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The_one_who_learns/r/ExRedPill08/10/20 11:40 AM
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Suicide.
/r/ExRedPill22/02/21 11:45 PM
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I mean I get his point. I have had multiple women tell me that I would make some girl very happy someday day while saying no. On pressing them they said that j was husband material, I used to be proud of this until I realised that it was a backhanded compliment. Let's just say if I am not a short term option for her, she is not a longterm option to me. I need to know KNOW that I am wanted. I bet its the same for this guy.
/r/ExRedPill04/02/21 10:52 PM
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Its not that. Its that we self edit what we say so as to appear as the best possible versions of our self. There was a post by a feminist woman who slept with a chauvinist. She justified it as her choice , as if it she was swaping a cuddly teddy on her bed. What she did was display an incongruence of what she believes she likes (equal partnership and feminist men) and what she was aroused by (this uber sexual neanderthal). Women will also claim to high heavens that they wanted someone who opens …
/r/ExRedPill15/01/21 07:46 AM
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Nothing to fix is there?
/r/ExRedPill31/12/20 07:44 PM
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My point was that anything can sound crazy or like a great idea depending upon its delivery. The post leaves us with the uncomfortable picture of Jordan Peterson as a nazi. I just name dropped something (feminism) and equated it to the 3rd reich. Fact remains that the ideas Hitler had (some of them, self reliance and nation building) were actually good ones that help improve the conditions of a nation. Dito for how to galvanize a movement and how to apply these ideas to the individual. "Take res…
/r/ExRedPill29/12/20 01:40 PM
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Some people sent in mein khamf edited with necessary woke words and sent it in to a research mag in sociology (feminist dominated study) . It was accepted and published. Read into that what you will.
/r/ExRedPill29/12/20 01:15 PM
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I belive that I was truly good albeit not mentally all that stable. I used to want to do the right thing for everyone involved in a situation not just for me, but living like that has caused so many disappointments that it seems like living without hope and without any real expectation of decency is the only realistic choice. It even led to me coming up with a quote "In any interaction if you are considering the other persons interests, then there are 2 people looking out for him and no one for …
/r/ExRedPill17/12/20 12:14 PM
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Honestly having lived like this for so long, I don't even know what this would look like. LIke , I know it is possible. Upon consuming alcohol everything seems to line up in place far more easily than other wise, suggesting it is a problem of mindset more than anything else, but another part of me feels I am too far gone to live as anything but someone who is just .... low key pissed off.
/r/ExRedPill17/12/20 12:07 PM
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Then they are not that diferent from me. Personally miserable with dating success > Mserable without it. I mean sure, I guess I have my integrity and all that, but is it really worth that much if holding onto it just causes me that much more aggravation?
/r/ExRedPill17/12/20 11:50 AM
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Links or gtfo
/r/ExRedPill17/12/20 07:26 AM
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If that's their punishment then sign me up. I mean between moral and miserable I would pick immoral and atleast satisfying base urges, Maslow Hierarchy and all that.
/r/ExRedPill17/12/20 07:25 AM
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This is hypergamy in a nut shell. The phenomenon where women do not in general dare down by class as opposed to men. Men are socialized to accept the inconvenience of dating someone less economically secure. Women are not.
/r/ExRedPill27/11/20 09:07 PM
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I don't get you. Validation is important if only to know where you stand. I mean you could go to garbage collector school and be the best goddamn garbage person on your city and be convinced that this is your best self but you would have to be a total idiot to ignore everyone else shitting on you for your career choice. Validation as a sexual being is important too. And OP is irritated that his ex inspire of being a POS is able to get that without really having to "be better" It's the same minds…
/r/ExRedPill15/11/20 02:00 PM
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That's short sighted as hell.
/r/ExRedPill12/11/20 06:33 AM
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Choice needs to have meaning. A dock worker chosing noto to have sex with Kate Middleton is admirable and all but in the end pointless
/r/ExRedPill11/11/20 04:17 PM
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Like all of redpill, enough truth mixed in with bullshit to lend it credibility.
