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Get ready for that bachelor pad. If your entire concept of love is built around jealousy, you either need to work shit out or give up on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/24 02:36 AM
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I'm doubly confused: first, how are you going to build a cabin for $1500? Second, if you had a cabin you'd only go there twice?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 02:47 PM
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From a guy who's an outlier who did really well with fellow attractive outliers: fully agreed!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 03:57 PM
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I'm not dismissing that there are dudes with similar experience, however, I do think that dudes with similar experience who get into particular ideologies get much, much louder. This leads to only the worst of the worst experiences and only through one lens completely dominating a conversation purely through the fact that they have an organized ideology.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 08:11 PM
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Very post-strucuralist take! You'd like Roland Barthes and Simone de Beauvoir.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 08:00 PM
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Alternate explanation: there is a terminally online circlejerk that will barrage any subject that gives them an opening to rant, and the mods don't want want to be overrun by said circlejerk.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 07:50 PM
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Most aren't hopeless by any means. Approaching it like a new business makes sense to me. You're really fucking good at house painting. People who are good at building nuclear subs make more money. Do you A: optimize a house painting business, B: drop everything and start learning how nuclear subs work, or C: get pissed that you'll never make as much as a nuclear sub builder, theorize about it, and never paint a house.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 07:16 PM
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5'8" and unconventionally attractive treated me really well.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 05:38 PM
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No, but you can be an ad model.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 05:33 PM
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Birmingham is awful, Mobile is worse. I've heard a few of their college towns are okay-ish, but their cities fucking suck.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 07:55 PM
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You'd have to go insanely high, like we'll into triple digits. Even then, it'd be less about the fact that they'd fucked so much, more about why they didn't spend their time doing something more useful.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 07:07 PM
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Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 06:53 PM
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I do! Baby on the way too.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 06:39 PM
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I'm not much of a gambler, but I think you might want to double check on that (if you're in the US). Pretty sure it'd qualify as "other income" and is a great way to get audited.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 04:34 PM
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I thought Canada's laws were very sensible. Handguns are very difficult to get and you can't have them on you. Semi auto rifles aren't terribly difficult to get but are capped at 5 round magazines. Bolt actions and shotguns are easy to get. Very comprehensive screening, very strict red flags.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 06:49 PM
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I don't think that's a very good read of the quote, tbh. But I honestly know nothing about her. The way I read it is "date around with whomever you want, even against your better judgement. But, at the end of the day, you want someone who looks at you as equal". It's more of a "be impulsive and make mistakes, but dont let them define you, because finding your match is what's important" type thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 07:43 PM
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Isn't this just saying that everyone fucks? "Fuck around and see what you like", seems like the lesson. I see absolutely nothing wrong with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 07:17 PM
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I don't see what's wrong with this at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 07:12 PM
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Makes a noticeable difference during Midwestern winters, can't speak to it otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 07:10 PM
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Fully agree. Basically all of the men I've seen pictures of on here look totally fine, as in, I know a lot worse looking men who don't have their problems. I think a big part is some men being disillusioned that social interactions aren't at all logical. They try to look as good as possible and get a better job, because obvious a+b=c, then ignore how important "vibing" is because its not quanitifable. Then, get frustrated and say fuck the game entirely.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 06:08 PM
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If you don't live in Hyde Park, it gets annoying really quickly. But, good luck nonetheless!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 03:23 PM
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I look like a rich American, spent a lot of time in Colombia. Medellin feels about as sketchy as Phoenix. Never got robbed there, but did get pickpocketed by a gang of very passable trans women!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 03:37 PM
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I didn't. You seemed to imply that there were some "amazing" hobbies like they were some obscure thing that nobody did.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 08:15 PM
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Not who you were responding to: but you really can't think of any other hobbies that might be more attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 08:11 PM
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To be fair, you can still buy all of those things...
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 07:39 PM
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3 is dumb, you're not objectively a good match if you don't have chemistry. You can have good friends that are attractive, sometimes you even run into those wherein you're perfect on paper. But if you're not both trying to fuck each other's brains out after the first few dates, that's not chemistry.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 12:16 AM
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I'm sure that'll work out as well as the rest of the few million of you. Good luck!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 03:11 AM
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This should be your first clue that your compass isn't exactly pointed at North. Good luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 03:03 AM
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Yet I was able to sleep with all of them regardless... and respectfully so. I had a few encounters wherein someone seemed to have nothing in common with me but like the idea of the lifestyle I could afford, but again, you'd be an idiot to not sniff out someone you share nothing with beyond a life you could attain and they'd like to.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 09:40 PM
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As a guy who was exceptionally slutty and make very good money, I have never once found myself in a relationship with someone like this. I've encountered a few people I had very little chemistry with who seemed to be very interested in how much I made, but you'd be an idiot to not be able to sniff them out.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 09:10 PM
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It's so absurd. You can say "people generally like to date people who look good and have their shit together" and the response is "so male models and millionaires only?! Black pull beta buxx theories confirmed!!!!"
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 08:08 PM
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Seriously, you may as well just throw away the key at that point.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 08:14 PM
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That's on the more approachable than I was expecting! I have a friend who is deeply into the free jazz scene and I am unashamed to say I don't get the vast majority of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 11:39 PM
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First off, you can sue anyone for anything, so it's not a great metric. But: if you got drunk alone at home and went shopping online, you wouldn't stand a chance of winning. However, if they were to actively get you drunk, they would stand a chance of winning. If they were to be demonstrated to have specifically gotten you drunk in order to sell you something: hell yes, they'd be fucked.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 08:54 PM
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Fun fact: the guy who's up in trees/hanging around playing guitar is Jonathan Richman of the 70s band The Modern Lovers.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/23 02:06 AM
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Women have very different relationships with their genitals. For us, discussing sperm and eggs = cum inside someone, very cool. For women, this thing that sometimes feels great then sometimes bleeds and ruins my day if used properly will result in a weird slimey tiny person tearing me open. Not to mention, sperm donation is whacking into a cup. Egg donation is months of hormone treatments that make you feel like shit then an invasive collection procedure.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 06:13 PM
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Both chickens and cows. Their wild counterparts are very mean, and if either of our domestic versions got the idea to look up to their closest relatives we would eat a hell of a lot less meat.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 01:39 AM
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Clingers are rough. I had someone show up to my work after I failed to respond to 20 texts/calls/snaps in a 2 hour timeframe... after two dates. I cut off contact but she insisted upon breaking up with me 5 times via text over the next week.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 10:19 PM
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When i moved to Vancouver, the first shock that I had was seeing someone exactly my type standing in the middle of the street and realizing she was directing traffic for construction.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 08:19 PM
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Lol. My gf is half Senegalese and gets pegged as such whenever we are in neighborhoods with large amounts of African diaspora. Senegal and Ethiopia have a reputation for being very hot. Montreal in particular, but large Canadian cities in general seem to be exceptionally attractive. As far as why, I have an idea or two but they're purely speculative and very much based on my type.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 08:07 PM
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Go to Montreal, it is somehow even more filled with casual models.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 07:46 PM
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Agreed, from a marketing perspective you can be simultaneously niche and populist. "This is specifically for YOU!!!"* *all hundred million of you
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/23 05:17 PM
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Well put!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 04:40 PM
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i'm saying everything in consumer that requires lending will have bad earnings!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 12:48 AM
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Basically everything is a good buy right now. Quarterly earnings reports for anything that requires lending (i.e. anything that costs enough to require borrowing) are about to suck.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 12:03 AM
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"Not worrying" is just being confident. I know it's just a weird truism at this point, but talking to someone who doesn't follow every fucking thing with "I don't know for certain!!!! Maybe!!!!" IS very refreshing to me, and I suspect most people.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 03:13 AM
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I'm always so confused by people who like benzos. They do nothing but make me very bored and apathetic at best, very sleepy with memory lapses at worst.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 03:10 AM
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Have more conversations in person. People whose social life exists mostly online are generally uncivil, in my experience. In addition, the mode of argument is very different when you are face to face as opposed to two parties deeply entrenched in different sides of the internet with no real stakes.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 12:43 AM
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I want to think harder about names, mostly. Also just generally think about risks that are sex specific.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 01:06 AM
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I just have to say: fully agree. For the first time on this sub as far as I've seen, this is the only thing remotely close to reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 01:04 AM
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Needing a bang maid means not being able to take care of anything on your own, expecting both day-to-day tasks and sex to be constantly served up on a platter.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 12:52 AM
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Tinned fish is great. It's very funny seeing it spread around as fancy, date-worthy food.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 12:45 AM
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Do they just not want to know? We did every test under the sun, and are very on edge about results.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 12:43 AM
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The results of the sex of my upcoming child are delayed and I'm going absolutely insane over it. I just want to know annnnnything about what I'm getting into!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 12:32 AM
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Woof. I'm sorry you feel that way, but that may have to do with your experiences and should hr accepted as such instead of making broad assumptions about women and their sex drives.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 10:38 PM
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It's not selfishness, it's self-obsession. You're not withholding from anyone else (being selfish) if you do nothing but do you for you. Self obsession works really well to a degree, until you need outside input, healthy outside input usually requires consessions to be made. If you don't know how to get healthy outside input, you'll always be an island, hoping to convince someone to feed in with nothing in return (which will never last). All relationships come with concessions. Good relationship…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 09:20 PM
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I would agree. I'd be very confused if I were 3 dates in, no sex yet every other sign they were into me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 10:20 PM
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Bu... but... the top rated comment on my fav subreddit said that I shouldn't because theyre bad and will make me bad too!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 07:39 PM
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If you want to go on a second date, this is a really bad message to send.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 07:51 PM
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To be fair, I always assumed you were also in highschool...
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 06:40 PM
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You just can't help some people. My former roommate looked like a male model and always bitched about how women's expectations were unfair and that it was pointless to chase them, and even if that wasn't the case he could never meet a fellow nerd like himself... nerd meaning into MCU and indie music. Edit: this was in a very young and hip neighborhood in Chicago. If you refuse to go out, have terrible social skills, and are convinced you're screwed from the get-go, a big city won't help much.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 11:37 PM
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I mean, there are a few organizations that push this stuff and have for decades. I live rather close to a Moorish Science Temple that has been there since the 50s. Think sovereign citizen meets Black nationionalist meets "slavery wasn't real and we are the true Native Americans".
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 09:42 PM
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I've only ever met one person irl who was into this, it was baffling. They also believed that global warming was caused by the earth's axis being off-kilter due to populations moving away from the equator, which was encouraged by the illuminati so that they could displace those who lived there and scoop up the land.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 09:27 PM
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When I was more active DJing, I'd try to line up midnight with 27 seconds in to this track: https://youtu.be/G2Njh9Pt8Yo
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 07:19 PM
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Rings of Saturn by Sebald.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 06:23 PM
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Definitely not far from average, but also does indeed look like he gets laid very easily.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 04:37 PM
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Seriously. This is zero bites, lots of nibbles. Nibbles on the internet are very low stakes and very meaningless.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 11:49 PM
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He seems to have disappeared... but whenever anyone brings up "why can't we talk about race????" I always remember the dude who went on tirades about how certain types of biracial couples should not be allowed.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 11:36 PM
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What was your response??
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 11:34 PM
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Yes. I too worry about our physiological proximity to flies and let that guide my decisions in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 10:45 PM
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Make the stock from scratch if you have some downtime! Makes a huge difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 03:54 PM
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He strikes me as more run-of-the-mill dumb than autistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 05:51 PM
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Your pride seems pretty tied up with a sort of prescribed righteousness that you got from internet dudes, and feel the need to relay to them. You might be happier just texting her back, and you know... hanging out and potentially sleeping with the hottest person you've ever dated.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 06:19 AM
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Congrats on not getting laid by being dishonest for the sake of preserving your pride for internet dudes, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 06:12 AM
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How do you go about your day to day feeling so hopeless and helpless? This isn't meant to be a burn, I'm really curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 11:38 PM
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Agreed. Not my type, but very pretty nonetheless.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 09:53 PM
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I think it's more of a feedback loop and can start either way, but will always reinforce itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 09:46 PM
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To be fair, all 19 year olds are insanely myopic. Don't let her embarrassing levels of shittiness color your worldview of what women are like.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 07:54 PM
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Certainly rings true for the lady killer in my highschool friend group.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 05:50 AM
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Japanese kitchen knife, midi controller, a few records and a sweater
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 05:17 PM
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Of all the things to develope a complex over...
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 06:06 AM
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They don't. If you're asking that kind of shit, you're not looking to "date".
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 03:09 AM
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Wasn't upset by it, just learned from his mistakes! It took him a heart attack to start to figure out that work ethic at the cost of everything else wasn't a very practical model. Watching him try to unlearn it in his mid 60s is wild. Also, watching my brother unlearn it from looking up to our dad a little too closely has been interesting. As to the second part: kinda? Not earth shattering rich, but doing well.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 03:01 AM
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Personally, I think I'll do better purely by virtue of not being a myopic workaholic. Very willing to roll with it otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 02:48 AM
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I suppose i would be willing to wait to a degree, depending on if oral was on the table. Wait till marriage? God no. Wait even for commitment, also no. But saving something for a future date, sure. But, for reference, every serious relationship I've ever had started with a fairly pornographic first or second date.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 02:33 AM
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This is a big fear I've seen among anyone dating budding tech savants. Broke couch guy in need of support suddenly jumps to upper middle class and wants to act like a millionaire to get the girls he never got in highschool/college. Quickly leaves behind the person who supported him.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 02:30 AM
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I gotchu! My dad was pre-diabetic and obese. He quit drinking, started doing yoga 3 times a week, and stopped eating out unless for occasions. He'd basically grill a steak and make a salad every night. 4 years later he's underweight.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 02:15 AM
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Don't do it. Terrible field to jump into these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 02:11 AM
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If she went through with asking, she either didn't take you very seriously to begin with or doesn't have the wherewithal to know it'd be a turn off. She did you a favor by making it clear before you got actually hurt.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 02:07 AM
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Putting more effort and attention into cooking and portioning worked wonders for my father. Taking the act of making dinner very seriously, knowing exactly what is in every meal, and for what length of time you're making it for (dinner plus 2 lunches and a frozen portion, etc). Changing your relationship to food seems to do a lot more than getting into a relationship with different food.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 02:00 AM
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Do you cook on a regular basis?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 01:29 AM
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Also in Chicago! Lucked out in getting an apartment with a grandfathered-in wood stove. It makes this time of year so much more fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 12:58 AM
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Also in the Midwest presumably? I hate winter here, but when it gets bad enough that nobody expects anything of you it is pretty fantastic!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 12:54 AM
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Blizzard is incoming. I'm not particularly macho in a traditional sense, but I'll be damned if I don't get a kick out of collecting wood and building fires!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 12:48 AM
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You're like the modern day equivalent of an electrician in the 1950s. You shouldn't have to hide shit. You're stable and presumably not an idiot. Own it and you'll be fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 12:46 AM
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I was in the Amazon a handful of years ago and noticed that there was a vine crawling. 10s of thousands of huge ants each carrying a piece of foliage bigger than they had any right to. Each of these things were like half an inch long, absolutely terrifying.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 12:27 AM
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What sort of diet? Highly restrictive diets tend to fail, finding the balance between what you want and what you need (with the goal of that being something you can long-term live with) is the key.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 12:09 AM
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Only in an abstract sense: extreme unwillingness or inability to view things as even mildly grey. Very locked into black and white thought patterns, which I very much associate with both military and police. With the exception, of course, of those who get high enough in rank where that is no longer tenable.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 11:25 PM
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I've been very open about my enjoyment of porn with every relationship I've ever had; it's never been a problem. I can see how it'd be a problem if you prefer porn to, you know, actually having sex with your partner... But other than that it's only an issue for hardcore moralists and wannabe hardcore moralists.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 09:11 PM
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I had a very attractive woman give me her number years ago. We went out once, she was military police... Absolute deal killer.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 09:08 PM
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Right there with you. Sex makes me want sex. No sex makes me okay with no sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 09:04 PM
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A healthy amount of risk taking. I've gotten better about it, but most of my life has been periods of extremes between highly careful and risky as fuck. It's treated me well, but I think it'd generally be healthier to have the balance on a situational level than a periodic one.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 08:53 PM
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Girlfriend is black, she did a specifically mitochondrial test as white women with black fathers were significantly less common than a slave master knocking up a hot slave for a long time.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 08:19 PM
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Related to this and I think your question from a few days ago: late 20s/early 30s are the best for dating, because all of those "if only she were ever single" holy grail types suddenly have their long term relationships or young marriages fail.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 08:16 PM
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What explains yours?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 08:00 PM
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Olympic peninsula. It is technically a rainforest, but isn't tropical. Foggy mossy misty rainforest. It's gorgeous.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 07:44 PM
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Most of cowboys you'll see belong to the type that is disparagingly referred to as "all hat, no cattle". More of a throwback cultural signifier than a profession. Where to visit depends on what you want! We have a bit of everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 07:13 PM
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Canadians have no trouble wrapping their head around it, it's significantly larger in area with significantly fewer people.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 07:10 PM
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Thank you! It somehow feels like the most normal yet most insane thing I have ever done.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 05:29 AM
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Wouldn't call it scary, really. You're pretty indifferent and out of it at that point. Just a sort of annoyance that you realize isn't real, which makes it even more annoying.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 05:15 AM
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First OBGYN appointment was today! This whole having a baby thing feels a hell of a lot more real when a doctor zooms an intravaginal ultrasound wand in and tells you the heart rate of a peanut-sized tadpole hiding out in there.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 05:09 AM
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Did ~48 hours while in college. Hallucinated droplets of water hitting my right shoe pretty consistently, wouldn't recommend.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 05:05 AM
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Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 09:22 PM
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But all this aside: this is still a huge deal. It's an incremental project, and news cycles don't handle slow progress very well. The proof of concept that you can even get more out than you put in is huge! Though, it's still going to be very uphill, very long, and contain zero promises.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 08:40 PM
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I feel guilty whenever it comes up... 2020 was the best year of my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 08:11 PM
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I was less speaking to you, more putting theory from experience on paper in case of men on the border reading through!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 08:03 PM
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Not sure how to respond to this other than: thanks? I really don't think it's that hard. Just be very interesting. Half of being interesting is being properly interested in other people, the other half is following through with interests. Make sure the two inform each other and you're golden as long as you're not absolutely hideous. Open and fastidious in a feedback loop is the type that gets the weirdo gems for both sexes.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 07:42 PM
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I got one! Have had encounters with others, this one stuck in a very unique way.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 07:30 PM
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All of the exec level lever pullers at my work are out of town, my PTO is rolling over to next year but I'm resolutely not doing shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 07:28 PM
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To be fair, as someone who was very slutty in large cities, thatnis exactly how all relationships have started for me post-highschool. Most of my friends in relationships had theirs start the same way. Not to say other models don't exist, but this model is very common.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 07:05 PM
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Yes and yes. Take your sleep seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 07:01 PM
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I think you misinterpreted what I was saying. Your problem is that you think that there is no woman capable of loving you. Why would anyone in their right mind involve themselves with someone that was unconditionally set on the idea that they were fucking over someone else? You're pre-selecting for psychopaths.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 06:53 PM
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Well... there's your problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 06:45 PM
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Then even if she does, will still be suspicious and insecure because deep down they still know their partner could do better, and they themselves could be better.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 06:21 PM
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Lawyers and doctors, and anything that necessitates taking photos of meals.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 04:06 PM
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I don't know man... Generally when someone is convinced that they're the only one without a problem, it's usually a delusion of grandeur to some degree.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 05:54 AM
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Just talk to her. See what she needs, chances are it's cash and the ability to shed living there. If her needs line up with what you have to offer, you're not out of line.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 09:03 PM
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Be the respectful married guy who still slaps her ass whenever given the chance. This is the way.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 08:51 PM
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Men definitely want to make sense of what it means to objective. Part of this is being objectified in the right and wrong contexts. It doesn't take much experience to know how many things getting your dick grabbed can mean. But, if you're stuck in the "I thought this was bad?!" mentality, you won't get very far.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 08:38 PM
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Big fan of Temple of the Golden Pavilion by Yukio Mishima. Mid 50s Japanese novel by a problematic but super interesting character (gay bodybuilding ultra nationalist poet). It's a very beautiful read.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 05:31 PM
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Story time: A few years ago I was given a phone number at work, went on a very promising date. She had an insane amount of food allergies, the menu that she could eat happened to be very cheesy and I am lactose intolerant. I went for it anyway. We start walking back to her place, and I am moment away from shitting my pants. Fully sweating and placing my steps carefully with the intent of not leaving any opening, as I know once it starts it will not stop. We pass by a really shitty Polish bar, an…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 10:57 PM
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You come across as exceptionally fixated and bitter. Chances are, they may not be into you enough to be sold. In crude terms: instead of selling yourself to seal any deal, you're getting pissed enough to describe them as an existential threat that needs to be eliminated...
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 10:36 PM
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The point is not that they are silently crushing on you. The point is you may have had a shot if you weren't being really weird about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 10:10 PM
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Is this from personal experience? When i was in my very slutty phase, this is never something I encountered. If I did, I'd just assume she A: is going through some shit, B: sees me as relationship material while also going through some shit, or C: just isn't that into me. Calling it a cancer is a huge overreaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 10:07 PM
1

