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23	Noticed something strange Someone summed it up really well just after the election. "Men have problems. We don't have solutions " - the right. "Men don't have problems, Men ARE the problem" - the left. It's a damn abysmal choice, but in this context it's pretty clear.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	13/01/25 11:53 PM
2	Recent reports by "Feminists" claim that 1/3 men state they would rape if they could get away with it and that women also seem to agree that 1/3 of men could also rape if they could get away with it(therefore there is a convergence of answers). Has anyone else looked at said report? I vaguely remember someone going through this study or one similar on YouTube a decade or so back - while comparing it to Koss' methodology that came to the 1 in 5 conclusion. The gist was that both (all?) some pretty deceptive language in the questions, and also proceeded to count non-rape things as flat out rape. (Cheating on a partner is rape - lack of informed consent, having sex after your partner has been drinking - women can't consent under the influence.) Using 'force' was contextualized…	/r/MensRights	05/11/24 02:28 AM
7	I fully, 100%, believe in a woman's right to choose. I also believe in a man's right to choose. Why is this a crazy take? Yep. Word absolutely matter. That's why it's called being "pro choice" and not "pro abortion" the marketing of it is a big reason it gained popularity.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	28/07/24 01:09 AM
2	Where do men find community/ belonging? Hobbies. Common interests. It's a bit of putting yourself out there, but finding people with a similar interest in (thing) helps to break the ice. Volunteering for something you care about sometimes work too, though most volunteer groups tend to be mostly women. But hobby spaces trend more towards men because men tend to be more interested in things or activities, where women tend to be interested in people. Find a local recreational kick ball league, darts league or something similar that inter…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	26/07/24 03:50 PM
7	If we could talk about our stories, would it be way more common I was arrested when an ex hurt herself trying to break into my dad's house. I didn't know any better and called the police. I was arrested again when that same ex knocked me unconscious with a hockey stick. Both times I was fortunate enough to be released without charges. I lost my job, my apartment, and every single friend and professional connection I ever had. I got off light. I reached out for help, but could only be referred to a group therapy for abusive men. Tried to end it, but failed at…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	14/06/24 12:27 AM
8	If we could talk about our stories, would it be way more common No one is asking for your help. Just to politely get out of the way.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	13/06/24 08:41 PM
6	If we could talk about our stories, would it be way more common Like many others, it took me a while to see what happened to me as abuse. Once I did it opened my eyes. I reflected on conversations with my friends about their own relationships. Every single one of my close male friends had been stuck in some form of abusive relationship at some point. Every. Single. One. From my tiny sample size, 100% had been physically assaulted, 100% had been emotionally abused. 100% were sexually assaulted. And 100% did not think a woman was capable of being an abuser.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	13/06/24 08:35 PM
1	Songs About Abusive Women "She's kerosene" by the Interupters "Sic Trasit Gloria...Glory Fades" by Brand New	/r/MensRights	21/05/24 09:40 PM
3	Woman or bear The bear - is most likely to avoid me and just do it's own thing. The woman - is likely to expect my help, be a drain on limited food, not carry her load of the gear, be near useless in basic camping skills, not to mention hunting, tracking, or navigation. Conclusion - the bear is a neutral entity, the woman is a net negative to me surviving in the woods. I vote bear.	/r/MensRights	05/05/24 12:50 AM
3	Are there any studies or personal experiences on males learning differently academically And because of these, boys fall behind early. This means that from 1st grade on, boys are playing catch up, putting them at higher disadvantage as they progress through school. What's starts as a small gap in 1gst grade becomes massive by high-school. And the further behind a boy gets, the more he is dissuaded from academics. And the less engaged with education, the harsher the feedback loop.	/r/MensRights	03/04/24 01:27 AM
10	I think some women confused indifference with misogyny. Some women mistake equality as misogyny. How's the old saying go? When your whole life is nothing but privilege, equality feels like oppression. Feminist get so mad when you toss that one at them...	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	05/03/24 01:52 AM
