Theawkwardmochi Archive

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2	Passport Bros aren't leaving the western dating scene for genuine desire, they are leaving for a chance at genuine desire, which is more than they would ever have in the west. People just watched the white lotus	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/07/26 10:56 PM
5	Passport Bros aren't leaving the western dating scene for genuine desire, they are leaving for a chance at genuine desire, which is more than they would ever have in the west. Its a transaction for money and/ or citizenship. Thats it. Of course they will hide that. But its not attraction, and it will never be real love. Appreciation maybe. Or they love that you support her eentire family maybe. Wait so we've gone a full circle and interracial relationships now come with a mandatory ulterior motive on the POC end again? Why so racist?	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/07/26 10:54 PM
5	If you dont like women, don’t date them. I disagree. Partially. We aren't actually REALLY pissed at each other. Also, hardcore feminists and manosphere bros should absolutely follow OP's advice. Don't like 'em? Don't date them. At the risk of being accused of eugenistic tendencies (I'd never do such a thing!), the absolute last thing our population needs is for these people to breed. Go your own way folks. Don't even talk to the members of the opposite sex. Don't look at them. Don't you even think of it. Hermit the fuck out of your opt…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/07/26 05:55 PM
1	If you dont like women, don’t date them. So, basically bisexuals with an agenda.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/07/26 05:09 PM
2	Would you date someone you met in person who didn’t match with you on a dating app? Another person commented that my boyfriend is a sucker and loser because we met in person and we didn’t connect on the apps. I just find that to be not only an odd take, but incredibly immature and insecure. Also to be very clear I’m INCREDIBLY attracted to my boyfriend. Not only from how he carries himself, confident, smooth, charismatic, but also very much his looks. "Another person" is 99.9% virgin, late teens/very early 20s, low muscle mass, knows the angle of his jaw, weak and sickly comple…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/26 10:46 AM
1	Has your past/current female partners wanted more or less sex than you? Yes, and we also poop unicorn dust and can make your cow's milk go sour by looking at it hatefully 🤣🤣🤣 Oh boy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/26 04:14 PM
6	Has your past/current female partners wanted more or less sex than you? Women don’t get horny like men do, their libido unlocks when they enter a relationship Yeah, totally, that's why there isn't a multi billion dollar female sex toy business 🤣	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/26 01:37 PM
2	What do you have to offer? Food. I cook, and boy can I cook 🤣🤣🤣🤣	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/07/26 11:21 PM
1	CMV: Many men are genuinely intimidated by successful women because it disrupts traditional relationship dynamics. It is a non-issue. SOME men are genuinely intimidated. I wouldn't call it "many". And they have very little relevance because the kind of man who is intimidated by a strong woman is not the kind of man any woman wants. He's a supply with no demand, like an ozempic stand on a fat acceptance convention. Most people don't even WANT "traditional" relationship dynamics. Then there's a distinct kind of losers of either sex who want a "traditional" woman/man, but aren't ready to be a traditional man/wo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/07/26 12:09 PM
2	Older men don't understand how undesirable they are to younger women Well it's just a fact. A lot of people in relationships just genuinely love their partner. Not sure when did that become a controversial concept.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/07/26 09:10 AM
9	Older men don't understand how undesirable they are to younger women I think people love to observe other people's body language and interpret it... funnily enough always in ways that suit their narrative. I know a bunch of people in agr, mostly younger women older men (although I also know men very happily married to women significantly older than them). There absolutely are people who exploit their older partners. And then there's just this good ol' weird thing called love. A lot of younger women genuinely love and desire their older partners.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/07/26 11:06 PM
1	Do you think you have a positiv impact on men here? I don't know if I have a positive impact on anyone here. I'm on this sub to trigger snowflakes and watch them cry, take screenshots of dumb stuff to send to my friends and occasionally involve in an actually meaningful discussion or friendly banter. If it's the discussion, that would be a positive impact on everyone involved. If someone enjoys whatever silly banter I'm having, guess that's good impact too. Everything and everyone else is entertainment.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/07/26 10:16 AM
–	What movies would you like men to watch? You mean the group that didn’t include any women, because it is so much funnier for men to dress up as women? I mean the group that only featured men because it happened to be a group of men who wanted to do comedy together. I think a key issue is most men rarely read/watch stories about or by women, while women do of men. People aren't interested in actually understanding others, best thing they can do is at least understand the absurdity of it all.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/07/26 10:02 AM
4	Passport broing should unironically be illegal So Brian goes overseas, meets a lovely lady, they fall in love, form a committed relationship and plan on getting married. What a filthy imperialist swine he is! But the thing is, Brian isn't marrying himself. He's marrying a woman who picked Brian. Not because there aren't other men available, not because her choice is between Brian and poverty to the brink of starvation, not because someone forced her. She just genuinely fancies Brian, leave her tf alone. By hating on passport bros, modern fem…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/07/26 07:50 AM
7	What movies would you like men to watch? I genuinely think the world would be a lot better place if more men and women watched everything Monty Python, so I'm gonna go with that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/07/26 04:42 AM
0	How do you explain the "Dark Romance" Boom? I do. They're typically really funny. Does laughing count? I'm not a complete psychopath though, like I do cry when Mufasa dies.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/26 03:30 PM
1	How do you explain the "Dark Romance" Boom? I have a theory that it is similar to how video porn got a lot more hardcore. In the past you had a plumber visiting while the hubby is out, now it's your stepsister getting stuck in a tumble dryer or stepmom grounding you for a very morally dubious set of reasons after you found a strap on in her bedroom and asked about it. Same with written porn (smut is pornography). Prince charming finding you living alone in a tower and offering to keep you company every night after 20 pages of bringing flo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/26 03:15 PM
0	How do you explain the "Dark Romance" Boom? As a woman, I won't be able to help you understand because I don't either. It's not just that they are powerful super buff dudes, it's also about all kinds of straight out criminal behavior that gets romanticized, glamorized and sexualized. Like sorry Jessica, but getting a panty puddle from a jacked ancient vampire with a massive crotch monster who keeps a lady sex slave in his dungeon and does all kinds of unholy things to her all night every night is NOT healthy and I won't be convinced other…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/26 02:37 PM
1	Men have no sympathy towards women It is very typical for this sub to only see one side of the issue. It turns into a whining match where everyone tries to prove they have it worse. Yes, a lot of men have no sympathy towards women, sure. I'm not arguing with that. A lot of men are dimwits. But here's the thing - it's a very non-specific characteristic. Women often don't have sympathy towards men. Young people often have no sympathy towards old people. Old people often have no sympathy towards young people. Understanding the exper…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/26 02:26 PM
2	Women only feel anxious and unsafe because they have no survival instincts, and don’t learn until something bad happens. Most men and women I know adjust to what is reasonable in the particular circumstances. Most men you know don't walk in the dark or drink at parties and share their location with someone whenever they go on a date? Look, if you cannot tell apart "not drinking to a point of unconsciousness" and "not drinking at parties", you definitely shouldn't be drinking at parties or anywhere else for that matter, and it has nothing to do with your sex. It's also not about "not walking in the dark". But if it…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/26 02:04 PM
1	No woman who is not already thinking about divorce will actually gonna divorce you for getting a paternity test The problem isn't that women get offended when paternity is questioned. The problem is that there's any room for questioning paternity. It's 2026, we have the tech. This should be a non-issue. Just make it a mandatory routine test days after the kid is born and nobody will have to navigate this utter nonsense. The man is going to be putting effort and resources into that kid for decades, least we can do on an administrative routine level is give him absolute worry-free certainty that the kid is …	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/26 01:34 PM
1	No woman who is not already thinking about divorce will actually gonna divorce you for getting a paternity test Trusting your partner is faithful and not making a scene when they go out with friends is healthy trust-based relationship. Trusting your partner is faithful and not getting tested for STDs ever again, because why would you if you trust they're faithful is idiocy. You have a right to base most important stuff in your life on more than trust alone. If I was a mother I would support my partner getting a paternity test. Trust is fantastic, absolute certainty is better.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/26 01:12 PM
2	Women only feel anxious and unsafe because they have no survival instincts, and don’t learn until something bad happens. Most men I know take similar safety measures as most women I know. Maybe it's different in different places or I just interact with reasonable people for the most part	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/26 01:03 PM
3	Women only feel anxious and unsafe because they have no survival instincts, and don’t learn until something bad happens. It's exhausting to have to lock my bicycle every time I leave it out of sight and the heavy chain I use for that purpose adds weight to my already heavy MTB, but here's the thing, bicycles get stolen. It's not my fault bicycles get stolen, I never stole a bicycle. I still lock it, because as much as I wish I lived in a world where bicycles never get stolen, I don't live in that world. Also a heavier bike puts much more strain on my muscles so that upped my calf game ngl Men have to take similar …	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/26 11:26 AM
–	Expecting Men to Pay for First Dates Is Entitlement Ouch, that's pretty judgemental, isn't it?	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/06/26 06:34 AM
–	Expecting Men to Pay for First Dates Is Entitlement What if the man wants a relationship but the woman just wants casual sex? Do they both have to transition?	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/06/26 12:25 AM
–	Expecting Men to Pay for First Dates Is Entitlement "Gatekeepers of sex" sounds like that one Vatican body called the Dicastery for the Doctrine of the Faith, but there are no chicks there. All the dudes wear long black dresses and tiny little fancy hats though, so there's that. One question, if we are the gatekeepers of sex, who are men? Guardians of the galaxy? Also, if women gatekeep sex, who decides on where the sex goes in gay and lesbian relationships? Do lesbians gatekeep sex from each other? Is there a subdivision of lesbians that have th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 10:27 PM
–	Expecting Men to Pay for First Dates Is Entitlement But we want sex, too? So how is that an argument?	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 05:24 PM
–	Expecting Men to Pay for First Dates Is Entitlement There's nothing transactional about a dinner date if people just pay for themselves? Plus if you go on a dinner date you get to see what that person is like when they're hungry, and that's arguably meeting them at their very worst. If you like them hungry, you like them 😂	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 05:13 PM
1	What unique value do you think men provide to society, that can't be provided by women? Sperm. Women don't make that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/06/26 05:03 PM
6	Why doesn't accurate information bring women more comfort Because accurate information doesn't bring comfort to people if it doesn't affirm their beliefs. And women are people. It's simply not a gendered trait. Just like telling a feminist that "pink tax" is a deeply flawed concept that doesn't have a lot in common with reality, telling a redpiller that female educational hypergamy not only doesn't exist in the modern world - it's also quickly becoming statistically impossible, would yield some very screechy results. Good luck talking to a leftist abou…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/26 05:48 PM
2	Would you truly enjoy and appreciate arelationship that goes against gender norms of men providing and protecting? I like equality and it goes both ways. I wouldn't mind making more than my man at all. Or less. Whatever. We make more or less the same. I don't need him to spend more money on me than I do on him, that would be ridiculous given we have similar wages. I would be very uncomfortable if he was taking a financial hit for me and would need him to stop. Opening doors and the sidewalk thing - they are just gestures. They have nothing in common with assertiveness or dominance (?). Nor with actual protec…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/06/26 08:10 AM
9	It is infantilizing to women to say that women who have drunk alcohol cannot consent to sex, while nothing is said about men who drank alcohol It's very simple: 1. Both (or whatever number of people were involved, you kinky bastards) are drunk - not rape 2. One is only slightly buzzed or completely sober, the other is black out drunk - rape Basically: we had sex because alcohol lowered OUR inhibitions - not rape. I waited for the alcohol to lower THEIR inhibitions (or make them barely conscious) - rape It's not gendered. Drunk people jointly making stupid decisions are fully accountable for them. Getting someone drunk with an intention…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/06/26 08:56 AM
–	Does Saying “Women Don’t Need Men Anymore” Imply That Men Were Mainly Valued for Providing Resources? Guess he's just projecting lmao	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/05/26 06:21 PM
3	Misandry exists. Well, you mentioned we're oppressed, I'm yet to be educated on why a middle class woman living in a developed democracy is oppressed.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/05/26 10:09 PM
0	Misandry exists. It's ok if you don't get it. At least you tried. Attaboy	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/05/26 06:56 PM
3	Misandry exists. So...I came back to the flat where I live on my own and pay for it with the money I earn in my job, where I currently manage some 70 people through the men that report to me. Out of the 4 people on my level 3 are women. And I texted my boyfriend whom I chose all by myself without having to ask anyone for permission and with whom I have tons of non-marital sex that's perfectly legal for me to have. We were exchanging some observations pertaining to the political system, within which we enjoy iden…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/05/26 06:45 PM
4	Misandry exists. I don't think most women would say they're oppressed (or maybe I'm just excessively optimistic). But definitely a lot of them do. It seems as if more women than men say they are oppressed indeed, however, there's a very interesting (sociologically interesting, it's shitty as such) trend on the right, where (especially) men use the left-wing terminology and logic, but not to question the systemic oppression narrative. They absolutely agree with it; they just try to prove that the oppression goes …	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/05/26 04:34 PM
6	Misandry exists. Yes and in case of a war you don't even support, will you be forced to leave everything behind and go risk your life for a cause that isn't yours? Nope. Why? Because you're a woman. That's exactly what I'm talking about. There are many inequalities, some of them legal (like abortion laws and conscription laws), many purely social (like perceptions of sexuality and emotional vulnerability).	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/05/26 04:15 PM
5	The attractive=asshole strawman that people here are starting to parrot meme needs to die I think that the attractive=asshole trope is extremely discriminatory and systemically excludes people like me, who aren't attractive but are assholes. We mid-s can be assholes, too! We demand representation in the assholery narrative!	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/05/26 09:14 AM
20	Misandry exists. I don't disagree with the existence of misandry, misogyny and the like. But I think the problem is that "systemic oppression" bit. Discussing the whole thing within that mildly Marxist framework where power struggle is the core of your identity, and oppression and privilege determine the value of your arguments, unsurprisingly doesn't lead to any valuable findings, because you soon end up in a yelling match where everyone wants to prove they are THE most oppressed, because that puts them higher …	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/05/26 09:09 AM
9	Misandry exists. I think my main issue with misandry is that it only gets called out when it is women committing it. It's the exact same thing with misogyny though. Especially with very "progressive liberal" women. Not all progressive women but enough progressive women have their entire worldview built around female compliance and deference. It's a very bizarre mindset where outwardly it's all about empowerment and fighting the patriarchy, but look a little closer and you will notice that female non-compliance a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/05/26 07:59 AM
3	Why do many women find it unacceptable if a man has paid for sex in the past, but are fine with a man who has slept with hundreds of women through regular dating? Past behaviors are great predictors of future character. Recent history of promiscuity, paid, unpaid or whatever - thanks but no, thanks. If he paid a prostitute once 20 years ago - we're fine.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/05/26 01:44 PM
7	Men feel more comfortable opening up to other men. Both sides are willing to die on the opposite sides of this hill, which makes for a lot of preventable and pointless deaths because both sides are wrong, and it's not even a real hill. Men should absolutely feel comfortable opening up to their partners. A partner is someone you are supposed to love and care about, obviously you want to know what's going on with them. It should be the most natural thing in the world to share with that person, be able to be vulnerable and honest with them. Your pa…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/05/26 10:44 AM
1	Radicalization of men is only way the change will occur. By all means, go for it lads. The radical feminists are hilarious enough as they are, being so divorced from reality it's clear the two were never married to begin with. We definitely got the Alien. It's only wise it be joined by Predator. Real people are busy living their lives but a little entertainment won't hurt 🤣	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/05/26 10:54 PM
2	You cannot convince me that most men deserve women's submission Ok if you feel submissive whilst riding a big strong man's penis, that's fine. Many people really don't.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/05/26 06:56 PM
10	You cannot convince me that most men deserve women's submission That's a very weird way to say you're not into cowgirl. You do you. We all have likes and dislikes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/05/26 03:03 PM
8	You cannot convince me that most men deserve women's submission I mean if you see vanilla sex as submission vs domination, trust me there's a whole world out there that you're missing out on lol. No it isn't kink.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/05/26 02:31 PM
4	You cannot convince me that most men deserve women's submission Nobody deserves anybody's submission. Submission and domination are kinks, and you sure are welcome to have them, just don't go shoving them in people's faces. Honestly the number of kinsters in denial around here is hilariously staggering. Just install FetLife people, I promise there's someone out there who will collar you or some shit. Whether or not someone wants to submit to you depends on whether or not they are a submissive, not on king solmon-ness of your overall persona. Also whether you…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/05/26 02:14 PM
1	This is the reason why men the gatekeepers of relationship The very idea of anyone being the gatekeeper of anything is a massive oversimplification. The primary reason for people to engage in casual sex is because they are horny, they want to get laid and there's a person who's more than willing to help make that happen. A lot of women do engage in casual sex with men who don't fit their long term criteria. Sometimes one side of the deal didn't get the memo and tries to turn that casual situation into a committed relationship, with varying results. It h…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/05/26 07:50 AM
-3	If red flags are so easy to spot, then there's no need for prenups and paternity tests I appreciate the sarcasm and this post is funny. Absolutely, some people on this sub are very weird. But people who truly blame women for all of the men's shortcomings are outliers. And let's be honest, women often DO ignore red flags. Men do as well, it's not really a gendered trait, however it's us that somewhat more often enter committed relationships thinking we can change him. No, no lady, you can't. You're not a bull, you're meant to run FROM the red flag not TOWARDS it, move tf on. As for…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/05/26 07:36 AM
2	The Femosphere deliberately genderizes behaviors that AREN'T gendered. (CMV) I think the real issue is people gendering the gendering of gendering the gendering 🤣	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/05/26 10:54 PM
–	What would happen If science someday proved or suggested that housewives were healthier and lived longer than women who go to work and are finantially independent? First off, we have the data. The average life span has grown very significantly over the past decades. So science has plenty of data for us to know that there's a correlation (not causation, ok, we don't draw causation from correlation because we are intelligent people here, right...right?) between women being in the workforce and average lifespan for both sexes growing. So that's out the window. But let's entertain the impossible scenario for a moment. Science discovers women who don't make any…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/05/26 06:51 PM
5	The Femosphere deliberately genderizes behaviors that AREN'T gendered. (CMV) The ironic thing is that you're now gendering the gendering 🤣 and gendering is not a gendered trait. Tragically, both sides do that and completely ignore the fact that pretty awful things people do are just that - awful things people do. Not women, not men, people. Like the propagators of the hilarious idea of "female hypergamy" will be very vocal about how materialistic women are while completely ignoring the fact that men are actually MORE likely (so slightly it's irrelevant, but more nonethel…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/05/26 06:14 PM
1	A lot of people have very closed-minded and frankly outdated views on porn. I cannot say I disagree with the premise of this post but being angry at people for saying porn is fake is like being angry at people for thinking Teletubbies isn't a documentary. Absolutely, there are many actors who love their job. There are many for whom it's an exhibitionist kink thing and they genuinely enjoy the process and experience it as very erotic. The sex is real but it's very staged and very scripted most of the time. It's just made to look spontaneous and passionate, else it would …	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/05/26 02:18 PM
10	Men can only access emotional intimacy through a romantic partner This! A very good way of telling if a man is a good potential partner is to see how he interacts with other men. A man who treats other men like competition is almost guaranteed to treat a woman like property.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/05/26 01:14 AM
0	Men can only access emotional intimacy through a romantic partner If men started being the friends they would like to have, things would change for them, a lot. I know several men who did just that. Many men in my family and among friends have meaningful male friendships.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/05/26 12:58 AM
2	Hookups for women would amazing if it actually guaranteed safety. They would be every bit as uninteresting to me. The reason why I have never been into hookups is because they aren't appealing in the slightest, not because I'm afraid of men. Or women for that matter.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/05/26 12:34 AM
–	Would you consider a man entitled for wanting a romantic partner? "I'm sad that I don't have a woman in my life and it frustrates me. I wish I was with someone like the guys around me. I feel lonely. I want to be desired and loved"- good "Since I am not a millionaire with a perfectly square jaw and my eyeballs and ball-balls aren't in straight lines crossing at the navel at exactly 45 degrees, which has been scientifically proven to be preferred by females, my only options are obese retirement home residents who have been through by the entire male population …	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/05/26 12:22 AM
2	Orgasm gap is not caused by men, its caused by women because they don’t close the gap of effort gap Wait what. You mean... his woman wants more of him and he's like, fellas is it gay to keep sexing a lady after she came? 🤣🤣🤣 I keep hearing about these men but never met any. Any man I ever talked to about this (and, being bisexual and definitely not on the market, I'm apparently a honorary lesbian and suitable confidant for all lady issues for the guys around me) would be absolutely ecstatic. My body count is as ridiculously low as a very shitty sniper's, but any man I ever was with - same. Exe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/26 11:54 PM
1	How and when does a woman create a "type"? So when you're about 4, the High Council of women assigns a type of man that you are supposed to be attracted to when you grow up, and the most senior female member of your family (typically at the age of 4 that will be your great grandmother) receives an exhaustive description of that type in a letter (very much like a Hogwarts letter but it's pink and has rhinestones on the envelope). After that, she will immediately destroy the letter and tell your grandmother and your grandmother will guide …	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/26 02:30 PM
3	I am pretty sure the women have a misunderstanding about pornography. Since the topic of male preferences pertaining to porn has come up, I believe it is my duty to share the spectacular piece of Swedish cartography you can admire below. That said, I don't know and I don't care. The average man doesn't exist. Everyone has their own turn-ons. <image>	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/26 01:49 PM
15	Orgasm gap is not caused by men, its caused by women because they don’t close the gap of effort gap Look, if you had sex before, you know that the other person making you orgasm is kinda the point. If you make yourself orgasm, it's masturbation, which I believe to be the main field of erotic expertise for people who write posts like this. You absolutely can have an ..um... masturbatory mindset when having sex with someone, but that's just sad. Her doing a lot if cowgirl won't make it any less pathetic. The number 1 reason for women not orgasming in bed is their men having no bloody idea what a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/26 01:42 PM
1	Historically "traditional" men didn't want their wives to work because they didn't want them to be financially independent. North Korea also has societal stability. A lot of it. It's honestly SO stable that no one even complains. No ideological tensions ever. Absolute harnony in terms of opinions, behaviors, cultural practices. If stability as a goal was more important than the means used to achieve it, North Korea would be paradise on Earth. But it kinda... isn't, right? That's because stability without freedom indeed is oppression.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/26 01:09 PM
4	Historically "traditional" men didn't want their wives to work because they didn't want them to be financially independent. Many "traditional" men just want to be loving, faithful providers. And they want a "traditional" woman (or man, that happens too) who is a loving, faithful homemaker. There doesn't have to be any ulterior motive. These people just find this role split to be the definition of happiness. This is how they want to live their lives. My grandparents lived like this and they were deeply in love with each other throughout their marriage. He didn't have to move a finger at home, she didn't have to earn a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/26 11:52 AM
2	Women choosing abusive men is a skill issue My father lost his wife over 20 years ago and still cries when someone mentions her, and still compares any woman he tries to build something with to her, which obviously doesn't really go down too well, so he ended up getting dumped a lot because nobody's got time to compete with a dead chick/dude. A pair of siblings I know, woman and man in their 30s, lost their father very young. She got over it and takes accountability for her life, he explains his stupid behaviors by daddy kicking it when h…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/26 10:13 AM
7	Women choosing abusive men is a skill issue I think it's a complex issue and how tf is it even gendered. A lot of unhealthy attachment, unhealed trauma and all that stuff might make one gravitate towards toxic relationships. And that applies to women and men. If they are very young - I genuinely think they can't be blamed. A young adult isn't a fully intellectually independent person. Whatever thought patterns they have are a direct result of their upbringing. They need time. But if you're 35 and choose controlling, abusive, possessive me…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/26 12:40 AM
