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You don’t want a woman like that anyway. She doesn’t respect others’ relationships and she won’t respect yours.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 12:41 PM
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Only in Nov-Jan, April, and August. Shaving downstairs is mandatory in Sept, and optional in Oct
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 06:49 AM
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Always
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 01:24 AM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 01:23 AM
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Personally, I hate it. I don’t want to constantly be reassuring someone that people are just friends or have to pretend like I don’t have eyes in the presence of other attractive people. I like the rock solid sense of security that my husband exudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 01:13 AM
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No Shave November Don’t Shave December Just Don’t Shave January Facial Hair February Manly-Man March Absolutely Forbidden from Touching Your Razor April Must Remain Bearded May Jesus Christ How Many Times Do I Have To Tell You, You’re Too Much of a Jawlet to Shave June Joyfully Bearded July Actively Avoiding Sharp Objects August Shaving is for Pussies September Obviously You Should Go for a Year at This Point Bro October
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 01:05 AM
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They pick women who are open to that, and/or are extremely good in bed, such that their partners are satisfied and know that other men will be a disappointment. I brought up the subject to my husband, that I’d be okay with him having sex with other people, but that I don’t necessarily need or want that myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 12:47 AM
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Uhh… idk about that last part
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 03:57 AM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 03:54 AM
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What age did it stop?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 01:28 AM
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The “scrotes” have no power over me. I’m already off the market. I’ll spare my husband from some of my scathing looks though
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 01:13 AM
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I don’t know if I’ll ever get over losing him, but I think I’ll be lonely. I’ve grown very accustomed to marriage already and I can’t imagine not being with someone anymore. I do have signs of aging. The PRP helps with the fine lines and wrinkles, but it needs to be done repeatedly, and I can’t really afford it. I have some facial fat loss, so I’m getting tear troughs and nasolabial folds. Those will be filled. Tretinoin has side effects, doesn’t it?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 01:09 AM
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Botox doesn’t age you; it prevents aging. I did read that fillers can stretch out your skin if you do too much, but I’m already losing facial fat, and that’s why I’m getting tear troughs and nasolabial folds. I won’t overdo it
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 01:03 AM
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I’m a gerontophile, so I think older men are hot (especially him; he’s the hottest.) He’s also super funny, wicked smart, athletic, caring, wealthy, a sex god, a good father… practically perfect.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 01:01 AM
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51
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 12:56 AM
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Thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 12:51 AM
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I already do those things. I think a year and a half of breastfeeding hormones started aging me faster. Now I’m spooked
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 12:51 AM
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Yeah. My looks got me really far in life. I haven’t had much time to cultivate my talents lately, what with being home with my toddler, and I think some of my better personality traits have been rather absent lately. I should work on that
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 12:49 AM
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It’s only going in my forehead. I’ll still be able to smile with my mouth and eyes. Just maybe a bit of hindrance with surprise and anger
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 12:46 AM
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For the prevention of wrinkles, and minor mood improvement.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 12:36 AM
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It’s just the reality of my situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 12:33 AM
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The Botox Chronicles: Update 2 Three (?) days ago I got my last PRP treatment, and I scheduled my appointment to get my injectables for the 31st. Being a bear of very little brain, I wrote the date and time on the little whiteboard on my fridge, as I do to keep track of such happenings, but intentionally neglected the subject matter of the appointment. I did not expect my husband to ask me about it, obviously. But of course he did. “What’s happening on the 31st?” “Um, I have an appointment,” I i…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/23 12:25 AM
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Right. There are two kinds of sex: love making and fucking
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 11:34 PM
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I do find cuddling more intimate than sex. I have cuddled with far fewer people than I’ve had sex with. I only want to cuddle with people for whom I have deep feelings
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 10:13 PM
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He was married and wayyy too emotional
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 03:32 AM
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How romantic
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 03:31 AM
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Why would I talk about my experiences openly with you when you have disbelieved and ridiculed literally everything I’ve said so far? Like I said, sex workers have the power to pick and choose which clients and requests to take on. If you don’t want to dress like a child or RP kidnap and torture, just don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 01:35 AM
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I have a lot of experience with it, actually.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 01:27 AM
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In what context is she telling you she doesn’t feel heard? Like what are the issues/complaints?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 01:17 AM
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RIP 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 01:14 AM
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Sex work doesn’t necessitate prostitution. Even if you do sell physical sex, you get to pick how you want to do it and with whom you want to do it. With sugaring, women can vet much better and be pickier than hookers who rely on street walking, working in brothels, or on pimps. It’s a new age
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 01:11 AM
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Face down, booty up
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 12:59 AM
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Why do men sleep so much? like wake up; I need a dicking down >:( Guess I’ll go clean the house or something
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 12:51 AM
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I want to pet the rabbits?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 12:37 AM
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You don’t have to LTR men who pay for sex work in order to profit off of sex work
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 12:35 AM
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Theoretically you could work hard and pay for a house and a surrogate to birth your children, but you have to have more than just a worth ethic to get a wife
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 12:34 AM
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I asked my husband and he was like, “Are the ones who die Taliban members?” And I said no, it’s random, and he replied “I think I might just kill myself in that case”
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 11:06 PM
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I’m pretty sure on this sub there is a bunch more women who are very vocal about how much they don’t approve of age gap relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 10:54 PM
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Yeah, that’s really crazy. I knew I was done after the first one
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 10:19 PM
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It’s hard for me to empathize with the people on that sub. Like, yeah, parenthood definitely has its (generally temporary) downsides. But how can you really be that unhappy that you consistently wish you hadn’t had your child(ren?) When they do cute things and give you hugs and say “I wuv you?” When they learn new things and you’re so proud of them, or when they’re in your partners arms looking just like them? Don’t those things make it worth it for them? Like don’t get me wrong, there have defi…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 09:53 PM
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No promises with regards to my child’s civil obedience
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 09:34 PM
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I have to start potty training my toddler on Friday and I am absolutely dreading the change
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 09:13 PM
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Right?! Projection much?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 08:57 PM
