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| 1 | "Just talk to women as people" and its even worse when you realize they genuinely like you as a person, yet none of them sees you "that way"They aren’t insulting you. Assuming you’ve not met these folks they can only describe you with the words you use. They have no idea what you look like, or your income, or how you dress, or how you present yourself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/25 11:56 AM |
| 1 | Question for women: How can a man who's not able to get casual sex, pursue a serious relationship with a woman who did have casual sex with other men?You, yourself, identified your appearance as a 2-3, so, yes….it is not as likely that you will be selected as the object of lust based on purely physical appearance. This should not surprise you, nor should you be upset about it. I’m 65 years old, and a little chubby. I’d be willing to bet Shemar Moore isn’t gonna try picking me up either! 😉 I guess you and I both have to accept that we aren’t going to experience that! People would sometimes say to my kids “you can be anything you want!” I alway… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/10/25 10:32 PM |
| 1 | Question for women: How can a man who's not able to get casual sex, pursue a serious relationship with a woman who did have casual sex with other men?Whoa, wait…. And you see sex based on an emotional bind is INFERIOR to one based on… getting drunk and hooking up with a random stranger? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/10/25 01:26 AM |
| 1 | Women: Why are you unable / unwilling to understand why most men consider "hookup/FWB material" more validating than "husband material" given that you put the FWB/hookup guys in a way more exclusive, privileged, elite club?Alrighty! You are entitled to your opinion! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/25 09:49 PM |
| 1 | Women: Why are you unable / unwilling to understand why most men consider "hookup/FWB material" more validating than "husband material" given that you put the FWB/hookup guys in a way more exclusive, privileged, elite club?lol! Lots of assumptions there! Thing is, none of them are true, so…. I don’t know quite how to respond! No, that’s not true. I will say this wrt your last statement : there are people of all levels of physical attractiveness who embrace this worldview. If that has not been your experience I accept that you believe that to be true, either because the people in your social sphere are very different than mine or because of the way you filter your understanding of the world. Either way, I kinda fee… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/25 07:06 PM |
| 1 | Women: Why are you unable / unwilling to understand why most men consider "hookup/FWB material" more validating than "husband material" given that you put the FWB/hookup guys in a way more exclusive, privileged, elite club?Folks can be anything they want! I thought this forum was to elicit a variety of opinions, right? Maybe some discussion around it? If folks are happy with where they are in life — wherever that is — I’m not talking to/about them. Feel free to scroll on by. I’m speaking to/about folks that, when asked “how’s that working for you?” have to say “it’s not… at all”. Those folks may want to consider thinking differently about things. Maybe not… but if nothing you have done has worked, for a long time…… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/25 06:52 PM |
| 1 | Women: Why are you unable / unwilling to understand why most men consider "hookup/FWB material" more validating than "husband material" given that you put the FWB/hookup guys in a way more exclusive, privileged, elite club?I’m not sure what you are responding to/saying. Can you elaborate? Thread drift, ya know! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/25 06:46 PM |
| – | Women: Why are you unable / unwilling to understand why most men consider "hookup/FWB material" more validating than "husband material" given that you put the FWB/hookup guys in a way more exclusive, privileged, elite club?That’s why you marry someone with whom you develop an emotional, deeper relationship. That depth will be the foundation upon which you work. Btw, none of that (including appearance) guarantees that you will have sex. There are lots of nice, kind, decent-to-good looking people (male and female) who are in marriages and LTR that are not — or are rarely— sexual anymore. Lots of Reddit boards address this, skewing heavily toward situations where one partner is unhappy with the situation (folks who a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/25 02:50 PM |
| – | Women: Why are you unable / unwilling to understand why most men consider "hookup/FWB material" more validating than "husband material" given that you put the FWB/hookup guys in a way more exclusive, privileged, elite club?Huh. Boyyyyy, are you going to be in trouble when you are 60! 😉 Quick story about myself: I’ve always struggled with my weight. In my mid-20’s I decided to start exercising and eating fewer calories (can’t say “healthier”, because it wasn’t) and I lost a substantial amount of weight. Why did I do that? Honestly, it was a knee-jerk reaction to going to the doctor and seeing the weight on the scale! Anyway, I was in grad school at the time and as such, was surrounded by a fairly cohesive group of … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/25 01:35 PM |