Trying to explain the "why" of any kink never really goes far.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 08:30 PM
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Are you really making someone potentially dying of cancer about you and your sexual frustration?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 07:37 PM
2

You seem to have forgotten that Jason isn't in the first one! (Still saying yes)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 04:34 PM
1

I like Koss Portapros. Exceptionally 80s looking, sound great, lifetime warranty, very light and portable.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 02:32 PM
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When I was in college, my main crush asked me to dance with her. When I said no, she said that people that don't dance can't fuck properly, then looked me dead in the eyes. I explained how that was a ridiculous idea...
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 12:19 AM
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Anecdotal indeed! Admittedly a weak point in most cases, but you dont really need much when coming against an argument for an absolute (i.e. death sentences).
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 07:50 PM
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The real question: what did you get on your lsat?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 07:16 PM
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And you think that's a death sentence? It's nowhere close to being so conditional. I'm 5'9" and all of my highschool/college friend group were well into the 6' range. I am the shortest and by a huge margin the best in terms of sex/dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 06:57 PM
3

Do you actually believe this?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 06:45 PM
1

I've never really seen the problem here: they know what gets em off and got it. If you want to be pro-man, you should be happy for them!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 06:32 PM
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To be fair, the most vocal dudes of the dudes having a hard time on here don't leave much room for surprise as to why they're having a hard time.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 06:22 PM
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I live in Chicago, working class dives are everywhere. I don't think there's a city I've been to without them, really. It's just a matter of where to find them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 08:36 PM
1

Agreed. Jumping into a relationship with someone with whome you only have bad sexual connotations with seems insane to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/22 05:42 PM
2

Not dated, but helped a friend make some content a while back.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 07:30 PM
1

Which I imagine we will do... but not without groaning. Neither of us see absolutely any internal value in marriage, but might do it eventually anyway but only because there is a financial incentive as well as fewer hiccups that shouldnt even exist (hospital visitation and flying with children being the foremost of these). I resent the entire purpose for us being those that are purely bureaucratic.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 11:43 PM
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There are certainly tax breaks in the US. Joint filing would save us a couple grand a year.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 11:35 PM
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I mean, who knows what'll happen as far as whether you'll stick together. But really what does a marriage do beyond pure symbolism? We are wild about each other and have a shared bank account. If the entire point is raising the barrier to exit, doesn't that mean that marriage becomes less proportionately necessary as relationship quality increases?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 11:34 PM
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Never understood the moral argument for getting married to have kids. My gf and I have no intention to marry, our first on the way, and the only thing that points us toward it is tax breaks and how shitty it'd be to run into admin problems for not having the same last name.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 09:13 PM
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Which is why I said fallout! Being economically crippled young in life, combined with wage stagnation and an unattainable housing market might have more than a small effect on what you can/do spend your time on.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 07:54 PM
3

2008 has one obvious major cultural event... if you go by that, wouldn't this be fallout from an economic problem as opposed to a cultural shift?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 07:32 PM
2

The death of George Jones really did change the landscape, every landscape.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 07:22 PM
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I've never been clear on this detail: when did it get bad exactly? Speaking in terms of the current situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 07:09 PM
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In a similar boat. We are solidly upper middle class 30 somethings that had a windfall of cash and now with a baby on the way. I'm not financially illiterate, but certainly not prepared to make exceptionally high dollar and high stakes decisions.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 06:57 PM
1

Agreed. To even stand a chance at beating it is a full time job.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 06:46 PM
1

A scarce resource apparently? I really didn't know that dudes needed to be taught that cumming inside of someone isn't exactly a gimme.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 10:43 PM
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Plenty! Tried all sorts of stuff from the standards to novel compounds. Not sure I've ever experienced what people call ego death (outside of an absolutely terrifying time with some bad mushrooms), but agree with the other posters description of it being like mental draino. The afterglow that lasts a couple weeks is better than actually being high, imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 03:02 AM
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Yes! There's a conceptual framework of what is going on, but in practice not only falls flat, but is entirely off the mark in both projects I've worked on. We designated it "pragmatic misunderstanding" because the human input is largely at fault for why the logic fails. However, if you need to train people how to speak with AI on a mass scale it doesn't really stand as a viable product.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 11:09 PM
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I agree that contemporary AI has nothing to do with human intelligence. I've worked on two AI problems for work, and one of the big unsolved hurdles we ran into was its lack of what we called "pragmatic misunderstanding". The product was AI assisted wine recommendations. The initial version sucked, I was brought on and did a big ol series of interviews with varying levels of sommeliers to understand and map the decision trees they use. Most wine pros will start with their own taste obviously, bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 10:56 PM
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You can and should do it, with the addendum that it shouldn't be exlicitly/solely to maybe bang them. The thirst paradox is being friendly/easy to talk to while not trying to bang is the easiest way to eventually bang.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 10:38 PM
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We are, and thank you! Her birthday is this weekend so I've just been preparing stuff. Hope you're having a great week too!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 06:31 PM
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Yes! My life is actually fantastic. I also like horror movies and going to medical oddity museums. It serves a pretty similar function.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 06:26 PM
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I think there are a fair bit of us here, really. I came to maybe offer advice, found out quickly nobody wanted it, stayed for the train wreck. To be fair, I also look at conspiracy subs and comment sections on infowars. I suppose I just take some sort of pleasure in watching people disappear into their own asses like some sort of 21st century ouroboros.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 06:22 PM
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Not sure why anyone eats it really. Popeyes blows that shit out of the water.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 05:47 PM
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This is the way. Finding someone challenging who is also challenged by you, whose brains you want to fuck out and likewise: this is what dreams are made of.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 07:22 PM
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I think it'd depend on your social skills at that point. If you're competing with a bunch of dudes who can't interact with anyone outside of calling their league of legends friends gay all day: you'll be fine with even moderate conversation skills. Video games are an insanely popular pastime, and cute girls are common. I saw a bunch when I was still tindering, though never cared for gaming so never had anything to talk about. The kinky part is harder to find because it's not something you outwar…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 06:53 PM
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This seems so doable. When I was still single, this always felt like an untapped demographic.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 06:43 PM
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Yeah.... not really sure what can be done about that. Ideally you could, and some of us do: have a network of dudes you trust to just talk about stuff unfiltered. The fact that there are people out there with nobody they would trust with their insecurities is a pretty primary problem, imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 10:45 PM
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You sound fairly nihilistic in your general philosophy! Not saying this as a gotcha, just saying that acknowledging that the world being terrible and scary + finding pleasure in things doesn't mean that the world is essentially meaningful, just that you're good at navigating a meaningless world. I'd say the same about myself, and the positive/pragmatic traits also apply. But at the end of the day, I'd still call myself a nihilist.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 10:12 PM
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I agree with your premise but not your conclusion! Helping yourself is definitely part of it, but the world is hard, and for various reasons men don't like to talk about it until they hit rock bottom. Normalizing the support structure of talking about it is a key issue, as it's a lot easier to navigate existential issues when you at very least have other people to bounce ideas off of.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 10:06 PM
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Work remotely, gf would be working downtown, budget ~900k
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 08:37 PM
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So, I think my gf, myself, and the baby on the way are moving to LA in ~2 years! Anyone have neighborhood recommendations to look at buying a house? I've spent a fair bit of time there, but it's so huge that I am sure there are pockets I've never heard of, let alone been to.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 07:13 PM
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I'd agree with that. Then, filthy rich is when your active income was always a pet-project for the sake of having something to do, because your passive income is more than you could make while working.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 07:07 PM
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Things get a lot comfier after 100k, but I'd agree 150 is when it gets cushy. Rich really depends, asset rich, generational asset rich, and windfall levels of cash rich all look pretty different.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 07:02 PM
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Yes, but the problem lies in that SNRIs are too, as is Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. It's a very broad stroke approach when all you know is that "changing amounts of at least two neurotransmitters with a phenethylamine group will probably make things better". The cause of depression is obviously very much in its infancy, what I was saying is that the treatment is also very imprecise.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 11:12 PM
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Which has been suspected for quite a while, as far as I understand. Hence SSRIs only showing positive results for a very small amount of people diagnosed as depressed, but showing fantastic results in those few. The chemical imbalance theory is a really big, crude mallet being used in a very nuanced set of problems that all have different precision requirements.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 10:43 PM
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The only Caucasian celebrity I ever fantasized about as a kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 10:35 PM
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I've always been one to just kinda go for it. You can tell quickly whether or not you'll mesh, and they will too. Informal social groups never do formal invitations.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 10:34 PM
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Used to! Though, never would have described it that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 10:31 PM
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Fully agree. Approaching an emotional situation (i.e. one that doesn't conform to logic) from a logic-problem standpoint will get you nowhere. Unless, of course, your goal is to make a spreadsheet to better explain why life is unfair (as opposed to, you know, getting laid/partnered).
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 07:05 PM
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Nothing says "against the East Coast elite" like NYC real estate moguls with TV deals, apparently. Similarly, Bush Jr's PR team deserves the highest award for successfully making him the "everyday Texas good ol boy candidate" despite being a Yale graduate rich kid who was literally the son of a president.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 06:26 PM
1

That kinda sounds like three you-problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 09:00 PM
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6 years. No interest in marriage, unless it makes a ton of sense from a tax/legal perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 11:07 PM
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The only hardcore manosphere guy I've ever known in person had a huge honey badger tattoo yet would always hound about the importance of thinking for yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 03:24 PM
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I read, paint, build furniture, dj, and sometimes make music. All of my exes have been big readers and usually have some sort of creative hobby.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 10:22 PM
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The fact that he's leading with a lie should be an automatic no.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 03:23 PM
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Thanks again! We're very well-positioned for it, but mirroring what you said: if I weren't terrified I imagine I'd make a terrible parent.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 04:23 AM
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Don't worry, I felt guilt about it before I even considered the possibility. Seems like a major evolutionary oversight that the only way to do something properly is that you never feel like you're ready.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 04:19 AM
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Thank you! I feel like I'll be good at it, and we're positioned really well for it... but it's still so fucking scary!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 04:11 AM
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Well... my girlfriend is pregnant. I'll have a baby in August roughly! Very excited, very terrified.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 04:04 AM
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Demands are for hostages. When you're a grown up in a relationship, you call them needs. If they can't meet the need but you still want to be there: it's not a need, it's a fantasy. And really, if you're still within semi-vanilla territory and you like each other, most people are down to fulfill fantasies.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 02:17 AM
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I wouldn't call that the bare minimum. Men with far less still get laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 01:50 AM
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Unwillingly. I'm not sure why you think FOMO is a good case as to why it's willing, really.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 01:46 AM
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actually lol'd at this
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 01:42 AM
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My ex from Qingdao had a beautiful proverb with this sentiment and I really wish I knew the source: you don't have to run faster than a tiger if you can run faster than who's next to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 01:40 AM
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She tried to initiate banter and you dropped the ball!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 10:27 PM
2

It's like the people in downstate IL who want to separate from Chicago. The people who think it's failing are afforded the comfort of being so stupidly insular by the very same place they condemn.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 10:07 PM
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I mean... I'd say I fall pretty squarely within the archetype of the second guy, and I've done quite well without being famous. It's a pretty well-defined archetype of hot guy at this point, with a huge demographic of women that'd agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 06:49 PM
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Regarding 4, it doesn't really matter whether you think he's disgusting. You're just kind of reinforcing the point that a lot of the ideal RP stuff is actually geared towards being impressive in the eyes of other men, while not considering that there are other aesthetics to be considered if you're actually looking at being attractive to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 06:34 PM
2

Film lighting is such a subtle but crucial art.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 04:41 PM
2

I got really into Musique Concrete/Tape Music/Electroacoustic Music for a while! Still into it to a degree, but there was a moment when it was every day nonstop.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 04:30 AM
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Not saying that a good portion didn't, I'm saying... I highly doubt a majority did, saying the situation in Iran right now is a mass feminism movement is silly. You're glossing over a ton that you don't understand in order to make it more clearly black and white. And really, even if it were in pure black and white, I'm not sure why the appropriate reaction to "women stand up against being repressed, men come to aid, government kills more men" is having a problem with seemingly every party except…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 01:30 AM
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I'm not pretending anything. I get a fair bit of first hand sentiment regarding the situation. In any case: again, you're making to mistake that everyone involved has the same motives. Take for example Romania in the late 80s, or France in 68... killing protestors is a great way to make yourself -- as a government -- a very clear common denominator for the vitriol of a lot of disparate groups. If there's already chaos in the streets, it's a now or never situation to join in, regardless of what t…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 12:41 AM
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Your first mistake is to assume the men are fighting for a "feminist cause". That may have been kinda-sorta how it started, but this is an anti-theocratic movement. It's not shocked that women started it, as their stakes are higher. But to say that anyone who dies in Iran is sacrificing themselves at the altar of feminism is either lacking context or disingenuous.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 12:16 AM
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Good business plans hinge on repeat customers!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 06:52 PM
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Ah, I misunderstood! Not sure that'd work on him, frankly. He went all-in with a moralistic bent and the trajectory of the war on his part (and because of the way their military is structured, their part too) seems more saving-face oriented than strategic. Really, it's been that way once they figured out they couldn't just steamroll straight to Kiev. I've been following it closely but am by no means an expert, but their no way guy who power grabs willy-nilly and takes official portraits shirtles…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 08:29 PM
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Excuse by whom? No fly zone would generally be reserved for trying to change the field when one party has air supremacy. They haven't really been able to achieve that so far. No fly zone wouldn't change much.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 08:15 PM
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Hard to say that we do exactly that at the same time. The US generally targets, for better or worse and often with a disgustingly wide scope. This so far seems to be more like a stray bullet from really far away. Whereas the US method is "hey is that the guy we want dead?... I dunno probably, let's level that house to be sure".
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 08:06 PM
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Hard to be confirmed until you find scraps. From what's going around now, Russia did a large rocket barrage, and a rocket was seen hitting a rural granary. Almost certainly accidental and due to poorly maintained equipment.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 08:01 PM
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It's hard to say that it has ever been anything besides chaotic, in my opinion. It's just a lot weirder now!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 07:51 PM
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Is this regarding the rocket hitting Poland? I kinda doubt it'll amount to much beyond undermining any chance of NATO nations slowing down on equipment.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 07:46 PM
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Thank you for bringing up intersubjectivity. It's an important concept that gets lost here very frequently.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 06:25 PM
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You don't even know the half of it! She bought the property then moved her boyfriend in, but they live about half a mile away on the same plot. They have a romantic neighborly relationship that works well. The next closest neighbor is about a mile away, and their dog wanders over and freely goes into my mom's house to play with the rest of 'em. She's worked online since the late 90s and made a killing selling the house I grew up in. The land is the only clearly demarcated "no hunting zone" in a …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 02:55 AM
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My mom still has him! She bought a bunch of acres in the middle of nowhere in Southern Missouri as a sort of soft retirement. She gives every dog 3 months to acclimate to being in a pack (lots of people dump their dogs in that region). She's at 8 right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 02:40 AM
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My mom picked up a dog on the highway last year. Scanned the chip, got a dude from Tennessee on the phone who was very confused and just kept repeating "yeah... I dunno... he's a bad dog". Mother-fucker drove to another state just to dump him. So many trash people out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 02:23 AM
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Oh come on, at least get her a Tecate.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 01:31 AM
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Pro tips if you're in the position to be ordering bottles of wine on dates, and your date is into wine... If they like Sauvignon Blanc, get a Sancerre. If they like Pinot Grigio, get a Muscadet, Malvasia or Moschofilero. If they like Pinot Noir, get a Gamay/Beaujolais. If they like Cabernet, get a Syrah. Wine is very fun to learn about and goes a long way!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 01:26 AM
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It's more like the beggars who find a nobility in being a beggar, then argue why they're better for being a begger. While the middle class says "calm down, give x or y a whirl", to which the beggars respond "fuck that! Why would I even want the projected worst case scenario that me and my noble compatriots speculate about?!".
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 11:52 PM
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Freud is full of shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 10:13 PM
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Ah, yet another case of self-selecting yourself out of sex while also whining about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 10:05 PM
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I'm really hoping you're a troll, because if you're not trolling you're damn-near hopeless.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 03:28 AM
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You're coping with being a creep but deny having a victim mentality?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 03:24 AM
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The only proper weed time for me is alone with heady movies with my phone in another room. It basically does nothing but destroy my social skills while exacerbating my tendency to go into little thought feedback loops. Great for deep-diving into art, terrible at everything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 11:58 PM
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Very well put. The vast majority of men who find themselves painted into corners are there because they want the entirety of social interaction to be a rational system. Sexual attraction isn't rational, interpersonal interaction is rarely rational, and frankly when you involve any amount of "feelings" (which, you can not help but involve, and if you think you can, you're deluded)... you can not expect a perfectly rational outcome. To approach the problem as one of pure reason is very dumb.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 11:53 PM
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I feel thr same way, though I like thinking of the archetypes as something you can do (as opposed to something you are). I actually follow a numerology-related schedule for balance reasons while having zero belief in numerology.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 10:52 PM
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Not a bane of existence but definitely something to work on.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 10:50 PM
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I don't think blue pill solutions are the problem exclusively. Red pill swings so far in such a reactionary way that it exudes you even more. Trying to find simple fix-all solutions (PUAs) was replaced by a handful of truisms cloaking sexism (redpill) which is combatted only by terrible advice on how to be a pushover (pure bluepill). None of the options presented solve much besides internal arguments, in my opinion. All of the nameable camps do nothing more than satisfy internal arguments with z…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 12:31 AM
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He was very pleasant! Though there are awkward downtime where he is talking to producers on a radio, then suddenly has to snap back into character. We did the "surprise" scene 4 times because we didn't seem surprised enough. And of course I went for the double!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 04:26 PM
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I'm fully lost on anything to do with sports or contemporary pop culture. Fun anecdote while we're here: I was on cashcab years ago and absolutely killed it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 03:20 PM
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Wouldn't say I'm a proper Jeopardy nerd, but I do enjoy it! Though, every once in a while the subjects are completely outside of my wheelhouse.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 03:09 PM
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If you mean the Rod Stewart classic, then yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 07:51 PM
3

This is an excellent response!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 05:31 PM
2

