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The_Dude_89/r/askTRP26/04/18 08:34 PM
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I'm actually beyond drained for me to get emotional over something as trivial as the opinion of a woman lmao. Also, no. You have no idea what my life is like and how hard I fought to better my circumstances (and I did, a lot). But ofc if a man says "hey, I was dealt a bad hand and gotten wounded trying play it the best I can. Now I find myself in need of the rest of the pack" your response is ridicule and blame. Classic.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 02:09 PM
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Obviously a woman who's never wanted for love and attention for more than 2 minutes can't understand what it's like to be in need of affection, or what going without for years on end does to you and your will to live. Look trying to survive the world alone with zero emotional support is hard and you won't EVER understand through no fault of your own, but let's keep the victim blaming to a minimum please. Certain things require having a man life's experiences and perspectives to understand, just …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 01:03 PM
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I'm actually the same, but got my glow up at 31. Lots of bullying and social exclusion throughout the years. After the glow up, I dated a woman well below my current "league" because I felt a connection and thought that I should give her a chance since I never got a chance when I was ugly. Sadly though, that didn't stop the intrusive thoughts like "she wouldn't have even looked my way 2 years ago, so why should she get access to a hotter version of me?" and I had to let her go as a result. I wou…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 10:46 AM
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Well, you're not debating in good faith so this exchange is over from my side. Have a good one :) Edit: fixed typo
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 09:57 AM
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Hey, it's not me dating people way hotter than me and then complaining about how shallow and emotionally stunted they are. Women do that though, all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 09:50 AM
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I don't blame women for having higher standards. I'm just saying it's insane how high (and largely based on immutable characteristics) their standards are. It's ok to point out something ridiculous
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 09:38 AM
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"Emotional labor" is my favorite new term, as if men haven't always been required to regulate their partner's emotions all the time, without letting said emotions affect them at all and without ever showing their own emotions to boot. Crazy world
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 09:19 AM
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Where did I say they can't say that? I'm just pointing out how insanely narrow women's triggers are. And no, this whole post is about how women filter men by looks first, then cry about how their shallow filters are leading them to people as shallow as a puddle with zero relationship skills
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 09:15 AM
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But you'd have to be extremely lucky to score a first date if someone didn't find you attractive (or at least not offensive to look at) to begin with. And the truth is personality is maleable but you need enough reps without much rests between them to develop a better personality in response to the feedback. Near zero, once in a blue moon feedback (aka first date) = zero progress made
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 09:06 AM
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No body is denying women attraction. The crux of the issue is the narowness and uniformity of attraction triggers, and the accompanying lying and gaslighting about those. There's a lady here that said she was only attracted to 2 men in 6 years even though she got approached all the time. The fact that women can say stuff like that speaks volumes tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 08:59 AM
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Both your comments describe me actually. I just need a fkn break. For someone to come help me refill my cup, even just a little, so that I regain some of that spark and move on with my life. But no, let's blame the social animal who gets mistreated for not being able to survive without the pack.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 08:50 AM
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He's not wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 07:24 AM
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I fixed my looks and now my same shit personality is getting me laid all of the sudden. I wonder why that is? Oh, it's because women are shallow too
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 06:23 PM
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BS! When I was chopped I'd talk to women on anonymous forums and they'd love me but then they'd see a picture of me and suddenly I magically transom into creepy. 'Personality' is just an intangible excuse to reject the men she ain't attracted to. Stop spreading lies.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 05:40 PM
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Only women would reject someone for wearing something lmao. Y'all are spoiled for choice i swear
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 01:25 PM
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The issue is hiding behind the guise of 'personality' to appear more virtuous than the "brute" men who see pretty and cave, all the while being even more judgmental than men. It's having your cake and eating it too. Edit: formatting
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 07:07 AM
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"Kill all men" hardly sounds polite to me
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 02:51 PM
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Women's personality detectors are really just their eyes. It's all looks and the halo effect
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 02:48 PM
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Not until this very second. Thank you for enlightening me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 02:33 PM
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You just likened women to objects. Congratulations on objectifying yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 02:32 PM
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Ok, I still don't get it tbh because the option to leave is always there. But I'm willing to admit that I don't have the necessary perspective and life experiences that come with being a woman so maybe that's why. Is there a concensus as to how long a woman should wait? Like how do you know you've waited long enough that this guy isn't going to leave after sex? Also, this doesn't account for someone deciding they aren't feeling it because of incompatibility in preferences surrounding sex. This h…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 10:23 PM
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Happily*
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 12:44 PM
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Tell me more about the difference between men and women saying I love you
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 10:14 AM
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There's no incentive for them to put in effort
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 10:10 AM
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Yeah, imagine if men gave detailed descriptions private parts and talked about how difficult she were to get to cum. We'd be instantly axed lol
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 09:11 AM
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"But did you ask for a hook up?"
