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49

I'd say it's a great test to see how he deals with not having sex to go when you don't want to have sex. Going there only if you're ready to, in his standpoint, get coerced into sex kinda feels like just moving the goalpost. "O yes he's still expecting sex but now I want it too" versus dating someone who wouldn't expect sex just because you came over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 11:05 AM
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...... until it was revealed that he goes out and has sex with other women. His "wife" knows and is "fine with it." That's just her outsourcing her job. Isn't having sex in a tradfem marriage pretty much centered about keeping the hubby happy? Seeing as sex is never, ever, going to be about her I could almost understand her not caring. Horrible thing is she probably does care and it does hurt her, but she think she has to accept it. I'd love to be in that kind of relationship with a non-cringe m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 08:13 AM
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Yeah I don't understand this, especially around the Holidays with people returning to families they aren't that close with. What possible benefit of holidays at the family could possibly outweigh the huge amount of sexism? Especially to kids? Unless you're financially dependent just bail out of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 09:13 AM
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I mean, ofcourse I agree with everything you say, but your original post had a sort of WGTOW feeling. Ofcourse it's about your own happiness, ofcourse you shouldn't need a man for happily ever after. Ofcourse someone should only be a partner if they add to your life. But your post is pretty negative about the, you know, dating aspect. Most people here are still going to want someone to marry at some point, if they didn't they really shouldn't be here. If your point is that only if you maximize y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 12:16 AM
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Yes, but on the other hand, this sub is still called Dating strategy. Prioritizing yourself and being an independent, happy person, is of course an obvious goal in life. Any relationship can't be a goal of itself, it has to make you happier, it has to add to your goals. But isn't the subreddit still about.. you know.. dating? If you don't want to date that's fine, then don't date, noone would blame you as the dating world is pretty horrid. But if you want to date isn't the goal finding a HVM? Do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 11:39 PM
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Yeah, not a 100% sure of the ages but from what I remember she dated a 21 year old when she was 16 and is now dating a dude 10 years older than her. Pretty sure she's still not fully aware of how much porn destroyed her brain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 08:28 PM
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For a lot of families, childcare costs as much as what one parent makes so it just makes financial sense to have one parent stay home I've so often seen that statement bite the woman in question in the ass. Because sure financially it's a wash, but it isn't for career development, or for independence. Being a stay at home mom can be really hard but it's not really stimulating, unless it's your dreamjob to keep a home you're pretty much turning in a job you presumably like in a field you enjoy fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 11:22 AM
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They're still married to this day So much times this is stated as a "success", on Reddit mostly kids about their parents. Just the fact that they're still married doesn't say anything about the quality of the relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 12:29 PM
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That woman shows every sign of having been abused all her life. I'm glad she posted there, but I doubt that it'll help, she's too deep into the abuse cycle. The fact she'd even accept that he's 'furious' about anything 6 months in is proof enough of that. Let alone about something he invented just to be mad about. Normal, healthy, people don't get furious at each other. Especially while they're casually dating. She's just so used to it she thinks this is normal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 10:47 PM
51

How can he suddenly get into a new relationship Because he wasn't the one getting hurt, he was doing the hurting. It's not like the people inflicting trauma's take as long to get over them? Some hardly notice. Some like it. and he gets to be this happy If he's sending you friend requests he's not happy, believe me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 01:12 PM
19

The body keeps the score Which doesn't mean your body is always right, what is trauma but a score being remembered when you don't want to?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 08:33 AM
49

She's starting to realize but she's not quite there yet. She thinks that at 18 the difference mattered less than it does now. She's straight up ignoring the people asking her what she'd think about dating an 18 year old.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 08:24 PM
198

Lol he's following seduction advice, he's afraid he kept things too thoughtful and that he had to turn things to physical matters. Not only is that advice pretty dumb, the way he went about it was even dumber. And no you're right, single compliments about your body are weird. Multiple ones are just unbearable, what are you supposed to do at that point except tell him to piss off?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 09:17 AM
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If you eat at someone's home regularly? Like a weekly or monthly family dinner? If it's a one time thing, sure. But I don't really expect presents each time I invite someone over for dinner. At most I expect some reciprocity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 04:33 PM
221

