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| 2 | Just curious, are there any non-RP guys out there who are at least open to the idea of marriage (with a prenup, of course), or are men universally across the board just outright turned off by the idea of marriage, period?Nothing says "I love you" like a prenup. That level of romance is rare these days. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/19 11:25 AM |
| 1 | Where Does This Belief that Men Would Benefit if Women Had "More Empathy" For Them Come From?I would say to men who believe such things that women often have quite a bit of empathy for them. Whereas the vice versa is less true. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/19 10:06 AM |
| 1 | Sociology researcher Alicia Walker: "Then I saw another study that some high 80 percent of folks never get caught cheating and that number is even higher if you’re a woman."Just because you enjoy a really well-prepared roast with all the trimmings doesn't mean an ice cream cone every once in a while isn't satisfying. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/19 10:05 AM |
| 1 | Is MGTOW just the male equivalent of ''I don't need no man!!!''?No number of trips, cars or bikes is going to make a person truly happy. No amount of meaningless sex is going to make a person happy. If a man doesn't get up in the morning and feel content in his own skin, he is suffering needlessly. That doesn't mean standing there and thinking you're perfect. No one is perfect. Perfection is not achievable. I mean a place where you're not simply an amalgam of every hurt you've ever felt with an uncontrollable urge to lash out at scapegoats you blame for your… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/19 10:28 AM |
| 2 | Could the obesity epidemic be another reason for the sexlessness epidemic?Depends on how you define obesity. The clinical definition sets the bar far lower than what colloquial understanding would be. Also, one person's fat is another person's normal. In my life, I've found more women willing to ignore a man not being buff than the other way around. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/19 10:07 AM |
| 2 | Is MGTOW just the male equivalent of ''I don't need no man!!!''?Personally, I think there are equal amounts of hucksterism on the RP side as there is lashing out because of bitterness. I'm sorry these MGTOW guys have had problems in life. I'm sorry things haven't worked out. I just feel their time would be better spent seeking therapy to remove anger from their lives rather than feel they need to withdraw into a cult. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/07/19 10:05 AM |
| 2 | Would you rather GF experience relationship or modern version of romantic relationship?I only speak for myself but I have always preferred relationships that contain real emotions on the part of both people. I had the other kind of relationship once but didn't realize that's what it was until much later - I thought we were having a real relationship. I cut it off right away and did not speak to that person again. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/19 11:53 AM |
| 2 | Women experience "the anger phase" too, and it's just as toxic.Therapy goes a long way to help and I mean the kind that is wholly self-reflective. In my experience, anger came from trauma or set of traumas early in life that were unresolved in my mind. Anger over abuse, mostly. This tainted my ability to have relationships because I was always waiting to be betrayed somehow. Once I understood where it came from, I was able to let it go. Not forgive what happened, just to say it's in the past and it has nothing to do with the way I act now. Letting go of the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/19 10:01 AM |
| 1 | Do you think there will ever be a push against socially acceptable forms of male shaming?Either that guy is a put on looking for clicks to his YouTube page or he's a dangerous nutter who I hope is not a gun owner. His lunatic ranting has nothing to do with the situation he's in. What in the world does online dating have to do with what's happening in a damned bagel store? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/19 01:09 AM |
| 3 | Is Legality the Only Thing Keeping Omega Dudes From Just Hiring An Escort?I'm guessing that unless one is able to compartmentalize their sexuality from their need for intimacy, employing a sex workers might not be as satisfying. I have nothing against sex work. I've have friends who have done it. I think it should at least be decriminalized as it's a victimless crime. That said, it can end up being worse than masturbation because it mimics intimacy but offers no real feelings. Maybe I'm just speaking for myself after a long life, but I've always needed real emotions o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/07/19 10:26 AM |
| 6 | Weekly Community Chat Megathread (30 June 2019)A lot of the questions I see from RP men could be prefaced with "Mommy,..." and they would not seem out of place. How young and/or naive are these guys? If they haven't even lived a life yet, what are they even complaining about? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/19 11:36 AM |
| 5 | The Pills are dying...people get blinded by the honeymoon phase of "love", eventually get bored and unsatisfied of each other, break up and fuck other people Well, New Relationship Energy is a real thing. It's what gets a person hooked. The sex is usually explosive in this phase. Then people settle into their lives together and it's less exciting. A lot of people who cheat do so because they're addicted to that feeling. They want the explosiveness so seek it out. Honestly, I don't judge what people do with their r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/19 02:02 PM |
| 2 | Q4ALL: What kind of porn do you like, and how, if at all, does it affect your life?It varies, but I've always been into BDSM so that's the kind of stuff I mostly enjoy. That said, I enjoy doing it more. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/19 12:29 PM |
| 1 | What happens if you focus on your own mission and stop chasing women, but women still don't come to you?Working on yourself is its own reward. There is no princess waiting for you when you defeat the last boss. Becoming a better person in all aspects of your life is the prize. That said, you think being a better person won't make you a more desirable person in general to friends and strangers alike? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/07/19 12:28 PM |