2	Hypothetical choice (I think these are fun!) A. For all I care people are free to think I'm a virgin Hitler kicking puppies on their heads while dumping tons of plastic into the ocean and watching turtles slowly die as I dine on whale meet on my private yacht that's leaking fuel into the water. I love that this is a hypothetical scenario because I have a happy relationship, but I would never want to be stuck in some weird ass permanent friend zone.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/26 02:53 PM
–	In a bodyswap, who would you choose? Who would you want her to choose? Bruh I don't know what you're on but I wanna try it. For science. Mind. I love and desire my man for his mind. If he changed packaging, I would still love and desire him for his mind.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/26 02:01 PM
–	In a bodyswap, who would you choose? Who would you want her to choose? Looks like	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/26 01:57 PM
1	Hypothetical choice of daily visitor: You can only pick one. No, that hour is just time assigned by my oppressors for whatever "entertainment" they see fit, with a "friend" that's most likely been selected by them. Also they abducted me because they're messed in the head. Like who gets kidnapped and thinks "I wonder why they abducted me out of all the 51 people in Shitholevillage, it's one of the great unknowns of my life, gosh I'm so deep". Nobody. Literally nobody. I stick with the hot guy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/26 11:47 AM
1	TikTok Has Become Gender War Slop. I think a lot of people underestimate the role of their doom scrolling in the global economy. The app has to give you stuff that you will interact with. If it gives you stuff you hate, you will stop scrolling. You stop scrolling, pay per view and pay per click ads stop generating income. That's bad. So you gotta be given what you like. My TikTok is goth people looking goth, nail people doing nails, dinosaur facts, random science trivia and people doing comedy. So it's not gender war slop. Ok and…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/26 10:51 AM
2	Hypothetical choice of daily visitor: You can only pick one. A. Having a friend and not being able to ever go out with them, hang out, do things together would probably make it even worse. Like I've been abducted and held hostage by aliens for the rest of my life, what are the deep conversations I could possibly be having and what stories do I have to tell? Just bring me the hot stuff thanks.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/26 09:33 AM
–	Are men justified in hating women? I call out sexism regardless of which sex it targets because I am a reasonable human being with enough intelligence to not feel the need to retaliate against a population for what a loud minority of that population does. Women who boast about hating men do exist and they do disgust me. But the behavior is actually not that common. What you see on social media is what the algorithm throws at you based on interaction history. The women I see on my feeds talk about history, science, art, sports, co…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/26 08:07 AM
5	Why do you think men outnumber women on dating/hookup apps? Women being less attracted to men is a bs statement. They are attracted to men. Ask any woman in a hetero relationship. Could you repeat this louder for the people in the back please? Agree with everything you said. Dating apps suck. Although if you have a dog people WILL demand dog pictures. It is what it is.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/26 12:12 AM
–	It is honestly astounding that a few millimeters can meaningfully drastically change the amount of dating prospects someone receives Fibonacci pilled 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/05/26 11:11 AM
1	Do women have safe space to have "honest conversations" about attraction? Yep my hairdresser. I can tell that woman anything, she's a sweetheart.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/05/26 08:42 AM
2	Woman of Reddit. What is your usual response or reaction when you hear guys say "Women are too much work"? What is your usual response or reaction "M'kay" A man who says that about women has no value to me as a friend, much less as a potential partner - as I am a part of the group he's clearly not a fan of. He just exists in the same world, why would I get emotionally invested in what he says? If it's online, I might respond something snarky and watch people get triggered. Everybody has their guilty pleasures. Men who think women are too much work (or women who think men are) are a very loud minority…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/05/26 08:38 AM
8	Women need to cook This is great ragrbait, I salute you. Also it's silly. Cooking is a very basic survival skill. Even if it wasn't, one can defend narrow specialization, sure. But not assigning roles and duties on the basis of something as irrelevant to talent as sex. Regardless of your worldview, it's simply inefficient. Take my mother. Most of her cooking was straight out disgusting. What she absolutely excelled at was science. My father, on the other hand, is an excellent cook but never had much interest in ob…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/05/26 02:10 PM
4	Why are women upset when a man says "You're not like the other girls", but fine when women do the same to men? Why are women upset when a man says "You're not like the other girls", but fine when women do the same to men? I am not upset but when someone says that. I just know their value for me will be negligible due to conflicting mindsets, so I won't be investing my time and resources in them beyond the necessary. And I am not fine saying this to men, in fact - women who say this to men fall into the same category as men who say this to women. Unless, of course, the compliment pertains strictly to the …	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/05/26 09:29 AM
–	why do your responses to men's statements sometimes not match what was actually said? For the same reason (some) men interpret "My ex was actually good in bed" as "I miss him and his huge dong that was miles better than your pathetic micropenis", "I don't think I'm ready to take this to the next level" as "you're not attractive enough", "not really, no" as "perhaps, leaning towards yes" and "keep going, don't stop" as "immediately change absolutely everything about what you've been doing up to this point" People hear what they wanna hear. Playing the devil's advocate though, "can…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/05/26 09:42 AM
2	If the orgasm gap wasn’t a thing and you orgasmed every single time you slept with someone, would you increase your casual encounters more? No I wouldn't. Orgasm gap is not the (only) reason why I don't do casual sex. It's the STD risk, the fact that sex without a connection has no value to me and I need to be attracted to a person's intellect before I want to be intimate with them. Sex also gets a lot better with time as people learn what gives their partner the most pleasure So there was no incentive for me to engage in the when I was single, obviously there's no incentive now when I'm not.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/05/26 09:25 AM
4	What is the average female sexual experience like? There's nothing a man or a woman could do to make me want to have casual sex with them. Like I wouldn't have casual sex if Jason Momoa and Kate Winslet offered me a foursome with a magically resurrected Alan Rickman 🤣 Not only am I happily partnered with no plans on changing that, I also just don't do casual sex. I didn't when I was single either. There's the STD risk, the fact that sex gets better with time and it just is incomparably better when you have feelings for each other.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/05/26 08:52 AM
4	Self-proclaimed "nice guys" are not nice guys But a man who drinks coffee from Starbucks IS a red flag. Or a woman. Or a child. More so for their wallet than for the remaining population, a red flag nonetheless. It means they like their coffee cremated rather than roasted, massively overpriced and pretending to be high quality. Like who cares they say the coffee is pure Arabica from some place. Sir that coffee is no more, it has been killed im a fire, my condolences. Get proper single origin specialty grade coffee at some nice little cafe a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/05/26 06:48 AM
3	We need to stop the men vs women framing. It's toxic and pointless. No, I get it from the sex, dating, marketing/advertising, fitness, cosmetic, fashion, entertainment, media and beauty industries What does someone wanting to make you spend your money have to do with anything? You can make some interesting observations watching the ads, but it's not that deep. Buy it, enjoy it, or don't buy it if you don't enjoy it. I'm on my 37th year of experimenting with not giving a flying fuck and the results are very consistent - you do you boo, no one cares. If you deny t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/26 11:49 PM
7	We need to stop the men vs women framing. It's toxic and pointless. Opposite AND antagonistic? Gosh that's harsh. You might think that looking at this reddit. The loudest people of both sexes might make one think gender wars are the finals of oppression Olympics, which is kinda sad for them, but also very entertaining for the rest of us. It's basically a human zoo but legal and all the performers are there voluntarily. In real life, most people have pretty similar needs and desires. Internet edgelords are not a representative sample of society.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/26 10:40 PM
1	Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kids Which is why both people need to change. If one still has the mindset of a childless person (usually but not always the man), they're just dead weight and they will, sooner or later, have to be replaced. It doesn't mean you become a completely different person obviously.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/26 05:33 PM
–	How attracted are you to a guy you “settled with” at age 30 compared to previous flings & relationships? My money would be on Mary Shelley tbh	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/26 05:19 PM
1	Women, why do you protect criminals so much? Because women know that if you kill that lowlife you will end up in prison yourself and we don't want that for you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/26 12:26 PM
3	Women don't owe men kinky sex acts Reporting the reporting	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/26 12:16 PM
2	Women don't owe men kinky sex acts So true. Thought that's what the whole subreddit was about lol	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/26 12:12 PM
1	Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kids Because you now have a tiny human who can't survive a day without you and shits in a diaper. So you sort of need to alter your life and priorities a little bit to accommodate that. So you will change.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/26 12:02 PM
1	Women will inevitably change after kids, if you can't understand this just don't have kids Tf is a 0.1% man, legally alcohol free man? No thanks, I like my men with extra gin, shaken not stirred. The problem that the vast majority of these men whose partners changed after kids have is not that the woman changed. Their problem is that they didn't. I know many long term couples who have kids, are happy and still prioritize their partners. They share responsibilities and make a conscious effort to find time just for each other and give each other space for hobbies, friends, what have you…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/26 10:55 AM
2	Many women want a man who is "generous" without being generous themselves. They also want a "provider" without providing any real value, apart from having kids, which even animals can do. Look, bad and entitled women existing does not justify trying to screw your hamster. You absolutely cannot have children with animals.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/26 09:35 AM
–	How attracted are you to a guy you “settled with” at age 30 compared to previous flings & relationships? No you don't want your future wife smoking, smoking is baaaaaad. Ok it tastes delicious but it really isn't great for you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/26 09:29 AM
–	How attracted are you to a guy you “settled with” at age 30 compared to previous flings & relationships? Oh I know that one. Reading or hearing something hilarious mid-puff. It happens to me as well. But I'm lucky in the yelling department as I don't get yelled at. My man (whom, by the way OP, I absolutely enthusiastically adore and who actually does not frequent opium dens nor have bad manners etc.) just looks at me the exact same way I look at the cat when he jumps up on the table (not allowed on the table), starts chasing his tail, then falls off the table face first 🤣	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/26 09:17 AM
–	The "she did it with her ex but won't with me" situation is typically valid for a man to be concerned about. Knowing what kind of lifestyle she had - was she promiscuous or was she with one man at a time, did she ever cheat, what's the longest she's been with one person, did she have a few men or a few hundred, that kind of stuff- yes it's absolutely valid to want to know your potential partner's past behaviors and it's also perfectly fine to decide you don't want to pursue a relationship if these behaviors don't align with yours. Demanding to be told what exact sex acts she performed in the past and w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/26 08:49 AM
–	How attracted are you to a guy you “settled with” at age 30 compared to previous flings & relationships? Thanks and sorry! 🤣	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/26 08:32 AM
–	How attracted are you to a guy you “settled with” at age 30 compared to previous flings & relationships? Thanks I tried! 🤣	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/26 08:31 AM
3	Women have very little to gain from heterosexual sex & relationships and men don't care Women, just like men, have a lot to gain from heterosexual sex and relationships. Most women WANT heterosexual sex and relationships. Most PEOPLE want heterosexual sex and relationships because most people are attracted to the opposite sex and fall in love with individuals of the opposite sex. For one, women are economically independent now. Which is fantastic. I love making my own money. One of the greatest things about being a modern independent woman is that I don't NEED a man. I can support …	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/26 08:25 AM
69	How attracted are you to a guy you “settled with” at age 30 compared to previous flings & relationships? As a wrinkly old woman of over 30 years, what choices did I have but to become a bitter spinster, surrounded by a flock of feline companions, or settle for a man who couldn't attract a better party, a pariah of the finer society, with means insufficient to make up for his lack of manners, excessive perspiration, frequenting opium dens and a particular proclivity towards making enemies? It pains me to wake up next to him, read his boring letters, accompany him to church, dine in his presence. And…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/26 12:23 AM
–	The "she did it with her ex but won't with me" situation is typically valid for a man to be concerned about. No it's not. People who let their ego or insecurity or both get in the way of their fun parts tend to be terrible in bed and that's only one of their many problems. That's something they should deal with before they pursue a relationship, else they're setting themselves up for failure. People who: He let her peg him, but he doesn't want that with me, obviously he wanted her more, She was all about elevator sex with her previous guy, now she won't even do it on the balcony, so she must think I'm …	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/26 12:04 AM
1	Q4All: What would you do if your partner cheated on you? Would you immediately leave them, or would you give them a chance for forgiveness? Do you think there's a gender-based difference in how people react to being cheated on? The Catholic church has a really weird attitude to cheating from what I remember from my times there. It's obviously bad, immoral, a sin, all the stuff. But the narrative centers the cheater. It's giving in to temptation or falling or a moment of weakness and there's a wov broken and a relationship damaged - it's just it's a wov made in front of god and the damaged relationship is the one with god as well. The damage has also been done to the marriage. The immoral behavior hurt the person who be…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/26 04:36 PM
2	Q4All: What would you do if your partner cheated on you? Would you immediately leave them, or would you give them a chance for forgiveness? Do you think there's a gender-based difference in how people react to being cheated on? Ok that's super bizarre. Op: hey internet what do you think about x? Random person: YOUR MOM Like...pardon, esteemed bitch, but I shall henceforth be relying on you for my understanding of the fuck at hand as it has, regrettably, been evading my limited comprehension.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/26 11:20 AM
1	Q4All: What would you do if your partner cheated on you? Would you immediately leave them, or would you give them a chance for forgiveness? Do you think there's a gender-based difference in how people react to being cheated on? I chose the poly lifestyle so nobody's cheating. If I was monogamous, I would leave. A man (or a woman for that matter) is only worth as much as his capability to stick to his commitments and deserves only as much respect as he respects the word he's given - in the vast majority of scenarios. So a person cheating on me would render them worthless in my eyes, thus no longer desirable as a partner. I'm a good partner who gladly takes care of the other person's needs so there's no redeeming factors…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/26 08:32 AM
2	Q4All: What would you do if your partner cheated on you? Would you immediately leave them, or would you give them a chance for forgiveness? Do you think there's a gender-based difference in how people react to being cheated on? Where did op mention that?	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/26 08:07 AM
–	Why is female sexuality so weird? Yep but trolling is a delight	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/05/26 11:33 PM
–	Why is female sexuality so weird? Oooh so that's what OP's after. Alright. I completely missed the point. So, I really like feet. But not any feet. Chicken feet. Fried. And hot Latinos sensually feeding them to each other while caressing each other's boy parts. There's soft moans and loud crunch. "Jesús, it's delicious" - he half moaned, half exclaimed. "It's that Chinese takeaway I told you about, mi amor" - Jesús responded, sensually wiping a drop of dipping sauce off his lover's sharp jawline and licking his finger. The ca…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/05/26 07:22 PM
1	What exactly motivates women to have sex with men? Because they aren't actually straight. It may be 2026, but internalized homophobia is still real. Honestly, if you see someone's boy parts (that were shown to you consensually of course) and go eeeeeeewwww that's ugly and uninteresting... you're probably just not a person who likes boy parts. And it's fine. It's really fine to not like boy parts as long as you just admit that to yourself.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/05/26 06:17 PM
–	Why is female sexuality so weird? Oh my gosh he's back. Boy I'm loving these troll posts. Keep'em coming. I appreciate the dedication. Did you write this during a short break from watching documentary movies showing homo sapiens mating up close? Look, lesbian porn is BAD and fake. As if all porn wasn't fake. But lesbian porn brings the fake-ness of it all to a whole new level. It's so fake it makes Dolly Parton's tits look real. So if you have the experience (you're a woman who sleeps with women) nothing you see on screen looks …	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/05/26 10:50 AM
1	When a man say “not all men” he’s seen as complicit and dismissive. When a woman says it, she’s being nuanced It's closer to up to 50% stronger than 3 times stronger lol. That's still a significant difference but c'mon, men aren't rottweilers. Also, "almost always a man" applies to straight relationships. Given that lesbians report similar ipv rates to straight women, they either must be hiring some dude to punch them, or women are every bit as likely (so not very likely but not completely unlikely either) as men to act violently if being at a disadvantage due to physical strength disparity isn't a fact…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/05/26 10:37 AM
2	When a man say “not all men” he’s seen as complicit and dismissive. When a woman says it, she’s being nuanced We're literally on a sub that's meant to be a place where people discuss ALL gendered issues. Maybe people shouldn't try to talk about their issues in a way that accuses half of the human population of being awful/stupid/inferior people.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/05/26 09:18 AM
1	What exactly motivates women to have sex with men? If I meant "men" I would have said "men". I meant the male sex organ. The majority of women enjoy it and that's how our species prevailed all these thousands of years lol	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/05/26 07:59 AM
1	Women Generally Can’t Distinguish Between Confidence and Narcissism Yeah, it seems to be a bigger deal for women than it is for men. Doesn't make the statement "women cannot distinguish between narcissism and confidence as well as they think they can" free from manipulation, given it's true for the majority of human population.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/05/26 11:11 PM
–	Women are scared of not having the power in dating Me? A prize? Sweetie with this body all I can do is participation trophy. I ain't giving pizza up this easily. Both parties can have a relaxed approach rather than bend over backwards to attract a mate, and desire each other just as much. If you have to chase and try to impress the other person, you're doing too much regardless of your sex. They're just not that much into you, have some dignity and move on. Some people really get off on being adored, pursued and desired when they don't reciproca…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/05/26 05:59 PM
3	When a man say “not all men” he’s seen as complicit and dismissive. When a woman says it, she’s being nuanced Oh come on, it's not the first day we have the internet. Women bring up "not all women" when men talk about serious topics such as abuse they experienced at the hands of women as well, not just in internet shitstorms pertaining to alphafuxxgate. Abuse is not a gendered thing. All humans are capable of it. Sometimes it's defense, sometimes it's dismissal. People say "not all (...)" for two reasons - somebody made a massive, incorrect and simply hurtful generalization - which, let's be honest, isn…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/05/26 02:19 PM
5	What exactly motivates women to have sex with men? Sounds like a cuckold kink but the bull is a chick. Kinda hot ngl. There's nothing wrong with that really, having kinks is perfectly fine, it's the denial people poke fun at. Answering the actual question: because most women like dick. Women liking dick is at the very core of our species' survival strategy, with hundreds of thousands of years of positive track record.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/05/26 01:15 PM
0	When a man say “not all men” he’s seen as complicit and dismissive. When a woman says it, she’s being nuanced I've said "not all men" (that's it, that's the full statement) multiple times and ended up being yelled at. People hate it when you say it. I've said "not all women" multiple times as well, same result. Women will yell at you if you say "not all men", men will yell at you when you say "not all women", regardless of your sex. People just love feeling oppressed, miserable and threatened, so Goth forbid you tell them we aren't at war and the other sex isn't your enemy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/05/26 01:02 PM
3	Women Generally Can’t Distinguish Between Confidence and Narcissism Having the pleasure of promoting people for corporate jobs, specifically for people management positions: confidence is a part of the skillset. It's not the ONLY thing that matters, but it's a minimum requirement. I don't mean being outgoing, loud, sociable, self-obsessed and insufferable, just having this quiet confidence that allows you to be decisive, assertive and capable of taking the lead. You might have been an absolutely stellar individual contributor, hard-working, collaborative and kno…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/05/26 12:53 PM
1	Women Generally Can’t Distinguish Between Confidence and Narcissism Women eat pizza. Women are easily bored by meetings lasting 2 hours especially if the meeting could have been an email and happens on a Monday morning. Women cannot survive without oxygen. Your post makes about as much sense as the above statements. Yes it is true that women cannot distinguish between confidence and narcissism and,at the same time, they overestimate their capability to do so. So do men. Vulnerability to manipulation is a human trait that literally everyone (including manipulativ…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/05/26 09:51 AM
6	Women Generally Can’t Distinguish Between Confidence and Narcissism People (mostly but far from exclusively women) will call anyone they dislike or broke up with a narcissist, which is dumb but funny, hence the comedic potential. It's a buzzword and short for "I don't quite appreciate some aspects of their character and personality, which isn't inherently pathological, just not compatible with mine, but I really enjoy seeing myself as a victim as it helps evade accountabilit, makes me feel very special and gives me brownie points in my echo chamber". You can hav…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/05/26 09:44 AM
11	How do you think guys should meet new people, and what are the pros/cons of each approach, in your opinion? Ouch. Someone needs to tell him 🤣🤣🤣 Women who don't want to sleep with you after the first date can be very attracted to you. They just don't sleep with people on the first date.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/05/26 05:28 AM
–	Women's status in Afghanistan is result of geography and shows the fragility of feminism. Afghanistan is the way it is because it is ran by a terrorist regime fueled by a very radical take on an already pretty whacky religion. A fun fact : the vast majority of mountainous regions on Earth are not inhabited by violent extremists. Like Switzerland, for example. The instances of the Swiss blowing themselves up are few and far between and if it happens, it's freak accidents rather than carefully planned operations. Another example of people living in a mountainous region are the Mosuo in…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/26 07:06 PM
1	Do you fall in quickly or slowly? Anything from two days to several months of knowing each other.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/26 03:18 PM
6	When will people admit that masturbating to lesbian porn as a woman is extremely gay? There's nothing less lesbian than masturbating to lesbian porn because lesbian porn is made for men. To any woman who actually sleeps with other women lesbian porn is simply nonsensical most of the time.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/26 03:15 PM
–	Why are women so sexually passive? The actual question is, "why are women OP met are so sexually passive". We would need a crystal ball to answer that. I'm definitely not passive so I can't relate	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/26 10:51 AM
2	Differences Between Stated Preference and Revealed Preference are a sign of Dishonesty and Rightly Discredit Individuals and Worldviews Similarly, if the flat earth movement was correct, it would entirely discredit astronomy as we know it. That's absolutely true. It's also true that there's no way for the flat earth movement to be correct, so astronomy can relax as it won't be discredited anytime soon. There are plenty of ways to discredit blue pill/feminist movement, but red pill simply isn't one of them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/26 12:51 AM
–	Being in a relationship doesn’t mean you have game or mastered the game 1960s is not 15 years ago and I'm talking about my experience. Don't cry about it	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/05/26 05:12 PM
–	Being in a relationship doesn’t mean you have game or mastered the game I was in the dating landscape 10-15 years ago and no, it wasn't that different	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/05/26 04:13 PM
0	Positive masculinity is a scam. "positive masculinity" only exists on the premise of "negative masculinity" - aka "toxic masculinity" being a real thing, and that's where the problem actually starts. The very concept of "toxic masculinity" is inherently harmful to individuals - and something harmful to 50% of the human population is bound to affect it negatively in its entirety. Growing up with the idea that the very core of your identity (and sex, yes sex not gender, IS at the very core of our identity, like it or not) is a p…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/05/26 02:57 PM
2	Positive masculinity is a scam. At the risk of sounding prejudiced, I believe the relevance of what feminists say is similar to that of red pill. It's more entertainment than valid takes really.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/05/26 02:28 PM
1	Genuine question for all women I'm poly so by monogamous standards I cheat on my boyfriend with my girlfriend and on my girlfriend with my boyfriend 😂 but they know about each other and like each other as friends so guess we're alright. Even though I have plenty of opportunities to sleep with someone other than the two, I'm not remotely interested in taking them, never have, never will. I have been in monogamous relationships before and didn't cheat either. I don't see the appeal.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/05/26 11:06 AM
1	Women do not prefer nice guys over charismatic douchebags. Women do not prefer nice guys over charismatic douchebags We absolutely do, sorry to disappoint. It's just a false dichotomy. In reality, women don't prefer charismatic douchebags over nice guys, because in reality women aren't choosing between charismatic douchebags and nice guys. Being kind, polite and respectful is not a personality type, it's the bare minimum any adult (and even an older child) is expected to meet to be considered well adjusted. Bare minimum not being attractive doesn't mean…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/05/26 10:44 AM
4	Women do not prefer nice guys over charismatic douchebags. Absoflippin'lutely. When I see how kind and polite my man is to people serving us at pubs or restaurants, I find him even more attractive. If you want to know a man's worth, just see how he treats people whom he could easily treat badly without any consequences, like service staff. That tells you everything you need to know. (Also applies to women but we're discussing dudes here)	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/05/26 10:14 AM