I mean the wine thing is fine, I don't bring gifts each time for friends and family I visit often. Not helping with cleaning is the bigger issue here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/21 11:01 AM
242

O man I've seen this so often, and especially in the kink community that basically glorifies poly relationships. Dude lands someone that's honestly too good for him. Dude thinks he's hot shit. Dressing right at her guidance, actually getting to talk to women for once, receiving compliments for the first time in his life, partner is introducing him to their social circles, etc. Dude thinks he can easily score and 'upgrade' so wants an open relationship. Dude flames and burns.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 08:15 PM
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General concept of cooking/cleaning when he is over at your place There are things you expect a guest to offer help with and things that you don't. They should offer to help cook and wash after dinner, and help clean up any mess they made themselves. Anything else would be odd, especially in the dating stage where they're essentially a guest. If there's just the two of you cooking should be done together because otherwise why is he even there. I can't imagine any other cleaning you would do when…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 07:38 PM
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but boundaries need to be drawn not after marriage but from the very beginning of dating Or you date and find out if you have the same views on boundaries and what constitutes respecting the relationship. At that point calling them rules becomes so unnecessary. If you trust your partner enough to understand nuances then the rules are useless. Would you say you had a "no cheating" rule in your relationship? Or that it's pretty much an assumption. Or lets take something more innocent. Me and my pa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 03:33 PM
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I would like to think that these are valid requests but only if they are followed by "without letting the other know" or "and keeping it a secret" or having a reasonable background. Yes these are obvious nuances, the thing is if a partner can understand obvious nuances to keep everything above board there's no need for the rules; Because there's a boatload of obvious exceptions to the rule. I'd have no need for these rules, and would find them pretty silly, because there's a simple blanket rule …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 03:00 PM
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Yeah the not entering a room with someone of the different sex rule is going to get insulting fast, especially to coworkers. "Hey could you meet me to look over the quarterly figures?" "No! You will sex me! Please provide a chaperone for our quarterly meeting!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 01:55 PM
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I'll go against the grain here, while I agree that many of those things are fine, especially if you're apparently both in agreement, making them rules just reeks of lack of trust. I'm also noticing your title only includes some of the logical ones, I'd assume 95% of couples have an implicit "no sexting" or "secretly texting" rule without it needing to be spelled out. No porn and no workwives/boyfriends are also pretty logical. But theirs are way crazier than just those. "Not being alone with the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 01:42 PM
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Usually because he only got some money through the woman dating him instilling some kind of order into his life. Then when he has money he convinces himself that he did it himself and now suddenly she's "whiney" and "not fun anymore". I've seen it often enough with people dragging their SO through university/school. Basically they want an upgrade now that they make money but can't confess that to themselves. So the resentment starts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 01:23 PM
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And she was a 21 year old dating a 45 year old. Did she really need a 16 year old telling her this wasn't going to be a long term thing? I'm guessing they broke up for other reasons and she just threw the 16 year old under the bus.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 11:55 AM
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He actually writes about it himself "debunking" it, but in doing so pretty much confirms it: https://www.jordanbpeterson.com/media/on-the-new-york-times-and-enforced-monogamy/ Also, as someone in his field I had forgotten how much bullshit he peddles when it comes to psychology and antropology. I can't believe someone who held a position at an actual university actually thinks evolutionary psychology is a thing. If you quote a "evolutionary psychology" paper in your defense you're just ultra den…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 05:55 PM
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Sure he argues for men to be better, but he also argues for women to be worse off. He's said multiple times that he's in favor of forced monogamy through taking away women's financial independence. He thinks women being in the workplace has allowed them to be more picky. He's not blaming women for it, he just thinks it's destabilizing society and that therefore women need to get back in the kitchen..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 12:07 PM
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https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Gift_of_Fear That book is about trusting instincts and fear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 06:32 PM
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Sorry about that, I'm not judgmental and there was no intent behind it. No problem, I assumed it was his term but if you didn't know you didn't know. is the fact that he is serious about a potential relationship Be aware that some of the very worst ones are going to be the most exited about trapping you with marriage and/or kids. Especially the socially conservative ones. I call these checklist dudes. They have a checklist of things to achieve in life and a wife is just one item on it. They tend…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 06:26 PM
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When talking about his ex he basically they were engaged, but she called off the wedding and is now a working girl, aka a prostitute, at a club. For some reason I didn't like hearing this. I don't know why. It felt like TMI in the moment, like wtf? Why are you telling me this? Even if this were true, which sounds unlikely, it means that his ex preferred to be a prostitute to carrying on their engagement. Also working girl is a very sexist name for a prostitute. I'm mostly wondering about your ti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 06:03 PM
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Hugely important! It says almost everything about someone. Isn't "Conservative" code for sexist and racist? You're going to be dealing with "Head of the household crap" and with someone possibly gleefully happy about any sexist or anti-abortion laws being passed. Ask someone like that about any female politician they disagree with and watch the misogamy explode from them. That's also how he'll treat you if you ever disagree with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 04:20 PM
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Labeling her a sex worker because she's a woman who streams isn't helping anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 03:50 PM
82

