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You are right about everything. I distract myself from the most important issue (not being fat), by faffing around with other shit - because it makes me feel good and I avoid the hard work. You even pretend criticize yourself without actually feeling embarassed about your failure. How are you seeng this from what I write? This is extremely on point. I like to talk/write a lot of shit to make me feel good, but not taking responsibility. Fuck.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/23 06:36 PM
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This was extremely on point. I soothe myself with alcohol, jerking, food (I already know this) and criticism (this is a new one). I've read NMMNG twice, but never really identified with the "toxic shame" - mostly because it's all about a bad childhood, which I never had. But I absolutely have shame about my current life. Including debt (similar to your issue), a messy house, lack of leadership, anger towards wife & children (which is anger at myself), criticism (as mentioned), and man - there's …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/23 06:28 PM
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If it helps - I'm drinking right now. 2nd time this week. I'm gonna.. not. For the rest of the week. But I agree, this is mainly a soothing exercise. The comment from AdSpecial8620 describes my surprisingly well..
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/23 06:23 PM
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Shit, forgot about the spreadsheet - thanks for the reminder. Hehe.. not gonna do that. I explicitly called this "the ultimate covert contract" in another OYS when I mentioned it. It absolutely is, but it's also something that scares me - so I'm gonna do it. There's gonna be a lot of shit tests/LMR/ASD etc, but that's what I need to conquer. Whatever happens, I'll write about in future OYS and you guys can have a laugh about it.. and maybe I'll learn something.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/23 06:21 PM
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Because it distracts me from what's important, and that feels better. But it doesn't really help me actually reach my goals.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/23 06:18 PM
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Because it distracts me from what's important, and that feels better. But it doesn't really help me actually reach my goals.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/12/23 06:17 PM
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OYS #9 Stats 40, married 10yrs, together 15yrs, two kids under 10yrs old. 5’11”, 229lbs (-0 this week, -7 since OYS1) Current 5RMs: DL 200, SQ 188, BP 173, OHP 115 Last week: DL 253, SQ 192, BP 170, OHP 129 Mission/purpose Be the ripped mayor, live my life as I want. Contribute to healthy masculinity in our society. Goals (shortened, see OYS1 for S.M.A.R.T. details) • Get in the best shape of my life by summer 2024 (~175lbs and ~10% BF) • Use my time for productive actions, don’t use it for non-…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/23 09:32 AM
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Call it what you will, I've deleted and recovered my porn accounts multiple times because I haven't been able to fucking control myself. I've been missing deadlines and putting off work that needs to be done because I continue to choose porn over productivity This is me. I've literally lost a job because I watched too much porn/jerked. I've also left early to jerk it after getting horny at work. Let me know when you find a solution to this... My wife also knows about my porn use (see last week's…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/23 05:54 PM
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It's probably in one of your 57 other OYSes - but I want to ask: why are you divorcing? It comes as no surprise that "divorce dread" really is the ultimate dread. And what she's doing is hysterical bonding. I'm your age and similar family situation, but no divorce on the horizon. I'm asking in the "sharing notes" aspect, to see if there are any similarities.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/23 05:41 PM
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Hehe, that's pretty clear. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/23 05:23 PM
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Some of my wife's behavior is annoying the fuck out of me and has done so for years. Criticism has not improved it one bit. So you just STFU? And/or show by example? I guess Tines0 "lead, delegate and praise" is the answer.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/23 04:46 PM
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Chicks hate it because it infers they're responsible and failed I hate this. It's one of the bitterest parts of accepting TRP/MRP principles. And it doesn't make logically sense as my wife is very responsible both at home and in the workplace. But I know this is about sexual strategy/attraction, and logic doesn't have any say in this.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/23 04:43 PM
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Never praising good behavior is a subtle punishment. This is absolutely an issue in our relationship. I do praise from time to time, but it gets drowned out by all the criticism. How do you think all these things are connected? My (lack of) leadership. That's the glaring issue, but I bet there's more - do you have any thoughts? My ego causes many blind spots in seeing my own bullshit..
