Thistlewhistler Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
81	A tangible example of the letting him lead		Thistlewhistler	/r/RedPillWomen	15/06/26 09:40 PM
9	Raising Sons		Thistlewhistler	/r/RedPillWomen	22/07/26 11:01 PM

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1	F23: How do I decenter men when I was raised by women who centered them? I’ve realized I started slipping into the same mindset myself. I caught myself seeking male validation and putting men’s wants ahead of my own, and it honestly scared me because it’s not the life I want. Would you like to share the specific examples of this? It’s very typical for our childhood patterns and examples to play out, particularly when we’re running on “automatic pilot” rather than being intentional. The fact that you’re noticing it, and reflecting is a very, very positive thing. It’s …	/r/RedPillWomen	29/07/26 07:23 PM
0	How much communication to expect from a business man at a conference My husband communicates frequently throughout the day, but at conferences it’s a quick hello in the morning, a quick hello before dinner when he’s showering and changing, and a late text goodnight.	/r/RedPillWomen	29/07/26 07:12 PM
2	Need advice on communicating a birthday trigger without making my boyfriend feel accused Money and gifts are two of the knottiest topics because people can have completely different, even opposite understandings while using precisely the same words. What are your birthday expectations exactly? I mean if he’s excited because he’ll be able to buy you earrings, and you’re thinking along the lines of a weekend in Paris, then the chances of disappointment are going to be very high. Some people consider a great present something that they will get use out of, and isn’t clutter. For others…	/r/RedPillWomen	29/07/26 06:17 PM
3	My boyfriend never compliments me I was also going to say it can be a curiously vulnerable thing for some men, especially if he has any history of shit testing (does my bum look big in this?) With my husband, I’ll often say very directly, “you can admire my new hair cut now” or “come and tell me that you like my new dress ”. It’s a bit silly, and flirtatious (it’s an invitation to kiss and cuddle too) and at this stage a bit of a couple in-joke. But it also sets out the parameters really clearly whereas If I ask him for his opin…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/07/26 05:46 PM
8	I (22F) feel extremely insecure about my boyfriend's (23M) group of online friends It’s really important to get clear on the distinction between boundaries and control. Boundaries are YOUR limits. You get to decide what you will and will not tolerate, and you don’t have to justify it or check for a majority consensus. For instance, I have a boundary around smoking. I would not date smokers. I didn’t try to make anyone give up smoking, threaten to leave if they smoked, or get angry that they smoked despite knowing how I felt. Anyone is welcome to smoke, they’re not bad people, …	/r/RedPillWomen	27/07/26 08:51 PM
1	How important is a man's looks? Aphantasia is the inability to voluntarily visualise mental imagery. I can’t think in pictures, or mentally conjure up a persons face.	/r/RedPillWomen	25/07/26 12:03 AM
1	Postpartum Marriage Advice Needed (attraction, admiration) I have struggled at times with my husband’s relationship with his family too. I leaned too much into narratives about family systems, enmeshment, and judged him unfairly. It took me a long time to stop comparing our situations, upbringings and outlooks and accept that this was his natural habitat and that he was learning, developing and growing as a person, as a husband and a father. I might have handled a particular situation e.g. with his mother differently, but he was the one with decades of …	/r/RedPillWomen	24/07/26 09:59 PM
5	If you had to remove all of your "Non-Negotiables" and keep only three, which ones would they be? Oh that’s an interesting question. Non smoker was on my list, and still ranks highly. The quickest way to get rid of me would be for my husband to take up smoking. The one that wasn’t on my list until I met him, was that he doesn’t dysregulate my nervous system. I don’t know how to say exactly what I mean here. From the first moment I was in his presence, I felt calm, comfortable, and deeply safe. I’m a person who needs space, but he feels like space. That impacts our relationship in so many dif…	/r/RedPillWomen	24/07/26 09:37 PM
1	Raising Sons That urge to swoop in is so strong, and you’re absolutely right that it needs to be checked, especially as they get older. What do you think boys need from their mothers as they get older?	/r/RedPillWomen	23/07/26 10:50 PM
2	Raising Sons Thanks again for that recommendation. It was so interesting and I could absolutely recognise both my son, husband, brothers and father in her descriptions of life stages. I’ve always felt a bit guilty at not making more use of our summer break from school to achieve more goals, but my son has always had a powerful drive to explore and learn but only on his own agenda and it was such a lovely affirmation that giving him that space to explore and pursue his quests was actually important for him.	/r/RedPillWomen	23/07/26 09:51 PM