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Rape is sexually violating somebody and causing them trauma and harm. Pedophiles are doing the same thing, but to children. Murderers are taking others’ lives and hurting their loved ones. Adult people electing to have consensual sex with others in exchange for money aren’t harming anyone, provided they’re taking the necessary precautions against STDs and unwanted pregnancy. You cannot argue that that’s immoral, let alone anywhere near on the same level as rape, pedophilia, or murder. Get a grip…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 08:43 PM
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I’m saying you can’t just make a significant amount of money and spend all of it all the time. You need some put away, in the form of assets that can be liquidated in the event you’re no longer able to earn enough to support your family.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 07:38 PM
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I definitely disagree in this specific instance.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 05:39 PM
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There do exist women who do sex work who also do things like volunteer, take care of their families, be good friends to others, pay their taxes, obey the laws, seek out an education, etc. Doing sex work doesn’t preclude anyone from being a good person, even if you, EBITDA_5x, wouldn’t want them for a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 05:37 PM
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The whore. Promiscuous women get to sleep with who they want to (some even profit from sex), get to figure out exactly what they like and want, and automatically weed out men with the bad traits associated with having a low-n preference. There are no downsides. I think promiscuous women have richer sex lives after marriage, too, but that may just be a bias I have.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 05:34 PM
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That’s why 200k a year isn’t enough. A man providing for his family on a single income should also have significant assets he can fall back on if he loses his job.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 05:28 PM
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Damn, I just remembered we’re out of mommy love dust. Alexa, remind me to make a Target run tomorrow
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 05:26 PM
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Sex workers aren’t necessarily bad or faithless people
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 05:23 PM
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It is possible to want a financially comfortable life, and also to service- and family-oriented, faithful, and have healthy, loving relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 05:21 PM
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My husband is 25 years older than me. People (online) comment all the time that it’s because I must have daddy issues, and I tell them “Maybe.” Because I didn’t know my bio dad and the step dad that raised me from age 5 was a dick, and maybe that subconsciously prompted me to seek out somebody my father’s age, for whatever reason. I don’t know, and I don’t really care. I’m just happy to be with my husband. I also don’t see anything wrong with wanting to be with someone who is well-off who can pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 05:07 PM
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Maybe the weird ones
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 04:46 PM
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Meh.. how interested are men in looking at a woman’s bikini line in the first place? It just feels like an inconsequential thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 03:56 PM
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I would prefer right during the off season, with a little more body fat
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 02:27 PM
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Bangmaids are women who clean up after men and the rest of the home and have sex pretty much on demand.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 11:58 AM
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I would only divorce because of abuse that either endangered my child, or that couldn’t be resolved with therapy (by which I mean, my spouse refuses to go to therapy.) Violating my very low standards for what counts as infidelity would hurt, but I wouldn’t exit the marriage over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 11:57 AM
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I met my husband when I was 19. He’s 25 years older than me. After 18, I stopped considering any men under 35 as datable. But I am also a gerontophilic weirdo
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 11:50 AM
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Men on PPD simultaneously want women to lower their standards (settling) and the complain when those women deadbedroom them
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 11:40 AM
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That’s because nowadays high schoolers wear a shit ton of make up and make themselves look like 20 yos. adjusts walker back in my day, 16 yos looked 16
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 11:02 AM
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I had abdominal surgery at 16 which resulted in something like a c section scar; I didn’t think it ever bothered any of my partners
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 11:00 AM
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If his penis isn’t erect I feel like he’s not turned on or enjoying it, and I’m going to have to get him hard again if I want him inside me, which is what I generally want most of all, and certainly to finish with. And having to get a man hard is… whatever the female version of emasculating is
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 01:41 AM
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That is a myth You are telling stories 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 12:01 AM
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You don’t get bored or overstimulated?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 12:01 AM
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I’ve had lesbian sex; I still can’t imagine it lasting for hours. unless people are considering like, flirting or cuddling beforehand to count as sex ? Like what could you possibly being doing for hours?!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 11:49 PM
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Did it involve a dude and did he stay hard the whole time ? Did it involve a woman and did she stay wet the whole time ? I cannot imagine being sexually stimulated for that long. Also like, I like my orgasms to come quickly and I tap out after like, 3-6 of them, so it’d basically have to be edging for hours for me, which sounds miserable
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 11:39 PM
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I prefer non drinkers. I quit drinking myself
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 11:32 PM
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I’d let lillith domme me
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 11:31 PM
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I’ll let you know when they come to an agreement
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 11:29 PM
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I do not believe anyone who says they have sex for “hours” at a time. I just don’t. Also that sounds horrible
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 11:29 PM
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C— depends on mood. Sometimes A, sometimes B, sometimes both in the same sex sesh
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 11:27 PM
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Even then. Because if the woman is only having sex because she genuinely desires sex with the other person— no condition of genuine commitment attached— she has not been “used” if a relationship doesn’t form after the sex occurs. If she does not want sex outside of a committed relationship, she shouldn’t have sex with someone who hasn’t actively demonstrated commitment to her (whether that’s dating for a long time, moving in together, marriage, etc. Shit that you can’t fake to get sex.)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 02:33 AM
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Wait, I’ve got one! Women who have sex with men because they think that’ll get them to commit and then they claim that the dude “used” them for sex (pumping and dumping)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 01:59 AM
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And cue the onslaught of comments from men who don’t understand fetal development and also hate women in 3, 2, 1…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 01:58 AM
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I would much rather involuntarily be drafted than be involuntarily impregnated. I would commit ctrl + z if the latter happened to me. But yeah, drafting is fucked up.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 01:36 AM
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No, but I genuinely love the way my husband smells. Like, to the extent it would be super creepy if I was a dude sniffing my girlfriend and her sweaty gym clothes and stuff. I imagine his scent is what God smells like.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 01:32 AM
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You shouldn’t just bring a whole new human into the world that you are absolutely not prepared and 100% excited to care for just so you can “take accountability” for accidentally getting pregnant. Early abortion, in such cases, is the most humane action, and minimizes suffering of all involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 01:29 AM
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You know how men will sleep with women they don’t think are relationship material? Women do that too
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 01:24 AM
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I mean, that is reality. As long as you don’t get caught, you could off your spouse and get whatever you’re entitled to, depending where you live. Where I am, it’s 50% of the assets, regardless of what’s in the will. (The only reason why I know is because I’ve argued with people about it. I love my husband.)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 01:22 AM