Seriously. I'm out here bragging about my 1800$ 3 bedroom.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 01:42 AM
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Definitely overthinking it. That's not to say that you shouldn't think about how you spend your time, it'd be stupid not to. But, it's just as stupid to disengage with things that you enjoy just because you don't see yourself as the type of person to enjoy them. Forced fun is terrible, forced seriousness is terrible. Experiment responsibly, then take the desire paths.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 01:24 AM
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The thing is, it only feels shitty when yiu think about it in terms of a split reality. You think of yourself in x way, so y activity doesn't make sense; y activity feels good, so x doesn't make sense. Get rid of the ideological trappings that tell you what should be fun according to what you think about yourself, and you'll probably have more fun while also getting a better understanding of who you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 01:15 AM
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That cheap and deceptive yet moralistic lifestyle!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 10:55 PM
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I'm sure she will be entirely satisfied with someone who likes her enough to talk shit about her on the internet early in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 01:41 AM
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But what happens when you're in the habit of whittling away prospects, but there's nobody left to whittle away?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 01:36 AM
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Disagree. Having a stable partner makes things much easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 01:30 AM
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He had an Office Space style freak out a few years ago. The result of which was quitting drinking, starting to smoke weed again, and doing yoga 5 days a week. He's in the process of buying the studio he went to and training to be an instructor.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 09:31 PM
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That shit tastes like how grandma's house + tacky mall candle store smells.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 09:16 PM
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My dad is doing it after decades of being an attorney. He loves it. Though, I can't really speak to the finances of it as he could live on savings and be an instructor for free. But, he's very happy!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 09:10 PM
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This seems pretty hyperbolic. People have been selling their bodies in various ways forever, I'd say less so now in the grander scheme of things.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 08:47 PM
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Unless you have a weirdly shaped head! I'd look very, very different bald.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 08:42 PM
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Standing up a platonic date is a really weird move. Maybe they're just really bad at time, but should still at least give a heads up.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 08:26 PM
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Cooking and watching movies. Went hard last night and need some recovery time
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 07:36 PM
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There's also option C: the woman involved has no stakes in the matter, but is properly creeped out by how much you focus on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 06:31 AM
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I'll try! Gf is out of town, going to be a degenerate with an old friend who is a tad awkward but always a good time.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 10:09 PM
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I am! Drinks, movie, dancing.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 10:02 PM
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He is very fun to be around, generally witty, good at shit talking/taking shit talk but very humble.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 09:33 PM
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It's so scary. I fucked around so much when I was younger, but the rules have changed so much. There was always calculated risks, but the calculations are all fucked now.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 08:27 PM
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Yeah I can't say it's common, but he is so insanely charismatic that it surprises nobody. Are his options semi limited? Maybe. Does that affect his life? Not at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 08:01 PM
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I know a 5'3" jiu-jitsu instructor/chef who slays.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 07:20 PM
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Talmud isn't very different from the way you described the Old Testament in its function: it's a secondary text used to inform interpretations of primary texts. Though, it is also not binding. In temple school, it's used more as a pedagogical tool in a comparative lit way more than anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 05:03 AM
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My argument isn't solely that nobody follows religious texts (thought I think that is mostly true as well). What the Old Testament and the Talmud claim to do within their respective histories is entirely different. The Old Testament is the ignored word of god (which is interesting for historical purposes, but isn't really relevant as the word). The Talmud is past interpretations of the law. There is no illusion that it is the word of god, it is simply a faux documentary of conversations between …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 02:55 AM
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Had to look it up, but you're correct that the Quran was written a few centuries after the Talmud. The event I was speaking to was the invention of zero, but you're still correct. But in any case: hard copies of the Bible are still found in absolutely every church., that isn't particularly good evidence of what Christians believe in. From my experience in a Catholic school, most is just ignored. Temple school, the Talmud is never even begun to be perceived as the word of god. It is taught as a c…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 02:29 AM
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I think you're missing the point. First, we didn't invent mental gymnastics (I think Islam formalized it much earlier, if I'm not mistaken). But if you don't think mental gymnastics are a part of making ancient texts remaining relevant forever... I really can't help you. The Talmud contains a lot of stuff that isn't taught. This isn't a gotcha any more than Christians not following the Pentateuch. Further: the Talmud is a hypothetical argument between Rabbis of extremely disparate ideological po…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 02:03 AM
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Seriously. From what I've heard about how bath-houses work, the dudes who have problems with women via subtle rejection would get absolutely destroyed in the gay scene.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 01:34 AM
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Yeah. A lot of men act in a disgusting manner. The lesson to be learned: it's very low effort yet high reward to not act in a disgusting manner.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 01:28 AM
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worst case scenario: if they can find your name they can probably find your address, if they can find your address and don't like you: it's not very hard to call in to local pd and say "they say they're going to kill themselves but also have a bomb". You can imagine how that will go.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 01:25 AM
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I went to Catholic school for primary education but temple school on the weekend. Catholic school you get: this is what god says, and that's right. Here is what a few other people said about it. Temple school: so, gods word is interpreted by man and our interpretation is imperfect. But does that mean god's word is imperfect? No, because that means that we don't understand god, or, since we were made by god, perhaps we were not ksde to understand god. Thus, the interpretations of gods word have m…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 11:01 PM
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Jewish education I do think has a major influence. I doubt I'd have gone as far as i have without temple school.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 10:49 PM
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That's actually a great point. Angsty teens are nothing new, but we used to just have meaningless aggression outlets as opposed to half-baked social science discussions with the undertone of aggression.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 10:47 PM
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As a half Jew, it's always funny seeing people go whole-hog in "jews run the world" conspiracy shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 10:41 PM
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I would say that they're not both high class. If you make 300k a year managing the finances of a billionair, you likely know how to speak the language of billionaires. You can circulate within those circles and opportunities arise casually and socially. The Iowa farmer may make more, but has no mobility unless someone else needs them. I've heard the term "farm rich" in person to describe this. They're very large fish in tiny ponds, whereas a lower earning person in a big pond may make less, but …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 10:20 PM
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I only know two, personally. One of them was described by female friends as hot, the other is a very typically good looking tall white guy. The thing they had in common? Video game obsessed, poor social skills, and very into manosphere culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 10:12 PM
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It's more than wealth and influence, but also has nothing to do with moral character. It's more of a socio-linguistic thing, the very upper crust and just below it speaks in a very specific way and immediately know if you're not a part of that. There are Iowa farmers who make more than NY brokers and probably have more sway over their community, but they'd never be invited to the same parties. You can, however, be invited to these parties if you're a broke professor who speaks the language with …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 10:07 PM
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Not weird at all. What sort of all black getup and what kind of area though?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 09:55 PM
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If you were within earshot and saying this, I'd put cash down that filling my bathtub took more than 10 minutes.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 09:53 PM
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It always takes a shockingly long time.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 09:48 PM
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I agree for the most part. Though, there were little regional dishes I've never seen in the US that blew me away while in Italy. But the standards as we know them weren't considerably better in Italy than their US equivalents.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 09:21 PM
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In full agreement.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 09:19 PM
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Terrible take.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 09:18 PM
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Maybe besides carrots helping your vision.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 09:15 PM
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Probably already happened! Chicago gets small really quickly. Down to form a syndicate, but only if we wear varsity sweaters like 70s-80s Chicago gangs.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 04:31 AM
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If it starts getting tribal in here, we'll have to form a desert rat coalition! Desert kids are always the scrappiest.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 04:24 AM
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Robert Motes at Patron Gallery?! (Also, I grew up moving back and forth between AZ and CA)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 04:05 AM
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I'm right down there street from there! (Also, agreed. I grew up on the West Coast and my girlfriend is a New Yorker, Midwesterners are not the prettiest bunch, but the amount of transplants makes up for it. Typical Chicago dude is generally bloated, bearded, terrible tattoos, and dresses like shit.)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 03:58 AM
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Montreal still has my vote if Canada is counted in. Unfair levels of attractive people everywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 03:54 AM
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Wait... you're in Chicago too?!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 03:51 AM
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Why would anybody?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 02:02 AM
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Hard to say, but academics tend to be very selectively freaky in my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 01:15 AM
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My Japanese chefs knife. Pulling out a really beautiful knife, whetstone sharpening it, then pushing it through an onion with minimal force feels so ritualistic and satisfying.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 08:11 PM
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The whole needing to be on it for 2 weeks to feel the effects seems very strange to me. Amphetamines don't generally have a rep for slow builds.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 07:47 PM
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Whenever I'm hung over, I get the inexplicable craving to listen to Smalltown Boy by Bronski Beat over and over.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 06:26 PM
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Very much an addiction. I have no reason to be here. I only came to try to give down and out dudes a bit of advice; I learned they didn't want it months ago, but still show up.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 05:39 AM
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Overall favorite movie: Cleo from 5 to 7 (1962) But since it's October, my favorite spooky movie: Let's Scare Jessica to Death (1971)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 05:33 AM
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Don't worry too much! The dudes on here obviously have the hyper-logical thinking covered.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 05:29 AM
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Thank fuck. People don't like being interrogated in general unless your answer is a point of pride, but then again, anyone with a point of pride around how few or how many people they've fucked would creep me out.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 06:54 PM
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Are you actually asking this in person? If you are: I suspect it's less that they're afraid to answer, more that they're completely disengaging with you due to a very bright red flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 06:45 PM
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Nah.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 06:42 PM
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This sounds like a great strategy if your goal is to remain alone while convincing yourself that you want to be alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 06:40 PM
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Most recent trip: Hamburg, Kassel, Berlin. Was there about a week and a half. Edit: Kassel, not Kessel.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 06:18 PM
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How on earth do you get to the point of proposing being on the table without knowing that you're not exclusive, and that their parents are racist? This is like 3rd date shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 06:00 PM
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Was there a few weeks ago for the fourth time. Big fan, highly recommend.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 05:37 PM
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It's only 6 months! If it's all expenses paid (as in, they're paying your Cincinnati rent too), you have to change very little about your life beyond location for half a year. Very low risk, very high reward.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 05:31 PM
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From the perspective of someone who's tried basically everything: it's never been that safe, but you always kind of knew what you were getting into. Gen Z doesn't have the comfort of that. In the past few years I know 3 people who have died of fent overdoses: one from heroin, one from a very realistic xanax, one from mdma. In addition to that, I know two people who've had seizures on separate incidents because blotter acid turned out to be a random research chemical. Testing would definitely sol…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 02:08 AM
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I feel bad for Gen z not being able to experiment with drugs in a relatively safe manner. The stakes are so high now, considering that it doesn't even need to be cut with fentanyl, it just needs to be handled nearby. I just saw an early 20something sitting at a bus stop unresponsive and a group of people asking whether they should call 911. I fucked up a lot when I was young, but the stakes of fucking up now are so unforgiving.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 01:23 AM
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Not as much protein as it's weight in steak... as much protein as a steak. It's been a while, so I don't remember cut/weight shit, but it was absurdly protein-rich. It was better than standard grocery store bread, but you could have a farmers market tomato and sprout sandwich every day and not become anemic in the process. And again, it tastes really good!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 11:49 PM
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Mostly true, but the great irony of the situation is that the boomers that supposedly hate identity politics are the same people that require so many political concessions to maintain their political identity.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 11:39 PM
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I had bread made out of cricket flour when I lived in the pacific northwest. It tastes like wholegrain but slightly nutty. 2 slices was as much protein as a steak. Very good, 8/10
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 11:25 PM
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Agreed. It's not that they're more offended, it's that they have a better model of what could be offensive and find that to be an important part of hownto navigate shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 11:04 PM
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I think they're trying to come up with a way to make sense of an increasingly nonsensical world, really. I think some of the strategies are dumb, but at least they're trying.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 10:54 PM
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I think it's kind of the name of the game with sci-fi in general. Writers used to call it the "golden ghetto" because as long as the concept was cool enough to pass the first round of nerdy editors, nobody gave a shit if it was at all well-written and you'd still get published.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 10:07 PM
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Unpopular opinion: Asimov isn't a very good writer, his ideas are just so cool that it's very easy to overlook his writing.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 09:50 PM
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Had balut (sp?) once; the fertilized duck eggs not yet ready to hatch. Imagine an oyster with cartridge that tastes like condensed yet undersalted chicken broth. 4/10
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 09:35 PM
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Same. Pretty, sensitive, well-read dudes really don't seem to have a problem getting laid. Confused types who feel the need to find a grand theory of how women work to use an excuse to get buff, however...
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 09:26 PM
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Poor people on some countries certainly do that, but child labor laws often put a damper on that. In the developed world, kids just make you poorer. Getting rid of child labor regulations would again be a nightmare, and is again still an economic solution (just a really bad one).
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 07:49 PM
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You're saying you need a poor and highly fertile society in order to work as a society?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 07:28 PM
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Banning birth control while changing nothing economically sounds like a disaster. Which then only leaves economic solutions... Imperfect as they may be, they have the most leverage.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 07:13 PM
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Agreed that economic solutions would only get us to pre 2008 levels, but as far as pre 1960 levels... Can you think of a better solution outside of banning birth control?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 07:07 PM
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Low relative to when? Looking at Denmark and US compared on a graph now: there's a sharp decline on both countries in 1960 with the advent of oral contraceptives. The next big decline is 2008, which has a very large economic shadow.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 06:33 PM
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It's not just women. Children are terrifying to me specifically for economic reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 06:15 PM
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Had a guy in my early 20s that I just really disliked, found out he felt the same way. We talked about it and decided to be nemeses.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 06:05 PM
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I just got 2 (12 bottle) cases of a weird primitive form of Prosecco in the mail! Definitely cracking on of those open to see if it's as good as I remember.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 05:14 PM
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The obvious solution is that men should do better... What that means is up for debate, but identifying the problem as large amounts of young men slipping behind is a good start.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 02:21 AM
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I work in technology, and I assure you there are plenty of hot people.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 09:36 PM
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Agreed. But, loons have gotten dumb shit made in the past. I'm just very happy to shoot down this dream in particular.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 09:14 PM
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I'm not sure if that's a reference I don't know or if you just kinda missed the point...
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 09:09 PM
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I have a feeling that people who push for, or accept the "inevitability" of sex robots are the same people who insist that women only want status and money. But really... sex robots would probably cost more than a new car, and if women only want status and money, then the only people who could afford sex robots would be precisely the same group that could never afford them. It's a failed product well before you ever leave the gate.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 09:01 PM
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You're saying that men are only liked based on status and resources like it's some universal law. Not everyone shares your victim complex.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 08:12 PM
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I've got: Rich lawyer who is secretly maybe into q-anon Engineer divorcee with an Italian lover she visits a few times a year. Old money SoCal housewife. Wacked-out born again who thanks god for parking spaces. Shut in with severe anxiety.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 07:47 PM
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"Hopeful sex robot amateur enthusiast" I think is a good sumnation.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 07:23 PM
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Remember: don't ask the fish for advice, ask the dude who microwaves fishsticks because the oven takes too long.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 07:18 PM
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But really, have you considered the upper limit of how someone might overreact to you doing something absolutely normal and then understood it as potentially your fault??
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 07:15 PM
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Longboards preclude all of the things that make skateboards fun!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 03:14 AM
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Overblown for sure, but still has huge implications. If even 10% of downtown office spaces have become functionally useless for the only industries that can afford them, that's huge both economically and from a city planning perspective. The migration patterns that suddenly can't be predicted get weird too. When you don't have to move to x region for x industry, where do you move instead? What happens to that place when people with zero ties and a higher income move in en masse? And what ends up…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 07:30 PM
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Woodworking here too! I built a fair bit of the furniture in my place, always find it very satisfying
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 07:09 PM
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You don't tip (unless you're in a touristy town, in which case you do), but there's almost always a "service fee", which is anywhere from 10-20%. That, combined with the lack of strange laws that give exceptions on what minimum hourly wages are (when I was a waiter, my hourly was about $3 and was eaten by taxes), and healthcare being provided by the state and not the employer: it's more of a guarantee of a living wage than the US, though mileage will vary depending on area.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 10:15 PM
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I've always found this little tidbit of advice to be so terrible. Shit my guy friends have said never lot me laid. My crew of lesbian bros never ceased to open up doors.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 07:38 PM
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Logic bros are an epidemic.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 07:11 PM
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[citation needed]
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 09:04 PM
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Hot is up for debate. But, you missed the point where I mentioned that in my experience, both women and men consider it a positive trait. Also, I highly doubt that'd translate well over to dealers.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 08:57 PM
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Former heroin addict here: literally nobody has had an issue with it. Once you get to a certain point of abstinence, it's really been seen as a more of a positive trait than a negative one by men and women alike.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 08:53 PM
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I'm not sure why you think that'd help in any way at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 08:48 PM
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Thank fuck. I've seen too many young men on here pose doubts as to whether or not they should pursue someone because of "what about hypergamy and divorce rape?!" reasons. If the chemistry is better with her, pursue it! If she's unsure (which she probably is, given the long toxic relationship), keep doing what you're doing. You're in a good position to have time to feel it out and get to know each other, just don't push it for certainty's sake too soon.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 08:47 PM
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This lacks any of the nuance that might make it useful. Are some attractive people only attractive because they make an effort to make up for a sense of inadequacy that they'll never really solve? Yes. Are some unattractive even more unattractive because they feel like their lives are written in stone, and thus fail to see the point in trying? Also yes. I think the real point is that how secure you are often has little to do with how attractive you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 08:40 PM
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I think the real issue here is that she didn't tell him, not that she did it. I'd have zero issue if it was long and gone. I'd have a bit of an issue if it was intentionally withheld, not because of the act itself, but because I'd have a hard time trusting someone who had heavy secrets that the refused to tell me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 08:08 PM
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I had a biology prof who really hammered this home. X is the standard, Y is the mutation used solely to insert quasi-randomness into the mix for experimentation's sake.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 08:00 PM
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Tax them what? And what is the currency? If the currency is sex: nobody is surprised that you can't get laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 07:55 PM
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And just like that, the hole you may or may not dig yourself out of just got a lil deeper.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 07:51 PM
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You're in! Also, get off of this sub asap. Advice here will do more harm than good, and even incel vocabulary will be a red flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 07:49 PM
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They're already open in Netherlands. They're mostly used by disabled people who are too uncomfortable/shy to speak to women. They seem rather dystopian outside of that special use-case.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 05:26 PM
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worked for me!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 04:48 PM
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Repeat customers are the core of any good strategy!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 02:16 AM
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Fair enough! I had a female friend who was into the rope scene, who explained that all very pro doms were actually subs because they understood that the only way to properly dom was to make damn well sure that the sub didn't want to leave there. It felt related, if only vaguely.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 01:39 AM
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instead of assuming they lie, you could also just accept that you need a more nuanced version of what women find attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 01:34 AM
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What if his pleasure is your pleasure? Like, the only way to get him off at all is for him to get you off several times over.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 01:12 AM
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You have no good reason to think that she's cheating on you, and are on the right track in terms of labeling it anxiety/paranoia. Congrats on falling head over heels with someone! It's so lively and exciting but is very vulnerable. A lot of people struggle with the vulnerability, but trusting it is the only way to do it right. If you don't trust them, you can't date them very well. And if you not trusting them has nothing to do with what they're doing in real life, that means you need to work on…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 12:33 AM
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You got it right that guy culture is somewhere around the core of it, but you still miss the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 12:23 AM
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You're saying she was cheating before they were in a relationship and he was admittedly resistant towards being in a relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 12:22 AM
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It's a strategic thing. It's slightly harder that referring to them as boyfriend/girlfriend, but are judged differently depending on the response in some cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 11:57 PM
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Just got a new phone and autocorrect is killing me the past week! This one feels particularly bad though. And yes, 100k seems about right these days even pre-inflation when you include the coasts.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 11:46 PM
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Blanket statements of "women laugh at men in therapy" in threads that are specifically geared toward women complaining about their love lives isn't good data though. Youd fail a bachelors level course for assuming that was a good source of information.. And I've never seen one that had anything close to a concensus, even with its terrible sample.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 11:42 PM
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If you only fuck people because of what your kids will look like, you missed the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 11:31 PM
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If I remember correctly/am remembering the correct post, the post about "everyone" having female therapists make fun of their gender had one person saying that, two or three who felt that their therapist didn't get their issues, and 5-10 who said that they liked therapy...
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 11:29 PM
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I've found that the whole "dismissing returns start at 90/100k" true. It's not that money buys happiness, it's that it buys off particularly bad discomforts. Worrying about whether or not you will be evicted is so much worse than whether or not you'll be late on your credit bill because you spent all your money in coastal Spain. Bu, there are some people who tend to just treadmill forever. Get stressed, progress for more money to alleviate stress, increase lifestyle to keep up with Jones, get st…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 11:14 PM
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Isn't this just a truism? Wanting someone who looks good, isn't broke, does well in their field, and pleasant to talk to is hardly a revelation. All people are like this?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 09:22 PM
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I'm a Bitter Lake guy, myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 08:58 PM
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Pride, lust, greed, gluttony, envy, sloth, wrath.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 08:43 PM
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Seriously. Even platonically, it'd be creepy if someone approached you with "wow you're so cool. You're so fucking cool. I want to be friends with you because you're so cool."
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 08:22 PM
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I'd say it was mostly the same things (but nonetheless enjoyable) after about 20-30. After that, the rate at which you encounter new things slows quite a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 06:13 PM
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Like the Twilight Zone episode!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 10:17 PM
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I, personally, am not lying. For it to be a problem in my eyes, you'd have to be so high that the better phrasing of the problem would be "why don't you pursue anything besides sex?"
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 07:59 PM
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Yoko Ono has some major bangers. Disco gets a bad rap because people only remember the watered down radio hits, when it was primarily an underground genre.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 03:46 PM
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Not married (no plans to be), but long term partnered. We were both stable-ish when we got together, but not doing as well as we are now.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 02:40 PM
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If you think he's ugly, you're in for a world of disappointment.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 02:12 AM
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Can't lie: that sounds trashy as fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 09:25 PM
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Depends on vibe, but yes. But grabbing seems like a safer bet, really.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 08:31 PM
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And he he'll claim he doesn't have the money to pay, and will get screwed even harder by the very public receipts of his fundraising.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 08:25 PM
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De Toqueville said that America would eventually run into the problem that without monarchs chosen by fairly arbitrary and uncontrollable factors, the poor will be under the illusion that there was nothing stopping them from being royalty.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 08:19 PM
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Temple of the Golden Pavilion by Yukio Mishima
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 07:13 PM
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No. If anything, I'd say it's a baseline in this context. If you're unfuckable than you're also undateable, and since they're insulting you, you can assume they think you're unlikeable in general and would prefer not to speak to you. It's less a demonstration of sex as currency, more a way of saying that you're meeting none of the criteria for any type of relationship -- sexual or not -- while also implying that they can't imagine a woman who'd feel differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 09:25 PM
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I think your model is a bit flipped. They have a value system and are determining that you're not a part of it, thus not getting laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 09:05 PM
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Do you really think you're incapable of happiness if you're not tall as fuck? It's really hard to tell who's just trolling here. But, if you really believe this, you're so off the mark and really need to sort some shit out.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 08:46 PM
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Again, disagree. I'm saying this as a man, I dont think many pull their weight. We pulled out weight when we were sole income providers, and women were sole household caretakers. Women started making their own money, dont have the time to take care of people other than themselves. It shakes things up but is a very righteous pursuit to be able to determine what path you take, as long as you are still bringing something to the table. If you dont do traditionally feminine activities, e.g. cooking, …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 08:20 PM
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Disagree. If one person starts screaming endlessly at a party, and another person screams at them to shut the fuck up, I'd hardly say it's a situation of equal culpability.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 08:07 PM
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Absolutely this. It has more to do with feeling of inadequacy and competition. If you dont feel like you're competing with women for women, then you have no reason to feel inadequate for being potentially passed over for a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 08:03 PM
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I dont think anyone would really be calling them out if virginity obsessed men weren't so loudly creepy about it. If you tell really loud about a non-issue, and someone talks shit in response, can you really say that they're the ones that care too much?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 08:00 PM
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Chiming in as a guy who has been called pretty a lot. Pretty is a subset of hot for women who like pretty men. Some women dont have a taste for it, a lot do. It's absolutely a compliment. It's like saying "you are very obviously someone's type".
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 07:42 PM
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It doesnt make any sense. It may be a massive dealbreaker for a small subset of men, and this sub has an inordinately high amount of those men, but it really doesnt matter to anyone I've met in the real world outside of edge cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 07:33 PM
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Yeah, it's a bit of self-selecting, really. If you have a problem with mot getting laid, then also have a problem with people who get laid... it is to no surprise that you will stay at square 1.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 07:17 PM
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30s are so much better in every way.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 06:55 PM
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I think they were referring to the instagram-trap type. Like, Wondr museum, Immersive Van Gogh, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 10:20 PM
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Because you didn't specify why she wouldn't? In any case, a woman in Italy told me I was beautiful about a month ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 09:18 PM
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Does my girlfriend count? If so, pretty much daily.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 09:12 PM
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I'd get very freaked out if a second date asked me about this.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 05:45 PM
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I think it also demonstrates how out of touch young men can get when they get obsessed with theory, yet have no experience with practice.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 03:02 AM
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How much does your ability to ask questions impact your ability to gather relevant information?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 02:27 AM
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Trust her 100%. She's an odd one, I'm an odd one in the same way, and I have no suspicions she can find me+ out there (as I slutted around looking for something similar for a long time and never found anything close).
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 02:06 AM
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Being strategic as to when you play either card will always win.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 12:35 AM
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Calling bullshit. Intelligence without utility is pretty meaningless. If one person knows more details about a system, and the other knows how to better navigate it: would you say that the one who knows less but navigates it better is at a disadvantage?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 12:27 AM
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Really depends on income.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 12:22 AM
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Yes, to a weird level. I tend to attract black sheep from rich families involved in aesthetics. Curators, designers, writers, photographers.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 11:25 PM
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Not having a headphone jack is such a dealbreaker and such bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 11:23 PM
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Disagree! I know a lot of women who were tricked by the "I'm different, I'm really gonna make it" routine.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 11:22 PM
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Always mind the deminishing returns. I do not know a single happy attorney.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 11:20 PM
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I had one first date who very quickly wanted to lock it down that I said yes to. It resulted in getting out of work with 10 texts, 5 snapchat messages, and an instagram dm to the tune of "where are you? Are you working? I cant deal with not knowing. I cant deal with our relationship. You should tell me that we're going to break up. What are you thinking? Are you happy that we are breaking up? I thought this was serious." All of her thoughts were likely the same as the ones I had, but carrying to…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 11:17 PM
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Ooh, Olympic peninsula? Very beautiful area. I had a roommate with a house on the gulf islands, similar deal in terms of absolutely beautiful but expensive to get around and restrictive with timetables. But, worst case scenario... it'll never be hard to sell it and it won't get any cheaper.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 11:41 PM
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What is the pro and con list thread you're referring to?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 09:56 PM
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"If I can't be 6'3", buff, olive toned yet blonde, rich as fuck, confident and happy I may as well just be buff and very touchy about everything else!" seems to be a common thing here.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 09:00 PM
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No problem! It's a somewhat tough field to crack into ever since "UX" became a buzzword, but very worth it imo. There's a whole set of disciplines around it: UX is more or less non-specialist (how does one go from A to B), UI is more graphically oriented (how does one signify that x will take you from A to B), Information Architecture is categorization and navigation-issue oriented (what is the meaningful distinction between A and B and why), and HCI (how do we define what B is, assuming that A …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 08:27 PM
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I'm a human-computer interaction specialist. The basic idea is "how do you make a coldly logical system more intuitive?". It's a very weird and very fun field!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 08:16 PM
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I get bogged down in this kind of stuff at work quite a bit. We'd assume convenient and polluting. Safer and dangerous are the same problem set, so lump them. Obnoxious is a value judgement so scrap it from consideration. When you list pros: then you have to ask "why is it comfortable? is it comfortable because you are alone, or comfortable because you own it?" If it's comfortable because you are alone, then you have a lot to work with. If it is only comfortable because it is yours/you have more…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 08:06 PM
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I think you're approaching the problem with a solution already in mind. I'd start with "cars in cities create problems x, y, z", then find solutions for x/y/z. You'll come to different outcomes depending on what you're solving for. Catch-all solutions rarely do much good.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 07:03 PM
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Never something I've noticed or considered.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 06:05 PM
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This makes sense to me and aligns with my experience. I think the general idea of RP as self-improvement is great, but it's missing the crucial factor that the ideal that you're improving towards should first and foremost be self-determined. "Being yourself" as BP advice only works well if you are still improving. Be the best you, and you'll likely fall into a niche. Try to become the best somebody else, and unless you had all the makings of the archetypical chad to begin with, you'll at best be…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 06:01 PM
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I'd guess because it implies that it is the only framework you have for dealing with people, which would imply that every interaction you have is transactional or tactical. A trait that can be employed well, certainly, but as a default is incredibly hard to trust.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 05:45 PM
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Hana is the very popular form among Eastern-Euro Jews in particular. Usually pronounced differently, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 05:07 PM
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I have a weird relationship with the pixies. My parents love them, my friends love them, every ex I've had loves them... I don't dislike them by any means, they just never really did it for me really. As far as oldschool, I'd say the vast majority of my taste is late 70s/early 80s!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 04:59 PM
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I was expecting a banger, but got The Cure minus all the good parts.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 04:38 PM
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To be fair, I generally dislike power-metal and all related genres. I like my metal to be rather gross sounding.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 04:31 PM
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Hard nay. So cheesy that it triggered my lactose intolerance.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 04:11 PM
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I'd say it's less about vocabulary, and more just being generally well-spoken (which vocabulary can help)!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 03:19 PM
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Since people are posting music, this little piece of early 80s Japanese/Armenian new-wave perfection is the best way to start a day.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 02:53 PM
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Depends. High quality olives>high quality pickles, grocery store quality olives<grocery store quality pickles.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 09:53 PM
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I think a lot of the men with consistently bad takes here are very fear-driven in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 09:51 PM
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I hope you don't actually believe that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 08:57 PM
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That's certainly part of it, but being a part of a network of trusted people who are doing well will get you far in its own right, in my experience. Old money crowds have known this for ages.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 08:02 PM
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how would that not help you in the real world?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 07:55 PM
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Well, it turns out a poster that I threw away 3 copies of a few years ago is worth about 1k/copy. Very fun news.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 07:36 PM
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Definitely check out New Wash. It's not marketed to men at all, not sure why. Seems expensive but a container lasts me almost a year.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 06:20 PM
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Do you find your hair looks better slightly dirty? New wash is the shit for that kind of look.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 06:13 PM
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Still need a haircut! Long and aesthetically considered hair is great, long hair that hasn't been maintained looks terrible.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 06:03 PM
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Get the right haircut!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 05:55 PM
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Seriously, the only absent fathers I know personally are the ones I thought were iffy in highschool. The stepfathers i know are usually of the "wow, you have your shit together to a shocking degree" type.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 05:17 PM
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Not a cop-out at all. A tad nihilistic, perhaps, but I honestly take pleasure in the gravity of things being limited in scope. It's very freeing.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 10:54 PM
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That's what makes it fun, imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 10:39 PM
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You're officially a candidate for the daily "worst takes" award.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 10:21 PM
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Have you ever had a close female friend? Someone you'd call a confidant? If you're asking someone even remotely in the category of "stranger", of course you'll get generic bullshit. Being close with women and actually listening to them has treated me rather well. Yet I do not know a single person that has gotten wrapped up in manosphere shit who has anything to show for it beyond more precise descriptions of why the world is terrible and unfair.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 10:18 PM
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I dont know how this advice gets spread. It is a terrible truism that has zero meaning. You might have to phrase the question differently, but asking the fish in it's own language is obviously the best advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 08:26 PM
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I think theres a case for the opposite! There are a ton of dudes on here who seem to think that perfection is all that matters, and if they cant get perfection they are being cheated.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 08:19 PM
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Same! I have met maybe 2 in my life. They were quickly shut down for being ideologically inconsistent/hostile/or not solution oriented. Basically all the hardcore self proclaimed feminists I know would include mens issues in their understanding of why gender roles are terrible. Part of the problem is that academia is being thrown out by the "manosphere". There are real men-specific issues, but they're all tied up with so much bullshit that they're hard to take seriously in the current framing.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 08:09 PM
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Big shocker: loud signs gain attention, and people paying attention will fixate on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 07:59 PM
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I mean, it only ruins it if you dont have any other context. If it's all you know that's going on, I cant see many reasons to be involved. And really, why is it shocking that teenagers and the loudest of keyboard warriors have the worst takes? I find that breed of feminism to be rather dumb, but I have encountered it so few times outside the internet that it's a non-issue and I would still absolutely consider myself to be a feminist.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 07:57 PM
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Let me guess... "something something cuck culture"?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 07:47 PM
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Theres a huge difference between feminist and "I use the lens of what a blog said about Judith Butler to color every social encounter". I feel like a lot of the guys dont get that tumblr feminism is an aberration of an academic conversation and nowhere close to the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 07:44 PM
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Yes, if they grew up Christian and are just kinda barely keeping that alive. Even then I'd have a hard time with it. Serious Christian -- especially by choice later in life -- absolutely not.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 07:40 PM
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5'9" not sure of a number, conservative estimate ~80
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 07:33 PM
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You're making some extremely large and tenuous connections from very little information.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 07:31 PM
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Definitely. Theres also the aspect of everyone looking awkward as fuck anywhere near puberty. That "dont look at me!! I'm growing!!!" look.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 07:28 PM
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Where do you live??? That sounds wildly interesting
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 07:10 PM
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Push ups and basic shit while working at home, swim once or twice a week.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 05:41 PM
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I'd say I generally get along with women better than I do men. Of the friends i am closest with/in touch with most often, I'd say it's a 60/40 split in favor of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 03:51 PM
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I lived in a loft with 4 lesbians during college, they did wonders for my sex life!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 01:50 PM
2