1	Society taught women to avoid accountability like it taught men to avoid household chores It's a lot more complicated than that. Or a lot more simple, depending how you look at it. But long story short: yes, women absolutely do their very best to avoid accountability. So do men, to the exact same degree. Scenarios 2 and 3 are also good examples of how men avoid accountability by cascading it to women. It's not his fault his assholery led to relationship struggles, it's her fault because she picked an asshole. His assholery is secondary to her permissiveness. He hit her? But moooooom,…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/05/26 09:54 AM
–	Being in a relationship doesn’t mean you have game or mastered the game I’m saying you can’t speak on something they you’re not well experienced jn Yes, a guy who has been married for 10-15 years for sure has zero experience and is absolutely clueless about the game, which is why you should absolutely prioritize what some 20yo kid says on the internet about dating on his terms in order to achieve success and happiness in your personal life.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/05/26 08:35 AM
2	When is a man too picky or superficial? You either find someone attractive or you don't. Be as picky as you want. You only want blonde, you want everything but blonde, you don't want fat, you want tall, short, a fellow paleontologist who also is a redhead and really enjoys riding a monocycle in her free time while wearing a bowler hat and a fake moustache - preferences are perfectly fine to have. If someone has unrealistic expectations pertaining to attraction (you know, the kind of person who expects fireworks on the first date/love …	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/05/26 08:23 AM
2	Why aren't more women happy that men are analyzing human attraction and trying to figure out women? And why is that weird? You either like a person for what they are or you don't, and the person's mindset plays a pivotal role in that. A man whose main motivation for self-improvement is getting laid and whose behaviors are curated to help him reach that goal would just be in a frame of mind that's entirely incompatible with mine, therefore not attractive. I would say what I really think about a statement like that but it would get my comment removed. So you post something with a "question for w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/05/26 07:51 AM
6	Why aren't more women happy that men are analyzing human attraction and trying to figure out women? Why aren't more women happy that men are analyzing human attraction and trying to figure out women? Most men get women pretty well. It's called adult people functioning in a normal society. They have wives, partners, mothers, daughters, coworkers, sisters, friends - and they get along with them just fine. Grown ass men who take to the internet to "try to figure out women" rarely are actually interested in understanding fellow humans. if you think of yourself as part of some female tribe I don't.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/05/26 08:17 PM
2	On all Your STR’s did the guy you had sex with always standed out on something Blue shirt always gives+10 to bitches no?	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/05/26 07:36 PM
3	Question for lesbian/bi women of reddit. What was your "EUREKA" moment when you start dating other women did you notice that you finally start understanding mens issues? "Finally" would imply I was trying very hard to get to the bottom of the fathomless abyss of male dating woes and eventually got there. But the truth is, I never felt the need to try. Other people's problems are other people's problems. Don't get me wrong, I find men's dating problems every bit as interesting as women's dating problems. It's just I don't find women's dating problems interesting. I had no Eureka moment. I found dating women easier in many aspects than dating men, but I'm charming…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/05/26 05:06 PM
–	Solve dating problems mainly through culture/society, or mainly through politics/laws ? Solve dating problems mainly through culture/society, or mainly through politics/laws ? Neither. As far as laws and politics pertaining to people's very private matters are concerned, I don't think it actually needs a comment, but I'll comment anyways - reading a history book on the topic of 20th century dictatorships really helps understand what excessive state control actually leads to and why it's not great at all. As far as culture/society is involved, you obviously can't change it other tha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/05/26 10:03 AM
–	Solve dating problems mainly through culture/society, or mainly through politics/laws ? Clean up the food that is sold in shops: Not directly related to dating, but the amount of processed, high sugar shit that is sold is contributing to health issues and body image issues which, once again, lead to lots of people feeling frozen out of dating. Healthier foods in shops will help mitigate this. Last time I went to a grocery store, which was yesterday, it sure had loads of sugary shit. It also had plenty of fresh and frozen vegetables and fruit in all price ranges, oils, nuts, good fi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/05/26 09:12 AM
-2	Red pill advice teaches men how to sabotage healthy relationships. People are also being celebrated for jumping out of moving cars, doing silly dances in public spaces and disturbing others, eating spoonfuls of cinnamon and trying to munch Tide pods. That doesn't make any of these a remotely good idea. Oh come on, women think men are evil useless degenerate bastards and nobody says that's making them sabotage anything, they're celebrated for it. Women thinking men are that are definitely sabotaging relationships. It's a stupid thing to think.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/05/26 07:52 AM
3	A lot of progressive women actually hate male indifference, despite telling men to mind their business for years. Oh I adore male indifference. Please fk all the way off and stay there. I'm sure men feel exactly the same about women's opinions on stuff like cargo shorts. I don't think I count as "progressive" for reddit though. I have never heard of a woman who would be offended because her man didn't throw a fit over her outfit. Maybe it happened to someone somewhere. But it's hardly commonplace in the real world. In my relationship we practice both male and female indifference. I don't care what he wears,…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/05/26 06:57 AM
2	I find it EXTREMELY hard to sympathize with most of women's dating woes. Shaming is the only tool you have when nature made you a walking contradiction. Shaming also seems to be the only tool you have when you haven't had the pleasure of familiarizing yourself with the basics of the noble science of statistics. Yes that flaw you mentioned is well researched and known as being human. It's not that women are attracted to dark triad characteristics. Dark triad individuals are simply really good at making you like them. That's where statistics come in. Straight women ind…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/05/26 10:55 PM
1	I find it EXTREMELY hard to sympathize with most of women's dating woes. I can understand where they are coming from, it's the delivery that puts me off. If your response to life not being easy for you particularly is to assume it's very easy for everyone else and announce that you're the victim, the only support your claims are gonna get is from people in your echo chamber clapping as you fall deeper into the rabbit hole of whatever fringe ideology that you got hooked on.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/05/26 09:23 PM
3	I find it EXTREMELY hard to sympathize with most of women's dating woes. Also I find it also weird of this shaming language you chose to use. What other language are you supposed to use if you shame an attitude? Women whining about how bad the world is for them and how great it is for men, men whining about how great the world is for women and how terrible it is for men - it takes tremendous amounts of bias and selective observation to pull off this mindset, whichever way it goes. Men NEVER needed empathy to get women. Some of the biggest womanizers I know are sociop…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/05/26 09:16 PM
1	I find it EXTREMELY hard to sympathize with most of women's dating woes. You gotta mark the part you' want to quote and copy it, then manually paste it with the quotation thingy. It's annoying that the "quote" option is gone	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/05/26 02:10 PM
4	I find it EXTREMELY hard to sympathize with most of women's dating woes. It depends if you're looking to get laid or have something remotely resembling a healthy relationship, because pretty and dumb is hump and dump.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/05/26 06:35 PM
43	I find it EXTREMELY hard to sympathize with most of women's dating woes. Look, if you find it so extremely hard to empathize with people of the sex you're attracted to, I'm afraid you might be your dating woe.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/05/26 06:17 PM
1	“Men would love to be sexually objectified” To some extent it absolutely is. To some extent it's just a natural response to our reality. I think it's good for people to be aware of these tendencies so we avoid villyfying innocent people on one hand, and downplaying the trauma of those who fell victim to abuse on the other.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/04/26 11:30 AM
1	“Men would love to be sexually objectified” I think the bar for "objectifying" is much lower for women, so it actually is very possible that some behaviors that are considered very inappropriate and predatory by women could be appreciated by men. I think that's the behaviors men mean when they say they would "love" to be sexually objectified. There are situations when the objectifying is obvious and undisputable - like people grabbing the waiter's genitals. And there's a huge grey-ish (for the lack of a better word) area where one sex wil…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/04/26 10:00 AM
2	Women have male-like sexuality when they attracted to other women I'm a bisexual woman, know tons of women who are attracted to men, rest assured male bodies are sexually attractive 🤣 Unless a woman is lesbian, in which case they aren't. I'm pretty sure that despite the social acceptance being much higher these days, people who aren't really very attracted to the opposite sex still pursue straight relationships. That's how you get all these "male bodies aren't very attractive, it's the women that are beautiful and sexy, but I still have a husband of 15 years" …	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/26 11:41 AM
1	Women have male-like sexuality when they attracted to other women Yeah for lesbians and straight dudes maybe. Male bodies are definitely sexually attractive, that's what heterosexual (or homosexual if you're a guy) attraction is about. Women, especially straight, compliment men less, for the reasons I mentioned in my previous comment. They're much more likely to ooh and aah over a man's body to their female friends. Which is sad, sure, but doesn't mean male bodies aren't very sexually attractive to people who are attracted to men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/26 11:15 AM
3	Physical Touch Love Language Love languages are a stellar example of pseudopsychology. Unless you're willing to religiously (he he) follow the advice of a pastor with exactly zero credentials in psychology, I strongly recommend you trash the concept altogether and just enjoy life. And yes it's perfectly normal to value sex as one of the foundations of a healthy and happy relationship and to treat it as an act of love that brings the couple closer together. It's also perfectly normal to have a high sex drive as a woman and d…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/26 07:49 AM
2	Women have male-like sexuality when they attracted to other women That's incorrect. Many bisexual people have a preference towards one sex, but it's not women any more often than men really. But what do I know, I've only been a bisexual woman for almost 40 years 🤣🤣🤣	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/26 06:57 AM
1	Why are so many straight women aroused better by female bodies than male ones? Please stop watching so much lesbian porn? I'm not more aroused by female bodies than by male bodies and I'm not even flippin' straight.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/04/26 03:31 PM
4	Women have male-like sexuality when they attracted to other women This was a fun read. Wait till people get trace amounts of education and realize all these pseudo psychological revelations on the topic of female sexuality are cultural interpretations not biological facts. Just to illustrate this, a mere 500-600 years ago, very much like today, there was one sex that was considered more primal in its sexuality and more lustful and one that was seen as less needy and more sexually reserved. Sounds familiar doesn't it. Guess which one is men and which is women? …	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/04/26 02:04 PM
1	Red pill causes are a bigger threat than the worst of feminists causes The manosphere narrative pertaining to women's rights is so extreme, it's treated as fringe beliefs everywhere. They usually place themselves on the right side of the political spectrum, and given that the right has more women in leadership than the left ever had despite having less female participation (let that sink in for a moment), I don't think there is anyone with real measurable power who actually listens and treats them seriously. As a result, the only danger posed by these individuals i…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/04/26 12:30 PM
1	Male Feminist A big part of feminism is letting people pick whatever roles they want. And I agree with that, and I'm not even a feminist. Saying there are some pre-assigned roles is probably the most un-feminist thing you could put on the internet. Calling femininity "divine" doesn't give you any feminist brownie points. You absolutely are free to have a preference towards a particular type of woman, just don't frame it as some hippie philosophy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/04/26 11:14 AM
1	Stop gaslighting men into Therapy That's a very long way of saying "not all therapy styles work for everyone", "a lot of therapists are quacks" or "a lot of therapy is just yapping" as well as "maybe we should revise our cultural perceptions around addressing mental issues through therapy". I'm extremely task oriented and couldn't care less about whether or not someone empathizes with me or not. My needs pertaining to external validation are almost non existent. I tried therapy, it was just a lot of yapping about how I have a ri…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/04/26 11:53 AM
1	Men are not capable of romantic love. Ikr, that's ageist 😂😂😂	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/04/26 11:30 AM
–	Chores are survival skills not gender roles I did, they had the dishwasher feel to them 😂😂😂 I'm aware that this is a non issue for like 90% of people.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/04/26 10:51 AM
1	Is deciding to to go to a country with a lower divorce rate than yours and find a life partner there immoral in your view? Is deciding to to go to a country with a lower divorce rate than yours and find a life partner there immoral in your view? No why? Unless you forced/tricked/coerced (in which case, obviously, dishonor on your whole family, dishonor on you, dishonor on your cow) someone into marrying you, you're good. Marriage happens between consenting adults, so if the person you meet there marries you, they clearly wanted it. You can even have a preference for people of a specific nationality or culture or a p…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/04/26 10:49 AM
–	Chores are survival skills not gender roles Nope. But you don't exactly touch the dishes a lot when you're eating in a restaurant.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/04/26 10:14 AM
2	"Gender Equality" hamstrings crucial social institutions such as the Fire Department My country (Poland) has quite a bunch of women in the fire department and everybody sees it as a positive thing. Some are office workers, some are on the actual intervention teams, we still manage to put out fires, respond to natural disasters, save cats off trees, get people out of crashed vehicles and all that. Women in firefighting being a liability is a made up issue. What is not a made up issue is the stupidity of gender quotas. A physically fit and strong woman can fight fires just fine. S…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/04/26 10:12 AM
–	Chores are survival skills not gender roles I think it's more of a sensory issue, because no one in my family except me is bothered by it. And I've seen it happen to cheap IKEA stuff and artisan fancy stuff and everything in between. The dishwasher doesn't discriminate 😂 I love beautiful tableware and wouldn't risk it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/04/26 09:43 AM
1	What are some do's and don't you here from men giving advice that you don't agree with? Obviously the whole sub is a clash of pills so which ones are you not fond of? All of them are selective and simplified takes on reality, and as it usually happens with those - they are wrong. The thing I find most wrong is that people group others into these two extremely broad categories - "men" and "women". But people are individuals. What is a boner killer for one is catnip for the other. Everyone's take on what is good and bad advice is extremely subjective. And before you accept advice you…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/04/26 09:33 AM
3	What’s your opinion on the friend zone? "Friendzone" is just a term people with low confidence use to help them self-regulate after being rejected or realizing their love interest is one sided. She/he is simply not into you. Be friends if you want, don't be friends if you want, move on. Nobody owes you romantic or sexual interest, neither do you owe it to anyone.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/04/26 08:25 AM
–	Chores are survival skills not gender roles Dishes are done by the dishwasher machine (how come so many ppl here don't have one btw?) I hate what dishwashers do to dishes long term. It's a sensory nightmare to touch older mugs at my family home (yes they use all the right stuff, quality detergents, lower temperature, all the jazz) This is why I don't have a dishwasher myself. I wouldn't be surprised if a lot of people had a similar reason.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/04/26 07:42 AM
–	Women tell us to not objectify them, but they end up doing it themselves So you would be ok considered a bad father on the grounds of being black? Obviously there are many women who use their bodies to make money. I don't know how anyone could debate that. Most women are not these women. They do not objectify themselves and do not wish to be objectified either, simple.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/04/26 07:09 AM
–	Women tell us to not objectify them, but they end up doing it themselves If a Black dude steals my wallet, I can't say ", black dudes steal wallets" because that would make me very racist and sexist. It would also be an absurd statement. That's exactly how you sound saying "women objectify themselves"	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/04/26 03:07 PM
–	Any movement that aims to "decenter" the other gender is and has always been fraudulent. Most people have the instinct and the physical fitness to produce offsprings so you don't need to worry about that. I do not wish to pass on my multiple hereditary health problems, so you should thank me for removing myself from the gene pool rather than accuse me of making the species kick it, if you're now so very concerned about its wellbeing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/04/26 11:25 AM
–	Women tell men how ideally a man should properly behave, but they don’t reinforce that because they reward bad behaviour. Women tell men how ideally a man should properly behave, but they don’t reinforce that because they reward bad behaviour. If you have a husky that misbehaves, you will use negative and positive reinforcement to fix that behavior. Contrary to popular belief, men aren't dogs. They are humans capable of critical thinking, therefore the negative and positive reinforcement doesn't directly translate into their behaviors. What's with the dudes dehumanizing themselves? All the “chads” and “players” I k…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/04/26 12:59 PM
1	Men would be much better off taking advice from other men similar to them who actually get results rather than women perhaps. If you're a guitarist aiming to perform for metalhead crowds and you blindly take advice from any good guitarist, it might lead to metalheads ditching your gigs altogether. Because that other guitarist sure is excellent, but plays mellow tunes for elderly hippies. Your best advisor is your gut, and you can support that with taking whatever piece of advice that resonates with you, wherever it comes from. Simple.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/04/26 11:43 AM
2	Anyone who considers getting into a long term age gap relationship in this day and age is a total idiot That's such a bizarre take. How is women being encouraged and celebrated for leaving their partners related to said partner's age? If she buys into some idiotic sexist narrative, she's gonna buy into it regardless of how old or young he is. Age has nothing to do with it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/04/26 11:37 AM
2	Any movement that aims to "decenter" the other gender is and has always been fraudulent. Isn't reproduction pretty obvious? Also no, I never seriously considered it as I have no desire to make little humans.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/04/26 10:02 AM
7	Any movement that aims to "decenter" the other gender is and has always been fraudulent. The Idea of decentering the other gender is actually healthy. People misunderstanding it or using it as a cover up for sexism are a separate problem altogether. And, paradoxically, most people who genuinely decenter the other sex will never tell you that, unless the topic comes up, much less make content about it. If your content revolves around decentering men/women, you're actually centering them. Because nothing screams "I don't care" like obsessively talking about that one thing you definite…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/04/26 02:22 PM
1	QFW: Honestly, do you see a path for redemption from former followers of guys like Andrew Tate, Nick Fuentes, Clavicular, fresh and fit, etc? No I wouldn't, why would I? People are wrong all the time. You admit you were wrong, you live on, case closed. You are very likely to go through several significant worldview changes over the course of your life. Most people do. I sure did. The most intelligent people I know are people who are open to the idea of being wrong and owning it. These are the people who actually grow. What you believed as a teenager is completely irrelevant to what you represent as an adult. Trust me, I was raised con…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/04/26 01:24 PM
2	What specific social missteps are common among romantically struggling men? Why thank you 😊 I hope that's good advice - bear in mind my skills in attracting women might be a tad rusty, given that last time I was interested in doing that was some 15 years ago. On the other hand - I did follow my own advice then and it worked pretty well given I didn't need to attract a woman ever again 😂😂 I think all too many men have been fed and bought into this idiotic narrative that dating is not for their enjoyment- it's an obstacle run towards, as you rightfully mentioned, intercha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/04/26 11:13 AM
1	A woman who actually loves you would never accept one-sided open relationships As a poly (it's a lifestyle choice not an identity btw, don't let anyone tell you different) person who most definitely does NOT sleep around - this is complicated and nuanced. There are people, men and women, who have a kink related to their SO sleeping with other people. If it's a consensual arrangement that makes people genuinely happy and satisfied - I see no problem with it. I don't like the double standard here, where cucks and their wives are perceived as just kinksters by people who fanc…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/04/26 10:30 AM
2	What specific social missteps are common among romantically struggling men? What specific social missteps are common among romantically struggling men? I would say all these missteps boil down to one thing: Lack of confidence. Confidence is basically catnip. You don't have to have a ton of money, be tall, bulky nor look like a top model, none of that whatever pill color bs. If you have confidence, the world is your oyster. This is a huge one that breaks down into multiple characteristics and behaviors such as: Not liking yourself. Why: if you have low self esteem, it sh…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/04/26 09:57 AM
1	Is it possible for a man to move from being viewed as “long term” to “short term fun” or vice versa? My train of thought here is that women place men into two categories. Nope, we don't, at least not in the way some guys think we do The two categories is that he is attractive to fuck almost immediately. The second category is that he viewed as longer term, to where he has to wait or work for it. This is not something the man can control however, a man wanting to move from one or the other can be hard to impossible to do. It's very simple. If he's dumb, pretty and willing, has the body count of …	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/04/26 07:36 AM
1	QFW: Honestly, do you see a path for redemption from former followers of guys like Andrew Tate, Nick Fuentes, Clavicular, fresh and fit, etc? People who think it's over for you because you believed a certain thing in the past or voted for a certain person aren't people whose opinion you should ever consider seriously. If they don't have the intellectual capacity to comprehend the basic fact that people change, I honestly wouldn't expect them to have anything reasonable to say on any other topic. You're 25, you followed dumb stuff as a teen. I think you can relax. I would not date someone who used to be red pill, but that's only becaus…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/04/26 07:07 AM
1	Q4W: Do men who speak out in favor of men's rights and issues and object to misandry deserve to be canceled? Well that's what people I know who fancy themselves moderate Muslims do. More people to chug beers with, can't complain.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/04/26 06:44 AM
1	Q4W: Do men who speak out in favor of men's rights and issues and object to misandry deserve to be canceled? I think the fact that the left globally has a higher female membership, but most women with real executive power such as heads of state/government are on the right is pretty hilarious and a pretty good illustration of how left and right see women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/04/26 06:41 AM
1	Q4W: Do men who speak out in favor of men's rights and issues and object to misandry deserve to be canceled? Chugs beers but still no pork	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/04/26 12:57 PM
19	Men are not responsible for babies, women make I don't know how as a man, I am responsible for something i didn't essentially make. I'm sure you'll find your answers in 6th grade biology books. Give it a shot (pun intended). While we get charged for alimony and what not. I feel society puts unnecessary pressure on men, just because we are men. Society puts pressure on everyone who is a parent, because it's society's job to protect the most vulnerable individuals, such as children, from irresponsibility and neglect.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/04/26 08:02 AM
2	What do you think about surnames in a marriage? Nothing. You want to take your husband's? Cool. You want to take your wife's? Cool. Whatever other combination? Cool. Any pressure in this regard in any direction is just weird. It doesn't mean I've gotten over my mother saying no to my father wanting to take her surname. Hers was so much cooler and I'd much rather have that one.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/26 06:24 PM
1	Women Aren't a Monolith is Just "Not All Men" for Women. I was more or less agreeing until the last paragraph. Both phrases do the same thing. They individualize to avoid accountability. The only difference is one of them actually works. Wrong. Both phrases are an individual's perfectly valid response to seeing their intrinsic characteristic associated with negative behavioral patterns that they personally do not exhibit and likely condemn. In other words, it's not the disagreement that is the problem, it's the sexist generalization. Men who say "not …	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/04/26 04:20 PM
2	Yes, not all men, but also it happens frequently and randomly enough to keep your guard up Yeah, so my point is that not every woman's experience is overwhelmingly filled with bad men. Living in one of the safest countries I barely ever meet bad men. We humans like to think that our worldview is rational and purely a result of independent thought, but a lot of it is shaped by our environment.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/04/26 09:47 AM
0	Simps are the problem. This isn't true. There are many men in relationships who are also simps You're not debating my point, which is: there is a certain kind of a woman who wants a simp. And she'll always want a simp, not you. You don't want that woman either. He wants that woman. How is he competition then? Most women like simps if they are physically attractive because they're easy to manipulate and use for resources and other things. "Most" is an overstatement. "Some" is correct. Now ask yourself a question - does…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/04/26 07:57 AM
6	Yes, not all men, but also it happens frequently and randomly enough to keep your guard up I guess this heavily depends on where you are. I walk home at night and think nothing of it and I can count instances of being catcalled on one hand. I'm nearing my 40s.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/04/26 07:22 AM
0	Simps are the problem. Simps are not a problem. They're just a subset of men with questionable standards that get together with a particular kind of woman. They are men that other women aren't interested in, and these women who like simps aren't interesting to men who aren't interested in simping.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/04/26 11:42 PM
3	Do you understand what men mean when men say that the risk is not worth the reward, in reference to women today, and approaching women, and being in relationships with women? Is your first reaction to feel hurt by this, and try to prove it wrong, or some other reaction? I don't have any reaction because why would I? It's someone's personal opinion and choice pertaining to their lives not mine. I don't feel hurt or offended, nor do I want to prove them wrong. If a man doesn't want to be in relationships with women, he's free to not be in relationships with women. Humans have free will to do as they please as long as it doesn't hurt anyone. The world is your oyster. Fo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/04/26 11:33 PM