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 09:08 AM
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Can you explain how waiting proves anything? I'm genuinely curious about this train of thought, because on the surface of seems to only prove that the guy is willing to wait for sex. He could still just walk away after
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 08:58 AM
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Yes, they do. Source: ex chopped man who now receives help when he missteps
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 08:23 AM
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"Social skills" are more looks than anything though. Sure, your can learn to be smooth but if yo ass is ugly women will interpret it as pushy and creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 08:21 AM
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Welp, boys still beat the girls. Also, I'm a teacher so what was your point again? Can't hear it over you being fact-checked
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 12:04 AM
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It says boys are ahead of girls when it comes to maths as of August 2025 https://www.menandboys.org.uk/policy-and-research/gcse25 Girl maths strikes again or what?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 10:00 PM
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Evidence for women being better at maths on average?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 09:13 AM
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"Kill all men" is them saying it out loud. They couldn't, in fact, say it any louder if they tried.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 07:35 AM
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If women were to insult the men they have been with by say mocking their dick size or balding as you suggest, then that means they'll have to admit they are terrible choosers and/or are subpar people themselves for being with someone so lacking. Yeah, never gonna happen lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 07:34 AM
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They wish unattractive men to just stop trying to date them...obviously lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 06:36 AM
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Fair enough ig
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 12:50 AM
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Dude I became more insufferable after becoming attractive just to prove that it was never about personality I was right
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 12:40 AM
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Thank you! I used to be one of those men. People just don't understand how true and how powerful the halo effect is
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 12:37 AM
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Thank you! Fin killed my libido so bad I'm still recovering. Coming up on 2 years now :'(
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 12:27 AM
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I started wearing a wig. Yes, men are the shallow gender /s
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 12:23 AM
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I'd like to hear more about your perspective because I'm not sure I understand. From where I stand, being able to go on endless dates gives much more choice than what crumbs the avg. man gets on the apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 12:22 AM
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Didn't mean it to came across as complaining. English isn't my mother tongue so I must've written it weird or something. I know my stats are good. My point was that even then it didn't feel like "having a choice" since I was pretty limited to the few crumbs the app gave me. And FWIW I used to be invisible on the apps before too, for years on end. You have my full sympathy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 12:20 AM
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You forgot height
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 11:57 PM
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Yes, really. When I was on the apps I'd average 4-6 matches a month (a little over 100k live in my tow ). That's a date a month at best and calling that "choice" is dishonest. Truth is, as a man on the apps you never know when you'll get the next date and if there'll be new opportunity at all. You as a women can go on a date every night if you so choose. We are not the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 11:56 PM
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Isn't it kind of telling that giving women the maximum amount of freedom to choose their partner leaves women unsatisfied with the apps?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 11:51 PM
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What kind of safety feature do you suggest? How can we make sure it's not abused by disgruntled women and ex-lovers?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 11:50 PM
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I think the reason many women aren't using the apps is less about the app and more about the fact that many women get solicited for dates and hook ups irl as well as on social media which means they don't even need to. No amount of changing the apps is going to make that "problem" go away
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 11:47 PM
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Too late, they already did lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 08:17 PM
