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My faith in humanity has been restored by this comment ❤️
/r/seduction07/01/21 05:00 AM
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To your second paragraph, I had the capability when I was younger and then I trained it INTENSIVELY. I had the misfortune of being around a lot of manipulators, involved in several power struggles, and various abusive situations (all the kinds you can think of). Since these people were often older than me they were knowledgeable, crafty, and insane and so my instincts helped my identify bad people right away without the formal understanding of what was going on. I just knew they were "bad" and w…
/r/seduction15/12/20 07:36 AM
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I've always been good with brutal self-honesty but I've been done in by a forgiving attitude towards others. I'm often told my standards for behavior are too high and so I kind of don't really know what's reasonable to expect. Luckily I can tell who the good people are very easily these days due to razor sharp intuition, but it does get difficult to be hard on someone you already love who's also very clever and operates by a different set of rules than you do but claims to not. So for me, the cl…
/r/seduction15/12/20 07:15 AM
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That's very much what it's about, it takes time to develop them and mostly I've learned what they are through some vicious challenges to them that I wasn't prepared for.
/r/seduction15/12/20 07:02 AM
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I'm still trying to find the balance point myself, as a woman haha. But I'll write a piece when I figure it out haha. I know it involves having principles you live by and having reasonable expectations of others and a plan of action for when people violate those expectations. But it's always been worth it to me to put the time in to try to figure it out.
/r/seduction14/12/20 10:45 PM
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Oof well if he expects something in return then he would be a "niceguy" and not a kind dude... Then we have a different problem lol. It's a tough line to walk. You have to somehow be kind enough to not be an asshole, but be tough enough to not be a pushover. Someone should write a piece on that haha
/r/seduction14/12/20 10:16 PM
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I don't think the post is fake but I suspected he might be letting people walk all over him.
/r/seduction14/12/20 09:26 PM
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Kind guys deserve all the sex, just make sure to show your competitive or charming side and you'll be golden. You need to be able to switch modes
/r/seduction14/12/20 06:16 PM
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When approaching new people in general, I usually use something about them to ask or talk about: hey, sick jacket who made it? Or something about the environment we're in together. I also talk to them as if I already know them as a friend, to put them at ease and I'm introvert so it's not like I'm sharpening my social skills daily. Be observant and engage someone on a topic that isn't related to your interest in them or their appearance. You can comment on that when it seems appropriate, but don…
/r/seduction10/12/20 10:06 AM
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I mean that's something to be proud of, honestly. The narrative you create in your head can be quite powerful. I'd probably try to increase my discernment regarding their actual level of interest, since you're never going to get a yes from someone who isn't into you. In the end, success is had by those who preserve, or rather the probability increases. I'd frame it that way to myself
/r/seduction03/12/20 10:24 PM
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Expect failure and you'll be surprised at success
/r/seduction03/12/20 07:12 PM
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Exactly, it's the same kind of approach as listening to high energy music before & during a work-out, or calming music before a presentation. The idea is to induce a frame of mind/emotional state. And a bonus tip as someone who also hails from a results focused and evaluative personality - don't rate yourself as you go, just look for modest increases and celebrate those victories. It's the creation of a positive trend that matters.