2	Would you enter a relationship your ideal male partner if you could never have sex again? Nah, porn addiction is something you fix BEFORE you decide to enter a relationship. I couldn't be with someone whose English is so poor he (or she) can't tell the difference between "girlfriend" and "free therapist". That'd be a one way ticket to Nevercontactmeagainland and I'd even help them pack the bags 😂 This is an entirely fictional scenario though, even the most immature person I've ever been with was a lot better than that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/04/26 07:22 PM
10	Would you enter a relationship your ideal male partner if you could never have sex again? So, tall, handsome, sweet, wealthy, but I can never have sex with him? Sounds like a gay millionaire who needs a wife to keep up appearances, and she can't just shag other men to her heart's desire because that would blow his cover. Nah man, it's 2026, he needs to get out of the closet.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/04/26 12:43 AM
3	Why do toxic guys always seem to have girlfriends, but normal guys struggle? You're partially correct. A lot of normal guys don't have girlfriends and haven't had one in years because they've been married for a while 😂	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/04/26 06:41 AM
–	You’re approached by a man at the grocery store. How does this make you feel? It doesn't matter if he looks like whatever the male equivalent of a Victoria's secret angel is or if he is really ugly or whatever in between. Unless he's giving off creep vibes (in which case I just say thank you but I have a boyfriend), I just say I have a boyfriend, but thank you very much for the compliment, you made my day, you got the looks yourself, have a good one, glhf. As to how I feel, it's flattering at first. Then there's that little bit of anxiety. I ask myself what if he's a psyc…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/04/26 11:45 PM
3	Men and women will never agree, on who should approach first. You absolutely hit the nail on the head with this one. I'm bisexual but only dated women until my 30s. I also grew up without much exposure to traditional gender roles. It was a huge shock for me that people have different expectations on them depending on what's in their pants. I found this stupid. It's also pretty shocking to me that people who fancy themselves progressive only try to be progressive within the limits of a very traditional and outdated system.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/04/26 07:54 PM
–	Trying to make your potential spouse too many things can set up your relationship to fail. I sort of agree but you're framing it as expectations. It's not about expecting your partner to be all these things, it's about already having people who are these things. What it's actually about is diversifying your support network. This is what the vast majority of successful lifelong marriages have in common - those in them have meaningful healthy long term emotional bonds with people who are not their partner. Friends, family, that one book club that's been meeting every Wednesday evening f…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/04/26 04:35 PM
1	It’s hypocritical to be against FGM but not care about circumcision Would you pinprick a boy's penis head and think it's alright? Just removing the clitoral hood is a very rare practice, and I deliberately don't call it fgm because that's hypocritical. We do anatomically the exact same things to boys and we don't call it mutilation (although any non-consensual permanent body modification performed without an immediate medical necessity IS mutilation and should be criminalized). I would compare circumcision to labiaplasty as far as (non-religious) reasoning and p…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/04/26 09:21 AM
1	Being a provider male is simping Of course it isn't. People are allowed lifestyle preferences. You can desire to be a provider husband and choose to be with a woman who wants to be a homemaker wife. That's not simping, that's wanting a certain lifestyle where two equal partners have strictly assigned roles. If both work and split chores half and half but he's still expected to pay for everything, I don't think he's a simp. He's more like a doormat. And that's very sad. Unless he makes insane amounts of money and she just has a …	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/04/26 12:13 AM
1	Why do women care about men slut-shaming them? I've been slut shamed once. Dude wanted super casual and had plans to do the deed on the first date. I told the dude to hold his horses as I don't sleep with anyone unless we disclose full serological status to each other. He responded saying I must be sleeping with a lot of people then, and he's afraid he'll catch something. Because I literally told him seconds before that I will get tested and show him the results and expect the same in return. Of course I care about this one. It's comedy gold…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/04/26 12:00 AM
0	It’s hypocritical to be against FGM but not care about circumcision I agree with the overall premise (circumcision of babies bad, people thinking it's good are messed up), but the reasoning is incorrect (btw do women decide on 99% cases of circumcision? I'm pretty sure the Hasidic community would strongly disagree 🤣). FGM and circumcision aren't comparable. Circumcision removes a part of the foreskin, which might affect sexual pleasure to some extent, FGM in its lightest form partially removes the clitoral glans. It's the exact same tissue as penile glans. FGM i…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/04/26 11:41 PM
2	It’s hypocritical to be against FGM but not care about circumcision That article is so ridiculous it was a joy to read. To compare someone chopping a small girl's clitoris (or a grown woman's who can either agree or be shunned, which is not consent) off with a dirty razor blade and a grown woman deciding she wants to look pretty/be more comfortable down below and getting a perfectly safe surgery that doesn't leave her crippled for life and arrive at "it's the same thing, the only difference is racism" is the most offensive middle finger to Logic I've seen today,…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/04/26 10:11 PM
1	"Don't ask fish for advice on catching fish, ask a fisherman" Don't tell them. If someone's gullible enough to fall for the dating gurus' marketing schemes, they are not an asset to the populational gene pool and shouldn't breed 🤣 Intelligence is to a significant extent a hereditary trait, let's not forget that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/04/26 09:27 AM
1	how often do you see "pick-me" behaviour, both irl and on the internet? I think half of the time "pick-me" is a lazy way out of a discussion and a nasty way to try to enforce compliance with whatever echo chamber you're supposed to belong to, according to people. You owe nothing to people who happen to have the same set of characteristics as you. Sure, "not like other women/men" statements often ARE pick me behavior, but it's perfectly fine to distance yourself from behaviors and worldviews you disagree with. I don't often see real pick me behavior irl, and half of …	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/04/26 11:40 PM
0	Women hypocritically dismiss men complaining about not having sex, yet get angry if a pro life person tells them not to have sex. Someone telling you to not have sex is about your bodily autonomy. And you are right to be angry. You complaining about someone not giving you access to their body is about THEIR bodily autonomy. And they are right to be angry. That said, it's allowed to complain. Lack of sex is frustrating. Just don't expect anyone to do anything about it because, well, they don't owe you sex. I don't think people should be dismissing men in their lives sharing their frustration though, because it's not a very …	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/04/26 11:33 PM
2	Q4W: Do you respect for men who work from home or in low-impact jobs? The only things I care about with regards to my man's job is that it's honest work, not something shady/illegal. And that he likes it. That's all, that's the list. Whether he works or stresses a lot or not, makes twice what I make or half what I make - entirely irrelevant. Also there's the matter of expertise - sometimes you do something in 2 hours because you spent 15 years learning how to do it so fast. They're not paying you for the 2 hours - they're paying you for the 15 years. I chose a str…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/04/26 11:16 PM
1	If gender equality means equal agency, why are men usually blamed for dating problems while women’s choices are framed as pure mens fault? You can call it gaslighting all you want - but men don't get blamed all the time. Women get blamed just as much, just by a different demographic. Women blame men, men blame women. You won't find many men blaming men for men's issues, nor will you find many women blaming women. You will definitely find VERY few people admitting they are personally responsible for a good chunk of whatever failures they had in life. The reason is simple - people don't like accountability. Being a sobbing victim is …	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/04/26 08:09 PM
–	People need to blame women more I would say people most definitely need to blame women LESS. They also need to blame men less. They should blame society less. Everyone's so desperate to prove they're the victim it's sad. We should bring back cool stuff like agency, empowerment, individual responsibility, resilience and accountability for where your life goes. But go ahead and keep pointing fingers while crying if that satisfies you. Yes of course I say this exact sentence to women as well. Best way to get downvoted into oblivi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/04/26 06:08 PM
0	Age gap relationships: Most people against them are being disingenuous You cannot put all age gap relationships into one category really. They absolutely can be and often are predatory. There's absolutely no reason for a 40yo to pursue an 18yo, regardless of gender. I agree that older women pursuing very young men are often not seen as predators, but I don't agree with the reasons you mentioned. I think the underlying reason is a lot simpler - and sadly a lot more serious, namely-a gendered view on abuse, which is very prevalent in society. It's either male perpetr…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/04/26 01:26 PM
2	Being a SAHM is idiotic for both the partners. That's absolutely awful - and the exact opposite of my experience growing up. My parents had equal access to the family money and discussed all of the major expenses, just like my grandparents did. Neither couple had separate bank accounts - it all went into one. Sure it was only one of them earning significant amounts of money - because my father agreed to sacrifice his income to support my mother's career, which was so demanding that having a stay at home husband was the only way for her to re…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/04/26 10:20 AM
–	Women's biggest blind spot is other women If the world were like you think it is they would have made a law in California specifically for reproductive deception and not specifically for condoms. Well that's an isolated incident that doesn't in itself prove anything, however if you look at other places, legislation against stealthing not fertility related deception is sadly not an isolated case. In my country (Poland) it could potentially be classified as "rape by deception" - while there is no specific legislation against stealthing an…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/04/26 09:31 AM
–	fat women are hypocrites As a formerly obese woman who always liked leaner people (that sweet spot when a male body is strong but has natural levels of body fat - and no, massive visible six packs are NOT an indicator of natural and healthy levels of body fat), there's zero hypocrisy in liking something. I never demanded attention nor called someone fatphobic for not wanting to date me specifically due to my weight. They were allowed preferences too, and if I wasn't it, tough shit. That goes for the vast majority of fat…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/04/26 11:39 PM
–	Women's biggest blind spot is other women I had a look at that post and there were actually plenty of responses where people understood the assignment and responded to the actual question in a reasonable manner. I am under the impression that a lot of responses were not to the question at hand - even though you formulated it clearly, people somehow understood that as accidental incorrect use not intentional lies. Then of course there were plenty of completely deranged responses and I'm not even surprised. We're on reddit of all places. …	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/04/26 11:12 PM
–	Women's biggest blind spot is other women I think this sub has a tendency to produce very accusatory and generalizing content so people turn full defense mode. There's a lot of "men this"/"women that" content - and gender is at the core of our identity so people sometimes feel attacked by that even if the point being made is perfectly valid. Also if you label a post as debate, obviously people in the top level comments will disagree with you - and people who agree with you will not write top level comments. Lastly - this sub is a terrib…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/04/26 08:02 PM
0	What comes to your mind when you hear of a straight guy with many female friends but is still a virgin? Not much. A guy. Has friends. Is virgin. If I was to think about his virginity, I would probably think he maybe hasn't met his person yet.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/04/26 06:27 PM
–	Women's biggest blind spot is other women Nah. There are great women and shitty women, just like there are great men and shitty men. I owe no one solidarity on the grounds of having the same type of reproductive system as I do. I side with people who I think are in the right. I have no problem telling my female friends they're not in the right if that's the case. They don't hold back if they think I'm making a mistake either. I do know women who have the kind of mentality you describe, but they are a minority.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/04/26 06:15 PM
1	Q4women why do women enjoy gale male romance so much? And why are straight men into lesbian porn? Double the good stuff.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/04/26 06:01 PM
2	From who would you rather take advice? To be honest, the most reasonable thing would be to take financial advice from whoever gave financial advice to A's grandfather. But if that's not an option and I HAVE to take it from someone, B it is. A never demonstrated any money skills. He didn't multiply his family wealth. He just lives off it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/04/26 05:58 PM
–	Women are too underqualified to give dating advice to straight men. Who's telling people to simp and who listens to these people? There's nothing less attractive than simping. It somehow comes across as fake, desperate, shady, unconfident and sleazy all at once. I sometimes do see women give that advice but most of the time it goes like this: how do I make women interested? women: be polite, nice, safe, respectful and show genuine interest and desire women want us to simp! Over my dead body! No fellas, they want cold blooded assholes! women: just move on to some…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/04/26 05:51 PM
10	I think people should lay out all their cards on the table before they enter into a relationship. I agree 100%. I believe in sharing all potential deal breakers early and that's exactly what I did when I was dating. From lifestyle to politics to religion to health issues. It's respectful to share it all and let the other person make an informed decision.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/04/26 10:27 AM
2	Women need to embrace, modernity all the way. You can treat someone poorly and bring them flowers, you can treat someone well and bring them flowers. Just because someone brings you flowers doesn't mean they treat you well.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/04/26 08:50 AM
0	Women need to embrace, modernity all the way. I'm not offended 🤣 I find it equally as puzzling as you do.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/04/26 12:50 AM
1	A woman is never "not ready for a relationship" Both women and men are expected to let people down gently. Of course she or he will tell you "I'm not ready for a relationship", not "I don't really feel very attracted to you, your stories bore me, you drool way too much when you kiss, your ears have a weird shape, I'm totally not getting your humor, your hate for pineapple on pizza is pathetic when you think it's funny, also your farts smell like rotten egg and you probably should get that checked mate, or eat less broccoli, which, by the way,…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/04/26 12:41 AM
1	Women need to embrace, modernity all the way. Maybe that's what feminists do. I wouldn't know, I noped out of that ideology ages ago and never looked back. There's nothing liberating about modern day feminism. It's just Victorian level compliance and misery but with more sex, uglier clothes and a septum lmao	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/04/26 11:12 PM
1	Women need to embrace, modernity all the way. Look, if you want to judge and ridicule women whose desire for equality disappears as soon as there's a bill on the table or men whose self-declared feminism evaporates the moment there's dishes to be done or a parental leave to be taken - knock yourself out, I'll be the first to join in. But ... Women need to embrace, modernity all the way. They really don't. Objectively (which typically means you're about to hear someone's very subjective opinion, but I dare say this actually is a valid observ…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/04/26 11:04 PM
3	Women need to embrace, modernity all the way. Well men that treat me better will have more success. You mean men who perform the traditional gestures of male interest? Buying flowers is not a good treatment. It's buying flowers.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/04/26 06:42 PM
0	It's cruel to deprive your spouse of sex and also expect monogamy from them Oh I think so too. But life isn't always as simple as we'd like it to be and you don't always have the luxury of making logical choices. I've met enough people of both sexes in these really awful situations to know they're real life scenarios not some theoretical "what ifs". Obviously, if you can easily (or, as easily as it gets, which is still very difficult) leave, it's really dumb to stay.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/26 12:16 AM
5	What do you think of a relationship that is purely transactional? You literally paid money to be able to put your hand through its hole though. Sorry, I had to. Enjoy your lifting program 🤣🤣🤣	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/26 05:53 PM
1	If You’re Bi and You Won’t Date Bi Guys, You’re Being Hypocritical AF Yep. Sure there's a LOT of biphobia among lesbians (which by the way is not nearly as serious as some people make it sound, it's just...there), but it has nothing to do with whom they want to date. They will deny bi people exist or think bi women just want to play or whatever. I know a lesbian girl, sweetest person ever, but her gf had like 3 boyfriends before she met her, then met her and plastered the lesbian flag all over the place. My friend is very proud of making her gf "realize she's lesb…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/26 05:45 PM
–	The women who are the loudest about not dating a “man child” are the definition of “woman child.” The women who are the loudest about not dating a “man child” are the definition of “woman child.” I wouldn't exactly call myself "loud" about not dating a man child, but I definitely hold rather firm stances on the matter. And I'm definitely not a woman child. I'm disgustingly adult to a point it's boring. The post title is about one group of women and the post body is about another. Being a "man child" has nothing to do with money. In fact, most "men children" I ever met were on the wealthier s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/26 04:26 PM
1	Should couples moving in together split rent 50/50 or based on income? I side with your friends here, 100%. The way I see it, if my partner makes, say, exactly 50% after tax of what I make after tax, whatever split we have on whatever household expenses, if their resulting disposable income is any less than 50% of my resulting disposable income, I should be ashamed of myself, because I allowed their financial situation (in relation to mine) to worsen, which means I'm cheap, lack class and failed as a partner. I wouldn't allow my man or my woman to be worse off bein…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/26 04:05 PM
2	If You’re Bi and You Won’t Date Bi Guys, You’re Being Hypocritical AF If You’re Bi and You Won’t Date Bi Guys, You’re Being Hypocritical AF Preferences are preferences, they have no moral quality to them. They can't be hypocritical. If a straight man wants to date a bi woman, maybe hoping he'll land a hot three-way or he just knows how super awesome we are, is he a hypocrite or does he have a preference? If a virgin wants to date someone with experience, are they a hypocrite or do they have a preference? If a skinny person likes a bigger partner, is that a prefere…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/26 02:56 PM
–	CMV: Objectively if one does not know their partner is cheating, ignorance is bliss. Conversely if they find out, this revelation is beneficial. Change this view. I think it's a very complicated matter and it's difficult to think in absolutes here and be correct. Say you cheated. Thought the relationship is failing, had a massive error in judgement, temporary amnesia, took desire for love, capitalism made you do it, you got drugged by frisky fairies, whatever. But you did it and you deeply regret it. You think coming clear to your spouse would end the relationship so you make a decision to live a lie. And you live a whole life together and you never stray…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/26 02:26 PM
1	What do you think of the recent trend of female dating content types pushing the idea that mens dating woes are the result of "capitalism" and material inequality? I noticed that most of the female commentators end all of their videos with statements that boil down to "men are angry at women, but really they should be angry at the capitalist system, that is oppressing them. It is capitalism and wealth inequality (and therefore the wealthy elite) that is standing in their way of dating success, not womens choices." What do you think of this argument? It's nonsensical and ignorant. There hasn't been a system in human history where the majority of wealth and …	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/26 01:49 PM
–	Q4W: Why when you are in a relationship do you still wear sexy clothes and makeup etc.? Who are you advertising yourself to if you are already taken? It's good rage bait and I'm totally here for it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/26 12:46 PM
–	Q4W: Why when you are in a relationship do you still wear sexy clothes and makeup etc.? Who are you advertising yourself to if you are already taken? I wear sexy clothes and great makeup so my man can show off and assert dominance over pathetic insecure individuals like ones writing this type of posts and we can have a giggle at their expense because we're awful people. Obviously.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/26 12:44 PM
–	Do you try to avoid men who don't have empathy for women's issues? Too many people get hyperfocused on that and forget it’s supposed to be a give and take, where you’ve got each other’s backs, not some zero-sum game. Exactly. We both work full time but I start earlier, work shorter hours than him with zero commute. So if he was expected to do half of the cooking, he'd end up having significantly less free time than I. And he'd be the one experiencing a chore gap. Empty words and virtue signaling don’t really help, and even when the words are sincere, it’s not a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/26 12:30 PM
3	The concept of gender roles is outdated and stupid Happy cake day! My father is a spectacular cook and my mother was... well let's just say it was a hit or miss. Hits were great but misses...oh boy. So it was in everyone's interest to keep her out of the kitchen when she was in the mood for experimenting. She was also an absolute workaholic and her work was her biggest passion. A few years in they did the maths and figured out it's best my father just stays home, so I grew up with a stay at home dad. They knew what the gender roles are and just …	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/26 11:52 AM
2	When guys say women tend to go for jerks, what is the jerk behavior? When guys say women tend to go for jerks, what is the jerk behavior? The jerk behavior is not being them. That's what they're salty about. Women do not generally prefer jerks. But some men think that saying so makes them look better or validates them for being single (single=obviously not a jerk, only jerks get the chicks). Which is a bit pathetic but mostly sad - you don't actually NEED validation, being single doesn't make you any less of a man/woman and it's not a failure.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/26 11:20 AM
1	Why are feminists allowed to dictate what counts as equality? I mean, last time I was in Stockholm the men seemed pretty happy and confident and all women wore face veils and respectfully walked behind them. It was a business trip and they placed me in a hotel in kungens kurva so there's that 🤣	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/26 11:07 AM
1	It's cruel to deprive your spouse of sex and also expect monogamy from them Well it depends if he wants to be pegged lol	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/26 11:03 AM
–	Do you try to avoid men who don't have empathy for women's issues? I honestly care very little about verbal expression of virtue. Half of the time it's just virtue signaling, which I hate. I don't go talking about how much I support men's mental health, just make sure that my man (and men in my life in general, like family and friends) knows he is every bit as loved and respected when he's vulnerable around me. He probably doesn't even know what "chore gap" is because in his world it's non-existent - he picks up a proportional part of the chores naturally. It i…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/26 11:02 AM
2	Being a SAHM is idiotic for both the partners. Both my parents and grandparents had a homemaker/breadwinner split going on. They'd be rather seen dead than consider their stay at home spouse lesser than. I grew up in a regular middle class home but my grandparents were actually rather wealthy at some point in time (they later chose to just use the wealth to retire at 50-ish). I don't think it ever crossed my grandfather's mind that someone could consider the money his company made "his" not "theirs". His job was running the business, my gran…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/26 11:50 PM
2	Being a SAHM is idiotic for both the partners. As someone raised in a family with homemaker/breadwinner split, I think I know this one obvious thing that people on the internet just can't seem to grasp: it's a division of roles not a division of wealth. And yes I've seen that in a loving relationship it's not a transactional split. It's just people doing what they like best, what they're best at and what's best for the family. It's refreshing to see that someone actually seems to get it. Good luck out there!	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/26 11:17 PM
3	Being a SAHM is idiotic for both the partners. From women's side, they give up their career and earning potential etc. and women say that being a SAHM is soooooo hard. For some people it just works. Some careers are very demanding, especially if you want to be the big deal in your field. Having someone who stays home and takes care of everything makes it possible to have a family in the first place. That was the case in my parents' relationship, for example. If you genuinely want to be a homemaker it's not a sacrifice. You will have to fight…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/26 11:04 PM
6	Why isn't there more pushback from women toward women who encourage the male behavior they hate Yep, which is stupid. The very idea that you owe the world something because of what other individuals whose skin is the same color as yours or who have the same kind of reproductive system as you do or have done in the past is just SO bizarre. You having some sort of moral duty pertaining to fixing bad men on the grounds of being a man yourself is peak absurd.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/26 10:18 PM
1	Why isn't there more pushback from women toward women who encourage the male behavior they hate Because there are two sexes and being the same one as someone else doesn't make for any "community". People are allowed opinions and lifestyles that aren't aligned with my values. I hold no responsibility over other people's lifestyles and values. Men are intelligent creatures capable of making choices, good or bad, regardless of the influence and encouragement they get.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/26 10:11 PM
1	It's cruel to deprive your spouse of sex and also expect monogamy from them That's a fetish. People who have one typically know they do and seek partners who share it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/26 09:58 PM
2	Do you try to avoid men who don't have empathy for women's issues? That might well be the case. But I think the number of people of both sexes who genuinely care about the struggles their partners have in life might be quite high. It's just there's a lot of pressure on men to verbally express it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/26 09:57 PM
1	It's cruel to deprive your spouse of sex and also expect monogamy from them I'm genuinely not trying to shit on anyone on any side of it here Same. Whenever I meet people who are in completely sexless relationships I ask myself why the heck don't they just leave, and then remember that life is a lot more complicated than we'd like. I'd generally be on the side of communicating as well, I just refrain from judging people who choose not to. When it was happening to me last thing on my mind was sex really, all I wanted was for my partner to be alright. But I can only try t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/26 09:51 PM
1	Do you try to avoid men who don't have empathy for women's issues? Yes the title refers to men who don't, the body refers to men who do, but the entirety of it focuses on expression. Which I personally find irrelevant. There are tons of people who express caring a lot about a whole lot of issues and it's just performative yapping. And a lot of people who are more than sceptical about the existing narratives but their actions prove they are a part of the solution not a part of the problem. I don't care what a man says about the chore gap. For all I care he might…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/26 04:20 PM
