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Start with a vague line that's used to hook. E.g. "I was having some really naughty thoughts today. I don't know what's come over me." The idea is to say something that hooks your interest into the play. If you hooked, they should respond with curiosity and wanting you to extrapolate. You can play with this a little more to get them really hooked, e.g. "I don't know if I can tell you." "I think you'll look at me different if I tell you what I was thinking it's really naughty." So, when you have …
/r/seduction29/09/20 03:16 PM
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I asked a friend for advice and she said you really have to treat girls like you don’t want them. I would rephrase this as you need to give girls an opportunity to show interest in you as much as you show interest in them. This is the backbone of push/pull theory.
/r/seduction29/09/20 02:52 PM
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If you want feedback that's more than theory, you have to post some examples so we can judge the context of your interactions.
/r/seduction29/09/20 02:49 PM
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Quick question: I was told here not to tell women, I have never dated. Say I get into a relationship, should I fake it, till I make it? Yes, especially so early in your interactions and through text. These kind of messages will give her reason to run away with negative ideas about you without even having met you. Keep things light and playful.
/r/seduction27/09/20 06:59 PM
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Nice guy vs Nice girl. We all just want someone that has their own personality and opinions, not someone boring who just nods along to everything we do. I wouldn't say I want someone "bitchy" though. Fine line.
/r/seduction18/07/20 08:11 PM
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I know his name, I just haven’t used it the way you’re describing. Well, how are you being flirty? What signals have you given this guy that he would know you're interested? It's not enough to just wear cute outfits, that doesn't tell someone you're interested in them -- it just says I think I'm cute in this outfit. 🤪 I would flat out tell him something like, "Hey (crush), eres muy muy guapo hoy". You think he would understand that? If he does, that's fine cause then he'll know at least on some …
/r/seduction18/07/20 05:06 AM
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I’ve used that and now I teach him Spanish sometimes. I like this as a way to catch his attention, but let's establish some foundation first. You're comfortable talking to him and having polite conversation. Now, can you move to getting more familiar with him. Do you call him by his name? Always call him by his name. Make him feel like you love saying his name (smile and exaggerate). Have you asked him any personal questions about his life? If you're not, that's the easiest start to getting a de…
/r/seduction18/07/20 02:07 AM
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I think you might get some resistance here, it's only because men get anxiety too. Most are probably just happy to have reeled you into actually agreeing to meet and they're afraid to say or do anything to fuck that up (i.e. all the posts about when to text to confirm the date). I always say there should be a general idea of what's going to happen once the date is even suggested. Leads to less flaking probably for the exact reason you're posting about.
/r/seduction14/07/20 11:50 PM
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Strap in. This is gonna sting a little. Have I gone fucking crazy? The fact that you have to ask yourself this question kinda says it all, doesn't it? My gut says you're looking for that one comment that will tell you it's worth it. Let me tell you whoever says that is lying. You're fucked...been fucked...and the only actual fucking you're getting, is mind fucked; which you seem to enjoy enough to put up with this abuse. I'd bet the sperm in my family's bloodline that the person she went out wit…
/r/seduction18/02/20 04:34 AM
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Agree with the other gents, just letting her fantasize about it is all you need to do. Whenever you're back you just continue the same line you already started, "have you been practicing for me? I want to (insert any nasty shit you want here). " If you want to get extra spicy, say "you have no idea how much you turn me on. I want you to piss in my mouth, while I drown in the sea of your love."
/r/seduction08/02/20 04:16 AM
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If you offer up some real examples, I think you can get some better feedback.
/r/seduction08/02/20 12:52 AM
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She wants romance. She wants to feel like she can fantasize about the day you finally have sex. In order for her to do that, she wants gestures of your affection for her that make her feel desired.
/r/seduction06/02/20 05:42 AM
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Although I got her number the exchange was a bit awkward. Yes, asking for a phone number is awkward when you haven't built any foundation for why you need it. Phone number isn't the goal.
/r/seduction06/02/20 05:21 AM
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This is a rejection loop, and she's getting too comfortable rejecting you. The bigger problem is that she isn't hooked enough to not cancel on you; which means she feels in total control of your future. My advice, back off and focus on meeting someone new. That missing attention or noticing you focusing on someone else could help renew her interest.
/r/seduction06/02/20 05:18 AM
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No advice on the letter. One suggestion about courting. Even if she's hinted at what she wants, be original, give her what she's not expecting.
/r/seduction06/02/20 05:13 AM
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this girl is very flirtatious Reciprocate. Do you touch each other at all? Do you hug her? If she walks up to you, put your arm around her and walk with her. Tell her she's looking really good today. She wants affection.
/r/seduction06/02/20 05:10 AM
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it kinda been getting stale. Do you play the same level in a video game over and over without getting bored eventually? Do you plan on taking the next step? Or you gonna let her turn you off and find a new game...
/r/seduction06/02/20 05:00 AM
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I may be the wrong guy to ask for advice. I don't see the benefit of having limits when building a connection. I don't know if I want a relationship with that person when I'm first getting to know them, but I don't like shutting down possibilities either. To me, not being open to certain kinds of physical touch, like holding hands, feels like I'm shutting down and being cold. Plus, why do I want all these rules anyway? That's just unnecessary stress. If holding hands feels right, I just do it. B…
/r/seduction01/02/20 11:19 PM
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The way I see it, if she holds your hand when you offer it, then didn't it serve it's purpose? I mean, physical touch is what bonds people.
/r/seduction01/02/20 10:46 PM
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It's interesting to me that less men probably do experience this, but that could be because of the roles. As men are typically the pursuers, women tend to see themselves as the ones choosing, and are more open to sharing whether they feel a connection. In any case, I'm sure anyone who actively dates around has felt this, man or woman. You're normal.
/r/seduction01/02/20 10:36 PM
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Don't stick your dick in my Grandma, bro.
/r/seduction01/02/20 08:11 PM
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Hard to get a read without full context, like you said, but your first text interaction did come off pretty aloof. Replying asking why she sent your name just felt awkward. Not suggesting it was enough reason to block you, but at that point your interaction was nose-diving and she might have just felt put off by your lack of effort. SHE hits me up on Tuesday afternoon. I reply about 6 hours later with a picture of something I was doing. Ok, here you kind of left out an important detail. What did…
/r/seduction30/01/20 05:29 AM
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Well, I would probably laugh if a girl's mom was pulling numbers for her, so I think starting off with that fact is a great ice breaker. Say something like "don't you love when mom's try playing match maker?"
/r/seduction29/01/20 02:26 AM
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I would assume there is something else going on that she isn't being forthcoming about. She may have bad social skills, but if this was a test, then this is just completely awkward. If she was that into you, she wouldn't just pretend she doesn't know who you are.
/r/seduction27/01/20 05:03 PM
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Unnecessary patronizing aside, the message is good.
