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Oh I'm definitely gonna win this one. Arm hair. Any gender, I like it.
/r/seduction11/07/25 01:13 AM
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I'm not white but ok
/r/seduction21/02/25 01:54 AM
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Dude NYC is the easiest city for hookups definitely in the US and perhaps in the world
/r/seduction21/02/25 01:52 AM
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Bars bars? Never. But to be fair I rarely go to typical bars and when I do it's with my friends and I normally just hang out with them. Bars with dance floors/night clubs? Routinely. You gotta go out dancing man it's a great time.
/r/seduction21/02/25 01:51 AM
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I can't feed you flirtatious lines. As you've said, you've already tried memorizing lines and it doesn't work for you. Why are you demanding me to teach you in a method that's never worked for you? There are no straightforward answers. You have to discover who you are deep inside; I can't tell you who you are. Like I said, each of these steps can take years. Keep practicing on this issue, take risks, and give yourself time to unveil your true self. You can practice flirting with all sorts of peo…
/r/seduction20/02/25 12:20 PM
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Well yea memorizing lines won't help you make an authentic connection. Women can sniff that out instantly. You have to be you, just an improved version of you. You're going to have to take some risks and fail a lot to learn how to flirt. You have to get away from the logical, and into the emotional. There's many different avenues to take which will accomplish this goal. I'm a big fan of making guesses about her. It's hard to say much more than that. If I say more, I'll simply be explaining how I…
/r/seduction20/02/25 02:37 AM
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Honestly man this sub is pretty useless. It's a bunch of guys who can't get laid trying to help each other get laid. The most upvoted posts are usually the ones complaining about how bad dating is and pointing fingers usually at feminism, rather than taking any accountability for themselves. I get downvoted here all the damn time for telling dudes they need to shape up, and giving them exact guidelines on how to do so. No one wants to hear that hard work pays off, because it means they have to d…
/r/seduction19/02/25 10:49 PM
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This comment section is so fucked. I've been to Europe. When I was bad with women here in the states, I was also bad with women in Europe. Now it's vice versa, I'm good with women on both continents. There's beautiful women here and over there. Beautiful women are not scarce in the US, that's fucking ridiculous. If girls aren't talking to you, then you just don't know how to talk to girls yet. Girls love to talk. It sounds like you think you're more attractive that you really are. The good news …
/r/seduction13/02/25 01:29 PM
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Honestly a lot of girls are lying about it, and if you push through it you get laid a lot more. Just say something cheeky like "well obviously you're looking for an upgrade then" or "great he can come with us on our date" or my personal favorite as a bi guy, "me too." I used to do that. But I realized a few months back it's just not worth the time. Those types of girls do not hesitate to lie or manipulate to get what they want. They lack social skills and confidence to just say the truth. These …
/r/seduction11/02/25 08:09 PM
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Porn mutes your attraction to real life girls by desensitizing you, and it makes the visual aspects of attraction so predominant that it's hard to recognize other elements of attraction, such as attraction to a woman's voice. You need to be receptive to the full array of attraction to build enough desire to overcome the fear of approaching. Porn mutes your ability to be attracted to women, limiting your ability to build desire, meaning you never cross that threshold required to actually make the…
/r/seduction11/02/25 06:57 PM
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As I said in my comment, porn robs you of incentive to approach in ways you can't even realize when you're regularly using it.
/r/seduction11/02/25 05:57 PM
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The fallacy here is assuming women's attraction is based primarily on appearance, like ours is. It's not. 95% of men could turn themselves into a man women would be attracted to. The problem is it requires work - but that's totally within your control. I'd much rather be a man, where I can put work in to become more attractive, vs being a woman who's either born with it or not.
/r/seduction11/02/25 05:43 PM
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Do you watch porn? I used to think like you. Then I quit porn (easypeasy method, highly recommend.) That's when I realized basically all of my dating issues revolved around porn use. I used for the last time on a Monday, the following Sunday I was at a dance class. I met a woman there, and the first thing I noticed was when she talked, the sound/vibration of her voice sent warm tingles up my arm (important detail - I had my hand on her back because we were dancing.) I'd never felt anything like …
/r/seduction11/02/25 05:40 PM
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I mean I'm natural but I'm pretty jacked honestly. I occasionally see dudes bigger than me but it's pretty rare. Particularly among dancers, who tend to be leaner. I'm definitely the biggest guy in the 3 different classes I'm currently enrolled in. There's one guy I see at socials occasionally who's completely yoked and definitely bigger than me, but off the top of my head, he's the only guy I can think of who's bigger than me in my city's dancing scene. I've been lifting for 15 years at this po…
/r/seduction06/02/25 05:30 PM
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This has happened to me in numerous US cities...Seattle, Pittsburgh, Boston, NYC, Philly, Chicago. Cities with higher hispanic populations it probably helps that I speak Spanish.
/r/seduction06/02/25 05:15 PM
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I did this for a while. It was a good practice in empathy and connection. You have to be super outcome independent though, they almost always go back to their bad habits. I can think of a handful of exceptions where the girl improved her life after me, and me and her only broke up because of incompatibility. But 90%+ are addicted to the toxicity. I'm too damn old for that shit anymore. I always ask about exes early. If she has a handful of exes and she's chill about it...like she'll say they're …
