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| 105 | My dad got to eat Santa’s cookies while my mom toiled the entire night... | COCKHOLM SYNDROME | ThicThighzSavesLivez | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/19 05:26 AM |
| 61 | Y’all get ready, lurkers are coming to FDS, again. | ThicThighzSavesLivez | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/20 12:01 AM | |
| 4 | First time legit HVM date, what the hell do I do now??? | ThicThighzSavesLivez | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/19 01:08 AM | |
| 1 | A male FDS lurker messaged me with this!...guess he didn’t like one of my comments 😏🙄I must be doing something right | SCROTES MAD | ThicThighzSavesLivez | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/20 11:42 PM |
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| 5 | Not even if Dean provided me with everything I've ever dreamed of in life.I’m sure her mother is proud | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 08:04 PM |
| 28 | Experiences with alcoholism?I signed a new lease and told him I was leaving. Long story short he stopped drinking and got his shit together and became a HVM all on his own. I stopped “helping” and treating him like a baby, and removed myself from anything that had to do with him being an adult on his own. He figured it put real quick because he wanted it badly enough. If they don’t want it bad enough, then there’s nothing to be done but walk away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 06:57 PM |
| 27 | If I had a penis, I would run. At midnight in the pitch black. With headphones in both ears instead of just one. I would feel free as a birdOh man I’m soooo with you. I’m a runner too and what I wouldn’t give for a nighttime trail run, with headphones in two ears, no weapon in my hand, and no paranoia that I’m gonna get kidnapped and raped and left for dead. Men have no idea the type of privilege they have. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 05:36 PM |
| 20 | Stop caring about men who make it clear they don’t care about you!Ha! This is hilarious. The part about putting your emotions in a box and walking away is the truth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 12:18 AM |
| 5 | Am I being too tough on the OLD match?No you’re not being too tough. OLD sets the bar so low that it skews our perception, making us wonder if we’re being too picky or tough. You had it right, that type of behavior will only magnify with that guy. Good riddance. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 05:27 PM |
| 169 | Women need to start being as shallow to men as they are to usThe minute I started not giving two shits about what men want, is the minute they all came flocking. Queen energy is real y’all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 11:41 PM |
| 49 | Getting married early?Don’t do it!!! You’re 30 year old self will thank you later for it. Right now, you can’t possibly fathom how much your personality, wants, and desires will change from now until you become a full adult (around/after 30 years old). You’ll end up putting yourself in a situation that you can’t easily change (kids, husband, paying a mortgage, worrying about childcare, life insurance). Being asked to marry someone may seem cute and grown up, but it’s so much more work and far more permanent a lifesty… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 05:36 PM |
| 50 | Oh Lort 🤭Hahahahah omg this is classic. Thank you Shadow! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 01:43 AM |
| 6 | A question about Match.comYea you have to pay to read their messages. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/20 10:16 PM |
| 47 | Why do they only care after they've hurt you?I second #3 especially. It also helps them not look like the bad guy, depending on the scenario of course. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 03:52 AM |
| 27 | Finally found my HVM ladies!!! 🤗 He's totally into talking about feminism with his homeboy and didn't even mean to let me know about it. Hello hubby 😍X!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 09:40 PM |
| 20 | I came across this “birthday card” my ex had written for me while I was deep cleaning my bedroom this morning. It was written with my lip liner. I still stayed with him for a year after this. You literally can’t make this shit up.I initially thought a child had written it and was wondering what it was doing on FDS | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/20 03:15 PM |
| 64 | Men’s Pockets are Bigger to Help Carry Their AudacityI’ve had this done to me before. An LVM who presents well but casually mentions sex, then adds in a “unless you’d rather talk about poetry”. Which is doubly insulting in my opinion. And no, they can’t talk about anything but sex. They don’t know how, it’s all that’s on their minds. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/20 02:21 PM |
| 34 | No, we can’t be friends.Agreed on this. Good for you, but it could’ve been said in 3 sentences. He isn’t worth that much of your time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/20 12:19 AM |
| 31 | Reminder: A HVM knows doing the bare minimum is just that. The bare minimum.Man if I had a dollar for every time I’ve had this conversation in the past. Suddenly the one day they did something right, overshadows the years that you’ve been doing the same task. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/20 09:15 PM |
