM
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You're being set up, or you're taking us for a ride. Memories are so malleable for a young child that unless you discover the source of these false accusations, she will grow up believing the abuse happened. Furthermore the system is putting you in the crosshairs; do not play their games, get a good lawyer and get them to pound sand with their lack of evidence so you can focus on the real problems on the home front. Make sure you document the hell out of everything, especially from your wife or …
/r/MensRights11/09/15 05:58 PM
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Responsibility isn't a zero-sum game. It definitely is NOT all or nothing. You are incredibly misogynistic for claiming a woman can have no responsibility for the consequences of her actions.
/r/MensRights09/09/15 03:36 PM
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She mentioned rape and abuse out of nowhere while breaking up. Get ready for some accusations to start flying. Prep your social circle first (just broke up with GF, she said some crazy things, worried she's going to lash out, etc) if possible.
/r/MensRights01/09/15 09:46 PM
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Be prepared with a lawyer. There will likely be blatant lies and you should push to get them scrubbed for your own safety down the road. Cops are trigger happy enough without being primed with "abuser" in the bolo.
/r/MensRights01/09/15 09:40 PM
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It's not swallowing the pill, it's avoiding the pit trap laid out in front of you. You know the cop has fabricated evidence and threatened more, but you have none of your own. The system will attack you for challenging it. A (relatively) cheap lesson on how to deal with cops I hope.
/r/MensRights01/09/15 09:37 PM
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File a complaint with the police department against the police officer Bad idea, unless you're willing to go get a lawyer.
/r/MensRights01/09/15 09:34 PM
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He told me that he's an expert in the law Anytime a cop tells you this, get a lawyer. This is the equivalent of a construction worker telling you their an expert in civil engineering. I hope you were recording, because if you weren't you're going to get criminally charged as retaliation if you follow up with the police. Give the plate to the insurance company and explain the other driver refused to give details, even after the police arrived. You pay them to be on your side and they know the law…
/r/MensRights01/09/15 09:33 PM
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Human rights =/= feminism. I refuse to give the philosophy undue credit just because it claims to be positive.
/r/MensRights01/09/15 01:39 PM
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Yup. Feminism is no more needed in the third world than the first.
/r/MensRights01/09/15 05:18 AM
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That is what psychologists refer to as "projection". So we're going back to 3rd grade level discussion? I know you are but what am I?
/r/MensRights29/08/15 11:23 PM
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A placebo effect so well known that it is common street knowledge and a 5 second google search away. Even a public defender will get it tossed. Torture is also highly misunderstood You are not working off the evidence but rather what you feel should be true.
/r/MensRights29/08/15 10:28 PM
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But does she weigh as much as a duck?
/r/MensRights29/08/15 10:22 PM
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They work as well as torture. Which is to say, not at all but make the administrators feel like they're doing something productive.
/r/MensRights29/08/15 10:20 PM
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You have to take this to court and get the system involved or you're not going to have any relationship with your son within a year. It also runs a high risk of ruining him emotionally and socially. It's not fair, you have an uphill battle. Your options depend on what relationship you want with your kid: No custody, walk away, pay your CS or leave the country and cut that part of your life loose, sometimes you simply don't have the resources (financial or emotional) to care for others, even your…
/r/MensRights20/08/15 07:54 PM
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It means all sex is rape unless the female is believed when she says otherwise at a later date.
/r/MensRights14/08/15 04:35 PM
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A recommendation is telling people what they should do.
/r/MensRights14/08/15 12:16 AM
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I am not telling you you have to do, or should or shouldn't do Then what are you doing?
/r/MensRights13/08/15 11:06 PM
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It sounds exactly like what an anti-feminist would say a self-aware traditionalist believes. It could be true, or it could be just what certain groups would like to hear. Well written summary of the valid fears some men face in serious relationships.