/r/seduction25/01/20 08:28 PM
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If you understand so much about what she wants, then why are you asking for advice?
/r/seduction25/01/20 08:27 PM
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Without context of your normal interaction, her reaction feels like you're her little brother. She called you "my guy". Does she play poker and smoke cigars?
/r/seduction23/01/20 11:17 PM
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Well played. There is often a lot of sentiment about ejecting as quick as possible if she doesn't get with your advances immediately, and I was in a debate about this recently. Your story is a good example of why it's much better to just go with the flow, and not to debate about what "titles" you are to each other. If you're being honest, maybe the stress of the first date threw you off your game, and you weren't connecting as well as you thought. By your record, when you decided to let go of th…
/r/seduction22/01/20 12:28 AM
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Easy. Just do it and get her feedback while you're doing it. For example, start massaging her side, thigh, back (anywhere that's comfortable but not strike zone), then ask her if that feels good. Follow her responses and body language cues. All you have to do to escalate is wash, rinse and repeat this on different body areas, slowly working around her sensitive areas, while you build the tension between you. If shes enjoying it, she will eventually want to break the tension and start giving into…
/r/seduction19/01/20 08:34 PM
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it puts less pressure on me to try to entertain the group, Yeah, that's not my style. I tend to be more low-key and vibe with the most engaging people in the group. It's just my social nature to bond and connect with people, but then once I feel rapport with friends of the girl I'm interested in, I get far less resistance or problems from anyone down the road.
/r/seduction19/01/20 05:12 PM
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I think the answer depends on the situation. If you find yourself out on a date, and things progress a lot faster than you were expecting, then I would just wing it and don't mention it. But, if you find yourself out with someone on a couple dates and you're feeling serious chemistry, and really want the relationship to continue and grow, you absolutely should tell her. Any woman that's worth a damn will not shut you out for this, as long as you embrace it and don't make her baby you through the…
/r/seduction19/01/20 03:50 AM
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That's good. I didn't think she wouldn't respond to you. My only qualm is this isn't a habit you want to get yourself into (i.e. apologizing to her just because she is being passive or passive aggressive).
/r/seduction18/01/20 09:25 PM
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What did you write...
/r/seduction18/01/20 08:55 PM
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This is what I would do, but...you don't have anything to apologize for yet. Listen to hear and get an understanding of what she is feeling, but do not supplicate like a soft little bitch just to appease her...unless you want to lose her respect faster than fat kid eats cake.
/r/seduction18/01/20 08:38 PM
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I know this gonna sound crazy, but have you thought about just asking her what's up?
/r/seduction18/01/20 08:17 PM
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approach a girl talk to her get a decent response ask if she would like to hangout sometime she says yes "decent response" may not be good enough to consider you as any future potential. We want our interactions to be great, so that we're loving the idea of connecting with this person again. Really analyze your interactions with 100% honesty. Ask yourself, are you doing just enough to get them to say yes to giving you their phone or contact info, or are you actually getting deep enough to establ…
/r/seduction18/01/20 08:05 PM
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There is some practical feedback that you can takeaway from this approach you didn't mention. First, we need to consider social status and its impact in this scenario. Whenever we're approaching a woman that's in a group, we should be aware of how we're making her feel and how she's being judged in her group. What will her group say if some random guy walks into their circle and walks off with her? How will this make her look? Will her group feel like they need to protect her? This is why I feel…
/r/seduction18/01/20 05:42 PM
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I say you shouldn't for a couple different reasons. First, it's generally really difficult to get quality feedback from a woman, as they are not accustomed to being in the seat of the pursuer. More important, I think your question leads to a better realization. If you're even thinking in terms that you need to have the approval of her in the first place, you're probably approaching women with too much intention of winning her over. If you're giving her all the power to decide and choose in the i…
/r/seduction17/01/20 02:28 AM
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I think I’m ok at flirting (that being said I’m better at it with girls than guys) but whenever someone flirts with me idk how to act. It would help if you would provide some examples of how you flirt to get an idea of what you do that works for you.
/r/seduction16/01/20 08:27 PM
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Kissing is too intimate to look at like that. First, the environment you're in dictates a lot when deciding how much physical flirting you should do. Also the person and whether they are very flirty themselves matters how much you should escalate. Formals are meant to be classy. In general, stick to safe flirting like incidental touching, breaking the closeness barrier and the like. If things are going well then some more obvious gestures are fine like hand on thigh, around the waist, rubbing, a…
/r/seduction09/01/20 10:39 PM
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Sorry this is garbage. This girl doesn't deserve any kind of response. She is condescending and rude, and clearly acting like she's a queen. He doesn't have anything to apologize for. It was sad to read the supplicating as well. I would just let this one go completely.
/r/seduction08/01/20 04:37 PM
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Neither. First thing that precedes any of those requests is to build a connection and reason for you to want to see her place or hangout at her place.
/r/seduction07/01/20 06:38 PM
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So are you worried that you're coming off rude? He's probably wondering why you don't text him back, unless he's the extremely confident type. I mean most people who send these messages are fishing for replies. I get what you mean about being petty, but you could also see it as you're saving the relationship. People just have this dumb tendency to get overexcited and feel they need to connect with someone all day long or they will be forgotten about. My experience has shown this to be the comple…
/r/seduction06/01/20 07:59 PM
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I fuckin hate how much this resonates with me, but it's like you're preaching right to me. I'm an older head. I was around for the beginning of Facebook and MySpace, and by the time IG and Twitter became popular, I had already had enough and deleted my FB (MySpace just fuckin choked on its own garbage but you know this). It definitely put a dent in my networking. But, I honestly felt happier without worrying about social media. After I while I got on IG and Twitter, but I keep it to a minimum an…
/r/seduction06/01/20 06:15 AM
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Lol. Give her what she wants!
/r/seduction05/01/20 06:46 PM
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she think i just saying that to be cool in front of her. Because you gotta think about this from her perspective. Women put a lot of time and effort into their make-up and beauty. They try all sorts of different combinations of shit to find different looks that are more flattering. They absolutely love this. She's looking for a genuine response about how the make-up looks on her, so she can get a better idea for her own style. So yes, giving her a generic response like that she makes her feel li…
/r/seduction05/01/20 06:38 PM
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So, you were trying to say that your friend is being a braggart for doing something that is normal for everyone? It seems like she might have taken it to mean you look down on people who have sex and she might be defensive because she had sex and wanted to clear the air about your values. I'm not sure you can read much more into it.
/r/seduction04/01/20 05:22 PM
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I made a joke about sex with my friends . Tell us the exact joke you made.
/r/seduction04/01/20 05:07 PM
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No problem. It's very kind of you to want to help him. I'd bet the farm he's already more than aware he's not lasting as long as you want and probably wants nothing more than to please you. You can do a lot for confidence by showing him you understand without actually saying anything by just showing him you don't mind taking control. Maybe if you do this he will be able to eventually relax and it will get better. Good luck and I'd love an update.