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I’m just picturing the guy from the tard wife meme putting peppermints and spare change in his pockets every day so his wife can “steal” them
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 01:16 AM
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Have you ever been pregnant? The hormones are a wild ride
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 01:14 AM
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She can assassinate him and take her inheritance
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 01:12 AM
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Damn, and I thought I had it rough when mine cut me off of sex at 7 months
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 01:11 AM
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The whole time ?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 01:09 AM
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Pecs too round. Too much lat from the front
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 12:41 AM
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I’m too busy bornagaintradwifemaxxing
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 12:39 AM
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SLUT
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 12:38 AM
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I’d eject, reboot, and re-insert the flash drive
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 12:37 AM
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I’ve been doxxed😰
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 12:26 AM
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Yeah, I’m just a teenage dirtbag, baby. Listen to Iron Maiden?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 12:12 AM
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It’s 8 o'clock, Monday night and I'm waiting to finally talk to a girl a little cooler than me. Her name is Nona; she's a rocker with a nose ring. She wears a two way (but I'm not quite sure what that means)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 12:03 AM
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Did he ask your n count?!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 10:13 PM
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You’re comparing something inherently bad with casual sex, which is neutral provided you take precautions against STDs and unwanted pregnancy. Lifting weights is also neutral provided you take precaution against injury and getting sick from the gym.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 07:56 PM
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I am just pointing out that just because there is opportunity for abuse doesn’t mean that it is taken in every age gap relationship. That was in response to you saying “Age gaps have been proven time and time again to just not be healthy…” I also want to remind you that abuse happens often even in agematched relationships (which are the majority of relationships.)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 06:47 PM
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Turn off, unless it was like my initials around his ring finger or something small, subtle, and easy to remove. I think getting a significant tattoo of anyone’s name is shortsighted and foolish, even if I don’t ever expect to break up with them. I mean, what if I became mentally ill and like did some awful shit? Then he has my name on his body. Isn’t marriage enough anymore?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 04:48 PM
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Tag me if anyone comes up with anything good in this post. It’s definitely an interesting topic
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 04:04 PM
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Yeah, I just don’t ever think it’ll be fair, but it’s necessary.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 02:34 PM
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There are plenty of healthy and normally functioning age gapped relationships. Bad news is just more interesting news, so you hear about the toxic AGRs more often than the healthy and boring ones. For example, my husband is significantly older than me, but he doesn’t use his greater life experience to manipulate me. Instead he is a positive and guiding force in my life. He supports and encourages me to pursue whatever it is I desire for myself, whether that’s getting an education, a job, militar…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 02:13 PM
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I don’t care how big the age gap is as long as the younger person is at least 18. That’s the age that people go away to college and start making big life decisions for themselves; they’re old enough to know what they want in a partner, and most people are capable of recognizing when they’re being taken advantage of or when they’re in a toxic relationship by then. Dating people close in age to you isn’t necessarily protective from abuse, manipulation, or toxicity, either, and there are definitely…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 02:07 PM
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What would you propose the man gets in return?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 01:32 PM
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You can’t just divorce your husband, move out, and become a single parent without having some sort of emergency break up money squirreled away some where, or without financial support, especially if you didn’t do anything to put on your resume before you had kids/through the duration of the marriage. Child support is not enough to live off of, at least not in safe and reasonable conditions. That’s where alimony comes in. CS is also until the children are adults, whereas alimony (support for the …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 12:08 PM
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He doesn’t get anything in return. It’s supposed to be so that his child and coparent aren’t living in poverty until the mother can find work. (Although I know in some cases, like celebrities, the alimony awarded is way higher than what a person needs to live on. Hence “supposed to be.”)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 11:42 AM
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People like having sex. It physically feels good, and sometimes that’s all there is to it. Just because some women have it casually doesn’t inherently mean they don’t respect themselves or they’re mentally ill. They just want to get off. You’re projecting your feelings about sex onto them. It’s like saying “I don’t like lifting weights. Anyone who lifts weights is repulsive, mentally ill, and they don’t respect themselves”
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 11:25 AM
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Ah, but I like the “grogginess.” Like when your brain is just turned off and you can enjoy the sensations, or if you wake up in the middle of an orgasm and then the next day you wonder if it was just a really good dream… also men are so cute when they are woken with sex and they’re confused for a sec and then evidently glad/excited about it…🥰
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 04:16 AM
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Yeah. Sex that was initiated while one partner was asleep (typically with prior consent to sleep sex in general)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 04:07 AM
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What do you think of sleep sex? Would you or have you had it?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 04:05 AM
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Sleep sex: yay or nay?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 03:59 AM
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Right. That’s why I left that group… one day I will quit the sub too stares longingly into the distance
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 03:41 AM
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Syphilis ?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 03:29 AM
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Yeah, I left that group. It was full of men eating up her story and simping for her anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 03:23 AM
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It’s okay if you feel like casual sex is unfulfilling for you and that sex is meant to be intimate and loving. But it’s clear from your addition of “eww” that you also think women who do not feel the same way as you and who have casual sex are “dirty” or “gross,” and that’s an indication of something deeper. Wanting a partner who shares the same sexual values as you is one thing. Being “repulsed” by those who don’t is another.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 03:08 AM
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You paid $1500 for a single coat?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 02:56 AM
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Thank you :)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 02:51 AM
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Id forgotten about it, for a while. But then was listening to an FDS podcast on cohabitation today on a long drive (not because I’m an FDSer but because I find their beliefs fascinating), and the topic made me remember the conversations with the aforementioned woman. I also get really angry at the existence of stupid people in general, so there’s that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 02:48 AM
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I wanted to fully elaborate on the depths of her stupidity. I’m not insecure at all, nor do I use my relationship as a measure of self-worth. I do openly brag about it— I think my husband is amazing, I’m infinitely grateful for him, and I love him to death, and I’m sure lots of people would prefer if I’d shut up about it. Sorry not sorry. Last time I checked… the case with many couples. Nah, sir, she explicitly said she wants to marry and have kids with him. Made up all kinds of c0pe as to why t…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 02:42 AM
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I need to vent, cuz this person is still living in my head rent free. I won’t name names, that way it stays impersonal, alright mods? I used to be in a group with a woman who would talk a lot of shit about my relationship (and other people’s relationships in general too.) You know the type who will find every occasion and bullshit reason to subtly-but-definitely-not-actually-subtly boast about why they’re better than everyone else? That was her. She thought very highly of herself because she’s o…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 01:46 AM