/r/MensRights13/08/15 04:48 PM
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So they literally want to make people guilty by racial/sexual/geographic association... it's hilarious how they try to couch this is psuedo-science.
/r/MensRights04/08/15 09:10 PM
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As pointed out already, he came with facts, figures, sources and full arguments, and the only thing the others had were feels. Especially hilarious because she closed by trying to retreat to her motte of "we need to see the facts first" ignoring that the he already agreed it was a fine idea and of course that he had already presented such statistics.
/r/MensRights03/08/15 07:58 PM
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Does anything improve after the first hour? The feminist is just reframing every boon or burden as the fault of nebulous social forces and bluntly doesn't empathize with issues men face. Representation is such a shit argument, because it boils down you can't prove people are equal value unless you emphasize how different they are.
/r/MensRights29/07/15 12:48 AM
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What did you expect? Identity politics revolve around defining people by their identity and affiliations, not their position and evidence.
/r/MensRights28/07/15 09:40 PM
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Will the strawmanning ever end? Now not believing 35 women who make a charged claim against a rich man they slept with decades ago makes me both a redpiller and think all women are evil? Don't bother answering that, it was rhetorical.
/r/MensRights27/07/15 09:48 PM
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Players attract opportunists. Rich and famous ones more so. Without evidence of any crime, I have no reason to even care what they say about him. Stop worrying about reddit karma, it's meaningless, and easy to manipulate if you try.
/r/MensRights27/07/15 09:39 PM
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Another strawman after a groundless like accusation disproved. You are terrible at logic. Your position is "listen and believe" by your own admission. Your attempt to recapture the skeptical middle is being ignored, you've already laid out your position plainly. No need to blindly claim I'm strawmanning you again, you clearly don't understand the term.
/r/MensRights27/07/15 09:32 PM
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35 is a complete clusterfuck and not trusting that is red pill levels of distrust That certainly sounds like you believe hearsay is sufficient evidence to crucify the man. IDGAF what you think about Cosby, but trying to shame people who ask for REAL evidence in a rape accusation means you are the one out of touch.
/r/MensRights27/07/15 09:28 PM
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That is literally your position. Accusations have been made with no evidence and you believe them. The world ain't perfect but there's no prize to push for making it worse by agreeing to your standards.
/r/MensRights27/07/15 09:18 PM
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And you are advocating ignoring a man's rights to fair processing of the evidence because "women can't lie"... exactly how is your position of assuming guilt based on hearsay useful again?
/r/MensRights27/07/15 09:16 PM
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Enjoy your downvotes for your clearly "listen and believe" standard. Truth is not a popularity contest. Your murderer strawman is very weak. For starters, 35 people testifying would not lead to a conviction unless you had proof the crime actually occurred. There is no proof any rape occurred at all.
/r/MensRights27/07/15 09:12 PM
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35 filed but dismissed complaints at various times in the past... you have some reasonable evidence. 35 people who come out of nowhere with no proof but a sob story decades later piggybacking off each other and looking for a civil settlement? Yeah, that's not proof of rape. That's a classic shakedown.
/r/MensRights27/07/15 09:06 PM
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You're getting downvoted because your idealized feminism does not match up with the feminism many on this sub are negatively exposed to. In fact for many, the trend is dismissal of male victims entirely.
/r/MensRights12/07/15 05:40 PM
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Feminism packs in a lot of assumptions about the way society works, that frankly I consider soundly falsified. So does MR btw, but instead of patriarchy it's gynocentrism. There should be more working together, but I don't see anything of value in feminism.
/r/MensRights12/07/15 05:35 PM
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Some of the most important constants are pure fabrication from dimensional analysis.
/r/MensRights12/07/15 05:25 PM
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Do you even Ti-89?
/r/MensRights12/07/15 05:23 PM