/r/seduction17/11/20 04:40 AM
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Honestly it's about getting yourself in "the mood". Think of things that entertain you because it will put you in a lighter mood. You actually should start small because taking too much of an energy leap will feel unatural and tring, thus making it a chore and the drudgery of that feeling is a literal killjoy. The important part is to practice it consistently so it becomes habitual, and then you can decide if you want to keep going in that direction or if your mild to moderate adjustment was eno…
/r/seduction17/11/20 01:04 AM
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Um no, I can buy a cutout for less and don't need to suffer through it's boring lack of depth. Have a likeable personality and energy and then the other two can put you at an advantage. I never liked playing with the Ken doll growing up, what was that sweater he had tied around his neck going to do for the household I was running?? - NOT A DAMN THING. Pretty women get the pretty guys, there's still most of humanity left and most of us are too horny to have standards that high. Engage thine commo…
/r/seduction16/11/20 12:12 AM
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How you make others FEEL is everything. The reason people go for someone that has nothing else going for them is because that person made them feel a certain way they liked, such that they didn't notice or care about that persons flaws (which may be deep). Being expressive and caring about how the other person feels will make you a social magnet if you can get good at it. And like you hunted, focus on what comes naturally to you not on a fake persona
/r/seduction16/11/20 12:07 AM
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Thanks for the input bud, I'm sure no one cares about your comment either :D
/r/seduction13/11/20 06:34 PM
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You seem socially aware and good at reading situations, this probably translated and made you naturally sexy. It's uncommon knowledge, but if I had to guess you have the right mixture of interested without being creepy and the ability to actually talk and relate to people. So "lady bait" lol
/r/seduction12/11/20 05:24 AM
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This is an underrated and true answer. As a woman, there isn't a "formula", the important part is to be genuine. If you're naturally funny then great, but anything "forced" or contrived will be felt and affect the mood. People don't let their guard down in calculated scenarios. And sometimes there are multiple factors beyond funny that make someone interested. Funny AND seductive is a magical combination. But being funny and clas clown is not a guarantee. Authenticity is sexy and attraction can …
/r/seduction12/11/20 05:14 AM
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Yeah as a girl I agree with your above points 100%. Tall is good because it = strength. I want to feel safe when I'm walking down the street with a guy. Because there are other big and potentially less stable guys out there. Guys are like a mobile fortress. Men are absolutely more looks focused than women, but what's great for guys is women are less concerned with theirs. But all of these things are moreso wish list items, because if he's shitbag, then no amount of physical attraction/desirabili…
/r/seduction09/11/20 06:40 PM
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Hmmmmm.. let me see if I can think of something good while typing out the rest of my response. I'll address what I reacted to in order of strength lol Firstly, I did not mean to effectively say that you should stop running with your taken friend lest you never get laid because you're spending all your time with her! It was more to just get you thinking about who you spend your time around and making sure that you're using it effectively. This is already built into your routine so that's fine. I'…
/r/seduction04/11/20 10:41 PM
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This will be a quick response since an idea popped into my head. Also happy election night clink! I've thought about what makes me more likely to be into someone rather than really like them (where you seem to be trapped) and I think it's this: there's a challenging element to the relationship. Like they challenge me a bit lol. I would say guys fall for me because I'm understanding and fun to talk to, but it's the softness that does it for them. For me, it's a bit of an edge or challenging attit…
/r/seduction04/11/20 02:45 AM
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I do believe you and also was not aware you were thinking about online dating. It's a fucking grim prospect. In that case it's very corporate in the sense that it's basically stats as you've mentioned. Online dating turns dating into a marketplace where you can appraise many options before choosing. In real life you don't really know who the prospects are right away. I don't know where to find them since there isn't a department store with a good people section. I wish haha. Usually I can read s…
/r/seduction01/11/20 05:30 AM
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I think you might be overthinking a bit and getting lost in multiple levels or permutations of the topic - like you are an info trawler. But if you're deciding on an approach it's best to think of a specific situation because context is key in how this will be discussed. I'm kind of sad I didn't get to read what you wrote originally lol. Because I was thinking about confidence in person. Online dating is a different animal. And while I do agree it's heavily optics based now I'm not sure which qu…
/r/seduction30/10/20 12:32 AM
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Thank you so much! That's the best compliment I could receive and I love detailed responses. I completely agree with the first paragraph, a successful person absolutely does look attractive. There's a natural sense of security that radiates from them and shows in how they present themselves physically. And paragraph 2 is spot on. Omg. It's so transparent, at least to me anyway. When you want something from someone else in that selfish way, it comes across. It's like an ad, you know you're being …
/r/seduction29/10/20 08:47 PM
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It depends on a lot of factors and it's hard to express the nuances in words here but I'll try anyway because why write a reply if I'm not going to try to help. I don't know what you look like and I don't have my impressions of you as a person which means I question how much my response is really going to be useful (so don't take it as gospel) but here's what I've got: I don't know what you mean my mainstream value and nor has it been my interest. It depends if you want to land "a" woman or the …
/r/seduction29/10/20 04:40 AM
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Hmmm. I'll try to help you out since everyone is just saying it's easy because you're a girl. Not true, you can't just exist and have people flock to you lol I'm shy too, but it helps to be a little daring. Smile with some mischief in your eyes, add in some teasing, be cheerful and bubbly and naturally react. Expressiveness seems to work really well. Show a real curiosity and desire to learn about what they're interested in and see if you can add your own opinions or take on things. Don't force …
/r/seduction27/10/20 10:38 AM
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The way I motivate myself when slip ups happen is I think I'm not going to wish I had started later, I'm always going to wish I had started sooner.
