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Inner Game These-Calligrapher/r/seduction18/08/24 05:14 AM
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Lmao this made my day. Sorry guys, I was drunk. Lol
/r/seduction29/07/22 11:42 PM
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Lol I was drunk. Point stands. Be a man. Invite her back and embrace your masculinity in a polite and respectful way. It’s really that simple
/r/seduction29/07/22 11:38 PM
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One. You’re a cling man. Just begins her men, brocembrsd you’re being,fuck, be you, sill be appreciate for man. Problem solved. She wants you do to be small
/r/seduction29/07/22 02:28 AM
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It’s biology. Women are caretakers and nurturers by nature. Men are providers and protectors by nature. Technologically we’ve advanced and yes things are changing, but our bodies have not yet caught up. Women are going to be attracted to a man who is a leader, protector, provider etc. showing emotion is a way of being authentic, which means she can trust you. Men are attracted to character traits like nurturing and caretaking. Also looks because they demonstrate health. She carries the kid so th…
/r/seduction03/07/22 11:28 AM
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Talk to more girls. Don’t stress over it. Also don’t build your night around them. I like to just invite them to tag along on my night. It’s like I’m already going out and I’m gonna meet more people. Even if I’m going out alone, I’ll still go and game and invite women out who I’ve met before. If they show up cool, if not oh well. I’m busy having fun and meeting more people
/r/seduction01/07/22 12:19 PM
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Or just leave people alone when they’re working out and learn to pick up on social ques
/r/seduction14/06/22 04:12 PM
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It’s not dumb. I was in the same boat. You’re attractive. Embrace it. Stay humble, Don’t be a douche
/r/seduction26/05/22 05:32 PM
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Invite her to tag along to something you’re already doing.
/r/seduction26/05/22 11:28 AM
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I wish we could pin this comment to the whole sub lol. This would answer most pickup questions on here
/r/seduction26/05/22 12:02 AM
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Childhood trauma can follow you around your whole life. It’s not easy to deal with, and harder to face it. But it must be done if you want to succeed here and if you want to live a better life. You’re not alone. Good luck.
/r/seduction25/05/22 08:40 PM
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Work with your therapist to identify the events that are causing what’s causing you to have clingy tendencies. Find a way to develop a sense of security in independence.
/r/seduction25/05/22 08:40 PM
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Yeah, over time you’ll learn to read the vibe and be able to calibrate it better. Just stay aware and you’ll get better at noticing the appropriate moments for these things
/r/seduction24/05/22 01:54 PM
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Nice is different from kind. Nice is what you are when you want something. Nice people want to be liked. Nice is fake. Kindness is done without wanting anything in return.
/r/seduction23/05/22 04:11 PM
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Show interest. Just not from a needy place.
/r/seduction22/05/22 05:06 PM
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Right. Don’t be fake. I’ll be honest about my views. I personally enjoy talking about these things from a curious point of view, even if I don’t believe in them.
/r/seduction22/05/22 04:37 PM
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Themselves, zodiac, magic, energy, anything mystical, philosophy, traveling, music, festivals, concerts, food, coffee, boba, life, dreams, goals, passions, interests, art
/r/seduction22/05/22 03:01 PM
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Just say it isn’t working out. Be respectful and be honest. Don’t lie, don’t hurt her. The break up might hurt, but you don’t need to hurt her more. She’ll likely appreciate the honesty and respect your decision if you handle it this way. Just don’t be a douche
/r/seduction21/05/22 04:35 PM
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No bc I have fun, bring a fun vibe, and I always notice that people have as much or more fun once I’m there. And I’m a good person just out meeting people, and having fun.
/r/seduction21/05/22 04:27 PM
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Keep working on you. Stay healthy. You probably feel better than you did before you got healthier. Socialize and work on social skills. Life’s a journey, just focus on the progress as you improve. And enjoy yourself along the way
/r/seduction20/05/22 03:35 PM
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Just say “let’s grab a drink, cmon” or “I’m gonna grab a drink, come with me”
/r/seduction20/05/22 12:56 AM
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I would say one makes it difficult and kinda rude unless you’ve merged another group for the friend to talk to. A group makes it easier bc the friend won’t be alone.
/r/seduction20/05/22 12:55 AM
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Nah that’s fine. I do that too sometimes. What do you text? Do you set up another meet/hang/date?