| 50 | Principle of least interest and you: What does it mean?This shit works. Over time, the less I cared the more I get in return. They’ll do anything to capture my attention. And the overall caliber of men seeking my attention, also increased. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/20 10:47 PM |
| 114 | I wonder why he "can't figure her out" ....She. Don’t. Like. You. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/20 11:40 PM |
| 25 | For all the single ladies.. what's your favorite part about being single?I love not having to tell anyone where I’m going—grocery store, bar, smoke a blunt with a friend. I love not being someone else’s emotional support. And generally I love doing what I want, when I want without any explanation to anyone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 04:40 PM |
| 13 | Is There A Way To Tell If A Guy Is Going To Pay Before Going On A Date?There’s no way to tell. I walk up in there with every expectation that THEY will pay. I don’t look at the check or the waitress when she brings it. Usually I’m doing a lot of smiling, conversation, and eye contact with the guy when the check rolls around. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 11:51 PM |
| 35 | Just when we thought The Bachelor/Bachelorette could not get more “pick me”... they have officially peaked, ladies.Uhhhhm no. I’m gonna call out that lie. The producers told her to say that. She actually likes a ripped body like the rest of us. Well moisturized, ripped abs to be precise. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 06:10 PM |
| 35 | Made it about 3 days online dating and just deleted.Yea I totally quit a few months back. There is absolutely zero decent prospects on OLD. And the amount of time wasted on swiping could easily be filled with a productive or self nurturing activity that would serve us in much better ways. Peace out OLD✌🏼...Holla if ya heard! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 08:49 PM |
| 77 | BabeHahahaha....this some true shit right here. The only time they do disclose their feelings, is to shut down yours. Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 02:40 AM |
| 14 | An eye for an eyeSounds like it. And it sounds like you already know it and just want some outside validation. He sounds so extra. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/20 06:29 AM |
| 27 | Why men knowing how to clean/keep a house is more important than you realiseThis is profoundly true. They will indeed look to you to care for the house and do all the worrying if a guest arrives, because they could give two shits about it because they expect you to do it. Such a HUGE red flag. Run the other way, lest your days be filled with endless house chores and an unappreciative partner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/20 04:54 AM |
| 7 | You're Dating a LVM who has "the potential" to be a HVM. Should you leave automatically, or try to help him level up?Nope to the no. Been there done that, and in the end you will still be the one: guiding him through breakthroughs, helping him see the light, etc. The focus will still be about him. The only way is if HE has the impetus and does everything on his own, separate from you. Otherwise you’re the one doing the emotional journey with him, and going through the exercises. “Potential” has to be put into action, otherwise it’s just us daydreaming about how much better a guy could be if he....etc, which me… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/20 01:19 AM |
| 12 | 😍Reason 183 why your mom is a badass. I hope to find a man one day he will do the same for me. Give that mom a high five! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 05:05 PM |
| 11 | Body of missing college student Anitra Gunn, found in Georgia, her boyfriend arrested. She went missing on Valentine’s Day. Yet another reminder that failing to INVESTIGATE and weed out LVM can cost you your life!Thank you for this and the other reminders that my life is valuable, and not take for granted a simple date or a casual “boyfriend”. We’re fucking worth more than this ladies!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 04:18 PM |
| 296 | Don't kneecap your sentences.Agreed 1000% on this. I stopped using these word softeners awhile back, realizing I was using them to soften the “blow” for the other person. Another example of pickmeisha behavior. There’s nothing wrong with stating your needs and wants explicitly and clearly. And don’t be surprised if suddenly people around you start giving you the side eye for being so direct and “harsh”. It’s harsher when you’re the one doing the suffering. Another reminder to take no shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 04:14 PM |
| 8 | Ladies, I really need your opinion/advice...How long would you say it takes to “focus on yourself” successfully, after a divorce/separation? Curious what a reasonable timeline looks like. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 01:19 AM |