/r/MarriedRedPill22/11/23 04:41 PM
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• Being less critical of her This is interesting. The whole comment, but especially this. I do some ruminating about this specific thing in my own OYS this week.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/23 07:23 PM
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but it might just be easier to start new without all this beta baggage You're at OYS2. Don't blow it all up yet. I also really need to improve my SMV. Then do it. Make a plan and follow it. Set goals and a timeline. Read these two posts: https://theredarchive.com/redirect?l=/r/marriedredpill/comments/ab7vt5/validation_needs_that_can_poison_your_sex_life/ https://theredarchive.com/r/MarriedRedPill/timeline-escaping-sex-for-validation-and-quitting.739017 And really absorb it, it will describe your…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/23 05:57 PM
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PE is 90% mental. Read SGM if you haven't. Focus on the mental aspect, for you and your wife. Figure out what actually turns you on and use it.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/23 05:52 PM
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I am placing my self at the centre of my life, no more false idols Good fucking OYS. What do you mean by the above quote? As it seems to have seeped into both your personal and work life.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/23 05:44 PM
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This is like reading a more retarded version of my own OYS. Why are you at OYS16 and have not figured out your issues with drinking? Why do you search for dopamine hits? Why do you only list DL in your lifts? Fingernail biting? Really? To be clear, I'm not really asking why - it doesn't matter. Stop doing it. You need to make a decision. There will never be a grand purpose/reason unless you actually want it (divorce?), so you must make the decision for yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/23 05:42 PM
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OYS #8 Stats 40, married 10yrs, together 15yrs, two kids under 10yrs old. 5’11”, 229lbs (-0 this week, -7 since OYS1) Current 5RMs: DL 253, SQ 192, BP 170, OHP 129 Last week: DL 242, SQ 187, BP 160, OHP 126 Mission/purpose Be the ripped mayor, live my life as I want.Contribute to healthy masculinity in our society. Goals (shortened, see OYS1 for S.M.A.R.T. details) • Get in the best shape of my life by summer 2024 (~175lbs and ~10% BF) • Use my time for productive actions, don’t use it for non-p…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/23 04:10 PM
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It takes time to change your mind. This seems to be my hardest battle at the moment.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/23 06:02 PM
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Squat: 230 x 5, DL: 245 x 5, Bench: 135 x 12, Press 65 x 12 Are you a Tyrannosaurus Rex? If not, fix this. What do I do? Do I stay and run an actual MAP that’s aimed at making me better and whatever happens happens? Yes. That is what you do. The stay plan is the go plan, as you know. Set concrete goals and a timeline. In a way I envy you. You have hit rock bottom. That means you're dangerous - you have nothing left to lose.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/23 09:21 AM
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OYS #7 Stats 40, married 10yrs, together 15yrs, two kids under 10yrs old. 5’11”, 229lbs (+4 this week, -7 since OYS1) Current 5RMs: DL 242, SQ 187, BP 160, OHP 126 Last week: DL 220, SQ 175, BP 155, OHP 121 Mission/purpose Be the ripped mayor, live my life as I want. Contribute to healthy masculinity in our society. Goals (shortened, see OYS1 for S.M.A.R.T. details) • Get in the best shape of my life by summer 2024 (~175lbs and ~10% BF) • Use my time for productive actions, don’t use it for non-…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/11/23 08:34 AM
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I remember that post, reading it again. My end goal is indeed a man who fucks and doesn't need to fuck his hand. Time to act like it.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/23 04:49 PM
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The jerking doesn't have the same immediate consequences as overeating/drinking. Not completely true, but in my head it makes sense. So I rationalize that since I'm still having sex 1-3 times a week, quality is improving (barely..), what harm can a little jerking do? And I literally don't know. I don't know the experience of NOT jerking off - so I don't know the positive effects. I've read about it and heard about it from guys here, but it's still too far away to trigger an actual need/decision …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/11/23 03:54 PM
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OYS #6 Stats 40, married 10yrs, together 15yrs, two kids under 10yrs old. 5’11”, 225lbs (-0 this week, -11 since OYS1) Current 5RMs: DL 220, SQ 175, BP 155, OHP 121 Last week: DL 210, SQ 155, BP 143, OHP 118 Mission/purpose Be the ripped mayor, live my life as I want. Contribute to healthy masculinity in our fucked up society. Goals (shortened, see OYS1 for S.M.A.R.T. details) • Get in the best shape of my life by summer 2024 (~175lbs and ~10% BF) • Use my time for productive actions, don’t use …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/11/23 11:54 AM
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Fun, yet retarded. It's kind of my thing. To be clear, I printed out the excel sheet. Otherwise it would've been - ahem - weird. It even had some pictures of hot chicks in leggings for some cellulose-based dread, as it were.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/23 03:52 PM
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I'm weighing myself post-piss, naked every Saturday, so the routine is OK. I'm ~10lbs down since OYS1, so it's so far on track. stop excusing yourself for not meeting your goals. I do this with everything. "Well, I didn't reach my goal, but at least I had enough self-reflection to admit it". It's a shit habit and must stop.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/23 05:08 AM
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I do enjoy me some feelings, apparently. I was asking more about what made the difference for you - why did it stick this time, as you mentioned you had severel setbacks before it stuck. As you say, I really don't need any more reasons. I know what I want, so that is what my actions must reflect.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/23 05:01 AM
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Finally stopped when I realised I would never respect myself if I kept doing it. What did this look like mentally? What triggered this realization and why did it stick? You mentioned doing something else when the urge hits, which is a good tip.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/23 12:08 PM
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Porn is a problem. Had a good 10+ days or so after OYS1, but it has crept back in. I absolutely should just stop both. Practiced 5/7 days approx 30mins. But yeah, my actions should reflect what I say are my priorioties - that goes for several areas.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/23 11:52 AM
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Hmm, you're right. Even fits the "I=comfort, you=shit test" pattern. Don't know why I didn't pick that up. I'm totally drawing a blank here - how would a good pass of this comfort test look like?