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Women are the ones having sex with dark triad assholes and then have the gall to preach decency and morals. Just lol Edit: extra words removed
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 07:18 PM
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I didn't understand how it proved "what really matters to men" in the first place lol. It's also never fails to amuse me how women shame men for wanting sex, when it's the vast majority of women who pass down their genes not the men. In other words, the sex being had by women is orders of magnitude more than the sex being had by men. But the privaliged female sex-havers never forget to shame us for wanting something that is scarce to us.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 06:40 PM
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I mean I could use the same argument against you. Empathy isn't one sided. If you want empathy you need to give it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 05:13 PM
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You're the one advertising being "the empathic gender." I'm just pointing out the hypocrisy
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 05:07 PM
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No woman experiences rejection or loneliness close to what an avg. man has to go through. Your privilege is showing
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 03:38 PM
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Women have no empathy so why should men give any See? Two can play this game
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 03:04 PM
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Ok now you're just being obtuse on purpose... It's everywhere, both online and irl.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 12:40 PM
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Ok now you're just being obtuse on purpose... It's everywhere, both online and irl.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 12:40 PM
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No, but the odds aren't in the favor of that not being the case statistically speaking
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 12:38 PM
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Low tier men getting sloppy seconds (sloppy 10000th actually) only proves my point tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 12:36 PM
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I never said all the women. I said those are the kinds of men who get rewarded and you'd have to be very deed in denial to not admit to that
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 12:35 PM
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Lol do you have eyes?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 12:32 PM
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Get attention, sexual access that lead to both casual and relationship opportunities
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 12:28 PM
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I'd rather go back to my pornsickness obsession, than waste my precious energy on the likes of you, thank you very much.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 11:51 AM
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High iq response
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 11:46 AM
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Ok, forget the cheating analogy. What about the shopping analogy? Or you just ignoring it because you got owned? Lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 11:30 AM
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What if, hypothetically, women used their so called empathy and tried to see things from a man's perspective for once...oh wait, you're literally incapable of that, sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 08:24 AM
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Idk about subjective? I used to think I never cared about someone's body count, but then I started seeing this woman who volunteered (because I never ask, since idc like I said) "you know, I actually don't know how many I've slept with...I lost count at 50...back when I was 19." Mind you, she was 28 at the time. I left that situation rather quickly. Not because of infidelity risk or the number itself. I just felt like I, and what we were doing together, were meaningless to her. Ig you could say …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 07:59 AM
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The resentment isn't about that though. It's about the lies society feeds men about how being this and that on a personality level is what matters. But then they grow up and notice the men getting rewarded are the tall, jacked assholes who embody none of those traits. And then women come and gaslight men even more by telling them incomplete truths like "we want a good guy", completely obscuring the "who is also tall, rich and jacked from the get go" Then, to top it all off, you blame the men for…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 07:51 AM
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They aren't not approaching in a vacuum though. But you would know that if you looked at the current dating climate and actually listened to what the men are saying
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 07:45 AM