My personal fav of the cheap regional foods is the bone-in porkchop sandwich. The good polish sausage spots sautee their onions with a porkchop underneath to flavor them. If you're in the know, they'll make a sandwich out of that porkchop and a pile of the onions and mustard.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 09:45 PM
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I have a bit of a thing for regional hot dog styles. My tops are: Chicago (onion, mustard, pickle, tomato, celery salt, relish) Sonoran (beans, pico, pickled jalepeno, bacon, optional mustard/mayo) NY (sauerkraut, brown mustard, "onion sauce" which is really onions sauteed in something sweet with some sort of tomato product - often coca cola and tomato paste Medellin (bacon, french fries the size of matches or potato chips, quail eggs, pineapple sauce, optional mayo and avocado)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 09:43 PM
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NY style is great too! They really seem to be less sanctimonious about their dogs. Though, as a Chicago resident I honestly eat more depression-style than anything. It's basically a Chicago dog, minus celery salt and tomato, but always comes with fries that are wrapped in the paper along with the rest of it, so you always end up with a few stuck in the dog itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 09:36 PM
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You're a good looking guy, but your phrasing makes me think you might come off as a bit... well, off. Your hurdle wont be your looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 07:13 PM
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I'm always shocked how much I agree with a self proclaimed meathead! I have a long history of clashing with the football-ish sort.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 06:33 PM
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I mean, fucked seems extreme! Definitely cynical, but hard to call it fucked.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 06:20 PM
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It's almost like the standards that you find to be the most critical... aren't.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 04:35 PM
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What made university such a bad experience? Also, are you talking about undergrad or grad school being horrible?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 04:32 PM
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Trying to go for people you find disgusting out of desperation doesn't sound very productive.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 04:23 PM
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I think the position of one night stands being a deal breaker is more abnormal than the opposite.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 04:16 PM
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I mean... might not be too late. She only brought him home once. I'd tread carefully though, neighborly relations are tricky.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 04:09 PM
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My work isn't entirely unrelated. The field that I'm in started as an esoteric architectural movement that I researched extensively. I started working in the field well before my MS, I got the MS simply so I could charge more. Her PhD was funded. And yes, you used to be able to get away with a masters to be a curator at a large institution (and still can if you go to the right schools), but for the most part you need a PhD. Not pretending anything! Just showing that there are indeed paths to mak…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 02:40 PM
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My title at work is "Human-Computer Interaction Specialist". My undergrad thesis was on the history of the pattern-language movement in architecture and its influence on digital aesthetics. Learned that you can make a lot working for software companies practicing these ideas and went back for a masters in HCI. Though, I'd gotten work in the field just based on my more theoretical knowledge of it before the MS. My gf is a curator and critic. She did some shows that got good reviews, then got bigg…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 02:30 PM
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Art History Bachelors with an Art History PhD girlfriend here, we're doing just fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 02:23 PM
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Running Up That Hill is having a major comeback. Her work in general is amazing though. If you're not a freak for the last two Talk Talk albums yet, they come highly recommended.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 11:06 PM
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One of my fav tracks to crank the bass on while summer driving.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 09:02 PM
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My record is 7 rounds. They asked for an 8th and I told them that i would be upping my rate by 20k/year as the job seemed more demanding than was described... They promised the process would be done in just 2 more interviews.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 08:51 PM
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Depends on how high up the chain of command you're meeting with. My 5th round interview was the top dog, then various coworkers just kind of talking shop. The conversation went well enough that I knew I had it. Last job, second round was less talking about experience, but more so problems you've encountered and your process for dealing with them. This was a heads-up that people had gotten frustrated and snapped at people before, and that work relations would be a major component of the job.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 08:43 PM
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Huge leap of faith but then also a ton of resources. I knew one person who made it as an actress (like, made it to the degree that you've definitely heard of her), and she was moved to LA in her own apartment at a young age, had private tutors, and had a rather good manager from the get go.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 08:23 PM
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Very different. Round one is often "do you know what you're talking about", round two is often "will we be able to stand each other". But, some industries round two is actually just more detailed repeat of round one, then round 3 or 4 will be "do we like each other".
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 08:20 PM
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A: "i'm stuck in a trap" B: "oh yeah, I know that one! the door is over here" A: "No, you don't understand, it's a trap" B: "Uhhh, yeah. Just go over here and look around for a latch" A: "The trap is made out of steel and steel is impossible to break through unless you're a superhuman" B: "..." A: "you know what, I don't care. I'm so stoic and cool that I don't mind. In fact, I am the coolest because I understand the nature of the trap!" B: "...so you don't want help with the door?" A: "fuck you…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 04:26 PM
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October is here, which means daily listening of The Scientist Rids the World of the Evil Curse of the Vampires is required.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 02:54 PM
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Puttanesca or bust!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 02:59 AM
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Would you really call this "prominent cases"?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 09:58 PM
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and you actually wonder why you can't get laid??
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 09:43 PM
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Really depends on the field. In fields that have normalized the very shitty "grindset" culture, it can indeed end your career (or at least entirely hault progression) to cut hours.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 08:54 PM
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I always noticed I wrote much better essays/did better presentations if I got laid the night before. 3rd year I went as far as telling an fwb this so that I could pull a "cancel your plans! I have a paper to write!"
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 08:41 PM
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Unpopular opinion: some subcultures need to be gatekept (but I dont think it has much to do with taste). Mainstream cultural stuff like GOT though, it's hard to care. It was made for a gigantic audience anyway, so a plurality of good and bad takes comes with the territory.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 03:42 PM
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First one by miles. I know some people like this and they seem quite happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 03:31 PM
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I dont think it's about sharing every moment or every interest, it's more of a distrust for certain hobbies because of the baggage that often comes along with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 10:58 PM
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Responding with a bit of seriousness: nobody is going to space (to live) before a shit ton of poor people die there. We are nowhere close to this being a reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 10:46 PM
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It's certainly a thing, and assuming you're talking about a pornstar saying that bit about not having a problem, A: you cant really feel it as a guy (with particular exceptions), B: theres a certain level of professionalism thatd be involved, limiting the feedback given, and C: it's kind of alarming that you're reading/watching interviews of male pornstars to try to get insight on the dating world.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 10:21 PM
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They dont all feel the same, but the variability isnt very high either. It's kind of like wine, they're basically the same until you've had enough to notice (and hopefully appreciate) the differences. I dont think a hoe phase is important for everyone to experience, but I found it fun!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 03:08 PM
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Listening to records, reading, might take some film to get developed , and cant decide if I want a hot dog or a cubano.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 03:59 PM
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I've been looking for an excuse to before winter hits. Desk jobs can be cushy, but I really need to find a way to prevent my desk job from destroying me physically.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 11:40 PM
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Go figure: someone placing their entire value in bread will not have value when there is no bread.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 11:38 PM
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He's preemptively worried that you're the one who got away. He's texting you for the peace of mind that he kinda-sorta tried.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 11:04 PM
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The secret is to ask with zero shame, but to not care if they say no.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 10:59 PM
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Jordan Peterson is full of shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 10:57 PM
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You just look at the bill and say "down the middle?" unless you know they can't.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 10:54 PM
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Fear mostly, from what I've seen. After a certain point they get a level of validation that is less than getting a girlfriend, but a more guaranteed return than attempting to get a girlfriend. Then, they try to stack that small validation they get by complaining harder or trying to find a root cause. The kicker is that the deeper they go into complaining harder or finding a root cause makes them finding a girlfriend incrementally less likely. Rinse and repeat.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 10:51 PM
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Cologne and clothes are only advisable if you actually care about them. It's a very uninteresting drain if you don't find a niche you think is fascinating for both categories. Imo there is no "fill the void", because it's not filling one space with another, just creating a distraction that can become consuming enough that you dont have time for anything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 08:22 PM
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Full agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 08:07 PM
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yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 06:47 PM
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If you're just looking for related (post-structural-ish French 50s-80s?), I'd check out Guy Debord (Society of the Spectacle), Henri Lefebvre (The Production of Space, Critique of Everyday Life, Introduction to Modernity), Michel de Certeau (The Practice of Everyday Life), and Jacques Ranciere (The Ignorant Schoolmaster, Disagreement)!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 04:20 PM
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Reading lost for fun or for school? If it's for fun/on the theme of extremely tedious but wacky philosophy: check out the Spherology trilogy by Sloterdijk. I have no strong issues with Foucoult though he never quite grabbed me either! I read Discipline and Punish years and years ago and enjoyed it well enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 01:05 PM
1

