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Cold approach has opened up a whole new world of opportunities of dates and relationships, compared to my social circle. If you become good at approaching, it's much more effective for meeting single women than hobby groups which are mostly men or women who are taken
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 10:58 PM
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Well you're dead wrong because even during the peak of PUA Days in the early 2000s, men were having great success and that was during a time where picking up women in public was mainstream. A good approach isn't blatantly hitting on a woman, its a natural conversation that comes off as charismatic which women aren't being bombarded with. In todays world, where most people are chronically online and socially awkward, there's never been a better time to do this. Everytime after a successful approa…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 04:03 AM
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If you're being socially awkward and showing no graceful tact then yeah probably. I usually flow under the radar because it comes off as an organic conversation, you have to practice though.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 07:18 PM
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Lol I know, some really ugly mid looking dudes in relationships where their gf has an obsessive crush on them. Some of these guys have cheated too, and show toxic levels of arrogance. Power dynamics in a relationship isn't based on facial attractiveness it's based on your frame of confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 06:54 PM
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It's not that difficult, I used to do daygame and options are endless. Cafes, Parks, beach, the bus stop. I've gotten dates this way and I'm just an average guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 06:48 PM
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It's not as simple as giving a direct ultimatum, that can come from a place of weakness and look childish. It's should be subtlety implied through your actions that you're firm/know what you want and won't tolerate unacceptable behaviour. There's no easy answer, you have to build the foundation where the woman craves your approval and looks up to you. So most men wouldn't be able put a girl in her place easily because they likely haven't built that sort of dynamic.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 11:53 PM
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Going to agree on most of this but you don't necessary have to be tall. I'm 5"5 and I've had relationships where I could lead from a position of respect and where the girl felt safe and feminine with me. I provide value by being dominant and a positive masculine role, plus I do take care of my appearance and I'm muscular as well which helps on the outside.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 11:36 PM
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My frame would be from a position of power, not aggressive but calm and firm Correct Approach: "I'm disappointed and I know you can do better" (Firm Authoritative Tone) Vs Wrong Approach: " Honeyyy I really don't like how you did this :( can we please talk about it?" (Sad Pleading Voice) Why are you asking so many questions though? This shouldn't be that hard to understand
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 10:55 PM
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The only difference in modern dating is you have to actually be a masculine leader in the relationship that inspires her to follow you. While in the past you could rule over a relationship easily by being her stable paycheck. This is a great thing too because it's better to have a woman to follow you because she's afraid to lose you out of emotional attachment rather than being afraid to lose her bank account. If you ever meet a girl with an attachment style and can present yourself as her rock/…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 10:42 PM
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Speaking from experience this actually works, if you be firm and strong like a leader and make it clear that it's unacceptable that you'd literally be willing to walk away, they will listen. Tone and body language is everything though, it can't sound like a whiny ultimatum
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 09:11 PM
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The problem is definitely from both genders, it's on women to know what's acceptable behaviour in a relationship and avoid red flag behaviour but men can also can do their part and lead by example by setting boundaries on what should be acceptable and what shouldn't. It's going to sound controversial but the natural dynamic has always been for a man to lead while a woman follows. Women themselves even describe in vivid details about wanting to surrender in their feminine to a man with a strong m…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 09:03 PM
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You're literally proving my post... Why are you rationalising red flag behaviour 😭😭
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/24 08:56 PM
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This isn't necessarily true, I know short and unattractive guys who pull hot girls because they're dark triad and narcissistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 05:33 AM
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Very well said thanks!
/r/seduction12/05/24 07:00 PM
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That's true but organic approaches during the day are not easy to come by. The guys I know who get lays from daygame drive to college campuses or a busy plaza just to do that, The success rate is still low because it still comes off like you're a desperate player who has nothing better to do. I think this is where night game wins over daygame because you're in venues where you're surrounded by women and you genuinely want to be there for a reason other than just approaching girls.