| 15 | Ladies, I really need your opinion/advice...They do that because they realize how shitty they were when they had you. But that’s as far as it’ll go. He didn’t gain more insight, nothing clicked, he’s not gonna get the larger picture. And if he does want a life transforming moment, he can do that without suddenly being nice to you out of the blue. Real changes happen when he’s not talking to you, and fixing himself for his own good, not just to impress you. That shit doesn’t happen in 6 months or a year or 2 years. You know this. You alrea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 01:16 AM |
| 35 | How to give off "I don't play" vibesI do that by maintaining direct eye contact. It’s the same with dogs, all the power is in direct eye contact. So when I speak, coupled with the eye contact, they can see I’m not playing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 05:00 AM |
| 1 | Moving in: am I playing this right?Agreed with every comment. Don’t do it. Unless you’re about to get married and you’re absolutely 1000% sure he isn’t an asshole LVM. Otherwise you’ll be his live in mom who makes the place warmer and more inviting. Think planning parties for “your” friends, doing everyone’s laundry, cooking for both of you....it’ll happen far before that lease is up. Trussst! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/20 04:50 AM |
| 2 | “Women have the love life that they want.” ~ heard it somewhere.Exaaaactly! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/20 07:12 PM |
| 27 | What’s the deal with military men?Two out of the three military men I knew were heavy drinkers and emotionally inept. Nice guys, but how you gonna live with that shit? The third was a super LVM and constantly made me feel bad about my body, and how it could be better etc, despite me just have lost over 100 lbs. He was SUPER insecure in every way possible, controlling, etc. I’m already doing better than him and I haven’t even begun to try. So there’s that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/20 08:07 AM |
| 22 | THE AUDACITY 🤣 my friend just sent this to meEwww I’m sure they’re all equally inadequate, in multiple ways. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/20 07:57 AM |
| 31 | A way to figure out if a guy can actually pleasure you before you hop into bedThe real question is how do we tell if they give good head?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/20 11:37 PM |
| 16 | “Women have the love life that they want.” ~ heard it somewhere.Wow this is so true. Had a guy once assume I get Tinder dick every night because I’m “attractive”....sigh, if it were that easy. They completely overlook how many hurdles exist in just figuring out if a guy is a decent human, let alone someone you’ll sleep with 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/20 11:05 PM |
| 12 | Advice from the AuntiesMy aunt: get yo shit (finances) together. Take care of yourself. Pay yourself first. Always look out for yourself first. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/20 08:00 PM |
| 28 | Louder for those in the back.Preach! I don’t do shit like fix a collar, or straighten a crooked shirt for none ‘a dem. Unless we’re exclusive, no nurturing at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/20 07:51 PM |
| 26 | She waited 9 years for this... it’s not so much the diamond size, it’s more the fact that it obviously doesn’t even fit properly!Agreed!!! Like I’m squinting to look at her hands to find the ring. Her smile belies what’s really going on inside. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 02:36 AM |
| 188 | She waited 9 years for this... it’s not so much the diamond size, it’s more the fact that it obviously doesn’t even fit properly!Naaaah it’s the entire ring. The band is too small for her hand, the chip of a stone is too small for her hand too. It looks like he bought the ring for another woman entirely. No. Just no. The ring doesn’t have to be expensive but it has to match the woman who’s wearing it. He Failed this one. And 9 years?!!! Take that shit back and try again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 01:30 AM |
| 46 | Come watch some males call me “porn sick and delusional” for expecting men to be able to last 15 minutes of penetrative sex. 🙄Hahahahah sweet baby Jesus they are way off! Healthy and Happy dick can last for minimally an hour while you’re doing your thing. 15 minutes!! Pfff!!🙄😱 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/20 06:25 PM |
| 25 | OLD phenomenon: women asking men outI think we missed the goldenish era of OLD. I have over 50+ matches on Tinder who haven’t made the effort to speak up. And yes they’re waiting for the woman to initiate 🙄. What a bunch of lame asses. I’ve considered one day initiating conversation with one or two, then see who will continue the conversation after, and keep up the chase. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 09:33 PM |
| 7 | Stalker?I would also think interacting with him less and less is best. Aside from making it clear and in writing that you want no contact, I wouldn’t even ask him questions because it clearly is frustrating you and it gives him some semblance of power. Like another commenter suggested, document everything, but don’t give him the satisfaction of your curiosity. I wish you luck and safety. I hope he disappears back where he came from. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 06:54 PM |