Have you given Baudrillard any time? He's up there with Deleuze as far as out-thereness but feels less obnoxiously opaque to me!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 04:38 AM
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Uhg, Deleuze is rough (and really didnt feel worth it, personally).
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 04:17 AM
2

Non-exlusive + non-physical doesn't sound like a relationship at all. Edit: and if you find yourself complaining about this form of relationship, chances are you misinterpreted the entire thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 08:32 PM
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You can't be serious...
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 07:57 PM
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I don't fully understand it either. Wish I could tell you! I get the feeling they got caught up in an academic exercise, and have found themselves enjoying the speculation of "how dating works" to the degree that they don't actually try.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 07:10 PM
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It's a pretty bare fact that most people are average, and average people also fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 07:04 PM
3

That and "they're taking our women!" threads.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 06:56 PM
3

I live near an old Eastern Euro bar in Chicago, went there after work. I'm used to being thr only person under 50 there, but today there's a woman roughly my age who just moved into town from Delaware. A guy starts buying her drinks then eventually sits between us. I shoot the shit with him, and all is well for a bit. Dude gets a few beers deep and tells me that he's wondering why she was drawn here, and that Jewish, Jesuit, and Gargoyle energies converge at the Sears Tower and he wants to know …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 12:14 AM
1

Disagree depending on age. Insta is phone number for someone who will never respond to for anyone over 30.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/22 12:08 AM
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It sounds like part of you wants to be a remote island, but are curious what the mainland is like. Or feel uncomfortable on the mainland, so are trying to convince yourself a remote island is for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 07:20 PM
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Unpacking the bullshit: but, if you enjoy porn more than spending time with women, why do you care to know what their bodies feel like?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 06:44 PM
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I've tried to point out similar things, sometimes using analogies along the lines of "if you really want a job, dont you think youd put in an effort to qualify for it?". The usual response is "fuck that why would I even want someone who is just going to divorce rape me and cheat on me and I'll never be good enough anyway", followed by "it's not fair that I have to do so much" or "it is unreasonable to think doing anything will do any good".
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/22 05:48 PM
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I'd swipe left.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 10:53 PM
1

christ, this again???
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 10:37 PM
3

Much better bald. You could probably pull off really short hair too, or even a very 90s flat top if you dressed very, very fashionably.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/22 04:29 PM
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As far as the other way around, if you are applying then you are also looking. The power is negotiable, but at the end of the day most people would be looking for a mutually beneficial arrangement. The whole "why should I?" has nothing wrong with it at face value. If you don't want it, you shouldn't. If you want it, but don't want to move towards it, that's firmly a you problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 09:09 PM
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But Russia sounds like a particularly shitty ex. They don't bring much to the table, have terrible prospects, constantly talk shit, alienate you from your friends, and seem to only be spiralling in all these traits. If we're going to stick with relationship terminology: Ukraine is a kinda pretty girl who get's dragged along by Russia when he's feeling desperate. Ukraine starts to turn their life around, and starts to get a little bit of attention, though no solid relationships, from some big sho…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 08:52 PM
2

In this analogy, the US is the girlfriend?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 08:26 PM
1

Not sure about better person, but I certainly got some shit done and had a good time doing so.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 08:12 PM
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I'm sure his edginess will serve him well on the front lines.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 08:11 PM
1

"Why should I apply for a job?" "Why should I make an effort to qualify?"
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 08:03 PM
1

How does it look like prostitution in any way at all? The process and results were vastly different.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 06:18 PM
1

Haha that seems a bit extreme. I'm frankly not sure what I'd say they even stand for
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 02:28 AM
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Hot take: Kraftwerk are far more influential than the Beatles and it's not even close.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 02:00 AM
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I ride hard for T1, though it really comes down to whether you prefer action or horror. I'd say that T1 is among the best slasher movies ever made.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 12:23 AM
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McDonalds or Papa Johns.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 10:00 PM
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One of the best boozes out there, also a great movie.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 09:08 PM
2

Racing mind sounds more like ADHD than depression, and I'd look at those meds before SSRIs (or in this case, atypical antidepressants). Bupoprion is a very unusual antidepressant, so blanket advice from the perspective of people on SSRIs is kinda irrelevant. Also: taking antidepressants temporarily isn't much of a thing to my knowledge, blood concentrations need to build over time and prescribing doctors seem to be woefully undertrained (so if it has no effect, the usual advice is to keep taking…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 01:01 AM
1

and what would you say the message is exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 12:10 AM
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what on earth do you think you're getting out of watching shit like this?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 12:07 AM
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I suppose the obvious bit is that you kinda figure things out with time, learning what works aesthetically etc. That, compounded with the added benefit of being more comfortable with yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 04:02 AM
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The part about how some people take multiple yet some take none seems kind of obvious in the context of dudes that are virgins in their 20s+. They didn't have that highschool sweetheart that they mutually lost it to, and the amount of people who have never had sex drops dramatically and increasingly every year after that. One guy being a mutual first with one person, then another's first afterwards doesn't really sound scandalous or problematic at all to me. In addition, obsessing over only losi…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 12:48 AM
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I get hit on a hell of a lot more in my 30s than I did in my 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 12:29 AM
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I have a very abnormally high count, but virgins are not an appreciable part of it. Promiscuous people tend to find each other, in my experience. And further, we dont tend to actively seek it out.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 12:04 AM
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In my experience, no. That is, if you're saying that the 20% who are supposedly having all the sex are taking all the virginities.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 10:45 PM
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Orange
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 08:51 PM
1

After sleeping around for years, I noticed my type expanding severely. Have a particularly great time with someone and all of the sudden subtle features shared with that person become more attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 11:26 PM
1

You're probably kicking down instead of sliding off the side.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/22 07:05 PM
1

Whoa, one of the dudes from ABBA looks like a bad wax figurine of David Spade.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 08:52 AM
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As an American guy who is thin, well dressed and has longish hair, I'm immediately assumed to be gay or Euro as soon as I leave larger cities.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 10:57 PM
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I am currently in Venice and so confused as to how there is so little grass but so many dogs. I have seen grass once in the past 5 days.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 09:20 AM
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Same. I'm doing quite well to everyone's astonishment.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 09:37 AM
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I was in a category 4 (Ida) last year and it sucked. Categories 1s are pretty fun though!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 09:35 AM
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The day has finally come! This time tomorrow I'll be at a 12th century beach cottage on the Adriatic.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/22 02:37 PM
1

I've been on a strict cold coffee only program since I was 18. Drip tastes like shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 01:54 PM
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Bootlegs from that era are great if you dont mind bootleg sound quality! They had a rep for starting fights and live recordings are hilarious.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 02:41 AM
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Get a hair cut that suits your face shape, dress in a way that suits your body type.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 01:53 AM
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I have a close friend who's a dominatrix. She dates just fine, just expect the complaining about work convos to be more interesting than most people's.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 01:50 AM
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Psychocandy is an all-timer for me
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/22 01:48 AM
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Learning proper technique will go a long way. If by machines you mean stuff like slap/chops, they're terrible and impossible to clean. Just learn how to use your knife.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 01:23 PM
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Yeah, if it's taking you an hour to make a curry, you need to learn how to use a knife well.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 01:07 PM
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Again: up your knife skills! I cook 3-4 days a week. Active prep time is rarely more than 20-30 minutes. Most of the cooking time should be inactive, unless you're making some nit-picky french stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 03:57 AM
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Way too little time in each place. Finding 2-3 places you like and getting to know them well is so much more fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 03:28 AM
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Up your knife skills then. Chopping shouldn't be the majority of cooking time.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 03:26 AM
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Not disagreeing with that... But everyone is also entitled to deem an opinion as a bad one too.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 10:39 PM
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And hot takes from someone who doesnt know what they're talking about generally arent taken well. If you want to be taken seriously, you should try harder.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 10:07 PM
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You're giving yourself away as someone who has no experiential knowledge of sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 10:04 PM
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Not being a pushover and looking as good as you can isnt rp. It's basic life shit that you should do anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 10:00 PM
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You're blowing your own cover.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 09:52 PM
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Truth in a total sense wouldn't change, obviously. But, value judgement is a bitch to ever try to escape. Is X enough, too much, too little. But, if I'm understanding you correctly, you're going for a hardline nihilism that aims to get rid of any form of value judgment (as it's not logical), and just let the cards fall where they will?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 10:56 PM
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If a famine hit, would the goal not change from consuming to rationing?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 10:49 PM
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Wouldnt your truths have more to do with the goal at hand than anything? Also, theory without praxis is easy; practice and actionable solution is always the hard part. If your goal is amoral, of course your solution is. If your goal is moral, of course it is inconsistent insofar as humans are.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 10:26 PM
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Congrats: you have just discovered that logical systems are incommensurate with human systems. The question is: where do you go from here?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 10:14 PM
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Saying that genetics has any concept of "deserving" is so laughable. Evolution is a quasi-random process and is fully amoral.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 10:05 PM
1

For Japanese food, there's a chain of handroll bars that has a few LA locations called KazuNori. Dirt cheap, very fresh and simple. More of a lunch spot but definitely worth checking out.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 09:01 PM
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1.There's a top notch charcoal Korean bbq joint that is top notch near the hotel I always stay at. Don't remember the name, but as most are gas it shouldn't be hard to find (it's in K-Town). LA does al pastor incredibly well. If you see a truck with an outdoor spit for al pastor tacos, just go. Otherwise, Tacos Los Guichos is the spot. Tabula Rasa is a lovely wine bar with conservas. If you feel like properly partying, Jumbo's Clown Room is down the street (weird as fuck non-nude strip club that…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 08:55 PM
2

Took her out to a $500 dinner for her birthday. That was definitely the priciest date so far.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 03:13 PM
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I dont know, casual sex is how most of my relationships started post-highschool.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 08:54 PM
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I don't find it awkward at all, though this is coming from a guy who has never dated within my race. Also, if your family cares about who you're fucking outside of it being a toxic situation, that sounds like a them problem, not a you problem. Don't internalize it into a you problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 06:44 PM
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what don't you know about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 06:39 PM
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Tried it, had a bad time. My current gf is my first that I'd say is without a single doubt smarter than me and it's so refreshing.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 06:16 PM
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Yeah, I think it's mostly inconsequential. The only people that will have consequences will be his followers, as they'll be much easier to make fun of.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 05:30 PM
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Are you responding "no they dont" to the part about women already dating/fucking average guys, or the part about men wanting to be treated like theyre part of the top 20%?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 03:23 PM
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You're gonna do fine! Just cool it down on the "feeling invincible" thing when you're in your early 20s... Oh, and stop thinking everything is so final; nothing is perfect and never will be, trying to make it perfect is a waste of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 07:31 PM
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Seriously. He's an idiot even with zero accusations, if accusations are true he's an idiotic monster. It's really that simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 08:37 PM
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I'd say I get maybe one every two weeks if not including my gf. Cant say I give them very often (again, nor including gf).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 08:24 PM
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Doubt he'll always be prevalent, seems pretty standard flash in the pan internet celeb. As far as being banned, it's a private platform, so it's very hard to say he "deserves" it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/22 02:59 AM
1

Terrible take.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 07:22 PM
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My girlfriend is black and 36, I'm younger. She gets carded wherever we go, and occasionally I get iffy looks from bartenders for bringing a college student around as a grown ass man.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 04:43 PM
1

Every 3-4 months
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 02:31 PM
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r/iamverybadass & r/im14andthisisdeep would love you.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 09:56 PM
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Men tend to model themselves after a man's view of manliness. There are other types of men that women find desirable. The whole problem with the "chad" idea is that it assumes that there is one archetype. Effeminate with a dick is another archetype that works, at least a lot better than being halfway to the classic one.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 09:53 PM
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Even that isn't so cut and dry. Fatty pork cuts are far fattier than fatty beef cuts, but your average pork chop is a lot leaner than a steak.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 09:46 PM
3

Trichinosis was a huge problem in the past, it's almost exclusively gotten from wild game at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 09:44 PM
3

You don't need to understand if you're not trying to fuck the same people.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 09:42 PM
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My brother and his wife hyphenated, but only for their kid. I find it very novel that there's a 4 year old running around with an Azerbaijani/Austrian Yiddish last name.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 09:41 PM
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I found Canadian politics to be so refreshing when I lived there. Nobody spoke down to the audience. If you want to understand, you learn the system and jargon. American politics is such a race to lowest common denominators, and yet we are surprised by anti-intellectual populists taking office.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 07:58 PM
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I have to go to my cousins wedding in 2 weeks. His mother's marriage is currently falling apart because of her belief in a satanic conspiracy in the US. I really dont want to go.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 07:55 PM
2

Woof.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 07:50 PM
1

Fuck. How did you get that far?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 07:44 PM
3

And were exceptionally fringe ideas. These days, you can have an argument as to whether there is a baby-eating cabal and it results in "well, you have your information, I have mine".
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 07:43 PM
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Dolly is a national gem, and I dont give a single shit about her music.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 07:08 PM
1

I mean, the same word can mean 10 things depending on context too.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 07:06 PM
1

well said.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 11:33 PM
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Turns out that values aren't necessarily rational, and achieving goals based on values that you came to via rational arguments wont be satisfying.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 11:32 PM
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Double shot of espresso over ice, small splash of almond milk.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 05:58 PM
3

Kansas City snows too (though not a ton). 120 will work just fine. Take into consideration that you will absolutely need a car in LA, though. Also: choose a neighborhood wisely. LA is gigantic and commute times are a bitch. Coming from outside of the US, the tent city thing will likely be shocking, so be ready for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 03:12 PM
0

Same: 21 churches, 1 McDonalds.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 02:45 PM
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I don't live in either, but did spend some time in LA and have been to both the others. Columbus is pretty nice. Mid sized city, lots of college students, classic Midwestern friendliness. Cold and snowy winters, somewhat hot and humid summers. Not much else in the surrounding area. If I had to stay in the Midwest, but had to leave Chicago, I'd probably go there. Kansas city is on the smaller side and belongs to the "surprisingly kind of cool" category. They're putting a lot of money into making …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 02:42 PM
1

The taco place I frequent has a higher rating than the 200/person michelin starred place across the street.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 02:01 PM
1

Are we talking stars on google here? Those dont really have anything to do with price.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 01:32 PM
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I think most of the hate comes with the armchair evolutionary psychology, self loathing, and pretty blatant misogyny. Though, I agree with you. It's generally the same shit in every self-help book of the past few decades. It's more a problem of the community of self-help that focuses on inter-sexual dynamics that is full of shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 10:15 PM
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You'll get there. It's all fun, and once you demystify it, it gets more fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 09:25 PM
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Not saying it counts as losing your virginity. I'm saying that my first timen "doing stuff" at all was a significantly more memorable time than losing my virginity.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 09:20 PM
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Personally, I'd say the first time someone gets you off in any way is a more momentous event than first time having sex proper.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 09:15 PM
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The point of "toxic masculinity" isnt that men are inherently toxic. It's a concept used to describe the loads of bullshit that men are fed from a young age, and also a description of the symptoms that follow taking that bullshit to heart and being unable to escape it. As a concept, it is extremely useful for men who want to talk about this stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 09:07 PM
1

Seriously, these are really not mutually exclusive categories.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 08:50 PM
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Wait, who is saying it's aliens? That's pretty close to the last thing I'd think. Military tech is a pretty reasonable bet.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 10:24 PM
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My least favorite: going to sleep early before a really big and busy day. Wake up early, check shit off the list, get it done relatively smoothly. Hit a hurdle, hurdle makes everything start to stack up and starts to fuck up the day. Work my ass off to clear the hurdle, breath a sigh of relief... then wake up. It happens semi regularly and it really sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 08:41 PM
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Considering that Trump was on WWF, its fair to say theres at least some cross polination
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 06:29 PM
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I mostly doubt it will ever be built. But even if it is, it's an extremely ambitious concept, and by the time you make all the concessions to reality to make the concept work, it won't be recognizable in any way.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 10:35 PM
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This. You cant tell if confidence means "well-adjusted, has their shit together and knows it" or "sociopathic", "ambitious and has a plan" or "delusions of grandeur" without some time with them, for the most part.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 07:02 PM
1

But, what you find to be pretty often is.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 06:21 PM
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I swear, some people here never go out.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 06:12 PM
2

Are you saying the situation is her fault because she is approaching him being shitty the wrong way?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 05:49 PM
1

I've been with someone who I consider the total package (like, someone so well-suited to me that I figured they didn't exist) for a few years now. So, up. Dating-wise, I agree with lift. Trying to figure out who's hotter when you want to jump each other's bones is a pretty silly task that just takes time away from jumping each other's bones.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 04:09 PM
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You have apparently never met an "anal only as I'm saving my virginity for marriage" type.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 11:32 PM
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A problem with being hyperactive is they are often perceived as cutting others off in conversation. Learn to pause/make room before you unleash!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 07:07 PM
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I can only dream. The US with a funding allocation not dictated by idiots would be so unrivaled it wouldnt be fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 09:20 PM
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Very well put. "Personal is political" very quickly turned into an ego centrist "the only politics I care about focuses on individuals". American left lost the plot, American right made their sole aim to throw the baby out with the bath water.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 08:46 PM
1

That sounds like someone who did something, didn't like it, then course-adjusted.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 08:22 PM
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As a former male slut: I have never once encountered this. That's not to say it never happens, just that it's something you should actively worry about.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 08:17 PM
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Personally, I think Freud is full of shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 08:14 PM
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It's a terrible point. It's like saying McDonalds is a problem, then overlooking the executives, the franchisees, the distributors, the manufacturers, and the consumers and saying "oh! I got it! It's the fry-cook's fault!"
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 05:15 PM
3

Wait... so you think porn actresses who are being paid to do those scenes are to blame, not the men who make up the audience, or the writers/casting directors who put them together?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 04:35 PM
4

Very dumb take. You should feel ashamed.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 02:22 PM
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It's certainly not for everyone, all-time fav of mine though. I'd trade burgers out of existence if it made sushi just as cheap/available without much thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 01:29 AM
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I just realized I read it as "atomized", dispersed and isolated.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 08:56 PM
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The dream is very important to this, for sure. The world is complex and doesnt make sense, which is frustrating. Religion offers that it should make sense, does make sense, an overarching mythology that tries to make sense of it, and a culture that relays interpretations of those mythologies so that it makes sense to you personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 08:48 PM
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Opting out is a great social strategy when you cant personally change anything and cant compartmentalize, imo. Id love for politics to be beaurocracy that is so far removed from daily life that theres little point in caring unless it interests you (like most other niche, boring fields). It gets harder when proper right wing nutjobs start to be seriously entertained.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 08:35 PM
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The flip side of this is also true: not hating the government is an equally great way to be edgy that requires zero thought. Baffling times.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 08:19 PM
2