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/23 11:50 AM
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OYS #5 Stats 40, married 10yrs, together 15yrs, two kids under 10yrs old. 5’11”, 225lbs (+4) Current 5RMs: DL 210, SQ 155, BP 143, OHP 118 Last week: DL 200, SQ 143, BP 138, OHP 115 Mission/purpose Be the ripped mayor, live my life as I want. Contribute to healthy masculinity in our fucked up society. Goals (shortened, see OYS1 for S.M.A.R.T. details) • Get in the best shape of my life by summer 2024 (~175lbs and ~10% BF) • Use my time for productive actions, don’t use it for non-productive acti…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/23 08:56 AM
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#1 - is it really? I calculated it broadly and I should be able to reach it in about 6mos and gave myself a 3mo buffer. Regarding "too far", It kinda is - so I have set sub-goals for each 10lb down in Habitica. #2 True, made a bit more sense with the full version: * Get in the best shape of my life by summer 2024 (~175lbs and ~10% BF) * Strength training 3 times a week * Cardio 3 times a week * At least 5000kcal deficit weekly (tracking in MFP) * Max 2 beers a week * Use my time for productive a…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/23 05:46 AM
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You want mommy to have your baby so you can trap her in the relationship even further. What a puss fucking move, but I hope you can see it. Maybe even to "care" for her while pregnant for some beta brownie points. It's probably pretty deep fucked up shit. I don't think this is true, but my ego has covered over so much shit I can't rule it out. Anger is a great diagnostic tool to show you your bullshit. I was right though, wasn't I? First, it was insulting. Why do I care about a internet guy insu…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/10/23 07:02 AM
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You're not really going to do anything about this. You're just mentally masturbating because you're angry you're a fat fuck All true. that only gets laid once a week because mommy finally touches his peepee. This triggers me endlessly - I want to DEER so hard right now. I'm gonna... not. Wanting to impregnate someone to assert yourself. It's the ultimate assertive power move. WISNIFG really dropped the ball on not including it. I'm 90% sure this is a really weird, fucked up covert contract. "Hav…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/23 05:04 PM
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Both, ideally. But I think this is a fucked up covert contract.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/23 04:59 PM
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Fatness coming down, 15lbs so far. A lot of truths in your other points.. I suspect this is all a weird covert contract. Makes sense which women would want to have kids with someone who is gonna die from heart attack from obesity well in his 40s I avoid she-statements mostly, but can include some here - she actually said the following: "I want to sleep in the same bed" - she has been sleeping on the couch for 8 years due to my snoring (because of fatness). This is basically her saying "stop bein…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/23 04:59 PM
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OYS #4 Stats 40, married 10yrs, together 15yrs, two kids under 10yrs old. 5’11”, 221lbs (-5) Current 5RMs: DL 200, SQ 143, BP 138, OHP 115 Last week: DL 175, SQ 130, BP 130, OHP 110 Goals (shortened, see OYS1 for details) • Get in the best shape of my life by summer 2024 (~175lbs and ~10% BF) • Use my time for productive actions, don’t use it for non-productive actions • Get good at guitar Why am I here • Gargantuan ego blinding me to my weaknesses • Extreme fatness • Out of control porn use • T…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/23 08:32 AM
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This was very useful to read. But man, you write a lot of words ;) I'm gonna do some stuff now. Work out, actually.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/23 07:08 AM
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I'm really hitting all the squares in retard bingo.. I'll STFU and listen+do.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/23 06:32 AM
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I'm trying here, /u/_RPeed. I'm on OYS 3, so it is to be expected I'm gonna suck a bit at first. I have observed that people don't really like Goggins, but what's your point regarding Jesus and the Punisher? Regardsless, if I get banned, I'm still gonna write my OYSes each week.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/23 04:21 PM
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You are deluding yourself that people are listening to you. They aren’t. This is fucking hard to accept. I get your point, but this is not the reality I live in. Due to my position at work, people listen simply due to my formal power. Also because I know what the fuck I'm talking about. What happens at home? I have some formal power because I have built it up over the years. But if I fuck up? All that history of previous actions doesn't matter. I have skimmed Dale Carnegie's How to make friends …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/23 04:07 PM
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Admission time. I only read WISNIFG about 50% through. Man, that book is a slog. I think a lot. And write a lot (see comment to /u/Indubios1. And for some reason, I believe that all this thinking compensates for my missing actions... I know it doesnt't, but man, that feeling is strong. But about anxiety - why do I (as a male) feel so anxious? Is it all just beta shit? I remember situatations before with my wife, where I anticipated some shit tests from her, and my pulse literally raised noticeab…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/23 04:04 PM
