ThisReckless Archive

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3	Sex drive messed up after separating. It's normal, you're right that it is psychological. Subconsciously it's a self esteem/anxiety issue. "I didn't have these issues with my wife until she cheated and then we separated." Viagra will just mask this underlying issue, although it could help rebuild self esteem in the long run. Trauma does this to us, and while I have no definitive solution (as this is an underlying psychological issue that is subjective). What I can say is just focus on the intimate relationship you have with the new …	/r/Divorce_Men	10/02/25 01:04 AM
4	She’s dating already Sometimes it's easier to start over than it is to fix things. Don't let yourself get caught in a sunk cost fallacy emotionally. She's gonna do her thing, you stay true to your values and morals. Then someone better comes along and you'll laugh about all this.	/r/Divorce_Men	30/01/25 07:22 AM
3	I became too rich to divorce and I feel trapped. Sorry about your father passing. Inheritance is generally treated the same in both community property and equitable distribution states. It is typically excluded from marital property as long as it remains separate. You're only 2 years in, although some states award alimony in short marriages; alimony is usually built on income disparity. You both make equal income (besides your stocks). IRA/401k is split 50/50 unless some was obtained prior then this would be deducted, in some equitable distrib…	/r/Divorce_Men	16/01/25 02:04 AM
11	How do I tell my wife I no longer want to be married? You don't, you got married. No longer having anything in common or liking keeping your own company without having to be accountable to someone else is not enough. This is the same type of dynamic the other side does when they want out for no legitimate reason. What you could do is ask her if she's still genuinely happy being with you. See how she feels about your relationship with her. Then go from there. If she's genuinely happy and still loves you then you should find ways to create things in …	/r/Divorce_Men	11/12/24 11:08 AM
1	3rd request for discovery Can you really request a default judgement for misconduct?	/r/Divorce_Men	24/11/24 11:43 AM
0	Where Do I Go From Here? "Where do I go from here?" - Any country where you can legally buy sex or if you're the caring type, go to a third world country where women actually have values and respect. For both their self and their husbands.	/r/Divorce_Men	30/09/24 09:58 AM
2	My ex hates my guts Good hate her back, don't let the kids know and follow the order. No one has time for her high-school drama.	/r/Divorce_Men	28/09/24 04:07 PM
1	What were the ethnicity/race of your ex-wives? The burden of proof lies, therefore, with those who cling to the notion that there are such things as “races.” They would have to first provide a scientific definition, based on significant differences in human genomes, of what “race” means; and second, clearly demonstrate that there are enough of these differences between different ethnic groups to justify dividing people into separate “races.” This is an impossible task. In 2014, more than 130 leading population geneticists condemned the idea …	/r/Divorce_Men	17/09/24 11:38 PM
0	What were the ethnicity/race of your ex-wives? They're the same thing. Homosapien is the only race of human beings on this earth.	/r/Divorce_Men	17/09/24 11:02 PM
-9	What were the ethnicity/race of your ex-wives? Ethnicity and race are not the same. There's only one race, human race. As for ethnicity for me, it's been caucasian. Yes I believe ethnicity plays a very big role in marriage/ divorce, as ethnicity is often grounded in culture.	/r/Divorce_Men	17/09/24 09:03 PM
1	Getting divorce over having a kid It doesn't, it only protects the individual incentivized to break the contract.	/r/Divorce_Men	25/08/24 07:19 AM
25	Do you regret getting divorced? I don't regret getting divorced, I regret getting married.	/r/Divorce_Men	01/08/24 08:36 PM
1	Some great advise I found for those of us that feel completely alone Sounds like you want us to take the blue pill after we took the red pill.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/06/24 08:24 PM
2	Thanks Guys I didn't even get the "we need to talk" speech. It was always me trying to solve problems.	/r/Divorce_Men	16/06/24 03:10 AM
2	After your separation, what new habit or routine did you adopt? Don't say no to anything, even old ladies that need your help with their sink.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/06/24 05:30 AM
1	I can’t even go fishing Why does he have to explain anything to her? It's her burden to prove that, and or if there was some type of neglect. Then she has to prove it to a judge. OP you know what you should do is when you have your time, become a kid and start using your imagination with them. So that way she can't tell if you went fishing in a pond or you all went in a submarine Twenty Thousand Leagues Under the Sea.	/r/Divorce_Men	23/05/24 04:09 PM
1	Moving into same apt building as exwife Viking journey is obtaining land. Building a house. Traveling the world. Becoming passionate with new women. Eating good food. Protecting the family (kids) you have. Come on man, think about it. You're asking us if you should move into your ex wife's apartment building. Then asking me to be specific why it's a bad idea 🤦🏾‍♂️.	/r/Divorce_Men	22/05/24 10:41 PM
1	Moving into same apt building as exwife Here think of it this way. You know your situation best not me. Imagine something happening that is in the realm of possibility if you choose to move into her building. This was the question you asked. I can think of many when I think of the relationship with my wife. Now imagine you sitting there in jail or something of that sort where you lose things precious to you. Was it worth it? If it's worth it to you then in my opinion it's reckless, and everyone else on here is going to tell you they t…	/r/Divorce_Men	22/05/24 10:25 PM
1	Moving into same apt building as exwife By possibly placing yourself in situations that could affect you.	/r/Divorce_Men	22/05/24 10:13 PM
1	Moving into same apt building as exwife No it's not a good idea, just because you feel good it didn't go her way can lead you to being blind and make mistakes that will account for her misfortune. You won a victory, so move forward and don't place yourself in situations that could lead you to defeat.	/r/Divorce_Men	22/05/24 10:05 PM
4	How do you defend against false claims? Wow man that's not right. I can't believe she submitted that. You have to question one's sanity when someone does something like that. That's psychological warfare. I'm sorry you and your kids went through this.	/r/Divorce_Men	22/05/24 04:57 AM
7	How do you defend against false claims? It is sad it has come to this.	/r/Divorce_Men	22/05/24 04:54 AM
2	I just can't seem to get over her 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾	/r/Divorce_Men	22/05/24 04:40 AM
1	I just can't seem to get over her Yes I agree, a new relationship gives new purpose and new meaning.	/r/Divorce_Men	22/05/24 04:38 AM
3	Why don’t men go on “healing journeys”? Because we go on Viking journeys.	/r/Divorce_Men	22/05/24 02:45 AM
1	Nothing left Ambition is a good word to use. I think Purpose is also a good one. If you feel your purpose is or was, to be a husband and father. Then that is why your drive is gone and you feel like a shell.	/r/Divorce_Men	22/05/24 02:42 AM
4	Wife left me All I have to say is, being discarded and abandoned is the worst feeling, regardless of having kids.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/05/24 07:41 PM
1	Sex while separated, do you consider it cheating? In light of the Pedo accusation that's disgusting to say.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/05/24 05:02 PM
1	Sex while separated, do you consider it cheating? Having sex with someone behind your spouses back, without them knowing, or without their consent. It doesn't matter if you are separated or not, it's called cheating. A form of deception.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/05/24 03:10 PM