| 84 | "I was blindsided!!!"Girrrrrl this is me all the way. Years of stating my unhappiness, suggestions to change, cute notes, quick love letters highlighting a problem. And then it escalating to my excluding any niceties and in clear verbal English telling him why I was so unhappy. And only after he got a divorce letter, did he suddenly realize something was wrong and even then STILL couldn’t put the pieces together. His head is so far up how own ass. I can’t tell you how often I hear him say he was “blindsided” by the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 06:11 PM |
| 28 | A moment of silence for our fallen sister 💀 😞Ha! I’m not proposing shit to no man. If he wants it, he can come and get it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 04:19 PM |
| 56 | Stop Calling Men "HVM" after two or three datesYes I’ve wisened up to know that anytime I think I find an HVM, he’s more often than not super skilled at getting what he wants. I went out a few times with a new guy, and his level of game was something I hadn’t experienced before. Each time though, I get wiser and learn the more sophisticated “games” men run, so I’m not worried. The smarter they get, they smarter I get. Ima gets mine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 09:00 PM |
| 22 | Does anyone else have a pickme mom?Yes my mom puts the onus on the woman. So yes, men have no moral compass, “but woman do, and that’s where we have to lead” by example and blah blah. In other words, put up with their behavior but find a fake way to pretend like you’re better. She’s also guilty of “he’s not that bad” when it comes to my mate choice. She was in an unhappy marriage until my dad died, and still uses him as an excuse for avoiding self care. I just try to be gracious with her. She did push me out her vagina after all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/20 05:56 PM |
| 41 | Whose mother didn’t teach them anything about dating?My mother gave me zero advice on dating and men in general. Besides the usual women are the ones who need to lead by example. 🙄🙄 which is one more thing that supposedly falls on the shoulders of women. It’s all bullshit though imo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/20 11:42 PM |
| 19 | LVM don’t care about women’s sexual pleasure, Always make him give you his social mediaI guess these are the lies men tell themselves to feel better about their overall inadequacy🤷🏻♀️. I mean sheesh guys. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/20 12:12 AM |
| 32 | Ugandan men are forcing their partners to breastfeed them BEFORE their children get to drink 🤢🤢🤢This is so unsettling. Their level of selfishness and ability to only worry about themselves is astounding. They’re taking milk from their own children. Their own flesh and blood. I can’t with this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 10:19 PM |
| 11 | Seems a little entitled.. Opinions on “ghosting” someone who I have had one convo with online (met on tinder) and have NEVER hung out with. He kept trying to plan to hang out... but always fell through and it just never happened so i stopped replying bc i ain’t wasting my time!Ha! An explanation??!!?? Fuck off guy, we not even playin’ in the same sandbox. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/20 05:59 PM |
| 51 | I would rather slide down a razor blade into a pool of lemon juice than be this much of a pick-me, oh my god!!! Save her!Shit I’ll date her too if she pays off my credit card bills | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/20 03:45 AM |
| 14 | All that verbal diarrhoea just to say 'date young girls, they're easier to prey on' 🤢🤢🤢This guy is revolting. His excuses are painful to read. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/20 02:46 PM |
| 16 | 2 minutes into unhiding my tinder profile ...Girl I just did the same thing on Tinder. Went back on, and supremely unimpressed. I’ll wait for Prince Charming another day... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/20 02:44 PM |
| 13 | I notice I can't even say f#ck you to man who really pissed me off.Fuck him for making you feel bad about HIM giving you unsolicited comments. You said your piece, graciously and with class, and now he can go fuck himself. I once had a crossing guard try to stop me to flirt. But I passed him by, then he switches to “slow down it’s a school zone”. Fucking men and their power trips. 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/20 02:32 PM |
| 89 | Comedy hour: what is the most ridiculous thing a LVM has ever had the audacity to say to you?One LVM who I went out with on a few dates, got angry at me because he found out I got my tubes tied. He was annoyed by the surgery cuz I wouldn’t be able to have his babies (🙄🙄)and didn’t give one shit about how I was doing post-op. Yep. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/20 06:31 AM |
| 289 | guys are learning astrology to try to get laidWhat. The. Fuck does a big clit have to do with astrology?? By god these men are insane. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/20 04:31 PM |
| 5 | Is my boyfriend porn sick?Unsure if this was stated already, but alcohol is a major contributor to sexual dysfunction. Especially the older a man gets, the worse it is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/20 05:37 PM |
| 28 | Again, what wall? 41 y.o. Woman with 6 kids still beating 20 and 30 y.o. men off with a stick.Preach!! Don’t know what it is, but the same here. Late twenties/early thirties all day everyday. Shiiit I’ll take it...their dicks work just fine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/20 03:43 AM |