Being trendy is highly overrated, such an endless game and goes unnoticed on most.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 08:17 PM
1

Yeah, you probably should.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 07:59 PM
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I have the opposite problem: I'm bored as fuck, approached the top dog and said that I dont think I'm doing enough, he said I'm doing great and to not worry about projects till they actively knock on my door.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 07:55 PM
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Hey now! I'd like to think I'm at least a little more than "psuedo" intellectual! In any case, I did that handshake a long time ago. However, theres a certain subset of gym bro that just seems to have an innate hatred of me. Most I've found I get along with reasonably well, but not in a "what's your number, let's get a beer" kinda way.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 07:28 PM
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to be fair, they've done a great job with the river!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 05:02 PM
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And frankly, someone whose entire premise is isolating a child from the world is not fit to be a parent just because they're wealthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 02:49 AM
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My first impression is that he sounds kinda creepy and will maybe raise a creepy kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 02:36 AM
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It depends... how often do you do blanket laundry?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 01:47 AM
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Facing scary shit is definitely a skill that should be learned, if your way is getting hit then so be it, I dont think it's very punch-specific though. Lots of ways to learn. Regarding unarmed combat, the closest I've ever been to a proper fight I just broke a bottle, threatened to stab the dude, and asked if he was stupid enough to stick around long enough for the cops to come haha
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 09:57 PM
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I've only been hit in the face once in my life, sucker punched and knocked out immediately at the age of 30. While it wasnt bad, I would hardly qualify it as a major life lesson. If you're about to get hit on a regular basis, you're probably fucking up. It's really not something that comes up often enough to be that important.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 09:41 PM
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I have only dated women outside of my race. Early 30s and male.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 08:59 PM
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Filthy first dates were at the beginning of all my best relationships!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 07:53 PM
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It took me a bit to get over it, but it happened pretty painlessly. In my case it was less looks-oriented, more social (though, that could be the case for you too). I was extremely unpopular my entire life, switched highschools and found myself suddenly at the top of the food chain and had weird trust issues due to that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 04:33 AM
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To be honest... you sound extremely paranoid. Are you in your early 20s?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 02:35 AM
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Has anyone ever said anything to your face?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 02:10 AM
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Just honing in on specificity: but saying there is "intention" behind evolution seems misphrased, if not misguided. It's a system defined by death and opportunism fucking each other, there is no "intent".
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 01:43 AM
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There are still so many after a brief search. The legal advice post was regarding whether or not you could sue your workplace after being fired for being in the paper for being in a hotel room with a large amount of prostitutes, a large amount of meth, and an even larger amount of meth being sold by one of the prostitutes to someone who ended up being a cop. 40 year old married professional with a whole lot of "who's up?!?!?!" posts with a dick pic.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 12:56 AM
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I dont know what you mean by feminist bloop. I'm saying he might believe some stuff, but is mostly an idiot who found out he can make money by being loud.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 12:47 AM
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Theres another one that just involved being horny while on meth that I only saw because of a legal advice sub. Really, really wish I didnt know so much about their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 12:16 AM
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You could've said the same about Alex Jones, or hell, Trunp for that matter. Yet, here we are. It's a very profitable position to say a bunch of shit and see what sticks yet always have an out.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 12:15 AM
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I have a strict no clippers rule. Scissors all the way.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 11:54 PM
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Basic crew cut is and should be cheap, doesnt work for me. The cheap version of a longish mens hair cut looks like trash.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 11:53 PM
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I have very nice hair and it's on the slightly longish side. If you try to get longer hair cut at a regular mens barber, you'll end up looking like Crispin Glover. They give you a beer while you wait and a scalp massage.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 10:46 PM
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Womens stuff is also just so insanely expensive. I felt guilty about my new hair place as it's around $80, but do a fantastic job. I relayed this info and learned that my gf pays $300... $20 t shirt is expensive for me, $80 dress is cheap for her. So on and so on
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 10:16 PM
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My gf got married young and divorced a few years later, never wants to be married again unless certain conditions are met. I think more and more people are thankfully coming to the realization that it's a legal/business decision more than anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 09:42 PM
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They're a hell of a lot quieter/more subtle. Incels are often loud enough that it's really hard to avoid roasting them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 09:31 PM
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It's one of those things that I think feels depraved when you're younger/less experienced. When I was out slutting around I was shocked by how normal it is/how many women are into it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 03:55 PM
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Fun/visually appealing when the mood calls for it. Like most things in sex, it's kinda hard to break it down as a why. It just kinda works, I suppose.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 03:29 PM
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No. But your conceptions of how people are in the world will likely become less colored by shit-tinted lenses, which is at bare minimum a good first step.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 03:13 AM
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I hate to be so dismissive, but you should really get off of here. You're off to a bad start, and the shit that gets spewed here is really not going to help in any way, and will probably hurt more than anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 03:03 AM
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who are you actually attracted to?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 02:44 AM
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I've never understood why it was exciting at all, I give it a hesitant 1.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 02:32 AM
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With no listed reason as to why you're so messed up that you could never "deserve" anyone (pro tip: nobody deserves anyone), it sounds like you're dealing with an inferiority complex and not dealing with an impossible romantic world. I know that doesn't sound helpful at a glance, but if you don't identify your problem, you'll never solve it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 02:30 AM
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No judgement whatsoever regarding blind spots, I never formally studied philosophy either. I was an art history guy in school, with a tendency for deep-dives and flirtations with adjacent subjects. As far as it regressing into solipsism, I disagree. More properly, it regresses into nihilism. From a phenomenological point of view, the existence of other minds is never really called into question, though whether or not you have any form of shared reality is. I agree that it fails to make any real …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 02:14 AM
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I haven't really spent much time with Spinoza! When I say that, I mean I read Ethics quickly a decade ago. I'm by no means an expert on the subject. My problem with the panpsychist approach is a lack of accounting for the possibility that the panpsychist conception of mind is not transposed upon substance by the very act of a mind perceiving it. (i.e. mind is immanent of the material world, and what is perceived as mind is limited by mind, which is a sloppy way of saying: Wittgenstein) From a ph…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 01:14 AM
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I prefer a phenomenological approach: material, objective reality is real but we do not have access to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 12:29 AM
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What exactly is the result, beside the fact that it adds 5? Its a really weird phrasing. Taken literally, 5 guys in 20 years is the same as 5 guys in 20 minutes.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 12:07 AM
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So, you're saying that a gangbang is precisely the same as someone being fucked by the same amount of people over an indeterminate amount of time? If I may ask, what's your love/sex life like?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 11:19 PM
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7 is average by surveyed standard, low by most standards. Calling 7 huge is insane to me, and apparently most other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 10:47 PM
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Seriously. People dont seem to understand that exceptional cases are exceptionally interesting. Just because a girl banging her boyfriend on OnlyFans looks like a "girl next door" doesnt mean that your neighbor would do porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 10:20 PM
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I dont think its innately misogynistic as long as its consistent. If inconsistent (would you look down upon lower than you but higher than whatever arbitrary standard youd like?), then I wouldn't call it properly mysoginistic, just run of the mill sexist.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 10:09 PM
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Seriously?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 10:05 PM
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Oddball interests served me very well in terms of getting laid, but can be a bit isolating when it comes to long term relationships. Personality it really depends. If you're bad with people in general: yes, that will be a battle, but not an impossible one.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 09:59 PM
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Only one way to find out!
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 09:35 PM
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If it makes you feel any better, I was a bit fatigued for a week after the primary symptoms subsided, but had no long-term effects otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 02:29 PM
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Just wait for the perpetual goosebumps and drenched in sweat phase.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/22 02:16 PM
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Along similar lines, regardless of political affiliation, Trump should be lauded for proving once and for all that you can be president without ever learning to read.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 10:31 PM
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Sunbaked and a lack of culture outside reality TV has a lot to do with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 05:23 PM
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A story as old as time in Arizona. Or, at least as old as air conditioning. A related note: my girlfriend is a New Yorker. Her mom just moved to the California desert. When I gave advice regarding tweakers, she had absolutely no clue what I was talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 05:17 PM
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I grew up there, thankfully havent lived there since I was 17. It is such a pitiful excuse for a city. Also, I hate when people separate Scottsdale as if it is actually different. It's where completely average Midwesterners go to get plastic surgery, make upper middle class wages then act like they live in Beverly Hills and shit on people accordingly.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 05:04 PM
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I invite you to check out the metro Phoenix area. Though, they have some things in common. Busted up in the desert is a very particular aesthetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 04:58 PM
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Really depends on my mood. If I just want a beer after a long day, I really dont want to be hit on, let alone groped.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 04:51 PM
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I'm still just so tickled by the fact that the only person I consistently agree with here is a self-proclaimed meathead lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 04:45 PM
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Which also helps explain the obsession with virginity. "You can't give it to me if you gave it to someone else! I'm only getting half!!"
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 02:59 PM
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I mean, it doesnt seem shocking at all that if you are short, fat, and bald that youd rank low. That sounds like a case of severely losing the genetic lottery. None of them seem like deal breakers as long as you dont have all three. All three, you better be charming as fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 10:04 PM
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Dude standards are the same, as far as I've seen. There are so many types of guys described as "hot" amongst women. Thinking it exclusively means 6' muscle man is a huge problem around here.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 09:47 PM
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Nothing about these categories is mutually exclusive. Normal looking but super sexy sluts with good character are abundant. You kind of tacked on annoying to make it an obvious choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 09:44 PM
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I did to my current partner. Obviously I did not relay that to everyone though. It requires the right moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 09:40 PM
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Why is that a problem? It's like shedding a tail when we no longer have to hide in trees from giant cats. A waste of energy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 08:34 PM
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Sucks that you had one bad experience, but that's not a particularly good reason to give up.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 08:26 PM
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I'd say a lot of the men come here after giving up on advice. It's a safe space to sulk, whine, and theorize in an echo chamber.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 08:26 PM
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I feel like the word nerdy is very diluted. People say liking superhero movies is nerdy even though they're among the highest grossing films of all time. In any case, I suppose my hobbies would be considered nerdy? I research vintage typography, read a lot of relatively niche stuff, and am building a synthesizer based on the karplus-strong algorithm.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 08:18 PM
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Hate the 1-10 stuff, it's more of a would not-would with conditions-would no questions asked. Shes in the no questions asked category.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 08:15 PM
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Del Taco destroys Taco Bell and it's not even close. Though, something about the bell sounds good once a year and then never fails to disappoint.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 05:18 AM
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Sky Harbor in Phoenix sucks, as does Dallas Fort-Worth. ​ And if we're talking international: San Salvador. pre-fab buildings with no signs, each with a line from the tarmac to the terminal. You have zero idea of whether or not you're in the right terminal until you get to the front of the line. Then, a guy with a machine gun yells at you and you go back outside to the other clusterfuck of lines surrounded by more guys with machine guns and hope the smell of gas doesn't stick to your clothes.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 11:04 PM
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None. Though I's say socially in tune is both more elusive and more important.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 11:02 PM
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We're not exactly known for our health...
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 10:35 PM
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Seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 08:15 PM
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I don't think that those numbers indicate "harmful to society", nor do I think you can blame casual sex. Increased income inequality/the shrinking of the middle class combined with more women in demanding professional roles seems like a great candidate for low birth rates. (If you have the time for kids you don't have the money, if you have the money you don't have the time). Marriage rates feels like a non-issue. The past few generations have realized at an increasing rate that it is a legal an…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 07:20 PM
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lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 07:04 PM
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Movies certainly dont have to be a waste of time. It really depends on whether the film requires any sort of active watching or is pure spoon-feeding.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 06:51 PM
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I dont know where people get it in their heads that casual sex is harmful for society, let alone that the top 10% of men who get it are abusive.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 06:45 PM
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I think 100k/year is rather low to be a sugar daddy. Assuming you -- at a minimum -- are going to pay their rent, you'll find out pretty quickly how little money 100k is.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 06:42 PM
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Totally. Like, the prettiest in a group of soccer moms in a small town. To be fair, thats a type and I have nothing against that. Itsnjust not my type at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 06:29 PM
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Sounds like you run with a shitty crowd.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 06:08 PM
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Agree with everything you said. In addition: the only way to guarantee failure is to give up before you start, and worrying about the "what ifs" is something that you'll have to problem solve down the road, not a good reason to just opt out.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 05:59 PM
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Which I'd also agree with! I'm 35 and just now realizing how picky I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 05:11 PM
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My gf and I were just talking about how we don't "get" her at all. Like, I wouldn't call her bad looking by any stretch, but just kinda of meh. Different strokes.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 05:08 PM
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Definitely this. Reality is not easy to break down into categories without sounding incredibly stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 11:49 PM
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A hell of a lot more filtered than standing on a busy corner in a large city.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 09:51 PM
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Because college town filters for age and income.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 09:45 PM
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But the survey is to determine "most"! Not "most in a small college town". I'd say I got a better cross section.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 09:42 PM
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Do they really, though? Most of my friends have some sort of type that they go for, regardless of whether or not it's a conscious choice. After commenting, I stood outside for about 10 minutes to see how many women I saw who'd get an absolute yes, to see roughly what percentage of women I'd be unquestionably down to sleep with. I live in a very dense neighborhood in a big city. I ended up thinking that 1 out of every 8 was in that category.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 08:47 PM
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Perhaps unpopular advice, but I highly recommend rebounds as long as everyone is on the same page.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 08:34 PM
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So then the only relevant information as to whether a guy qualifies as alpha is "hot as fuck"? Then can be amended as alpha-bucks if they're a provider? Just curious, I find the classification system to be silly.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 07:49 PM
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I'm happy you spelled this out. As a guy who slept around a lot, often with women who slept around a lot, there seem to be a lot of people who misunderstand that casual sex isnt zero sum. Nobody is taking anything from anyone. Sometimes you want to get off, so you seek people who you can see yourself getting off with. If they can see themselves getting off with you too, you get off together. It's really that simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 07:39 PM
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Speak for yourself. I'm a guy and absolutely do not want to sleep with "most" women.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 07:27 PM
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So many hot takes on here make me feel like I'm laughing my way to the bank. "Oh no! Theoretical inconsistencies! Better stop banging my girlfriend until we can really sort this out on an intellectual level"
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 07:08 PM
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That seems like an awfully narrow definition. In this case, a true alpha would be a sub-sub-class of definitely shitty, but hot enough that women dont care how shitty they are. From there, it really looks like the AF/Bb dynamic is really just one of women learning how to spot shitty hot guys and then not fucking them. In which case, what's the problem?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 06:49 PM
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A late bloomer is about to get a crash course in the ways of Barry White, just be happy for him!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 06:26 PM
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Never been sure why fellow Americans obsess over knife crime in the UK. Yes, it's a problem, but the problem is laughably small in the context of murder rates in the US. London's murder per capita number are on par with Bismarck, North Dakota...
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 05:06 PM
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Sulfurous Prayers by Void Meditation Cult was cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 03:15 PM
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Clark's desert boots.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 11:01 PM
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But to be fair... god kinda sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 10:56 PM
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Exercising and controlling the right muscles. I.e. kegels.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 06:50 PM
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It is very much possible. It's not like you were just born with a stopwatch with a limited amount of time that you can do nothing about.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 05:40 PM
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I dont think that theres anything wrong with the angles, it's more a weird artificial flattening caused by makeup contouring + filters that make the sense of space feel very very weird. Like an optical illusion viewed from a barely-off point of view. In any case, she's very pretty.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 09:57 PM
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As much as I find the typical "different types of intelligence" argument to often be obnoxious, I do find some validity to it. I have to explain really dumb simple shit to math wizards almost daily.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 09:44 PM
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Drugs were great and did their job well as soon as we got out of there! This was when I was 22ish. On the other hand, I saw Theo Parrish on a boat in Germany with maybe 50 people and high as hell on acid more recently. 10/10, I think I just dont like crowds and everything they entail.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 09:41 PM
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I have been drugged out of my mind, and still find festivals to be incredibly obnoxious. Love going to smaller shows, but $100+ to stand in a field with terrible sound while on MDMA, hoping that the portapotty doesnt trigger your gag reflex, but waiting in another line to buy a $6 bottle of desani just in case... I just dont get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 09:33 PM
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You use it in skateboarding to refer to pool/bowl skating too.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 06:29 PM
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Very much the case. It's a plus, but it's a plus in the same way that "likes all the same music as me" is: for some it's a requirement, for most it's something you wouldn't think to fawn over to your friends until it's right in front of you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 01:10 AM
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There is one relatively gory scene. Nothing too graphic by today's standards.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 09:13 PM
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Saw it yesterday. It was great!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 08:57 PM
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I agree that it can be wrong, as well as damaging, it just seems like a stretch to say it is absolutely wrong and damaging. I also think it's totally fine to have moral preferences that partners must meet. Where it gets sticky is what "take my feeling into account" means.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 10:49 PM
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Why is it a dealbreaker? I understand why a porn obsession would be, but i feel like you're missing a lot of grey and off-white.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 10:40 PM
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I'd actually say Lurch is very good looking! He'd clean up at an average bar sans the monotone voice and slouch. Regarding the hair thing. It is certainly a thing in my experience. I'd say it's similar to being short though... it's a handicap if you are visibly insecure about it, and a lot of men are.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 09:06 PM
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I think that has more to do with charisma really. Bald and tall you can be the rock or lurch. Average height with hair you can he tom cruise or (I'm actually having a hard time thinking of an equivalent). I have noticed a pattern of bald men getting uncomfortable whenever I confront them about something at work in a group setting. Not all, of course, the ones who happily shaved their head seem unaffected. But theres a contingent of men who get visually insecure about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 08:56 PM
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Hair also affects that, I'd say.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 08:44 PM
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Yes. In a functional way, at least. Though all practical ways are taken off the table as any sort of "who answers to who" hierarchy is broken. I can do 3 months of research and find elegant solutions, but if the guy who is paid to do what I say doesn't actually have to do what I say because his boss is different than my (nonexistent) boss and the only point of common accountability is 3 levels up at the VP level who won't bother talking to us anyway... nothing will ever get done.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 08:28 PM
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That's the thing... I am the one who is supposed to be improving things. But, its structured in such a way that my work is fed down then approved by someone who doesnt exist. There are zero expectations beyond having something to say when someone asks what I'm working on
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 08:01 PM
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I'm option B and wouldnt trade it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 07:58 PM
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Too big and also with a semi-captive audience. Lots and lots of money tied up over a century. I am quickly learning that my role is less to improve things and more to show to the board that they are aiming to improve things.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 07:52 PM
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Neither. Fortune 500 and poorly organized.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 07:48 PM
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So, I started a new job 2 months ago. It pays really well, and when I started the position of my direct boss had yet to be filled. I sat around for a month until someone directly asked me to deliver something. Then, I got a boss, he's great. He basically just vouched for me, gave minor direction, and prevented bullshit projects from falling onto my lap. He just quit. Boss's boss's boss just called me for an impromptu meeting. He said I'm doing great and wanted to make sure I wasn't quitting too.…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 07:44 PM
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I'm in one of those weird middle grounds as I was educated in both the US and Canada. I differentiate between center and centre, theater and theatre, always use grey, and if I'm tired will slip a U into color.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 02:47 PM
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I mean, providing men who hate women with a woman who accepts being hated doesn't sound like a very good scenario, especially when considering this is magic land where everything is possible.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 10:16 PM
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A teenaged seemingly gay couple of teenaged girls told me my shirt was "fucking dope" on the street the other day. It felt insanely good to have the notoriously meanest demographic of people call me out just to say something nice haha
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 09:46 PM
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I wouldnt say punishing, no. But when considering my experiencing incels, I do not think they are ready nor capable of healthy relationships. So magically granting a girlfriend to everyone incapable of a healthy relationship seems ridiculous. I do believe that they become bitter over time, then they fester and become significantly worse off than they were before. It matters who would benefit for sure, so that part of the magic button would need some pretty extreme granular controls to even be wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 09:21 PM
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Nowhere close to as messy as it sounds. We got together post divorce and their marriage was shitty. No advances were made while they were together, we just always got along well. My brother is only 3 years older than me, so pretty close. We see each other about every other week.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 08:56 PM
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You're missing a major point: most of the incels I've encountered are so blatantly misogynist that I actively do not want them to have girlfriends. Saying I get to preserve my happy relationship while ensuring that they stay alone sounds fine. The question only becomes difficult if you were to say "all incels have their personal issues resolved and get a gf in the process", it becomes a real question.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 08:54 PM
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My girlfriend used to be married to one of my brother's best friends. Does that count?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 08:48 PM
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Hard disagree. Though, I would say most genres are populated by cringe shit, but r&b isn't the worst contender by miles. Also, do you have a decade in mind? It as a genre has existed for a really long time, and the boundary between r&b and soul is very blurry.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 06:15 PM
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I really need to quit smoking.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 05:35 PM