/r/seduction27/10/20 10:17 AM
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Second paragraph of yours are my thoughts exactly. And third as well. This is nice cogent analysis
/r/seduction27/10/20 10:14 AM
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I guess I'd say it's good to look "strong" - skinny fat guys don't look like they'd be able to protect me haha. Looks go beyond physical attraction and suggest some things about someone's character - that they care, are disciplined, and driven. Looking good makes you feel good and that enhances charisma and interest in life. It gives you social confidence which means you engage with people and being open, approachable, and a good communicator all increase chances of success with women. I don't p…
/r/seduction27/10/20 10:10 AM
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To be attractive. Mild definition is great. If a man is super ripped I might think he loves the barbells more than me and will be emotionally unavailable. Clear complexion is nice, but as an acne sufferer myself I'm pretty forgiving. Just have kind eyes and a good smile. Facial attractiveness is more important to me than neck down attractiveness. But again, decent looking or a notable feature is great. Adam Driver is somehow not very objectively attractive in the face but he's got a great smile …
/r/seduction26/10/20 07:04 AM
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Indeed starch is broken down into sugar in the mouth and tract by the enzyme amylase. Approx. 4 cals per gram. Alcohol is broken down into ketones and is approx. 7 calls per gram. Is used as the first source of energy before sugar or fat because the body can't store it. Simple sugars offer no nutritional value, and hide in so many of our drinks and make us crave them. Protein and fat are the way to go for sure as they are also more satisfying and don't spike the blood sugar. I can much more easi…
/r/seduction26/10/20 06:56 AM
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Yes, women with character. You have to bring it too of course. But character matters to me much more than looks. Can't deny that looks play a role to a certain extent, but emotional attraction matters and if you love them it's like the enhancement option in picture editing, you find things you like about their face or mannerisms. What not looking after yourself can indicate (not in all cases obviously) is a lack of discipline and drive which is not attractive. Personal standards are sexy, drive …
/r/seduction26/10/20 06:47 AM
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I think more than the passive or active approach, communication depends on how motivated each party is to talk to each other. That and shyness. For that reason I think it's better to ask for the number since women aren't used to initiating. If a girl seems talkative and likely to take charge then I would give her the number. But asking for a number is great when she's shy or just if you want the ball in your court. It's also often a matter of when you ask for it, too soon and you may miss an opp…
/r/seduction21/10/20 07:56 PM
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I don't think they're necessarily posting to their online dating profiles but in general as people depend on written communication, and bite sized superficial exchanges like emojis and memes, they're going to lose the social skills required for spoken conversation. I'm even surprised to hear myself speak sometimes and I'm a talkative person usually online or in person. And it can result in a sort of mild social anxiety at the very least when there's a stranger standing in front of you. Social me…
/r/seduction20/10/20 02:10 AM
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Yeah this is a key comment. Women aren't mind readers either, so make your intentions obvious or display those qualities to contextualize yourself in their mind correctly. Otherwise she may not "look at you that way” and that's a hard place to climb out of. Or maybe she thinks you want to be friends so she reciprocates because she doesn't want to assume anything either. If you're the interested party, the friend lane is the cruising lane, don't stay in it for too long. Don't pull out like a jerk…
/r/seduction20/10/20 01:59 AM
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Congrats this is a great realization. You turned to the light instead of sinking into the dark. The reasons expectations matter is because they influence the way you approach the situation. Optimism is a mood booster and feelings are contagious. If you're in a good mood it's easy to put others in one as well and they'll warm to you. Your self esteem soars and everyone wins. More people need to understand that bitterness and self pity is the road to hell. And hope and optimism are the road to suc…
/r/seduction20/10/20 01:44 AM
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Some of us just don't like players. Because as she said, she doesn't want to feel like she's part of your game. It's dehumanizing to be one of many. If you really care, the get to know her more and show her she matters beyond her sexual appeal to you
/r/seduction20/10/20 01:31 AM
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Finally an insightful comment. Yes exactly, it's a lack of exposure, lack of practice, and reinforcement from peers. Staying in a small bubble will likely lead to you being familiar and competent at the small bubble stuff. Breaking out of this requires curiosity, courage, and a willingness to be subjective not just knowledgeable. People want to feel like they're are talking to a human with personality, likes, dislikes and perspectives not like as if they're listening to a walking talking audiobo…
/r/seduction20/10/20 01:21 AM
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This is a great start. Just get comfortable talking. In general, to anyone about anything. Because when the anxiety kicks in, it shuts down your brain giving you less to work with. If you aren't as worried about conversational skills it's one less thing to worry about when it counts
