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Same as the women oriented subs where all men are trash because they either only attract or are only attracted to whatever can be scraped from the bottom of the barrel. Drama gets clicks. Unfortunately the dumb and/or inexperienced shape their world views on this shit. Less a "man or woman" issue than a human one.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 02:57 PM
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Aren't 10/10 in looks (I'm assuming you just mean their appearance) the photo edited magazine women that we get to conceptualize our unrealistic beauty standards from? I guess I've never seen one in person. Highest I'd rate someone as a city dweller is maybe a mid 7? I don't think makeup should count because you can go from toothless crackhead to supermodel if you're good at it and oftentimes surgical work makes people who looked like regular, attractive mid-20 year olds morph into that uncanny …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 06:43 PM
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A lot of words to say you bring nothing to a relationship lol I know plenty of both men and women who date losers with no redeeming qualities. It may be more difficult for them but it's not hopeless.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/23 04:36 AM
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Not all of us feel all that much before we're invested. For me personally, I typically feel nothing at the start. Just another human.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 03:08 AM
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Stop listening to crybabies and pessimists. There's no real "side" aside from the people you wouldn't want to date anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 03:38 AM
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Straight up. If you're making non-consenting people participate in your kink or sexual acts it's not exactly a gray area.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/23 02:49 AM
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He might still want to get married and have a family. Easier to do when you're monogamous.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 05:33 AM
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Most people exist somewhere in the middle. Your expectations aren't exactly high, you want a normie wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 04:06 AM
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Who's minding your dick? Unless you're hurting people with it or putting it in animals I doubt anyone cares what you do with it. I mean, aside from the people who really make it their business if you put it in other men, but they don't count.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 10:21 PM
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Google Ben Shapiro WAP
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 10:02 PM
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"Not all men" "Not all women"
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 10:01 PM
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In both ways, really. The possibility of violence both makes men a threat as well as being a deterrent to that behaviour. If you have a 40 year old woman gushing over how she wants to shag some 15 year old boy she'll get a light reprimand at worst as opposed to the ostracism and/or violence a male pedo would earn.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 03:01 PM
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If you're feeling defensive then it's probably because I'm right.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 08:39 PM
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Yes and no. Plenty of people go for the example set by their parents, though obviously there are outliers. Some date up, some date down but many had straight up unremarkable or even normie parents and that's the relationship they wish to emulate. It's not so different with men in the sense that a "mamma's boy" wants a woman who takes care of him whereas a man with an abusive mother would put up with an abusive woman because that's what he expects. Even then a normie man just wants a normie wife …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 02:41 AM
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Tons and I mean tons still date down to the point of absurdity so don't stress too hard
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 12:26 AM
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You realize porn is a predatory industry, right? Even if it wasn't, it's not a healthy thing to obsess over and arguably still counts as being obsessed with women unless you're more into the fellas.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 11:55 PM
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Nothing to explain as it's such a non-issue for pretty much everyone. It's like if someone said "<example person> needs us to watch her kid for the night" and the person got indignant and said "You mean my son?" It's just one of those weird hills to die on that makes the person seem touchy.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 07:54 PM
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One of my best friends was dating this guy who was an absolute skidmark on the unwashed briefs of society. She acts like he was this master manipulator because he somehow convinced her his meth was for his ADHD but that's just kind of a dumb thing to fall for.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 04:20 PM
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I mean, I guess that depends on the smile? Some people only smile with their mouth and it looks a bit odd. For me if I locked eyes with someone pretty I'd look away and smile, then glance back to see if they're still looking; flirt with the eyes. If their gaze is drilling a hole through my head that's usually a clear sign to fuck off but if the smile is returned a greet-in-passing with a compliment is usually welcomed.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 04:07 PM
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Basically every argument here is pure bias in action. Ask the "other side" what their opponent believes and you'll leave with the impression that it's a debate between "my grandma says I'm handsome" and weaponized autism.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 03:17 PM
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Hilariously enough, I think that might be the case. Edit: I'm also a dude. There's bound to be tumblr/twitter people looking for excuses to make a stink about things regardless
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 02:59 PM