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I think it comes from a place of taking culture/aesthetics very seriously, then finding it hard to imagine myself dating someone who didn't. They're just so bland and so loud about being bland haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 05:25 PM
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I dont think worrying about what happened to a celebrity to the degree that it prevents you from doing very normal everyday life activities is very productive.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 05:19 PM
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When waxing day is right after braiding day... it's like Christmas.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 05:09 PM
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Imagine wanting to get laid but refusing to drive someone home. Not saying that's where it should be expected to lead, but you know, continuing to be in close proximity with your date is a great start.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 04:38 PM
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I'm certainly guilty of that to a degree. I had more or less accepted that I likely wouldn't commit to anyone and was perfectly fine with that... then I met someone. It's an easier pill to swallow, but it's also an easy pill to take too personally. The reasons are often stupid, and while sure they have to do with you as the one who was rejected, they also say a lot about the rejector. I cancelled a date once because they bought backstage passes to Imagine Dragons. Does she have terrible taste or…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 04:19 PM
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I'm sure some are? I imagine it'd really have to do with experience. Also, comes down to personal preferences that you find it hard to see in the present. There are some people I look back at and find it insane that I didn't pursue them more seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 04:03 PM
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Lack of intensity/curiosity was a big one for me. So many women who I found beautiful and enjoyed spending time with, but conversation never hit a level of depth to keep me going. It gets old really quickly when someone likes hearing you talk about your interests but then doesn't have much to say about their own when prompted. "Perfect on paper" reasons. When it all makes perfect sense but you just don't feel that extra little spark and find yourself investing in the idea of them, instead of the…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 04:00 PM
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Coming from the perspective of a former man-whore, I don't think there was ever a time when I absolutely didn't want commitment. I'd lean towards no commitment, but always kept it on the table that after sleeping around for long enough, I'd eventually find myself in the situation of wanting to go all-in with someone. And as far as the women who I did not feel the need to go all-in with, the reasons were so greatly varied and sometimes intangible that it'd be really hard to pin down what took the…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 03:49 PM
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I'd never heard of him before a few days ago on this sub. What world are we living in where you can get famous purely based on how loud you repeat your idiotic takes? I can't imagine wanting to be in any room he wasn't immediately laughed out of.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 12:31 AM
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Sedona was so pretty when I was growing up, I really have no interest in going back though. It is so disgusting and overrun with tourists and neo-hippy shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 12:05 AM
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It's fine haha. Just don't start with Heidegger.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 12:03 AM
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What you're describing in the first paragraph, if I'm interpreting correctly, is a micro view of what is called phenomenology. "People don't experience reality, they experience representations of reality as colored and limited by consciousness" type stuff. It's fascinating, though the serious work done on it is notoriously impenetrable.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 11:58 PM
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Rem Koolhaas makes most of his money doing lectures, which blew my mind. $30,000 for a Zoom talk.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 04:50 PM
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Social work requires lifting a very, very heavy emotional weight with basically no compensation... just so you know. My ex had a masters in the field, specifically regarding sexual health. She counseled people who just found out they were HIV+ all day every day, then worked the front desk at a hotel because the pay was so terrible that she couldnt afford rent without a night job. If you're not willing to make it your entire life, dont do it. Psychology is interesting and has uses, but most of th…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 12:32 AM
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What's the degree you're considering?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 12:23 AM
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Depends on what you want to do education-wise. If I were in your position I'd go the trade route as highschool diplomas barely mean anything, bachelors barely mean anything, masters more or less mean something. That's at least 6 years but probably more before you get any returns on it. I'm guessing you're not in a sizable city. Either that or you are vastly overestimating how many people are settling down.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 12:02 AM
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What specifically do you hate about the democrats? Dont get me wrong, I'm not saying there isnt plenty.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 11:52 PM
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How old are you? Focusing on the social aspect I'd say is more important, assuming that you're not in terrible health. Dont treat yourself like shit obviously, but also dont make yourself an island. Though, I'd really say just dont treat it as a binary. Neglecting your social life to get buff is just as stupid as making a million friends while becoming a fat alcoholic.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 11:47 PM
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What I'm saying, is participating in the culture wars is a trap. And even if it weren't, it's a Republican strategy that was specifically created to entice voters to vote against their own interests for the sake of identity politics. I'm saying its misinformed because you are voting against (admittedly annoying) identity politics by simply choosing the blatantly dumb version -- who also heavily engage in identity politics -- simply because they say that they are also annoyed by identity politics…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 11:37 PM
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Typo! Sway* your voting. Dems dont build legislation off of the "woke" shit. If you agree with them economically that seems like a good enough reason. Voting against them strictly because you dont like who someone might associate you with isnt politics, its lifestyle marketing. American politics is disgustingly rife with it. Republicans play the game harder as that's been their strategy for decades. They frankly dont offer shit unless you're on a moralist kick, which it doesnt sound like you are…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 11:16 PM
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20s I spent studying and living abroad and fucking up and figuring out what I wanted. 30s Ive refined what I wanted and took things more seriously in practical regards but less seriously in ideological ones. As far as why better... 33 is like 23, but more secure (personally, socially, financially). Its like the recklessness that I felt at 23 was relegated to a selective nihilism (which I suppose is just different priorities), with the bonus of a lot more funds to work with.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 11:07 PM
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20s were extremely formative. 30s have been also formative but not to the same degree, but soooo much better.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 11:01 PM
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Letting lifestyle marketing away your voting seems like it lacks a lot in the "informed decision" department.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 10:59 PM
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I work in a relatively female dominated field, but cant say whether itd be less important for men. In any case, I interviewed for my job 5 times, 3 of them were to make sure I knew what I was talking about, 2 were to make sure I wasnt a prick.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 10:32 PM
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I've seen it plenty of times (former addict myself). Misery loves company though, and when your not so fucked up friends start dipping, it's usually not very hard to find someone else with a similar story.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 05:51 PM
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At its face, I must say it sounds half-baked at best.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 03:13 PM
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I'm in Chicago, so the proto-house and boogie classics get a lot of rotation.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 03:09 PM
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Oldschool roller rink music is also just amazing.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 02:48 PM
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what does this even mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 02:41 PM
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Maybe? It's really hard to know where the line of "extremely" is drawn.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 03:03 AM
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Very Baudrillard.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 06:03 PM
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My favorite part of living in a dense neighborhood in a big city is that I don't need to bother with delivery. Insane amount of options within a 5 minute walk.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 05:19 PM
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A good essay on the subject: Observations on the Sequence Shot by Pasolini
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 04:16 AM
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Well put.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 04:15 AM
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Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 12:32 AM
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Regardless of gender. Why are you disagreeing/what part are you disagreeing with?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 11:55 PM
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I have nothing against it in principle, and dont think it should be illegal to buy or sell. That being said, its ripe for exploitation in very terrible forms. Trafficking and pimping should be heavily prosecuted. Being at a lower price point in prostitution sounds like a hell that nobody should have to live through, and anyone coercing that life onto women should be cast out as scum. On the other side of the coin, I've had several high end escorts as platonic friends who absolutely love their jo…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 11:48 PM
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That, and when you have access to a credit card: lots and lots of precise listening. "I just want to go to the beach and unwind" means you should research where people of that income vacation, find the spot cooler than her family went to by also nearby, book a ticket, find an aesthetically perfect airbnb, get reservations at every restaurant she might want to go to (even if you end up cancelling them), then allow them to take over small details after the fact. Oh, and also weird tiny stuff that …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 11:31 PM
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I have experience in dating extremely wealthy women, though never actively wanted to be cared for. If you aim for the "provide for me!!!" role, just expect it to be kinda housewife-ish but with a different skillset.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 11:21 PM
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Definitely not all. The goal is then to find your market.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 11:15 PM
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Theres societal pressure on everyone and its 90% bullshit. It's not that shocking that most people roll with it as opposed to try to invent a new compass to navigate the world with. It's extremely tiring in most cases.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 11:12 PM
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RPs greatest lie is that they have a monopoly on self improvement. It's really something you should be doing anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 11:08 PM
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I dont think it's very hard for a guy to be an 8 either, frankly.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 11:06 PM
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How does one accidentally make a psychedelic?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 11:00 PM
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I think your assessment really depends on who you're listening to.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 09:37 PM
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The left has a very long history of dividing itself over intra-party intricacies and it's really a shame.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 09:32 PM
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My mom's boyfriend once tried to call me by the cute name my mom does. One very stern "don't ever call me that again, James" was all it took to put an end to that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 09:29 PM
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In a reified kind of way? I.e. since followers do things according to god, it makes no difference whether god exists as long as followers make him concrete.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 08:08 PM
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You're young! Probably mostly out of the woods already. Just dont think about it until it's a problem. Terrible advice for most things, I know. But in the social world, approaching it as a problem that needs solving right off the bat comes off as weird. Talk to people, dont be afraid to state intentions (if you enjoy talking to someone, say "let's hang out"), repeat.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 07:45 PM
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Children becoming socialized on forums and multiplayer gaming scares the absolute shit out me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 07:40 PM
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I mean, that sounds pretty typically feminist to me, albeit the non-Tumblr breed.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 07:31 PM
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I think at least part of the common ground they share is a reduction of cognitive load among participants. The world is big, ambiguous, amorphous, and confusing (and will continue to get even more so). Ideological groups at least take care of some form early information sorting so that you dont have to.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 07:16 PM
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My grandmother was raised to go outside if she was going to fart. Still does it to this day.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 06:45 PM
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So much more insidious than the fake average couples you see absolutely everywhere in every decade, flaunting their average babies and average homes. They cant fool us!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 06:36 PM
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I had a coworker who paid his back taxes in Target gift cards after the IRS agent was so kind to inform him he'd be arrested later that day if he didn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 06:20 PM
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Yeah, the numbers seem useless when they describe different things. It's like saying "people mostly eat the food they enjoy most".
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 05:37 PM
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I don't think he's describing his life, but another hypothetical terrible thing that will happen if he starts actually talking to women romantically.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 03:47 PM
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It's really sad when I realize a "sexless man" on here is fresh out of highschool and has already decided the world is stacked against him and that he shouldn't try. Being robbed of the naive teen/early 20 years where you get to demystify sex is really going to mess with some of them in the long run.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 02:56 PM
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Because you're approaching it from a fetishistic point of view. Nobody wants to be objectified in that manner. The only way to get one with your current thinking is to be deceptive, which then puts you in the position of being set up for a failed relationship, thus defeating the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 03:07 AM
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I hate to say it, but I really don't think you're ever going to get a virgin girlfriend given your approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 01:05 AM
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Well, it's very unfortunate that you think about people in these terms and I hope you get over it some day.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 12:45 AM
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May I ask why?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 12:30 AM
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Paris is more fun, especially during the Summer.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 12:02 AM
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The first one you may have a point with as its at least demonstrable, but if you read the thread, I'm asking why it's a problem even if she's perfect. Perfect meaning you're not getting divorced, you may have issues but you communicate well and can work it out. Say you had a crystal ball that only told you one thing: you will not get divorced. Is it still an issue for you? The rest of the reasons listed are all baseless speculation on what it "means" to be promiscuous.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 12:00 AM
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Honestly: what does "cuck culture" even mean and what is the reasoning behind seriously entertaining it as a thoughtful description of daily life?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 10:55 PM
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I'm just confused as to what the issue is really? Admittedly, my count is rather high so I fit that mold. I just don't understand the reason why it's an issue when all boxes are checked. I suppose there's a values argument, if you are personally against pursuing casual sex when you want sex. Though, even then, what if they "saw the light" so to speak, and you were on the same page as to why it was wrong of them?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 10:51 PM
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Would you pass up on someone who really seems perfect in every way besides the fact that she fucked a lot when she was younger in hopes that shed find someone as perfect as you?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 09:30 PM
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Elephants have larger than any of us, but you'd be hard pressed to argue that they're smarter.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 08:27 PM
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Another psychology professor who has a tendency to ramble on politics while his students go "uuuuhhhhh, okay mr peterson", then proceed to share stories of him going off the rails lol
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 08:14 PM
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He'd be largely irrelevant to any conversation at all if he didn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 07:59 PM
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Not totally talentless, for sure. Where the line is drawn in terms of "talented enough to become famous" is rather arbitrary and value-based though. If you dont think hes insanely talented, I get the point of why someone so mediocre would get a pass on being a piece of shit. If you think he is very talented, I also get it and am equally guilty (Roman Polanski, Michael Jackson, Chuck Berry, etc)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 07:36 PM
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Aren't you also falling for the same fallacy by assuming he is famous because he is talented, and then deserves to be famous because he is talented? Other side of the same coin.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 07:17 PM
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A related rule for guys to live by: if you really do not want to sleep with someone, answer questions about what you're interested in by saying any version of "it's complicated", "it's boring", "you wouldn't care", "you wouldnt understand", etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 07:05 PM
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Passion is a huge one. Being "interesting" in general is a great way to be good at conversation, and in my opinion being interesting is mostly being passionate about your interests and curious as to how they intersect with someone else's.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 06:53 PM
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I honestly do not care at all unless it was done in a rather unhealthy way (i.e. sex addiction). Though, I was quite the slut myself in my 20s so obviously approach these things with a little more understanding than most.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 06:45 PM
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Not my type, but very pretty.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 06:42 PM
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Spanish stuffed zucchini, caesar salad, artichoke rice
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 01:08 AM
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I cap myself at 30 hrs and am happy as a clam.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 01:07 AM
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This sounds bogged down in hypotheticals and not at all based in practice.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 08:20 PM
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My personal fav was attempting to kill Reagan to impress Jody Foster. Attempting to burn Bjork's face with acid so that she thought about him whenever she looked in the mirror is a close runner up.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 06:28 PM
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This is pretty well documented to be Soviet propaganda which then spread like wildfire in the prison population in the 90s.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/22 02:16 PM
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The men seem to handle it in a significantly more obnoxious and toxic manner. I've never read a post and been able to sniff out that they were an isolated, absolutist, self-sabotaging sexless woman in a sentence or two.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 11:49 PM
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Absolutely nothing, they're all vaguely work trips that have been extended to be "fun trips where I or my girlfriend have one or two things to do"
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 05:47 PM
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Yeah, it's actually more stressful than fun sometimes haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 04:59 PM
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NYC, LA, Palm Springs, Cleveland, Columbus, Apulia, Venice, Berlin, Kassel!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 04:53 PM
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California indeed would do a-okay. Some parts of the East Coast could probably do just fine. Vast amount of the country would be absolutely screwed. Mentioned in a separate comment that I currently live in Chicago, and that you occasionally hear from people out of the city but within the state that they're going to half-heartedly propose that they separate the city from the state. I cannot fathom how dumb you have to be to consider that to be a threat.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 09:38 PM
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I respectfully have to say, any model that blames "elites" as a single group is very over-simplistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 09:23 PM
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Living in Chicago, you occasionally hear half-hearted proposals to separate the city from the rest of Illinois. Everyone knows the rest of the state would be hopeless without us.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 09:16 PM
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Totally, it'd be ice cold to the degree that it really seems like we might already seeing close to the extent of it. An important factor is also that the liberal centers are often the economic powerhouses of the area. Rural areas would stand no chance due to coming up against opponents with seemingly endless resources; cities would stand no chance due to having to control vast amounts of space. Everything is far too intertwined to make a proper civil war feasible for either party.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 09:08 PM
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Heavily agree and fully aligns with my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 01:32 AM
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aka "crab mentality"
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 06:12 PM
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I dont think I actually know a single adult virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 04:42 PM
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My gay friends have similar complaints, every new coworker wants to set them up with their gay single friend because obviously they're perfect for each other by virtue of being gay.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 10:00 PM
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I'd consider myself successful. I suppose the qualifier is that I've never had a problem getting laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 04:39 PM
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Nah. I'd agree that it can, but that's when it becomes a you problem. Trying to externalize it as something innate to porn and humanity misses the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 07:29 PM
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Yucatan chicken
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 07:12 PM
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And while you're at it, if you were a master creator and didnt want anyone putting anything in the wrong hole... why on earth would you put them right next to each other?! If god is a designer, he sucks at his job.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 06:54 PM
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Yay.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 06:34 PM
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You sound like a well rounded and mature guy, this sub's whole classification system is bogus and youd be better off not trying to make sense of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 10:15 PM
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Was that the same guy who proposed that the US wouldnt have mass shootings if only the government guaranteed all men a virgin girlfriend?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 04:35 PM
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Well, the "stealing your life force" bit was considered to be a joke even in the mid 60s. I think you're off the mark here.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 12:38 AM
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Have you seen Dr Strangelove?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 12:29 AM
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I mean, if anyone is looking down at the idea of dating Jennifer Lopez... god can't help them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 09:36 PM
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well, you thought wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 09:22 PM
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Yes, but would avoid going into detail mostly out of tact. That being said, it'd still slip out from time to time. If he's driving 1+ hours to see you regularly, he either really likes you or thinks you're unbearably hot. If your conversations are good too, then it's probably that he just really likes you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 09:20 PM
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I know a guy with a masters degree who looks like an actor who does very poorly simply because he comes across as a creep.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 09:17 PM
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Not really sure what that has to do with libertarianism, but you do you.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 09:12 PM
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It's what catholic school tells men, that's the only place I ever heard it at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 01:46 PM
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Wait... are you in highschool?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 01:39 PM
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I think youd just call that being "simple".
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 11:59 PM
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Charm takes people in general very far. My main point that I try to make on here is that there are an insane amount of ways to skin a cat, and that any theory that says "you must have x" inevitably falls flat in the face of this. Whether x is height, status, or facial features indicative of high testosterone, it always seems like such a grossly broad brush to paint human sexuality in.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 11:36 PM
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I am very firmy in the twink category and was able to be slutty as all hell.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 11:20 PM
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Seriously. Go figure that nobody wants to bang the guys whose ideas make me want to shower even in text form.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 09:54 PM
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Imagine thinking women will be upset that unfuckable men make themselves more unfuckable. "Thing not on my radar is putting all their effort into stealth technology"
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 08:05 PM
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Partially agree. I would say authenticity is certainly a factor because it implies a level of confidence (whether or not that is actually true). Being "about" something has an implicit consistency, as well as an implicit willingness to stand up to/face adversity. Whether or not the thing you are "about" is bullshit is another question. Whether or not it is bullshit that you are actually "about" it at all is another.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 07:57 PM
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I came here for the same reasons. Turns out incels are much more interested in talking about being incels than they are in becoming non-incels.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 07:06 PM
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My girlfriend uses it, it's been very effective.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 06:53 PM
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Which city? Itll probably be fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/22 06:37 PM
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Okay. So, then you're left with the vast majority of women who never went to either extreme.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 12:40 AM
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You're worried about the reformed ones? While also subscribing to something perportadely about self improvement?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 12:36 AM
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Literally everyone youd consider "normal" is left.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 12:33 AM
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Because you, and a lot of other guys have hangups that are morally oriented, but are trying to find a reason for it to be an ethical consideration. You can't find the ethical reason that it is wrong, but hold onto the moral reason that it is wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 11:56 PM
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Women too, in my experience. That is, assuming they cum.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 11:10 PM
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Post sex clarity > post masturbation clarity
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 10:57 PM
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If you have to "get used to it", theres a good chance it's not for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 10:54 PM
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I'd rather not be the guy who turns this into a porn thread, but think South American fantasy slim-thick.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 10:49 PM
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I'm mostly a face guy, but I will say... I've had fwb's with iffy faces and great bodies, but never one with a great face and iffy body.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 10:39 PM
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See also: mutually assured destruction.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 10:13 PM
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I've been mistaken as gay my entire life and am significantly better with women than any of my friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 10:06 PM
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Yes to the first part. As for a specific, had a very good internal dialog with myself about what I can't do in the categories of: because I couldn't see myself doing it, somebody else couldn't see me doing it, it is risk to do it, it's actually impossible. Arrived at a position of ethical, calculated quasi-recklessness that has treated me very well.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 09:34 PM
1