/r/ExRedPill03/11/20 05:55 AM
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Because it furthers a social dynamic which exacerbates their perceived problem. That money can be used to better your life. Go to a gym, culinary classes, books hell even computer equipment and they are throwing money away for what? The shallow feeling of connection to someone who give less than minimal shit about you? Worse it feeds and justifies the existence of an industry that capitalises on the loneliness of people. I even despise lifestyle findoms for this reason. I have seen wholesome fin…
/r/ExRedPill22/10/20 10:41 AM
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2 months.
/r/ExRedPill21/10/20 08:37 AM
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It's easy to improve from 50% to 90 % but the same effort will be needed to improve from 90 to 95% and so on. Sure I may want to play the guitar and I may be able to play it well but to get to a master level would take time and resource that cost other things their mastery. Eg I may have a good physique but the effort needed to get to bodybuilder level is not something I have the inclination to pursue. That's whwt I meant The context being that, when asking what to do when we have no interest fr…
/r/ExRedPill19/10/20 04:58 PM
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It's the only way we know we matter. Sure we can be needed, but the holy grail is to be wanted and loved regardless of what we bring to the table Sex or desire is the few avenues in which we are validated.
/r/ExRedPill19/10/20 04:43 PM
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The last time I mentioned something like - I had worked on myself to the point of diminishing returns And I asked what could the woman bring to the table that I didn't already do for my self? Resources: check Emotional support: check have been handling my own shit for years A relationship with any woman who saw fit to date me seemed like an inherent demerit. I was told that it was weird to view relationship from this lens.
/r/ExRedPill19/10/20 04:41 PM
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Were you like waiting for one thing to dismiss him?
/r/ExRedPill11/10/20 01:10 PM
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True.
/r/ExRedPill08/10/20 12:12 PM
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It's not awalt though is it. It's just responsible contraception dialed to the 11 Get a vasectomy and freeze your sperm _ it ensures that you will decide when you want to have a child. Hopefully with someone without substance dependence issues.
/r/ExRedPill08/10/20 12:07 PM
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It's just the level of "it doesn't matter what she did" Like I may get someone pregnant, and inspire of my reluctance I would step up even if the other party reneged upon abortion. But then she is free to inflict anything she wants upon the fetus, and when the child is born , I still am responsible for it. How is she not compelled to be better, why is tge responsibility of the womans shortcomings on the man. Strongly considering adopting a child as a single man as opposed to the traditional rout…
/r/ExRedPill08/10/20 12:05 PM
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/r/ExRedPill08/10/20 05:43 AM
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If you think it's the logical step in a relationship then you are in for a tough time. It is a legally binding contract with lifelong ramifications. You cannot, I repeat, cannot half ass it. Where ever you are from get a comprehensive understanding of how easily your country makes it to get hitched and to get separated. Figure out what your vulnerabilities will be and then and only then decide if marriage is worth the risk to you personally. Also, I readily endorse prenups, they are a way to ens…
/r/ExRedPill02/10/20 07:03 PM
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I am like you in that, I am not attractive. Was not attractive in my highschool life. I wanted to be in a relationship with a few people and was turned down as the nice guy. And was a nice guy.. the me from 13-18 is the most trusting and truly good version of me. If I met a me from back then, I would immediately befriend that awkward fluf ball. But I was getting disillusioned by the women around me so I began to get more and more angry. I eventually found the red pill. I quickly burned through i…
/r/ExRedPill26/09/20 04:47 AM
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Not a hard standard to meet
/r/ExRedPill07/09/20 10:14 PM
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It's been 20 hrs so... A walt is about as misogynistic as women crossing the street when they see a man behind them is misandrist.
/r/ExRedPill29/08/20 04:58 PM
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Why is it creepy?
/r/ExRedPill23/08/20 05:20 PM
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For people who are tired of not knowing the rules to play.
/r/ExRedPill19/08/20 03:38 PM
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They can't. They really can't. They are not special and they certainly dont have some magic niceness meter in their heads. If it were so abuse wouldn't be a thing.