/r/seduction04/01/20 04:35 AM
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In the interest of keeping your relationship on the right track, I would not suggest talking about this at this point in your relationship. It's a little premature to know if this isn't just because he's new to having sex. If you care about him, I would avoid stepping into a therapy role where you're trying to help him. Unless he brings up the issue himself, this could easily backfire and make him feel very self-conscious, and he might never be able to relax while having sex with you. How about …
/r/seduction04/01/20 03:16 AM
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I re-read and see you asked for her schedule. But, my original point stands. Lemme add to that previous comment, because I probably would have handled your request the same way. I'm not under contract to reveal my schedule so you can write in some future plans. I absolutely understand you mean well and no harm, but I just think it's bad social form. I much prefer people just do their own thing and hit me up when they're free or when they want to schedule something specific. Not just small talk a…
/r/seduction03/01/20 11:39 PM
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The key is to stand very still like a statue. When she asks what you want, just stare at her without blinking. This will give her intense feelings.
/r/seduction03/01/20 08:48 PM
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Translation: you have no problem putting her down to build up your own confidence, but are scared to be sincere and vulnerable cause if they don't give you the response you want, then you'll have lower self-esteem. Answer: Be comfortable with what makes you happy and confident that you can share that with the world without feeling depressed because someone else has a different opinion than you.
/r/seduction02/01/20 10:36 PM
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My opinion, I don't like texting for small talk. If doesn't accomplish something like a meet-up or plan, then it's like that random lady that always stops you talk about the weather. We know it's not going anywhere and we just want to leave as quick as possible.
/r/seduction30/07/19 09:01 PM
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The real shame is there are so many other girls that would appreciate that attention. Instead, it's wasted and unappreciated.
/r/seduction23/07/19 09:50 PM
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Good learning point here. This is where you can jump into the role. So, she's ask you that question... Her: "do you want me to think about you?" You: "if you were, what would you be thinking about doing with me?" That's jumping into the role and let's her carry the line she's taking further, and as you can see it leads into a sexual place where she can talk about fantasy. She will eat this up.
/r/seduction22/07/19 04:30 PM
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You got it. You're coming off a bit too supplicating. What you're doing wrong is your asking so many questions to keep her attention, and she's sensing the nice guy in you that will keep this going forever and going nowhere. At some point you need to inject yourself directly with some kind of responses that get her thinking about how you two can/will be together. For example this text: 8:55 (next day) - her: Hi ;) Better watch yourself, so you won't have to see me to check up :D 12:29 - me: So I…
/r/seduction18/07/19 09:07 PM
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First, this is the time to put yourself out there and fail. Learn to laugh at yourself and have fun so you don't take yourself so serious. Seriousness is your enemy in relationships and life. Second, if you focus on one girl, you're energy is gonna come off like you're desperate for her. Instead, just focus on being social with girls and getting comfortable with the idea of flirting. Push yourself a little bit everyday. If something you're doing doesn't come out right, just laugh at yourself. At…
/r/seduction18/07/19 08:56 PM
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My ideas so far have been to drop in subtle references alluding to going back to her hotel room - namely conversing about points of interest that may pertain to going to her hotel room such as interior design, views, double-beds mini-bars, shelves with books I wouldn't do this. This could get her wondering why you're trying so hard to get her to focus on the hotel, and scare her off. You can avoid bringing up any discussion of where to end the night until that situation actually arises. I mean, …
/r/seduction18/07/19 07:01 PM
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You're welcome, man. It sucks, but its a lesson that every guy who actually puts themselves out there eventually has to learn. I've definitely been there. You're wiser now.
/r/seduction17/07/19 02:28 PM
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I can't tell you what you want to hear. You're basically asking her how to get her attracted to you again, but that ball isn't in your court anymore. She can't be attracted to someone she isn't afraid of losing, and she just told you she wasn't feeling you. It doesn't mean that cant change in the future, but it won't change because you send her some magical message. She has to see you living your life and come to miss something about you. Any attempt to reach out and sway her your way will just …
/r/seduction17/07/19 02:21 PM
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What I don't understand is how can someone who said "She really liked me" multiple times before, and literally wouldn't let me leave when we did meet, did a 180 and said those things. Tis' the harsh nature of relationships my friend. Those sweet words are just a feeling in the moment, and as you know feelings change... We want to believe when we hear these nice validating words that they will last a lifetime, but they won't and the more you buy into that frame she's setting, the more predictable…
/r/seduction17/07/19 02:10 PM
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You're right, there's a time and a place for escalating. School isn't the place. You're doing fine on a vibe level, but if you want to take things further, ask her to do something outside of class. There it's acceptable to test your game. From the sound of it though, she's making a lot of effort to be around you. I'd say your at the very minimum in her mind as an option. Absolutely worthy of moving things forward.
/r/seduction17/07/19 05:31 AM
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I was basically knees touching with her and each time our eyes met it felt like god damn we could be kissing You got it right there. That type of innocuous and innocent closeness is the start of what becomes more intentional flirting and touching, the kind where you could be touching her thigh, expressing your desire to tease her while you're talking about bullshit like football on the surface level. No kiss.
/r/seduction17/07/19 05:02 AM
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didn't get sexual enough, didn't kiss her Kissing isn't the best tool for building tension and attraction. You're overlooking so many better options cause you're jumping the escalation ladder to quick. So...What else ramps up the tinglys and butterflies? Proximity, closeness, touching, teasing............ Building the sexual tension doesn't happen through the kiss, it's about doing things that make you WANT to kiss. You hear that? Focus on drawing her into you. Making her feel like the kiss is c…
/r/seduction17/07/19 04:33 AM
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Well, either she's having a lot of fun toying with you, or she wants to broach the topic of expanding your relationship or partners and was poking for your reaction. I definitely would have pressed at why she wants me to know how many people she has slept with. Did she bring up the topic or did you?
/r/seduction08/07/19 04:58 AM
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It's about having a good balance. Showing too much interest gives away the ending of the story. We want a thrill and some excitement. We want to know it's possible to be with someone, but it's not a guarantee. Showing interest is a must obviously, but we don't want to give our interest the impression they have us locked. This is what push/pull is all about.
/r/seduction07/07/19 06:18 PM
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What I'm trying to say in a round about way...is that we show people what behavior is acceptable. Your words mean 10x less than the action you take. For example, you say you don't like it and she hears you...but you still want her around and she sees this. She views this offense as trivial, because you will still see her regardless. She isn't dumb, she knows this She doesn't respect other people's time. She enjoys the power. She likes to create puppets. Texting her anything like you drafted play…
/r/seduction06/07/19 05:24 AM
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But how did you respond when she did it again? Do you feel like she learned?