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Can't Hurt Me is on my Kindle, haven't read it yet. I'd absolutely appreciate if you elaborate. I'm in this to succeed, and getting external perspective on my own bullshit is surprisingly useful. As mentioned in another comment, the simple act of writing out all my thoughts and reflections really helps in identifying where I suck and where I'm OK. Getting other people's input helps even more. Although - as you can see from this very comment, (and as identified by /u/_RPeed, /u/HornsOfApathy and …
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/23 03:28 PM
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Fuck it, let's go. I'm absolutely not in a position to create a lot of high quality dread, but I'll accept the challenges given to me.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/10/23 03:15 PM
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After reading this: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/bh8xko/confronting_the_need_for_validation/ Your point about "Also notice your need to call him out / defend" hits different. Maybe I'm not so clever after all..
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/23 03:40 PM
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The trickiest thing here is finding the root cause of my reaction. I thought that I genuinely wondered about why I am (so) anxious. But was it actually just another soothing exercise because I got anxious about the very fact I got called out about being anxious? Or maybe I just think/write too much. It's probably that. Acta non verba, someone said.. All this being said - thinking/writing this out is surprisingly useful to me. I've never kept a journal. Maybe I should, and then just have the OYS …
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/23 03:34 PM
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These three paragraphs basically describe my main issues and how to do something about it.. Guess I could learn something from using less words. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/23 03:23 PM
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I... get it (I think). I care too much. Because I care so much about validation. And I seek it, everywhere I go.. Found this old post: https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/bh8xko/confronting_the_need_for_validation/ Eerily accurate.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/23 02:33 PM
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Fuck, this is good - explains so much of my behaviour. I'm gonna think on it, and then describe some actions to address this in next OYS. The big question seems to be - why am I so anxious?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/23 05:04 PM
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Just STFU. This works well in private/family relations, but not at work. And the rambling/using too many words to get my point across is mainly a problem at work (I think). But your point remains: "bite back one explanation". That works. The reason you struggle to is the same reason you can’t stop drinking or eating or whatever it was: you don’t like discomfort. This is absolutely the core reason of many of my issues. I know this and make good efforts in some parts of my life (jogging: it's fuck…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/23 04:28 PM
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I get the point. But how? How do i change my core values? I know the answer is combination of "man up", "have some self-discipline" etc. But "change your mindset" and "change your core values" might as well be the same as saying "stop being depressed" to a depressed person. Some of the things you're mentioning is about habit building. And I have recently made some good changes here. So I guess it's about continuing that habit of building good habits, and incrementally improve (RPeed touches on t…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/23 04:13 PM
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Humour is a very masculine quality imo. Stop it. The validation I get from this comment is off the fucking charts. I tell myself I don't need external validation, but is it OK to like it? ego stroking and self-flagellation These are exactly the same thing. Well, one things feels good - the other doesn't (unless you're into that). But I get the point - ego stroking might as well be self-inflicted pain, as the result of both is pain, it's just the timelines that are different.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/23 04:07 PM
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He is letting you do the work, because a) he's a random internet stranger who owes you nothing and b) it works better if you figure it out yourself. Fully agree. However, the reason I probe or ask follow-up questions is usually (not this time) because I didn't understand the original point. Also notice your need to call him out / defend This was genuinely a joke/attempt at humor - and it seems it landed okay for RPeed himself. Putting down people who make an effort to help is not my thing. The "…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/23 04:03 PM
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Yeah... that's the same link. Which seems to me Mr. Pee is communicating covertly (much like women) to point out I need to read it properly and actually change my actions to reflect the content in the post. It's a good post. I'll do better next time. The balance between ego stroking and self-flagellation is not that easy, I find.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 04:48 PM
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I am passing a lot, but realize there's still some I fail. I want to improve here and not let my ego tell me I'm doing well when I'm not. I will continue initating and aim for 2-3 fucks a week. I write a lot of words, some have called it rambling/DEER. I do this in real life too - use too many words to get my point across. Don't really know how to improve yet - other than knowing I need to improve.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 04:45 PM