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You know what the biggest BS is? When the profs docked me for not showing arithmetic level steps on differential work when I got it right (I am very good with my calculator, know how to condense steps, don't drool vacantly, etc.) yet gave no credit with shown work if a tiny error led to a nearly correct answer (say a one digit typo throwing off the answer by <1%). Nothing to do with /r/MensRights just adding my 2 cents on how "showing the work" is almost always used punitively. I think I had one…
/r/MensRights12/07/15 05:22 PM
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Look, I don't know what you're trying to prove here but I'm not a shallow douchebag because I want a normal relationship. I am not saying you were out of line, just this bit was unnecessary. I probably would have said worse. Forgive my awkward initial wording.
/r/MensRights08/07/15 07:09 PM
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Don't forget small claims court. You could have handled it better without unloading so many assumptions but that doesn't excuse her behavior or make her not liable.
/r/MensRights08/07/15 12:53 PM
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I'm with you. Presented with no knowledge of the author I almost thought it was poking fun at false accusers, not anti-rape hysteria crowd. Still humorous.
/r/MensRights05/07/15 04:40 PM
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I think it was a pointless gesture and poorly executed, but it's not my sub so do as you wish.
/r/MensRights04/07/15 12:59 PM
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I don't. Especially since no one bothered to update the private landing page to say that was the reason.
/r/MensRights04/07/15 12:56 PM
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No, but only because they don't wait that long. He starts being liable at birth.
/r/MensRights01/07/15 06:41 PM
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In a country with a fair legal system, you could sue. Sounds like you're in the US though so you're shit out of luck.
/r/MensRights24/06/15 12:21 AM
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Teachers get fired for disciplining students. Even having them removed from class for having that kind of fight in the middle of a lesson is beyond their authority. In many of these "schools" the only thing that matters is that the student is in the building so they get their check from the state. Everyone passes, not many get a chance to learn anything.
/r/MensRights17/06/15 07:17 AM
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He's already in legal trouble. At this point it just takes a friend of his friend to get the DA lining up the crosshairs. If he does not set the record straight legally, fast, he is in for a world of hurt and his ex-friend will have no power to stop it even if they did reconcile (which seems terribly unlikely with her basking in the "rape victim" afterglow).
/r/MensRights12/06/15 02:20 AM
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No, I just use reddit for the same reason I begrudgingly use Facebook: it's where everyone else is. I don't particularly like it though and look forward to moving on.
/r/MensRights06/06/15 03:46 PM
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So... time to leave reddit yet?
/r/MensRights06/06/15 03:05 AM
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He's an actor, nothing more. He's friends with a public feminist. I wonder, if the backlash to Avengers 2 will result is a reevaluation of that label in the future. They sure love to eat their own, that's for sure.
/r/MensRights03/06/15 05:08 PM
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He's successful for his ability to convincingly parrot something. That's why causes love recruiting actors. But actors are just literal arts performance majors (for those that bother to get higher degrees at all); they have no strong training or use of deep critical thinking on social topics beyond the layman.
/r/MensRights03/06/15 05:06 PM
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Aren't men still ~5x more likely to drive (in time on the road, not unique trips) too? This is clickbait.
/r/MensRights03/06/15 04:59 PM
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I know this is not a pleasant thought, but the world doesn't need so many people right now. The "masses" are no longer valuable, only a tiny fraction. We could actualize more people and continue with a high or growing population, but I don't have an abundance of confidence that will work peacefully in reality.
/r/MensRights02/06/15 07:58 PM
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Then maybe they should have found a different solution than divorce. Why is only one party being held to the responsibilities of the marriage after it has ended?
/r/MensRights02/06/15 04:41 AM
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It's not a zero sum. Longer sentences for legitimate sexual predators is just easy political points and hard to justify opposing. It's fine to rant, but don't get caught in the support X means against Y trap.