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Some men want women to feel ashamed of casual sex so that women are kept from satisfying their sexual needs, making them desperate for relationships in which they can comfortably have sex, and then those same men pretend like they want "relationships" with the sexually starved women in order to deceive them into having sex. If women universally rejected societally imposed shame about casual sex, I hypothesize fewer of them would end up feeling "used" for sex, or pumped and dumped. Because if the…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 08:30 PM
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Promiscuity and taking relationships seriously are not mutually exclusive. People who assign various negative character traits to all promiscuous people do so for reasons that make them bad LTR partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 07:46 PM
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Nothing “personal.” All men that feel strongly about women’s n counts are LV. They are not LTR material.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 07:39 PM
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I’m glad there are men that think so, but personally I hate the taste of vaginas. The nice neutral skin taste of a penis is far more enjoyable. (Worst lesbian ever, I know)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 07:37 PM
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I did predict that LV men would be up in here asserting that all men care, didn’t I?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 07:23 PM
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That’s cuz vaginas taste more strongly than penises
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 07:21 PM
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They are very high up on the intimacy scale, yes
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 07:20 PM
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It depends. I hypothesize RP women probably are more likely to be subs, and they know why they’re subs. BP women are probably a mixed bag, but BP subs are less articulate of why they’re subs.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 07:19 PM
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There’s nothing healthy about seeking sex just to have sex. False. There is nothing wrong with acknowledging your sex drive and having safe, consensual, and legal sex to satisfy it. There’a very very few reasons why it’s higher than 10 My first ten partners were literally because I liked sex and I wanted to have it. There doesn’t need to be a ton of reasons why people rack up partners; “because I wanted sex” and “because it’s fun” are perfectly good reasons. If something feels good and you’ve ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 07:09 PM
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Subs and brats are not mutually exclusive. There are subs that like to be bratty so their doms can put them in their place.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 06:55 PM
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Anal is more intimate than PIV and BJs because of the kink factor, with the additional factors of a higher risk of STDs, the need to be be able to relax for it not to be painful, and the trust you have to have to not hurt the receiving partner. Rim jobs are even more intimate than PIA sex because of the taste, kink, and trust factors (you trust your partner to be clean, to not fart in your mouth, to not ridicule you for liking rim jobs, etc.)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 06:52 PM
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There is no point in intentionally depriving yourself of sex that you want to be having to please men. Men who would discount you for your n count, with the exception of ones that also keep their n count intentionally low, are low value— they have weird/unhealthy/illogical views about themselves, sex, women, or all three, and/or they are insecure and are worried about how they “stack up” to your previous partners. Your n count being a dealbreaker for them is actually a useful, built-in filter fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 06:44 PM
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Hear me out: oral sex is more intimate than PIV. Here’s why: 1) You literally taste with your mouth. You don’t taste with your genitals. 2) PIV is sort of how sex is meant to “work.” Like, in terms of reproduction. Oral sex is straying from the “natural” purpose of sex; therefore it is kinkier than PIV. And kink is inherently intimate. I will now be accepting questions
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 06:36 PM
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I’m still married, so pretty good
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 05:21 PM
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Workout of the day- lower body/cardio Was pressed for time and sore all over, so I did this for ~45 minutes today ETA: ES is supposed to be “each side” but my tired dummy dumb dumb brain was being dumb
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 05:17 PM
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? Unattainable goals are by definition not worth striving for
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 03:28 AM
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Being overweight is objectively unhealthy in and of itself. This has been proven. Not managing your weight is not caring for yourself and your body. Fat people can be nice to themselves and deserve common decency whilst out and about. The things that prevent fat people from “participating in society” are usually physical size and weight limits, and that’s their own responsibility to fix.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 03:27 AM
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I wouldn’t love my child if she became a serial killer
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 03:22 AM
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Not even in those relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 03:22 AM
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I wouldn’t even say parent-child relationships. If my child was a sociopath and did fucked up shit, I’d definitely lose my love for her. Same as of it were my mum doing it
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 03:21 AM
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I’ve been in an large age gap relationship since I was 19. My husband and I talk about current events, the media we consume, our day, things we want to do and experience, our goals, people we know or see out and about, random thoughts, our feelings, our children, each other, funny jokes, sex… you know, all the things normal couples talk about.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 03:17 AM
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If you believe yourself capable of unconditional love for anybody, you’re a whole idiot
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 02:15 AM
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Lots of people see weight loss as something they do temporarily. The unfortunate truth is that weight management is something most people have to do their entire lives. You don’t just do a fad diet or five and then give up because they’re unsustainable and make you miserable. Even if you stick to them for the time needed to lose the amount of weight you want, you won’t keep the weight off long term if you go back to eating the way you did before the diet. You have to slowly change your habits an…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 02:09 AM
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I feel special, happy, and secure in my marriage
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 01:23 AM
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They should lose weight
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 12:39 AM
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I prefer underhanded too, but that’s just cuz my back is weak af lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 12:03 AM
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I did lots of underhanded pull-ups last upper body day (two days ago.) Today was focused on other muscles.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 11:45 PM
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lifting workout of the day - Upper body
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 11:29 PM
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I’m not getting that much done
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 09:17 PM
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Getting subtle Botox and filler from a tiny, cat-like aesthetician against my husband’s wishes
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 09:16 PM
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Aw, thanks lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 08:32 PM
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Update on the Botox/Filler Chronicle: Today I went to a consultation in secret. It was difficult to not mention it to my husband, who uh… would strongly prefer, let’s say, that I not put anything in my face. His primary reasoning is that, given our large age gap, he thinks I’m attempting to preserve my youth and looks for my next husband. (He’s not entirely wrong; I do expect to be widowed at some point. I don’t know if I’ll ever get over him, but I definitely would like to have options even int…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 08:17 PM
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That’s an interesting hypothesis, for sure. I don’t think most fathers treat their children differently, or allocate resources/attention/affection differently based on desirable/undesirable traits or success… I think most of them love their children equally and want all of their offspring to be successful. (Although it might be different once they reach adulthood.) ETA: personally I think all women should be allowed to vote, but husbands and wives should discuss who to vote for, with the husband…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 05:26 PM
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Why do you think women shouldn’t have the right to vote?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 01:00 AM