/r/seduction11/05/24 08:24 PM
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OP your irrational fear is exactly why the red pill says the most important thing a guy can do is develop a strong frame. You really shouldn't let these silly takes on tiktok and social media have power over your life in this way. For every time a 22 year old tiktok egirl says something bratty you should just laugh and move on. This bear jn the woods stuff isn't worth entertaining further than a joke.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/24 07:16 AM
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You nailed it perfectly, the only takeaway from OPs post is to be that guy who gets posted. And it's not hard to do, enforced your boundaries and lead the relationship like a man, be the best version of yourself and she will respect you and want to show you off even if you're not that good looking.
/r/seduction10/05/24 10:10 PM
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Exactly this, playing it too safe and being too considerate turns off women. That's the whole meaning behind nice guys finish last
/r/seduction29/04/24 12:15 AM
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I've gotten several dates and a few hookups from cold approaching during the day. My biggest regret so far is not approaching more and losing my edge after I stopped practicing. Also it's not rare for people to meet through cold approach, usually it's something like "we struck up a convo at the cafe", "He complimented my dog at the park and we started talking" etc...
/r/seduction28/04/24 11:46 PM
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Well I enjoy it alot and it became more natural over time so its not a problem for me. I don't think rough or primal sex comes from an evil nature, its just the ability to go after what you desire, every man has this dominant nature if they truly tapped in.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 07:03 PM
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But I loved it
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 06:58 AM
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-Choking Spanking Tying Her Up Facials Verbally degrading her and making her feel beneath me deep intense strokes so when I'd fuck her it feels like I'm taking her by force and being aggressive
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 06:58 AM
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I wasn't shocked that she was turned on by rough sex nor did I judge her for it since I enjoyed it too. I was more shocked at the time by how my relationship changed outside the bedroom because of this new dynamic.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 03:01 AM
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I'm sharing an anecdote from my past LTR from college 4 years ago. It's not like this is a new revelation I discovered last week
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 02:56 AM
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"Watch their actions not their words"
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 11:30 PM
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Why not? The first time was awkward and she laughed when I spanked her. It doesnt mean she was mocking me or putting me down, looking back I find it funny too. If your ego is that fragile that you feel you can't recover from that then it's on you
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 11:02 PM
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If you're both young and the LTR is still in the early stages then it's possible. Also she didn't magically change overnight, the first time I tried to be dominant in bed she was laughing. Things changed organically over time.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 10:48 PM
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Not different at all, these things go hand in hand if you know what you're doing
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 10:45 PM
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I didn't want to go in detail but for me it involves lots of foreplay and ravishing her in a way that makes her feel good
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 10:33 PM
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It's one of those things that we all generally know but don't truly internalise at first. It's not just about dicking her down good but taking that dominant and primal energy and applying it through the relationship and seeing how much it changes things felt like a revelation to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 09:51 PM
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Can vouch for the short part, I'm 5"5 and most my casual & long term relationships and hookups have been with girls taller than me with no issues. The important thing is you still habe to be masculine in other aspects, having a confident and dominant frame really helps and muscles too. I've never been shit tested for my height but I have been shit tested for being too skinny before
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 08:59 PM
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Flirt and be playful, when you ask her a question and she responds you can lead with something flirty or related to what she said with a funny story or comment
/r/seduction11/04/24 10:51 PM
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I do cold approach and the first couple rejections sting but after that you get desensitised because it's literally not a big deal. I can tell people like OP don't approach because if they did they would understand that rejections in daygame are not personal. I get laid from daygame even though I'm average looking and short and that's because I approach it in a casual fun way without caring about results or getting validation from the woman. Treating it like a weird zero sum game where either yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 05:37 AM
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When I started doing cold approach I realised the thing that truly matters is connecting with the woman during the approach and making her feel something. Whether you flirt, make her laugh or form a connection through a meaningful convo. At that point looks don't matter as much as long as you look presentable and well groomed. You can be cute but if all you did was ask her boring questions for 30 seconds then it's not going to go anywhere after the number.
/r/seduction18/02/24 03:20 AM
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Its true, I'm attracted to bbw so I usually try to approach chubby girls and they put up more of a bitch shield due to insecurity and poor attitude. While pretty girls are more likely to be able to hold a conversation, it's the halo effect.
/r/seduction04/02/24 04:23 AM
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