/r/seduction19/05/22 04:52 PM
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Sounds like they were honest. They probably just weren’t looking for an LTR. Or how you acted after sex may have influenced their decision. We’re you needy, or maybe too attached? Aspects of the relationship other than sex may have been moving too fast. Hopefully this makes sense
/r/seduction19/05/22 04:40 PM
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Maybe you’re bad in bed. Reach out and ask them. Or grab sex god method or another program or book and learn something new to bring to the bedroom. Or Maybe they just weren’t looking for an LTR
/r/seduction19/05/22 02:44 PM
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Lol don’t have to mean. You okay man? I’ll rephrase: women worth dating don’t date down. And people can easily be generalized. Sounds like your rationalizing because your afraid that as humans we aren’t actually special or all that unique. Sounds like you took my comment personally
/r/seduction19/05/22 01:03 PM
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Lol. Do you have anything meaningful to say?
/r/seduction18/05/22 08:37 PM
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And this ^ women date up or across. Never down. Life operates on a value for value basis.
/r/seduction18/05/22 07:40 PM
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A man’s attractiveness are rooted in his identity and actions. If you practice good hygiene (grooming, brush your teeth, shower) and take care of yourself (healthy, fit) you’ll hit the physical markers. The other half is on being a leader, protector, provider. Just displaying parts these character traits will make you attractive.
/r/seduction18/05/22 07:39 PM
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Go say game and gain confidence
/r/seduction17/05/22 11:33 AM
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They follow their emotions and that’s how they communicate. By how they feel in that moment. Guys will be like “like this girl so I’m going to spend time talking to her.” Whereas a girl might like you, but whether she ‘feels’ like talking to you or not changes moment to moment
/r/seduction16/05/22 08:48 PM
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Just forget about her and move on. Don’t let it take your energy
/r/seduction16/05/22 03:53 PM
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It’s a personal opinion. I wouldn’t date for personal growth though. If you don’t love yourself already, someone else won’t make it happen for you
/r/seduction16/05/22 03:52 PM
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To let go of any outcome. I enjoy the moments I spend with whoever im with at the time. If things work out that’s great. If not, then you’ll find someone else who you’ll be able to have an even better relationship with. Just have fun Looking at past relationships that ended, had I known they were going to end, I would’ve let go of some things and worried less about others bc it was going to end anyway. I would’ve really enjoyed more of my time with them
/r/seduction16/05/22 01:02 PM
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She’ll respect whoever respects themselves. Just don’t be a doormat. Lead others and lift others up. Don’t be needy. Be a man. You don’t have to amog or be a douche, but that’s more attractive than being a bitch. Just be a man who leads, inspires, and likes who he is and you’ll be good
/r/seduction15/05/22 07:22 AM
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It means: Being arrogant is better than being a bitch. If you’re too nice it’s no good . Women are attracted to survival values (leader, protector, provider). If you’re a doormat, other men can walk over you (and her and your kids). If she can manipulate you , so can other women (another women can steal you away at any time, making investing in you risk.) There’s a difference between being kind and being nice. Kindness is done from the heart. Being nice is done bc you want someone to like you. E…
/r/seduction15/05/22 07:08 AM
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Whoever wants it. It’s that simple It’s only needy if you act need. Letting a girl know you want to be with her is not needy unless you make it needy. Be a man. She wants you to be a man. She what’s your be wanted by the right person. Edit: just finished reading your question lol. You should be the one. Your the man. Lead.
/r/seduction15/05/22 07:00 AM
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You can be needy or non needy. Value seeking or value taking, or value offering. Anything in life can influence this. Practice self awareness on a regular basis and you’ll be able to calibrate and solve this issue. Google Maslows hierarchy of needs and understand how different parts of your life effect the way you act and react
/r/seduction15/05/22 06:58 AM
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You want sex lol be honest with yourself. It’s okay. It’s natural. It’s biological. It’s healthy for you to want sex. Don’t fight yourself. Girls want sex just like you do.