/r/MensRights24/05/15 08:34 PM
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Beyond a shadow of a doubt is what you are applying and it is a great deal more than reasonable doubt. Her story failed the preponderance of evidence standard in a stacked "court" as well as the reasonable doubt in the real one. Even by your standards, where maybe she was raped and was under some strange Stockholm syndrome that only final rejection allowed her to come forward - to continue her declarations publicly is to lie. She is a documented liar. This is indisputable; she is on record claim…
/r/MensRights21/05/15 02:14 PM
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There is plenty of evidence of lies she has told along the way, even if you are somehow clinging to the possibility that the "rape" was not a lie, the title still fits.
/r/MensRights21/05/15 01:20 PM
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You are setting the bar at beyond a shadow of a doubt. That's completely unreasonable, especially since the fight is about people using a sliver of a chance to demolish people. There is plenty of strong evidence her side is fabricated and zero evidence despite desperate searching from many parties with axes to grind that he has. She is, and will always be, a rape liar. I don't know what you are trying to peddle, but pushing the line that we should respect someone so patently evil is hilarious.
/r/MensRights21/05/15 01:16 PM
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You are implying this list is valid by encouraging celebration of this addition. I'm just going to stick with the simpler answer: Wikipedia is shit.
/r/MensRights11/05/15 02:52 PM
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I'm almost tempted to guess that they weren't actual police (or at least not performing sanctioned police duties). Have you made sure all your valuables are still secure?
/r/MensRights06/05/15 03:19 PM
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If she doesn't get reprimanded, even if nothing comes of this particular accusation, you need to move laterally as fast as possible to avoid having your career torpedo'd just for her jollies. Strongly agree with everyone who says find a lawyer first.
/r/MensRights04/05/15 09:25 PM
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I would say leave the US, but at this point you're already past that option. The state is looking for someone for the bill, that is all fatherhood is for them. Pay it and move on with your life, as sad as it is, it's a trivial amount to finally be done with it.
/r/MensRights01/05/15 01:44 AM
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I can only represent my own findings on the matter: There is no meaning to life There is nothing afterwards You sound spiritually exhausted. However, you are grossly exaggerating how much you take from society while undervaluing how much you can contribute, even if it is only locally. If you have a problem with settlements ... just leave and don't come back. If you are getting nothing out of your citizenship, why maintain it?
/r/MensRights28/04/15 05:01 PM
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Why would you advise him to get himself fired?
/r/MensRights27/04/15 09:15 AM
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He needs the lawyer. At bare minimum, he can get the case moved to a less biased judge with one.
/r/MensRights26/04/15 09:15 PM
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She will land softly into the career activist camp.
/r/MensRights26/04/15 05:13 PM
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Th sick irony is, they removed the privacy clause to Emma to continue seeking ever more attention. That is the only reason he can sue without his own degree being (legally) threatened before she trots out a fucking mattress to a graduation.
/r/MensRights26/04/15 05:12 PM
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Fallacy fallacy to a t.
/r/MensRights25/04/15 09:17 PM
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It kicked the can. Great for you, nothing for anyone else.
/r/MensRights22/04/15 06:29 AM
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I can't blame you, personally, for not taking on the the cumulative sins of 1,000s. But if you truly took a plea deal when there was nothing but contra-evidence... you only made the burden heavier against the next person to stand accused. You were lucky and had good legal advice, and you still simply accepted your lot? Unless the situation was more fuzzy than you are letting on, I can't praise it. I can still empathize with it though.
/r/MensRights22/04/15 06:11 AM
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I'm glad it worked out for you. But by pleading you made it worse for your fellow accused. I wouldn't consider it a victory or something to be proud of. Maybe personally but definitely not for MR.
/r/MensRights22/04/15 05:46 AM
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I don't care if feminists "get credit" if the situation gets fixed.
/r/MensRights20/04/15 09:16 PM
7