/r/ExRedPill03/08/20 08:12 AM
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Validation I would imagne
/r/ExRedPill02/08/20 06:26 AM
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He said he is 23. And I get it. You are told that you aren't successful because you are lacking in some way so you work at it abd work at it until you reach a point where you hit the curve of diminishing returns. Abd then inexplicably the thought hits you " I did all this to 'deserve' her but has she really ever deserved me, and then comes the harsh realization that most of the women you want are simply disappointing. People are disappointing, and the only thing work doing anything for is yourse…
/r/ExRedPill12/06/20 10:25 AM
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I mean sure. Let's ignore the cases of when the 'danger radar' fails and these extremely perspective individuals are stuck in a abusive relationship. But then It's all 'I couldn't have possibly know' It's laughable.
/r/ExRedPill05/05/20 01:59 AM
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This place is not your recruiting ground.
/r/ExRedPill31/03/20 03:17 PM
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It's seema like a greater act of stupidity than to simply walk away
/r/ExRedPill20/11/19 05:18 PM
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Depends. If it's a healthy thing where there is understanding and soave so that neither party feels threatened sure. If it is a scream fest which she chose to engage in and dosebt let you go to sleep for work the next day until 3am, then fuck it, she is using guerilla tactics on you and deserves to get shut down however you can achieve that
/r/ExRedPill02/10/19 07:06 AM
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I think you mean admission. As far as how I feel about it, my guard just went up a few fold just read through it.
/r/ExRedPill01/10/19 06:48 PM
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I am not looking to cash in on a cash cow. I am not looking to have someone take care of me so that I no longer need to work. I just don't want anyone to take what is mine. Rightfully mine.
/r/ExRedPill15/08/19 06:46 PM
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You are the exception, not the rule.
/r/ExRedPill15/08/19 04:54 PM
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What's the alternative? Trust and faith? Any guy who got screwed over thought he was with the "one" when he was married. Obviously back then he would never belive that she could do that to him. Everybody looks out for them srlves when their backs are against a wall. Your boyfriend may just run off in the middle of a mugging, your girlfriend could dump you when you loose your job. You just don't get to sit down curl up and cry when that happens because life in general dosent care about you or you…
/r/ExRedPill15/08/19 04:48 PM
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Marry someone who has more to lose than you. Don't date people who make less than you and you should be fine.
/r/ExRedPill15/08/19 01:33 PM
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Not wrong to see it as a potential threat though.
/r/ExRedPill15/08/19 01:30 PM
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The bar is pretty low
/r/ExRedPill04/08/19 11:30 AM
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You are gonna ignore the "women treat all strange men as threats" Then. Ok ok.
/r/ExRedPill12/07/19 07:51 AM
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First rule of gun safety is to treat all guns as if it is loaded. Much like how women treat all strange men as threats. This is not controversial, but it us when you apply it to women.
/r/ExRedPill11/07/19 09:50 AM
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As much as I want to embrace this sub, the entire spei of answers seem extremely blue pilled if not down right traditional conservative. It seems too preachy and addresses everything with a tone of moral superiority that does nothing to answer his argument. (Some of his argu!enter are bad enough that they take care of themselves )
/r/ExRedPill28/06/19 09:34 AM
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The essentialist notions of a relationship. The ,near certainty that all men and women will use each other subconsciously. And the aching loneliness and stone cold acceptance that realisation brings. I am pretty much there now. I don't believe that relationshipd are worth getting into because of how !uch it costs to maintain and for do little payoff. Much easier to be comfortably alone
/r/ExRedPill11/06/19 12:20 PM
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That's not the answer he asked for. Sure you feel that quantity sex is not worth it, from the position of somone able to get it. His situation is that of someone who has had and is unable to get quantity sex. It's a different situations with a difference of the importance attached to it.
/r/ExRedPill12/05/19 06:21 PM
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Wouldn't care. They have chosen to live lives that don't affect men much so there is no problem.
/r/ExRedPill25/04/19 11:32 AM
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It's less cultish and more go your own way. It's less "fuck women" too. It's about as healthy as MGTOW can get Why? Why do you so desperately need a cult to tell you how to think and act? Why can't you just figure it out yourself like a normal person Why do people need to identify as man or women, why do trans people exist. Some people exist without lables, some people seek them out. If anything a community of like minded individuals can cause a lot of change, That's what any sub is about.