/r/seduction20/10/20 12:42 AM
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For the same reason any in demand experience or product generates interest, especially if it appeals to others in your specific demographic. I tend to avoid because that person might get a big ego about having so much interest. But it generates curiosity that's for sure. Doesn't even need to be special, think about product offerings like iPhones, a lot of people will argue there are better options out there but something just being popular, the popularity is value in and of itself since it becom…
/r/seduction18/10/20 09:01 PM
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Attractiveness helps with initial interest, but like fruit that rots quickly just after it ripens, lack of personality kills interest. The reverse is also true, someone you may not initially find physically attractive becomes so because they are approachable, open minded, and easy to get along with. They ripen in reverse almost. You start noticing them in a more flattering light. Emotional attraction is interlinked with the sexual interest, which can change how you see someone. In a basic way, y…
/r/seduction15/10/20 04:50 AM
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Spot on! It's so true, guys are intimidated by good looks and don't approach. Good women want a man of character and will be concerned about their own character. Sure other types can be lured in by superficial desires that you have the ability to grant. But money can't do much in the way of talking to you, getting to know you, making you laugh, and expressing feelings. Being able to make a personal connection is where most people fall short after they get someone on the hook
/r/seduction15/10/20 04:26 AM
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Just because some women may have a lot of interest in them, it does not mean any of it is quality. Good guys tend to be conscientious and because that leads into perfectionism territory, they talk themselves out of trying (much like you are doing to yourself). I've mostly been very disinterested in super forward guys because it's obvious they are self-interested and see me as something for their enjoyment and not as a person. Take the risk and if it doesn't work out, don't blame your lack of wor…
/r/seduction15/10/20 02:33 AM
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I've done it. But I'd say it's because I'm a risk taker, go getter personality. I have mostly male friends and I'm a direct/blunt person. I also like shy guys, so nothing is gonna happen unless I take matters into my own hands. But I don't just ask people out, I usually make friends with them and try to be charming and attractive. If I get some indication of interest, I work up the courage and wait for the right time to reference my interest. But this is all in person as text does not provide bo…
/r/seduction15/10/20 02:06 AM
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It's only a problem insofar as you let it become one. If you lack self restraint when it comes to things that make you feel good, then you might fuck yourself up. You become dependent on it and watch too much and it will stop doing it for you. It's the same as any other kind of hedonism, it exploits your reward system. Also remember that it's fantasy and useful stress relief valve when needed. If you find yourself not thinking about it much, don't reflexively look for it.. Avoid making it super …
/r/seduction15/10/20 02:00 AM
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Honestly it begins like learning to do anything for the first time: with one step. Put one honest subjective observation out there - like anything ex. "Man that sign is ugly" that becomes a an emotional expression as well as a scaffold for going into the topic further and gauging their reaction. When you see their interest, you feel encouraged to keep going and act like your genuine self. That is the key to being engaging and charismatic, being emotionally expressive. Getting them to catch your …
/r/seduction10/10/20 10:44 PM
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Ah one of the works of Mark Manson. I have read the blog post of his on the subject. Maybe I should revisit it - thank you for the recommendation and the conversation as well. Take care
/r/seduction06/10/20 07:43 AM
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I do understand the kind of person you are talking about - a strong and independent yet caring and respectful partner. You don't want someone who will let everyone walk all over them. I don't remember saying that I wanted to develop a better personality, but I do remember saying I wanted to get comfortable with talking to others again. I constantly work on myself though and if anything deny myself credit because I'm too results oriented. I grew up in an extremely competitive and abusive home and…
/r/seduction06/10/20 05:30 AM
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Well you deserve it haha, no one would admit liking this behavior this otherwise
/r/seduction05/10/20 10:46 PM
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It's a confidence boost for both parties and more effective than a catcall for letting you know you find someone hot. I definitely prefer passionate, open, and understanding girls as well. A rare breed, but wonderful and engaging friends. Shy and submissive is fun if it's just an outward persona. But yeah we can be annoying too haha
/r/seduction05/10/20 10:23 PM
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It's nice to hear that you found self-worth and happiness! Wishing you many years more of it
/r/seduction05/10/20 10:17 PM
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As an aggressive girl this is one of my favorite aspects of life. Adrenaline rush and sexual tension is insane and it's definitely eye fucking. It's better than the first few times of sex because it's so intense. But you have to meet the right kind of person who's also got this intensity. The eyes have it and I'm an intense person who likes intense guys...