| 1 | Do TRP men suffer from mental illness?That's a good question. I think a good number of the rank and file who identify as that suffer from some sort of unchecked personality disorder. Maybe a smaller number are technically mentally ill. My opinion is that the people who are driving the narrative are akin to the self-help hucksters this world is filled with. Everything from the bloggers with 500 word panaceas to the Tony Robbins/Landmark Forums of the world - money making operations. Personally, I think a good number of the men on TRP… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/19 10:35 AM |
| 1 | Have you ever – in real life – witnessed a relationship that was turned into an "open relationship" and worked out for the couple?Pitfalls of open relationships: Lack of honesty/communications between primary partners. Jealousy Selfishness If people can't be honest about other partners, then they are cheating. If they can't get over their petty jealousies, then they are not ready for an open relationship. If they are utterly selfish, then they are probably engaged in #1 as a cover and probably shouldn't be in an open relationship. Open relationships are not easy. Polyamory is certainly not easy. People have this weird conc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/19 09:52 AM |
| -2 | Do Single Women Seek Attached Men?Polyamory for the win. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/19 02:48 AM |
| 1 | Women Created The Red Pill and Don't Know It...an acknowledgement of the nature of basic human attraction and a system of beliefs and behaviors designed to emulate sexually successful men So basically, a pseudo-scientific cult. The "systems" are couched in words that make them sound vaguely philosophical but rely on vast generalization based on the experiences of whoever happens to be writing. I could easily write a "guide" for men in their fifties entitled, "I Have A Wife and Three Girlfriends: How To Keep Gettin' A Lot Even As Your Teet… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/07/19 09:58 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: Is it possible for a hot girl to turn you off with her personality so much, that you don't even want to have sex with her?There are plenty of women who I find attractive to not put up with those who have personalities that are negative or nasty. For example, you couldn't pay me enough money to want to even talk to Ivanka Trump. I don't care about her politics or her father, just that she comes across as an empty shell of a human. I have no interest no matter how attractive she seems. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/07/19 10:07 AM |
| 8 | Why do people despise MGTOW?I'm a man (albeit an early Gen Xer) and as far as I'm concerned anyone can be a member of any cult or believe whatever they like - as long as it doesn't touch me in any way. When the time comes and men who have practiced it start complaining that it harmed them, then that's on them. No sympathy from me. Feel free to clean up the mess you made of your own life instead saying how someone else forced you to become MGTOW and now it's not as liberating as you thought it would be. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/07/19 10:03 AM |
| 1 | Is online dating fucking up the minds of men? Is it better to stay away from it?Reading this makes me feel sad for young men and their feelings of self-worth. I'm not entirely sure what these people think they are gaining by this behavior. Is it just to feel good about themselves (although I doubt they ever truly get there)? Is it because they see life as a zero sum game of winners and losers? Is there some feeling of momentary joy that comes from their endeavors or do they think they are achieving a general happiness in life? They don't seem happy to me. I have nothing els… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/19 10:49 AM |
| 1 | Why don’t you ever hear about a woman locking a man in a shed they built specifically to hold someone involuntarily and raping them for decades?Then with the number of guns available in the US, the number of men versus women doing what is stated in the OP should be approaching an equal number. That it is not indicates that it isn't just the means that are important, but the motivation. Men are motivated to do these things more than women. Why? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/07/19 10:11 AM |
| 3 | Have any of you noticed that even this subreddit is aimed towards men and what suits them??I can't argue against your point for the most part. There are a good number of men who are firmly in the Red Pill camp who truly believe that the jargon and theories there are based on some sort of science. They've drunk from the same sort of water that creates cults/religions. They live in as different a reality as those who believe that angels and demons are actual things and not just metaphors. I do notice on occasion that there are men who have identified as Red Pill who are questioning it. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/06/19 02:50 PM |
| 7 | Why, or rather WHEN is ‘male thirst’ a turn off?Then they must like rejection. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/06/19 01:48 PM |
| 12 | Why, or rather WHEN is ‘male thirst’ a turn off?when an indian man follows you down an alley and whispers to you from a corner “i want to rub your feet” in an indian accent, this is not sexy to most women. thats because he’s percieved as low value My attention got stuck on the above. In what world would someone doing this be considered acceptable behavior? I don't care about their ethnicity or "value". Any man, a lily white stock bro with a tailored suit, would not be seen kindly for behaving that way. Now, if it was at a BDSM club on foot fe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/06/19 11:04 AM |
| 2 | What do you think about porn?It is an invasion of privacy. If he agreed to it then he's pretty much a moron. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/19 09:09 PM |
| 1 | Red pill theories only work on women who have self-esteem issues or mental problems.I deleted my comment. I'm sure there'll be occasion to use somewhere else. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/19 10:13 AM |
| 1 | Red pill theories only work on women who have self-esteem issues or mental problems.Red Pill theories are pseudoscience plain and simple. They are the equivalent of the kind of nonsense spouted by self-help evangelists like Tony Robbins. Tell people what they want to hear. Use jargon that makes it sound scientific. Add on a layer of us versus them paranoia/conspiracy. There you have the perfect recipe for recruiting into adjacent ideologies. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/19 10:08 AM |