/r/seduction06/07/19 05:08 AM
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Verbalizing is bad game. Don't ask. Don't plan. Simply use your time together to create a bubble around the two of you. Don't know what I mean? Think about how you are with your friends at a party or out to eat. It's just you and your people, no one else exists. Even if she brings friends, channel that energy to create a bubble between you two, and the friends will sense and casually back off as long as they know she's good with it.
/r/seduction06/07/19 05:07 AM
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We teach people how to treat us.
/r/seduction06/07/19 05:03 AM
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Go slow. Really slow. Feel her lips when you're kissing and look for a rhythm that she is into. Try to mirror that rhythm. If you're tongue kissing, same thing... Be gentle with your tongue. Caress... Alternate between pressure. Soft kiss, then apply a little more suction and pressure, then release and go softer. Also, don't solely focus on kissing her lips. Take breaks, and move to her cheeks, neck, ears... Get in tune with what actually feels good. You should be enjoying in the kissing just as…
/r/seduction04/07/19 09:31 PM
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Read body language. If it's playful, she should be feeling good and laughing with you. If she's not feeling good, then it's mean.
/r/seduction04/07/19 09:23 PM
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"I looked up lazy hoe on Instagram, but I couldn't find you."
/r/seduction04/07/19 09:08 PM
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Nothing bad to say in particular, just a little piece of advice. You might be surprised, but in the lands of escalation, kissing (make-outs) is actually a sexual tension killer. In the future, temper how much making out you do, as kissing is a release of the tension, and what you're trying to do is build up the tension to that sexual place, not just release it. Instead do things that revolve around kissing instead, like kissing her neck, ears, cheek, teasing her lips... So that she gets really h…
/r/seduction04/07/19 09:06 PM
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Think about this for a second. Do you really want to start off your interaction by qualifying yourself to her? The answer is right there. She may have the best of intentions asking you these kind of questions and generally just want to build rapport, but the problem is almost anything you say is going to come off bland or like you're bragging. It's a set-up for failure while she intends to be nice, she puts you in a position to be a normal old shmoe. So, now that we understand the game and how w…
/r/seduction23/01/19 04:44 PM
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Possible. Test this out. Next time you open, try to literally have more open body language. Keep your palms visible and shoulders back and relaxed. Smile also if you're not doing that. If they seem open at this point it could be something you're saying. Questions can put people in a defensive mood, and you may be asking questions that aren't playful or uplifting.
/r/seduction20/01/19 07:27 AM
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My problem is that it's now been 2 weeks, and we've only hung out that one time. I find it REALLY hard to keep momentum going through text/snap without coming across needy. It's my ABSOLUTE least favorite part of game. I hate it, it's so stressful, and all I can ever do is screw things up through text. You know what you're doing and don't even realize it? Wasting the best tool you have to your advantage, which is letting her fantasize about you. Even worse, when you send messages, you destroy th…
/r/seduction18/01/19 05:14 AM
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I feel like the age gap makes it a lot different. You are the creator of your reality. If that's what you believe then that's what it will be. Confidence has no patience for insecurity.
/r/seduction16/01/19 06:26 PM
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I don’t have a problem talking to girls, they just always take me as a friend or barely notice me That's likely the vibe you're putting out there. A nice guy who's friendly to talk with is not sexual or attractive. If you're not making your intention obvious, then you're not giving yourself a fair chance. The sub-communication of your interaction (or the underlying purpose) is more important than the words you're communicating. You should both be vibing on a level that's beyond friendly...its li…
/r/seduction16/01/19 06:21 PM
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You don't get it. She's manipulating you and she holds all the power by dictating that you're a guy can she put on pause and come back to if she decides to. Not cool. Don't get angry and don't tell her you'll be anything for her. Give her the space she wants and cut all contact with her. She may end up reaching out again, but even then you should she be aware she cannot have you back so easy. You should prepare to move on from this like it's not coming back. Anything else is a disservice to your…
/r/seduction14/01/19 04:15 PM
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Carpe diem. If your "friend" senses that you're hooking up with another girl, this will only motivate her even more. The strength in this play is letting her imagine what's happening for herself. Telling her anything gives away your power.
/r/seduction12/01/19 08:49 PM
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You're spot on. Unless she is absolutely hooked, rarely will a girl be motivated enough to reach out to set-up a date. Leaving it in her hands will go nowhere, and that advice is worthless. Here's my solution. I hate the uncertainty between dates, so I avoid that completely. I'll throw out a bait idea on a topic we both connect with. For example, if we're talking about a bar I'll suggest that we go together, but I won't actually setup a date for it unless she offers up something immediately. I s…
/r/seduction12/01/19 05:37 PM
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I like the mentality you had when it came to the kiss. You definitely must put yourself out there and find out where you are. What I didn't like was how you let her dictate the interaction from the start. What I mean is, you felt that she was tense with the intimacy and touching, and you didn't check her on it! You said nothing and you let it slide like it didn't matter -- but that connection and closeness is the whole foundation so it means everything. Had you applied that mentality you had on …
/r/seduction11/01/19 10:39 PM
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Yeah, I cringed. Is there a little voice in your head that says, "just be normal"? Use that one.
/r/seduction11/01/19 09:25 PM
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Whatever you feel is the right move is the right move. I would be weary if she were the only one I was focused on though, because I promise she's not focused solely on you.
/r/seduction11/01/19 03:53 PM
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Before you ask for their number, do you hook them at all? What interest are you building that makes her want to continue this through phone? I find this kind of hard to explain, but at some point in the interaction you need to be in a position of value. She has to be able to fantasize about what value you could bring her life. Think of a guy who has money for example, she can clearly fantasize about how having him in her life brings value. You might not have loads of money (I don't), so we have …
/r/seduction10/01/19 04:11 AM
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Gaze at her lips and make a comment about how nice her lips are. If she doesn't run for the hills, then you're good.
/r/seduction09/01/19 10:28 PM
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Flirting back is definitely the way to go. Hunter's example is great, and any variation of a line that assumes attraction works great in these situations "You're so flirting with me right now!" "You're totally trying to get in my pants!" "Woo...you're making me feel all hot and flushed right now" Anything that is playful and fun and assumes she's hitting on you.
/r/seduction09/01/19 03:34 AM
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Never. I'm not trying to be glib. There's nothing attractive about negotiating your "status." This is the classic game inexperienced guys run. They get sucked into the frame of chasing her down and trying to manipulate their way into her life through a verbal contract. All this does is make her feel uncomfortable and unsure of what she wants. A big part of attraction is the chase and uncertainty of what's going to happen. When you offer a verbal discussion of your status, you basically give her …
/r/seduction09/01/19 12:03 AM
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Then i was confused from these mixed signals and told her i wanted to talk about and she proceeded to send the following message. And, now you can see why you got a friend-zone message. You fell into the old "let's talk about our feelings and decide what we are trap." Never goes well.