/r/seduction05/10/20 07:33 PM
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Ah you were the recipient of great luck! (Not to say it wouldn't be something a guy like you could pull off again) but yeah sometimes exceptional people walk into our lives and bless us with their existence. She sounds absolutely charming and warm. I already like her too. I'm more worried for you post breakup since it seems she set the bar very high
/r/seduction05/10/20 07:25 PM
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Oh man, that one's deep and youve got it bad. I'm a long term crusher as well because when I like someone... I reallllly like them. And then it takes on a life of it's own where it becomes part of your identity. All I can say is stay the least bit optimistic and open minded. It's ok to take your time figuring it out and letting life happen.
/r/seduction05/10/20 07:21 PM
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Ok I'll take you at your word. If you're griping I get it. We have challenges on our side too with men being deceptive. They want to hang out but really it's just a chance to put on the moves or they would never be our friends if it doesn't lead to something more. Even in a relationship I was not treated well at all. People lie, cheat, deceive etc. It's just different depending on the circumstances. Don't suspect everything nice said to you of ulterior motive or idealize the female experience. B…
/r/seduction05/10/20 07:14 PM
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No people don't compliment me. They stay tight lipped - I've gotten more appreciation in this thread than I have in the last 10 years of my life. I don't have people falling at my feet, if anything I get challenged and people try to dominate me socially. I never said I condoned the behavior, I'm only offering what realistic insight I can based on experience. I compliment men because I don't think they get it enough but I don't spray fire them. I just voice my honest appreciation for something th…
/r/seduction05/10/20 07:01 PM
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Honestly last paragraph is 1000% true. The above stuff mentioned is something I'd say go for if you're absolutely sure she's interested and you're good enough at reading signals and signs of interest.
/r/seduction05/10/20 06:55 PM
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Yeah I'm gonna validate your approach here. Coming over to someone's house does not mean I'm ready to fuck that day
/r/seduction05/10/20 06:52 PM
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These are pretty good, Alex is a natural. The little push when you make a joke is especially sly and clever
/r/seduction05/10/20 06:46 PM
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Aw, I appreciate it but don't be, my luck has been turning around lately. Same to you! Thanks for dropping by
/r/seduction05/10/20 06:41 PM
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Kinda like the smily/mischievous up to no good kind. The "you know you want me" ;) but not as blatant. Like when you're buddy says "I've got something you're reallllly gonna like" with a twinkle in his eye. The slightly conceited shit eating grin eyes. Or a lingering look but not a stare.
/r/seduction05/10/20 06:40 PM
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Oh wow, that is an interesting twist to the story... Have you been crushing on her for quite a while?
/r/seduction05/10/20 06:37 PM
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Uh oh now I feel strangely responsible for this mood drop... It's not something that happens 100% of the time, but yeah I've even been out with girls who will make out with a guy then be seeing someone else later in the week and still worrying what their shit ex thinks about them. I think it's a self-esteem booster for women to be liked and men have other ways of gaining social capital, recognition, and validation. Whatever progress you made, don't think it serves no purpose!