/r/seduction06/02/25 04:57 PM
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I don't understand how this can happen? I'm also a social dancer and girls just like...give me their phone numbers. They make up all kinds of excuses. Recently, one told me I needed to guess her cat's name. There was another one who I watched film the demo, then turn to me and say her phone was broken and she needed me to send her the video. And often, the girl texts me first. I guess I am in very good shape and it shows, but I'm not that attractive, like objectively I have a below average face …
/r/seduction04/02/25 11:11 PM
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Quit porn and go down on your girl.
/r/seduction04/02/25 10:43 PM
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Move air through your vocal chords causing them to vibrate. Women love vibrations
/r/seduction03/02/25 02:16 PM
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There's plenty of solutions to your problems, but if you admit defeat you'll never find the solutions. 4 hours is TONS of time, what are you talking about??? 4 hours is enough time for a dance lesson, a drink with classmates after, and you still have an hour or two at home to relax and eat before bed. Meals can be prepped beforehand to save time. People always talk about how long their "chores" take them but I can do a solid clean of my 600 sq ft apartment in an hour once a week and that's more …
/r/seduction03/02/25 02:14 PM
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Find guys who are successful enough to live on their own and kind enough to give you something warm to wear while at his place
/r/seduction01/02/25 02:39 PM
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There was once a Christmas wreath crafting event at the bar next to my apartment, it was 99% women. What a great day that was.
/r/seduction30/01/25 12:23 AM
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Right? If a drugged out homeless guy walked up to you and said "there's aliens in the river" would you believe him? This woman proved herself to be a weird judgemental bitch in 5 seconds. Her opinion on anything should be disregarded without thought.
/r/seduction28/01/25 01:08 AM
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No I didn't do anything. I even drank hella coffee which is supposed to stunt your growth, but it didn't matter. Some men don't stop growing until their mid 20s, it's a thing. Depends on your genetics.
/r/seduction28/01/25 01:07 AM
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Because not knowing is worse than losing. I learned that lesson enough times that I don't mind the losses anymore - at least I know she's not interested. So many what ifs from when I first started dating at age 27 after my marriage fell apart. No more what ifs these days. Sometimes too what was once an L becomes a dub. I've got 400+ numbers in my phone. You'd be surprised how often an old name pops up unexpectedly.
/r/seduction28/01/25 12:31 AM
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"But I also feel like with every new chick I bang or every new chick I add to the rotation, it gets harder to stick to one. Like: Why would I ever commit to one woman when I can have 5-7?" This is not a problem I have so I can't really help you with that. I'd give just about anything to find one loyal woman to be with for the rest of my life. The only reason I've resumed multi-dating is because women these days are incredibly flaky and I've found it impossible to encounter women who are willing …
/r/seduction27/01/25 04:12 PM
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Sorry I'm a short guy and love the tall girls. I want to feel like I'm climbing a tree when I'm in bed with her
/r/seduction27/01/25 03:22 PM
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Same as anyone else. Maximize your potential in looks and personality. Go outside all the time. Talk to women like they're normal humans. Flirt with the ones that seem extra interested in you and then ask them out if you guys vibe well together. If it's any condolence to you, I grew about 4 inches when I was 20/21. Same happened to my dad. When I first got my EMT cert at the age of 19 I could stand straight up in the back of the ambulance. By the time I quit when I was 22, I had to be hunched ov…
/r/seduction27/01/25 03:21 PM
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I know man, I know. I want a wife like you wouldn't believe. In fact I was married from 19-27, but she cheated and left. When I first started dating at the age of 27, I was very conservative and didn't sleep with anyone, but then the girls won't stick around. I post here because yea woohoo I figured out how to frequently sleep with women and I guess lots of guys want to figure that out. It's really not that complicated, you just go outside all the time, and treat women like normal humans and wat…
/r/seduction27/01/25 12:31 PM
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I understand why you feel there's that implication, but it's not inherent. In the past I've tried this and it worked. I'd only genuinely pursue one woman at a time, but I would have others waiting in the wings for when the first girl started flaking. I had to do this because my job and life were too busy to actually multi-date. I'd start losing track of who I'd had conversations with and then make references to a conversation with girl a while in a conversation with girl b which got pretty messy…
/r/seduction26/01/25 10:40 PM
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Don't base your decision off of how theoretical girls might feel about it. Do it for you. I had mine about a year ago. I was 29 at the time. It went smoothly and recovery was simple. The only difference is, I don't like having my balls sucked on as much as before, they're a bit more tender now. I had a bunch of scar tissue on one side though from an previous injury, and that's the side that still gives me mild issues from time to time. But the tradeoff is, never having to worry about kids. As fa…
/r/seduction25/01/25 01:49 PM
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Dude I've talked to you before months ago. I sorta doubt your claim of approaching 400 women given that you also complain that your city lacks any eligible women. Regardless of if it's true or not, you need to take a break from worrying about dating for several months. It's obviously impacting your mental health in a very negative way, which is understandable, navigating the dating world is challenging. To meet that challenge, you have to build a strong foundation. That means you need a communit…
/r/seduction24/01/25 02:10 AM