The judge in this case is really the hero. The mother, while a passionate plea, had no more power than the father to set the terms.
/r/MensRights20/04/15 08:06 PM
3

You pass butter.
/r/MensRights16/04/15 04:56 PM
55

Woah. Is there any more context on WTF is going on here?
/r/MensRights15/04/15 07:04 AM
1

Here is what their wording is intentionally saying: "Only 43% of men earn a BS. Yet we award men 88% of CS degrees. This is a PROBLEM!" Back in reality land, you earn the degree and are awarded the BS. This is so fucking deliberate yet the people who wrote it know they are "right" anyway.
/r/MensRights14/04/15 01:46 AM
6

The reason women suggest men open up is simple - it is what would work for them in a given situation. It's empathy gap in action, not callous dismissal. People advocating this position don't understand that the problem is there is no resources for the man who cries help, not that they aren't crying help enough.
/r/MensRights14/04/15 01:35 AM
26

Sounds like you got hit with the lasso of mansplaining.
/r/MensRights10/04/15 09:47 PM
4

If she wins, I'm leaving. I don't care if I have nowhere to go, I'm not staying here.
/r/MensRights10/04/15 09:27 PM
3

I didn't see anyone tell you to get tested for STDs. You should.
/r/MensRights09/04/15 08:21 PM
4

The piece you are missing is many police don't care if they are locking you up on bogus charges. They will respect whoever gives them the most authority, and the person appealing to use their special powers is going to be more persuasive that someone asking them to simply do nothing.
/r/MensRights06/04/15 07:15 AM
13

You raped your mother, sister, and/or girlfriend? What kind of monster are you; I taught you better than that.
/r/MensRights05/04/15 08:29 PM
86

Are you suggesting we punish this victim for coming forward? Could you imagine the chilling effect that would have on false rape accusations?!
/r/MensRights05/04/15 07:21 PM
51

Calling it now: The fact that everyone was able to believe this story is proof of how toxic the frat culture is. Sometimes victims are too traumatized to remain cool and collected enough when recalling her experience to give us the whole picture perfectly. I apologize for not lacking the heart to support her just because her clear suffering led her to unintentionally obfuscate the details necessary to bring those pigs to justice.
/r/MensRights05/04/15 07:17 PM
1

The point is the state doesn't wait. How is a middle schooler going to earn 50-100 a week reliably while still having a normal life? They can't even legally hold most jobs.
/r/MensRights05/04/15 06:05 PM
3

Because the logistics of that are totally within the means of a middle school student...
/r/MensRights05/04/15 09:28 AM
2

Ugh. The whole point of soldiers is so the majority may only experience the "trivial struggles" of a secure civilian life.
/r/MensRights03/04/15 04:22 PM
4

I would like to hear that I will be ok, so if you have something encouraging to say, please do it. Time to start learning to accept the truth. You can look at it as a monstrous tax increase for the next ~25 years if it makes you feel any better. It won't.
/r/MensRights02/04/15 05:02 PM
7

Wesleyan is just using the rape hysteria as a play to force the sale of the property the frat owns. They keep changing the rules every time the frat complies and now they've messed up and can be countersued.
/r/MensRights27/03/15 07:44 PM
2

To be perfectly blunt, buying used is almost worse for the author than outright piracy. Now you have lost an actual customer on top of receiving nothing.
/r/MensRights27/03/15 03:34 PM
2

She's responsible for the consequences of her actions, not him. Not in this reality. Not anymore...
/r/MensRights27/03/15 02:55 PM
6

To be fair, she has a ton of influence. Deservedly, no. But few who have real power deserve it anyway.
/r/MensRights24/03/15 12:55 PM
9

WHOOOOOSH
/r/MensRights24/03/15 12:43 PM
11

Possible breach of contract? Even if it was in the paperwork you signed, possible an invalid contract for illegal discrimination. If you are worried about the expense of a cancellation though, I doubt you have the finances to consider legal action.
/r/MensRights22/03/15 02:17 PM
3

How many grand a year is this costing every student?
/r/MensRights22/03/15 02:12 PM
9

That is pure confirmation bias. The celebrate all kinds of weird anniversaries, only for some things is it annually. Plenty of forgotten men have been enshrined there as well.
/r/MensRights09/03/15 10:26 PM
7

They spent 45 minutes going through your phone. Lawyer up.
/r/MensRights07/03/15 12:48 AM
2

The funny/sick/sad thing is the existence of this rape culture is seen as desirable by certain "tough on crime" advocates.
/r/MensRights04/03/15 08:11 AM
1

Why does rape get treated differently? Because it is mostly a thought crime. Use of force is battery and can be verified. Use of restraints is seizure and can be verified. If one party is incapacitated or incapable of informed decisions the sex is invalid and can be verified. But the actual rape part, the consent between two parties... is at best a weak verbal contract and can not be verified. I am ABSOLUTELY NOT advocating disregarding consent in a sexual relationship. I am just trying to point…
/r/MensRights04/03/15 03:27 AM
13

I'd hardly call that justice. The game is still rigged, they just paused when spectators showed up.
/r/MensRights04/03/15 02:59 AM
0