Are you asking whether I have gained any, or for specifics?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 09:27 PM
1

Tons of LSD. Never ayahuasca, but various other related compounds.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 09:24 PM
3

nah.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 09:19 PM
0

Another victim of vast oversimplification.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 08:21 PM
0

I feel like one of the biggest problems guys have on this sub is that they think there is a precise definition of what chad is.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 08:11 PM
1

Really depends on the circles you run with, really. I had a funny conversation with an older guy in the fashion industry in LA a few weeks ago; he was relaying how you basically judged how cool something was by how bi the vibe was in the early 00s haha. If you live in the sticks though...
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 07:56 PM
2

Even as a guy who is very much not a meathead, nerdy girls are the best. The term nerd I feel is used poorly most of the time. I mostly think it means "has very specific interests and takes them seriously". Which, in my opinion, is a fantastic quality in a partner if you dont want their world to revolve around you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 07:53 PM
1

It's almost like simplified universal advice doesnt work universally! Go figure. Half the guys here seem so obsessed with being principled -- but principled only according to what other unhappy men think -- that they cannot accept that there are other models to be principled and also happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 07:48 PM
2

Hard to say that PPD itself is sexist, but I would say there are a lot of sexists who hang out here.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 07:39 PM
1

I have a lot of gay friends and hear a lot of gay community specific conversations: there seems to be a pervading theory that nobody is actually bi, but that they're actually gay but learned to be attracted to women while closeted. Also, it can viewed as a "lack of commitment" to gay culture.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 07:35 PM
1

Yeah, he should be praised for being strategic.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 07:30 PM
1

Full disagree. Low sex drive needs absolute perfection to swoon.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 07:29 PM
3

Isnt similarity in socioeconomic backgrounds one of the best metrics for success in relationships?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 03:25 AM
1

Does the lexapro help?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 11:51 PM
2

I get along better with methylphenidate than I do amphetamines. It felt much more functional and less "I'm on proper speed with all the speed things, but happen to be able to work more effectively". My side effects: If you smoke cigarettes, it will put you into a perpetual state of nicotine cravings. Extremely heightened sex drive, very difficult to cum.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 11:16 PM
0

It's certainly the point. If only the newbies who just want to get laid knew this, we'd have a lot fewer people with such a dumb hobby.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 12:34 AM
1

Total mystery and randomness still yields better results than demonstrably wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 11:25 PM
0

Dont get me wrong! You should absolutely be improving in other areas. You should be anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 11:15 PM
4

Hot take: a lot of the men on here severely lack game, and the red pill has mostly become a community of those who lack game to complain about how it's unfair that they're expected to have game, then improve themselves in every way... except game. It has plenty of good advice, albeit mostly truisms that you probably knew anyway. Get rid of all the niche pseudo-psych babble and it's all basic advice that requires zero pilling. Trying to explain the worlds problems as an untrained, bitter, misogyn…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 11:04 PM
2

It's hardly the future, its already here! That being said it is very obviously far from perfect though, it comes with it's own unique downsides.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 10:53 PM
1

Oh I mean I'd never say it doesnt work at all! I know of plenty of success stories. Im just saying it's not a superior way of going about it, but that there's a trade off involved that isnt for everyone. In particular I think it's really good for people in lowish population density areas -- i.e. most of the US.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 10:44 PM
2

I usually just said "hey, hows your night so far?" Then take it from there. Online worked to a degree for me, but the problem of starting the interaction online is that you cant really feel the chemistry part of it. I met a lot of women online who I got along with really well on paper but had zero chemistry with in person. This is not an issue with in-person first interactions.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 10:38 PM
2

It doesnt always go somewhere, but why wouldnt you? Approach it with grace and even when it doesnt go anywhere, it often doesnt go unnoticed that you know how to interact with women in a not weird way.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 10:30 PM
1

Did it all the time when I was single.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 10:28 PM
1

I also got lots of smile n stares, but actually approaches were relatively rare. I suppose it was their way of approaching?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 10:18 PM
1

In regards to the "woke" point: age is a huge factor here. Having seriously engaged with The Black Jacobins et al in undergrad is a very, very different vibe than the shit that passes for political thought on the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 09:16 PM
1

Other the side of the coin as a white guy: black women are so underrated (if the okc statistics are true regarding them being the least messaged/responded to).
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 08:45 PM
1

Terrible diet and work culture I think are bigger factors.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 08:24 PM
1

Of my really good friends, I think most are women.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 07:24 PM
1

Pretty but not really my type.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 07:23 PM
1

Not really my thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 03:49 PM
2

Depending on what industry you're in, I find that turning off "open to work", but turning on that you wanted to be contacted by recruiters sped up the process and was much less demoralizing. Blind applications are rarely looked at all these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 03:22 PM
2

I think the main difference is that one is a core ideology with a pseudo-psych pitch against women, the other is disparate collection of complaints against men.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 06:28 AM
2

I went back and forth on comma placements. I think the tone of the idiocy you're pointing out is better represented without them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 06:02 AM
2

And it seems like the new line to tow is "they're not psychic, what do you mean hating women might have something to do with me being treated like shit by women and men who are not treated like shit by women?!"
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 05:53 AM
3

Alexis de Toqueville thought that the tragedy of America is that without well-defined royalty and aristocracy, the lower classes would always aspire to be the king and inevitably fail.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 05:17 AM
3

Dude. You're making a specific claim then complaining about being potentially asked for a specific source. There is much better evidence that you're a misogynist than there is for women being harmful.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 04:36 AM
1

They're both terrible comedians and hosts, and I'd call myself extremely liberal.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 04:30 AM
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What on earth are you talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 04:29 AM
1

Thank fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 03:32 AM
1

Not sure how anything I said is contrarian. You posed something that you didn't understand, I offered a possible explanation.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 03:01 AM
1

They get plenty of that from each other haha. Turns out being a source of refuge from the negative parts of the world might be a good quality when it comes to dating?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 02:23 AM
2

I'm guessing it's largely because of the "because it's natural" thing? Wanting what you want won't prick up many ears, but when you add "because that's all that is right and it's how it should be!!" it reads a little differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 02:02 AM
1

I mostly agree with you, but it does exclude those that were born into religion. To your point, the sociological end is what I was saying when I referred to a goal, that goal is what gives meaning/purpose to humanity in general. Being raised not only with a mythology, but with an entire system of meaning and purpose and then trying to navigate the world without it seems to be the tricky part.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 01:36 AM
1

Dude, this argument isn't really that hard. You know how you don't like some foods, but other people do? It's kind of like that. You end up with two possible conclusions: it's not for you, or everyone else is wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 12:29 AM
1

I've been avoiding telling you this... I'm a dude who has slept with a lot of women who I find to be both high quality but also not dateable. The thing is, I understand that they're not dateable/not right for me. You, on the other hand, seem much more invested in continuing a single line of thought at all costs, regardless of whether it makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 12:20 AM
1

they're*
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 12:13 AM
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Fully agree and not a hot take at all! (no offence) I forget where the quote comes from, or even the precise phrasing, but it's something to the tune of: "Religion points to the truth always one step removed. It is never what the truth is, but always what the truth hides behind"
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 12:07 AM
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You're really missing the point. I was saying your argument is bad because it made sweeping generalizations. You are responding by confirming that you think in terms of sweeping generalizations.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 12:04 AM
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This is laughably one-dimensional.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 11:58 PM
2

yes, but with a caveat: if the guy is not looking for a relationship, then nobody stands a chance getting much beyond a pump n dump.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 11:55 PM
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There really isn't one, unless you get theological. Values are mostly judged according to a goal. If your goal is humanity, then yes, you can find something to work with and many angles from which you can go further. If you start with no goal at all -- that is, a very base-level objective reality -- you are not going to find anything at all that is related to anything you call "value".
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 11:23 PM
2

(that's because it doesn't make sense)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 08:23 PM
3

There are very different relationships that you can have to porn though. Starting as a virgin and becoming obsessed with plastic model anal queens is very different than "she kinda looks like that girl I kissed once".
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/22 12:43 AM
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Seriously. This is an academic exercise that was taken as gospel, which then prevented all the followers from getting laid, which then gave them more reason to recite the gospel. It's circular and stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 04:28 AM
1

I agree! I just think you're fixating on the animal part.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 03:10 AM
0

It kinda just sounds like you're at the end of a reductive path to find a purpose in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 02:58 AM
6

Mall jobs have been dwindling since well before the pandemic.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/22 03:30 AM
2

You're talking about an internet subculture's made-up term, striving for neutrality or any other purity of language is a moot point.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/22 03:17 AM
0

In what world is 80% approval a figure worth raising your nose to? Not a real definition even though the speakers overwhelmingly agree on its definition?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/22 03:10 AM
2

An instructive story about an acquaintance of mine named Donatella. She was very smart, very funny, very witty. We shared a ton of classes together and she always had something good to say. She was also morbidly obese. She was welcomed into my friend group very quickly. However, we quickly learned that most of her fantastic outward personality gave way to severe insecurity as soon as you got close to her. It was impossible to talk about anything without it turning into "why would anyone like you…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 11:51 PM
2

I can't believe this has to be explained to people lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 09:50 PM
2

There is certainly a degree of dynamism that becomes fruitless, I guess thatd be called being dilettante. Though, if you consider pure dilettantism as it's own philosophy, then take what I said into consideration, then that still wouldnt lead to a rigid strategy. In dating and professionally, I've found a lot of success acting with a sort of hybrid "stick to my guns" while still "able to strategically bend" type model.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 08:21 PM
2

I'd argue that modern marketplaces highly favor dynamism, which is precisely what I'm saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 08:11 PM
1

Do you think "mostly not educating" is better than not educating at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 08:07 PM
1

Disagree! There is always a middle ground. The key is to consider it temporally, not as an overarching philosophy. I'd argue that the problem a lot of men here have is that they're taking "pills" as overall guiding philosophies; always or its meaningless type shit. In truth, the better model is to be able to pull from these situationally and be someone who is capable of being both a sensitive blob and a mindless horndog, then learn when either model is most appropriate.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 08:04 PM
1

Theres a very strong argument for schooling unless you approach it from a primitivist perspective. Even then, the counter argument either is dumb or impractical.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 07:59 PM
1

You're caught in such a trap, which I think you'd agree with, but it really doesn't seem like you understand which trap you're in.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 11:23 PM
3

Everybody knows it's not gay if your balls never touch.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 10:06 PM
1

I met my girlfriend when she was married to my brother's close friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 08:06 PM
1

Wait, I've mostly heard the opposite. Steak and potato 4 days a week guy have the worst tasting cum.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 08:56 PM
1

Cool! I'm in Chicago. New Orleans and St louis definitely have similar problems, but of a different flavor. New orleans is basically the same price as chicago rent-wise, but you make half. That was my main complaint, but I could rant about reasons not to live there forever haha. However, i do still love visiting!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 08:13 PM
1

What's your city, if you dont mind me asking?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 08:05 PM
1

So, she respects your boundary regarding unwillingness to make her cum?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 08:03 PM
1

The vibe is good, but living there was honestly kind of miserable.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 07:58 PM
1

Woof. Good luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 11:35 PM
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A for sure, but I've made a point of organizing my life around getting a job where I can only work 30 hrs, be comfortable, and still save a ton. The goal is always to work less.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 10:39 PM
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Yes, to a certain extent. I'd say the same about blue. The problem is, both come with the baggage of bad pop psychology converted to dumb worldviews. Following any "pill" as gospel is not a particularly good strategy.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 10:30 PM
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I mean, that advice is all basically just "try". Which, duh, trying to do things is generally a good start if you want to do thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 10:08 PM
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The fact that you don't seem to have a problem with any intellectual "movement", but just with intellectuals in general really makes it sounds like you are just generally anti-intellectual and don't really know what you are arguing against. I will say, though: yes, the position is esoteric. But why is that bad? Jargon exists for a reason. If you are attempting to explain complex matters, sometimes complex language is necessary. The fact that it is not accessible to random internet guy, and that …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 10:01 PM
1

bmi to socioeconomic class is an interesting idea. ass vs tits being racial is absurd, though cultural seems likely in my own experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 09:48 PM
2

That is ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 09:33 PM
3

The important question is: has any "pill" advice gotten you anywhere at all as far as results?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 09:21 PM
2

We probably have nothing in common, and your tone is a bit "broey" compared to anyone I hang out with, but you are consistently the only person I agree with on this sub. Dudes here are trying to find objective measures for every detail, and get so wrapped up in quantifying every detail of every perceived problem then extrapolating a philosophical description of it that they never even begin solving problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 07:03 PM
1

My girlfriend and I were just talking about this! I also have not counted, but our ratio would be quite good, far more positive than negative by miles. It is very easy to fall into death spirals when one thing goes wrong, and I've seen it happen: lose your job, get depressed, partner nags about cleaning yourself up and getting a job, that seems unhelpful when you're depressed, avoid conversations because the other person is nagging, next thing you know most of your interactions are negative and …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 03:28 PM
2

You can complain about things you're not entitled to.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 09:22 PM
1

If it helps, then yes. In my case, I find writing to be helpful. Theres something about putting it on paper that makes inconsistencies stand out more, then easier to deal with. I've met plenty of people that wouldnt agree with this though.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 01:32 AM
2

Not saying ashamed during! Nor do I think you should be. Sex is weird because it's the simplest, most primal part of our existence besides eating, but also comes with the most complications. Your detachment sounds like you're just processing it all and also like to process in a very inward fashion. Sex is also very communicative. If you find yourself doing this repeatedly, but also regretting it: start by telling them. Say something even as simple as "sometimes I like to be alone after". That wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 12:37 AM
1

Take the time to think about what you want, and be completely honest with yourself in the process. Take the time to figure out how to get what you want, and actually strategize how to get there (i.e. don't fall into the trap of scorched earth "my way at all costs" shit) Take the time to do what you want, and take into consideration that you might have been wrong about the what/how along the way. Repeat. Everything else is a distraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 12:31 AM
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You're not broken, you're dealing with shame. You think it's special, so when it's not special you'd rather forget about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 12:25 AM
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There's a divide, for sure. But, where the pegs sit on either side of the one divide changes a lot depending on circumstances. If you're in the upper tiers of middle class, in my experience you have a very wide range of economic backgrounds available, but they trend upward.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 12:22 AM
4

Ding ding ding! Being interested in women solely through a fetish is extremely transparent, attracting anyone when your terms are dictated by this will be extremely difficult.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 10:58 PM
2

Never ever start a business because most fail...
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 10:55 PM
2

I'm saying this from experience. My family is "well off" meaning upper middle class, but there is a certain degree of mannerisms and financial literacy that allows you to date very properly upper class. If you're lost in that situation, you get poison pens from every direction.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 10:48 PM
1

Check out Muscadet Sur Lie next. They're severely underpriced because everyone in the US thinks it's a Moscato.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 10:46 PM
2

My girlfriend can absolutely pull off a bikini, but finds it to be too lingerie-ish. She wears a one piece in public, a bikini at home when she wants me to have zero chance of denying sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 10:44 PM
1

I agree, but I will say, they largely smell different depending on region! I'm guessing you're talking about Sancerre.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 10:41 PM
2

You're partly right, but it's much more nuanced. It's not about being rich, it's about speaking the language. I'd argue it's the same reason poor people marry each other: theres a common language of experiences and struggles.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 10:38 PM
1

Bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 10:34 PM
4

I hope you're not talking about Chicago... I'm there and the pizza is largely trash.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 10:32 PM
2

Fucking seriously. Theres so much crippling fear among the "I assume I'm undateable because I've never been dated... btw I dont talk to women" crowd.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 10:31 PM
3

and doing absolutely nothing is what is known to solve problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 04:23 AM
2

Nike everything is generally of terrible quality. One of the major ways you spot fakes is that the build quality is too good.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 03:53 AM
1

The only song I know by this artist is "Lesbian Seagull"
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 03:50 AM
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lol, and my dad's short, pudgy lawyer friends are all definitely from poor backgrounds.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 10:36 PM
1

I've always been curious about the region of Italy that speaks German, I'll bet they have great wine.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 05:24 PM
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I work on related stuff for a living. It feels silly but it actually makes a fair bit of sense in a linguistic sense. In addition, spelling out "save" and "download" wasn't a very good solution on low resolution CRT monitors as low resolutions and small text don't mix very well, so you run into space issues very quickly. Inventing a new icon for a rather abstract concept like saving, then teaching people what it means (with a tool tip, in text, which again can't be small and then takes up even m…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 05:43 PM
1

Rating women always feels gross to me, frankly. I would never hit on anyone I wouldnt enthusiastically sleep with though. So, above 7 I suppose?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 05:40 AM
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1) Not really a matter of how attractive, just a matter of whether or not I find her attractive and whether there seems to be either a good opening or mutual interest. 2) sliding scale. Though since you get more information about them on some platforms, I guess I'm a bit more forgiving in some cases when someone is intriguing for other reasons. 3) solid 8? 4) worked very well for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 05:37 AM
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I'm going back to my hometown for the first time in 5 years because two childhood/highschool friends died within a week of each other. I was supposed to stay for a day or two after the second funeral, but got a dream job offer that wants me to start about 12 hours later on the other side of the country. Life is weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 05:17 AM
1

Depends on what you mean my rejecting. When I was single, whenever I was approached by a stranger that wasn't my type, I'd just keep the conversation in friendly territory (a soft rejection I suppose). In online dating, if a woman messaged me and she wasn't my type I generally wouldn't respond unless we had something cool in common, in which case same as above, keep it in non-flirty terms.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 04:16 PM
1

I rarely ghosted, but just sort of made it clear that there was a ceiling to the relationship. It was usually because we just didn't click all that well.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 03:55 PM
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As a dude with a type, I fully relate. I find a lot of women beautiful in a non-sexual sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 07:53 PM
1

You're not that old (probably). Austin really did completely change character more or less overnight.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 03:19 AM
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I don't know what he's like so I can't answer the question. Whats his deal?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 03:17 AM
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I fully agree, and think this is more an issue of labor standards and classicism than it is sexism (to keep on subject with this sub). It is disgusting that the traditional model is "dude becomes bosses slave and sacrificing his body, wife becomes husbands replacement backbone to make sure the whole house doesn't dissolve when dude breaks his back and boss doesn't care because the numbers don't work".
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 02:41 AM
1

How tall/short are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 01:37 AM
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You're not going to get anything worth getting if you don't want it. You live in a safety net wherein instead of facing rejection; you have philosophized a way to describe why you will always be rejected, accepted it, and then bogged yourself down in the details. You're externalizing the problem in order to make it unsolvable because you don't feel like trying anymore, instead of doing any real problem solving.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 01:31 AM
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I'm a guy. But really. How in the dark can you possibly be about why you can't get laid? Your whole approach is like applying to a job by telling them they're stupid and you don't actually want it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 01:22 AM
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And you're actually curious why you can't get laid, let alone develop a meaningful relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 01:09 AM
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Onlyfans daughter, without question.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/22 01:06 AM
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