/r/seduction15/05/22 04:52 AM
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Then don’t ask her. Move on and go meet someone in person. Or ask her an hope for the best. Worst that happens is he doesn’t respond. But if she doesn’t know you, why would she hook you up with her friend? Girls are humans like us man. They still have logical thoughts just like us. This just doesn’t make sense. I get where you’re coming from brother. I tried this same thing when I was in high school. It’s a waste of time. Just talk to girls directly. You’re in high school. Everyone goes their se…
/r/seduction15/05/22 04:49 AM
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Have you hung out with her? The girl you talk to. Not the one you want
/r/seduction15/05/22 03:57 AM
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A lot of socializing is about your body language and how you deliver your communication. Your sub communication is important
/r/seduction14/05/22 05:19 PM
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It’s more in the delivery of the opener. If your contributing to the vibe or trying to get something from it. Personally I would just start with an opinion opener looking over the shoulder followed by a time constraint. I would only do this when I was starting out for practice. Example: walking by and glancing over shoulder “hey guys, quick question before I have to get back to my friends, is kissing cheating?… blah, blah… “I have to go, there’s a shot waiting for me” body rock away and then “oh…
/r/seduction14/05/22 05:18 PM
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Develop a self love and appreciation for yourself and you’ll let go of concerns of rejection. It might hurt a bit but it’s not a big deal. You’re outlook determines how you’ll feel about it. You determine your emotional state
/r/seduction14/05/22 04:14 PM
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They can immerse themselves in the story and be the character or feel what the character feels. They’re free to explore different experiences that they may be too afraid to explore in real life. A story can take someone on a rollercoaster of emotions and make a person feel all sorts of things. Women get turned on through emotional triggers more than physical traits A story can take them through taboo sexual experiences that they might not want to talk about with someone in person. They can free …
/r/seduction14/05/22 04:12 PM
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Because they engage their emotions
/r/seduction14/05/22 03:56 PM
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I agree. I pointed that bc even if her true colors had been good the outcome likely would’ve been the same
/r/seduction14/05/22 03:55 PM
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This. I’m late to the thread lol but also focus on having fun, and making yourself feel good. I love going out alone (I also go out with people lol). I meet so many people and have made so many connections
/r/seduction14/05/22 03:40 PM
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Exactly. This is how you handle things. And then everyone has a fun night. Can’t imagine OP enjoyed himself much during any part of the night.
/r/seduction14/05/22 03:39 PM
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Happy to help brother
/r/seduction14/05/22 03:31 PM
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She’s most likely love this
/r/seduction14/05/22 03:05 PM
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There’s other signs of attraction too. Google “pua ioi’s” ioi (indicator of interest)
/r/seduction14/05/22 03:04 PM
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That’s what’s up! There was no need for OP to DD. I get the feeling he was needy (as in trying to take value vs offering it) even though he thinks he wasn’t. Also for anyone into DHV story’s, Willgo’s comment above is a great example of embedded value spikes in a story. Take notes
/r/seduction14/05/22 03:01 PM
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Google ioi. Is she looking at your lips, maybe doing a triangle gazing from one eye to the next then to your lips and back to your eye? Yes, then Kiss her
/r/seduction14/05/22 02:58 PM
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Sounds like your approach needs to be improved. Learn to open without taking value. Or go indirect. Or have short interactions with people to create a social image of yourself and some pre selection then open a group and merge that group with the one you want. Takes practice. Have fun
/r/seduction14/05/22 02:55 PM
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Didn’t think of this. Makes sense. You say you weren’t clingy but you DD’d for no reason. Sounds like you just wanted her to go with you and said you’d to DD to make that happen. Should’ve just had a good night with everyone and she’d probs still be w you
/r/seduction14/05/22 02:52 PM
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No need for a clown face. She just wasn’t into you. Do you want to be with some one who doesn’t want to be with you. I’m sure there are people you’re not into. They’re not clowns if you reject them.
/r/seduction14/05/22 01:43 PM
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Not a friend. He doesn’t care about you. If you were the DD she didn’t have to stay there. Not even worth looking to the situation. Just point them both to the door
/r/seduction14/05/22 01:40 PM
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Anytime. Good luck with her. 👍
/r/seduction13/05/22 06:15 PM
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You don’t need strong game. Just have fun, be carefree, independent of the outcome. Focus on the process. Just practice and take it one step at a time. Start with an approach. You can just open and then walk away and you’ll be fine. Just start
/r/seduction13/05/22 05:54 PM
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Yes lol if it makes sense. Trust me you’re putting more pressure on it than she is. You’ve got this
/r/seduction13/05/22 05:52 PM
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As for the 2x standard. It’s just not socially acceptable for women to go hit on guys. It’s a masculine act and it’s seen as unattractive and slutty. They just can’t afford to lose face by doing it
/r/seduction13/05/22 05:37 PM
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if you wanted to better yourself which I think you do, you’d go approach women and get good at socializing so that you could have fun interactions with women instead of complaining about things.
/r/seduction13/05/22 05:36 PM
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You didn’t fuck it up. It’s still okay. Next time you hang with her, I’d make a move though
/r/seduction13/05/22 05:34 PM
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That’s up to you to decide. I’d say it’s fine. If it’s a personal kink. Or she’s just awkward and thought it’d be romantic or she was trying to be sexy. If it’s heavy on your mind just ask her about it. I don’t think it’s a big deal… if your hands weren’t clean though than I’d be a bit grossed out by her doing that
/r/seduction13/05/22 05:33 PM
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She will lose interest if you aren’t sexual. Or she’ll think you aren’t interested and she’ll move on. Make a move. Don’t put too much thought into. Just kiss her
/r/seduction13/05/22 05:30 PM
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I’m not one to judge. Maybe it’s a kink of hers. Maybe she was trying to be hot. Everyone’s into there own things. Not sure if this helps but there’s my thoughts lol
/r/seduction13/05/22 05:29 PM
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It’s not sexism. You’re making excuses for yourself to be lazy and make yourself feel better about not doing anything to better your life.