/r/seduction08/01/19 08:05 PM
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God damn genius boy! Yup. 100% Stay in the moment...and flow with the viiibbee. Good thing is it'll feel so good for both of you that won't even have to try because you'll be enjoying the feeling too much.
/r/seduction08/01/19 05:24 AM
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You definitely got the right idea... I suggest you just roll with the moment. First, you gotta read her reaction. She might not like some of those things, so start slower (think how you were rubbing her thigh), and go from there. This is definitely the most important thing. Eye contact is good, but can be weird I would avoid overdoing that. You're better off focusing on things with your hands or better yet -- your tongue. Here's a good one. Massage the back of her head (like rubbing your fingers…
/r/seduction08/01/19 04:53 AM
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Before you ask her out, continue building that connection and find out what interests she has. When you hit on something, suggest in that moment that you should do whatever that thing is together. Don't worry about planning a specific time, just focus on that and whenever you have available time, that's when you hit her up and ask if she wants to do that thing you talked about. High school game is slower cause you see her everyday, you don't need to be too aggressive. Plus, she's already showing…
/r/seduction07/01/19 08:13 PM
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Well she was getting into my face and clearly trying to rub against me. Also when I grabbed her ass she gave me some “fuck me” eyes if you know what I mean. It just hurts that I know I was in the green but I was too scared :/ it’s emasculating. Uggghhh... You're such a loossseer! Lol, you're doing great man. I think the key for you is to take the escalation into your hands so you feel like you have more control. There's something devilishly fun about being able to get her aroused and then just s…
/r/seduction06/01/19 09:47 PM
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Flash forward to earlier tonight and we were in a pool together with no one there except my friend. She was touching me and shit and probably giving me clear signals to kiss her but she’s very shy. What was she doing then? For what it's worth, you can initiate the touching yourself. You've already established some intimacy with her, so just sit next to her and put your hand on her thigh, and run your finger around just kind of drawing or tracing on her leg. It's highly arousing, and she should e…
/r/seduction06/01/19 08:16 PM
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Ok, try this. Take it very slow. Get close, and just mirror whatever kind of action is happening with you. If she's rubbing your leg, rub hers back... If she's touching your arm, acknowledge it and touch her arm the same way on her. The objective is to simply get comfortable with touching your partner, and it should help you feel closer and more comfortable when you're mirroring her actions. Then, whenever you feel like it, shift the pace yourself and take the lead by moving toward her face. You…
/r/seduction06/01/19 06:29 AM
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Be casual about it. It's really just about being respectful cause most people wanna do their thing, but there's nothing wrong with a little obvious flirt and a smile. When you're in close proximity, just do a little fly-by and see if she gives you any attention. Maybe even a quick, "hey, how are you" and smile. If you get any signals that she's feeling you, then look for her to be checking you out or maybe she'll position herself around you...then you should feel pretty good about opening her up…
/r/seduction06/01/19 06:18 AM
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And he's coming off super White Knight. Someone get this guy a cape. Yeah, I'd probably just let it go tonight and hit her tomorrow with something like... "Are you still super excited for my surprise!?" Then, I would take this advice and just let her in on the plan and tell her you were having too much fun to tell her because of how nervous she sounded.
/r/seduction06/01/19 06:12 AM
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I'm getting a read that you're being a bit incongruent with your touch. There should always be an underlying basis for why you're touching her, and she should be able to read the sub-communication you're giving her. Let's test this... When you touch her (say rub her leg), are you pausing enough to look her straight in the eyes and see her reaction? Do you let her see what you're doing long enough for her to react (like a blush or a smile back) or is she able to comment on it? There should be som…
/r/seduction06/01/19 02:11 AM
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He could be putting a show on for himself, but isn't that what people normally do after a break-up? He's gotta motivate himself to move forward regardless or wallow in his own sorrow. You could be just the ticket...or maybe you end up as a rebound. Who cares. Go give this guy some of that class if you like him. You know you're gonna be jealous if he ends up hitting it off with someone else. But, be prepared for anything. If he gets cold feet, we can't just force people to like us. He may just ne…
/r/seduction05/01/19 04:03 AM
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The other guys already offered good advice. Don't ask for a kiss, and don't compliment something that isn't genuine. I want to touch on something that's gonna sound unnatural for you. That is, focus less on conversation, and more on what your body language says I just gave the same advice to another guy who just doesn't get it. When you focus so much on trying to have a clever conversation, you come off like an a-sexual nice guy. And, putting into words your feelings is not sexy. Feelings are no…
/r/seduction04/01/19 09:03 PM
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Maybe you've heard the saying be genuine or authentic? Be bold and show her your enthusiasm when you first meet. Embrace her with a nice hug, smile warmly, pay a compliment. These are all things that show your interest in her. Where you need to be careful is not to continue this attitude the whole date. You start out very warm (think how excited a dog gets when their owner comes home) to show her your true intention. But as the date progresses, settle into a more natural style of interaction. Th…
/r/seduction04/01/19 03:44 PM
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I think the best way to look at it is to just do your own thing and try to pull her into your world. Usually, if you're having a good time that energy will transfer over; it's just infectious like that. If not, at least you're doing something you enjoy and can say goodbye and nice to know ya! Good luck!
/r/seduction04/01/19 03:07 AM
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Lol. No you don't. You're taking every response so black and white. Leave some room for grey? Just roll it with it. Acknowledge her response with a simply Ok, and proceed forward with building your connection and plan like nothing happened. Have you actually discussed some things you'd both be interested in doing? Maybe you need to work on your invitation. If not, try finding something you think she would enjoy and ask in a way that sets up a little inside joke role-play. For example, if you kno…
/r/seduction03/01/19 09:53 PM
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You got her to comply by reassuring her interest in a date, so just give her the benefit of the doubt for now and go for it. You really got nothing to lose. And, if she starts acting weird and disinterested again then bounce her.
/r/seduction03/01/19 09:26 PM
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Harsh truths you need. You just force-rejected yourself, all because of some unnecessary need to have her verbally confirm her interest in you. The problem is...she's not a contract. She was trying to hint this to you by telling you to relax and let things happen naturally. She was really giving you a pass too, because if she went to the extreme of voicing this, you must have really been giving her signals that you're trying to wife her down even before you rejected yourself. She was confused be…
/r/seduction03/01/19 06:21 AM
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Kissing is a natural progression in the chain of escalation. So, after a little bit of soft caressing (think rubbing her leg or her neck), the kiss is kind of expected after....rightttt? So, you build the anticipation like the kiss is coming, and you act like you're going to do it...but guess what? You leave that hoe begging for it (I promise she'll thank you for it later). Instead, move in like you're gonna kiss her, but turn your cheek on her. Kiss her cheek and move to her ears. Give a little…
/r/seduction03/01/19 05:54 AM
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She messaged you that you're backstage... and then you cold replied "yes"...then messaged her 2 days later and expect her to embrace you with open arms?