/r/ExRedPill25/04/19 11:15 AM
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You should checkout MGTOW 2
/r/ExRedPill24/04/19 04:26 AM
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The red pill isn't inherently bigoted. It's been hijacked by ideologues. The fundamental idea of TRP and MGTOW is work on yourself before you try to work on the world. Disagree. The fundamental thought process is that the world is unfavourable. And that's since you can't change anyof it, you should work on the only thing you can control - you
/r/ExRedPill24/04/19 04:26 AM
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Gotta admit. Boss move.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen15/04/19 07:31 AM
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I would say that the trends reverse by 30 And that at that point if the guy is mildly settled he has an easier time dating women younger than him than before. Not teenagers but young to mid 20s. A successful man in his 40s hands down more SMV compared to women his age. He would probably be able to date in the 30s too.
/r/ExRedPill12/04/19 06:28 PM
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How? You don't believe that something that is demonstrably true ? And you want us to do the heavy lifting for you?
/r/ExRedPill12/04/19 05:08 PM
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I think the best yardstick of any relationship is reciprocity. If you are always around to help her out as a friend and don't mind being her friend inspite of liking her there are 2 things you have to look into. Does she always come to you when she needs something.? And is she there there for you when you need her help? If the answers are yes and no respectively she is using you and either you disengage or bring up the lack of reciprocity. As far as a romantic entanglement, do not expect it , If…
/r/ExRedPill07/04/19 06:48 AM
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To the person above sure. But most people who use it or even use it tongue in cheek do understand the "implications"
/r/ExRedPill04/04/19 12:36 AM
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The term alpha is a lot more than confidence. It conveys a lot of nuance that the speaker doesn't need to specify anymore and even give a context as to what to expect from the caheecter defined as alpha.
/r/ExRedPill03/04/19 06:01 PM
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It's not so much the trait as the perception of a man in a social situation. Sure the most loud and charismatic personality in a group who leads them around is probably alpha in that situation, and maybe he is a follower with other friends. The quiet nerd in the corner may be the coldest motherfucker in court and in negotiations. At the end of the day it's confidence and how the women veiw it. Ofcourse inthe red pill, an alpha is someone who can get sex at the same rate and with as little effort…
/r/ExRedPill03/04/19 05:58 PM
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I don't think it is. It's a malediction. Do not assume that women are sugar and everything nice. Be constantly vigilant lest you get taken for a ride.
/r/ExRedPill03/04/19 04:38 AM
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You do realise that we are exredpill, not askfeminists? Ask them. They would help you out better than we ever could. But sure, tell them that women have contributed by 1. Helping us get here as a species. Seeing as they bear children. Being their mothers and sisters (might be a shit argument considering their shitty family may have led them down this path) Amelia Earhart Marie Curie. That lady who invented the polyphonic radio the ones involved with codebreaking in WW2 Countless nurses during wa…
/r/ExRedPill01/04/19 03:08 PM
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I guess the problem is with expectation. It is said that men value abract things like honour and loyalty. Which is why most of us unequivocally hold the man responsible for the end of a relationship when he cheats. But society makes us believe that women are the more loyal, more honourable among the 2 sexes and when that illusion cones crashing down, it's difficult to not look at them with disgust. The way they have a back up plan in their heads, They way they sometimes conciously sometimes subc…
/r/ExRedPill29/01/19 08:01 AM
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Men have a bias for women. Women also have bias for women. What this means is that society at large ascribes possible intentions to a woman's actions more than they would to men. It very difficult to recognise someone as evil if we are conditioned to not see it. Naturally to hold them accountable and to see them as they really are some amount of deprogramming is necessary. And just to reiterate. Under the law, AWALT. That's a fair statement.
/r/ExRedPill06/01/19 05:47 PM
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Problem is that, men don't see things in terms of men and women, unlike women. They will never set up leniencies for men as a group. Historically men have always voted against their self interest. Women never have and will never have to. That is our !andante in society. To protect women even at the cost to ourselves.
/r/PussyPassDenied30/11/18 03:48 AM
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There wasn't anything sexual about those acts. Atleast not in the examples given. Are all exchanges of affection within a monogamous relationship sexual? What makes you or any court qualified to judge that?
/r/MensRights08/08/18 01:04 PM
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What a delightful rabbit hole
/r/MensRights15/07/18 09:31 AM
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