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Pining over insta girls from a distance is the creepiest, simpiest behavior I can think of. Go outside and talk to real girls. Most these insta girls are just in it for the validation anyways, and they want validation from like...athletes and male models and stuff, not your simpy ass. Go to interesting places where the people have more depth than just "oh look I'm hot." Learn challenging skills to gain respect of the people around you. Connect with girls for more reasons than just their "heavenl…
/r/seduction21/01/25 07:47 PM
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My social circle is almost nonexistent Well, that would be your problem. Building a social circle as an adult can seem really intimidating, but I found it's simply a matter of finding a handful of regular activities you like and going there regularly over the course of months/years. I've made friends at the gym, rock climbing, run groups, and bar trivia nights. Personally, the best location for expanding my social circle has been dance lessons and events, I highly recommend that if it's somethin…
/r/seduction20/01/25 07:16 PM
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I've had the same experience, all my relationships that lasted more than 6 months came from the girl chasing me. But, in order to develop the social skills, abundance mentality hobbies, and lifestyle that attracted those women to me, I had to put in a ton of active work and face a lot of rejection. Would those girls have been attracted to me if I had not chosen to take action time and time and time again over the course of years? Unlikely. And, even in these circumstances, I've still had to do s…
/r/seduction20/01/25 02:57 PM
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This will sound crazy but what helped me was to become friends with the guys I was jealous of. Some of them genuinely hit the lottery in life and just had it really easy...good parents, supportive friends all throughout life, naturally developed strong social skills without even trying. It's nice to have some "undamaged" friends like that as a baseline to aim for. And for example, one of my friends from a normal happy family like that always invites me to Thanksgiving. It's so nice to have a nor…
/r/seduction18/01/25 01:42 PM
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Exactly. Be happy those dudes found someone. They probably put in a lot of work to build the confidence to do so. Hell, they'd probably make good friends if OP wasn't so damn jealous.
/r/seduction18/01/25 01:32 PM
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Seattle's not that cold. I'm a Tacoma native who's lived all over since then. Seattle area rarely gets below freezing and rarely snows. It'll be maybe 45 and piss drizzle for 8 months straight. But not the really cold weather you get in places like Toronto.
/r/seduction18/01/25 01:28 PM
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Right it's hard to come back here to post now that I'm where I want to be. Too busy living life.
/r/seduction18/01/25 01:22 PM
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Yea I was about to say, he had the opposite experience of me. They were happy to hook up but not interested in long term. I was in cities and dating girls I met at dance clubs which I'm guessing skewed my results. I also speak good Spanish, and similarly, my friends who don't speak Spanish did not have much luck with locals.
/r/seduction18/01/25 01:19 PM
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Why is this so low? I do great thanks to dance lessons and events, and I know tons of dudes who absolutely clean up. The one limiting factor is you have to actually want to dance. Girls can smell it on you instantly if you're just there to get laid. Dancing is hella fun once you get over the anxiety of not knowing what you're doing. It's my favorite thing to do. For me it took about a year of lessons to get over my anxiety, but I'm also a naturally anxious person so I'm sure others it would be q…
/r/seduction07/01/25 11:45 PM
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modern society where we don’t have to risk our lives in war, or even approach women because we can just swipe left and right on an app turned us all into pussies that cry about getting left on read, now we gotta fix it. Such a great line. You've really captured my frustrations with this sub perfectly. Dudes are caught up over small details or are asking advice about one particular woman who obviously isn't that interested. My one gripe with your post is, I found therapy very helpful in ways cold…
/r/seduction07/01/25 11:27 PM
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Go to the same places regularly. Befriend the bartenders/servers and tip them extremely well. Meet the other regulars. DO NOT HOOK UP WITH THEM. Befriend them. Then hook up with the girls who come in randomly. Instant social proof. Now you're never out alone. If you're in a new city or traveling or something, then the only correct answer is to own it. Lying is a blatant display of insecurity.
/r/seduction07/01/25 11:23 PM
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This is a good way to handle it in the moment. You can't have a logical discussion when she's emotional. But once she's calmed down, maybe the next day, there should be a firm conversation that this behavior is not acceptable. If she wants reassurance, I'm happy to provide that, but she will ask for it directly, rather than accusing me of cheating. That's the type of nonsense that makes me say it's just fucking easier to be single. And that's the thing girls will never understand....she's not co…
/r/seduction07/01/25 11:17 PM
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I am highly valuable to my company, and am compensated as such. Regardless, that's drama I don't need to deal with especially when there's billions of other girls out there. It's a moral value for me to never even come close to exploiting that power dynamic, and it's something that I simply won't compromise on.
/r/seduction07/01/25 12:24 AM
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Yea man the dating game is brutal. But your bros got your back. We'll be honest, even when it's a harsh truth, but we're here for you and we all know the struggle. This shit will make you stronger and will turn you into the man you need to become. Hard, but not hardened, if that makes sense.
/r/seduction06/01/25 08:18 PM
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Sounds like honestly, it was a pity kiss. If she'd wanted to kiss you, it woulda been a good kiss. Or it coulda been a last ditch effort on her part to see if she felt any romantic spark with you. But probably the former. Especially since she paid for dinner. That sounds like girl knew she had no interest, didn't want you to feel like she owed you something. Which, respect to the girl for at least picking up the check in that situation. Vast majority of girls these days don't have that level of …