1	It's cruel to deprive your spouse of sex and also expect monogamy from them "I am not entitled to peg a guy who doesn't want to be pegged therefore your argument on monogamy is absurd, because logic" If you enter a monogamous relationship, your commitment is: 1. I will have sex with you (why else would you be entering a relationship to begin with) 2. I won't have sex with anyone else. The former pertains to the entirety of your life and is not incident based. "I will be having sex with you" doesn't equal "I will no longer have agency over my own body and I am obliged to…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/26 03:32 PM
3	It's cruel to deprive your spouse of sex and also expect monogamy from them That's not an unilateral decision. If you marry someone and promise each other monogamy, then you unilaterally decide to change that to celibacy, you cannot possibly consider that promise valid on their end, can you? It's not like you checked with your spouse if they're down to having no more sex again ever. Also, I say it's justified to consider the agreement on monogamy void in case the sexual relations have ceased with no prospects on being resumed at any point in time on the premise that the…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/26 03:06 PM
2	It's cruel to deprive your spouse of sex and also expect monogamy from them I don't disagree that in some situations it might be difficult to identify the moment when "rare sex" becomes "zero sex ever", but I would honestly not even bother trying that if it's been, say, less than a year. That just doesn't seem very fair. It's also a lot less clear for a bystander than a person in this situation. I definitely think though that removing yourself from your partner's sex life altogether means you no longer expect them to not have sex with others, as the agreement was monoga…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/26 02:00 PM
–	The refusal to date people is more born out of a cycle of normalized false beliefs, and in nothing ‘innate’ to what one is attracted to The refusal to date people is more born out of a cycle of normalized false beliefs, and in nothing ‘innate’ to what one is attracted to And that’s totally fine - long as that cycle ends with you. Here's the problem I have with the whole thing: evaluating people's preferences for fairness implies discrimination is possible in selecting your partner. You cannot be "unfair" in your selection if your selection won't be discriminatory. The very premise of your post is, for the lack of a better word, …	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/26 01:10 PM
1	Do you try to avoid men who don't have empathy for women's issues? I am under the impression that OP was asking specifically about men who express caring for women's issues as presented on the internet. How does resentment make it into the equation?	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/26 07:43 AM
1	Do you try to avoid men who don't have empathy for women's issues? Men have on average MORE partners than women. How does that combine with having less options? Not challenging a view just mathematically curious.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/26 07:41 AM
-2	There is a hostile environment towards men trying to learn how to flirt, dating skills, attraction skills, etc. I'm not disagreeing that it's not a safe space, I'm disagreeing with the premise that that's a problem. Unless they're your mom, dad or primary school teacher, they don't owe you teaching social skills. You can't reasonably expect that you'll mess it up with a lady and she'll just pat you on the head and go "it's ok sweetie, you're only learning, next time do xyz", then give you a tissue, a sticker and a lollipop. Learning complex social skills the hard way is a universal human experience. Datin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/26 07:34 AM
6	It's cruel to deprive your spouse of sex and also expect monogamy from them You owe your partner to not have sex with other people because you made an agreement to do so. You can only claim exclusivity if you intend to have sex with the person. You agreed to exclusivity not celibacy. It's unreasonable to change the terms without consulting with the other party but expect them to stick to their part of the deal. The moment you changed the terms (introducing celibacy instead of monogamy), you rendered the agreement invalid. You cannot break an invalid agreement.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/26 10:28 PM
5	It's cruel to deprive your spouse of sex and also expect monogamy from them Nah I think the difference between zero sex and some sex is pretty clear. If you have none of it it never happens. If you have it very rarely, say once every six months - that's not zero. You might want to reconsider staying in the relationship if that's not enough for you, but it's not "zero". If you haven't had sex in, say, well over a year and your partner has no interest whatsoever in being intimate with you in any way, I think it's fair to start thinking you might be in a "zero sex" kind of…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/26 10:16 PM
3	Do you try to avoid men who don't have empathy for women's issues? Yep I had a bunch of really awkward conversations. Guys going like "I'm a feminist you see" and me responding "well that's great for you, I'm not" 🤣🤣🤣	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/26 10:07 PM
2	Do you try to avoid men who don't have empathy for women's issues? For example if a guy gets defensive and passive agressive when you bring up the chore gap and says he doesn't belive that's true and it's just online propaganda. Isn't this in the category of an incompatibility? Don't you seek partners and male friends who are not like that? I think I never mentioned the chore gap to a man, because I wouldn't settle for a man whose behavior makes the chore gap a reality in my life. Does empathy for gendered societal issues of women matter to YOU? To some extent …	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/26 09:34 PM
0	It's cruel to deprive your spouse of sex and also expect monogamy from them I genuinely hope that by the time a relationship has become completely sexless, the person who is bothered by that has brought the topic up multiple times.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/26 03:36 PM
2	It's cruel to deprive your spouse of sex and also expect monogamy from them Self satisfaction and gratification is what marriage is all about right? Most definitely not. Why would it?	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/26 03:33 PM
2	It's cruel to deprive your spouse of sex and also expect monogamy from them I'm not changing the meaning of words. "Monogamy" pertains to having sexual relations with one person, in which case you owe them exclusivity, if that was agreed upon. Having sex with zero people means you don't owe anyone anything. I assume that by the time a relationship becomes completely sexless, people have had multiple conversations on the matter - to no avail given the outcome. And sometimes they choose not to leave for many reasons.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/26 03:29 PM
6	It's cruel to deprive your spouse of sex and also expect monogamy from them In the condition you describe its kinda over (break up or open marriage) not infidelity That was my exact point. Monogamy is sex with 1 person, sex with 0 people doesn't fall under the umbrella of monogamy. In most scenarios though, people just have insufficient amounts of sex. If they go seeking it elsewhere without either parting ways or changing the nature of the relationship (consensually of course), it's definitely cheating.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/26 03:18 PM
-1	It's cruel to deprive your spouse of sex and also expect monogamy from them Why would you or I or any other internet rando be the judges of that? Maybe they're very happy cohabiting and spending time together. Like live-in best friends. It's just if you completely cease to have sex and aren't interested in addressing this - you have no grounds to expect the other to not sleep with anyone that isn't you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/26 02:08 PM
3	It's cruel to deprive your spouse of sex and also expect monogamy from them Monogamous means - you have sex with 1 person and no one else. How many people do you have sex with in a sexless relationship?	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/26 02:04 PM
2	It's cruel to deprive your spouse of sex and also expect monogamy from them Precisely. I broke it down for people who don't get it. Obviously, under the premise that deprivation is intentional or malicious and permanent, with at least one party clearly intending to never resume sexual relations. If it's just a rough time for the relationship or someone's sick, the deprivation isn't permanent, thus having sex with someone else would be cheating.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/26 12:58 PM
3	It's cruel to deprive your spouse of sex and also expect monogamy from them You are not entitled to someone's body, but you're also not entitled to be someone's only sex partner if you aren't their sex partner to begin with.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/26 12:52 PM
7	It's cruel to deprive your spouse of sex and also expect monogamy from them If someone firmly decides to never sleep with you again, are they your sex partner? Is there any non-creepy scenario in which you can expect a person you neither have nor plan on having sex with to not have sex with others? I agree with what you wrote under the condition that both parties in a sexless relationship see the situation as a problem they wish to work on resolving. If at least one party has no interest in ever bringing back the sex, it can't be cheating, because you can only be monoga…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/26 12:49 PM
5	It's cruel to deprive your spouse of sex and also expect monogamy from them It's cruel to deprive your spouse of sex and also expect monogamy from them While I agree with the overall premise of your post as such (please sleep with your partners people, or break up) the above statement is false in my opinion. Here's why: Let's consider the most common case - scenarios where sexual relations are intended to resume in the future by both parties: If you "deprive" your spouse of sex due to external reasons such as illness or you have relationship problems that you're aware o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/26 12:29 PM
–	Q4women would you date a trans guy? Talking to you people is really like talking to a very thick, rainbow-colored wall whilst on drugs. Yes the wall talks back to you, but it is just a limited set of random phrases. You're so divorced from reality I don't think you two have ever been married to begin with. I am most definitely not upset over trans folks getting the support they deserve. Far from. Medical transition for adults with gender dysphoria is normal healthcare and has been for decades. Acknowledging the identity is basic d…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/03/26 03:51 PM
–	Q4women would you date a trans guy? Hormones dramatically alter every aspect of your anatomy, so how are the ovaries, uterus and vagina you grew? All good? Do you have any menstrual discomfort? You did not change your sex. You chose to medically alter your body to as closely as possible correspond with your identity (which I am not questioning, neither am I questioning the medical intervention you and your doctor deemed necessary). It would be fair to call your body trans female, given it's a very specific state that doesn't natur…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/03/26 02:54 PM
–	Q4women would you date a trans guy? The fact that you see acknowledging basic biology as a threat to trans rights is exactly why a lot of people now oppose trans rights. You can fully support the rights of trans people to socially, medically and legally transition without throwing a hysterical tantrum over Lia Thomas not being allowed to compete with women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/03/26 02:19 PM
–	Q4women would you date a trans guy? You're not seeing facts through your ideology I'm afraid. Two things can be true: Caitlyn Jenner is an adult human male AND Caitlyn Jenner is a sweet lady You can acknowledge basic biology without bullying people for whom it didn't quite work out. And you can acknowledge trans identity without being delusional.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/03/26 01:52 PM
2	How do women view friendship with men? I guess everyone's going to have a different perspective on this but I see them as equal. I also don't necessarily associate relationships with men as sexual/romantic and relationships with women as platonic friendships, because I'm bisexual. So if I excluded people I could potentially date from my potential friend groups I'd be left with just the gays 😂😂😂	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/03/26 09:42 AM
–	Q4women would you date a trans guy? Sex or gender really isn’t a complete binary like people believe Just because sex is the result of multiple complex processes with plenty of possibilities for things to go terribly wrong doesn't mean it's not a binary, it means people slept through their entire biology course. The cases where it went wrong disprove the sex binary in humans about as much as SCD proves that erythrocytes can come in both disc and sickle shape or amelia and polymelia prove humans naturally have any number of limbs b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/03/26 02:15 AM
1	Q4women would you date a trans guy? I wish I could but I don't know. I'd be totally cool with my man being attracted to women, men, trans women, trans men, and having any or all of these experiences in his past. But I guess that goes down to how one perceives their sexual orientation and whether or not the partner's sexual orientation matters. For some people, it's focused on genitals. So you might have gay men who would be totally fine sleeping with or having a relationship with a trans woman who didn't have bottom surgery. And y…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/03/26 12:01 AM
1	Q4women would you date a trans guy? Yes because the only biochemical processes taking place in the human body ever are related to sex hormones. There's literally nothing else going on. Producing vitamins and aiding digestion absolutely don't impact your body's biochemistry. (that's e.coli for you) Neither is the release of insulin or GLP-1 (enter chicken), like we don't inject them into trans people so are they even hormones? OK finishing typing I realized GLP-1 is a hilariously bad example here for obvious reasons, but I'll leave…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/03/26 11:24 PM
1	Q4women would you date a trans guy? I was responding to this Or if a guy got a kidney transplant from a woman? It's like you don't read your own comments. Also e.coli and chicken definitely impact your body's biochemistry, significantly so.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/03/26 07:05 PM
2	QFW: is it important to you, whether or not a man “calls out” or reports other men in the workplace, who may be engaging in discussions that are disparaging towards women? It depends. See a man talking down to a woman because she is one? Hear men having obviously inappropriate conversations about women in a public setting, such as "wish Berta from Finance wasn't such a prude and a dyke, have you seen the rack on her, I'd hit that" or "No bro, you can't let Brenda have this position, she's a chick and will get flippin' hormonal on your next quarterly review, I don't care she's got a master's in finance, get my dude, he's used a calculator once, if he doesn't know s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/03/26 06:32 PM
2	Q4women would you date a trans guy? These are honest questions too because neither do I. Guess that's just for the people in that situation to define.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/03/26 06:13 PM
2	Q4women would you date a trans guy? It's exactly like a religion, and I think of it as such Look, I'm as atheist as can be and don't like religion one bit, but even I think you're going way overboard with this. It's not fair. And factually wrong. You might be extremely critical of religion, but it's only decent to acknowledge that religion does SOME good in this world. There are many people who genuinely find value in it and it makes their lives better. Cult. The correct word here is "cult" 😂 I still don't understand how one can r…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/03/26 06:10 PM
1	Q4women would you date a trans guy? I don't think you are responding to my comment. It's like you haven't read it at all demanding that cis men turn their backs on transwomen is incredibly harmful to our trans sisters who still have to deal with so many closeted men Nobody's demanding that men turn their backs or any other body parts of choice on trans women. Also, what are they closeted for? You said about a thousand times that they are straight, is heterosexuality a minority orientation now? Men who are closeted because of multi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/03/26 05:52 PM
3	Q4women would you date a trans guy? Since when are women expected to justify their attraction or lack thereof?	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/03/26 02:39 PM
1	What's the most annoying debate tactic you see from the opposite gender on this sub? Well, generalizing is every bit as dumb, half of this sub is just dumpster fire	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/03/26 11:19 AM
4	Q4women would you date a trans guy? Straw man is an idiom, not a person. Bad example. "Trans man" is an act of linguistic courtesy, not a category of human male	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/03/26 11:15 AM
3	Q4women would you date a trans guy? If you need surgery you can't say "taking male hormones makes you develop a male anatomy", right? This is the exact claim you made: But they take male hormones, so they have a male anatomy Or if a guy got a kidney transplant from a woman? Are you for real? Do you identify as E.coli because you have gut bacteria? Do you become a cyborg if you get a hip implant? Does a visit to KFC turn you into a dead chicken?	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/03/26 11:11 AM
4	Q4women would you date a trans guy? Yes, that's absolutely super valid. We started calling ftm individuals "trans men" to acknowledge their identity, therefore if you don't say they're a category of men you're not only a bigot, but also can't speak proper English. "Man" paired with an adjective is a category of a human male. For example, a straw man.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/03/26 10:50 AM
7	Q4women would you date a trans guy? This is real life not Professor McGonagall's transmutation class. Taking male hormones doesn't turn your anatomy into a male one. I'm sure an injection that does that would be a groundbreaking discovery and a milestone in trans healthcare, but we are definitely not there yet.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/03/26 10:38 AM
3	Q4women would you date a trans guy? Ok fair but is that transition? Or just deciding to identify with a particular sex? Or does it depend on what type of intersex condition you have?	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/03/26 09:13 AM
1	Q4women would you date a trans guy? It is. I get called that a lot. Since I'm not a feminist, I never know if they're trying to offend me with the "TE" or the "R" or the "F" 😂	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/03/26 08:27 AM
1	Q4women would you date a trans guy? He's no less straight after doing so. Not necessarily. There are gay-identifying men who would sleep with a trans woman who didn't have the bottom surgery and there are straight-identifying men who would sleep with the same trans woman. It depends on how much your perception of your own sexual orientation is associated with the type of genitals a person has - and for many people, it's very. It can also be associated with how a person looks and how a person identifies and what the person's (biolo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/03/26 08:23 AM
1	Q4women would you date a trans guy? What's potentially offensive about this?	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/03/26 12:06 AM
1	Q4women would you date a trans guy? being openly attracted to them is a good indicator that you aren't. It can also mean you have a trans fetish and the only relevance trans folks have to you is being sex objects, and you're open about it because you just like talking about your fantasies. Attraction or lack thereof is not an indicator of whether or not you have any respect for the people you're attracted to.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/03/26 12:05 AM
4	Q4women would you date a trans guy? You are not owed attraction, nor are you owed an explanation in case someone's not attracted to you. Policing men's sexuality would be saying men aren't allowed to date other men or saying that men who have sex with trans women are disgusting. These women aren't doing that. They are simply not attracted to these men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/03/26 12:00 AM
11	Q4women would you date a trans guy? I think it's that weird thing called he...hetra...hetro...hetero-something? I heard it happens to a lot of people world-wide.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/03/26 08:19 PM
3	Q4women would you date a trans guy? I wouldn't be open to dating any guy other than my guy, but hypothetically - nope. I find trans men completely unattractive. I could consider dating a trans woman who's had all the feminizing treatments bar the bottom surgery. Edit to add: I wouldn't mind if my man had relationships with trans women or with men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/03/26 08:18 PM
8	Q4women would you date a trans guy? That was cool 3 years ago, biology is in again. The sooner you stop being offended by facts the better. Noone is misgendering anyone by just stating an obvious biological fact. People are just done entertaining delulu. Male is a sex. Of which there are two. And which cannot be changed nor acquired later in life. What can be changed is how you function in society and what you are perceived as - which is called transition. Being female is literally what makes trans men trans lmao. I will still cal…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/03/26 08:14 PM
10	Q4women would you date a trans guy? Exactly. That level of delulu was forced on people some 5-3 years ago, but I think most people are done with it by now and it's refreshing to see. They are female humans who live their lives as men due to gender dysphoria. And they're perfectly fine to live their lives as men, function in the society as men, make themselves pass as men through surgery/hormone therapy and be referred to as men. The only thing they'll never be is male. In order to be a trans man you have to be born female. That's …	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/03/26 08:02 PM
1	Many women don't seem to know what femininity actually is. To many men, a woman having an opinion is "emasculating" and they want her to "let them lead"/"let them be the man" or whatever other insecure whine, so there's that. People are dumb. Sit back, relax, watch, eat your popcorn.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/03/26 05:26 AM
–	No contact should mean no contact for good Glorious beasts, I want them now	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/26 11:43 PM
1	Do people involved in frequent casual hookups just not care about getting STDs? Chlamydia is fully curable. Not sure why that's the one you are so scared of. I was just being sarcastic Stigma actually causes the spread of STDs. So destigmatizing them is best for everyone's health. No it doesn't. Reality is a lot more complex than some people would wish for. Yes, absolutely destigmatizing something leads to people having more open conversations about it- the only thing you're missing here is that this applies to people who'd have open conversations about it anyways. But lack…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/26 11:42 PM
–	No contact should mean no contact for good I googled cheese curds and now I want a catering quantity of them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/26 10:14 PM
1	Men should be happy to pay for the first date Men should be happy to pay for the first date Men who wish for a traditional role split relationship might want to consider paying for the first date as it shows their dedication to conservative values and etiquette. Fixed it for you, no need to thank me. I think it is a bit pathetic how men nowadays get upset at the thought of having to pay for dinner. These “natural providers” don’t want to be generous for even one meal. Maybe it's because we don't live in a world where women have to be provid…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/26 08:56 PM
–	No contact should mean no contact for good I think so. Like if she ghosts you be a man and ghost her back. Who's gonna tell him 😂	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/26 05:47 PM
1	Do people involved in frequent casual hookups just not care about getting STDs? It's just an infection not a disease if there's no damage to the host, which is a criterion STIs more often than not don't meet in practice. Most people do not test often enough to catch the infection before it's caused any damage whatsoever. "STI" is only more correct in ideal circumstances, and given we rarely live in ideal circumstances, it's more likely to be incorrect. We also aren't so dead set on making this distinction for literally any other infection out there unless it's associated wi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/26 05:44 PM
3	If your bf/husband died how would you react? How would it impact your life and how long would you wait before moving on? Yeah that's romantic bullshit people who never lost anyone believe. It's straight out naive rom com slop. My parents promised each other they won't ever remarry if one of them dies, because they were very young and very dumb. Then it happened that my mother died young and my father's never been happy again. He's lived without her longer than he's lived with her, he eventually moved on and found himself a lady. He'd like to marry her but the guilt is killing him. Over a dumb promise he made at th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/26 03:25 PM
3	If your bf/husband died how would you react? How would it impact your life and how long would you wait before moving on? Are you 12? This might not be a sub for you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/26 02:53 PM
2	No contact should mean no contact for good I mean...if someone ghosts you they are the one who went no contact already	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/26 02:45 PM
–	2025 pornhub analytics and trans attraction For a tiny fraction of the society, trans people are massively overrepresented in headlines everywhere. Obviously people will be curious about something that so many talk about. So there's the curiosity. Also, there's a lot more pressure on men to be strictly heterosexual. Any lady can casually mention she's bi and people will think nothing of it. For the longest time the Overton window for acceptable expressions of masculinity was an arrow slit. That has been gradually changing for decades and …	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/26 08:56 AM
3	Do people involved in frequent casual hookups just not care about getting STDs? I won’t lie, a lot of what I’ve learned from the red pill has turned out to be true in my own experiences as I got involved with more women. Red pill is just a random pile of pseudoscience, sexism (towards both genders really), someone's life philosophy and whatever was written in an article somewhere. Statistically at least some of it must be correct. Even a broken clock shows the right time twice a day. However, trp peoples’ neurotic obsession with getting sex at all costs just seems so self d…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/26 08:36 AM
1	Do people involved in frequent casual hookups just not care about getting STDs? I thought the fear and stigma around STDs (the re-labelling to STI to make them sound "less scary" is a great example of how our culture is infantilising adults) came from the fact that they range from forcing you to take strong antibiotics to lifelong inconvenience to giving you cancer. Don't worry if you catch HIV, it's super manageable, you'll only have to take pills that have side effects every day for the rest of your life, also if you stop taking them you'll slowly die a painful death. It'…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/26 07:21 AM
5	cmv: Woman are naturally hypergamous, and society is structured in such a way to subvert this natural state with laws that benefit men and woman, or, Remember the Walrus Yes, because walruses and humans are very comparable in all aspects. We all love to swim naked in the ice cold waters of the Arctic Ocean and mate only during the first quarter of the year. You can't go much deeper than that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/26 06:36 AM
1	Would you support your boyfriend/husband for the rest of your relationship? I grew up in a house with a stay at home dad and a very career oriented mom, so it's not even a gendered thing for me. Dad chose to do what he knew was right for him, his woman and his family despite being laughed at and ridiculed (by other people - my mother respected the hell out of him for doing that) which is peak a lion doesn't concern himself with the opinions of sheep behavior. That set my bar for male confidence very high. Sorry to disappoint, but this is my genuine opinion: unless my ma…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/03/26 08:44 AM
0	Genuinely, if a good portion of women fear and dislike men as a whole, why should men interact with women? I know it's old, but the whole "man or bear" question that women almost universally answered bear to Yes, the majority of women who answered the question said bear, but that's nowhere near a representative sample of the female population. Most women in my life find the man or bear hysteria ridiculous and I don't think any of them went out of their way to find one of these polls and pick "man". I sure didn't. I couldn't care less. If your knowledge about a large chunk of society comes from social…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/03/26 12:17 AM
2	Women often give horrible dating advice Women often give horrible dating advice Wait till you see the advice men give, whatever they're on, I wanna try it because it sounds like an EPIC trip. A lot of women give awful dating advice to most guys. “Be a man who yearns”, “act like a gentleman”, “be open about your feelings early on” I don't exactly know what a "man who yearns" stands for, as in, what exactly is he yearning for and how that is expressed. If that's the keyword for "simp", yep that's indeed awful advice. You definitely shou…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/26 07:46 PM
1	Do you get offended if a guy you deem unattractive hits on you/asks you out? No of course not. I get offended if someone approaches me rudely or is being pushy, regardless of how stunning he might look. If a man just approaches me politely, I am polite back and let him know I'm not interested as soon as I realize he's being flirty. Given my choice of social events that's not always a given. I even had straight guys approach me to ask where I bought an item of clothing at a concert once, because they wanted to get the same thing 🤣. Metalheads are a lovely bunch. So if I r…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/26 07:37 PM