This is definitely discrimination but you probably don't have the resources or standing to challenge it. Getting your ex shipped to jail for breaching the protection order is the only safe, long-term resolution, but that's definitely playing with fire. Contact your VA legal department and fire your lawyer if he can't get an adjustment in front of a different judge. You are caught in the gears already so start pairing back your expenses and look into ways to protect your assets. I'm not even sure…
/r/MensRights28/02/15 09:43 PM
-4

There is no cure for sociopathy nor is it illegal. What would the point be?
/r/MensRights28/02/15 09:21 PM
2

Truth is literally not a valid defense of a source on Wikipedia. Wikipedia: where 3 crazy bloggers misquoting something is a valid source, but a peer reviewed study is not.
/r/MensRights28/02/15 11:23 AM
6

Wikipedia is fundamentally broken. The definition of valid sources is circular, new editors are banned for being SPA, misquotes are acceptable but correcting them as the original author is bannable... never donate a cent, never link it as a source of information.
/r/MensRights28/02/15 11:18 AM
2

Jimmy supports propoganda over truth 100%. So no, it's thundercunts all the way up.
/r/MensRights28/02/15 11:14 AM
0

Wikipedia is garbage specifically because, in the opinion of the wiki, the only thing that matters is what someone in a position of authority says. If someone came out with a peer reviewed study that 1+1=2, but some blogger reports that study as actually saying 1+1=3, the latter is the only truth according to wikipedia.
/r/MensRights27/02/15 04:46 PM
1

They are right about something, there is inequality. No one is having a proper discussion about how to deal with it using inter-sectional theories though, because the inequality is strongly hereditary (genetics, wealth, high utility values, family, etc). It's one of those problems that haunts me because there is no clear ethical answer.
/r/MensRights25/02/15 07:57 AM
0

I consider unpacking that decision off-topic from my narrower question about the legality of this bill. However, I will summarize for clarity. Harvard, one of the most prestigious law schools in the country, had their top lawyers create a system that offered more fair implementation of title IX. It was rejected by the DOE for focusing on protections of the accused, most outrageously the return to "clear and convincing" standard of evidence. The services for the accused were cited as evidence agi…
/r/MensRights25/02/15 03:16 AM
3

It's not a uniform standard. I may be misinformed, but I believe the worst offender is "appearance of a relationship for 2? years". Since I have no idea how I came upon that information, it may be unfounded, but I keeping up on the news tracks a trend towards looser qualifications over the years and it is a state by state standard.
/r/MensRights25/02/15 02:43 AM
0

In a nutshell, yes.
/r/MensRights25/02/15 02:40 AM
1

It's inter-sectionalism at its core. If you take any group and divide it by some arbitrary factor everything will be remain balanced, otherwise there is a PROBLEM. All of the talk of sex and race and nationality is bigoted ways of talking about heredity wealth, both biological and social. The closest I hear people talk about this is to include the socio-economic class alongside the others but that is a bandaid to the broken assumptions at the foundation: everyone is born with equal potential, an…
/r/MensRights25/02/15 02:35 AM
1

Correct me if I'm wrong (I really don't know at all) but wouldn't the federal rules force them to apply the federal "interpretation" of title IX? Unlike California that mandated an extra level of compliance, this looks in direct contradiction. Is someone finally going to start the lawsuit directly against the feds with this bill?
/r/MensRights25/02/15 02:13 AM
3

Because they end up in common law marriage if they keep a long term partner anyway.
/r/MensRights25/02/15 01:12 AM
2

I think it's along the lines of letting your kid eat all their Halloween candy in one night - let them experience the pain of getting what they think they want, so real solutions are accepted with gratitude, not malice. Of course this runs the risk of the kid who DOES eat all the candy and demands more instead ...
/r/MensRights20/02/15 07:45 PM
5

Do you want to hear the ultimate irony? She was in a biology/public health program.
/r/MensRights19/02/15 04:09 PM
19

The professors were told to be "accommodating". My understanding of what happened: she recieved a timeframe of something around 6 months to make up 10% of the work with heavy help from the professors. I also had a friend in my residence hall go through similar issues. He was asked to leave, but that was undergrad.
/r/MensRights19/02/15 01:51 PM
83