/r/seduction06/01/25 08:12 PM
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Ya welcome to dating apps brother. The only solution from a male perspective is abundance, it levels the playing field, because you can be sure as hell that she has a thousand guys in her pocket competing for her attention. You need to develop a lifestyle that gives you plenty of opportunities to date. This needs to be your #1 priority because basically nothing else in your dating life will work right until you have options. You'll over invest in the wrong girls and you'll appear desperate in yo…
/r/seduction06/01/25 08:04 PM
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Never in a more formal/professional setting such as an office. Especially the last 4-5 years where I've been in management, very much a no-no, and for good reason. The power dynamic there can absolutely be manipulative. However when I worked in food service, different story. I'm also ok with dating people who are work-adjacent, so to speak. I'd never date a coworker at my company nor a client, but I have gone out with say, a girl who works in my building but for a different company, or a girl I …
/r/seduction06/01/25 07:06 PM
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Not a 10 but better looking than me, and I'm attractive enough to get dates so if he tried he'd do great.
/r/seduction05/01/25 01:10 PM
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Yea that's what I miss about the past. More people out and about. And without cell phones people tended to be more engaged in their surroundings when they did go out. You'd always have some people who just wanted to read the newspaper or a magazine or something but in general people were more present. If you went out and met a girl, you weren't competing for her attention with her 1,000 male Instagram followers in her pocket.
/r/seduction04/01/25 07:32 PM
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I think this is an overall good post but misses a key trap I see a lot of guys fall into: They can't manage the pain, so they numb. Most commonly with porn, but also alcohol, weed, video games, etc. You have to make space for yourself to FEEL angry, sad, lonely. Ideally, with friends or family, otherwise with a therapist or with G-d. It's important not to wallow in the emotion - feel it, receive the care from family/friends/therapist/G-d, and then take action to improve the situation. I see SO M…
/r/seduction04/01/25 06:52 PM
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Asking someone's race can absolutely come off as threatening. No need to over complicate things. Either give her a complement on something she's wearing or her smile or her hair, or if you can't think of a complement, just say hi and ask for her name. Especially in a club. Not much talking to do in a club. Say hi and then dance. If you're bad at thinking of complements, practice on your friends and other random dudes you bump into. I practice complements on my gym bros all the time. Getting good…
/r/seduction04/01/25 03:29 PM
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Nah man Miles Davis peed his pants on a crowded bus, it's cool now.
/r/seduction04/01/25 03:27 PM
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Yea this post reeks of dude expecting sex to just magically land on his lap. It takes work to be single and getting laid regularly. The work required is actually really fun, at least for me, because the work is simply to go outside and interact with people. But it is work to come home, tired from my job, and then get dressed up and go out into the cold/heat/rain most nights. And I'm not a big bar guy, so I go out and do hobby stuff, which requires me to engage my brain and body. Dudes are too fu…
/r/seduction03/01/25 12:41 AM
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Oh yea that's a much better metric to measure yourself on, if you're not making excuses anymore that's a massive step forward. The hot girls do get hit on a lot so there's this appearance of competition, but it's often creepy, too forward, and dehumanizing to who she is as a person. Because of that, by simply being reasonably respectful and confident and focusing on making an emotional connection, I've found it's just as easy to get hot girls as it is to get more average girls.
/r/seduction30/12/24 09:45 PM
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So for you, is how many girls you approach after an intervention a metric to determine the success of said intervention?
/r/seduction30/12/24 09:03 PM
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Yea if that's your default assumption, confirmation bias will rule your life and prevent you from taking the risks you need to take to grow. Again, start with introducing doubt. "Maybe she's single. Probably not. But maybe." You'd be surprised how many hot women struggle with relationships. Guys get jealous and don't have the mental frame to handle being a hot woman's partner.
/r/seduction30/12/24 09:02 PM
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And the impediment is always ego. The more I release my ego, and give G-d full control to enact G-d's plans, the better my life gets. Love that Jung line. The unconscious should not be hated. He should be loved. He was formed to protect you from past threats, and it's really hard for him to understand those past threats are no longer present. He's an innocent byproduct of pain and deserves nothing but love.
/r/seduction30/12/24 09:00 PM
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I start coffee dates by saying I'm not planning to have sex on the first date. Takes the pressure off for the girl. Ironically when I started saying this, I started getting laid regularly on first dates. Girls are weird man. In case the coffee date goes well, have a second place in mind that's more intimate vibes. Depending on the girl, there's a couple options near me: A speakeasy wine cellar which is super cozy, candles on the table type of place; a classy whisky bar; a mildly upscale brewery …
/r/seduction30/12/24 08:50 PM
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That other guy is an idiot and that behavior would get you kicked out of most reputable dance clubs. Don't take his advice. Don't kiss girls on the dance floor, ever, and don't make her touch your ass. Honestly it's a disgusting suggestion that borders on assault. Eye contact is your first friend. Look for girls who are able to hold eye contact with you. It helps if you're already out dancing by yourself or with other friends. If you'd like to dance with a girl, just hold your hand out. That's a…
/r/seduction26/12/24 07:27 PM