4	Why is it that young women are so into kinky sex? As with most things, it's a complicated and multifaceted matter. Different reasons apply to different individuals. In my opinion, these might be the most common reasons: Kink became a lot more mainstream and it's no longer shameful to admit one's into kinky stuff, so people are more open about their desires. Porn is easily accessible, sex education is not. It's very natural for young people to have a lot of curiosity around this topic, and if that curiosity isn't addressed in an age appropriate …	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/26 07:13 PM
14	The courting process never ends for men. That's exactly why red pill tells you not to simp and this is the one thing red pill gets right. Remember, even a broken clock shows the correct time once every 12 hours 🤣 If you go out of your way to impress your prospect partner, they fall in love with the person who does all that stuff - and it just so happens that person doesn't actually exist. It's deceit at its finest. Don't bend over backwards to impress people. It doesn't mean don't spoil and pamper your partner or don't try to be your b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/26 03:15 PM
0	It's okay to want virgin women If we remove all the noise, what matters is informed consent. If a man asked a woman if she is a virgin and she lied, then from that point she got consent via dubious method. She is a rapist plain and simple All consent is conditional. If you hide something that is likely to not meet their conditions, it's not consensual sex. No disagreement here. If I say I will only sleep with natural redheads and the person is a blonde dyed red, it doesn't matter what they think about my expectation, if they …	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/03/26 08:25 PM
1	Every single man in the world will gladly "spoil” a woman - if she is "that girl" to him I absolutely think "happy wife happy life" is correct, but only if said wife thinks "happy husband happy life" 🤣	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/03/26 02:43 PM
1	Slutty women are more relationship material than traditional or conservative women she could be a virgin catholic woman with a high sex drive in a relationship but the likelihood of that is very low That's what I originally responded to. You most definitely wrote that 🤣	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/03/26 01:57 PM
1	Slutty women are more relationship material than traditional or conservative women Studies show that people with less restrictive sociosexuality are more likely to have high libido, not that it's unlikely for people with high libido to have a restrictive sociosexuality. Positive correlation doesn't mean the two will always occur together.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/03/26 12:27 PM
8	Women are more violent than we think. And men less so No, men are still significantly more prone to violence than women. Most violent crime is perpetrated by men, against both men and women. Most, not all - obviously. "Man" is not a synonym of "violent person". What I think women are every bit as prone to as men though is abuse. Abuse doesn't have to be violent - you can be mentally abused for years without being hit once.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/03/26 09:58 AM
1	Slutty women are more relationship material than traditional or conservative women Goth almighty, I've been living almost 40 years as a woman and never knew my options are limited to "slutty" or "conservative". The kind of stuff you learn on the internet 🤣 You can sleep around without having an above average sex drive and you can be an absolute freak in the sheets keeping your body count below 10, and we're talking 20 years not last winter. To me, "slutty" and "relationship material" are mutually exclusive. I would not disrespect someone with a recent history of promiscuous be…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/03/26 09:52 AM
3	Slutty women are more relationship material than traditional or conservative women Nope. There are people with low to average sex drive sleeping around as a coping mechanism for unresolved trauma and you have people who are absolute freaks but do not find the hookup culture remotely appealing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/03/26 09:32 AM
2	Every single man in the world will gladly "spoil” a woman - if she is "that girl" to him The exact thing you sarcastically mentioned: men spoiling women = expectation, women spoiling men = patriarchal oppression. It's funny when it's sarcasm, what's not funny is that a lot of people actually think that 🤣 Not a majority though. I find most women in my life refreshingly sane.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/03/26 08:47 AM
–	Q4W: Who should be taught how to treat their partners? And why? It's not about treating the genders differently, because people largely have identical needs, it's about understanding the differences in the male and female experience, expression patterns and the like in order to have a more happy and harmonious relationship. Examples (very generalized and simplified, bear in mind that individual characteristics never fully match what's "typical" for the gender): - Communication patterns that stem from how girls and boys are socialized - women's and men's comm…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/26 03:30 PM
1	Every single man in the world will gladly "spoil” a woman - if she is "that girl" to him I got the sarcasm. The only problem is that for a very big chunk of the female population, that's the actual worldview.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/26 02:12 PM
1	Dark romance men and dating. I find "dark romance" deeply disturbing, and if someone likes it, I assume they ARE into this sort of thing, or have a very repressed sexuality. Either way, thanks but no thanks. I'm not saying people aren't allowed to have their thing. Absolutely, have your thing, you really don't need anyone's approval. All I'm saying is, if their thing is that thing, they're not my thing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/26 12:50 PM
1	Every single man in the world will gladly "spoil” a woman - if she is "that girl" to him A simple solution to this is, don't be a shitty partner and don't settle for a shitty partner. Unless you live in some whacko backwards place where you're forced into a marriage against your will, relationships are optional. You can nope out.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/26 10:03 AM
2	Every single man in the world will gladly "spoil” a woman - if she is "that girl" to him Yeah that's bullshit. My man spoils me and gets spoiled. We take each other on trips and dates and he comes home to a freshly cooked dinner on weekdays. Feminists need to touch grass.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/26 09:59 AM
1	Women have no choice but to defend their own hypocrisy and here's why I want to preface with saying that everything you say about women's behaviors is something I also observed online - and being a woman myself called out for hypocrisy many times. And while this is not a "not all women" response (although, obviously, not all women), imo your way of thinking (and, like, 80% of this sub) is a part of a deeper issue where people take obviously wrong behaviors and stances and attribute them to the social group whose members are most commonly guilty of said behavior, h…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/26 04:23 PM
2	Every single man in the world will gladly "spoil” a woman - if she is "that girl" to him I grew up watching men in my family and my parents' social circle treat their wives as equals in everyday life, but when they were pregnant, it was obvious to these men that they needed to treat them like queens. It was just the most natural thing in the world for them. Most of these pregnancies happened 20-something years ago and most of these couples are still very happily married. It's just that none of these women ever treated their husband like an atm and all of them made an effort to make …	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/26 01:54 PM
0	Every single man in the world will gladly "spoil” a woman - if she is "that girl" to him True. In an ideal scenario, both partners are giving even though they don't "have to" be It's not an ideal scenario, it's a bare minimum scenario. If you're not willing to put an effort into making your significant other as happy as you possibly can, they're your insignificant other.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/26 01:17 PM
1	Men created the “high maintenance woman” they complain about Trying to talk a simp out of simping once is trying to help. Trying to talk a simp out of simping over and over is definitely trying to save someone against their will. I don't think you'd have much success trying to talk the kind of women who take advantage of the simps out of taking advantage of them either. Plus, is it really taking advantage if the person being taken advantage of enjoys it? We might all have different definitions of what a happy life is. For some people it's being a doormat.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/26 01:14 PM
1	Q4W: Who should be taught how to treat their partners? And why? I partially agree. Sure don't be an ass, an ass will be an ass no matter the education, because assholery is a choice but... Men and women are extremely similar but not completely identical in relationships and social life at large. Whether it stems from biological differences, social constructs or both (I'm definitely team primarily social constructs, but let's not pretend biology isn't real)- it's a fact. Teaching your young kids about how the opposite sex experiences life and what you as a pa…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/26 01:06 PM
1	Q4W: Who should be taught how to treat their partners? And why? A, obviously. Apart from treating people well in general, which is a pretty obvious point on the parenting curriculum, I absolutely think small people should be taught two very important things: how to treat their partner and what kind of treatment to expect. No boy or girl should grow up thinking that one is allowed to be abusive or needs to tolerate physical or mental abuse or any form of disrespect from their future partner. We are largely the same, same basic needs, same general goals, fears…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/26 12:23 PM
1	Men created the “high maintenance woman” they complain about Of course not. But I will also not die trying to save them from themselves. You cannot help a person who doesn't want to change.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/26 11:44 AM
–	Men are smarter than women...only until we talk about men manipulating women and taking responsibility Everyone's dumb by default. Critical thinking is very uncomfortable, logic requires discipline, stepping out of echo chambers makes you feel ideologically homeless. The human brain is hardwired to protect itself from cognitive discomfort. We're a species of brilliant morons and being actually smart is reserved for the chosen few (ok, the chosen many)- it's just that it's a very egalitarian process where everyone gets to choose whether or not they want to be in that group, and the number of chanc…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/26 11:40 AM
1	Men created the “high maintenance woman” they complain about According to what a big chunk of the world's population believes, last time a dude wanted to save the world against the world's will, they nailed him to a cross and left him to die. Why try to save people against their will? If they're happy this way and it hurts no one, just let them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/26 10:58 AM
1	Men should be more radicalised and actively work against women's interests. Yeah, nothing screams "I'm a well adjusted individual" more than "men should be more radicalized" and "overthrow democracy". Don't get me wrong, you won't find many people more ruthlessly critical of modern feminism than I am, but you need to touch grass. Gender wars is one of the exact reasons why I think modern feminism is trash - just changing sides in an idiotic war doesn't make the war make sense.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/26 10:54 AM
5	Every single man in the world will gladly "spoil” a woman - if she is "that girl" to him What does reddit have to do with it? There are tons of people on here who either already have or genuinely plan/want to have children. I'm very happy for these people. It's just I'm not one of them for multiple reasons. Also, is birthing a child something you do FOR someone? Aren't you supposed to want that for yourself every bit as much? Are you owed dates and flowers because you might at some point want to have a child with the man? It's a very confusing reasoning.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/26 10:36 AM
2	Men created the “high maintenance woman” they complain about I understand sarcasm just fine. In fact I also speak fluent Sarcastic. You made a stupid comparison, you're being roasted for it. That's how reddit works.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/26 10:26 AM
7	Every single man in the world will gladly "spoil” a woman - if she is "that girl" to him No, neither am I going to birth a child for him. Nobody's birthing anything.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/26 10:24 AM
5	Every single man in the world will gladly "spoil” a woman - if she is "that girl" to him Wait so being "the one" means I get dates, gifts etc, but what does he get for being "the one"? Isn't it a very normal thing that people who love each other spoil each other?	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/26 10:05 AM
1	The majority of men don’t have the privilege of not caring about sex. If you have no standards, you will obviously have it easier than someone who does, because there are many people who will settle for you. If you have standards, you also want a woman with standards. And the kind of men who fuck around for status do not meet these women's standards.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/26 09:10 AM
1	Men created the “high maintenance woman” they complain about No you don't. If that's what they want to do with their lives, let them. The kind of women who want a simp don't want you, and you wouldn't want the kind of woman who wants a simp.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/26 09:06 AM
2	Men created the “high maintenance woman” they complain about Are you implying women are a hobby? And there I was thinking we're, you know, actual people. The kind of stuff you learn on the Internet these days!	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/26 08:52 AM
1	Men created the “high maintenance woman” they complain about Non-binary Merlin's green-dyed beard and the holy Septum, what kind of misogynistic trollwhackery is this? Women are adult humans capable of making their own decisions. We have awesome stuff like free will, critical thinking, and agency to conduct ourselves however the 🦆 we please. We don't need men to guide us into behaviors, worldviews and choices. In fact (shocking I know) how we live our lives is not a reaction to how men live theirs. We are free to choose whatever we want and accountable fo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/26 08:49 AM
-2	The majority of men don’t have the privilege of not caring about sex. If dude's so gullible he thinks his worth as a person and a man is determined by where his dick has been, I have very bad news regarding his chances of making any reasonable woman remotely interested in being with him.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/03/26 05:30 PM
–	I never really understood the appeal of thongs. What am I missing and why do women actually like wearing them? Yep I'm sure it's an anatomy thing. The plain ones I just feel like there's something there and it's annoying. The lacey ones feel like barbed wire after a few hours 🤣 All butts are different 🤣	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/03/26 05:17 PM
7	Men try to gatekeep standards Easy, on top of paid contributors you might also encounter women who recognize him and do it for a minute of fame or shits and giggles. Let me explain how most normal women would react to someone approaching them and trying to film it: She tells the person to stop and delete the recording. Should the person refuse and continue, she might grab whatever he's recording with and smash it on the ground. If the woman is accompanied by her boyfriend, there's a chance the person recording will also be g…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/03/26 11:38 AM
2	Men try to gatekeep standards Actually, my man once mentioned to me that I am out of his league (which I appreciated, because talking about insecurities is important and healthy), to which I responded: I thought we'd be shagging not playing football mate and I think that was a clear enough message to settle that once and for all (it was obviously followed by a longer conversation, I didn't just dismiss his insecurity).	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/03/26 11:27 AM
–	What female-primary behaviors do you actually think are unjustifiable? Hypocrisy of expectations - I'm a strong independent woman capable of everything a man can do and more, my career goals are ambitious and valid, you will split chores with me so I can pursue them, but pay for all my stuff at all times else I don't want you (men have this as well just expressed in different ways) Talking about sex with their friends. In detail. Down to describing what their partner looks like down there. It's disgusting. Dismissing any kinds of violence, non-consensual sexual enc…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/03/26 11:10 AM
1	Casual sex benifits men more than women It harms a significant subset of people in the long run. Men just have more significant temporary instant benefits.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/03/26 09:18 AM
3	I never really understood the appeal of thongs. What am I missing and why do women actually like wearing them? "It's not that deep" is absolutely hilarious when referring to thongs, because to me they go WAY too deep between my cheeks (even if I get a larger size) and are a sensory hell for the most part 🤣	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/03/26 09:07 AM
3	I never really understood the appeal of thongs. What am I missing and why do women actually like wearing them? Now that I think of it, it could also be very offensive to leopards 🤣 You're welcome.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/03/26 09:04 AM
8	I never really understood the appeal of thongs. What am I missing and why do women actually like wearing them? Unrelated, but whenever I hear "leotards" it sounds to me like someone is trying to vulgarly offend lions by implying they have very limited intellectual capacity (same way people use "iTard" or "libtard" or "Reichtard" and the like). Yes I know what leotards are, I own several (not for ballet though), just can't help it 🤣	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/03/26 06:54 AM
0	Casual sex benifits men more than women As someone who is very strongly against hook-up culture and promiscuity but will defend promiscuous women (and men!), I believe I am qualified to answer your question. Two things can be true at the same time: promiscuity is not healthy, well adjusted individuals rarely have very high body counts AND people are allowed unhealthy choices if they so desire - they're even allowed to not consider them unhealthy at all. Freedom is about the right to choose, not about choosing right. I will always defe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/03/26 12:10 AM
2	Casual sex benifits men more than women Feminists need to touch grass. Promiscuity has plenty of negative long term effects for everyone involved, it's just even worse for women than it is for men, mainly because of increased physical risks and a less satisfactory experience - obviously, if it's bad for you AND doesn't make you feel amazing, you're going to feel a lot worse about it than the guy who at least got off 🤣	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/03/26 11:57 PM
1	Casual sex benifits men more than women Casual sex benifits men more than women I think this whole post is missing the point. Casual sex (as in, promiscuity and participating in the hook-up culture) benefits no one in the long run. Women are just statistically more likely to experience the negative effects sooner and they might be more severe. Well-adjusted individuals simply don't sleep around so much, sorry not sorry.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/03/26 11:48 PM
8	Do men go down on you much/at all? This is a communication problem. If you spend time discussing what you like then you will get what you want. Not necessarily. Sure communication is important. Some people just don't do oral though. I'd never want anyone to cross their limits to give me what I want. Obviously it's ok to have deal breakers such as "if you're not into xyz, we won't be doing it", as long as it's a respectful rejection not an attempt to manipulate them into changing their mind.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/03/26 05:37 PM
1	What do you like about your husband/bf? Oh this is easy because for both of us, physical attraction was a result of the intellectual and emotional connection. I have a lot of things I love about him. He is unapologetically himself and seeks no approval for that from anyone. He never tried to impress me, never tried to be someone I might like - he just IS someone I like, like, a lot. At the same time he is very kind and polite - not just to me but to any random person he meets. There's just absolutely nothing performative about this ma…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/03/26 08:18 AM
1	RP focuses only on success stories that fit their narrative RP focuses only on success stories that fit their narrative Yes so do blue, black and pink pills (not that the last two HAVE success stories) and whatever other colors there are. This is true for literally any ideology out there. Every pill is biased, cherry picks facts and research. Human brains have avoidance of cognitive discomfort hardwired into them. That's why it's so tempting to ignore roughly 50% of the facts and build your entire worldview around the remaining 50%. Acknowledging differe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/03/26 07:15 PM
14	Why are men obsessed with “submissive”women? Apparently only one side can expect respect.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/03/26 11:29 PM
2	Why are men obsessed with “submissive”women? Letting an emotional, easily influenced person direct a relationship is a recipe for disaster. I think this description fits roughly 80% of the human population regardless of gender. Could explain why relationships keep failing after a year or two and it's an absolute shitstorm when they do. Shit hurricane even. About "directing a relationship", that's something I'm genuinely curious about. People seem to think that someone has to be in charge, why? I have been in straight and lesbian relationsh…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/03/26 11:23 PM
3	Why are men obsessed with “submissive”women? You probably need to make a pick me tik tok in a bear costume and say stuff like "not all men but always men" and ridicule men who want to be seen as, you know, thinking and feeling human beings who genuinely never raped anybody. Probably also gotta say you're doing the work and it's not women's job to educate you on sexism and male tears don't matter and at the end of the day you will still be called out for performative allyship or something 🤣	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/03/26 09:57 PM
1	"Men desire women, women desire men's desire". Thoughts? women themselves say that male bodies don't have much effect on them, that they are boring and seeing them does not excite them Yeah, I know. These women are allowed to exist in this world, some of these women are really amazing human beings. I know many of these women, some of my best friends are these women. Hell, even my girlfriend is one of these women. We even have a word for women like that, we call them "lesbians". and it's true, women dont like male nudes, don't like men in sexy clothes …	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/03/26 12:43 AM
2	How should men try to present themselves as fulfilling basic requirements? There's a subreddit dedicated to tinder where people share their profiles for others to advise on. Some of that advice is trash, some is good, so take it with a grain of salt. I've read several comments on there where people said it went much better for them after they implemented the advice. I think you need to take a moment to think about what kind of woman you want to attract. What does she like? What's her character? If your answer is ANY woman - that's a problem, because no woman wants to b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/03/26 01:05 AM
5	How should men try to present themselves as fulfilling basic requirements? How should men try to present themselves as fulfilling basic requirements? By fulfilling the basic requirements. I feel like when listening to what women complain about, I don't know how to actually present myself as not having those problems. Primarily - by genuinely not having these problems. Nope I'm not being passive aggressive - if you genuinely don't have these problems, it's because you have a certain mindset that's attractive. And that mindset shows in everything you do. She knows you're…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/03/26 01:06 PM
1	Would you feel offended if your partner said they wouldn’t have swiped right if they saw you on a dating app? Would you feel offended if your partner said they wouldn’t have swiped right if they saw you on a dating app? If it was said out of the blue? Probably yes. It's just a pretty mean thing to say unless asked. Why would someone who loves me say mean things? If I asked and they responded - definitely not, if I wasn't perfectly ok with the possibility of an honest answer I wouldn't ask. I don’t know a single guy that doesn’t find their girlfriend physically attractive and wouldn’t swipe right. On the…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/03/26 12:33 AM
1	On a date, men are just trying to not mess it up. But, women enjoy dates. What does that feel like? So what's in it for him?	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/03/26 08:27 PM
1	"Men desire women, women desire men's desire". Thoughts? It has everything to do with personality. Men whose minds are poisoned by "alphas", "betas", "the other 90%" and who genuinely believe we don't want them are simply off-putting for a lot of women. They might look cute but the moment they start speaking, it's a girl boner killer. The heterosexual and bisexual women definitely do desire men, admire male bodies and want to get their hands on them, that's exactly what female heterosexual attraction is about.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/03/26 08:02 PM
2	"Men desire women, women desire men's desire". Thoughts? That's very true for redpilled men. A very small % of women lusts for redpillers 😂	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/03/26 03:14 PM
1	Would you consider a man who has many friends, but has never dated at 25 "socially stunted" ? I don't think I would. You can't consider a person socially stunted if they have a social life. but if you would LIKE to have a romantic/sexual connection with a woman, you probably need to look into what you can do/change to get there. Just please don't buy into the you're great just need to wait for the right woman bs a lot of women will tell you and whatever mad stuff red pill dudes say women want. They are both wrong.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/03/26 01:10 PM
–	Why are women often more religious than men? I think that's because women are on average a little bit more collectivist than men, a little bit more spiritual than men, socialized into obedience and preservation - which, combined, creates grounds for more religious attitudes. It's very much a guess though, I'm 100% atheist. Not "spiritual but not religious", just good ol' boring atheist.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/03/26 12:52 PM
-1	Will women sexually harassing and raping men be pretty common in the future to the point to be more common than men comitting sexual crimes against women? I don't think it will become MORE prevalent, and I obviously hope that we will see less and less cases of sex crime in general. I also think we will never have real statistics on this matter, because male-perpetrated assault is overreported by women, while female-perpetrated assault is underreported by both men and women, bar the extreme cases. That's because bars for what is considered "assault" and "consent" simply are on very different levels for women in relation to men and men in relation t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/03/26 08:37 AM
2	Will women sexually harassing and raping men be pretty common in the future to the point to be more common than men comitting sexual crimes against women? Especially since men don’t even usually consider assault. They consider it a mishap, negative experience, etc. and generally (not never) aren’t traumatized by it. I think this absolutely is a factor, just like the fact that they have on average higher sex drives and are socialized to view sex and being desired by the opposite sex very positively by a society that generally somewhat leans towards condemning the male perpetrator and supporting the female victim - and condemning the male victim and…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/03/26 07:23 AM
1	What do you value? C and A. C is obvious - the one true foundation of lasting happiness. Financial stability is extremely important as well - so that you don't have to worry about survival or a roof above your head and can enjoy each other's company. "Stability" doesn't mean "a lot of money", it just means you're not at risk all the time. I don't care how much my partner makes as long as they aren't a financial liability (I'm not talking about supporting a partner who currently cannot work, which is normal and fin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/03/26 12:31 AM
–	Why do women continue to pursue men after bad experiences? And why are they attracted to them? Because they're men, we like men. There's no problem with liking men, the problem starts when you hate them but still desire them and somehow think it's men's problem to fix I've had bad experiences with men, I've also had bad experiences with women. Everybody sucks, might as well get laid. Or do they? Bad experiences are a learning opportunity - to better yourself, and to learn to choose people who lift you up and not drag you down. Whatever shit bitter people throw at each other online is irre…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/03/26 12:08 AM
3	"Men desire women, women desire men's desire". Thoughts? Nah, I just want my man same way a hungry man wants a steak.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/03/26 03:45 PM
1	Would you leave someone that you permanently lost your attraction for? I'm sapiosexual so unless they lose their minds, we're good. Also a lot of times attraction to your partner gets stronger and weaker. People might think it's permanent, but it often isn't. Give it some 10 years to understand what I'm talking about 😂	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/03/26 03:36 PM
3	BP is sex work positive yet fails to reconcile the fact that sex work is inherently misogynistic and literally objectifies women Maybe we watched different porn, but if porn objectifies women, then what do we call what it does to men? That's one of the reasons a lot of straight porn often does very little to straight women. It focuses ON the woman and the man is often reduced to the relevant part of his anatomy. A lot of porn won't even show his face. That's a lot more objectifying. Anyways I have no problem with porn. People in it are actors, there's no interaction with the viewer. If they freely choose to participate, i…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/03/26 03:25 PM