/r/seduction05/10/20 06:35 PM
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Well it stems from the fact that I was frequently excluded and treated horribly socially. I had a lot of time on my hands especially because my family also wanted me to leave them alone. So there was time to think deeply about things. It lead to a lot of self-awareness and other awareness because I was analyzing my experiences in order to improve which lead to the development of emotional intelligence and interest in connection. I care about the quality of what I'm saying because I want to be re…
/r/seduction05/10/20 05:50 PM
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Exactly it's the worst. I'm grateful when they take the burden off my shoulders and talk about themselves because we can just ignore me and my useless take on things. I'm extremely hard on myself, but I just can't see why they'd care. I see all their good points though
/r/seduction05/10/20 05:41 PM
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I mean I think this is a fine approach too but I'd also venture a guess that casual hookup girls enjoy a conquest. I mean I'm sure it would be obvious anyway, when someone's new at something it usually shows. Like would he even know how to give foreplay? It's hard to hide inexperience
/r/seduction05/10/20 05:33 PM
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I'm struggling with the same too at this point. I've been surprised at hearing my own voice and I had even not wanted anyone to say a word to me. It's scary how fast the skills can dull and the fear of people can set in. It always feels like well what am I going to tell them anyway? I get it because I've had a lot go wrong for me and I feel embarrassed without the armor of some kind of achievement. I forget that people might actually want me around even if I'm not saying or doing anything impres…
/r/seduction05/10/20 05:30 PM
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Haha that's super cute honestly, you'd be the type of person I'd likely go after. A combo of oblivious and "that could never happen to me!" It does seem aa though she wasn't being subtle which makes this extra great tbh. Maybe it ironically helps you to be that way since then a girl doesn't have to worry about managing the pressure of someone's expectations. In any case, I'm happy for you because the story had a happy ending and you worked up the courage to make a move!
/r/seduction05/10/20 05:26 PM
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You're welcome, people skills are often a product of practice and when you focus on one thing you ignore another. Using that understanding, I'm guessing you're big into something sports, making things, thinking about the world. Be open to the learning curve, and look for reciprocity first and foremost. Rejection doesn't mean you fucked up the process because you aren't going to be rejected by someone who actually likes you seriously (generally, there are exceptions of course). It is to a large d…
/r/seduction05/10/20 05:21 PM
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Ah that's tragic, I kind of hurt for both of you. But it is an intimate thing to touch someone's feet. I think my response would have hinged on whether you were some burly loud guy who's insistent and magnanimous. I'd have said yes because charisma but it wouldn't necessarily mean anything. If someone's offering then it feels like something a wife would have her husband do and she may have been unready or worried about her feet smelling or something too! Neck massages might have more success. Bu…
/r/seduction05/10/20 04:58 PM
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So this is somewhat difficult for me to answer but I'll take a stab at it. (Usually if I can actually observe someone in person, I can tell you what I think with a higher degree of accuracy but we'll give it a go anyway). So my thoughts when reading this are how are you meeting people. I feel like since your friends are present that it's when you're going out? If that's the case women do tend to act more bold and aggressive due the environment, and flirt back because they like attention. Even fo…
/r/seduction05/10/20 04:47 PM
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Thank you ❤ I'll be thinking about this one all day!
/r/seduction05/10/20 04:15 PM
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Where I learned it? Well I am a girl, I know what I look forward to. I also can put myself in someone else's shoes very easily (so for both genders here) and imagine the interaction in detail. I like relationships and physical intimacy. I think for myself and I try to think carefully when I do and do my best to be objective/honest. Also I avoid being a hypocrite since I would lose credibility as a person.
/r/seduction05/10/20 04:14 PM
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It does sound like a system I would have appreciated since you get greater degree of choice it seems. My life has kind of spanned the abuse gamut so it's been a lot for me to handle but I'm not broken, just really exhausted. Does make me curious how much you know and how you learned that bit to begin with though. Send a PM or Chat if you feel like elaborating some time! Otherwise take care and thanks for the exchange!
/r/seduction05/10/20 10:34 AM
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Socially smart is exactly right! Your English was fine but I know some people may have taken it to mean just touch her until she likes it lol. Someone the other day was recommending going up to girls and grabbing them aggressively and they'll either be into it or reject you and I was like....... Dude what the actual fuck. So I was happy to learn that you knew what you were doing and were respectful/smart in your approach
/r/seduction05/10/20 10:24 AM
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Yes, then I agree with you entirely. I was afraid some might misinterpret what you said and it's always a good idea as you said to start small and gauge her reaction!