9	How important is a man's looks? How men look doesn’t register for me as an isolated attribute, which might be related to having aphantasia. I can recognise that a particular man is objectively handsome, but it doesn’t translate into attractiveness as for me, that’s about intelligence, character, warmth etc. I struggled a bit with this in my teens and very early twenties where the opinions of friends mattered more, but as I got older I realised I was extremely good at vetting, and swerved men when others were putting too much e…	/r/RedPillWomen	23/07/26 09:26 PM
2	Raising Sons No, I’m married, and there are plenty of men in his life. That’s so important for boys. I’m just feeling moments of disconnect, where I sense I’m doing something wrong, but I’m not sure what. I’ll check that out. Thanks for sharing.	/r/RedPillWomen	23/07/26 06:11 AM
2	Raising Sons Thanks. I loved the Queen’s Code, I’ll check this out.	/r/RedPillWomen	23/07/26 06:08 AM
1	Movies that awaken feminine energy Completely!	/r/RedPillWomen	15/07/26 08:45 PM
1	How do you actually STFU?? It’s not healthy to bottle up, and almost impossible to stfu if a thought is burning a hole in your throat. The change needs to occur at a deeper level. Bear with me for a moment…what if you just accepted that he won’t help around the house? That he will be forgetful and that there’s nothing you can do about it!? Imagine that he has some kind of profound brain disorder, and there’s no words, or actions that will ever change this. If that were the case, what would you do? The chances are you’d mo…	/r/RedPillWomen	13/07/26 08:29 PM
1	feeling ungrounded in my feminine energy I’m glad	/r/RedPillWomen	13/07/26 08:16 PM
2	Movies that awaken feminine energy Two that come to mind for me: Some Like It Hot - plays around with different aspects of the performance of femininity, and all the while Marilyn Monroe is absolutely visually riveting in every scene she’s in. The Sound of Music- Julie Andrew’s character embodies a very warm, maternal kind of feminine energy, and the way she responds to VonTrapp’s harsh masculinity, by stepping back into softness is very powerful. Two people being strong in different ways.	/r/RedPillWomen	13/07/26 07:53 PM
1	How can I make my disabled fiancé feel strong? He just told me something today about feeling week. You can’t make him. You can’t change him. You cannot control how he thinks about himself. Even though your intentions are good and from the kindest heart, moving into a controlling mindset will not help either of you and could damage your dynamic. Try to turn your focus onto yourself, ensuring that your needs are met, that you’re regulated, content and enjoying life. Then serve him from your abundance.	/r/RedPillWomen	11/07/26 05:59 PM
2	Spending Money on Looks It’s easy for me to say I wouldn’t spend it on beauty because it’s not a high value for me, AND I don’t have a specific underlying issue. Off the cuff, I’d advise investing in better health care but it sounds like you’re already doing what you can in that regard. I also don’t see particular merit in saving for a wedding either - it’s a big party, one you could be too stressed to properly enjoy. I think you’ll get more satisfaction from hair removal, and any partner you have will benefit from the…	/r/RedPillWomen	11/07/26 05:37 PM
6	feeling ungrounded in my feminine energy Can you predict when or where those difficulties arise for you? I try and schedule some deep sensory regulation before events that drain me, and also a recovery period after. In terms of toughening up around men, can you unpick what you think is happening in those interactions? I found that when I got engaged to my now husband, he became my protective layer, and I was able to be softer, less defensive. Before that, when I had to manage my own defences, I was necessarily tougher, and I think that…	/r/RedPillWomen	11/07/26 05:17 PM
3	Shallow (shorterm) LDR Calls Trying to change a man is never going to work out well. We all try it though! Ultimately radical acceptance is a better place to put our energies. But before that you need to figure out if this is something you can live with. Pre marriage you should be vetting, assessing and if the answer is no, then it’s not just ok, but important to move on. I found myself wondering if this could be a masking behaviour and whether he’s neurodivergent. It may not be under his control, and more like a reflexive …	/r/RedPillWomen	10/07/26 09:39 PM
6	RedPill women’s advice on helping a partner through grief That’s very sad. Grief is a funny thing and it can completely defy logic and expectation. It’s profoundly deregulating. responding to sadness can be straightforward enough, but sometimes it manifests in anger or impatience and it can be difficult not to be reactive. Work on mindfully holding your centre so you don’t get rocked by unexpected outbursts. It’s most likely not about you. That’s not to say you shouldn’t hold boundaries for yourself too, of course. I’d suggest thinking of how you can s…	/r/RedPillWomen	10/07/26 09:27 PM
1	A tangible example of the letting him lead That’s an interesting take. Thank you for sharing that.	/r/RedPillWomen	10/07/26 12:12 AM