I played back the part to see if she said husband or father. Would have totally believed father.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 01:59 PM
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Some restaurants don't take reservations and he says this one doesn't. That said I'm unclear as to what the plan would have been had he been unable to get that last table. Who'd take such a risk on a first date?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 04:19 PM
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“thank you for such a lovely evening,” or “thank you for taking me to x place” Agreed. Or just simply "Thanks for the food, I really liked it". Bringing up the money or paying would be a bit crass I agree. I was just getting a vibe from the guy that he wouldn’t be satisfied unless she actually acted grateful for the money Lol yeah those vibes were pretty obvious. 6 hours of connection talking and he's tripping over 100 dollars?! But she didn't really show herself as high value either. If he was …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 03:56 PM
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And she didn’t THANK HIM for paying for the date he presumably asked her on (aka the bare minimum) I'm torn on this, I think it's polite to acknowledge someone paying for you. I mean, I thank the people serving me my food too and they're mostly just doing the bare minimum required of their job. Saying thank you is not necessarily the same as feeling grateful, you're not acknowledging a debt or that they went out of their way by saying thanks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 03:46 PM
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I know the guidebook says don't make the first move, if he wanted to he would etc. But I have found that people who abide by this, and don't make the first move, do however make it pretty clear they're open and interested in flirtation. Might not be conscious. But most people I know that get approached by guys they want to date (as opposed to approached by randoms they don't want to date) are throwing some medium to heavy hints towards those guys first. I mean, you don't want a guy that's just a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 10:20 PM
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“I told her my philosophy of life and discovered she was a great listener,” Wow, I can so picture that first date of him just expanding on his "philosophy of life" and her just nodding along.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 04:56 PM
12

Through politics. Like it or not, even though Democrats get more female voters Republicans still get a lot of female voters. The majority of white women voted for Trump. So how do you protect your rights? Get political. Run for office, volunteer, protest. Absolutely shame those around you willing to vote for people who'd take away abortion rights (and voting rights while they're at it by the way).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 10:04 AM
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I used to think Sapiosexual was the most cringe inducing one, but demisexual has quickly surpassed it. They out there describing completely normal attraction and pretending it's something special. Only recently I heard a new one, someone saying they were demiromantic. Yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 08:12 PM
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The whole /2+7 rule of where age gaps get creepy has been taking a hold though. Each time you still have men bleating that it should be fine if it's legal, but there's a definite shift where creeps are getting told off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 07:09 PM
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Could be how she grew up Everything from how that house looks, to the scratch cards, to how she talks just screams that she grew up poor. It takes immense will power and some good fortune to get out of that situation, let alone out of that mindset.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 07:04 PM
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Not making eye contact or thanking people in the service industry, especially with women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 07:15 PM
47