/r/seduction03/01/19 12:59 AM
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Talking dries up the pussy. Her initial interest in you comes from the perception of your image (the person you seem like you are). The more talking you do, the more you disrupt this perception and the less influence it has. When it comes to conversation in seduction...less is more. For you specifically, snapping everyday...pussy dry. Rebuild the image. Go cold. Hint at other options without being direct. And, you just need to keep the train moving regardless because you may not come back from i…
/r/seduction03/01/19 12:57 AM
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The fact that you're being slower and the comment she made about having a "mother's body" tells you she is paying more attention to being hot enough than to your experience. You have the power to create this story in your own light. Personally, I think you should be honest. When two people are on the same page, they can work together better. If she assumes you're experienced and you're being awkward, then she'll have nothing to fall back on. Here's where you need to be careful. It can be a turn-…
/r/seduction02/01/19 04:22 PM
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I wanna know what love iiissssss... I want you to show mmmeeeee
/r/seduction02/01/19 05:38 AM
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As a white guy, I can't exactly relate, but I'm well aware of the value of social proof through women. I just find your story interesting because it goes to show that seduction and attraction have elements way outside things we can really control. You're really just a bystander in some game where they're trying to validate their self-worth, and you benefit by getting more lays. Ain't life grand?
/r/seduction02/01/19 05:01 AM
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I say...if you enjoy chatting it up and you find little spots to reinitiate an invitation go for it. The tricky part always comes about when we start thinking about if we're over-investing our time. Well, only you can be the judge of that. If you're legitimately enjoying the time you spend courting her, then don't stop until you get to a point where you feel like she's just gonna continue the same pattern. The caveat being you should always be enjoying the process, else it's not worth it.
/r/seduction02/01/19 01:53 AM
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You really just made me read this for nothing.
/r/seduction02/01/19 01:44 AM
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And I can respect your statements too, I think we'd be chill friends but we ain't hooking up Lmao. You're stealing my material here... That'll be $19.95.
/r/seduction31/12/18 07:04 AM
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Nervousness has the same energy as excitement. We just perceive differently depending on the context, but they produce very similar feelings. So, just stop telling yourself the story that you're nervous and turn it into a story that you're really excited. Take that energy, SHARE IT with your GF instead of trying to put on this fake show where you're so cool and confident. That's where all your anxiety is coming from, because your nerves aren't matching this fantasy you've created. Let it go.. ev…
/r/seduction31/12/18 06:38 AM
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Is this love...that I'm feeling? Is this the love I've been searching for... This must be loveee
/r/seduction31/12/18 06:31 AM
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Well, I gotta respect that. But, I can honestly say we'd never work out... Lol. Cause every fun playful interaction I have has some kind of fun cheeky energy behind it; like when your friends laugh at you for something you did or you call your friend a dork or dumbass. It's just playful fun. I dunno what your experience level is, but I'm telling you now, if you come across a guy who is rubbing your leg and then 5 minutes later says we'd never work out, he's not rejecting you...he's just trying t…
/r/seduction31/12/18 06:18 AM
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Harsh. We don't know if OP is a fat bitch.
/r/seduction29/12/18 04:54 AM
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Fun and flirtatious attitude is key. Put yourself out there. I always love when a woman gives me that extra touch, like a squeeze of the hand, a rub on the thigh, a lingering hug. Flattery goes a long way with guys. Same stuff I mimic in practice cause it's devastatingly effective, and I have to thank the women I've met for that. Be careful with jealousy (the overt kind), like talking to another guy in front of your interest just to make him jealous. It doesn't have the same effect as women who …
/r/seduction27/12/18 05:58 AM
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In a way it is a minor rejection. That's what it's intended to be. We're talking about a situation here where a guy is chasing a girl and she's not reciprocating. What do you think is eventually going to happen when she holds all the cards? He's like everyone else she can string along, no challenge...snooze control for her. It's a way of being challenging (and it's supposed to be done in a fun dare-you-to-be-brave kind of way). That's why I said he should continue the advances physically, becaus…
/r/seduction27/12/18 05:01 AM
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Negative. They laugh to their friends about how inconguent you act and come of as a weird overcompensating try-hard who doesn't understand how to play the game. It's clear you've spent too much on PUA bootcamps at this point to be saved.
/r/seduction26/12/18 02:36 PM
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OOOF. You need to turn down the machismo about 80 degrees. This kind of verbal directness is next level creep shit.
/r/seduction26/12/18 01:40 PM
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That's nice guy talk. This is exactly the element you need to create. The fear that she isn't living up to your expectations is a powerful motivator. Try it.
/r/seduction26/12/18 05:58 AM
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That doesn't sound like you're putting her in the friend zone, it sounds like a desperate attempt to keep her in your sights. First, please recognize you are wasting previous time on these romantic lines. Real life is not the movies, and romance doesn't work that way. Second, it's not about making her chase you. Good romance has give and take from both sides. It's about creating an element of tension and resistance. Girls do this far more often because most guys simply don't know how to punch th…
/r/seduction26/12/18 05:55 AM
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You're thinking like a person who's trying to find conversation to please her instead of conversing about things you enjoy yourself. This is a classic newbie trap, and you're gonna end up coming off as the nice guy who gets no ass (even if that's true right now). The only way for you to work through this is to get real world experience, so you need to meet up with her and just bullshit so you can see she's just a normal person like anyone else. Let me dispell any idea you have that this girl is …
/r/seduction26/12/18 05:27 AM
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Every good hook-up needs a bit of tension and resistance. What's clearly lacking here is the resistance, so you need to create this element yourself. Why? Because you're falling into the old bait and chase trap where she's laying down the candy for you and you're running toward her. You know how this story ends, with her getting bored and thinking "this guy isn't really what I want" and she starts it over with someone else. The resistance is a challenge for her. You've done great pulling her in …
/r/seduction26/12/18 05:20 AM
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Break it. It's ok, she will live. Remember you also said you're getting bored. Stop doing shit out of necessity. Live your life.
/r/seduction25/12/18 04:51 AM
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Wrong approach. You don't Snapchat everyday. You really want to ramp it up? Go cold on her for the rest of the trip. But, post to your other social media outlets so that she can see you're active and enjoying yourself. Don't do this like purposely trying to be a dick and ignore her, and it's ok to say hi but be BRIEF. Just make it appear like you're too busy to snap cause you're out having fun. It's the time apart wondering what the hell you are doing that will keep her motivated and interested,…
/r/seduction25/12/18 04:16 AM
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It's like you're trying to sign a verbal contract with her. It's gross. Words don't win over a woman, it's your actions. Fortune favors the bold.