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No. I mean, yes - it's because I make the wrong choices. But the underlying reasons are not that clear. I noted in OYS1 that "delayed gratification is apparently an unknown concept to me". For some reason, this has gotten worse over the years. I lost ~50lbs some years back, but haven't been able to do it since. It all comes down to choices as you say - and apparently I'm deliberately not making the choices resulting in what I actually want. Thanks for the feedback. Guess I should finish Extreme …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 04:43 PM
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Yeah... some negative self-talk here. Guess I'm overcorrecting for my ego stroking my dick for so many years.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 11:36 AM
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Posted from phone at dentist’s office. Will edit formatting when home.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 08:32 AM
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OYS #3 (Last OYS, OYS1) Stats 40, married 10yrs, together 15yrs, two kids under 10yrs old. 5’11”, 226lbs (-0) Current 5RMs: DL 175, SQ 130, BP 130, OHP 110 Last week: DL 165, SQ 110, BP 120, OHP 105 Mission Deferring this to later. Currently my main goals are to not be fat, reduce alcohol usage drastically and no more porn. Goals (shortened, see OYS1 for details) • Get in the best shape of my life by summer 2024 (~175lbs and ~10% BF) • Use my time for productive actions • Get good at guitar Why …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 08:31 AM
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I actually thought "hm, I could sneak in a Clinton comparison here" while writing it. But since I use so many words to get my point across anyway, I skipped it. I could (and should) shorten the whole thing to: "I am afraid of rejection". But my big, fragile ego is screaming in my head: "NO! You have to let the internet guys know that you can TOTALLY get some sex if you want!!" Next OYS is gonna be a shitshow.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/23 03:33 PM
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I did. By being afraid of rejection. I said in OYS1 (as I thought it really was) that I could easily "get" sex and wasn't afraid of rejection, but the reality is: I am not afraid of rejection when initiating for "vanilla" sex. I am afraid of rejection for pretty much everything else regarding sex, that being blowjobs, the positions I want, the locations I want, the timing I want etc. Fuck.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/23 11:44 AM
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Indeed. Shows my true mindset about this. I wrote in OYS1 I wasn't afraid of rejection when initiating for sex. This is true. I am afraid of rejection when initiating for blowjobs.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/23 06:30 PM
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To allow for some in social situations, I don't really want to stop drinking forever. But the amount is a negative both in regards to calories and getting buzzed/drunk resulting in bad sleep/recovery.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/23 04:53 AM
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Yeah, it was a weak reply. Should've just STFUed. Thanks for the tips, already have the last one but also haven't read it. Will pick one and read.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/23 02:55 PM
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OYS #2 (last OYS) Stats 40, married 10yrs, two kids. 5’11”, 226lbs (-10, lots of water weight) Current 5RMs: DL 165, SQ 110, BP 120, OHP 105 Last week: DL 165, SQ 120, BP 100, OHP 85 Mission Deferring this to later. Currently my main goals are to not be fat, reduce alcohol usage drastically and no more porn. Goals & Actions • Get in the best shape of my life by summer 2024 (~175lbs and ~10% BF) • Strength training 3 times a week • Cardio 3 times a week • At least 5000kcal deficit weekly • Max 2 …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/23 08:35 AM
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You explaining yourself is what makes you sound insecure, as if you have to justify your actions so that the other person accepts your idea. It sounds like validation. Does it really? This is a genuine question, do I seem insecure because of the way I write? I really believe I'm responding & discussing the issues well, but if it's all a fucking ramble I might as well skip it... /u/_RPeed I'm asking you here, as well. It’s okay to invest in your wife and her stories. If you want a better relation…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/23 05:41 PM
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Hehe, I do think I have some salient points in my comments, but the perspective is absolutely relevant - gonna reflect on it.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/23 07:26 AM
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You ramble and DEER a lot. It might be high estrogen from the fat but have you read WISNIFG? Indeed. And now I'm gonna DEER about why I DEERed: I know I don't have to explain shit to internet weirdos. It's more that I appreciate the input and want to play the "nice card". And yes, this in turn seems like I haven't read NMMNG. It's more the fact that I don't find it productive being short with my replies, but want explain my reasoning. It's a conscious choice on my part, and since I'm a baby OYSe…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/23 06:04 AM
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About 2600. Yeah, it's a substantial cut, but I've done this before, so I know I can handle it. However, like you say, the mental part is hard. My experience has been that the first two-three weeks are the worst, then it kind of levels out and you get used to it. My main struggles before have been falling off the wagon for a day or two and then just fizzle out. Thanks!