With children I do get it, because (and this might be weird) I feel like having children is the mother of all consent violations. You put a thinking, feeling, sentient being on this world, you created it, without them having any say in it. They emerge into the world crying. You're basically spending your entire life making sure they have the best life, because you forced them into that life. But that might just be my weird, Millenial, view.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 08:51 PM
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Unconditional love is a bit toxic anyways, especially with romantic partners (for family I could already see it more, but there'd still be some basic conditions). Otherwise are you really saying you'll stay in love whatever they do? Because that's just asking to be used.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 06:05 PM
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Fair, but sometimes people are socialized to feel comfortable about certain things and roles. Sometimes it's worth it to wonder if you want to step outside your comfort zone to explore if you can change where you feel comfortable. Example: People, and women in particular, often don't feel comfortable speaking out at work for example; or interrupting people when they themselves get interrupted. But it's certainly worthwhile to work on yourself to get better at that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 10:34 AM
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Waaay more expensive. On Reddit you hear 2 stories: Men saying "You always pay for sex, even in a relationship" and women saying they pay 50/50, they pitch in for rent, they financially support their boyfriends etc. I think the whole "If I only wanted sex I'd have hired an escort, so I must really love you" spiel is just propaganda. If they could regularly hire an escort for the same amount of time and effort they damn sure would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 11:21 AM
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I don't even have flair and am already getting flak about posting to FDS when commenting on other subs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 04:39 PM
15