/r/seduction25/12/18 04:07 AM
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Something tells me you need to work on vibing better. Text is just a horrible way to build that rapport that gets them excited and engaged to see you. Cause we're really all like children, they may have you in their sights on whatever day but the next day is a new day with new people, and we move on to other interests. By the time youre texting it's just not the same anymore. My suggestion is to make it a little more challenging for them in a fun way. Instead of just boring old...yeah here's my …
/r/seduction24/12/18 11:26 PM
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You'll live to die another day...and another...and another. But you got a connection. Sometimes, being all goofy and nervous can be endearing if she already likes you enough. Clearly it didn't give her enough pause to not exchange numbers. So, you're in there like swim wear. Maybe the fact that she did exchange numbers with you probably means she was nervous too. This is good news, because it means she's a human being too. Isn't it good to be on the receiving end of an attempt to be picked up? I…
/r/seduction24/12/18 06:33 AM
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You share a class together, you could easily start a conversation about the work topic... Ask her how she's doing in the class. If she's good, tell her you're bad in class and could use help. If she's bad, tell her you're good and can help her. Or just compliment something about her outfit...ask her what her plans are this weekend, and seek out her interests.
/r/seduction21/11/18 04:42 PM
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No.
/r/seduction20/11/18 09:09 PM
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Why do you need her number?
/r/seduction20/11/18 04:22 PM
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Not enough information provided. How did that statement come out? Did you provoke her to say that, or did she just blurt it out randomly? Was she saying this because you talk regularly and she wants you to know she can't talk tomorrow?
/r/seduction20/11/18 04:22 PM
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It's all good. There could be several reasons she rejected the date proposal. Maybe it's not you, or maybe it is...it doesn't matter. All that matters is you're making an effort to be more social and it's working. Take her up on the offer to hang out, even it's under the pretense of friendship. Just get used to the idea of being around women and their energy. It will help you down the road.
/r/seduction18/11/18 04:02 AM
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She sends these videos directly to you? Put her on the hot seat and ask her if her BF knows she's sending you these videos. I would want to know the game we are playing here.
/r/seduction06/11/18 05:42 PM
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By realizing it's one person in a sea of 8 billion you're giving so much power.
/r/seduction05/11/18 09:59 PM
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You know when you're so excited and focused about something you just kind of blank out everything else that's happening around you? That's you right now. she texted me today about a lab we had. ...I mean...she's texting you about a lab. Maybe you should feed off that and ask if she wants to work together?
/r/seduction05/11/18 07:20 PM
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"The female experience." Well put.
/r/seduction05/11/18 05:48 PM
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Lol. Did you ask her if you were creepy? That's a pretty random thing to say, I would have asked her to explain...
/r/seduction05/11/18 05:46 PM
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When you constantly plan your day around hoping she will hang with you or write posts on Reddit about when enough is enough, I think that surpasses the threshold.
/r/seduction05/11/18 05:12 PM
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So, on the surface you might think that's a great way to be direct and open, but if you think about it...you ever had a girl you're not sure about or don't really find attractive start being really aggressive and direct with you - like you're some kind of eye candy? It's not a great feeling. It kind of makes me want to run away. Point I'm making is... we like people to think we are attractive, but only if we can imagine enjoying being intimate with that person (I'm talking about on a direct leve…
/r/seduction05/11/18 04:48 PM
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And it wasn't like I didn't make my intention clear on the get go... What does this mean? Share some real world examples so we can judge whether you're being objective enough.
/r/seduction04/11/18 06:31 PM
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Shit the shoot.
/r/seduction04/11/18 01:16 AM
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Pay attention to her, call her cute nicknames, give her compliments, be playful (be rude or tease her then apologize and tell her how sweet she is), give her long hugs...
/r/seduction03/11/18 10:04 PM
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That's the kind of thing you should really focus on. Since you're so strapped for time, pussy footing around and leaving her unsure of your intention isn't the move. Since you can't do more things together, pick it up a little bit in your talks and try to make it clear that you want her to feel special. Do you catch what I'm saying?
/r/seduction03/11/18 08:51 PM
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You're never stuck in the friend zone. It's just the impression you're giving me because of how slow you're moving this along. Consider moving your chats into a more intimate direction. Are you complimenting her in a direct way? What kind of things are you saying that to her that you give her the impression you're looking for intimacy?
/r/seduction03/11/18 08:40 PM
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Whatever your experience, being confident means you're comfortable with yourself. If that means you have a lack of experience, then it only becomes an insecurity if you allow someone else to make you feel shame for it. Her perception of you won't waiver if you show you're not ashamed of yourself. In fact, I think it becomes an admirable quality when someone is willing to be open and vulnerable in the face of judgement. Point is, there is absolutely no reason to think, no matter her level of expe…
/r/seduction03/11/18 08:36 PM
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Sincere question....what makes you think you're not already in the friend zone?
/r/seduction03/11/18 08:31 PM
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Depends on the flow, you're right it's good to have a small buffer as you call it, but it needs to be shorter than your example. If you have a joke or a shared moment you can rehash, that's a great starter, but keep it short! One text... then get to the point. Don't bother asking how tomorrow looks, spit the plan, then ask her if that works for her. Here's a generic quick text example: "Hey, star! Hows your day going? I want to meet at X around 7, does that work for you?" Plant the seed of your …
/r/seduction01/11/18 11:25 PM
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don't use text for showing off your personality. It is the worst kind of communication for fluff talk. Strictly for legit questions and making plans. Nothing else.
/r/seduction01/11/18 08:53 PM
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Bro, ask her why she thinks you would want to go to a feminist festival for a first date. If she's power tripping or not doesn't matter, because at some point you need to inject what you want to do as well together. This is part of the problem with playing this long drawn out text game, you begin to lose sight of things you can do together. Tell her you think femininism is cool and all, but that you would rather do something else for a first date. Then, ask her if she wants to come with you to t…
/r/seduction01/11/18 07:58 PM
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Let me ask you a question... Imagine one day some girl decided to stop you in the hall, and ask if she could walk with you to class...she then proceeds to start talking about Mr. Whoever's class and how much she trouble she has in it. She then asks how you're doing in the class...you answer...you end up having a brief conversation before saying bye and then you'll talk later. Is this something that would leave you feeling "weird" after it happened?
/r/seduction31/10/18 11:24 PM
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Well, I know what you want to hear, but it just doesn't seem like she's that interested. She may just enjoy the attention you give her. You might be "that" guy to her...you know what I mean? Girls are not dumb. This is generally how nice people politely reject someone without trying to be direct or hurt feelings. Sorry man.
/r/seduction31/10/18 02:09 AM
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Yeah, that's fucked bro. You know if the tables were turned she would be really hurt hearing you say something about her could be better. There really isn't much you can do either, you just gotta be the best lover you can be in all phases of the game. Honestly, I would confront her about it and let her know how you feel. I get the feeling you genuinely want to be the best lover you can be for her, so let her know you want to work on things. Maybe that means adding toy play to your sex as well. A…
/r/seduction30/10/18 09:52 PM
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You don't display that, because then you come off as a dude who just wants to use women for sex. You realize you're allowed to date and play the field (meaning have sex) without needing to tell a girl you won't marry her first, right? If it starts to get more serious and she asks if you're seeing other women, can't you just be honest and tell her you are?