| 1 | Have you ever been unwilling/unable to improve for a current partner, but applied those improvements they recommended in your next relationship?There are some relationships that are irreparable. They've run their course for a variety of reasons. So, yes. There are times when the above is true. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/06/19 10:03 AM |
| 2 | What do you think about porn?She installed an app to monitor him? With his consent? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/19 06:33 PM |
| 1 | Author of the book "Why do we need men?" accuses Trump of raping her 25 years ago.I will link to the photo when I am not using my phone to type. In the case of the woman who was 13 who accused Trump of rape, the case was withdrawn due to a technicality, not dismissed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/19 02:29 PM |
| 0 | Q4ALL: What is it about poly that makes some people uncomfortable?As someone who is poly, the main thing people need to get over is jealousy by negotiating boundaries. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/19 12:55 PM |
| 2 | Q4M: Do you find it possible for an attractive girl sexually harass you and make you feel uncomfortable?This only happened once in my life. I worked with a woman who was verging on model-level attractive who constantly said the most inappropriate things to me. Cringe inducing sexual things. Her behavior was so incessant that I went to a friend of hers in the office and asked her to intervene. She did and the nonsense stopped - with me. She continued her behavior until one of the supervisors simply fired her one day because she was nothing but a disruption. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/19 11:36 AM |
| 1 | Author of the book "Why do we need men?" accuses Trump of raping her 25 years ago.Her book deal is aside her accusation. You are reaching a conclusion to the origin of her accusation that is not fact based. It is conjecture. The source for meeting Trump is a photo of them together. Her husband at the time was a well-known local newsman. She was a well-known columnist. Those were the exact social circles that Trump was part of at the time. If you want to say that one photo is the only time they ever ran into each other then you can do that. However, logic dictates that they wo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/19 10:40 AM |
| 1 | Red pill fear mongering is just as bad as feminist fear mongering and counter productiveIn all honesty, I think RP is filled with purveyors of pseudoscience. They're evangelizing misogyny with vast generalizations and bizarre formulas for human interaction. I don't think they give anyone hope except maybe at the early stages of their involvement. The more they read the more embittered they get when the formulas don't work for them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/06/19 10:28 AM |
| 1 | Author of the book "Why do we need men?" accuses Trump of raping her 25 years ago.Doesn't apply in this case since it presupposes a motivation and conclusion that is not proved. To call something a "false accusation" claims knowledge that doesn't exist here. All we have is an accusation and the fact that Trump lied about never having met this person. Anything can be judged but one has to take into account that even if the accuser has a book deal they are opening themselves up to a barrage of negative (and in the case of Trump supporters vitriolic and violent) responses. It al… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/06/19 12:04 PM |
| -1 | CMV: It is hypocritical for men to argue that both genders should be held to the same standards in sexual misconduct, yet say things like they'd love to receive unsolicited nudes from girlsI can't force you to have empathy or to trust that women are telling the truth about what they go through. You don't want to see it because it doesn't fit your narrative. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/19 10:41 PM |
| 1 | CMV: It is hypocritical for men to argue that both genders should be held to the same standards in sexual misconduct, yet say things like they'd love to receive unsolicited nudes from girlsBy who? How often do you get robbed? I have multiple women friends who are professionals far higher in stature than me who have gone to a coffee shop or other public place and have men approach them who not only can't take a hint that someone is busy, but get angry and threatening when shown the interest they want. Someone says no then you go away. You don't start cursing at them or striking a physically threatening pose or even get loud about it. You go away...bye-bye. No woman deserves this so… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/19 12:46 PM |
| 1 | CMV: It is hypocritical for men to argue that both genders should be held to the same standards in sexual misconduct, yet say things like they'd love to receive unsolicited nudes from girlsI don't think you are in danger of being raped by a man who thinks you owe him your time and body. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/06/19 04:15 AM |
| 3 | CMV: It is hypocritical for men to argue that both genders should be held to the same standards in sexual misconduct, yet say things like they'd love to receive unsolicited nudes from girlsWhat sort of place do you live where going to the coffee shop means risking a punch in the face? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/19 02:26 PM |
| 1 | CMV: It is hypocritical for men to argue that both genders should be held to the same standards in sexual misconduct, yet say things like they'd love to receive unsolicited nudes from girlsIf I can go anywhere and be left alone 99% of the time, it's easier for me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/19 02:07 PM |
| 1 | CMV: It is hypocritical for men to argue that both genders should be held to the same standards in sexual misconduct, yet say things like they'd love to receive unsolicited nudes from girlsHow many times have you gone to the corner store for milk or just taken a walk and had to deal with some stranger engaging you in an unwanted conversation and getting angry when you didn't want to talk? Do you not have women in your life? Ask them about this and hear the truth about what they go through daily. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/19 12:40 PM |