The whole fad about women squirting when they orgasm came from men finally realizing that orgasms in porn are fake and that women in general sometimes fake orgasms. The theory being that you can't fake squirting so you must be getting her to orgasm right?! Squirting in porn is fake too, but yet here we are now in 2021, every dude "LoVeS mAkInG wOmEn SqUiRt" because they've figured out everyone is rolling their eyes when they claim to have given their partners orgasms.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 04:35 PM
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Reddit is so full of "Relationships take hard work!" because they're parroting their parents or grandparents who were probably in bad relationships. Especially people who get hitched young seem to take their relationship as some kind of court appointed punishment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 09:54 AM
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The problem with this kind of 'adversarial' dating books is they almost treat dating and relationships like a problem that needs to be solved. Instead of the ways it can bring something extra into your life. In a relationship, and especially sex, you shouldn't do anything that doesn't feel natural. Having some sort of strategy for everything means you can't ever relax and while it's important to keep vetting, you should also be able to just be you in a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 11:54 AM
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None of the adults helped I'm convinced that all adults that work with kids in adult settings (Sports, music, television, modelling) are basically selling those kids. From parents to coaches to doctors, none of them ever seems to do anything to help these kids live a normal life, in fact they seem almost eager to hand them over to other creepy adults.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 12:28 PM
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Do they see teenage girls as easier to groom This. Solely this. The younger the girl the easier to groom, the less they know their own value. How many of us have regretted pickme years? I'm guessing most. I can't imagine many women going the other way, going from FDS to pickme. So the younger women are the more likely they are to be vulnerable to scrote tactics. I'm pretty sure this has nothing to do with attractiveness, many girls that age have certainly not leveled up to their potential. It ha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 08:53 PM
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Yeah Nofap went ultra-right pretty quickly. It started out a bit new-agey that they were saving up "masculine energy" which people could read from a distance making them more attractive. But it turned into right wing patriarchy ++ pretty quickly. It also combined with the incels to create a really.. iffy.. community.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 09:00 AM
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I wasn't attacking what you said, just the fact that I've never seen warnings, in fact I've seen loads and loads of the opposite, straight up encouragement. There’s a huge difference in mentality even between a 15yr old and 18yr old. Agreed. Even the internet famous rule of /2+7, which has its merits, would be okay with a 19 year old dating a 24 year old, which to me is still creepy as fuck. Your family appears to have pedophilic views And yeah, even defend them semi-proudly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 02:42 PM
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Very. Anyways, no warnings, quite the opposite.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 02:40 PM
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A lot of time’s their mothers / fathers / friends have warned them. Are you kidding me? I was straight up told this was how it was meant to be because men are childish and women "develop faster". I still hear stories, from my family, how women are sexually mature at 13 so it's really weird that you're not allowed to be attracted to them as an adult. This isn't just coming from clueless young women, this gets pushed almost everywhere, older women included.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 02:12 PM
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Do they care at all about Millie’s safety & well-being Nah, you can already hear that Millie has internalized the grooming by the things she says. . She says she feels overprotected, that people don't see her as a woman, that people still see her as a kid, that when she enters relationships or does sexy photoshoots people are all upset. She is a kid and surrounded by people trying to convince her she should embrace grown-up sexuality. I shudder to think what kind of roles they'll give her when s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 01:26 PM
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Or when men defend it by saying they mature later? Yeah, you're childish dicks, that's your problem, not an excuse to go ruin someone else's life. I've honestly seen dudes nearing their 30s saying they are as emotionally mature as a teenager and therefore they should date one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 09:57 AM
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I was going to say, these are 15 steps and each one seems quite unlikely to work. This is nothing but a sad masturbatory fantasy that relies on women being nothing but passively waiting for him to have sex with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 09:55 AM
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I agree with almost everything you say except that I think you can find good sex without a committed relationship. People conflate two concepts, the fact that you have to have a sexual partner that respects you, honors you and wants to please you and that you that you vet for those characteristics in committed relationships. It's not impossible to find men who are respectful and giving in bed without the committed relationship part, the trick is just saying no to anything you don't want and bein…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 09:23 PM
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Nah, I like to call those bronze diggers. If you're going to golddig you either find someone relatively young and rich or very old and moderately rich. These men often have a upper-middle class life at best, is that really worth getting into some permanent relationship with them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 09:18 PM
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You see so much stories about widowed or divorced men remarrying within 6 months. The only thing I always wonder, who's picking up these men?? I've known men who were obese, old, not-rich, got divorced and had another woman doing their dishes within months. Why?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 09:16 PM
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Do you feel masculinized by being with someone who makes less than you Is your femininity determined by making less money than your partner? If so, why even have a career or make money? ill meet a gold digger I feel like it's a male thing to worry so much about gold-diggers because often the only thing men have to offer is money. And they actually like that they only have to provide money, until the point they break up, then they complain about it. You'd notice a real golddigger right away if th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 08:26 PM
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Agreed. OP: I dont expect to meet many men who are making 6 figures Making 6 figures might not need to be an endgoal in itself, just a symptom of a dude who is a functional adult and has his life together. So while their salary is an easy indication that yes, they have that stuff, it's also very much possible to run into people who are worthy partners who for some reason or another don't make as much money. Especially if you're serious about your career but might want kids one day, a partner who…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 08:19 PM
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You should never take a conversation running dry on dating apps personally or seriously. I mean, have you never swiped right on someone, or messaged them, when you were bored on the toilet, or looking to chat, to have them respond at a time where you're in nooooo way interested in having a "getting to know you" talk. Getting to know someone takes a certain amount of energy and interest and that kinda varies for people moment to moment. This dude clearly wasn't investing any energy into this but …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 09:48 AM
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Later on that night, he sends me a pic of him with another girl at the restaurant He kinda proved your point with that one. Also, he got someone to agree to go out randomly that same day on 9 PM? I'm willing to bet that was an old picture. it’s been a challenge for me to build boundaries and protect myself You did great this time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 09:45 AM
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Eh it's a hobby, at least it's neat/tidy. It looks nice enough. If you look at Legos as building/creating something and then presenting it nicely it's pretty similar to a lot of other hobbies. This is really better than the alternative of some crusty gaming corner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 11:30 PM
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3 months is just a vetting period isn't it? At some point you can't really extend that period to test more or you'd escalate to "20 years of no sex to see how he deals with me aging". First off, at some point you'd want to see how he is in bed as well, you're wasting your time on someone if it turns out he sucks in bed. Vetting is also about losing as little time if he doesn't turn out to be someone you want to stay with. Imagine wasting 9 months on someone who turns out to just not do it for yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 10:45 PM
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Statistically they also just married the person most likely to murder them. Ofcourse that's not causally related, I think, I don't think marriage is what heightens the murder chance; But it's still a depressing statistic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 09:28 PM
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Eh he's also literally twice her age. Hard to feel pity for someone who's 26 fucking a senior colleague in his 50's, given her response it doesn't sound like he was coercing her. So what was she in it for? You can't tell me a 26 year old girl actually fell in love, or even lust, with some 52 year old fossil. Best case she wanted the pay-day but who wants to have a kid with a 52 year old? That'd have to be a hell of a pay-day to be set for life (with a kid!) at 26. When the kids 18 she'd be carin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 09:03 PM
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