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What you've suggested is really risky for a beginner especially. In fact what you've suggested would definitely get you kicked out of at least 3 of the clubs I dance in. You can get away with acting like that at the more trashy/grindy types of places, but those are also less than ideal places to meet quality women. Definitely do not force a woman to put her hands on your ass during your first dance together, and certainly don't kiss her. I'm friends with a bouncer at one of the dance clubs I go …
/r/seduction26/12/24 07:15 PM
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Masculinity has been under attack since the 70s. Young men do not have strong role models and from a young age we are discouraged from building the confidence and skills necessary to be a strong man. Don't make fun of men for falling victim to a societal issue, particularly men in this subreddit who are at least trying to address their weaknesses.
/r/seduction26/12/24 02:08 PM
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I mean, if this is genuinely something you struggle with, it won't be as easy as flipping a switch. It starts with challenging the idea. You don't try to fight it, but rather, introduce doubt. "She's too hot for me," your reaction to that should be "well, maybe not." If you try to just smother it, you're not really dealing with it, but rather sweeping it under the rug. I'd recommend doing shadow work, working to learn who your shadow self is, learning to love the shadow self and care for him. Th…
/r/seduction26/12/24 01:04 PM
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I once became exclusive with a girl within 3 months of knowing her. I don't do that anymore. I give them at least a year before even becoming exclusive. They can't hide crazy that long. Doesn't necessarily have to be a year of dating, if I knew her as a friend/acquaintance beforehand. So yea as to why a man would willingly marry a woman after 3 months...when 90% of divorces are initiated by women...it's like you're gambling half your life savings plus lawyer fees on a coin flip. It's insane.
/r/seduction24/12/24 06:26 PM
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Average looking women are just as fucking annoying as the hotties, I've never understood guys that settle on appearance.
/r/seduction24/12/24 02:38 PM
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At nigh clubs with loud music you don't talk to the girls in there really. You just dance. You step outside if you want to talk.
/r/seduction24/12/24 02:33 PM
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Or just don't drink much. I rarely have more than one drink when I go out to clubs. I usually have no drinks. But I go to more dancing type clubs so there's many people who don't drink.
/r/seduction24/12/24 02:32 PM
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That's what's great about being 30 man. 30 is the best age for being single. You can still get the 20 somethings if you want them, and finally the fine older ladies will take your flirting seriously. If you think 40 year olds are great, go get yourself a 50 year old.
/r/seduction24/12/24 02:22 PM
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I feel much less scrutinized by older women than younger women. Most younger women it feels like they're looking for you to screw up. Older women tend to have better social skills and can even help me recover from my own slip ups.
/r/seduction24/12/24 02:22 PM
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Dang it's nice to hear this from a woman. Thank you for working on this. I obviously can't speak for all men, but I know I'm working hard to be better at my role in this, too...gently leading, balancing a sense of security with the excitement of risk, and helping the woman's insecurities disappear. It's hard work to improve in this way but I genuinely love the work. Thank you for giving us grace and a clear path forward.
/r/seduction24/12/24 02:20 PM
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Then you live in the wrong place and you should move, at least if you'd like to live the single life and get laid regularly.
/r/seduction23/12/24 05:13 PM
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Yea that was the fun part of being an EMT. The rest of it sucked. Well, the nurses sucked too I guess
/r/seduction09/12/24 07:48 PM
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When dancing with them, do you keep the distance or try to pull them closer ? Depends on the style of dance and the girl. If it's your first dance together, do not initiate any ass to crotch closeness. Face to face closeness is generally acceptable, particularly in more formal dance clubs. I dance a lot of Salsa and Bachata and it's necessary to be relatively close to execute the moves. Also how do you get their attention, do you tap her on her shoulder or something ? Absolutely not. Approach fr…
/r/seduction24/11/24 03:01 PM
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Reach out your hand, it's an invitation to dance. Literally that easy. Depending on the volume of the music, I'll say my name, and she'll say her name. Then you dance. When the song switches, tell her thank you, give her a hug, and then find different girls to dance with. A girl accepting a dance with you is not necessarily an indicator of interest, girls just like to dance. However, if you dance with a girl, and then she continues giving you looks, that's generally a good indicator of interest.…
/r/seduction24/11/24 01:19 PM
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You're several steps ahead of yourself. Are you even kissing them on dates? If not, start there. Don't even worry about getting them back at your place until you're consistently kissing girls on first dates.
/r/seduction23/11/24 01:23 PM
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If you're actually getting dates, then good news, the hardest work has already been done. The majority of men struggle just to get dates. If I was in your shoes, I'd actually text less and focus on your in person interaction. A phone call before the date/to plan the date, text confirmation day of, that's all you need. On the date, you have to get into her emotions. Not like a therapist asking "how did that make you feel?" But rather attuning to her reactions and making observations about her. Wh…
/r/seduction23/11/24 01:22 PM
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I mean I'm glad that works for you. I've also dated well over 100 women (and men but that's a different topic.) I've also been in an 8 year relationship that ended brutally for me. Regardless, I'd still love to find one to marry. I agree with your premise of enjoying whatever state you're in and making the most of it, but I'd still like to find a LTR and cohabitate. You're trying to get everyone here to think your way is the logical way. It's the logical way for you, but not for all of us.
/r/seduction21/11/24 10:37 PM
4