12	"Feminist" troglodyte getting smacked by Pierce Morgan, in regards to her support of the controversial F1 "Grid Girl" ban. Even though 68% of the British public disagreed. None. Equally hilarious because just one look at mex verrshtapens(sp?) quirky ass face disproves anyone needs to be pretty to drive F1. Women can be, and have been some damn good drivers. They just don't turn the lap times like the men typically do. If you're looking at the top 20 drivers in the absolute world, statistically, they will almost always be all men.	/r/MensRights	19/02/24 01:46 AM
5	What are some things you started to do that helped with your mental health? Built a race car. Got a few friends together, wrnt in together on a miata. Gutted it, Built a roll cage. Pulled the motor and rebuilt it. Read and re read the rule book 10k times. Wired and re wired and wired it again. Replaced the clutch. Replaced the diferential. Rattle canned it. Took 18 months. Then we took it racing. Did two endurance events last year. Doing 4 more this year. The shift in my mental state from - socializing with like minded bros- accomplishing a task none of us had attempted…	/r/MensRights	16/02/24 01:58 AM
2	Guys Opinion about this last statement? Let's definitely not talk about something that would cause one's missteps and shortcomings to be in full view. Let's absolutely not do anything that might cause some introspection that might lead to (gasp) accountability.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	16/02/24 01:47 AM
2	Are there any men here who were skeptical towards mens rights until they were abused or physically assaulted by a woman? Skeptical, no. I had no idea it existed. What I was sure of was that feminism was a unilateral force for good. Then I got into a relationship with an abusive woman. I told a few people, asking about bruises, what she had done, the universal response was - "what did you do?!" Because the feminist narrative drilled in to us was that men only get hit when they deserve it. When I needed to run, there was no shelter for me, because the feminist narrative said that even if men do get hit, it's not tha…	/r/MensRights	12/02/24 02:45 AM
2	Gen Z men are leaning more conservative while Gen Z women are much more liberal Looks like the "finding out" portion is staging up after a few decades of "fucking around" I don't lament in this, but seriously, what the fuck did academic and feminist agitators think was gonna happen. If you dehumanize a section of people to the point of open bigotry being celebrated, there's probably going to be some push back.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	27/01/24 09:19 PM
3	as a trans man, how do i fit into male advocacy? I can't speak for the person you're responding to, but only share my own experiences. Feminist theory informed the Deluth Model, which in turns makes the man defacto aggressor in an dv / ipv encounter. Twice an ex tried to kill me. The first time I called the police, and despite her not having a scratch on her, and me bleeding from a head wound- I was taken to jail. The second time - she called the police, who tossed my unconscious body in the back of a police cruiser and took me to jail - when …	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	11/01/24 12:47 AM
16	Thoughts on this post from the main MensRights sub? Had a similar experience. It turned put that all of her guy friends were dudes she'd previously hooked up with and were just waiting around to get another shot. Any time we'd argue, she'd hop into bed with one of them. It is at least a yellow flag, but not one I'd look past. I am so thankful to not be in the dating game these days.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	05/01/24 12:56 PM
6	Left-wingers seem to have a double standard for male victims of sexual abuse. Can confirm. One of my roommates many years ago worked with me at a local restaurant/bar. He was a barback/bartender and then a bouncer. Every day some entitled lady who maybe had a few too many would cop a feel. When he started being the bouncer, one lady just wouldn't knock it off, so he told her and her friends to leave. They started a scene, slapped him, to which he escorted her to the door. He was fired for it.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	02/01/24 02:45 PM
25	Women see men's lives through rose tinted glasses. A small aside: There are few things more invalidating than to share a hardship or struggle with someone, only to have them try to engage in some foolhardy one ups man ship. We're told that this is a typical 'male behavior', but my experience is so far from that. I have never been able to share a hardship with a s.o. without it being derided because she so obviously had it worse at some point. Even when it's legitimate, the subtext is pretty clear. As a man I should just shut up, because I will "…	/r/MensRights	29/12/23 12:15 AM
8	Self-defense and the myth of the perfect victim. I had a ex who dislocated my jaw with a hockey stick. To this day the only reaction I got when relating the story was "What did you DO?!" Because the only context anyone can accept for a woman being violent is that the man /must/ have deserved it somehow. She must have been pushed to that point, not that she was just an abuser.	/r/MensRights	18/12/23 04:58 PM