| 7 | CMV: It is hypocritical for men to argue that both genders should be held to the same standards in sexual misconduct, yet say things like they'd love to receive unsolicited nudes from girlsFor a man to know what a woman feels when someone harasses them they would need to live in a world where they feel unsafe doing everyday activities and then not believed when something does happen. I'm primarily talking about white men who go through life unhindered by anything. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/06/19 11:59 AM |
| 1 | Why are women generally not honest about the characteristics they are looking for in a man?This posits that the assumptions of Red Pill are incontrovertible truths which frankly they are not. Your statement begins with a conclusion that you show no evidence for except for the musings of partisans on Red Pill. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/19 10:46 PM |
| 3 | CMV: Most women severely underestimate the work men do in the gym and overestimate the gains.Are you setting up a strawman or have you spoken with women who have told you this? I'm not saying they don't like looking at those men but this is what they exclusively view as desirable? I have maybe (big maybe) met a couple of women like that in all my decades. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/19 10:44 PM |
| 1 | Does American Christianity produce Alpha Male or Beta Male behavior?Religion is a poison that removes logic and replaces it with magical thinking. It's not just Christianity but all of them down to the cults of men who think that gender relationships have some formula or philosophy. Alpha, beta, gamma, whatever. The human race would be far better off shedding itself from anything that requires belief in the supernatural. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/19 10:15 AM |
| 1 | The “spark” is physical attraction to someone you have chemistry with.I would say that the spark of attraction, which can be an attraction to someone's intellect or personality, can often make a person more physically attractive in the eyes of the person interested. The physical attraction that has been drummed into the heads of people for a century by advertising is not the way the real world works. People Madison Avenue considers average or worse can be attractive to other people. There are plenty of plain looking folks who have partners and plenty of good looki… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/06/19 10:12 AM |
| 0 | Rules reminders on discussions and CMVs(change my view), also r/braincels usersMy observation of that whole side of the discussion is that they seem to want to believe in a unified mathematical theory of relationships because it's easier to follow an instruction manual that spells everything out for them. They don't seem to consider that things are not that neatly ordered in life. Even psychology gets fuzzy around the edges. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/06/19 10:52 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: How would you feel if a girl that you’re romantically interested in, is using you just for sex?This has happened. She had been a friend as well as someone I was romantically interested in. It felt lousy. I discontinued contact with her. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/06/19 09:51 AM |
| 1 | "Give me half your paychecks or I'll have sex with other dudes."The view is utterly paranoid. I wonder how someone as fear-ridden as the above could get married in the first place. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/06/19 09:46 AM |
| 2 | have you ever been sought out by a girl and how did that look like?In the social circles I travel in (mostly the BDSM community), I find that a lot of women, especially in their mid-twenties and beyond, are pretty straightforward about approaching whoever they desire. It's happened to me more than once. And, yes, the women in question are not afraid to compliment others but also not afraid to be honest about what it is they want. That's not all women I know. There are those who are more comfortable with being asked rather than asking. As for pride, it gets in t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/19 02:19 PM |
| 3 | Do attractive men, who could easily get hookups, not need the validation from hookups?I would hope that the reason a man would seek out sex is because he likes sex not because he has a need for validation as a man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/06/19 11:17 AM |
| 2 | What are your experiences with age gap relationships?My wife is not just my best friend in life but also half of me. I may have other relationships that are unique things but I couldn't bear not having my wife to share my life with. That would be impossible. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/19 07:12 PM |
| 2 | What are your experiences with age gap relationships?They both know my wife in real life - same social circle. As to the LTR aspect of these relationships, it's a mixed bag. One of the two women is basically married to her career in higher education and has no desire to get married. The kind of flexibility that our relationship has, leaving her time to be by herself when she needs it, is perfect for her. She likes knowing that I'm not so needy that she has to drop what she's doing during the busy times to attend me. The other woman is pretty much … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/19 06:48 PM |
| 1 | Is the Cock Carousel real?If aren't sexually compatible with a woman then don't marry her. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/19 02:57 PM |
| 2 | What are your experiences with age gap relationships?My wife and I are the same age and poly. I also have relationships with women who are 20 and 23 years younger than me. The fact is that these women want to be in a relationship with me, an older man. They also have relationships with other people. We get along. We love each other. The sex is good. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/06/19 02:12 PM |
| 7 | Male late bloomers: Do you still feel bitter about your past sometimes?I'm 56 years old and having my best life right now. Regrets are not worth my time. Learn from the past, plan for tomorrow, live today. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/19 02:09 PM |
| 1 | If finding a partner is largely a numbers game, why is it that so many men give up entirely on improving themselves in any measurable way?Looks are important but I think people are too narrow in their notion of what constitutes attractive. People who don't fit the traditional Madison Avenue idea of looks find partners all the time. If Sarah Manatee Sanders can find a partner anyone can. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/06/19 11:05 AM |