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Your claims about self-worth being determined by yourself is a heap of bs. Your inner world does play a role, sure, but your place in the pecking order has a much bigger impact. It literally changes your brain chemistry! But you'd know that if you'd ever read anything besides reddit comments. I also hate when women who'd been swimming in relationship and sexual opportunities all their lives want to pretend their sense of self-worth wasn't affected by that. So you're suggesting a social creature …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 07:18 AM
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Try rejection all your life until you start looking better. And no "mindset" isn't a factor here because you aren't even given a chance to show your personality as I just said.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 04:06 PM
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It is not a mindset issue if you're constantly getting rejected looong before your mindset had time to shine through. ~ Formerly chopped person
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 03:15 PM
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You're saying men blame their looks when it's their personality. Well, after ten years of constant rejection my luck turned around instantly when I fixed my looks. My personality didn't even have time to change at that point yet still my "shit personality" was getting me laid. I was never a slop. Good body, great personal hygiene and grooming. I was well aware my looks weren't the best and I did everything in my power to looks sharp despite that, compensate if you will. BUT nothing helped as muc…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 12:16 PM
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No. I used to be chopped. No one wanted me and the looks of disgust were so obvious even before I opened my mouth. Even the ones that were gracious enough to give me the time of day made sure to remind me, as quickly as possible, that they had a bf. I fixed my looks, and suddenly I have no issue attracting women and sleeping with them. I can be my regular awkward, cynical, misanthropic self and I will still get what I want. Truth is looks get your foot in the door and keep that door open for so …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 12:00 PM
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This! I used to be chopped and it took massive effort to bed someone, but once we were naked she'd become obsessed with me EVERY.SINGLE.TIME. Size absolutely matters, and technique ofc (to a lesser extent tho)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 09:05 AM
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If by "give more to the husband" you mean give more responsibility and trouble for less than enthusiastic sex that comes with a bunch of prerequisites, rules and strings attached then you're absolutely right.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 11:20 AM
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It's astonishing how a large percentage of women at any one time are always wearing what is essentially the same cloths, because that's what's trendy and how they change so quickly once the next trend arrives. I don't understand how people don't see this as evidence of the hive mind Edit: deleted a misplaced 'not'
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 02:13 PM
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That story about your friend...I'm glad you walked away. BUT Dating is an exclusionary process ny nature. "Preference" ia just polite society speech for translating instinctive rejection into something socially acceptable and morally untouchable.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 02:10 PM
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Lmao, your desperation is palpable and unattractive /s Edit: typo
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 11:06 AM
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Just to be clear, I am not talking about myself here. I have plenty of friends, men, women and in between. Perhaps the word "humanize" was not the best choice, but please keep in mind English isn't my mother tongue. I'm trying my best here. I see you didn't adress any of the other points I made though. Does that mean you agree?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 07:43 PM
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Your privilege is showing
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 07:34 PM
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Women repeatedly said “leave us alone,” and then when men took that seriously, the blame still gets shifted onto them and framed as a “skill issue.” Also, so-called “clues” vary wildly from woman to woman. Some smile out of politeness, others hope you will approach, and there is no universal standard. Distinguishing between the two often borders on mind reading. And what about men who never receive choosing signals at all? How are they supposed to develop a humanized view of women if they never …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 07:12 PM
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I'm sorry that was your experience. I don't think approaching a minor (or someone obviously much younger) is ok. May I ask how long ago this was? Because the rules have changed a lot since the #metoo movement.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 04:55 AM
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But you see, women have made it taboo to approach them in public, join a hobby to meet women, meet women through work, talk to women in bookstores etc. Where the fuck are we supposed to be "meeting women in real life"? Because bars and night clubs are mostly geared towards younger demographics, favor the more attractive men and, much like the apps, they're EXTREMELY competitive...