9	Project: Motorsport gender pyramid, to asses if there's not enough or too many women in F1 Here's just an observation from someone who spent 20 years in hobbyist level of motorsport. Racing, (real racing) is won with the brakes, not the accelerator. Brake feel and authority is what separates good drivers from marginal ones. It is the absolutely mind numbing audacity to keep your foot off the middle pedal till the very absolute last millisecond, when every fiber of your being is begging you to slow down. It is the complete lack of self-preservation to modulate that pedal with firm auth…	/r/MensRights	14/12/23 08:42 PM
15	Liana Kerzner thinks men "deserve to be thrown through a wall" if they don't respect her boundaries. Liana is full of it. Firmly believe she's trying to carefully tow the line between 'feminist ally' of men, and 'just don't call me an MRA' MRA, but it's all grift. I used to follow her 'manly mondays' segment, as it seemed to be mostly middle ground, and a safer spot for men to vent in the comments. Until she chastised someone for getting upset about always including 'women face [crime] too, and...' in her discussions of men's issues. She then went on to accuse the guy of 'not feeling safe' when…	/r/MensRights	10/12/23 01:12 AM
28	Teacher is a feminist "Volcanos can cause massive devastation, mostly to women."	/r/MensRights	02/12/23 03:11 AM
10	"Teach girls to prioritize feeling safe over being nice." No. A civilized society has a social contract to appoint some of the responsibility of ensuring safety to certain voluntary individuals. This does not alleviate anyone's individual responsibility, but nor does it make anyone's feeling safe a right.	/r/MensRights	30/11/23 12:53 PM
54	"Teach girls to prioritize feeling safe over being nice." No one had a right to feel safe. Everyone has the responsibility of ensuring their own safety. Feminist theory yet again shirking responsibilities and making it a right that everyone else must be responsible for upholding...	/r/MensRights	30/11/23 01:56 AM
1	Dear Mens Rights activists, why do some of you vote left? In addition to much of what's listed here already, As a more libertarian leaning - I want to see men's social roles and options expanded, like what has happened for women. The right just shores it up with more of the 'man up, protect and provide' rhetoric that makes it impossible to see justice for male dv and sa victims, amongst other things. The right is the party of freedom in equal measure as feminism is about equality. (Don't get me wrong, the left is flirting with full on statist authorita…	/r/MensRights	27/11/23 02:53 AM
2	Why do people think false accusations are so rare? Statistics, darn statistics, and lies. The data on false accusations is incredibly obfuscated, and this is done intentionally. The claim that false accusations are rare is based entirely on alligations that are proven false in a court of law, and the guilty party handed a punishment. This is a monumental hurdle to clear. First an allegation of sexual assault needs to be made to authorities. Valid allegations have a low report rate, and provably false allegations likely have an even lower report …	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	09/11/23 11:47 PM
6	Just something I was writing for Insta and thought I’d share. Post it. Social media is a skill, and it only gets better with practice. Will you cringe at your first videos? Oh yeah, absolutely. But with each thing you do, you'll get just a little bit better. And if you've got the hankering urge to make content, then doing so will feel rewarding. Something something miss 100% of the shots you don't take, or something.	/r/MensRights	04/11/23 10:55 PM
1	I Hate This Argument On FOM Violence Sorry you had to go through that. I went through it too. The shit that stuck with me the hardest was telling people where I got that bruise, or why I missed work - and the only response I got was "what did you do?!"	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	22/09/23 01:07 AM
5	The washing of gender statistics. I spent the better part of 3 months living in my car one winter. It was all I could do to escape a violent ex girlfriend. Couldn't couch surf because she knew where all my friends lived (those who would still associate with me anyway) The utter lack of any service or help available to me was eye opening, to say the least. No dv shelter would put me up, because I was a man. No hotel voucher, no alternate facility - nothing. The best I got was a 'group therapy' session - it was to help men stop be…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	22/09/23 12:30 AM
1	When people say: "It's okay for a man to cry", what they unconsciously seek to add is: "so long as that man is not my Father, Brother, Son, Husband, or anyone remotely close to me." A female friend of the family was lamenting to my wife about how being the primary care giver to jer two kids left jer constantly in 'mom mode' and how this state left her feeling 'unfuckable' - because she just had zero libido when spending so much of her time in the parental role. And this feeling is common amongst her peers as well. Her main point aside, it kinda connected some dots for me. A man expressing emotions, requiring 'emotional labor' from his partner puts her in 'mom mode'- stands …	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	06/09/23 01:28 AM