| 1 | Trust: The naive, the cynical, and the courageousThe difference is that Peterson's view approaches things from a negative stance rather than a positive one. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/19 05:56 PM |
| 1 | Trust: The naive, the cynical, and the courageousExactly. However, I don't go into relationships of any kind thinking that the other person begins in a default guilty position and has to prove themselves innocent. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/19 04:59 PM |
| 1 | Trust: The naive, the cynical, and the courageousThat's like saying only bet on horses that are going to win. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/19 04:30 PM |
| 1 | Trust: The naive, the cynical, and the courageousHowever, Peterson's solution is too broad in supposing that everyone you meet should be seen from the start as potentially more untrustworthy than not. It is basically putting a strawman template over everyone. It is also paranoid. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/19 12:06 PM |
| 1 | Trust: The naive, the cynical, and the courageousYou can create statistical probabilities with a large enough sample. However, what Peterson is suggesting is a one-size-fits-all doctrine regarding trust. It's a bit cold and reduces human interaction to the level of a business transaction. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/19 11:55 AM |
| 1 | Trust: The naive, the cynical, and the courageousThe main fault I see with Peterson's thinking and what I find ridiculous about all the Red Pill theories is that they are trying to codify human interactions and behaviors. I'm sorry, but there are no formulas where you can plug in unique numbers and have it spit out an answer. The cynical part of my personality is fond of saying that you will never lose money betting that people can be the worst. However, I'm not saying most people are terrible, just that being terrible is a behavior that too m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/06/19 10:19 AM |
| 1 | Anyone else find "alpha male behavior" to be exhausting sometimes?Having confidence doesn't mean having to act like a jerk or bully. The most confident people I know are rather quiet individuals who listen more than they speak. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/06/19 03:57 PM |
| 4 | What changes have porn resulted in for sex and relationships?Like others who replied, I think the problem with ED for most men (those without real physical issues) is brought on by anxiety. They're so nervous about performing to some standard in their head that they're too nervous to go ahead. If anything, porn does make it seem like all the "best" guys are ready to go with rock-hard erections whenever they need them. Not the case. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/19 04:58 PM |
| 1 | What would prioritise when looking for an LTR? "Chemistry" or compatibility?Often the most painful thing in the world is to leave something behind even though it continues to call to you. As a non-religious person, I can't completely understand your situation. However, I came from a family with two racist parents and when I started dating a woman who was black, they were less than thrilled. So I basically didn't speak to them for two years because my personal decision was that my happiness and the respect I felt for my gf at the time were more important than the negativ… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/19 02:31 PM |
| 1 | What would prioritise when looking for an LTR? "Chemistry" or compatibility?I know it's the whole point of the RedPill people to turn everything into a scientific theory or mathematical formula, but what happened to relationships developing organically and going where they go? Uncertainty can bring pain, but that's the cost of living life. You can't plan out every moment of every day going forward decades. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/19 12:47 PM |
| 2 | Do Women know what Masculinity is?Every woman I've had a relationship with including my wife has told me that the one quality they find most immediately attractive is confidence. That can mean different things to different women but that word is universal. For example, one might be confident in one's self or knowledge or skills and convey that in a matter of fact way. When it's about human interaction, I always find that the confident person doesn't have to dominate a conversation because they don't need to prove anything to any… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/06/19 12:04 PM |
| 4 | People in LTR/marriages, do you have more fun hanging out with your same sex friends or with your partner?I have mostly opposite sex friends but prefer hanging out with my wife simply because we get along, have similar senses of humor and love talking about politics. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/19 01:26 PM |
| 2 | Is it just me or are we approaching a post-relationships society?Speaking only for myself, I have multiple women partners of varying degrees of seriousness. I have a wife and three other women who I'm having relationships with somewhere between casual friend to official partner level. All of those women have other partners as well. My personal belief is that monogamy is often forced upon people by a society that sees it as the "official" way to partner. Why? As long as people are honest with their partners about the others in their lives, polyamory can work. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/19 11:47 AM |
| 1 | Do guys find a wider range of women attractive compared to the type of guys women find attractive looks wiseOn a macro scale, I think the laws of attraction balance out in favor of either gender finding a very wide range of people attractive. If you narrow it to college-age people in the US, you probably will find it skewing towards one end of the curve based upon their consumption of popular cultures notions of beauty. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/06/19 11:43 AM |
| 0 | Men criticize men more than women criticize men.And you want to be aggrieved rather than accept there are solutions in life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/06/19 10:28 AM |
| 1 | Men criticize men more than women criticize men.I don't recognize your authority over my words. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/19 06:20 PM |
| 1 | Men criticize men more than women criticize men.I'm offering advice based upon my life experience. Take it, don't take it, whatever. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/19 03:55 PM |