1	Bieng a jerk helps a lot The maturity though. He was being nice and STILL didn't get laid, clearly being nice doesn't work. As spectacularly shocking as it might seem, in adult life you don't get rewarded for being nice. Everyone just expects that you will be polite and civil and you don't get brownie points for it. If you just want a fuck around, probably being a jerk helps. People who engage in promiscuous behaviors tend to seek adrenaline, not require respect. You'll be a bit of a jerk, she'll be a bit of a bitch, bu…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/03/26 02:33 PM
1	Do you think the number of women who preffer Big/above average genitalia (all things being equal) is propotional to the number of men with said atributes? I prefer genitalia attached to someone with a brain I find attractive. Throughout my life, by the time I saw the genitalia, I already was sure about the brain, so the significance of the size was about (-2)/10 I was never presented to two identical guys with identically attractive minds and asked to choose between the one with an average sized penis and the one who had a massive one. Which, I dare say, is rather lucky because imagine how very fucking awkward that situation would have been for ev…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/03/26 11:21 AM
3	On a date, men are just trying to not mess it up. But, women enjoy dates. What does that feel like? Guess it's the "he paid" part that gets to people. Just curious, if he's supposed to pay, what are you supposed to do?	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/03/26 10:30 AM
1	On a date, men are just trying to not mess it up. But, women enjoy dates. What does that feel like? It's simple. It's a good date if both enjoy it. If the man was super focused on not messing it up, say the right things, blah blah, it just always felt fake and awkward. Nothing feels more fake and creepy than simping. When I went on dates, it was always with an attitude of, if it works it works. And I absolutely hated every single date where the man was trying to do his best. You're on a date man, not a job interview when you've been unemployed for a year and are on the verge of eviction, starv…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/03/26 10:10 AM
2	Women are more sexual than men I've been to the gym quite a bunch of times and the number of men who CLEARLY are there to make themselves look sexy is pretty high. Unless standing in front of a mirror in barely there shorts and flexing and admiring your muscles is absolutely zero % sexual lmao Fanservice is VERY old. It's been around for as long as computer graphics allow for anything more visually complex than Tetris.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/03/26 09:33 AM
3	Men need to have higher standards. Idk I found a fantastic guy at 35. Guess the problem is, some women will settle for a guy who has no self respect and will fuck anything with tits, then get surprised he has no respect for them either and continues to want to fuck anything with tits. Jokes on them if they have been fucking anything with a dick for quite some time. Past behaviors predict future actions. No matter how pretty/handsome/successful/popular they are, if you choose to be with someone with (especially recent) history of …	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/03/26 09:22 AM
–	Women as a whole are more attractive than men as a whole. It's called make-up for a reason. It's not how we really look. Also our nails don't actually grow red and shiny. What's "attractive" is highly subjective. Good luck getting a gay guy to say women are a lot more attractive than men. Also men naturally have better skin than women. So we do more skincare and still get poorer results lmao	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/03/26 12:06 AM
2	Men need to have higher standards. easy to speak when you get freebies by existing paid with my taxes. Funny of you to assume you earn more because you're a man and I'm using benefits because I'm a woman. That's a self own so bad one could think it's your first day on the internet. I have to disappoint you, I pay a lot of tax 🤣 Getting pregnant is choice as well. Yes, women all around the world choose every day for their contraception to fail, just like they choose to get raped. Not comparable, you can lose weight at any point in…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/03/26 12:42 AM
3	Men need to have higher standards. Let me guess, the "Fleshlight" problem is not actually a problem with women being promiscuous. The problem is that you're not the target of their deliciously depraved behavior, isn't it 😂	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/03/26 12:25 AM
1	Men need to have higher standards. Yes, it's very easy when you are at a much higher risk of being offed by a current or ex intimate partner than any other population on Earth (talking about straight women), when you have to work a lot harder than a man for the same level of professional recognition and when your health concerns are often dismissed - women get much poorer treatment for pain, and many doctors dismiss legitimate concerns especially about female specific health issues. I'm not saying women have it worse. We don't. W…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/03/26 04:48 PM
5	People belive Men have not done everything to justify hating on them Two things can be true at the same time: people are accountable for their actions and choices. People deserve some sympathy for making shitty choices and being miserable, because no one is perfect and no one "chooses better" all the time. I absolutely disagree that men should go down the rabbit hole of self pity and blaming the outside world for their failures. No, no you shouldn't. There are plenty of female spaces where women drown in self pity and these spaces are really sad. And above all, t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/03/26 03:56 PM
4	Men need to have higher standards. Wait where are men legally obliged to take steroids or growth hormones rather than work on healthy habits and accepting shit they can't change? Nowhere. It's a choice. A dumb one. Just like women go into the rabbit hole of crazy diets, leading to anorexia which is potentially lethal, or go all out with plastic surgery, often trying to get it cheap, compromising on their safety. Also a choice, also idiotic. What the society expects of you (or you think it expects of you, which doesn't even have t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/03/26 02:34 PM
5	Men need to have higher standards. If we're talking military, I agree. I believe no one should ever be forced to fight for a country. That's the one difference where men have it objectively worse. Then there's women's reproductive health, where there's a bunch of politicians deciding whether or not women in that particular place can safely terminate a pregnancy. That's where women have it objectively worse. In both scenarios someone is making decisions affecting your entire life - and in extreme cases, causing your premature deat…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/03/26 01:09 PM
8	Men need to have higher standards. That's simply not true, which I know from my own experience with dating men. Unless I'm super extra special and absolutely unique, but I know that's not the case because: 1. I'm sane 2. I know many women and men who share my opinion. I have never had a man (or woman) pay for my stuff on a first date. I always made it clear before the date that I don't expect nor want that and believe people should pay for themselves in the beginning, take turns later if they want. That's exactly how we solve thi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/03/26 01:04 PM
13	Men need to have higher standards. Over the last 100 years women basically got the same rights as men have. If that's a problem for you, maybe you are the problem	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/03/26 08:00 AM
10	Never settle” has slowly morphed into “never compromise I could almost agree but... what you describe applies to a small percentage of women. I think this is true for people who are chronically online. You mostly get viewpoints of those people because that's what they do day in and day out - sit glued to their phones and tap away. Or film yet another very smart talking head video that has to be exaggerated and triggering so they get reactions and comments and views that can be monetized. The reasonable voices drown in the toxic sea of yapping. So you…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/03/26 11:42 PM
1	If women are successfully hypergamous, shouldn’t men be upset and demand action from/against the few men benefitting rather than the multitude of women? And shrimp. At least in my freezer 😂	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/03/26 12:48 AM
–	Feminists use "misogyny" as an excuse to avoid critcism. Jokes on them, there's no place more misogynistic than the woke feminist° far left. Victim mentality and agency are mutually exclusive. And I will die on this hill-denying people agency is the most misogynistic or misandric thing you can do, because the rest of the dismissive mindset will follow, no matter how complicated mental gymnastics you attempt to make it seem like you care. Feminists are about as pro women as black pill is pro men - not at all. We absolutely SHOULD talk about real misogy…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/02/26 10:15 AM
1	People happily in relationships: how did you "pick better"? Self respect and remembering that you are the most important person in your life. Put yourself first and the rest will follow. Respect from and for the other person and respecting the fact that they are the most important person in their life. You both have to be mature enough to understand that second place is a perfectly good place to be for a partner. They have to genuinely LIKE your sex. If he doesn't LIKE how females are but you're different, if she chooses the bear but you're not like othe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/02/26 08:43 AM
1	People happily in relationships: how did you "pick better"? These are excellent. Not sure if I like the second or the last one better. Edit to add: The problem with simping is not just the effort. At the very core of every successful ltr is people genuinely LIKING each other's characters. If you simp for another person, they'll never KNOW your character.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/02/26 01:04 AM
–	How many women actually want the alpha for a LTR? I'm too sapiosexual to consider the self-proclaimed alphas remotely attractive, so I definitely wouldn't want one.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/02/26 12:52 AM
1	I Don’t Agree That Men are Invisible to Women. This is uniquely different from when a woman meets a man. It's not. Women do the same thing, but it's normalized for men (as it should be, it's called heterosexuality and our species literally can't survive without people engaging in it), not for women. So a lot of women won't admit that brief, often ignored assessment of a man's potential desirability as a sexual partner takes place.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/02/26 12:00 AM
1	Blue Piller beliving "dont drowns in pussy = bad human" That's tea coming in hot 😂	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/02/26 11:19 PM
1	Horny men pretend to care about romance so they can justify being selfish. All these men this women that posts are the same. (Gender)+(Example of bad behavior or attitudes)+(Bad behavior bad, gender bad) Why do trash people take up so much of your mental space?	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/02/26 04:17 PM
1	If “she’s using me for my resources” was a real problem, then dont pay for women on the first few dates. You're talking about a desire to boss people around, not lead. There are many people who have a desire to boss others around, it's an extremely common trait. I'd argue it can be a good initial impulse to take up leadership as a career path, but only if you have enough self awareness to also have an underlying desire to develop into a leader and overcome that tendency. Leadership is a mindset that you have to actively and consciously choose to grow into, and you either want to do that or you don'…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/02/26 03:54 PM
2	Men need to take charge and make most of the decisions in a relationship It's all quietly steered by the goldfish. It's always the goldfish!	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/02/26 03:22 PM
2	Men need to take charge and make most of the decisions in a relationship Paraphrasing myself, a lion wants a lioness, a sheep is scared of one. The weak compete to lead, the actual leaders seek to cooperate. You're just a strong man and congratulations to you both, 35 years is impressive!	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/02/26 03:21 PM
1	Men need to take charge and make most of the decisions in a relationship For the women, if you trust your partner enough, allow him to be the man and lead you. A pride is led by the lioness and protected by the male lion. They're both in charge and work in unison, without questioning each other's authority, power or worth. It's in a lion's nature to desire a lioness, just like it's in a sheep's nature to be scared of one.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/02/26 02:58 PM
2	Do women really rarely orgasm with men? Even with ones they feel highly attracted to. Women literally have an orgasm button. Men not pressing the button: omg but does it help if I'm pretty? No, no it doesn't. Just play with her goddamn clit.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/02/26 01:31 PM
1	Why do heterosexual women often have problems with not wanting to have sex? That's an excellent rage bait, I salute you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/02/26 01:19 PM
2	Why do heterosexual women often have problems with not wanting to have sex? If she says she's straight but also finds penises disgusting, she's lying about being straight. Plain and simple.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/02/26 01:14 PM
–	The idea that a guy is morally obliged to date an old chick just because he’s old is regarded And who's having that idea? Women mature enough to understand what's wrong with a 50yo exclusively dating 20yos wouldn't settle for a midlife crisis bro who does that, so I don't think this is a real issue anyways. Not saying agr are wrong. A big age gap between two mature adults is not a problem. Having a preference for a bigger age gap is not a problem either.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/02/26 01:11 PM
–	FWB material is better than both hooking up and a relationship. As a woman in a very good relationship, bollocks, m'lady. Just don't settle for shitty men and you'll be just fine.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/02/26 12:51 PM
–	Are We Treating Male Psychology as a Problem to Be Fixed? Just a crumb? C'mon 🙄😂😂😂 I was aiming at, like, a pile or something.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/02/26 12:20 AM
–	Are We Treating Male Psychology as a Problem to Be Fixed? I don't think this is a debate about roles, this is a debate about behavioral and mental patterns. And yeah sure, if you can do and do everything a man can do, it would be fair for your man to be able to do everything you can. I can put IKEA furniture together no problem and almost fix a faucet, my man could pretty much build a house from scratch if he wanted. I know I can't do everything he can as well as he can, he can't do everything I can as well as I can. No big deal. We just do what we can…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/02/26 12:16 AM
2	What is your strongest Pro Blue Pill Argument? In the context of dating someone you aren't dating already, girls are incredibly and unbelievably lazy. She just wasn't into you, move on. Some red pill stuff has other ways to describe it like that women there's a 'higher cost for pregnancy so girls are slower to act'. So if that was true, lesbian relationships should be the absolute slowest to progress (because even if pregnancy isn't on the table, evolutionary psychology that red pill seems to be obsessed with applies) and anyone with lesbian…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/02/26 12:00 AM
2	If “she’s using me for my resources” was a real problem, then dont pay for women on the first few dates. I'm actually completely uninterested in gossip unless the guys come to me with something really spicy, like corporate compliance might get interested -spicy, in which case I wanna know because I'm going to be the one dealing with them and they sure are a pain.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/26 08:32 PM
2	Men shouldn’t expect women to be ok with them cheating because it’s “human biology”. Both genders are promiscuous by nature. In my 36 years on this planet I am yet to meet a man who expects any woman to be ok with cheating because that's in his nature. It's in everybody's nature. We're not a monogamous species. It's a choice. I've met both women and men who cheated on their partners and came up with all kinds of excuses and explanations. I've only heard one person pull the my nature argument. And it was a woman.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/26 06:36 PM
-1	What is your strongest Pro Blue Pill Argument? OK cool for them, but why on Earth would any man go for a woman who has a tendency to be incredibly (in-cre-di-bly, times 2!) lazy, won't do anything herself and self sabotages left right and center on top of that? If that's the kind of standard the red pill imposes on guys, no wonder it's the other men who get the good women. Red pill men have low enough standards to pursue the women nobody else wants, the women nobody else wants have low enough standards to go after the red pill men. Nature's …	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/26 06:11 PM
2	What is your strongest Pro Blue Pill Argument? Don't tell them, it's natural selection. Some people just shouldn't breed.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/26 06:01 PM
1	If “she’s using me for my resources” was a real problem, then dont pay for women on the first few dates. Meetings you both have to participate in after you broke up can feel a tad awkward tho. My favorite part is when people start talking that X and Y broke up and there's always that clueless innocent soul who goes OMG I DIDN'T KNOW THEY WERE TOGETHER in a dramatic whisper. I'm usually that person and I run the bloody thing 🙄	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/26 05:59 PM
0	If “she’s using me for my resources” was a real problem, then dont pay for women on the first few dates. Nobody is controlling access to sex. You either want to shag her or you don't. She either wants to shag you or she doesn't. If you both want to shag, great, gl;hf. If only one of you wants that, tough shit, move on. Statistically you might not be interested in many people who'd like to shag you, just like a lot of people whom you'd like to shag aren't interested in you. Your potential shagging pool decreases proportionally to the fringe-ness of your opinions, because contrary to what the interne…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/26 05:55 PM
6	If “she’s using me for my resources” was a real problem, then dont pay for women on the first few dates. Spot on	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/26 05:41 PM
4	If “she’s using me for my resources” was a real problem, then dont pay for women on the first few dates. But please don't date coworkers. It usually doesn't end well	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/26 05:41 PM
5	If “she’s using me for my resources” was a real problem, then dont pay for women on the first few dates. Yes because attitudes towards money are strictly genetic. 100%	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/26 05:28 PM
5	CMV: Most young men would benefit greatly from going on as many dates as possible. It's okay I gave him one for both of us 🤣🤣🤣	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/26 05:21 PM
2	If “she’s using me for my resources” was a real problem, then dont pay for women on the first few dates. There are people who have a natural desire to lead, nothing more. That might guide their ambitions and efforts in a certain direction but doesn't give them any skill. It's very much like cake. You can have a natural proclivity for indulging in cake. That is very likely to make you fat and very unlikely to make you a good baker - you have to put conscious effort, time and resources into becoming one. If you hate cake, why on Earth would you care to become a good baker.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/26 05:15 PM
1	Studies against Men Are Often Designed to Confirm a Narrative, Not Find Truth Somehow people are all against bad science when a fringe study says vaccines cause autism, but they're very much FOR bad science when it confirms their narrative. Nothing new. It's just human nature. At this point, social studies belong in a feminist discussion club not in the academia (ok it's not that bad, but the very clear ideological shift of the academia is pretty obvious to anyone with eyes). At the risk of getting mildly political: leftists will yap left right and center about how divers…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/26 05:03 PM
0	Are We Treating Male Psychology as a Problem to Be Fixed? I think assuming things about a person's character because of their gender is a pretty slippery slope. Because there's a good chance you're gonna get it all wrong. I'm with you on the empathy hypocrisy though. I've experienced it many times, primarily from women. The mainstream discourse encourages people to treat the stereotypically female expression as superior in the context of interpersonal relationships. Which obviously is true to some extent, just like it's true that in some aspects, stere…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/26 04:20 PM
3	Are We Treating Male Psychology as a Problem to Be Fixed? Yep. For all the valid reasons why HR is a pain and a waste of money, they decided to go with ridiculously invalid ones. (I have too much awareness and experience to actually think HR as such is a waste of money, but at this point, my own HR department gives me a plethora of reasons to say that about them 🤣🤣🤣)	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/26 03:24 PM
4	Are We Treating Male Psychology as a Problem to Be Fixed? Thanks. It's a shame because thanks to you, this sub for once has an actual interesting debate topic rather than whining and trauma dumping. I tend to read, analyze and make sure I comprehend a message before I respond to it, focusing on what I think about the topic at hand rather than what I feel about it. Which, by the way, is a good example of a traditionally masculine trait all women and men definitely should work to obtain 🤣	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/26 03:18 PM
13	If “she’s using me for my resources” was a real problem, then dont pay for women on the first few dates. This! Woman, man, six legged alien from outer space - whoever you are, victim mindset and agency are mutually exclusive. Btw, as a leader with way too many years of experience, there really are no natural leaders. It's an acquired skill and you gotta work your ass off to acquire it - and once you do, you learn that you're never really there and need to continue working your ass off. Most people who think they're natural leaders make absolutely crap leaders. I learned that through having to fire …	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/26 03:12 PM
9	Are We Treating Male Psychology as a Problem to Be Fixed? I want to preface with saying that there are no masculine and feminine intellectual traits. There are traits more frequently observed in female individuals thus traditionally considered female and socially expected from women and more frequently observed in male individuals thus traditionally considered male and socially expected from men. We simplify that by saying "male"and "female" because nobody's got time to spew a word salad every single time they talk about these traits, but it doesn't MA…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/26 02:56 PM
3	This "treat me like a human" thing that women repeat is something men could say too. This "treat me like a human" thing that women repeat is something men could say too. "I want to feel like my date genuinely cares about me, wants to make me feel good, that he has an interest in me as a person, as opposed to seeing me as something to conquer". Cool. Valid. Sounds good. Of course it's valid for both genders. I would say that tons of men who lament how hard dating is feel the exact same way as these women.. I'd argue they might feel a bit different, but it's still a lousy feeling.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/26 12:31 PM
–	Question for Purple Pill: Purple/No Pill men and women — what criticism of your side (your gender) is weakest, and how could it be better? I’m asking you to evaluate the quality of criticism directed at the side closest to your own gender, and where that criticism is often weak or poorly mad If you are a woman (Purple/No Pill): What do you think are the biggest weaknesses in criticism of feminism — regardless of who the criticism comes from? This is a fun mental exercise given I am not a feminist (we're talking modern feminism, not the previous iterations of the movement) myself. So gotta play a bit of a devil's advocate here. …	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/26 10:39 AM
1	Almost all women in the developed world are dating men out of their league Where in the world do people fight in food courts? Asking for a friend.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/26 12:05 AM
0	CMV: “Join Hobbies” and “Expand Your Social Circle” Are very low-ROI Dating Strategies for Most Average Men I'd risk saying that using "ROI" in the context of dating points to a mindset of someone who probably shouldn't mate. But I agree, if you join hobby groups or try to expand your social circle for the sole purpose of finding a woman, that makes the mate chasing your entire personality, which comes across as desperate, boring and at least mildly creepy. No woman will set you up with her friend if the only significant part of your personality is your desire to meet women (unless her friend is equal…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/26 12:03 AM
2	Feminists will do all sorts of mental gymnastics to avoid admitting that women objectify themselves whenever it's convenient, and would rather demonize male sexuality instead. That's just pretty privilege in the works. People who look good are treated better by others. It doesn't matter if you're a man or a woman, young , old, if the context is dating, work, grocery shopping, talking yourself out of a speeding ticket, you name it. We're wired this way. All of us. It's good to be aware of it so one doesn't accidentally treat people worse than they deserve obviously.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/26 11:49 PM
2	How Can We Hold Space for Male Victims of Violence While Acknowledging Women’s Safety Concerns in Dating? Critique behaviors, systems, and norms... Not people’s inherent identity. Which is exactly why "toxic masculinity" is a toxic term. Because no matter how many lines of small print disclaimer you add underneath, the association has been made and the harm has been done. A really good rule is to replace "men"/"masculinity" or "women"/"femininity" with "Black"/"Asian"/"Jewish"/"homosexual". If it sounds wrong now, it's because it's been wrong all along. You can't say "men this" or "women that" and w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/26 04:48 PM
–	Many women use sex as a reward in dating and relationships. It is, unless you're 14. "Unconditional love" means "I love you without having any reason to, just because you exist". Parents will typically love their children even if their children do drugs, beat up old ladies at bus stops and show up at their doorstep demanding money for more drugs. Your dog will love you even if you keep hitting and kicking it. Children (the ones that don't beat up old ladies at bus stops) still love parents who failed at parenting, abused them and left them with trauma. I…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/26 03:41 PM
–	Many women use sex as a reward in dating and relationships. Unconditional love happens between parents and children. That's natural law. Everyone else, you love FOR something.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/26 02:51 PM
–	Many women use sex as a reward in dating and relationships. People are allowed a difference of opinions, so you get to pick. Listen to both and decide which one you agree with? Listen to the one you agree with? Don't listen to either? I'm not gonna tell you how to live my friend. On some level ALL human relationships are transactional at their very core in the sense that love (whatever form of it) is never unconditional. Maybe it's unconditional between parents and children, you typically love them even if they are absolute trash. All other people, partn…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/26 02:49 PM
–	Many women use sex as a reward in dating and relationships. It's hyperbolic. Quite sure she means it rather literally, given the broader context of her work. Unfortunately many women either acknowledge that it's transactional themselves or they act in a way that makes it transactional. This says a lot about these women's morals, nothing about female sexuality.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/26 01:20 PM
–	Many women use sex as a reward in dating and relationships. So how is it a pile of bs? She said all women, effectively implying female sexuality is inherently transactional, which is obviously incorrect.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/26 12:57 PM
–	Many women use sex as a reward in dating and relationships. Ok so Esther said a pile of bs, good job Esther. If we made a thread on reddit for every instance of people saying dumb shit, writing dumb books or having dumb ideas, the servers would overheat in minutes. Yes manipulative women absolutely exist. Whether you're a woman or a man, there's a chance that some people you meet aren't good people at all. You are better off keeping your standards reasonable and staying away from those people. You should never ever use sex, money, attention and similar a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/26 12:30 PM
1	Do women have a thing that they want to be the only one a man does it for? Promiscuous vs "never been a whore to any other man", pick one. Also, as much as evolutionary psychology matters, evolution is the survival of the fittest. Humans are driven by both nature and culture. The culture largely doesn't put a lot of pressure on premarital sexual abstinence, so men who are on a hunt for a virgin might not ever find one - and their genetic line ends with them, whatever you think and however you justify very manly and absolutely not fragile men being repulsed by the very …	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/26 12:15 PM
14	How Can We Hold Space for Male Victims of Violence While Acknowledging Women’s Safety Concerns in Dating? I am the last person to promote political correctness or catering to fragility, BUT the language matters. Masculinity (which is a characteristic of roughly 50% of the human population) is unproportionally more often mentioned in a negative context than femininity. Our gender is a core element of our identity. So portraying that very core characteristic as "toxic" doesn't exactly set the stage for a positive dialogue. It's a no brainer that if you start talking about men bad to men, the men will …	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/26 12:00 PM
