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Therealcatlady1/r/ExRedPill30/07/26 10:35 PM
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He’s late 20s. I think it’s just low self esteem. He does fine with women, I just have issues which I’ve been very clear about but it seems like he is taking them personally.
/r/ExRedPill31/07/26 02:20 AM
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He wanted you to chase and wanted to feel desired
/r/ExRedPill30/07/26 11:04 PM
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Yeah..the person I was talking to also started doing this. I’m ending it because I won’t put up with abusive behavior. You cannot have a healthy relationship that way. I feel sad for the little girl who just wanted to be loved her whole life…..
/r/ExRedPill30/07/26 09:57 PM
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This describes me actually. He told me he thinks things might be heading towards divorce but was wishy washy. I think he’s waiting to see if she will take him back. If she doesn’t he will initiate divorce. Idc if he wants to go back to her as long as he leaves me alone. I’m nobody’s backup option.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/26 01:08 AM
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This is true.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 07:22 PM
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I have been trying to distance myself from someone who lives frugally and likes to spend their money in a way much different from me. I’m worried they can’t fulfill my needs as I want/need. He even acknowledged he may not be able to fulfill as I need now. I want someone who will wine and dine me, give me money and gifts. I hate having to ask for stuff and I’m quite generous myself. I do expect all of my partners to provide for me because it’s a requirement (for me) and common in my culture. He w…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 07:16 PM
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I’ve seen multiple comments from women saying exactly this. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 06:58 PM
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I’m seeing someone trying to change in real time and I’m still uncomfortable with it because it gives me anxiety. I forsee us having friction over this issue over and over again and him kicking the can down the road each time. I’m not even sure how to navigate this. I don’t want the person to feel like my mindset/decisions/standards will change once we’re in a committed relationship. I will 100% leave if they flip the script on me. Also, I believe people are who they are and certain traits are i…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 06:56 PM
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That’s why I’m just a PITA to everyone and will not compromise. At all. I’d rather stay alone. The number of men who have tried to get me to change my mind/lifestyle has been so big. Also, accept them with their mindset/lifestyle like I don’t want this!? I’d rather be alone because it’s so draining.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 06:45 PM
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We need to learn to be alone but I also understand most people aren’t like me. My advice would then be to adjust yourself to the other person or let them go if you insist on staying with them, but don’t expect them to give up their wants and needs.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 06:40 PM
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I think it’s just using logic and not emotion. You’re essentially saying if he does something he will be forgiven. You’re assuming cheating is an unconscious choice. This is why we have laws. The vast majority of people would not act right unless there were consequences to their actions.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/26 06:35 PM
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It’s not a woman’s problem if the traits you want are in a minority. I want a tall rich man and that’s in the minority but I’m not complaining. It’s annoying to constantly have bickering or being uncomfortable because you’re mismatched. Ending it with someone for this reason. This is a bad mindset. Tired of men wasting my and their own time trying to change my mindset/lifestyle because they’re expecting me to change. I don’t expect them to change, I just move on cause I have options and am not d…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 05:44 AM
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So you’re saying they go after Becky after being rejected by Stacy?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 02:01 AM
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This sounds like suppressing your emotions and not setting boundaries of asking for help when you need it. It will take you down very fast.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/26 07:40 AM
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This is a good distinction. I grew up with the og trad wife aka my mom. Unfortunately, being trad and carrying so much of the load while my dad worked really took a toll on her health. She has a lot of masculine traits because being overworked will deplete you and run you rugged.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/26 07:38 AM
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The different pool is that a lot of men use PUA and red pill tactics. I’ve found men who follow red pill to lack healthy male role models. A man who had a good, present father and is mentally healthy doesn’t need red pill and manipulative tactics. As someone who is more traditional, i’m way more conservative in my lifestyle than most of these red pill men.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/26 04:00 AM
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I was all of those things until I was in a relationship with them long enough. They ran me rugged and drained me with the expectations they had of a “good woman”. I’m not willing to overextend myself to someone just to say I got picked to be in a relationship. Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/26 03:58 AM
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The point is that the dating world has changed a ton in the last 10 years. Everyone is fishing in a different pool. If you don’t have a ton of dating experience you won’t know what kind of people are out there. I can tell you the “ton” you mentioned are not being picked for good reason.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/26 10:36 PM
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This is true for me.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/26 12:14 PM
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How old are you? When did you get married? Whether or not there are a “ton of single good men” who are not getting picked is highly subjective. Everyone has different needs/wants. Also, you don’t really know someone until you have been in the partner/intimate relationship with them vs just being friends/related to them.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/26 12:11 PM
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You just adjust. There are lots of other women who chose to ended up living the same way and they become part of your chosen family.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/26 12:08 PM
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I’m not saying you’re correct that it’s feminism related but not everyone needsor wants to have a family. Most feminist women I know are married.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/26 12:05 PM
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I like to browse through here and i’m moderate more than on either side of the spectrum. As one of these women, it does get lonely sometimes but there’s so much freedom to wear, live and be however you want, you don’t have to eat anything specific or cook/clean after anyone else. I’ve lived with 2 of my LTRs and it was miserable. I do much better on my own. It’s better to be alone than to settle for someone I don’t want to be with or am not into. I have cats, friends and family. If I met a man w…
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/26 12:02 PM
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Yes, you’re right. We need to give examples of things they’re familiar with. The average man is not objectified. Maybe they are by people they deem undesirable? Idk.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 05:22 PM
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I reject it across the board. I’m not accepting any objectification because I hate it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 05:18 PM
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I think when someone is so starved of attention and desire they don’t see how anyone else could not want the same thing. It’s the same thing with having kids. Most people want kids, badly. They can’t fathom someone not wanting kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 04:22 PM
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Ok weirdo
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 04:17 PM
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I reject male lust across the board. My religious and cultural background taught me that they are degrading..so 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 04:13 PM