Moving to a neighborhood with better venues. I moved to the most desirable neighborhood in my city. Girls love coming to this area. Having first dates at the bar around the corner, where I know everyone (social proof,) it makes a huge difference, and all the logistics fall into place easier now. I've found it's way easier to get a girl into my apartment if it's a short walk away, compared to driving. It's weird, girls will sooner jump into bed with a man than jump into his car
/r/seduction21/11/24 12:58 PM
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This is the best advice for phone calls I've ever seen on this sub. I do relatively well for myself in the dating world but avoid phone calls because they historically have not gone well for me. Definitely gonna put this advice to use this weekend and start trying to get at least decent at phone calls.
/r/seduction09/11/24 03:56 PM
4

Bad diets, sedentary lifestyle, and high alcohol usage are likely also contributing factors to that.
/r/seduction07/11/24 06:45 PM
1

You need a better greasy taco truck, at mine I'm out $15 and that includes a solid tip
/r/seduction30/10/24 11:36 PM
1

An average man with an average social life should run into 5-6 girls a year. If you are not experiencing this yet, then you don't have your life in enough order yet to start trying to get laid.
/r/seduction30/10/24 11:22 PM
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It was effortless to get 5-6 medium quality girls a year. It was tons of effort to get regularly sleep with attractive women, definitely not easy. My point is, an average man with an average social life should run into 5-6 girls a year. If a man is not yet average, he should focus on other aspects of his life, such as career, friends, and living situation, before trying to get laid and coming to this subreddit. This subreddit should be for average men who want to become above average men.
/r/seduction30/10/24 11:21 PM
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I said 5-6 girls a year, not 70. Any average man with any semblance of a social life will run into 5-6 lays a year. And any man who isn't at least average shouldn't be on this subreddit yet, they need to get the other aspects of their life in order, such as career, friends, and living situation, before worrying about getting laid.
/r/seduction30/10/24 11:17 PM
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https://www.facebook.com/groups/465999534685294/ Yea...not even gonna bother responding to your other excuses when in literally 5 seconds I found the Salsa events in your city.
/r/seduction29/10/24 09:48 PM
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I mean good for you bro but this isn't really remarkable. This is how average guys get laid. If you're even mildly socially competent, you'll run into lays like this from time to time. Before I learned how to flirt properly and how to increase the perception of my SMV, I ran into situations like this usually 5-6 times per year. It's very common. I thought the idea of this subreddit was teaching techniques to make situations more favorable for ourselves, and how to attract girls who wouldn't norm…
/r/seduction29/10/24 09:40 PM
1