| 0 | Men criticize men more than women criticize men.Why wouldn't you want to have a good personality that people like being around? That benefits you in all walks of life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/19 03:21 PM |
| 2 | Men criticize men more than women criticize men.There are no micro guarantees only macro results. If you are focusing on a person then I would say your odds are slimmer than introducing yourself to a wider group which will likely deliver better results. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/19 10:35 PM |
| 1 | Men criticize men more than women criticize men.56 & going on 13 years. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/19 10:30 PM |
| 2 | Men criticize men more than women criticize men.I'm probably quite a bit older than you so all I have to say from a lifetime of relationships and new ones all the time is that a good personality makes one more attractive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/19 10:11 PM |
| 0 | Men criticize men more than women criticize men.It's one thing to suffer from some traumatic life event but I find that many of the men who lack partners they might want are simply resigned to their circumstance. They do no self-reflection and fall back on saying they're ugly or some other physical attribute which may not be the real reason at all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/19 07:37 PM |
| 1 | Men criticize men more than women criticize men.Men: ...but I won't do a damned thing to improve my personality which might make me more desirable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/19 06:53 PM |
| 4 | Men criticize men more than women criticize men.There's a time and place for everything including baring your soul. There are people you do that with and most you don't. Nobody wants to hear someone constantly complain about the same thing over and over. It gets tiring. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/19 03:43 PM |
| 1 | Men criticize men more than women criticize men.I think humans in general can figure out the difference between emotions and whining. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/19 02:11 PM |
| 6 | Men criticize men more than women criticize men.There are valid reasons to cry. Not getting the special cupcake they think the world owes them is not one of those reasons. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/19 01:31 PM |
| 2 | Q4ALL: why do some men on PPD claim that women cannot or do not enjoy sex?I'm glad you you look out for each other. All the best to a fellow cat person. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/19 11:59 AM |
| 2 | Q4ALL: why do some men on PPD claim that women cannot or do not enjoy sex?I'm sorry to hear that you feel that way because the love a dog feels for you is absolute. How about a cat? They are more independent and less demanding of attention except at certain times of their own choosing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/19 11:39 AM |
| 4 | Q4ALL: why do some men on PPD claim that women cannot or do not enjoy sex?First off, if your dog is pissing on everything then there's a huge problem with your dog. Secondly, the original post is about the pleasure women feel during sex which is something not knowable by anyone other than the woman. Thirdly, if you want a partner to have more pleasure, ask them what pleases them and learn how to do it. For goodness sake it is not that difficult. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/19 11:29 AM |
| 3 | Q4ALL: why do some men on PPD claim that women cannot or do not enjoy sex?Cute, but still doesn't change the fact that any man who talks about women's enjoyment of sex has no idea what he's talking about. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/19 11:05 AM |
| 4 | Q4ALL: why do some men on PPD claim that women cannot or do not enjoy sex?Simple answer is that no matter how many words they string together to appear as intellectuals, they have no idea what they are talking about. Period. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/06/19 10:26 AM |
| 1 | Q4M - do you expect “assumed exclusivity” from women after the first date?People have quirks but that doesn't mean they aren't "mentally sane" (whatever the definition of that is). I don't know what your experience with relationships is but I would say that they begin in a happy place not one that sounds as depressing as you think is common. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/19 10:19 AM |
| 1 | Q4M - do you expect “assumed exclusivity” from women after the first date?If people are in a place where they can start talking about a relationship, then I cannot imagine anyone in that conversation thinking any topic was off-limits or harassment. Honestly, I think the chances of this approach zero. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/19 09:58 AM |
| 1 | Examples of toxic femininity.Toxicity comes from a feeling of invulnerability brought on by societal power. When women have parity, then we can talk. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/19 09:51 AM |
| 1 | Q4M - do you expect “assumed exclusivity” from women after the first date?"relationships" I'm not talking about walking up to total strangers in a work environment and speaking about sex or continuing a conversation once someone says, "Not interested". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/06/19 09:49 AM |
| 1 | [Q4W] what goes on a women mind when she lies about her sexual partners and does it change later on?My relationship with a woman is what I focus on. I'm not interested in her past relationships unless she chooses to tell me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/19 02:43 PM |
| 3 | Q4M - do you expect “assumed exclusivity” from women after the first date?All people have to learn to negotiate relationships. Why is everyone so afraid to speak plainly? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/06/19 10:39 AM |
| 1 | It shouldn't be that hard for RP men to spin early 20s plates in their thirties right?If I had to guess it's because the FWB phenomenon is more common to people who have not yet settled down and who have a very large group of friends they interact with. Once one settles down, the group of friends shrinks significantly and any additional relationships tend to be more serious than simply showing up in someone's bed on a moment's notice. In the latter case, it tends to be more about poly than FWB. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/05/19 10:02 AM |