| 9 | A whole mood.Officially stealing this... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 06:44 AM |
| 45 | Hit the wall? Not at all!...And the amount of power we gain as we age is the real prize. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 01:00 AM |
| 42 | Men be likeHahahhaha if that look in his eyes doesn’t say it all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 02:11 AM |
| 37 | And not one single lie was toldMotherfuckers don’t know what to do when you have a big brain...awww shit lookout fellas, dis female done grew some legs and think she know something!🙄🧐 fucking assholes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/20 01:39 AM |
| 61 | This is how flippant men are about toying with women’s feelings and treating them like dirt. And we are called bad for wanting to protect ourselves against this kind of bullshit. 🙄Wow this shit is real 🤭🤭. Can’t believe it. Homegirl sounded like she did the right thing and values herself more than he’d like her to. Men are so worthless. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/20 07:24 PM |
| 14 | What is the psychology behind fuckbois who cry about completely inconsequential stuff (like random celebrities dying) but don’t bat an eyelash at things that actually matter?Yes girl!! I was in a LTR with someone who wouldn’t cry/acknowledge painful emotions or feel deep feelings for things that most people would, like death of a loved one or job loss. He felt bad and sad but unable to sit with those feelings for longer than five minutes. However, he’d blow a gasket at small inconveniences, like forgetting something or dropping something by accident. I feel like it’s the result of undeveloped emotional processing. He didn’t learn how to process or where to place the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/20 03:10 AM |
| 1 | A male FDS lurker messaged me with this!...guess he didn’t like one of my comments 😏🙄I must be doing something rightNoted! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/20 01:10 AM |
| 20 | Satisfied in and out of a relationship? NSFWI don’t see a problem with keeping him on rotation as long as he follows your rules and knows how to act right. There are some men that I keep as fuckboys and the sex is great. I don’t really want to go out with them, just sex is fine. I do require them to treat me with consideration and respect according to my rules, and if they fuck up, I tell them about it. And they respond correctly or they get scratched off the fuckboy list. Just my 2 cents. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/20 10:21 PM |
| 14 | Yeah!! Treat him like a king girl! That will totally pay off 🤦♀️Preach🙌🏼🙌🏼. I’ve come to find it a rare thing when a husband consciously maintains a marriage long term. I know they exist but they must be uniquely rare and unusual. The pattern seems to be taking shit for granted, lower and lower effort, then completely ignoring the wife and her efforts in the relationship. And eventually the “I do everything you ask me to do” statements. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/20 04:39 PM |
| 94 | How do I interpret this Tinder message?“Stop asking and start jumping” seems an apt response. Seriously though, I kind of appreciate the directness. So I might say “minimally a proper date with a meal” and let him figure out the rest. Then you can see if he’s full of shit or not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/20 07:23 PM |
| 96 | How is any of this attractive 🤮...not like gag reflex is an issue cuz he surely has a little dick 😏 Without👏🏼.A👏🏼.Doubt👏🏼. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/20 08:49 PM |
| 7 | the subject is dogs, not your illterate coomer fantasiesUhhhh how bout we learn to spell first, then we get to his dumb opinions🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/01/20 12:38 AM |
| 14 | Advice on /r/WhereareallthegoodmenExaaaaaactly. The words I couldn’t form but yes!! This!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/20 10:50 PM |
| 45 | Advice on /r/WhereareallthegoodmenI can’t even with this. And the tone of all the men commenting! Like whoa motherfuckers! They’re the kind of men I wouldn’t even look in the direction of, for fear they would get false validation. And you know they’re all pasty and gross and think so highly of themselves. I couldn’t get past two thirds of that shit. Oh my god! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/20 09:18 PM |
| 21 | Keanu wisdom!Which movie is this? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/20 01:16 AM |
| 4 | First time legit HVM date, what the hell do I do now???True true. I’ll keep that in mind, don’t get all caught up in the bedazzled stuff. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/19 03:36 AM |
| 1 | First time legit HVM date, what the hell do I do now???This sounds great cuz I’m lazy and don’t really feel like putting in that much effort via phone relationship with him. And that’s EXACTLY what I want, someone to take me out for a mutually enjoyable time. I’ve been stating I’m looking for casual dating when asked, which seems to be a nice neutral answer. It hasn’t led to any creepy responses or segways into sex. If I’m being totally honest, I don’t know what to do with the in between men. They are the ones I don’t want to sleep with, but I don’t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/19 03:36 AM |