/r/seduction13/05/22 05:12 PM
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Seriously lol. Be carefree, be playful when appropriate and serious when appropriate, have purpose, have fun, protect those around you, lead, don’t be needy, be outcome independent (it’s okay if something doesn’t workout) and be man to woman in a non needy way. Envelope these qualities. You’ll do great
/r/seduction13/05/22 05:06 PM
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They probably take themselves less seriously. They’re carefree, they have fun. If you have these 2 qualities and take care of yourself, you’ll get way more girls just off that
/r/seduction13/05/22 04:56 PM
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No
/r/seduction13/05/22 04:53 PM
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Fair. You’ll learn more as you experience more. She may have said no because you didn’t go through with it the first time. There’s a time to tease and a time for action. I blew a couple chances when I 1st started gaming. Never recovered with them lol I just moved on
/r/seduction13/05/22 02:12 PM
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This. And remember to have fun. Girls just wanna have fun was a hit song for a reason lol
/r/seduction13/05/22 01:42 PM
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listen to yourself. You’re a man. Stop holding your hand out begging someone to save you. Go get laid. You’ll feel way better. Don’t you want to feel good, to like yourself. All I hear is self pity and self sabatoge. You deserve to live a life you enjoy where you respect who you are. You’re worth the self work. Put in the effort
/r/seduction13/05/22 01:19 PM
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2 steps forward, 1 step back. Don’t be pushy. I wouldn’t even discuss the subject with her, especially not over text. Just kino and move things forward once you’re both together. But don’t rush it
/r/seduction13/05/22 01:16 PM
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She just doesn’t want to seem like a sl*t. Girls want to be able to say “one thing led to another” or “it just happened”.
/r/seduction13/05/22 01:05 PM
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Why didn’t you go through with it the first time?
/r/seduction13/05/22 12:00 PM
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Tease, push pull, back handed compliments with a smirk that are obviously playful and that are not even close to being rude. Playful comments with sexual innuendo. Take it back to the playground and tease her. Have fun
/r/seduction12/05/22 09:48 PM
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I just text when I have time. And I usually don’t have time for a text convo, and I don’t like text convos lol I’ll Snapchat, FaceTime her, call her, or just invite her out/over
/r/seduction12/05/22 11:22 AM
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Oh, in that case I prefer to invite them to tag along to whatever I’m doing. Going out with friends, going to the bar, walking my dog at the park, getting a coffee. Really just anything. It’s okay to be forward too though. Just don’t be needy. The perspective should be more like, “I think this would be fun and I think you’d be fun to do this with. I’ll have fun with or without you though, respectfully”
/r/seduction11/05/22 10:22 PM
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No it’s leading the interaction. Which is what you should be doing. If they swipe right, you’re already validated.
/r/seduction11/05/22 09:55 PM
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Yeah keep going. When I started cold approach or even still if I’m not feeling social some days, I’ll do things like this. I also suggest grocery stores. Say I’m looking for pasta, I’ll make a comment to whoever’s around saying that I can’t decide what type of noodles I want that night, or at a book store ask what books people are currently reading or would recommend
/r/seduction11/05/22 08:37 PM
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Calibrate your answer to the situation. If it’s week 5 of dating and your cuddling on the couch, the depth of your answer will be different than your 1st date at a coffee shop. And much different than your 1st night meeting when the bar is closing down and she just wants to go home with you
/r/seduction11/05/22 07:16 PM
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And if you want 1-1 then you need to bounce to another location. Example: another room, patio, porch, or just another place. Don’t get upset if people interrupt. Like Fluffy said above, it’s a social gathering. Just talk to them both. If you can lead the interaction you’ll just dhv yourself even more lol
/r/seduction11/05/22 04:43 PM
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Google iois and get familiar with them. Test for compliance. Make a move
/r/seduction11/05/22 04:41 PM
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Go out alone. Meet people. Network. Build a social circle with people you meet who like to go out.