/r/seduction05/10/20 10:04 AM
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Ah very cool. A levels? That's a Brit thing right? I did study neuroscience in college and found the clinical side a bit dry myself but at that point I didn't feel regular psych classes were useful to me since as you've alluded to, my personal experiences were far more "educating". Not the greatest childhood would be a massive understatement. And the years following were even more trying somehow. It absolutely fostered a deep and knowing empathy, and by extension an enhanced ability to see throu…
/r/seduction05/10/20 10:02 AM
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Thanks for the comment. I pride myself on understanding others and being insightful and I'm happy for the compliment! Although I don't know if it's getting used to being touched so much as she's seeing if she welcomes it. I've been touched by guys lightly and kind of put up with it (don't touch the small of a girls back unless you're dating!) and just being exposed to it did not make me get used to it. She needs to be interested in some way, which maybe you had taken that into account but I want…
/r/seduction05/10/20 09:39 AM
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I do feel mildly worried now reading that. But honestly, I'm fine out in the world. I'm what's been referred to as a "mind rapist" and I have freaky character discernment abilities... I only need to meet someone for a few seconds to know a great deal about them. I don't like to watch crime shows because it feeds a bit too much into paranoia and I start becoming overly conscious of my vulnerable status and berate myself for not having studied self defense since age two, not packing heat, or tacti…
/r/seduction05/10/20 09:33 AM
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YOU bastard! Ahah many thanks, I genuinely think men are well intentioned good people who deserve to be given a chance and just need some good intel.
/r/seduction05/10/20 08:43 AM
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I'm a fan of going after what you want no matter other people's advice. Just make some suggestive comments and see if she bites, if you already think she's down what do you have to lose? This kind of stuff depends on how perceptive you are, where sure some guys see possibility where there isn't any and guys smack off the rose colored glasses by informing them that they've been friendzoned. However, if she's showing signs then she's showing signs. Live it up and be bold
/r/seduction05/10/20 06:26 AM
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Possibly because you're scared of losing your freedom/options. Or maybe you don't have confidence for the shit getting real part of relationships. Flings are fun and not weighty, relationships are an undertaking. Gotta give more of yourself and be dependable and accountable to someone. Maybe you fear the relationship falling apart and what it will do to you. And maybe in the most basic of senses, you fear the unknown...
/r/seduction05/10/20 06:22 AM
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It seems like you might be looking at a girl's experience through a guy's lense. What I mean by that yes some of us get a lot of interest, but we feel like it's mostly sexual and therefore self-interested. You'd be happy to have a bunch of girls flocking to you but what if they all sucked? You wouldn't be happy. Quantity does not equal quality. But quantity does give her the option to pick the highest quality or no one at all. Don't bother being jealous because their lot in life is not yours and…
/r/seduction05/10/20 05:40 AM
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That is what we call "chemistry" my friend. One of the best parts of life if you're fortunate enough to experience it.
/r/seduction05/10/20 05:04 AM
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This is a thoughtfully written post and I enjoyed reading it just because you're a reflective person and it shows. As a girl the advice I'd give is to show interest with a constant gradual testing of the waters. It starts with flirty eye contact, I wouldn't suggest intense off the bat because that's a direct message which you don't want to send too early on in the game (it forces her hand on the matter while she may still be figuring out if she likes you). Then it escalates from there, sitting c…
/r/seduction05/10/20 04:53 AM
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Anytime
/r/seduction05/10/20 04:16 AM
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You are putting women on a pedestal and worrying about obtaining them... Of course you would be. Everyone worries about that thing they want - success, love, friends because those things are really important to someone. The trick is learning to control your anxiety so that you can act. Because you can't obtain what you want without going after it. This is why people say "fortune favors the bold" because the bold throw their hat in the ring and take chances. Courage is the prerequisite for succes…
/r/seduction05/10/20 04:14 AM
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While players are definitely flirtatious people on average, being flirtatious does not make you a cheater. You are not your father and your genes/conditioning cannot begin a process of your becoming him that you can't stop. You can love your mom, and respect yourself and realize that your dad is a mixed bag, maybe more than you'd like. But most people are mixed bags. Have faith in your own agency and moral conscience since it's obvious you care, but there's no need to punish yourself for a crime…
/r/seduction05/10/20 04:00 AM
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You shouldn't draw a causative link between being bad at friendship and being bad at relationships. I tend to shine in one on one partnerships and falter in more surface interactions in part because I'm not as interested in them but also because I don't practice at them. Luck does indeed play a role as does effort, your results are a combination of both. You can be a great person to be around with no friends because your options suck. Either there are few people looking for friends, they're alre…
/r/seduction02/10/20 06:03 AM
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It sounds to me from what went down that you were plan B for her and then plan A suddenly became available. It's even possible if she's manipulative that she did it to make someone else jealous and used you as a means to an end because it's really fucking weird to me (a girl) to MAKE OUT with someone then get cold about them days later. It doesn't work like that unless you two made out because you were pushy, but you said she was all over you so I defer to my suspicions above. Hope this helps! S…
/r/seduction02/10/20 03:45 AM
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That's totally the same for me, I kinda get addicted to the results of being a hardass on myself and I've had plenty of bouts of taking it too far but I keep coming back to it haha. Thank you for the cool interaction as well, I look forward to your progress!