| 1 | CMV Dating multiple people at the same time is trashy (men and women)Why? Exclusivity should be agreed upon by people in a relationship and not assumed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/05/19 09:54 AM |
| 2 | Facial recognition software and porn actressesAs someone who is friends with people who have worked in the adult film industry as well as some sex workers, all I have to say is don't do this. It's not anyone's business to shame a person for working in a business just because another person wants to be a dick about it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/05/19 10:16 AM |
| 0 | Do you think marriage alone (without children being a factor) changes the dynamics of a relationship?OK. Remember how Social Security is stealing when you're on disability because of your condition. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/19 08:30 PM |
| -1 | Do you think marriage alone (without children being a factor) changes the dynamics of a relationship?Good luck with life | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/19 08:08 PM |
| 3 | Do you think marriage alone (without children being a factor) changes the dynamics of a relationship?Then you're just plain wrong. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/19 06:28 PM |
| 3 | Do you think marriage alone (without children being a factor) changes the dynamics of a relationship?Is that what you think? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/19 05:54 PM |
| -1 | Do you think marriage alone (without children being a factor) changes the dynamics of a relationship?Feel free to do a web search that will bring you volumes of rebuttal for your instruction. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/19 04:18 PM |
| -1 | Do you think marriage alone (without children being a factor) changes the dynamics of a relationship?If you think Social Security is stealing then I have nothing to say to you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/19 03:54 PM |
| 0 | What proof is there that women "want privileges without responsibilities" ?I'm stating a fact that exists in and of itself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/19 03:12 PM |
| 0 | Would you date for a LTR a man with no college education?Like I said as a reoly, everyone is entitled to their own system of judging who is or is not for them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/19 01:10 PM |
| 2 | Would you date for a LTR a man with no college education?An education is supposed to be more than a piece of paper that acts as an employment ticket. It should trigger a lifetime of seeking knowledge for its own sake. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/19 12:50 PM |
| 0 | Would you date for a LTR a man with no college education?OK. Everyone has their own way to assess people they do or don't want in their lives. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/19 12:45 PM |
| 1 | Would you date for a LTR a man with no college education?This is why I work with people who can't think critically. They got hired because they figured out how to pass their classes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/19 11:47 AM |
| 9 | Would you date for a LTR a man with no college education?A piece of paper doesn't make one a better person or intelligent. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/19 11:37 AM |
| 8 | Do you think marriage alone (without children being a factor) changes the dynamics of a relationship?My view of marriage is that it's a legal document that infers certain rights and protections all at once. You could do the same with a business agreement if you wanted. I know people who aren't married but are completely devoted to each other. I don't think marriage is some magical thing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/19 10:17 AM |
| 18 | Do you think marriage alone (without children being a factor) changes the dynamics of a relationship?Once NRE (New Relationship Energy) wears off, the sexual thrill reduces significantly. If all people have is that energy then the marriage is doomed. However, true feelings of love and companionship are a true foundation for a marriage. Feeling that you both make up a part of a whole. Feeling an emptiness when they aren't around. Wanting to do things to make them happy and to help them. These are the things that make a marriage last. It's about a real connection that transcends sex or children. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/19 09:57 AM |
| 2 | abundance mentality and acting alpha work for higher value males onlyThere are many people who fit that mold yet luck plays a part as well. I might not have met my wife if not for the fact that we had a mutual friend who thought we might click because of our wiseass personalities. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/19 06:34 PM |
| 0 | What proof is there that women "want privileges without responsibilities" ?The debate is a political one regarding legislation. It has nothing to do with the worth of a human in a society. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/19 01:49 PM |
| 1 | What proof is there that women "want privileges without responsibilities" ?It's a fallacious argument that seeks to justify men having more worth than women to explain disparity in pay and civil rights. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/19 11:43 AM |
| -1 | What proof is there that women "want privileges without responsibilities" ?If their argument involves a draft then they have no argument. We have a volunteer military. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/19 11:28 AM |
| 7 | abundance mentality and acting alpha work for higher value males onlyMost women are not seeking out an abusive a-hole to date. Those men are usually predators who know how to get close to women before showing their true colors. They use their looks or money or lies to attract women. There are damaged people who have gone through trauma in life and end up being attracted to the same sort of abuser that victimized them. However, most women want a decent, self-aware person who has empathy and treats them with respect. A-hole guys are basically just evil con artists. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/05/19 10:25 AM |
| 2 | CMV: Unattractive women on dating apps should use pictures that make them look worse than they usually doSadly it's too late for her. The lesson for everyone else is don't be like that guy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/19 09:46 PM |