1	The term "ran-though" needs to end. Ahh right! I somehow missed that, and there's some super interesting data there! Thanks. Lesbians still have the lowest acceptance level and the difference between lesbians and gay men is even bigger than between net total men and women. Both lesbians and gay men hike the acceptance level in the overall population, but gay men do it more. It's a shame there's no breakdown of bisexuals per gender. There are significantly more bisexual women than bisexual men, with roughly 1 bisexual man per 3 bis…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/26 09:07 AM
1	BP/Feminist society dishonestly pushes covert contracts on men when it benefits women and stigmatizes it when it benefits men. Whereas RP says to remove covert contracts entirely yet they are condemned for it. Wait it's a woman's fault that the guy couldn't be an adult? That's really good. I agree that by the time it's gotten to choreplay, she should have realized he is not a suitable partner and dumped him. But many women (and men!) will try to save relationships with people who aren't mature enough and considerate enough to build a happy life with, because despite their disappointment, the attachment makes them act irrationally.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/26 08:14 AM
-1	The term "ran-though" needs to end. Well the same study says 38% men are comfortable dating bi people, which is still a minority. Also it asked about preferred gender, so I assume it didn't exclude homosexual and bi people themselves. Lesbians are very well known for largely preferring other lesbians to bisexual women and it might hike the female non-acceptance score by a few percentage points. I don't want to call it biphobia, because having a preference is not phobic and no one owes us attraction. A lot of lesbians DO express pr…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/26 06:14 PM
4	BP/Feminist society dishonestly pushes covert contracts on men when it benefits women and stigmatizes it when it benefits men. Whereas RP says to remove covert contracts entirely yet they are condemned for it. That is not what choreplay is. It is the direct statement I would have sex with you if you did more chores. And when the person does more chores you still don't have sex with them and move the goal post. (Actually choreplay is a wordplay on foreplay indicating that having an equal share of household chores and seeing their men fully engaged in the logistics of daily life makes women hornier for them but it's an internet buzzword that has as many definitions as people using it, so we can go with …	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/26 05:47 PM
1	Sex is good for men and women to do Just because STDs are no longer fatal doesn't mean they're a breeze. While a night with Venus, a lifetime with Mercury no longer applies, not all STDs are curable and they do change your life - and your attractiveness as a potential partner. HIV treatment is lifelong and has side effects just like any other long term treatment out there. You will never go back to the exact same life you had before HIV. Sure your life expectancy is the same as healthy people's, but unlike healthy people you now n…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/26 04:30 PM
1	Why do women hate being mommy, to men? Wait, my man mopping the floors is my servant? My dude, he's just an adult adulting. He cleans so he doesn't have to cook, I cook so I don't have to clean. A huge part of harmonious cohabitation is splitting chores so that everyone does what they hate the least really. There absolutely are women who want to be mommies to men though. Google Big/little D/s dynamic. It's a perfectly valid kink and you will find plenty of women who are into that in pretty much any larger BSDM community.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/26 03:24 PM
–	What justification do you have that patriarchy is good considering what's going on? I gotta admit, this is based af	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/26 03:10 PM
2	Respect for men going down in modern society A dude calling himself an alpha male crying about women beating men up and taking their jobs really puts "dud" in "dude". Disclaimer for those who don't get sarcasm: Violence is obviously bad and has no gender - men fall victim to both physical and mental abuse at the hands of women, at a lower rate than the other way round, but statistics do not render any act of abuse insignificant. Abuse rightfully is a source of disgust - always for the perpetrators, never for the victims	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/26 03:08 PM
1	The term "ran-though" needs to end. I strongly disagree. I am very much for men using the term "ran-through", because it's an excellent indicator of them being unworthy of attention and unsuitable mates. It's the code word for "I am a product of thousands of years of genetic mishaps and should be removed from the population's gene pool, please don't breed with me for the sake of our species" They're doing God's work, let them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/26 02:57 PM
1	The term "ran-though" needs to end. Nah it just means he's a slut.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/26 02:53 PM
0	The term "ran-though" needs to end. As a woman, no. Actually a lot of us don't view bisexual as bad. Some of us view bisexual as super hot.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/26 02:51 PM
1	The term "ran-though" needs to end. I'm afraid the only person who gets away with yelling "ho ho ho" at everyone is Santa.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/26 02:50 PM
3	Do women have a thing that they want to be the only one a man does it for? I think men who want a woman who's never been a whore to any other man are either immature or insecure, so definitely not interesting prospect partners. I'm not talking about promiscuity - I think it's perfectly valid for any woman or man to reject a potential partner who has a history, especially recent, of sleeping around. I don't have anything that I'd like a man to never have done with anyone. I wouldn't accept a man whose mindset towards me was any different. And I believe for most women, s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/26 01:58 PM
1	BP/Feminist society dishonestly pushes covert contracts on men when it benefits women and stigmatizes it when it benefits men. Whereas RP says to remove covert contracts entirely yet they are condemned for it. BP/Feminist society dishonestly pushes covert contracts on men when it benefits women and stigmatizes it when it benefits men. Whereas RP says to remove covert contracts entirely yet they are condemned for it. If RP is so eager to push for removing covert contracts, they'd better act like it. Because most of the time, it really seems like they'd rather keep the ones that benefit men, just without the stigma. I agree with the covert contracts bad stance, but the examples you picked aren't great. …	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/26 01:30 PM
–	Dating older men (like 10 plus years older) is simply a bad deal for most women As in, not being a 50s housewife/husband? What the research tells us is that liberal people report lower levels of happiness compared to conservative people and that promiscuous people report lower levels of happiness than people with fewer partners. It doesn't tell us why, much less how to fix this. Drawing conclusions such as the research says liberal women are less happy than conservative women therefore male-led relationships are inherently better for women is incorrect. Theories are not fac…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/26 04:03 PM
2	Dating older men (like 10 plus years older) is simply a bad deal for most women I prefer a man who wants to be next to me, as an equal partner in a relationship where no one holds more power than the other, so that's the kind of man I am with. But to each their own.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/26 03:42 PM
-1	Dating older men (like 10 plus years older) is simply a bad deal for most women Go on, correct me then?	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/26 03:27 PM
1	Dating older men (like 10 plus years older) is simply a bad deal for most women "denied the opportunity to engage in" means - you want to throw a chick in jail for fuckin a guy? I think they are going to heroically deny the horny female hordes access to their bodies. Saving themselves for Jesus or something. Not today, succubus what even is a "traditional male led relationship" - are we talking 1950s, 1600s, Bronze Age, cavemen? I think that to these people "traditional" means "sub-dom relationship but we pretend it's not a kink". Like that one tradwife that wears a day col…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/26 03:26 PM
–	Relationships are transactional Splitting household chores is basic adulting not a transaction. Also, everything is transactional. There's no such thing as unconditional love, unless it's between parents and children. You love someone for what they are and how they make you feel. Love is earned and people stay in relationships of any kind because they are happier in them than without them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/26 03:19 PM
1	Why is "feeling like a dancing monkey" so triggering for you? What does "feeling like a dancing monkey" even mean and why would women feel triggered by that?	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/26 02:54 PM
5	Your Opinion on Shrek being a Cautionary Tale? It's a flippin' fairytale. If we must see kids' movies through a female well-being perspective though, it's about choosing what's right for you, prioritising genuine connections over superficial beauty and politely yet firmly requesting society to roll its expectations nice and tight and stick them where the sun don't shine. Which, I believe, is a very healthy message to young girls (and boys). Also, in a movie where there's a donkey mating with a dragon it's two ogres you choose to care about? …	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/26 02:50 PM
4	Dating older men (like 10 plus years older) is simply a bad deal for most women I can bet the response you're going to get is something along these lines: You don't see it, because you need a red pill to see it, and since you haven't taken the red pill, you can't see it, which proves the red pill is right🤣🤣🤣	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/26 02:35 PM
1	Q4W: I was surprised by all the misandry I see in this sub. Where do you think women learn to be misandrists. If you are personally misandrist, where did you learn it? How can women unlearn it? Because some people lack intelligence, critical thinking skills or integrity - or any combination of the three. Having had a bad experience with a person from a certain group doesn't seem to give people the right to spread hateful stereotypes about said group... unless it's gender, then it magically becomes a commendable act and your respective bubble will applaud you. If you've been robbed at gunpoint by a Black person, even though it traumatized you deeply, you don't get a free pass at racism.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/26 02:29 PM
3	Dating older men (like 10 plus years older) is simply a bad deal for most women I have people in agr, older woman younger man, in my family. And they are very happy	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/26 12:46 PM
4	Dating older men (like 10 plus years older) is simply a bad deal for most women You loving them is why they are your spouse in the first place.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/26 12:34 PM
-1	Dating older men (like 10 plus years older) is simply a bad deal for most women I know right! Then again..If you unironically choose to identify with a pill to describe your views, there's obviously something wrong with you imo. So I'm not surprised. I have an age gap relationship myself. We just fell in love and decided to be together. This is not a unique scenario. That's how relationships work out there in the real world. People meet, fall in love, choose to be together - and keep choosing each other every day.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/26 12:31 PM
4	Dating older men (like 10 plus years older) is simply a bad deal for most women So one woman writing dumb stuff on the internet is somehow representative of what all women think? If that was true with men, most ladies would choose celibacy after scrolling through this subreddit lmao.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/26 10:42 AM
55	Dating older men (like 10 plus years older) is simply a bad deal for most women There's this silly thing called love that makes women and men care for their partners in sickness and in health. Accidents happen, serious illnesses happen. There's a higher risk that you will have to take care of the older partner, but there's also a risk that they will have to take care of you. Many people are fully independent well into their 80s. Some people lose their independence before they hit 35. The probability of them needing your help in the future being higher doesn't mean there's n…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/26 10:39 AM
1	GenZ women's "icks" are just a manifestation of their innate preference for rigid gender roles and archetypes. The only question is, why would any man want a woman like that? Like, dammit can't have dessert anymore ever but at least I'm shaggin'? If you have to choose between cake and a woman (or man), you should always choose the cake.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/26 08:20 AM
3	Casual sex is the only way to know you are desirable as a man. Past behaviors predict future actions. People who have a lot of hookups are attractive hook up partners. They're not the same people one wants a relationship with. That's why women say they wouldn't hook up with their boyfriend/husband. Because they can't see themselves treating that man as a one time thing. Posts like this must come from men who don't know how it feels to be desired by a woman who loves them. It's perfectly ok to not want to experience that though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/26 07:44 AM
–	An observation on "tacticts", and a question, mainly for women. Exactly	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/02/26 01:20 AM
1	Should you seek infatuation when dating? I don't think "horny" equals "infatuated".	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/02/26 01:13 AM
1	Should you seek infatuation when dating? I think expecting infatuation from anyone early on is entirely unreasonable unless you're both teenagers.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/02/26 09:32 AM
–	If your world view has basically no scientific backing, you are probably wrong. like, literally, show anything scientific proving a blue pill point, you cant Bruh https://www.apa.org/topics/personality/men-women-difference# And here's something scientific proving a red pill point: https://stanmed.stanford.edu/how-mens-and-womens-brains-are-different/ Point is, if you're gullible enough, you will believe any point "proven" by cherry-picked research. Reality is complex and multifaceted and many (if not most) correct answers are nuanced and not simple at all. What pills and ot…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/02/26 09:16 AM
1	Are woman's lives nowadays more stressful than in the past or in some ways worse than in the past? I think all times have their challenges, but all things considered, this is the best time to be alive, woman or man, unless you're in the likes of North Korea, Afghanistan or Iran. I absolutely prefer to compete with men for jobs than to depend on one for all my financial needs- not because men aren't dependable enough, but because I value independence. I'm not a man, but I'm pretty sure having to vacuum, take out the trash, cook and do the dishes half of the time is a lot less stressful than kn…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/02/26 05:10 PM
1	Women do not understand deductive reasoning If women don't understand deductive reasoning, then OP must agree that men don't understand the difference between an opinion and a fact as well as draw causation from correlation xD (For the record, I absolutely think that the ability to understand and apply logic is not a gendered trait, however most education systems in existence have failed most generations alive today by not providing the necessary foundations). OP claims red pill bases on the observable reality, but fails to notice the mom…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/02/26 04:55 PM
2	Your values and goals affect your type and who you surround yourself with. I just discussed a similar topic in another thread. Hard agree here. You are responsible for whom you (actively choose to) surround yourself with and if there's a mismatch between your expectations and your outwardly expressed values, that's your problem to fix. I think a lot of people say they don't have a type meaning physical appearance. That, I think, can absolutely be true - people might have some slight preferences but end up prioritizing what's more important in terms of compatibility.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/02/26 02:51 PM
1	Question for Women: If I can guarantee to you that all future hookup experiences will be like the typical male hookup experience, would you sleep around more? Exactly the same - not open at all. I do not not hook up with people because I don't feel safe - the vast majority of men are not abusive, and I could also just choose to hook up with women (which, by the way, isn't all that safe either - but that's a whole different topic). Being exclusive to my partners whom I deeply love and don't plan on ever leaving aside, I wouldn't do it because of the STI risk. I won't risk a lifetime of medication for a few hours (if I'm lucky) of a (most likely) medioc…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/02/26 01:23 PM
1	Women have a much bigger problem accepting when a men is not dominant, then men accepting when a women is not submissive But i can’t help to notice a contradiction in your overall assessment. That's not contradictory, mathematically speaking. "Most" doesn't mean "all". Two things can be true at the same time: most people know what they want, the minority that doesn't know is still a lot of people. That said, I'm nearing my 40s and the youngest person in my friend group is 27. I might be seeing the world differently than someone who is much younger or much older than I am. I'm not quite sure if it's "moral" consist…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/02/26 01:04 PM
–	What's One Thing you Like About the Opposite Sex I'm bisexual, there's A LOT I like about the opposite sex. I just genuinely like men. And women. On average, men tend to be more genuine and straightforward. As a person who has no filter, I dig that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/02/26 04:22 PM
1	Women have a much bigger problem accepting when a men is not dominant, then men accepting when a women is not submissive Many people are just dumb and can't decide what they want. In smarter sounding terms: the intellectual and emotional shifts that would have been a logical consequence of the rapid social and economic changes characteristic to the 20th and early 21st century have not occurred in a large portion of the population, leading to a mismatch between expressed values and internalized expectations that guide attraction and dating behaviors. Cliche: People change slower than the times So, a lot of men want…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/02/26 04:13 PM
2	Women have a much bigger problem accepting when a men is not dominant, then men accepting when a women is not submissive As a woman (who's center-right politically, definitely not "woke" and firmly refuses to have anything to do with modern feminism, if that matters) who happens to be very attracted to masculinity, I have absolutely ZERO issues with my man being bisexual, not dominant, shorter or earning less than I do. In fact, a man posing as "dominant" is an instant pass for me as it's an indicator of someone being potentially very boring - intellectually and sexually. Btw, personality types A and B are very ou…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/02/26 02:29 PM
2	How much do/can a woman who says they hate men or complain about men as a whole or say they’re anti “man” actually like or care about their male friends As a woman, I would never befriend a person who claims to hate women. It's basic self respect. I don't expect men to be any different in that regard.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/02/26 02:17 PM
1	How much do/can a woman who says they hate men or complain about men as a whole or say they’re anti “man” actually like or care about their male friends How much do racists care about their black friends? How much do vegans care about the quality of steak at the local restaurant? How much do homophobes care about their gay neighbors? -"I hate (people sharing your characteristic)" -omg can we be friends? No, no you can't.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/02/26 02:08 PM
5	Men Shouldn't Complain About Being Locked out of Casual Sex if They Think it's bad for Women Nobody should complain about being "locked out" of casual sex because no one owes them casual sex.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/02/26 01:57 PM
–	Do you think you are good at recognizing other women's enjoyment in erotic content? Arbitrarily classifying female expression as exaggeration absolutely IS policing. She's not loud because that's her natural expression, she's loud because she's brainwashed into screaming in bed by male-centered pornography business. I know a lot of modern feminists love classifying every single thing a woman does as a result of generational trauma/partiarchal oppression, but by doing so they decline women the very thing that the actual feminists fought for decades ago - agency. If men watch por…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/26 11:31 PM
2	Do you think you are good at recognizing other women's enjoyment in erotic content? Wait so we're policing women's reactions now? Is this the new thing? Like, sorry Brenda, that was 50% too much moaning for the fifteen minutes of oral you got last night, and we will unfortunately not be seeing each other again as I cannot take this level of performative male gaze-oriented expression of pleasure in this lesbian relationship. Or do you have a Goth-given superpower of identifying the precise moment when a woman starts thinking I haven't made a sound in the past 5.25 seconds, there…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/02/26 05:17 PM
1	People say “demisexual” when they’re really describing the normal sexuality of a typical female To be honest, unless I met some very strange men in my life, "demisexual" applies to many if not most of them as well. People unironically using "demisexual" make it seem like the rest of the human population just proceeds to shagging right after shaking hands and introducing themselves	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/02/26 03:04 PM
–	I disagree with "there is someone out there for everybody" Unless you're in China or India (where there's a clear surplus of men in the society due to selective abortions and female infanticide), how exactly would that work? If there's someone out there for every (straight) woman there must be someone out there for every (straight) man, unless a man has multiple long term female partners, which is not the standard in most cultures.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/02/26 02:41 PM
–	Sexpat destinations are going to disappear as countries become more developed. If it's Japan, it's quite racist against everyone. Like good luck being a Korean in Japan 🤷🏻‍♂️ My Japanese grammar textbook for non-Japanese adults had instructions on how to use a toilet, pictures and all. I shit you not.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/02/26 12:16 PM
2	Most women in "open" relationships would instantly break up if their husbands or boyfriends slept with another man. Not sure why this is such a joke to you. Would you rather I cried about it? I am bisexual, I have experienced both bifobia and homophobia. Oh and misogyny because I am a woman. So what? People experience unfair/unpleasant treatment for all kinds of reasons all the time, and putting things into perspective, the vast majority of people I ever interacted with didn't give a flying duck about my sexuality and the vast majority of people I ever met did not disrespect me nor consider me inferior on the…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/02/26 12:09 PM
–	Sexpat destinations are going to disappear as countries become more developed. Even Hitler didn't find East Asians to be an inferior race, so honestly the bar couldn't be any lower, like you literally have to crawl to go under it 🙄 I don't think we can actually escape ethnocentrism altogether. All cultures are guilty of it, because it's a very human thing to prefer something that's familiar. And most of the time it's neither hateful nor malicious. But it's a good idea to fact check before one repeats and/or internalizes opinions they found on the internet.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/02/26 08:38 AM
–	Sexpat destinations are going to disappear as countries become more developed. In 1700s women would even paint veins on their cleavage to make themselves appear paler 🤣	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/02/26 08:11 AM
5	Most women in "open" relationships would instantly break up if their husbands or boyfriends slept with another man. Thank you for this. It makes me realize I need to do better. Should I lick the taco more frequently to make it clear I'm always siding with the oppressed? Or would it be performative? Will making sure the hot dog has plenty of ketchup on it be a clear enough signal on where I stand on the topic of patriarchy?	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/26 11:30 PM
–	Sexpat destinations are going to disappear as countries become more developed. My aunt was obviously just an example of what was going on in white people's minds throughout the 90s. And it was not just one nation, it was dozens. Trust me, it wasn't pretty to look at. European people come in various shapes and shades, and so do Asian people. Place an average Italian next to an average Scandinavian and it will be painfully obvious who evolved to take more sunlight and who evolved to blend in with the snow. You have the same level of variety in East Asia. People erase predomi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/26 05:53 PM
–	Sexpat destinations are going to disappear as countries become more developed. So my aunt who went to the tanning salon every week in the 90s was a black worshipper? She's luckily alive and well and has stopped with this nonsense. Also, fair skin with pink undertones has very much been a beauty standard for millennia in these cultures. Your average Japanese is no darker than your average European. The very idea that something they've been doing for thousands of years now magically started being done for a completely different reason is hilarious. Also before this comes up,…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/26 04:10 PM
5	Sexpat destinations are going to disappear as countries become more developed. No it's not, you just want it to be for some reason.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/26 04:00 PM
3	Most women in "open" relationships would instantly break up if their husbands or boyfriends slept with another man. or femme gay men is the femininity that they present, that that isn’t inherently gay. So being gay is not inherently gay? If you're a man and only into flamboyantly fabulous dudes whose everyday is glitter, glam and feathers, you're not gay but straight-adjacent? Vagina Exclusionary Radically Male Straight, clan Verms? While I see where you're going with this argument and I don't disagree with the direction as such, I think it makes absolutely no sense to try and arbitrarily place being attracte…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/26 03:58 PM
5	Most women in "open" relationships would instantly break up if their husbands or boyfriends slept with another man. Goth almighty, where's biology 1-0-1 when you need it? Sex cannot be changed. They can undergo procedures that make them look like members of the opposite sex. Which I have no problem with and fully respect - transphobia is morally ugly and scientifically unsupported. Two things can be true at the same time: 1. Biology is real 2. Calling a straight trans man "a lesbian on steroids" is a good indicator of being an absolute unit of a dimwit. We all know transphobia isn't nice, but biological denia…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/26 02:58 PM
7	Most women in "open" relationships would instantly break up if their husbands or boyfriends slept with another man. As a bisexual, I am both the oppressor and the oppressed I guess 🤣	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/26 02:27 PM
6	Most women in "open" relationships would instantly break up if their husbands or boyfriends slept with another man. As an actual woman, what icks me out is a man basing his sense of masculinity on whether or not he lets himself be topped. Imagine defining your identity specifically through what you like doing in the bedroom. It's a bizarre criterion and makes about as much sense as "real men don't wash their ass" or "real men would rather see the skin on their hands crack and bleed than use moisturizer" or "real men don't drink tea- they chew the leaves and wash down with boiling water while taking a break fr…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/26 02:24 PM
3	Most women in "open" relationships would instantly break up if their husbands or boyfriends slept with another man. My man is very straight but if he suddenly came home saying he wants to sleep with another man, would I leave? Hell no. Would I suggest I'd love to watch? Hell yes. I don't know what depths of human imagination OP sourced this opinion from, but as a woman actually living the polyamorous lifestyle - this is bs.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/26 01:48 PM
2	Sexpat destinations are going to disappear as countries become more developed. I think that sex tourists and "sexpats" are two different groups, driven by different goals and needs. As a sex tourist, you are looking for sex with locals, often as a part of direct or indirect monetary exchange. As a "sexpat" or "passport bro" you are more likely to be looking for a committed relationship. In both groups there might be people looking to exploit others, as well as people with more genuine intentions, which is why I think forming strict moral judgements on the matter is wrong. …	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/26 12:44 PM
18	Sexpat destinations are going to disappear as countries become more developed. "Fair skin" and "white" are two entirely different beauty standards. It's hilarious how people think that Koreans are having some sort of race dysphoria 🤣 East Asia values fair skin the same way a lot of predominantly white countries value tanned skin. An European lady frying herself crispy in a tanning bed is not trying to look like a brown lady, she just wants that golden tan - too bad it sometimes comes with complimentary melanoma. Sure white people are exotic and attractive to some East Asia…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/26 10:36 AM