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Donating/collecting eggs is an intensive and invasive process. You have to inject yourself with a shit ton of bovine hormones for months, which has a bunch of side effects and makes you ovulate a LOT of eggs at once, which can be painful, and during this process you can’t have sex because the likelihood of you getting pregnant with multiples is SUPER high, and then they have to physically retrieve them, which, like I said, is an extremely invasive procedure. There are lots of long-lasting effect…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 10:12 PM
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9
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 08:54 PM
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Oh my 😍 [lusts in daddy issues]
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 08:53 PM
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That doesn’t seem correct
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 02:32 AM
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You can just have sex to scratch the itch until you meet the Good Man. I assure you it doesn’t matter
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 02:31 AM
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There are lots of outwardly attractive promiscuous women. They just like sex and they don’t feel ashamed for having it. There are also many mid and ugly women who either don’t have as high of a libido or don’t attract the men they’re attracted to, so they have little to no sex. You can’t tell people’s n counts just by looking at them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 02:23 AM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 02:18 AM
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… or just have sex with whomever you want as soon as you feel comfortable because it doesn’t matter. Men are either going to or not going to commit to you based on your personality and their interest in relationships; might as well fuck them if you genuinely desire them while you work out if you’ve got a good thing going. Enjoy life.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 02:14 AM
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Why don’t you take up like, endurance running or planking for time or something you know, not harmful to your body?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 01:46 AM
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Why are you dry fasting? There’s no benefit in dehydrating yourself nearly to death
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 01:03 AM
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Among other degenerately themed and excessively large sex toys, yes
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 12:33 AM
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Well the value you get at restaurants is service and good food. And if you like the restaurant you keep coming back to it. Dateable women are the same way. Ideally they should be making your life better in some way, like splitting life’s responsibilities with you (housework, bills, childcare, etc.), companionship, emotional support… stuff like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 09:33 PM
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Now you’re just trolling
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 09:30 PM
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Objectively, yes. Testing your partners and yourself, examining them for signs of STDs, not paying for sex or having sex with anyone who pays for sex, sticking to low n partners, and using condoms every time drastically reduces your chances of getting STDs. Not having sex while she’s ovulating, using condoms, and having her partner pull out before ejaculating makes it extraordinarily unlikely for a woman to get unexpectedly pregnant. There are also other methods of contraception, including sperm…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 08:45 PM
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No, but you can prevent unwanted pregnancy and mitigate the risks of STDs through safe sex practices.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 08:27 PM
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Uh, no; this is called “engaging with your argument.” I don’t actually gaf what your personal opinion or standards or whatever are; I’m happily married to a man who doesn’t care about n count.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 08:25 PM
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Unwanted pregnancy and STD risks are mitigated with safe sex practices. Whether it’s an “insult to a future spouse” depends on the subjective and personal values of your spouse, which should ideally align with one’s own, otherwise the marriage is going to be rocky
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 08:18 PM
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What’s immoral about having consensual, legal, and safe sex with different people?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 08:11 PM
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Yeah, with men—at least for me— it’s important that they were able to provide for me immediately if they wanted to be in a committed relationship. If you feel like dating women is a net loss, maybe you need to raise your standards in terms of what kind of value a woman should bring to your life. And if women don’t meet them, they should be relegated to casual relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 08:05 PM
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You don’t get value from buying stocks; you get value from selling them after you’ve risked your money on them. Your analogy fails because successful men are ones that immediately give sure returns, whereas “work in progress” men are risks that may or may not give you returns after a long time when you’ve invest in them. It’s like if I said to you, “you can either give me $5 now and I will definitely give you $50 right now, or you can give me $5 and maybe in 10-20 years I’ll give you $60.” Which…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 07:55 PM
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Sometimes my toddler is mean to me too. I still love her and I’m happy to have her.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 07:16 PM
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It really wasn’t that bad. Just a sore cooter for a few days, in exchange for a lifetime of enjoying the person I made.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 06:49 PM
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Which men?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 06:48 PM
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*35
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 06:42 PM
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Why would you bet on someone who hasn’t “made it” when you could date someone who already has?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 06:40 PM
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Shoes get worn out with use. Vaginas don’t
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 06:22 PM
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Getting in by knowing the right people/ having a lot of money and status
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 05:59 PM
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Most of the time I liked being cold approached, because of the self esteem boost, but I didn’t like rejecting people. I had a hard time saying “no,” and that led me to some… unsavory situations. But generally, I am very grateful to be the gender that gets approached instead of the gender that has to do the approaching. #pussyprivilege ftw
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 05:57 PM
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Okay, I see your point
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 05:47 PM
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Right. It’s just a matter of what individuals want in one another. I slutted it up before I met my husband and he didn’t. It is what it is. As long as people are happy with one another, who cares?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 05:47 PM
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You can correct someone’s perception of parenthood without wanting to convince them to reproduce. I don’t think having a disabled child renders you less capable of doing things than a normally-abled child does; you’d just need to find specialized caretakers. I always recommend to people to be very financially comfortable before having kids to optimize the parenthood experience as much as possible. And I do agree with you that people who aren’t absolutely, without-a-doubt desiring to have childre…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 05:25 PM
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She explicitly says she’s not trying to change OP’s mind. Just explaining that you can still do most of the things you did pre-kids after you’ve had kids, and that it’s possible to give them an enjoyable life. In reply to u/mackensie013_02 : I think that most people aren’t informed enough. They don’t know how much care, time, and money is needed to raise kids, and they have kids before they’re genuinely ready. They also haven’t had good parenting modeled to them, nor do most people bother to lea…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 05:09 PM
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Vaginas don’t actually get loose from PIV sex. Age and pregnancy/childbirth can weaken pelvic floor muscles and elasticity, which can make the vagina feel looser, but it can be resolved or at least mitigated with sufficient pelvic floor therapy. The only other thing that can make women loose is regular insertion of excessively large objects— and I mean objects that are significantly larger than your tiny penis human penises.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 05:06 PM
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If you don’t push, you tear less or not at all. I birthed a ten-pounder without tearing
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 05:01 PM
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Only if you’re unlucky and get loose skin, but even then it’s just like, whatever. You have more important things to worry about once you have kids. And usually your partner understands and still loves you just the same
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 05:00 PM