| 3 | CMV: Unattractive women on dating apps should use pictures that make them look worse than they usually doI know. It's also called being an abusive jerk and possibly a sadist. Otherwise known as an a-hole. No class at all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/19 09:35 PM |
| 0 | CMV: Unattractive women on dating apps should use pictures that make them look worse than they usually do...or people could think twice before making impolite or rude comments no matter how true the commenter thinks it is. No one elected any acquaintance the Truthteller General of their lives. Cutting someone down just to prove how real one is might just be the best reason not to have a person like that as a friend. No tact. No class. No empathy. Just a selfish vessel. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/19 08:58 PM |
| 6 | How does the orgasm gap between straight men and women affect sexual behavior and sex drive?Ask your partner what does it for them. Do that thing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/19 07:40 PM |
| 3 | Maybe meeting for dinner is not a good idea for a first or second date?Good question. For me, social groups where people meet-up in real life so you actually get to know people and be attracted to them. I've found that people who have similar tastes or interests get together, it tends to foster a more closely knit group. People see themselves as a peer group and are open to interact. From that point, I can't help except to say you ask if someone would like to go out. If yes, great. If no, next person. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/19 05:11 PM |
| 4 | Maybe meeting for dinner is not a good idea for a first or second date?It's kinda what attracted me to them in the first place. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/19 04:34 PM |
| 16 | Maybe meeting for dinner is not a good idea for a first or second date?First date: Gughenheim Museum to see an exhibit. We decided to get a bite to eat afterwards. We walked around talking about the art and then ourselves and it worked. There's nothing wrong going to dinner. However, I subscribe to the etiquette rule that if I invite someone somewhere, I am paying. It's like inviting someone to my home. It is incumbent upon me to feed them and not ask them to bring food. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/19 01:06 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Reddit is mostly low SMV people, and this sub is no differentThe first rule of writing is to define terms when using acronyms because you have to accept that there are people reading who don't know them. A search for CMV brings up articles about a virus and banking. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/19 12:05 PM |
| 0 | Should a man tell his gf that he struggles with depression?Short answer: You should be honest with those who love you. You think having depression is a sign of weakness? You think feeling emotions is a sign of weakness? They are not. Having no control of your emotions might be problematic if you allow them to dictate the course of your life and have them guide your decisions. I've suffered with depression my whole life - I've been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder which often makes me swing between intense feelings of emotion. The problem w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/05/19 11:48 AM |
| 1 | "Sexually assaulted or Raped" statistics purely attempt to make people believe there is more rape then there actually is.If I misinterpreted your post, I apologize. There you go. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/19 03:43 PM |
| 1 | The men whom a woman would have casual sex with VS the men whom she would have a LTR withFor anyone, each relationship is its own separate thing. Some people you want to have a deeper relationship with and others not. This might change from week to week. Had you met someone a week later, you might have decided to be more serious with based upon the way you felt right then and there. I don't believe in types beyond a basic level of likes and dislikes (which are also mutable). Feelings are not so scientific no matter how people try to codify them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/19 03:05 PM |
| 1 | Do men feel more attracted to "crazy" women than "boring" women?My opinion is everyone is crazy to some degree. I'm not talking about debilitating mental illnesses or personality disorders, I mean the thing that makes an individual a creative thinker. I've been attracted to women who I can have deep conversations with on a variety of subjects. I've been attracted to artists and writers. I've been attracted to high-powered corporate VPs and university professors. The "craziness" of these women is in the eye of the beholder. I find them interesting and lovable… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/19 02:57 PM |
| 1 | Why are you here?Because I truly want to understand how some of the folks here think. I'm probably quite a bit older than most of the posters here so I'm way out of the peer group. I've been through some of the self-inflicted problems a lot of young men are going through and came out the other side a far more decent person. But I went through a lot of year of angst. Honestly, if I can be here and say that one thing to one person and make them get on the course to a happier and fulfilling life then I did somethin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/19 02:44 PM |
| 1 | "Sexually assaulted or Raped" statistics purely attempt to make people believe there is more rape then there actually is.You believe that statistics collated by federal law enforcement are exaggerated based on what evidence? Because they don't match what you happen to believe they should be? Traditionally, rape has been an under-reported crime due to the stigma societies have attached to it. The statistics are not ambivalent nor made up. That said, yes, if you touch somebody and they didn't want to be touched, you are in-fact assaulting them. If they tell you to stop, then stop, but you frankly should be controlli… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/05/19 01:05 PM |
| 48 | At bottom the abortion debate is really about women's attempt to escape their biological imperative to be more selective when choosing a partnerEating is not for fun, it's for survival. Please eat only those things that provide the optimal nutrition. Don't worry about the flavor because that's not important. Also avoid alcohol. The empty calories there are worthless for evolutionary nutrition. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/05/19 08:05 PM |
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