| 34 | What's the intial red flags you ignored from past relationships?I COMPLETELY ignored one of my ex’s lack of communication and underdeveloped emotional intelligence. I don’t know if my head was up my ass or if I was sniffing glue, can’t tell you. I was young, maybe that was it. The result was an emotionally unavailable adult male child, incapable of processing any depth of emotion. Which is the complete opposite of how I experience and feel life. Needless to say it didn’t work out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/19 08:02 PM |
| 3 | Not quite a queen.. a princess in training?Whoaaa🤯 you just described the part of myself I’ve been wrestling with recently. Thank you so much for this. Now I can process some things more deeply with less personal judgement. Merry Christmas! Y’all are the baddest bitches!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/19 04:57 PM |
| 14 | My dad got to eat Santa’s cookies while my mom toiled the entire night...I did make it better for myself by saying good riddance. Now I have all the power to eat all the cookies, wrap all the presents, and play my Christmas music without answering to anyone. Fuck that shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/19 04:08 PM |
| 20 | He wanted to pay but I paid my own foodHe can pay for every meal from now on. Make him work for that shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/19 04:03 PM |
| 39 | My dad got to eat Santa’s cookies while my mom toiled the entire night...Right?!!??! Me too, my mom had to clean and I remember her being angry and bitter about it. Every year. So we all tried to help her out as much as possible, but damnit you right! Why do women always always get put in the goddamn kitchen? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/19 08:48 AM |
| 11 | I’m really tired of intros on OLD like “how are you?”, “what are you up to today?”..I ask random weird questions like what they had for breakfast, to see if they’ll keep it rolling, or if they can think outside the box. The amount of energy it takes me to get some of them to engage in a more interesting way is one major eye roll. I find if I don’t do it, then it just doesn’t happen. Then I wonder if maybe I need to throw them a bone or two, to show them I’m interested. I dunno. And the ones who are eager to talk, either have sex on the mind or they’re in a younger age category … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/19 11:45 PM |
| 16 | Because the better part of a decade is still too soon for "us"For real on this one. Men are stupid AF. If the “we” comes from a woman, they feel the need to run away. If it comes from a man, it’s when they know you at minimum and just want to stake a claim. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/19 11:02 PM |
| 13 | Is this lovebombing and should he be tossed?I’d just like to mutually rant with you about being a woman of beauty and high intellect. Same here. The guy could be a really great guy all around, but if he isn’t picking my brain or engaging in some mental conversation with me then I get pissy. Beauty is the first thing you might mention, because it’s the first thing noticed before one opens their mouth. After I start speaking, it’s all— uhhhh, fellas I have a brain here, a big one, why are you not talking to it?! Men are so stupid. There wer… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/19 02:38 PM |
| 16 | What IS "divorce rape" exactly?Omg this is so true. My ex waxed poetic about my SAHM status. But grew to resent me not working, because he ultimately makes poor financial decisions. So my “freeloading” self was just ruining it for him🙄. What a selfish dick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 01:53 AM |
| 9 | Well endowed men and their hubrisAgreed to that. For whatever reason, I attract Big Dick Energy, and almost never get an inadequate size penis. There was one that was my worst (a porn issue), and the other was just alright. But the rest of my big boys worked it just fine, and weren’t assholes about it. I do ascribe to the method, of not talking about their penis, it’s size, or even commenting on its ability to satisfy me. If they are lucky to give me pleasure, then they can tell how I feel during the act. As far as I’m concerne… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/19 01:23 AM |
| 39 | when I find the one she can delete my tinderWow! So fucking lazy you can’t even delete YOUR OWN Tinder account, after you (hopefully never) find the woman of your dreams. Real go getter right there! Ladies, let’s keep it together, and not all cat fight over him at once!! Gimme a fucking break🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/19 06:29 PM |
| 27 | Being nagged by women is a LVM problemShit girl, you wrote the book on this. That’s EXACTLY what happened-“ wait what?! You never gave me a chance!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/19 09:09 PM |
| 57 | Being nagged by women is a LVM problemThis entire post validates me so much. I used to blame myself for becoming a nag then woke up one day and realized that’s his problem. Furthermore, like the post stated, be a man of your word and commitment. Stop half-assing shit then blame it on everything else but yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/19 07:36 PM |