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First of all, having kids doesn’t make you fat. Eating too much after you have kids makes you fat. I weigh less now than I did pre-baby. Secondly, I genuinely like taking care of my child and husband. Their happiness is my own, and I’d do anything for them. It does fill me with purpose. Thirdly, the purpose of marriage is to create a stable life with ONE partner, with whom you raise your child(ren.) You don’t have them and despair over the fact that your RMV has gone down in the eyes of men who …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 04:55 PM
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Maybe. Either way, I wouldn’t see that one again if I were you. She sounds like an FDSer. I wouldn’t stress about anyone else’s greater “experience” either
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 04:41 PM
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But she brought up the fact that she had a “system” in place, did she not? Also like, what kind of psycho puts a time limit on dates?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 04:36 PM
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It’s not really her experience that’s a red flag; it’s the fact that she’s discussing how many dates she’s going on with you. Sounds narcissistic to me
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 04:35 PM
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You should next her
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 04:31 PM
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Sounds like a next to me
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 04:30 PM
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My goal for 2023 is to get back as close as I can to the body I had when I first met my husband. I am managing my expectations because that body was 19, a D1 athlete, and hadn’t had a kid yet, and it is now 26 and post-baby… BUT I figure if I lift and run 6x a week and eat super clean, I can get pretty close.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 04:20 PM
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I see
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 06:43 PM
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Which are ?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 06:33 PM
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What do you like about them?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 06:29 PM
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Which clubs?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 06:28 PM
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Are you asking her to do this?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 06:23 PM
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I see a lot when I go to the gym. But less often when I’m out in public, probably because everyone’s bundled up in warm and decent clothes and not the grey-sweats-and-cut-off combo that I have so much affection for
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 02:09 PM
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Q4M: it’s your anniversary and your wife is going to make you a special slideshow with all the pics and vids she has of you two together. Would it make it less sweet/romantic/enjoyable if she included naughty content that you guys made over the years?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 12:11 PM
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It doesn’t matter what percentage of the male population has those traits. There are a shit ton of HVM, more than I could have ever met and vetted, and it wasn’t fucking hard to get one.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 11:44 AM
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There are a shit ton of men that are in shape. 100k is chump change. Height is dependent on what is considered tall and where in the world you’re living. If you’re in Germany, the average man is 6ft tall.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 11:40 AM
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This whole sub is just men trying to convince women that HVM are soooo rare and that women’s standards are way too high and that women would be way happier settling for a schlubby, low achieving dude rather than experiencing someone who’s actually satisfactory and attractive. It’s gross. Don’t fall for it. Men that meet your standards are everywhere, ladies.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 06:06 PM
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How do you know the numbers? And it’s not a binary system; it’s a spectrum of caring. For example, there’s a minority of people that believe that sex is for marriage only. There’s a group of women who fuck 5 or fewer people and a group of men for whom >5 is too high. There’s lots of women who fuck fewer than 20 people, and lots of men whose idea of “to high of an n count” is around 20. So on and so forth The point is, it’s not fucking hard to find a man who doesn’t care about a given woman’s n c…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 05:52 PM
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I’m not making assumption about how often women lie about their n counts, but I know that they don’t need to. The men who give a shit are low value anyway; they self-select out of the option pool of high n women, and then those women still have plenty of men left. Do you understand? I know this from experience of dating as a high n women. ETA: we’re not picking tiny dicked men to be miserable with anymore anyway. It’s 2022
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 05:38 PM
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There are enough men that don’t care that high n women don’t even have to lie anymore. Next fallacy
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 05:30 PM
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You literally said “it’s not just men judging; its women too”
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 05:27 PM
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Cite me a research article that says women legitimately have a problem with their female friend groups finding out about their n count.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 05:24 PM
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Academic research where?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 05:19 PM
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You’re the one making the straw man argument dude. This has literally never been a problem for me
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 05:18 PM
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Who tf is just chatting away about their whole sexual histories to their whole friend groups? This is like the second time a dude has tried insisting to that women slut shaming each other is a legitimate problem. It’s a non-issue
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 05:15 PM
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Soft penises are hilarious
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 05:03 PM
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A LVW -doesn’t take care of her physical health or appearance (she becomes overweight, doesn’t exercise, eats poorly and gets acne, smokes cigarettes, drinks a lot, does drugs, has a poor sleep schedule, etc.) -conducts herself in unclassy ways (gets into physical or verbal fights [in public], gets sloppy drunk, sleeps around within the same social circle, wears trashy clothes, starts drama, etc.) -is bad with money and/or lives above her means -has children outside of a committed relationship o…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 05:00 PM
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I’ll let you in on a little secret. We don’t actually want the men who try to keep us from enjoying sex with their judgement and shame. Those ones have major issues
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 04:55 PM
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Weird how men look hot but also kinda funny naked
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 04:54 PM
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Ain’t no well endowed men worrying about their high n partners having had bigger. Ain’t no sexually satisfied, well adjusted men here ranting on and on about how sluts are bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 04:49 PM
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It’s literally the same right now. Promiscuous women still date men who don’t care just as much as men date women who don’t care. All these dudes on the internet claiming otherwise are just jerking their tiny dicks to a weird ass revenge fantasy while their low n wives deadbedroom them
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 04:43 PM
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Sure. But also people want kids. So if they want them, and they wait til they’re very financially comfortable to have them, then they might just end up financially comfortable after having them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 04:40 PM
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Well, you shouldn’t have babies until you’re very financially comfortable
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 04:35 PM
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Same consequences as in STD and unplanned pregnancy risk. Same psychological issues that contribute to promiscuity in men and women, same increased likelihood of cheating/divorce. There are still plenty of men who don’t care about sexual history for women to be able to find suitable partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 04:34 PM
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Don’t fucking listen to your doctor. There’s a thing called the fetal ejection reflex. Your body does it by itself (unless, in rare cases, the baby gets stuck. Then you might need to do some light pushing.) But most babies who are turned the correct direction before labor begins will not get stuck
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 04:28 PM
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The act of having sex with lots of partners is the exact same thing in men and women and has the same consequences. It is illogical to demonize one gender and not the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 04:27 PM
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Man, I didn’t even get to ride the CC in my 20s :/ I settled down at 19
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 04:26 PM
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No. Experienced men only for me
