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Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
6	Red flag - A man who likes to pit women against other women. Oh my gosh, I feel this so much. Another few that were said to me 'you don't take long getting ready'= subtext: you're a sloppy bitch and my ex was a vein bitch. 'You're so tidy'= my ex was messy, you must keep cleaning for me for me to value you. 'My ex was so obsessed with social media'= don't even try to make me acknowledge our relationship publicly. thanks for writing this so well and expressing it so well. It is such a damaging and manipulative way of relating to women...	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/03/22 02:03 PM
30	depressed by misogyny today Hey, I TOTALLY feel this right now. It's most noticeable for me when I'm trying to go to sleep and I try to think of something that makes me happy and I feel like so so much of life in obscured by patriarchal nonsense and...I don't know, I remember this stuff already pissed me off when I was young and my mum told me I'd feel less angry as I got older. Not the case, I'm angrier than ever, and having a hard time channelling this anger towards anything positive. I feel it alongside you	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/02/22 04:42 PM
20	What do you think a pick-me is, and why do you think you used to be one? I'd add that even in my worst pick-me phase, I wasn't behaving in a way that reflected my core values. It was cognitive dissonance. Believing the patriarchy is bullshit but dancing it's dance anyway- horrible	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/01/22 06:22 PM
53	What do you think a pick-me is, and why do you think you used to be one? A pick-me is a person who values nothing she achieves and nothing about herself if that achievement is not patriarchal man approved. I definitely was one. High performance athlete? Yup but who cares when it gives you broad shoulders that a scrote called 'manly' and unfeminine. Good academic results, scholarship? Yup, but what does that mean when a man is not telling me I'm pretty or giving me some half hearted validation? Thank god those days are increasingly behind me.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	25/01/22 06:20 PM
90	Do you talk to your therapist about FDS? Can confirm this. Went to a therapist to try to build courage to leave LV boyfriend and the (male) therapist spent the whole session defending the guy and trying to get me to see his side of things. He should have been paying the bloody therapist.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/01/22 10:35 PM

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