A couple of actionable suggestions for you: You seem to have a passion for animals. Volunteer at your local animal shelter. Sign up right now. Don't give me some dumb excuse. Just do it. I volunteer at my local shelter, it's a blast, I absolutely love it, and it feels so good to give back. When I first started volunteering, all of my fellow volunteers were older women. Very kind people, and made some great friends. I switched shifts a couple months back and now all my fellow volunteers are attra…
/r/seduction24/10/24 11:14 PM
1

I looked at your rate my tinder post. I'm bi for the record. I actually think you're really attractive, but to be fair you're 100% my type. Seriously bro. You're hot. However, your tinder profile SUCKS! Your one decent picture is the one that sorta has a dog in it, and even that one isn't great. Nothing stands out. Same indifferent facial expression in all the pictures. You aren't doing anything interesting, except the one picture where you're kinda petting a dog. You HAVE to stand out in online…
/r/seduction24/10/24 11:14 PM
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I'd say more that it should appear effortless to her. She may know you're trying to seduce her, but you should be so genuinely outcome independent that she's not fearful, and so skilled such that she doesn't know how difficult seduction is. Don't be afraid if you're not at that point of effortlessness yet. Women in general are very forgiving. They WANT this! They want men to lead gently, communicate effectively, and sweep her off her feet so skillfully that all of her insecurities disappear. The…
/r/seduction23/10/24 10:01 PM
2

I dated a mildly autistic woman, she was just as emotional as the rest of them. When she'd get horny she'd also get goofy, it was a lot of fun actually. And she was horny basically all the time too so it worked out well.
/r/seduction04/09/24 11:58 PM
2

Best time to plant a sex tree is a year ago, second best time to plant a sex tree is today
/r/seduction04/09/24 11:56 PM
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Yea exploring my bisexuality totally changed my opinion on this. Can't stand the guys that see me as nothing more than a sex toy. I need to feel cared about as a human before I can have sex. I'm a very sexual person and even still, this is the case. I suppose there's people where they don't care, but I think it's relatively rare. And yes this realization significantly improved my interactions with women. I first try to make a genuine human connection with her, and spend time getting to know her …
/r/seduction04/09/24 09:49 PM
2

I have no tattoos and did well in my single days. I have long hair so maybe that evens it out or something.
/r/seduction03/09/24 09:52 PM
4

A whole timeline with this woman in my life opened before me Well...there's your problem right there. Of course you were too scared to go speak to her! You'd already determined she'd be your future wife, without even consulting her first. This is exactly the type of thing that creeps women out, and it makes it soooo hard to overcome your approach anxiety. You need to practice introducing yourself to people. All people. Get good at introductions. Introductions need to be such a routine part of yo…
/r/seduction02/09/24 09:20 PM
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You mean the legal system where 93% of inmates are men? And where only 17% of men win custody? And the legal system which allows women to initiate no fault divorce at a 90% rate and then rewards them with alimony for it? That's the legal system you're talking about, correct?
/r/seduction27/07/24 05:34 PM
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A monogamous relationship with a high quality girl
/r/seduction29/06/24 01:55 PM
1

Exactly, either make a joke or say you're not sure and move on from it. And also get tested regularly cuz girls these days have insane body counts, and get a vasectomy if you never want kids. Easiest way to avoid the baby trap.
/r/seduction26/06/24 09:34 PM
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Women want to feel desired beyond just as a sexual object, regardless of their relationship goals (or lack thereof.) Going into it thinking it's easy sex/you can be super straight forward with it will lead to failure. You still need to flirt, escalate, and make her feel desired and special. You can't be super up front about it, and you'll have to help her make excuses basically to overcome her internal slut shaming.
/r/seduction10/06/24 11:00 PM
2