9	I just looked up Epstein posts on this sub because I was interested in what your guys opinion would be on a genuine convicted sex offender. I don't know much about the community but understood it has a bad rep so wanted to see if you shared any common ground with feminists/the general public. The point is if you want to complain about problems men face you need to also acknowledge the heinous things men do to women Imagine, just image if someone went into any feminist space and flipped the genders of this statement. And honestly, no I don't need to acknowledge anything. There is a vast and powerful voice yelling about this shit from the rooftops. That system doesn't need my help, but you know who does. Men who are victims of dv and sa who have no one to speak for them. Men who are ra…	/r/MensRights	20/08/23 01:55 AM
11	anyone else noticed it’s overwhelmingly women who commit false accusations? Partially because no one gives a shit about male victims of dv or sa. Think about it. If a woman acusses a man - that guy is gonna face a broad spectrum of societal and legal concenquences because society is built around protecting women. If a man accused a woman of the same crime - you're more likely to get "he probably wanted it anyway" or other things along the lines of "real men don't let women do that to them", all the way down to "women can't rape men because of imbalance of societal power…	/r/MensRights	27/07/23 12:00 AM
28	A thought regarding garage services supposedly charging women more. I was the neighborhood kid who always took shit apart. By the time I was 18, I was decent enough at fixing cars that friends (all around my age) would ask me to help out with their cars. We were all young and broke, I didn't mind, and I could use the extra cash. I had a good friend who had an early 90s Nissan sentra SE-R Needed new rear brakes (disc brakes all around). He wanted to learn to do them himself and I was happy to teach him. So I told him 20 dollars an axle and he provided the parts. …	/r/MensRights	28/06/23 12:55 AM
8	Feminist perspective: men’s SA cases should be an argument to advocate for feminism, not against it these are issues we face as well, and at a dramatically higher mortality rate. Ah yes, women always have it worse eh. But when we’re so focused on proving “mine hurts more” to the other group ... All the points I listed are areas where the issues of men are outright dismissed, blamed on the victim, and have a significant, tangible legal disparity. All the points I listed are there because institutional feminism vehemtly defends thier existence. I made no argument of who has it worse, I only said…	/r/MensRights	21/06/23 01:10 AM
6	Feminist perspective: men’s SA cases should be an argument to advocate for feminism, not against it So why is it that men SA cases are used to advocate against feminism, when really we’re both shooting for the same thing? SA cases aren't used to advocate against feminism, they are used to advocate against a glaring, horrible, massive disparity in the justice system. It is institutional feminism that defends these disparities being kept in place. It's the same for most of the divorce and family law. It's the same for the draft. It's the same for mental health advocacy and programs. It's the sam…	/r/MensRights	20/06/23 11:31 PM
12	"Female suicide rate is fastest rising".... NO. IT. IS. NOT. It only SEEMS that way BECAUSE THEY CHANGED THE DEFINITION OF WHAT THEY COUNT AS A SUICIDE ATTEMPT. I have been pointing this out for literally YEARS now but people STILL fall for their trick, just as they do for the wage gap myth. Something like 90% of men who commit suicide sought some form of mental health treatment beforehand. So no, I don't exactly buy your victim blaming.	/r/MensRights	06/06/23 10:40 PM
5	"Female suicide rate is fastest rising".... NO. IT. IS. NOT. It only SEEMS that way BECAUSE THEY CHANGED THE DEFINITION OF WHAT THEY COUNT AS A SUICIDE ATTEMPT. I have been pointing this out for literally YEARS now but people STILL fall for their trick, just as they do for the wage gap myth. I agree, the discourse isn't exactly healthy, but unfortunately we have to agree on the point of who has it worse. You see, any time I am in a conversation around this, or when I advocate for more state programs for men, or mental health programs for men, the retort is always " there are only so many dollars of funding to go around, and women need the resources more because women ATTEMPT suicide more often, homeless women are at higher risk of assault/SA/ or are more likely to be caring for chil…	/r/MensRights	06/06/23 10:37 PM
2	A feminist said women who cook and clean are slaves. No no. Men have agency, they choose to cook and clean. Women are incapable of choice, the patriarchy has restricted them to being forced to do household labor. /s	/r/MensRights	05/06/23 01:12 AM