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 04:16 AM
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Way to miss the point of my comment. Have fun being ugly on the inside and not paying for your drinks :)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 10:28 PM
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FWIW my first was great in some ways, but horrible in others and far from being my best
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 08:12 PM
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Man, if only these dudes made sure their lady friends climaxed (not even everytime, even 60-70% of the time is enough in my experience) then they would know what true devotion looks like. Looks and penis size are indeed factora, but they are not as important as they think they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 08:09 PM
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Ikr?! It took me a little over a decade of being sexually active to rack up 10 partners (late bloomer) and I barely remember fuck all of the sex and how they made me feel. I can't even imagine how it is for women (obviously, since I'm a dude) who tend to have a much richer sex life.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 07:20 PM
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Dude, wtf? Love bombing is NOT required for sex. Also tbh it just sounds like you need to get better at sex. If you make her cum like 7/10 times, she's more than likely going to worship you and completely forget about chad thundercock.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 07:14 PM
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Since you mention trans people, perhaps you should listen to the accounts of how much warmer and nicer the worlds is to MTFs who pass as F vs. how much colder and indifferent the world is towards FTMs who pass as M. But, as usual, you choose to focus on the one unfortunate thing and ignore all the benefits.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 05:56 PM
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Well your phrasing could've been clearer, because you made it sound like his claim was wrong, not women's acting this way
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 02:56 PM
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Yes, the halo/horn effect are VERY real. I was bald for a decade. I didn't care. Completely invisible, called a creep, given death stares for even daring to look in someone's general direction, and even bullied and shamed. I started wearing a hair system and I'm suddenly not a creep anymore, complete with the same personality and behaviors. Weird how that works, eh?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 07:34 AM
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Ffs I lost my hair in my early 20s and I honestly didn't care about it. But the opportunity cost was too high because I was bullied, excluded from dating etc. All of which have been nothing short of traumatic and a cause for arrested social development. I ended up wearing a wig and suddenly I matter again. The halo/horn effect are VERY real. Having a period or some grey hair early don't even come close. Edit: add the last sentence
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 07:27 AM
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Men wear wigs too Source: me r/hairsystem
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 07:24 AM
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Nah I was unattractive, expressed interest respectfully = creep I'm now much more attractive, express interest more directly (but still respectfully) = success The halo/horn effect are VERY real, but ofc women say it is not the case so that they appear less shallow than the "savage" men. Smh.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 06:27 AM
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I am someone who has psyched themselves out of trying to find someone due to complicated life events and am currently working on my self-esteem. Can I DM you?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 04:22 AM
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Yeah, but that applies to men as well? Being attractive and not being a shitty person is essentially all you need? (Actually, considering the amount of women who reward dark triad traits, I'm not so sure about that last part either tbh) Like yes, you still have to approach etc. but that's part of not having a "shit personality" as a man? I could be wrong tho 🤷🏻‍♂️ (7.5 years drought here btw) Edit: spelling
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/26 04:13 AM
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I support this. If we can massively bombard men with all women are beautiful regardless of weight messaging, then there should be an equivalent for the men
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 08:52 PM
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How tall are you dude? I'm shorter than avg. for where I live (actually exactly as tall as the avg. girl), but I just go for women my height (an inch taller is ok too) or just shorter. It ain't that big a deal. Just focus on the ones who want you instead of being bitter about something immutable.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 07:26 PM
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I'm not exactly red pill, but I'd love to hear what you have to say about all the stuff you mentioned
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 07:22 PM
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You can't really take their word for it though. It's sorta the same as rich people telling a poor homeless money isn't important. Yeah, right...
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 06:24 PM
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I'm a war victim and my father has NPD (20 years of abusive hell at home) . Had suicidal thoughts and tried killing myself multiple times. I've been to therapy and did some LSD and MDMA to get to the other side. If I can be fixed, so can you. It's normal to have suicidal thoughts and want to kill yourself especially if you've been exposed to a traumatic experience repeatedly over a long period of time. No one expects you to fix this by yourself. Seek a professional.
/r/askTRP28/06/18 03:38 PM
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Pure wisdom here! I wish I'd seen this two years ago when I needed direction.
/r/askTRP19/06/18 08:36 AM
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Sounds like she has NPD. Run! And implement No Contact. That's your only way out.
/r/askTRP24/05/18 05:22 AM
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I think this statement points to the fact that I don't know her either, not that I don't know myself.
/r/askTRP27/04/18 03:26 AM
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Yes, I have. Just pretty new to TRP.
/r/askTRP26/04/18 09:49 PM
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Interesting. Why does it work?
/r/askTRP26/04/18 09:45 PM
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Interesting approach
/r/askTRP26/04/18 09:38 PM
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How is this going to increase my chances of getting into her pants? (Again just curious)
/r/askTRP26/04/18 09:37 PM
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