| 75 | How I found a HVM, got engaged and have a wedding date set, in >2 years.I wanna hear how you met. For whatever reason that seems to be the most interesting part of these stories for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/19 02:25 PM |
| 9 | When the juice IS worth the squeeze but he has issuesIf he has emotional issues that accidentally get taken out on you. It means he has emotional issues he’s not dealing with,and eventually you’ll become his emotional backbone. It means he is so disconnected from his emotional life that he will rely on you to manage it. ALL RED FLAGS girl. I was married to someone just like that. On the outside and in front of people he was HVM. But over time I realized I was his emotional crutch for dealing with anything that was uncomfortable or emotions he didn… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/19 03:26 PM |
| 105 | What’s with guys who are 40+ still talking about “wanting kids someday”. With who, exactly?Hahahah sweet baby Jesus that’s my thinking precisely when I meet someone my age who says they want kids.....Umm so why are we even talking???Because my uterus wants nothing to do with gestating anything. Thank you, next. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/19 03:35 AM |
| 47 | Had this conversation on tinder this morning. I truly can’t believe some men are like this about self confidence.What👏🏼The 👏🏼Fuck👏🏼? Did his bitch ass just bait you, then condemn you for answering his question?? What a major dick! That’s like asking a guy if his D is big, he says yes, then you respond - “might cocky aren’t we?” Furthermore, bitch I know I am pretty cuz that’s all men talk about. So I’m either daft or my fucking ears work and I can hear the bajillion different men telling me so. And even if I weren’t pretty, men say shit like that all the time to women to curry favor. So any reference to lo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/19 03:17 PM |
| 21 | I think I have reached enlightenment, ladies. Hate mail for my posts and comments on here. I deserve more than a newbie badge my dear mods.If that’s not an Official Level Up right there, then I don’t know what is. Bring it scrote bitches. 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/19 02:07 AM |
| 6 | What percentage of 40 yr olds have a limp D?Yes I definitely have noticed an age correlation with limpness, hardness, ability to maintain or not etc. The younger the easier (usually. Porn use for any age has absolutely been a factor) it is for the D to work. However! The older the man, the more outside factors affect them in varying ways. The older, the more alcohol messes with the D, and lifestyle choices overall add to performance. But older men def lose their D ability with alcohol. I’ve encountered that a lot. A lot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/19 08:42 PM |
| 49 | True self care.Shiiiit. I’ve often wondered if this is a viable strategy for those of us with ridiculous sex drives. Seeing someone else recommend it, validates my thoughts completely. Thanks sis! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/19 06:43 PM |
| 16 | Have you ever thwarted porno-learned-bdsm behavior from a man during sex? If so, how did you do it?Ima be real. I think I would enjoy degrading them with a slap. That’s fucked up. The men you slap don’t get more aroused by it, or do you do it in a way that tells them to straight fuck off? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/19 06:01 AM |
| 9 | The MansplainerI hate those mofos!! In public I run shit and he loves it; in private it’s a fight for every little inch. 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 11:47 PM |
| 72 | A guy who I briefly talked to a few years ago shared this. Funny thing is, he kissed me at a party and then went downstairs and started making out with another girl and I caught him. Now all he does is complain on social media...mostly about women.For the record, Judge Judy is a Boss Bitch. And ain’t nobody but a broke ass hater (see above example) gonna have shit to say about her. JJ also said the only way for women to have true independence is through financial independence. Preach JJ🙌🏼...Leveling up now ladies | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 04:54 PM |
| 59 | From this point on, payment for speaking to me on gas station property is a full tank of gas and whatever candy I wanna eat. Thanks shut up bye...add to that a fat blunt, and we good to go. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/19 07:04 PM |
| 3 | How does one join the private sub r/DarkTriadWomen?I’m totally down for that shit!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/19 06:03 AM |
| 43 | Husband having an affair. This is the saddest post I’ve read in a while. Honestly.😢I’m 37 and going through a divorce and yes, to all you Future Queen Boss Bitches, do not make any man your life/world/heart/soul. It’s a) based on utter bullshit and entirely unachievable and b) such an effing waste of the resources you were born with. Serve no one’s happiness but your own...<<mike drop>> | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/19 06:49 PM |
| 23 | I swear. 🙄Preach 🙌🏼! I sadly learned that too late. 🥺...but then I got a divorce. Then learned to look out for mines! Facts | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 04:52 AM |
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