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 04:25 PM
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Because it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 04:24 PM
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Def agree that I would have had a lot of FOMO, but I think other women are different
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 04:23 PM
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If you don’t push, you don’t tear as bad. Also babies are cute and cuddly and smell good af It’s the 9 months of pregnancy that sucks ass
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 04:22 PM
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Dammit, now I have to re-break my hymen. Thanks a lot
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 04:01 PM
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conservation of orgasm (Length of time spent orgasming)/(time spent having sex) ?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 02:57 PM
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Woah, that’s so low
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 02:37 PM
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Shh just participate. It’s for fun
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 02:36 PM
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RIP
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 02:11 PM
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Thanks, but I’m afraid I can’t take all the credit
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 02:06 PM
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Forget n count. Gotta calculate slut velocity instead: (Present age) - (age at which you lost your virginity) = (years of being sexually active) (Number of partners)/(years of being sexually active) = slut velocity Mine is 5.56. What’s yours?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 01:59 PM
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If I could go back and not fuck all the guys who were disappointing in bed, I might save myself the wasted time. But I’m married now and my husband doesn’t care about my sexual history.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 01:52 PM
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That depends. Was she a hot woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 01:24 PM
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Well that’s the thing. I was talking to some people and they said you have to behave a certain way to be considered upper class, otherwise you’re just UMC. And I was like, well who actually wants to be UC instead of UMC then?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 01:57 AM
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Stays on the internet in a very public way forever
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 01:52 AM
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It came to my attention today that some people want to be “upper class,” which apparently entails being hoity toity, believing yourself to be better than others, and having an extremely strict and complex social code and image to keep up constantly. I don’t understand why anyone would want that over someone with the same amount of wealth, but they can have fun and be themselves and see other people as… you know, people?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 01:15 AM
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This is a hypothetical situation about a hypothetical individual; I don’t have feelings about it. I’m just curious why it’s always extreme examples in slutshamers’ heads and not the situations that commonly play out
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 01:11 AM
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Or, perhaps, five individuals that don’t even know or associate with each other
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 01:07 AM
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80k is chump change. I’m also married to a 51 yo lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 01:00 AM
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I am enjoying it. You should focus more on finding the right person than marrying someone before a particular age though. I got lucky and found my forever person at 19 and got married at 23.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 12:47 AM
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None. Hubby and I don’t really like the same music as one another. It’s fine
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 12:40 AM
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Has it occurred to you that maybe these women genuinely are already dating Chads and your worldview is simply inaccurate?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 12:39 AM
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Why do you guys always jump to the dirtiest and most extreme sexual situations? It’s always “a whole sports team ran a train on her” or “she was fucking men in the bathroom.” Most people are just having regular sex with one person at a time
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 12:32 AM
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If you pick a man who doesn’t care about n count, you can have sex with whomever you please during your single years.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 12:31 AM
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It’s ridiculous to pick a man that expects you to forego sexual pleasure until you meet him because it.. bothers him for whatever reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 12:30 AM
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Name names
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 12:27 AM
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Yeah, I’m not reading all that
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 09:21 PM
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The only definition for UC you gave me was that he comes from an already wealthy family, which has to do with the -economics part and little to with the socio- part
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/22 09:17 PM
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So this is advice for women who want to marry into old money families only? Gotcha. I guess that’s an important distinction to some women, but I feel like most are going to be okay with marrying into new money too. A multimillionaire is someone who has plural millions of dollars or is worth millions of dollars. If you wanna call that not UC because they made that money from scratch, go ahead.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/22 09:11 PM
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How do you define “upper class?”
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/22 09:05 PM
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Okay, and? The majority of wealthy men don’t care about a woman’s job, education, or wealth. They can afford to live on one income. They just want someone pretty, sweet, and classy (which you can be regardless of which class you came from.)
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/22 08:59 PM
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Oop. I assumed heteronormativity
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 08:29 PM
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Exactly. The incredible amount of gaslighting and projection going on here is insane ETA: since u/Gomdofthefall blocked me, here is my reply— The gaslighting part is telling someone they’re being clingy and dramatic when he’s the one that messaged OP after OP unmatched him, and when he’s the one being dramatic. Like OP wants nothing to do with him because he was a dick and he can’t accept that so he’s trying to convince OP she’s the crazy one. That’s the definition of gaslighting Edit 2: fixed g…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 08:20 PM
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I liked getting to spend so much time with my husband
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 08:18 PM
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Hi. I married a multimillionaire and am also a SAHM. He doesn’t care about whether I have a degree, money, or a job, as long as the house is clean and dinner’s on the table when he gets home.
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/22 08:16 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/mildlyinfuriating/comments/zpwei6/my_tinder_match_dumped_me_off_at_a_bus_stop_in/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf What a gross person
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 08:13 PM
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You should not date people you feel no sexual attraction for because sex is an important component in relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 07:36 PM
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Yes; I told him my n count on the first date, and everything about my sexual history. He does not care
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 07:23 PM
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I’ve dated maybe 4 people, if you can even count non-exclusive relationships. I’ve been married for the last two years and with the same man for nearly 7, so yes my previous partners are pretty removed from my life
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 07:18 PM
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I don’t talk about every detail of my sex life and sexual history with my friends, no. It certainly didn’t consume my life to the point where I didn’t have anything else to talk about with people
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 07:14 PM
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Yeah; why does that matter unless you’re going around telling women your n count, or unless you’re a lesbian?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 07:10 PM
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Who cares what other women think about your n count unless you’re a lesbian? It’s not like it’s painted on your forehead for them to even be able to tell
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 06:30 PM
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Depends on how long the relationships last, tbf. Was it 3 two-month long “relationships” with years in between? Is the person getting to the 1 or 2 year mark and then something’s going wrong? Are they 6 month relationships? All these things have different contexts. I’d rather be with someone who is sexually “easy” than emotionally “easy.”