2	Need advice on a man You’re very clear sighted about this man yet you seem to need validation in order to trust your own judgement. Why do you think that is? This might be a question worth considering, and you may have to just mull it over in the background for a while before the reasons come to the surface.	/r/RedPillWomen	08/07/26 09:54 PM
3	Restraint My husband is particularly non-reactive and over the years I’ve learned to speak more thoughtfully because of the way he rephrases my impulsive or, occasionally impassioned, words into something more measured. He considers what I mean, and reflects that back, taking the emotional temperature down. He values honesty and communication, and will generally overlook my impulsivity or poor phrasing and would rather I just say what’s on my mind if I’m upset. But over the years I’ve found that I’ve beco…	/r/RedPillWomen	08/07/26 09:47 PM
1	How to get a man talk to you, when their personality is very quiet? That’s wonderful.	/r/RedPillWomen	04/07/26 06:48 AM
13	Respecting a man I would put it differently; men are sensitive to disrespect and within men’s groups hierarchies are maintained through banter, cutting jokes, etc. If you can just avoid teasing, sarcasm, put downs or making him the butt of a joke, you’ll already be creating a space where he feels accepted and not under threat. The second part of this is admiration which is simply noticing and acknowledging the things he does right, well, or better than we can.	/r/RedPillWomen	04/07/26 06:30 AM
9	How to get a man talk to you, when their personality is very quiet? In The Queen’s Code, Alison Armstrong suggests counting silently to thirty after a man answers before saying anything else. I tried it with my husband and discovered he had hidden depths, but I’d been continually interrupting his thought process. It’s a really interesting read. if you want a different result, after you ask your question, you open your mind and listen.” “And then what?” Karen laughed. “That’s it. You just listen. The same thing women say they want from men. But you don’t interrup…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/07/26 03:27 PM
2	My mom is increasingly getting more and more radical with her dating beliefs. It’s tricky when it’s someone you love. It sounds like your mom is protecting her heart by being cynical, and protecting herself from being hurt by not forming emotional attachments and anticipating relationships ending rather than investing her hopes. Her advice is most likely coming from a loving place, and a maternal desire to protect you from hurt and harm. It can also be intensely painful as a young adult to realise that we know better than our parents about something. It is a sort of rever…	/r/RedPillWomen	30/06/26 07:12 PM
1	What characteristics would I need to have in order to attract a PROVIDER? Nodding along with all of this. So true.	/r/RedPillWomen	29/06/26 08:48 PM
2	What characteristics would I need to have in order to attract a PROVIDER? I don’t think that you’re attracting leeches, but you’re not recognising them efficiently enough. I firmly believe that the biggest secret to finding a great partner is not to waste time on the ones who aren’t great. Don’t make excuses for them, or hang on to a relationship out of fear of being alone. A great man could pass you by because he won’t make a move while you’re in a relationship with another man. The second thing is to understand what “great” looks like, and contrary to what the RPM t…	/r/RedPillWomen	29/06/26 08:45 PM
10	Feeling insecure about ending up alone and not finding a suitable partner (25F). How do I improve my approach? The key to finding a great partner is not wasting time or cluttering your life with the ones who aren’t for you. Don’t worry about the top 5% - that is someone else’s arbitrary categorisation. You don’t need someone else’s ideal partner - just yours. Connection happens with the right person. You don’t need to worry about that - in fact your instincts are helping you not get stuck with the wrong person.	/r/RedPillWomen	25/06/26 04:20 PM
1	RPW and Rights without responsibilities I don’t think I mentioned death in childbirth specifically. I was actually thinking of the myriad of problems that occur that only get whispered about. I knew that my mortality risk in a first world country with 1:1 midwifery care was very low, but if I’d understood the other issues I would be dealing with years later, I would not have rushed blithely into motherhood because my husband longed for children. Nor would he have asked me to. I’m not sure why you’re saying that I “should well know” ab…	/r/RedPillWomen	24/06/26 06:35 PM
–	Who Are The Best Trad Husbands? What were your reasons for excluding religious men originally?	/r/RedPillWomen	23/06/26 09:58 PM
2	Where to start? If you can get hold of it Total Woman by Marabel Morgan is a really good, and quick read. Her advice boils down to Accept (him the way he is, faults and all, and stop trying to change him) Admire (his good qualities - make a list of his flaws and good points and then tear up the flaws! Keep adding to the good list) Adapt (the only person you have the power to change is yourself, and attitude is your most powerful weapon) Appreciate - men thrive on appreciation. They’re absolutely parched for it.…	/r/RedPillWomen	23/06/26 06:09 PM