Bro protect your heart. This woman is trouble. She likely has a personality disorder. These are the types of women that get men false accusations, divorce raped, or even killed. She could totally fuck up your life.
/r/seduction01/06/24 05:24 PM
1

Yea this is BPD territory behavior. Run and don't look back.
/r/seduction01/06/24 05:22 PM
10

It's more like I'll put minimum effort in with a "difficult" woman while dating several others who are actively putting out. Often I've found, the challenge is worth it. The girls who have their guard up aren't as sexually fulfilled in general, so when she has a sexual opportunity in which she actually feels emotionally safe, she puts her entire being into it. I've also found that they tend to make better long term partners because they're way less likely to flirt with other men/cheat. Plus they…
/r/seduction01/06/24 05:18 PM
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I've been with some very reserved women, it usually takes a couple of dates before they open up. They tend to have a secret repressed freaky side which is tons of fun. However, they also tend to be very flaky. Spin other plates in the meantime and be patient with her. She will have to feel desired, not just in a sexual way, before she feels safe to open up. Also, if you didn't kiss her, it's not a date. At least kiss her. If she doesn't want to kiss after date one, she's not interested in you.
/r/seduction01/06/24 02:16 PM
1

How he moves on the dance floor is how he'll move in bed
/r/seduction28/05/24 10:27 PM
1

OK then think of a time you've given your hand an incredible bedroom experience
/r/seduction28/05/24 10:26 PM
1

I'm a bi guy. Guys who are good in bed make me feel emotionally secure and attractive from when we first meet. They display kindness and consistency of character throughout many contexts. They're often subtly dressed well - nothing flashy, but it all works together impeccably. Guys who are skilled in bed are normally skilled in other things, too, because they have an understanding of the process and discipline needed to improve skills.
/r/seduction28/05/24 10:25 PM
1

(copy pasting from another reply) Honestly there should be an entire subreddit dedicated to #3. Maybe there is one? I'm not on reddit enough to know. malefashionadvice has elements of this, but there's no subreddit I'm aware of that's fully dedicated to increasing overall dating/sexual appeal. It's something I'm still learning and evolving on, and I'm almost 30. It's such a diverse and wide ranging topic that presents so many growth opportunities, it's tough to even summarize all that I've learn…
/r/seduction18/05/24 05:29 PM
2

Honestly there should be an entire subreddit dedicated to #3. Maybe there is one? I'm not on reddit enough to know. malefashionadvice has elements of this, but there's no subreddit I'm aware of that's fully dedicated to increasing overall dating/sexual appeal. It's something I'm still learning and evolving on, and I'm almost 30. It's such a diverse and wide ranging topic that presents so many growth opportunities, it's tough to even summarize all that I've learned. Picking one brief lesson to sh…
/r/seduction18/05/24 05:28 PM
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Get women friends and listen to them talk about the sorts of guys they're interested in. It's far more diverse than you'd ever expect. I worked at Starbucks for a couple of years. Almost all of my coworkers were women. 40 hours a week of chatting for several years on end, I learned a LOT about women. Most women have a type and they date pretty exclusively within that type, although they make exceptions when they're really swept off their feet. I had a couple of takeaways from this revelation: Al…
/r/seduction18/05/24 02:20 PM
2

Sure I agree there's no fixed timeline, but if you go out with a woman and don't kiss her, was it really even a date?
/r/seduction23/04/24 01:03 AM
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It's the dad bod. There's no excuse for a dad bod. Quit eating so fucking much and get your lazy ass in the gym. Literally the number 1 best thing you can do in your life for women and men to treat you seriously. My entire life has been in shambles before, except I always go to the gym, and even at rock bottom people respect me because I'm jacked. That and I'm guessing you're afraid of women judging you negatively. You're a sexual creature. You find women attractive. Embrace it. Complement women…
/r/seduction23/04/24 01:02 AM
0

Do you have any male friends?
/r/seduction20/04/24 11:14 AM
2

Act however you want, there's lids for every pot. The more confident you are in yourself, the more lids you'll find. I am not a "tough guy" by any stretch of the imagination, I dance and have a garden...I've never had any issues finding lids. And also I don't have to get in bar fights to prove my value as a man so that's nice.
/r/seduction10/04/24 10:33 PM
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Oh that's interesting. It's the opposite in my city's scene. Men start dropping out once they realize how hard it is to lead. Beginner classes were a sausage fest and most the girls that were there were with their bf/husband. Now in the advanced classes it's way more girls than guys and most the girls are single. Socials are well balanced gender wise, slightly more girls than guys. I think a lot of guys get into it thinking it'll be easy pussy, but it's really not. First of all, you still need s…
/r/seduction31/03/24 01:42 PM
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