/r/seduction11/05/22 04:39 PM
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Or wait for it. Maybe she just thought it’d be fun for all of you to go out together. And maybe her friend wants to see your friend and this way everyone wins
/r/seduction11/05/22 04:27 PM
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I’d use situational openers like asking for advice on a price of clothing, type of pasta noodle, or book etc. then introduce myself or stack into any other type of opener
/r/seduction11/05/22 04:12 PM
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I prefer the bar / club. Before I could go the bar, I’d go to the mall, grocery store, book store. I made it a habit to be social throughout the day
/r/seduction11/05/22 04:10 PM
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Go out and be proactive with cold approach. A few times a week. Talk to women throughout the day. I get no matches on tinder. I also don’t have a bio lol only pics. I don’t use it though because I go out and meet people day to day
/r/seduction11/05/22 02:27 PM
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Charisma is just you being you. Find your sense of humor and lean into it. Focus on being self entertained and having fun. If you have fun, you’ll enjoy it and it won’t feel forced
/r/seduction10/05/22 03:07 PM
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Yeah till one of you catches feelings.
/r/seduction09/05/22 07:19 PM
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Sounds you like you aren’t enjoying yourself during these interactions. I get being disappointed if things don’t work out. My advice is enjoy the process. Enjoy the dates and have fun with the girl. Don’t concern yourself with impressing her or saying the right things. Just have fun and entertain yourself. Include her in said fun and enjoy your time with her, independent of the outcome. In this way there is no heavy lifting. Just you enjoying life and letting someone else in on the enjoyment wit…
/r/seduction08/05/22 10:37 PM
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Just approach and open the group. Talk to them all, then ask how they all know eachother.
/r/seduction08/05/22 03:51 PM
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If you value yourself, this order will happen naturally.And you have to qualify in a way that she actually feels like she earned the qualification.
/r/seduction07/05/22 12:55 AM
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It’s a shit test. Or they’re just uninterested. Back to the basics. Open, attract, qualify, comfort. This is the way. They can happen simultaneously, but this is the overall order.
/r/seduction07/05/22 12:50 AM
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No. It won’t. Go out. Have fun. Don’t be needy. Be man to woman. Have fun. Flirt. Free yourself from the outcome. Still be man to woman. Have fun. You already gave examples of 4 DHV’s. You’ll be fine. I promise
/r/seduction06/05/22 11:39 PM
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Shift your focus to what you can adjust on your game. Make these calibrations and get better each night. Fine tune your interactions. Focus on what is happening during the interaction. The outcome is cool, but it doesn’t help your game. What helps is the adjustments you make as you go. Make this the goal each time you practice game
/r/seduction02/05/22 03:28 PM
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If they approach, they risk losing face. It’s a game of social dynamics. If she approaches, it’s a bad look in societies eyes. If she gets rejected, she loses perceived value. It’s also emotionally nerve wrecking approaching and women are more delicate than men on average. It’s not worth it for her to approach. And she’s a women who probably wants a man to approach her
/r/seduction29/03/22 02:17 PM
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How do you find commonalities with someone new if you don’t approach them?
/r/seduction23/03/22 03:21 AM
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If she says no to what? Is your cold approach direct or indirect? Indirect creates social comfort with day game. Gives her plausible deniability in regards to flirting so she can save face and not look easy. It gives you time to let her see your personality and build attraction. Time to screen her to see if she’s worth continuing to talk to. If not cold approach, how do you meet new people?
/r/seduction23/03/22 03:03 AM
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That’s such a mean thing to do.
/r/seduction17/03/22 02:07 PM
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Is it an actual issue they have or are they just busting your balls to see how you respond?
/r/seduction14/03/22 04:17 PM
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No, I’ll hangout with women just to hangout though. Plenty of practice there. I don’t have good enjoyable interactions if I’m not attracted to girl and I try to date. However, I’ll have plenty of fun as friends. Plus, building a group of friend girls will lead to them introducing you to their friends.
/r/seduction19/01/22 03:49 PM
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It’s not just desire. He’s being self entertained. And he’s sharing his fun vibe with everyone. He’s only adding value with his action. There’s zero neediness. He’s acting independent of the outcome. He’s just having fun. Also he’s famous so he has tons of social proof, as long as he makes no major social violation, he can do what he wants
/r/seduction13/10/21 01:09 AM
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There is some truth. They say when you feel love at first sight, run the other way because you’re really recognizing the other persons insecurities bc you share the same ones. This creates a feeling of comfort... on another note, I personally find that when I am really attracted to someone physically, it is a lot easier to engage in banter and the conversation just flows naturally because I truly am interested in who they are and what they have to say
/r/seduction07/03/21 07:53 PM
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Smile and have fun. Just relax and have fun
/r/seduction26/07/20 04:38 PM
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Flow and calibrate as you go. Pick should be fun, it’s an art form. The art of building relationships
/r/seduction24/06/20 01:20 AM
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