3	RPW and Rights without responsibilities Women carry different responsibilities. I’m always mindful that we tend to view these things through the lens of our own experience. In mine, it’s far more common for men to walk away from their children, and to pay minimally towards those children. We also take significant health risks in bearing children, and parenthood is the driving factor in unequal earning capacity. Domestic violence is treated far less seriously than stranger assault, and statistically that “one moment of anger” is predic…	/r/RedPillWomen	23/06/26 06:01 PM
5	one sided open relationship It wouldn’t be for me. I am far too jealous and possessive to be able to make peace with that. I wouldn’t be prepared to risk my sexual health in that way either. I think marriage and relationships are a bit like betting on a horse. You take a chance (you’re betting with your health, your financial security and that of your future children) and some people bet on winners, and some on losers. But betting on a lame horse, that you know is definitely one of the losers is not the way to deal with th…	/r/RedPillWomen	19/06/26 05:25 PM
-3	What do you consider as feminine and how can you help a tom boy out? Don’t try and change yourself or you’ll attract someone who suits the person you’re pretending to be and that’s not sustainable in the long run. You can’t help being feminine as a woman, even when you’re trying not to be. The thing is to learn to be comfortable in your own skin, and happy with who you are. Most of us carry a great deal of internalised misogyny these days, and if you can start to challenge that, you’ll find that you begin to unlock more and more of your core feminine strength. My…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/06/26 05:44 AM
51	My fiance watches red pill content and it makes me sad One of the problems with red pill content is that much of it is generated by, or aimed at low value men. On the internet, money is made by generating outrage. Ime high value men aren’t wasting their time consuming this hateful drivel, precisely because they recognise the value of their time.	/r/RedPillWomen	17/06/26 10:03 PM
2	He became distant after a car accident and increased intimacy. Have I done enough, or should I keep reaching out? I’m not a believer in anything woo and tbh I’d have very little patience for this. It’s a self limiting belief, but really, just saying it out loud should be enough for him to hear how ludicrous it sounds. Also if everyone something happens he looks for some supernatural explanation, he’s limiting his ability to grow and learn. I mean, what caused the accident? Did he contribute to it in any way? Should he be reflecting on how he could have been a safer driver? Maybe he was entirely innocent, in…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/06/26 09:55 PM
1	Feminism and Independence but only if you are smart and able bodied I think you’re conflating end stage capitalism and feminism, and maybe ignoring the reality that working class women always had to work outside the home.	/r/RedPillWomen	17/06/26 09:11 PM
1	Sometimes the most loving thing you can do is listen I love this. Stfu is so incredibly powerful! I’ve noticed that the men in my life benefit hugely from a good long monologue. Have you read The Queen’s Code? Alison Armstrong described how men often feel like women are constantly interrupting them before they can fully develop their thoughts, and women think men are shallow. She recommended counting silently to 30 before replying, and it was a complete eye opener to me!	/r/RedPillWomen	17/06/26 09:07 PM
1	How to nicely remind/talk about things not getting done that he has promised to do? It’s really important to understand that in an intimate relationship, your partner isn’t someone to manage - it isn’t your job to delegate, and then supervise the completion of tasks and problem solve issues that arise. It isn’t appropriate to try and manipulate or control him either. A relationship requires flexibility and growth; give and take. You might have to accept things being done differently, and valued differently, but when there is mutual respect there will be efforts on both sides. T…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/06/26 09:02 PM
1	Are women meant to be alone in the end after all? Currently women live longer than men but in considerably poorer health with higher incidences of bone deterioration and Alzheimer’s/dementia. Hopefully the increased encouragement to avail of hrt and to exercise for health outcomes (bone density and increased muscle mass) rather than for aesthetics that encourage loss of muscle mass and malnourishment, may change the odds.	/r/RedPillWomen	17/06/26 08:29 PM
3	A tangible example of the letting him lead I agree that it’s easy when the roles are clear and we’re both happy in them. This one is a nice tangible example of that. Yes, it is definitely more challenging when I have strong views on something! But my husband values my advice and expertise, and has always been willing to listen, consider and discuss so I’ve never felt I couldn’t express my opinions when I’ve felt strongly. Sometimes time has proved me right, but sometimes it has proved him right.	/r/RedPillWomen	16/06/26 08:38 PM