I know a girl who anorexia'd her way through grad school. It's really sad for her but I'm not sure giving a masters for not showing up because you have starved yourself into the hospital again is truly progressive.
/r/MensRights19/02/15 04:03 AM
3

You are assuming logic. That is why you are wrong.
/r/MensRights18/02/15 05:00 AM
3

They will immediately come down hard on the students "abusing emergency services". Women can't rape, remember?
/r/MensRights18/02/15 03:12 AM
3

Bad idea. Most of these 'anonymous' channels include information that can track back to you. There is no way to get enough people technically literate to flood the system in a way that won't immediately point back to the majority of participants.
/r/MensRights17/02/15 02:32 PM
2

Funny how these cases keep coming out of the schools who have endowments in the BILLIONS. They don't need the money, they just are making the financially wise decision. A few million dollar payouts is pennies to the guaranteed student loan racket.
/r/MensRights13/02/15 02:06 PM
5

If they continue to press charges in bad faith (i.e. no evidence, clear counter-evidence), you can file civil suit. It would be very expensive and the bad actor is unlikely to face criminal charges. Far more economical to just "win" dropping the charges and move but this shit won't stop if no one is ever willing to put their foot down on the dirty practices. Not asking OP to be a pariah, but someone someday needs to be for it to ever change.
/r/MensRights11/02/15 01:21 PM
35

This is simple really, and not strictly a MR issue; the prosecutor wants another head on a pike. The whos whats or whys don't matter, that's why they want you to sign a plea because confessions trump facts in court. Tell the prosecutor (diplomatically through your lawyer of course) to go shove it and start the divorce procedures. Get your own restraining order and document her inevitable breaches. Stop all contact immediately and secure any accounts that you both had access to. It's expensive, b…
/r/MensRights11/02/15 12:52 PM
1

You'd have to fully expatriate, and even then not sure how it would work. Technically US has treaties over this with every country worth living in. The claws of the system are very far reaching.
/r/MensRights11/02/15 09:40 AM
2

/r/kotakuinaction is not full of heroes. I wouldn't even say what they've done is clearly good. The result of the boycotts is devaluing game advertising indiscriminately. Sure that hurts Gawker's bottom line, but it hurt EVERYBODY. None of the sociopaths have lost their employability. The PR battle was lost immediately and then abandoned. Some people woke up to the fallibility of wikipedia for the first time. On the victory side internet bloggers and youtube personalities have agreed to not take…
/r/MensRights08/02/15 05:10 PM
3

Glad people are no longer getting buried for pointing out the obvious.
/r/MensRights07/02/15 09:50 PM
2

What is the functional difference between ideological blindness and corruption? The motive?
/r/MensRights06/02/15 08:29 PM
3

I disagree strongly. Sociopaths in/using (depending on your perspective) feminism has been directly behind blowing this up into a major event. Think about, everyone tacitly knew that game journalism was barely above paid adverts for years. Yet it took the Zoe post and feminists in gaming for #gamergate to blow up into a thing. To fail to face the real enemy only means they will continue to control the future while Pyrrhic battles over the ethics of NDAs on bloggers are fought.
/r/MensRights06/02/15 08:24 PM
3

If you need support in your quest, ask and I expect you shall receive. You already showed tremendous character and have nothing to prove, but I believe you could both learn and teach a lot more by continuing.
/r/MensRights06/02/15 08:19 PM
18

And the best part, all it takes is for her to continue filling false claims until she gets the idealouge that refuses to believe she would lie about that, facts be damned.
/r/MensRights04/02/15 12:54 AM
0

Maybe I'm crazy, but I took it as "Sorry (I was on the phone). It's a boy" not "(I'm) Sorry it's a boy". Plenty of legitimate things to focus on; I'm not seeing this as one of them.
/r/MensRights03/02/15 06:05 AM
1

It really didn't come across to me. For every learn there is an equal and opposite teach. Unless you are somehow separating the two concepts, which I would disagree with, I no longer understand what you were trying to say.
/r/MensRights29/01/15 10:00 PM
1