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I think the issue is the lack of empathy. They can’t actually put theirselves in a woman’s shoes to see how women think, feel, experience in the world. We aren’t allowed to be human if it hurts someone else’s feelings. Men seem to project and think we are like them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 04:01 PM
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Wrongggggg. I am an attractive woman and all attention from men is mostly cheap and low value because it lacks the depth i’m seeking.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 03:57 PM
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As a South Asian Muslim woman, the men from my religious/cultural background are mostly providers/masculine/traditional. I’m assuming you live in the U.S. I think a lot of American men are not going to be suitable (at least for me) but i’m not sure about your middle eastern background. I am too traditional/conservative for the American men who don’t naturally have boundaries with women and too modern for practicing Muslim men. It’s tough. In America you have to have “boundaries” and protect your…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/26 06:15 AM
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I’d argue men view women as some mother of their children/wifey material/maid or someone just to sleep around with… Most of the time I view men as neither sex or money. Usually if he has money he has a lot of character issues and it’s a turn off. If he’s attractive he might be lazy and not be driven.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 01:13 PM
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…and men don’t?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/26 01:10 PM
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Lucky you found someone that makes you happy! There is this general belief people have that your should be happy before finding a relationship. I don't think that's always true.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 10:42 PM
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I like this take.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 04:31 PM
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This is so interesting given that I’ve gotten far more depressed when in a LTR because it just added too much stress no matter who I dated. It’s better and healthier for me to be lonely sometimes and feel temporarily depressed as someone with major depression than to be in Aa LTR with a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/26 04:16 PM
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I don't have a ton of women friends and I don't want kids. I would rather leave than settle so I can't relate to this. I think everyone has a different motivation to be in a relationship but I don't see people as alpha and beta bux or whatever, that's really strange. I also don't know any women who have considered prostitui- as a woman myself. I recommend you spend less like online and consider going to therapy and dealing with any insecurities or rejection in the past. This a very unhealthy vie…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 09:08 PM
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The reality is that anyone can get married if they keep looking. At some point if they completely drop their standards and accept anyone they can get married. It becomes a numbers game. This goes for men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 11:35 PM
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Almost all the men I know are married. I wonder if you are biased in some way. How can you speak for all men? Maybe the men you relate to are undesirable?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 11:33 PM
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Both of my exs were single for a long time after we broke up. They were overweight, smart but didn't take care of their appearance or health. They were not conventionally attractive or wealthy or whatever else you want to say. They still did me dirty. It actually made me feel like maybe if I dealt with a stereotypical bad guy at least I'll be expecting bad behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 11:31 PM
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There are issues with relationships no matter where you go in the world. I don't think blanket statements apply though. Some people are really well suited to LTR others are not.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 11:27 PM
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I have the same views as you. However, reading it from someone else it seems very negative and unhealthy and I don’t think they would be a good LTR partner. I guess I will stay single if I cannot get past these views. They’re only harming us if anything but emotionally healthy people don’t think this way…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/26 07:56 AM
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Sounds boring
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/26 11:05 PM
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This is actually not true at all. Sometimes I was so infatuated with what someone was saying I overlooked their appearance. Once I got to know them better and the infatuation wore off I was disgusted and embarrassed to have even thought that way. It’s worse than not caring anymore. It’s straight disgust.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/26 03:27 PM
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I date younger men for their stamina and attraction and older men for money. I get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 03:29 PM
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You sound like the guy who got handsy and said he wanted to take me to a hotel room after heavy making out on the 2nd date. WTF I was afraid maybe he’ll beat me or rape me if we’re alone. You know everything though Ig.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/26 11:49 PM
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I know you’re saying 18 cause it’s the “legal age” but older men started hitting on me when I was 13. I know several other women with similar experiences. You saying it’s jealousy doesn’t change the fact that we’ve encountered predators. Also, have you heard of Jeff Epstein?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/26 07:12 PM
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No…plenty of women are finessed by mid to ugly dudes everyday. Unfortunately women are taught to appreciate men for more than their appearance. There are not enough conventionally attractive men for all women to be going after them. Even dating app swiping daya show women avoid those type of f boys.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 08:32 PM
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Yes..a lot of it has to do with how the woman feels about herself when she meets the man, what she’s looking for in a partner, her views about sex, comfort with body, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 05:04 PM
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No men are visible to me except the men in my family thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 04:54 PM
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I never said they do it on purpose. It could just be desperation and lack of options has nothing to do with being a fuck boy. How could it be a small minority when I keep hearing about men leading women on and being shitty even if they are way below average? Has to he that they only see her as a temporary placeholder so don’t want to put in the effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 04:53 PM
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The novelty aspect is true that’s why I think it makes more sense for a woman who wants children to settle down with a man who can provide security and financially. Then it matters less if he cheats or strays for good of the children. If we’re going to normalize something against male nature it should be to the offsprings benefit. I’d argue women who want children are biologically wired to want a tall/strong man who can protect the offspring, average sized penis for virility/health, and money to…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 04:05 PM
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I’m willing to agree and admit to it as well. I’m primarily attracted to younger men because I like a head full of hair, youthful toned body, good skin…and lots of stamina and older men just don’t have so I get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 03:52 PM
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Why wouldn’t I? I’m way above average.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 03:36 PM
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Finally someone willing to be honest. A lot of men do this to pass the time with someone they don’t see long term, except they aren’t honest about it because they don’t want to lose access to the benefits of that relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 03:31 PM
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Ugly men string you along too. They just aren’t obvious about it. They might be willing to settle for you temporarily or even long term but if a better option comes along they are gone….