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/23 06:35 PM
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Solid program to get your strength base up, but when you start plateauing, you will need to undulate volume and intensity.You can do this by changing the 3x5 sets to this progression:3x3 3x4 3x5increase weight3x3 3x4 3x5OR you could move to something like 531 once you hit that strength plateau. Thanks. I will definitely plateau in the coming months. Give her a time limit. 5 minutes, 10 minutes, whatever. Hold to it. Yeah, pretty much what I'm doing. Was wondering if anyone found a way to get enj…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/23 06:06 PM
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Then cook what you want to eat that is line with your goals or is this when I cook a healthy dinner for the family I feel guilty? Hehe, someone should write a book about that. No, it's not really a problem (see also reply to _RPeed about same issue), I'm just choosing to keep it simple for the moment. Other points, why drink alcohol at all right now? There is nothing wrong with alcohol, but it is counterintuitive to your goals when you’re fat and alcohol and can shunt anabolic processes. To be h…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/23 05:55 PM
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I meant when she’s talking about her day or whatever. I know a MRPer who “gives her three sentences”. I’m a little more lenient because honestly I think it’s cute but yeah just tell her to stop talking. Sometimes I’ll unzip and tell her to finish her story after sucking my dick. But anyway “verbal intercourse is optional” as we say. Ah, I see. Yeah, I'm doing it well enough according to "MRP principles", except the dick sucking part. Guess that should be a goal..I guess I was wondering if anyone…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/23 05:48 PM
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Yeah, talking to a chiropractor friend now.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/23 12:43 PM
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Generally I’ve found what works is to try 3-5 different stretches/exercises a day and by day 10 you’ll stumble onto a fix. After trying a ton of things, this instantly fixed my golfer’s elbow. You could probably get the same effect twisting a rolled up towel. Thanks, I will try both. People always say this… family time, example to the kids etc (I see the latter somewhat differently) Not sure if this is just habit, WISNIFG or an excuse but: A) it’s 1-2 weeks and B) you are never going to get and …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/23 10:13 AM
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Aaah, being called a betch by the guy who says betch instead of bitch. It's like a MRP rite of passage! Maybe there's no hope. Or maybe there is. We'll see.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/23 10:07 AM
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Doc actually said "you can just google exercises for this, but I recommend a physio to check form". So I'm doing both. Did the same with the tennis elbow. Actually never went to doc for that one. No dice on that video for the pain, but did get some satisfying hip pops. PSMF is a bit annoying when making family dinners, so I'm basically doing IIFYM with extra protein. Had a ~1500 average calorie intake last week. My wife hasn't really been involved in this.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/23 09:39 AM
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...continued from above. Relationship What did I do? Had sex twice, it was okay - standard position (prone, which we both enjoy).Pretty average week otherwise, nothing noteworthy in other interactions.I do wonder how other men handle the boring relationship talk. You know, when she talks about Karen at work and other boring shit. I know how to technically handle it (seem interested, sprinkle some “oh wow”, “oh no, that sounds bad”, “then what happened?”), but GODDAMN it is so fucking boring to l…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/23 08:35 AM
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OYS #1 Stats 40, married 10yrs, two kids. 5’11”, 236lbs Current 5RMs: DL 165, SQ 120, BP 100, OHP 85 Top 5RMs (about a year ago). Will only post in OYS1 to stroke my ego and prove to the internet that I can sorta lift when I put effort in: DL 320, SQ 245, BP 195, OHP 145 Background (only for OYS1) TLDR: I pat myself on the back for figuring out some early RP principles which help me land my wife. I get fat, jerk off to porn, get in debt and drink a lot of beer. For some reason, I am still quite …
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/23 08:34 AM
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