4	A tangible example of the letting him lead Honestly, no, I don’t think so. He’s a very good dad, and brings great things to the table as a parent. But I’m more empathetic, intuitive and nurturing with them while he is a bit more fun on the one hand, and a lot firmer on the other. When it comes to managing all the ups and downs of travelling, I’m better suited to handling the children. For others, it would very much depends on their relative strengths.	/r/RedPillWomen	16/06/26 08:25 PM
1	A tangible example of the letting him lead That’s great.	/r/RedPillWomen	16/06/26 08:17 PM
7	A tangible example of the letting him lead I like clear roles too. In our case, my husband really enjoyed researching and planning trips, so it made sense to let him get on with those things. My suggestion is to pay attention to what you each enjoy doing. It’s easy to get caught up in our own opinions, and assume that something we find a chore, is a chore. Don’t be shy expressing what parts you each find tedious or challenging because often there’s a secondary pleasure in doing those things for each other. And if there’s an area he’s not…	/r/RedPillWomen	15/06/26 10:56 PM
15	A tangible example of the letting him lead It really is :) I’ve been a sahm for years, but now that our children are older, we’ve set up a company so we can work together.	/r/RedPillWomen	15/06/26 10:44 PM
17	A tangible example of the letting him lead I didn’t feel that it should be that way; I noticed that it worked and leaned into it. In the early years of our marriage, I thought I needed to assert myself, to do everything 50/50. When we added children to the mix, and were juggling more needs than just our own, we started to find we had different strengths. And we would still try to be 50/50 because that’s how we thought it was supposed to be. But more and more we noticed that when we were leaning into our masculine/feminine energy, the rel…	/r/RedPillWomen	15/06/26 10:42 PM
2	Expected Violence? Just quickly checking in to see how you are doing?	/r/RedPillWomen	12/06/26 02:16 PM
5	He’s begging me to let him lead. Maybe you’re just incompatible? Sometimes the gap is too big. As I was reading your examples, I was picturing how I’d have handled that with my husband. I’d have enjoyed the opportunity to talk and laugh with him for those extra miles of walking. I’d have told him that I was really hungry, and would prefer a place with food, or asked him if we could stop off somewhere for food on the way. But the thing is that he rarely lets me down, and is a very competent organiser. For me it’s been a case of …	/r/RedPillWomen	12/06/26 06:21 AM
3	I am TERRIBLE at letting my husband help me, and then I resent him for not helping me I related to so much of this. I had such huge feelings in the post partum stage and normally I’m quite gentle and mild mannered. It was easier on my second child because we both recognised done of the patterns and knew we would get out the other side. And we did. I think you’re doing really great to recognise so much of this and articulate it so well. That’s very important. I wonder if you’d consider some talking therapy? It can be incredibly helpful to be able to talk with someone who holds spa…	/r/RedPillWomen	10/06/26 09:38 PM
3	How to avoid getting mad at husband for his childcare mistakes? I think that there are a few different issues getting tangled up here. The big one is that you are losing your temper with your husband, in front of your kids, and this is just not okay. Imagine if this was reversed, and he was criticising and undermining you in front of the kids several times a day? It’s not good for your kids to see this. I’m not disputing that this is frustrating, or that his inattention is infuriating and I have a lot of sympathy for your situation, but emotional abuse is no…	/r/RedPillWomen	08/06/26 10:39 PM
7	Expected Violence? Self control is the hallmark of an exceptional man. A man who can maintain control of his emotions, his appetites and marshal his strength and drive will do well in life. Being so triggered by something a girlfriend says, that he would risk being arrested is showing you that he is not in control of his emotions or his actions and that he has poor judgement. Where I live, the police would act, with or without your cooperation, if a witness had reported that. But ending and leaving a relationship …	/r/RedPillWomen	08/06/26 10:15 PM
4	How do I help my man with financial knowledge and personal satisfaction. He says im doing great however Listen to him! Take your cues from him. Pay attention to his feedback. You sound lovely and your intentions are wonderful but sometimes we can be overwhelming when our love is overflowing. Trust him. Trust is an incredible gift, that feeds and nourishes inner confidence, gives people the courage to take chances, to be bold. There’s a fine line between helping someone, and turning them into a project. (I don’t know if you’ve read Fascinating Womanhood?) I’d be caref…	/r/RedPillWomen	06/06/26 10:53 PM