/r/seduction30/10/18 04:38 AM
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For example yesterday we had a great conversation 1 on 1 about problems and just life in general but i’m not sure if this could be perceived as a “friend” thing or a “more than a friend” thing. If you have to ask, it's always a friend thing. Is she reciprocating at all when you express your attraction, or just casually dodging it with humor? What exactly are you saying when you say you're telling her about your attraction. Give us examples.
/r/seduction30/10/18 04:32 AM
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It's all about your intention. Are you leading her on to think you're in it for monogamy with a white fence and children, or are you just playing the field and having casual fun?
/r/seduction30/10/18 04:28 AM
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Now I’m initiating all the convos and talks; I feel annoying. That gut feeling is trying to tell you something you already know. If you think you're being lame then you probably are. People get arrogant when they know they got you wrapped around their finger. But don't blame the player, part of the game is the chase and it seems you showed your hand...now shes got total control. You can't flip your cards over again now. But, you can fold your hand, and go find someone else to give your attention…
/r/seduction30/10/18 02:29 AM
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Truth is, I’m always so ashamed to go and talk to a girl. That says it all. The outside shows how you feel on the inside. But they can't see you're self-conscious, they just took it as disinterest. No risk, no reward.
/r/seduction30/10/18 02:19 AM
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If your true feeling is anger, you may want to keep that yourself. But, if you're a little disappointed, sending a little something in a text like "Aww I was really looking forward to tonight!" can help add to your cause. If she has any inclination to reschedule, she might use your disappointment as reason to try again. Simple though. Nothing ridiculous about how amazing she is. We're not trying to make her feel awesome for flaking on us, right?
/r/seduction13/03/16 06:56 AM
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I bet she was thinking she is satisfied after you made out with her for 40 minutes. That's a tension killer right there, and leaves her no room to want more. I used to do this too.
/r/seduction05/03/16 11:29 PM
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Try the opposite. You sound aggressive, so give them a chance to act on their own to show affection or their interest in you. You don't have to always be the one that showers attention. Maybe they just want to feel like your more interested in vibing and having a good time, versus just getting laid as fast as possible.
/r/seduction04/03/16 05:26 PM
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Alright, you've spent days trying to be friendly. It's time you cut to the chase. Are you going to ask her out?
/r/seduction03/03/16 11:33 PM
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Let her know how? If you mean verbally communicate such, no I don't believe so. But, I think you do need to show that you like HER, and not just for her looks alone. Energy and vibe...
/r/seduction02/03/16 09:50 PM
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I've heard of these gadgets before. I believe they allow to teleport your voice from one place to another. I like it...
/r/seduction02/03/16 09:42 PM
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OK, so you got 2 more years. No big deal. But, come on man! You know you have to join people in clubs or groups (or bars) if you want to connect with people. Listen, you're doing a great job creating this fairy tale that all these women and people are experienced, and it's a lie. You keep telling yourself this shit, you're creating a world where you're not good enough to be apart of it. It's a lie. Nobody knows shit. So go outside and mingle with other people that know nothing, and go be stupid …
/r/seduction01/03/16 09:51 PM
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I have no idea what even to do as far as kissing etc goes. I get it...it's a feeling we've all had to some degree. But, none of us were given a detailed map either, so it's not like you're special. You can only learn things you actually do. Sadly the only hobby I do in groups is martial arts. I work from 6 am to 6 pm and than barley have enough time to do my current stuff. Well, if that's what you want to do with your life. Work yourself to the bone for 12 hours a day and not give yourself time …
/r/seduction01/03/16 09:03 PM
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but what can I do to make sure I don't put her above me? Stop putting yourself below her?
/r/seduction01/03/16 07:51 PM
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I'm still very ashamed of my sexsuality and that hinders me. Get it out, my boy. What makes you feel ashamed? You already got the right idea about how to meet people -- hobbies! So, start sharing and participating in hobbies with others that like the same things you do. Join a club, a league, a class, any place you can connect, share interests and learn with others.
/r/seduction01/03/16 07:43 PM
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but also find it a waste not be be enjoying sex as well. Oh, so do I -- your story made me cringe. She might be a cool person, but it doesn't sound like she's a fun lover. If she's prude now, can you imagine how often you'll not be having sex? Birthday only BJs...yay! I can't think of any advice, other to just maybe straight up ask her how she feels about sex with you. And, I only say that because you claim she's not a virgin and you've been seeing her for a month. Man to man, you're allowing he…
/r/seduction29/02/16 10:11 PM
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Can I just branch a discussion off this in regards to what women want from a guy. Isn't it interesting when we're younger the notion is girls like a bad boy; and as we get older they want a fun/nice guy; then eventually a stable/secure guy. You give me that vibe of the stable/secure type. Makes sense that in your 30s you're having much more success. I can also see why that would get under your skin. You're probably thinking, these girls didn't care about me back then when I was just average Joe …
/r/seduction29/02/16 10:03 PM
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And, really don't text unless you're ready to make a plan. Wasting communication trying to be friendly through text is how you come off boring and too available. Maybe start with something related to what you want to do together. e.g. "Hey, how much do you like tequila?" Something that will pique their interest, and then tell them what you want to do.
/r/seduction29/02/16 02:34 AM
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If you want it to be awkward, let it be awkward. I promise you, it's 10x worse in your imagination then it is in reality. Either way you look at this, it's just a girl, and she's not going to rescue you. So, what's the use in getting all attached over whether one person likes you or not. Way to limit yourself.
/r/seduction23/02/16 07:00 AM
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Get real...I've had this conversation with friends many of times, and been on both sides of the situation. It never destroyed a friendship, not one time. I could only see that happening if you got too serious about it and wouldn't let go of the idea of being in a relationship. Like I said, just pay her a compliment; something out of the ordinary about how she looks. Then, just ask her "I was just thinking about something...have you ever thought about me as more than a friend?" What are you gonna…
/r/seduction22/02/16 04:41 PM
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Beleg: "Fuck all that. I'm smarter than davidralph!" +1 Powerboost!
/r/seduction21/02/16 05:27 AM
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Awww.. Man, it's great to be a naive 19 year old. Glad you're having fun, that's the most important part. Tell me though, did you ever imagine you would be the kind of guy obsessing over a girl who isn't even real? Think about that. It might help you.
/r/seduction21/02/16 02:53 AM
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Makes sense...would be unreasonable to think you wouldn't eventually start to see her in a sexual light. She probably has thought about it too; I mean at least thought about it. I had a few situations like this in the past. I remember just asking one of them, "have you ever thought about me as more than a friend?" You really just gotta man up and get a sense of what how she sees you. You could just kind of flirt with her too by making compliments about her and such, things like "I never really n…
/r/seduction20/02/16 04:01 AM
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