The rise of consulting changed that. Unless there is a physical end product, you can get away with a mountain of bullshit never getting called on it...
/r/MensRights29/01/15 08:00 PM
1

You are are just jazzing up the principle "a conversation is not shouting opinions at each other". Your analysis, especially this line: I think treating an argument as an education opportunity is, for the most part, wrong. is simply not correct. If anything the bulleted techniques enhances the "education opportunity" for the side utilizing them.
/r/MensRights29/01/15 07:53 PM
1

The irony of saying it's not a real problem because you haven't personally experienced it on a MensRights board is quite humorous to me.
/r/MensRights11/01/15 07:34 PM
1

Almost every single definition is circular there. A source is notable if a notable source says so. With science at least you have accreditation but that isn't foolproof either.
/r/MensRights11/01/15 07:32 PM
2

Only up to the point that an admin finds a stake. At that point the rules start to bend.
/r/MensRights11/01/15 06:40 PM
2

The fatal flaw of wikipedia is notability and acceptable sources are not defined. It is the single most exploited attack angle.
/r/MensRights11/01/15 06:39 PM
2

You are so full of bullshit. There is nothing scientific to Wikipedia, it's pure social engineering.
/r/MensRights11/01/15 06:09 PM
3

2000 edits is nothing. 2 years does not put you into the untouchables. Wikipedia is a farce.
/r/MensRights11/01/15 06:01 PM
1

This is important evidence that downtrodden men are ignored while downtrodden women are, quite literally, sheltered by society (and outrage when even a percentage falls through the gaps men are seeping through). The editorialized title however, is quite callous to the actual homeless; just because they are the vast minority of "rough sleepers" are women does not mean any of the homeless' suffering (or any sex) is invalid and of no concern.
/r/MensRights05/01/15 11:30 AM
1

You just flew on by the point, and spat out a very reductionist white-wash of the cultural clash between reason and faith. Go, be a feminist; that is your right to choose. Or don't, you may call yourself whatever you like, but any such self-ascribed label will no longer be taken seriously.
/r/MensRights28/12/14 12:33 PM
2

Why would I label myself something other than what I am? Intersectionality is intellectually bankrupt and supporting their artificial divides just perpetuates the problems. Caring about labels over issues suggests a priority on feelings of equality over actual equality. If you don't particularly care about the men specific issues but just overall equality then there is egalitarianism for you. You can't be a catholic without accepting the pope as a spirual leader. You can't be a feminist without …
/r/MensRights28/12/14 12:08 PM
3

My favorite part is how she declared her opinion of safety could not be swayed by facts, and everyone should just accept that. It's always the same with these people, perception of safety is more valuable than evidence of safety.
/r/MensRights24/12/14 07:43 AM
2

Your choice of words "recantated victim"... what exactly are you trying to say with this label? It is not neutral language. I don't know how to word this without sounding accusatory, but I take it as the heart of the problem with prosecutors. It leaves no room for evidence to change your mind on the truth after charges are levied.
/r/MensRights21/12/14 05:32 AM
3

I stated earlier, it only seems to put in writing what consent is not as well as requiring universities to have infrastructure in place to handle rape situations if they want government funding. If that is what the law asked, you would be right. But it's simply not. They are telling universities to TRY, JUDGE, and CONVICT if consent cannot be PROVEN. A good law would make it illegal to cover-up all serious crimes (with an explicit inclusion of rape if necessary) on campus through internal system…
/r/MensRights29/08/14 01:51 PM
6

And this is why what feels good doesn't make a good law. In theory, yes means yes - sure whatever, that's not a problem as long as yes is left reasonable and includes nonverbal. In practice, what does this do in the 99.999% of cases where it is him saying "she consented" and her saying "he raped me"? It moved the burden from proving a raped occurred to proving consent was given. Unless you make a habit of recording every sexual encounter, how the hell are you supposed to prove this?
/r/MensRights29/08/14 12:00 PM
16

In a nutshell, guilty until proven innocent.
/r/MensRights29/08/14 05:23 AM
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