| – | Women: Why are you unable / unwilling to understand why most men consider "hookup/FWB material" more validating than "husband material" given that you put the FWB/hookup guys in a way more exclusive, privileged, elite club?Well, for some women (including some I know well) money, power and/or prestige is DEFINITELY an aphrodisiac, so that isn’t true. It makes me wonder how many misperceptions you —and other men who think like you — are operating under. But, more importantly, it makes me incredibly sad that you feel that physical/sexual attraction is more validating than the more complete attraction a woman feels for a man that she agrees to marry. “Immediate sexual attraction” is almost a throwaway category for mos… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/25 01:07 PM |
| – | Women: Why are you unable / unwilling to understand why most men consider "hookup/FWB material" more validating than "husband material" given that you put the FWB/hookup guys in a way more exclusive, privileged, elite club?:::Theit worth as a person? That's far fetched. But it is the best marker of genuine, primal desire from women - everything else can have a hidden motive behind it. If a woman wants to have no strings attached sex with you, you can be certain she wants you for you only.:::: “You for you only”? Does that mean “you” consists of only your physical attributes? That is a foreign concept to me. I, personally, want to be judged for the essential me, which has nothing to do with my corporal existence. T… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 11:32 PM |
| 15 | Women: Why are you unable / unwilling to understand why most men consider "hookup/FWB material" more validating than "husband material" given that you put the FWB/hookup guys in a way more exclusive, privileged, elite club?Huh. I’m not young anymore, but I would guess there is some validity to the idea that — in either gender — physical attraction alone is more important if you are only going to have a one-night-stand or a relationship where 98% of the time you are having sex. That makes sense. The idea that men find it more validating is …. well… odd to me. It suggests that they think physical attractiveness is, if not the only, the primary factor determining their worth. I would hope that isn’t true…. ‘cause as … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 02:14 PM |
| 3 | Self-Improvement will NOT improve your attractiveness to women:::Of course, let's talk about the US. Let's leave those pesky reminders of US exploitation out of the equation.::: Nah, we could do that later, but it helps to address one situation at a time. The US isn’t monolithic, but at least it is less heterogeneous than “the entire world”! :::Though i suspect that many people who post here don't fall into that category of people, based on the amount of privilege, normativity, and classism I see here. ::: <<slowly raises hand>>. Umm…excuse me sir. I do! I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 01:54 PM |
| 5 | Self-Improvement will NOT improve your attractiveness to womenI think you are including apples and oranges and pears and pineapples and cranberries and potatoes and milk and chairs all together. 😉. Yes, worldwide there are billions of people who live in poverty; some cannot support themselves and are assisted by the government and others have to support themselves because there is no government assistance. But, I don’t think the original poster meant to speak about whether or not men living in South Sudan getting therapy will increase their attractiveness.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 01:18 PM |
| 6 | Self-Improvement will NOT improve your attractiveness to womenCould you elucidate who these “billions” are and the reasons why they can’t support themselves? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/25 12:50 PM |
| 2 | Let's be honest: men also have different rules for the women they're attracted to.Okay… how about a 5 (to you) vs. a 10 (to you). Do you really think you wouldn’t give the 10 a little more slack? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/25 03:03 PM |
| 6 | Let's be honest: men also have different rules for the women they're attracted to.I don’t think that is what the OP is talking about, though. I think she is saying: You are dating two women. One is a “3.5” to you, the other is a “6.5” in your eyes. Assuming both already want to be with you, which one are you willing to make allowances for? I suspect, if you are honest, that you would be willing to put up with a lot more negatives from the 6.5 than the 3.5… right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/25 12:58 AM |
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