1	How can a woman operate more like a man? Women learn to underplay their talents and effort but we understand that if a woman is claiming her work is a 4, then it’s probably actually an 8. Men, on the other hand, claim their 8 is a 12. As a result, when a woman modestly claims her work is a 4, a man assumes it is probably a 2. It is really, really important not to undersell ourselves when working with men. Have you looked for women’s supports network either within your industry, or across a range of industries in a particular area? Thes…	/r/RedPillWomen	06/06/26 10:36 PM
1	34F dating 39M It strikes me that it’s also his good qualities that are making you uncomfortable. If we’re not used to them, good things can make us uneasy. We tend to be attracted to what we know and what feels familiar. Probably because from an evolutionary perspective, whatever conditions we survived growing up in, are probably good enough to raise offspring. It’s part of the reason why women who had abusive fathers go on to be attracted to abusive men. Kindness can feel too unfamiliar at a gut level, to fe…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/06/26 08:02 PM
3	My (24F) bf (29M) asked to take a 3-5 day break He is a boyfriend and not a husband. I think it’s important to keep this distinction in mind. You should still be in the vetting stage, assessing and evaluating. There’s the question of whether he will propose, but there’s also the question of whether you will accept. When you get married, there has to be a knuckling down, because you’re in this for the long haul and that’s when some of those books that have been recommended really help. But there’s a difference between working hard at a relatio…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/06/26 12:27 PM
1	He didn’t offer to take me home after date, I feel disappointed but don’t know if I’m being too picky Sorry it didn’t work out, but also not sorry. I think your instincts were spot on. The thought process that followed the gut reaction led you a little bit astray but you weren’t wrong. Men and women are different. On a physical /practical level we aim to be self sufficient, independent, capable of looking after ourselves (so of course you could get the bus home), while men aim to be able to look after their loved ones on a physical/practical level. If he was imagining you being in his inner circ…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/06/26 11:54 AM
1	How do you feel more confident/feminine? My blood pressure is slightly on the low side, so I’ve got into the habit of pausing when I stand up because if I walk immediately, I sometimes get dizzy after a few steps and then I’m in the middle of the room, with no support. Because it’s feels awkward to stand still for a few seconds (not that anyone notices, but I do), I cover by tugging my top down and smoothing my clothes and straightening up. When I walk, I find I’m more poised, and more confident. I was taught from a young age never to …	/r/RedPillWomen	04/06/26 10:37 PM
3	RPW maintenance - how do you keep the knowledge fresh? I have found that incorporating daily, weekly and seasonal rituals into ordinary life has been very helpful. An example is that we kiss and hug goodbye every morning when he leaves the house. It’s a really simple practice that reinforces so many different parts of our relationship. It doesn’t matter what else I’m doing, I need to come when he’s ready to leave, and not delay him. That’s a tiny moment of submission at the start of the day. It’s also a moment of intimacy that suddenly focuses my at…	/r/RedPillWomen	04/06/26 10:23 PM
2	Men Want Us To Be Better Than Them (from “Fascinating Womanhood”) Thanks for posting that extract. I find it quite thought provoking, and it is something I’ve noticed many times, though I wouldn’t have expressed it quite that way. One example that springs to mind, is how in certain work situations, my husband would use coarse language among the other men. But has never used words like that in my presence. He also has never even raised his voice to me, and until he had to work from home during Lockdown, I wouldn’t never have guessed he could be as forceful, as …	/r/RedPillWomen	02/06/26 12:07 AM
5	34F dating 39M It’s time to kick your ex out of this relationship because that threesome you have going on is wrecking your head! Seriously, I think you’re going to need to make a concerted effort to push away thoughts of him and comparisons, every time they crop up because he’s coming between you and your future. He’s already taken up too much of the past. Enough is enough. Until you break this habit of mentally revisiting the past, you’re not going to be able to see this new guy clearly.	/r/RedPillWomen	01/06/26 11:07 PM
1	Help with anger in submission! Drink some water! I’m not joking. I am projecting a bit though. I have adhd and I don’t feel thirst as thirst - but if I’m feeling off (cranky/ overwhelmed/ exhausted/ off my food/ hot/ sad) I’ve learned to reach for my water bottle first, and nearly always, after the first couple of reluctant sips, I find I’m actually parched. This has been a revelation. Sometimes after a drink, I’ll notice that I’m hungry, or I’m tired, or I just need a hug or something random hurts and I can then tend to thos…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/06/26 10:51 PM