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 06:27 PM
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Definitely disagree. I don’t think most women care about n count as long as a man isn’t a virgin or hasn’t slept with an absurdly high number of people (like over 30-50, that’s where I’d guess the threshold is for women.) Again, people are having sex with one another. they’re not “using” other people’s body. This attitude towards sex is part of what makes slut shamers unattractive. Nobody wants to be with someone who believes they are “using” them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 06:23 PM
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I always find it interesting that people are so much more turned off by casual sex partners than they are by people having multiple failed or short term relationships. To me, the latter indicates that they don’t take relationships seriously
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 06:19 PM
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There are some, sure. Just the same as there are some men who don’t want promiscuous women. At the end of the day, promiscuous people are still finding partners
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 06:14 PM
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And do you think you are “dirtier” for having slept with him?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 06:12 PM
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If women ever found out that a given man thought these things, most of them would reject him. So just know that slut shaming makes you undesirable in and of itself, and cross your fingers that none of the women you date find your Reddit account. xo
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 06:12 PM
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I stopped lying about my n count and even started asking men about theirs the first date so that they had an in to ask me mine. I absolutely did not fucking want anyone who would have thought poorly of me for it. Guess what? Still married to a HVM. Just so you know, low n women don’t like slut shamers. ETA: nobody “used” me for sex. Anyone I had sex with, I wanted to have sex with.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 05:04 PM
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And yet, I haven’t had any trouble securing commitment from the men I wanted it from. Neither have lots of other high n women.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 04:58 PM
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Actually I recognize most of these users and they are genuinely low n women with attitudes about sex that have kept them low n. C*p and s**the, tho
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 04:56 PM
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our culture and history tells us this constantly There’s a culture of sexual shame for women that’s perpetrated by a loud minority of men. The reality is that a significant portion don’t care at all, or their upper limit for acceptable n count is a lot high than “culture” would have you believe. There is no longer a religious group in power enforcing chastity before marriage (which they did for both men and women, btw.) Are you really gonna deny that men don’t go dumpster diving ever? You can be…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 04:50 PM
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What makes you think they are telling the truth? Well one, I’m not starting from the presumption that all high n women end up unhappy. Two, many been honest about some negative aspects of their lives and reasons for their promiscuity; why would you admit that but make up a story about being happily married? You’re probably a kid I’m not. I’m a 26 yo married woman and I have my own kid. I 100% know that not all marriages are happy, but I’m not going to just automatically assume everyone that talk…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 04:45 PM
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This solipsism would be so amusing if it wasn’t just sad. Just because you only want high n women for sex doesn’t mean every man won’t date or marry them. High n men are not necessarily more attractive than low n men. Some of them will sleep with anyone with legs. Lots of them use sex for validation the same way many women do. Lots of them have mental health issues. Promiscuity means the same thing for men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 04:38 PM
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I’m a messy person and also the mess stresses me out
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 04:34 PM
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Cool; high n women don’t care because we still have plenty of options in terms of men who don’t care about n count, and we have complete control and free will in terms of whether we’ll cheat or divorce. All these “stats” apply to high n men too, and yet men still wanna hamster that it’s somehow different for men and women. It’s not.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 04:30 PM
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The “stats” don’t matter. If you don’t want to cheat on or divorce your partner, you just decide not to.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 04:12 PM
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Called it
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 04:04 PM
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Q4 Low n women: Would/do you date slut shaming men? (I don’t mean the ones that believe sex is something intimate that’s to be had with only one person and hold themselves to that standard; I’m talking about the ones that believe/verbalize that high n women are “dirty/used/passed around/ran through” etc.”
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 04:04 PM
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about women getting passed around Whoop, there it is again. The attitude that women are sex objects to be used, instead of people who enjoy sex with other people. I assure you, dear, that not all men have this utterly repulsive attitude. Women of all n counts end up happily married. That should be all the evidence you need. InB4 you start hamstering about how men who marry high n women are cucks/low value/have low self esteem or how aLL HiGn N WoMeN eNd Up DiVorCed/ChEaT/secretly fantasize about…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 03:57 PM
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You’re really bad at these logic and debate things. Hamster on.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 03:47 PM
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What makes you think they are pretending? The ones here are honest about being abused/used/going off on feverish sexcapades, so why is it so implausible that they learn from that and find someone that makes them happy?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 03:46 PM
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A) Yes those women are called sluts/whore and are good fun for recreational sex but a disgusting proposition for children and marriage. Do you think promiscuous men are good for recreational sex but a “disgusting proposition for children and marriage” as well? B) Its a great phrase and yes you are getting used. You are getting used like a sock its 99% of the time one sided masturbation. This is why slutshamers make for horrible partners. Why would anyone want to date or sleep with someone who th…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 03:39 PM
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A) have you considered some women just want to fuck a lot too? Either promiscuous women and men are equally disgusting or neither of them are disgusting. B) I hate the phrase “ran through” because it implies one party is doing the sex to another, instead of people having sex with one another. People almost never use it to describe promiscuous men. Again, it’s hamstering that men are good if they have sex and women are bad. For no reason. C) It’s not “instinctual.” Men vary greatly in terms of wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 03:18 PM
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We don’t want virgins. We want slutshamers to stop hamstering about why “SeX iS dIfFeRenT FoR MeN aNd WoMen.” Like if you wanna limit your dating pool to virgins while you sleep around, that’s cool with us. We just don’t know know why you have such a hate boner about women having the sex they want to have too.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 02:00 PM
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Did you read any of the other women’s responses? Pretty much all of them seem happy now
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 01:36 PM
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When I was in middle school, I struggled to make friends. I did weird things that got me outcasted, and most of the time I kept my nose buried in a book. I had crushes, but never acted on them. By the time I got to high school, my PCOS and intense workout routine left me so muscular that people started rumors I was trans, and almost nobody wanted to date me. I was desperately lonely and horny. My junior year, a ballsy freshman asked me out, and I said yes without hesitation. I was 17, and convin…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 01:19 PM
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You don’t exactly get to pick the gender, if you decide to have kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 11:17 AM
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You messaged your coparent (you’re divorced) about whether she needed a ride home from the movies and the coparent replied that she went to her bf’s house, not the movies. Your daughter is smart and seems responsible, but is also sneaky. She gets good grades and scholarship offers from colleges for her musical talents. Doesn’t drink or do drugs. Reads a ton—often “romance” novels. Recently been really moody and shut down. The boy is another band kid, but not much else is known.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 02:28 AM
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Q4All: Your 14 yo daughter lies to you about going to the movies with her 16 yo boyfriend and instead goes to his house to watch the movie instead. It is likely the boy’s parents weren’t home. What do you do?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 02:03 AM
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