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 03:19 PM
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Actually most men string women along since they have fewer options. They’ll hold on to a woman for companionship, sex, validation, comfort etc because he doesn’t know when the next woman willing to give him a chance will come. They might delay conversations of commitment, moving the relationship forward or push forward with those things until the next woman willing to give him a chance comes around.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 03:17 PM
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Sure you can keep recommending but most men aren’t able or willing to hold out to find a woman who will accept so little. There are tons of men still paying for women and doing everything for their affection and attention. Most of them are not of reddit and are with their partners right now. :D
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/26 05:37 AM
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I’ve dated lots of doctors and surgeons who make wayyy more than that. It depends on your circle and dating pool.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 02:52 PM
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They can’t because they have no skillz and spend all their time on reddit arguing why no one likes them or how other people are better than them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 09:49 PM
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Ding ding ding…Most men don’t understand woman’s anatomy which is not always as obvious as a man’s tbh but they don’t even try to learn. They might know anatomy but not take your feedback on what you like because they are too overconfident, maybe get nervous, have no idea what they’re doing. I think a lot of men only have sexual experience from porn which is fake duh. I think women need to start being honest about feedback. The tough part is every woman is different even if one gives feedback it…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 09:41 PM
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Are you sure that isn’t subjective? The standards for attractiveness are lower for men than they are for women. Women have to be skinny/lean, short, long hair, clear skin, nice teeth, manicured nails…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 10:47 PM
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You should leave your home, tons of short, overweight men walking around with their wives and children. Go to Costco.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 10:35 PM
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Can confirm. As an attractive woman most average women don’t get the perks attractive women do.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 09:36 PM
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Same guy to claim women enjoy being r@ped. Eyucckkk
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 09:31 PM
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Nah there are so many shitty and predatory sugar daddies out here it’s rare to find one. Definitely a but harder for gay men. But it depends on attractiveness. A very attractive gay man will have an easier time than an unattractive woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 09:29 PM
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You can do all of these things for gay men? There’s a market for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 09:26 PM
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No, that’s where the term pump and dump comes from. They use you for sex and leave, no orgasm and exposing you to violence, STDs and pregnancy. Women will overlook appearance and date an ugly man. Most men who just want you for sex don’t really want a relationship with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 09:20 PM
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Sex is very easy for women to get. An average woman gets offers for dates and sex very often. We don’t feel more desirable because someone wants to have sex with us no strings attached because it’s the easiest thing to get. We don’t have to lie and cheat and manipulate to get it either. 💀 Just cause you think sex is some precious thing and the most important to get from someone doesn’t mean women and even other men feel that way. Now if it’s something you aren’t used to getting you might put it …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/25 07:42 AM
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Nah to me a guy who meets with lots of women and sleeps with them quickly tells me he has a very low bar for who he will sleep with and that’s super unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 02:13 AM
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My issue is a lot of men will take attention/care from anyone if they aren’t used to it. Even if they don’t like you. They might treat you poorly but won’t outright reject.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 07:38 PM
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Perhaps it has nothing to do with their political/moral stance but were just more attractive/engaging than you are.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/23 02:33 AM
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Men have high standards for others but not for themselves. Stop calling women picky. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/22 04:15 PM
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Honestly the bar is in hell. I constantly feel like men are pushing women to lower their standards instead of raising their own bar. My ex is lazy, overweight, and doesn't work but won't date a woman who is overweight because he wants to be able to "kiss her." Not just this but I think men grossly overestimate their attractiveness compared to women who underestimate their attractiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 10:46 PM
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I feel incredibly awkward because I can tell when someone is trying to approach me. It’s weird to agree to spend time with a stranger you might not know anything about. If you approach me on the street I will not respond. I avoid eye contact and that sends a message not to approach. I haven’t been single for very long though..so 🤷🏽‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/22 04:58 AM
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Some people are good with boundaries. I am not. I can not be friends with men who I may potentially become attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 11:36 PM
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