/r/seduction27/09/20 11:17 AM
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Thanks! Glad you liked it. I'm a perfectionist myself so I understand wanting to solve the puzzle to give yourself some security, but the answer really is to figure it out as you go along. I'm sure you didn't notice it because you were very focused on getting your side of the equation right (which hey, I would be too) and so it was a wise thing to ask for some perspective. I have to give myself that advice too, like hey no one's going to decide they like like you for your accomplishments, so jus…
/r/seduction27/09/20 10:48 AM
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Of course, you're welcome. So I do think you should act naturally for the most part, but something I've noticed personally when someone tells jokes all the times or interesting stories is that it starts to feel like a competition/comparison. I actually start to feel a bit insecure about it, like wow I must not be as interesting etc. And it can lead to feelings of inadequacy and subsequently a game of one upmanship. And while some competition is great because it adds a nice element of tension, to…
/r/seduction27/09/20 09:56 AM
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Well I am the gender in question you are asking about so my response was meant to be a confirmation. My experiences have been in general that people like and are drawn to complexity and self-control and that's what I like about your approach is that it's nuanced and aware. That will be noted by others and it will also be a mindset that carries you through life as well. Being adaptable, knowing how much to be and when. It's an evolved way of going about things. And yes, I do find it draws people …
/r/seduction27/09/20 06:01 AM
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Agree 1000%, this is very insightful and a nice in depth and specific explanation. Good luck to you
/r/seduction27/09/20 01:17 AM
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As a girl, yeah I'd say so.. They don't see signs of serious interest or maybe they think you joke like that with everyone. If you act a bit serious from time to time and open up a little, I think it could really help you since funny people often make great partners!
/r/seduction27/09/20 01:13 AM
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I'd say you're right on the money - points for developing self-awareness. Hope you find success soon
/r/seduction27/09/20 01:10 AM
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It's not a bad way to go about things, usually reels me in. Shows versatility and the ability to be serious and real when needed.
/r/seduction27/09/20 01:05 AM
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I'm actually gonna agree with the guy you're disagreeing with. As a woman, I know the type of man he's referring to and what is being suggested is actually a useful corrective measure. Some men just keep going for the laughs and the problem with the gatling gun of jokes approach is that you don't get to know them beyond that, you don't get to see other sides of them. It's a mask of insecurity and it screams of needing constant validation. If you're just naturally funny that's one thing, but for …
/r/seduction27/09/20 01:02 AM
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Yeah I wouldn't trust anyone that calls themself "legend" as a girl there's some truth to what he says in his post so I'll cut through some b.s. and clean it up. You're right to suspect someone who makes such sweeping generalizations as girls are nice to get something from you - no, people are nice because it's polite or instinctive. Manipulative people are nice for you guessed it ulterior motives. Because in order to manipulate you need to impersonate a good genuine person, it's actually why I …
/r/seduction23/09/20 10:58 PM
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Same honestly, it's so much fun
/r/seduction23/09/20 09:07 PM
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Whatever you do, don't touch her too soon. Unwanted early contact makes her super unreceptive to you when you might have been able to get there in just a few more steps had you waited. It's a game of constantly testing the waters, you need to be a little edgy but respectful. And I don't agree with laser like eye contact, too intense unless you know she's into you and you want to let her know you're thinking about more with her than just talking. Lingering eye contact yes, because it shows intere…
/r/seduction23/09/20 01:03 AM
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Girl here, that's my fave. You've figured it out - that's the flirty look, if she's into it or mirroring that's a great indication
/r/seduction23/09/20 12:52 AM
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Asshole guys are selfish, confident, and direct. They're not afraid of approaching women because they aren't really invested in her as a person. And they're smart too, the see women as a game to be played and they know which nice guy behaviors to use. Then women get invested and fall in love and the dynamic switches once he reels in his fish. She's expendable. There are always others he can prey on. That torpedoes a woman's confidence and now she doesn't even feel worthy to be loved by a good pe…
/r/seduction20/09/20 10:51 PM
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