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That's all you guys mean when you say cold approach? I guess I'm just spoiled living 2 blocks out from my city's hub area so there's always people to talk to, but I figured the passing hello if you make eye contact with a stranger or complimenting something neat someone's wearing was just normal. At the very least, if someone's wearing something interesting or unusual then they want people to notice and better yet, show approval.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 02:09 PM
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Organic interaction is a hard thing to explain to people who want the results without the work. I liken it to having a pocketful of random seeds and planting them as you go about your life. Some sprout but many never do. The ones that do, you have to figure out their needs as you go, get a feel for what the plant might grow in to and generally avoid going over or under what's needed as it develops. People are different though; some will sprout like a weed through a crack in the pavement while ot…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 01:49 PM
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Also if you get caught looking, smile and then look away. Some people check out women like they're perusing the meat section in Walmart.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 01:35 PM
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Yeah I guess I kinda made it sound like "socialize, ????, PROFIT." Our society is definitely feeling the strain of that missing "third place" where people in the olden times used to go when they wanted to meet people and socialize. IMO the closest thing we have now (outside of bars) to that is people themselves. Meet people through other people, basically, but if you're starting off knowing no one then you have to start somewhere. Suppose it's hard to properly quantify with a simple set of steps…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 12:03 AM
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I know; I'm basically a stranger to mine. I used to be a piece of shit
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 11:13 PM
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It's probably because many people see the prospect of having literally no one in your life aside from the shitty partner as so alien that it isn't considered. Having friends and family is seen as baseline. I can empathize with having no one, having moved to a new city by myself, but it's not a hole that's impossible to escape from. For me I literally found an excuse to go outside every day and if I saw people frequently I'd acknowledge them (greet in passing, basically) and depending, sometimes …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 05:07 PM
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People are complex, so like every other thought experiment, it depends on the person. Real answer is that statistically it's around half. Granted there are probably some people where their spouse was their only option and they couldn't successfully cheat if they tried their best. If a new option was served up on a platter that might bump us up to a good bit over a half, but it's not really worth the mental effort to quantify.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 02:18 PM
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The way unsuccessful men talk about the advice their relatives who haven't dated for 30 years gave them? That's on you, buddy. That being said, with the way people talk about TRP on here it's like they think they can take the social aspect out of something that's purely social and still hope to succeed. An abrasive loser with a good job, nice hair and who goes to the gym sometimes is still insufferable to be around. Most of the people who come on this sub sounding like straight up Chads are the …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 01:58 PM
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More grandma platitudes? lol "Blue pill" is just conventional normie shit. Find passions, engage in shit, do things, take pride in yourself- be interesting, basically. If you think "be yourself" is shitty advice then it probably is for you. Become someone people want to be around. Talk to people without an agenda; make friends. Expand your social circle. Even if you're fucking weird people will feel disarmed if pretty much everyone around knows and likes you. Build your social presence. Y'know, …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 03:36 AM
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Shit like life isn't fair and that it's easier for hot people isn't really either pill but baseline fact. You can chuck whatever you want into the ideology; it doesn't make the other one somehow believe the opposite. Also things like your parents not wanting to tell you that you're possibly having issues because you're awkward and staggeringly ugly isn't "blue pill" as much as it's a "my grandma says I'm handsome" platitude.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 01:51 AM
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Real people actually believe that shit? That's actually pretty funny lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 03:59 AM
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I dunno man, I'm a dude and I've fucked people that I'm pretty sure hated me because I was a piece of shit, but then again I don't think of the world as having "leagues" or meaningful limitations when it comes to dating either. Marry someone who orgasms easily; most people don't even try so you'll be the best lay of her life.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 03:45 PM
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There's a difference between being a friend and being a simp. /thread
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 10:18 PM
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You have plenty of men who blame women for their lack of relationships instead of the common denominator.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 02:57 PM
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I've seen more women risk their safety in situations than men, to be fair. Granted most situations the woman likely thinks they're safe because off their gender as opposed to a man who knows that his wellbeing has much less societal value than the woman does.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 05:56 AM
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It's not out of need to be a hero though, it's that doing what's right is greater than the self.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 05:44 AM
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Most people do not have this hero instinct which should be obvious due to phenomena such as the bystander effect. Personally I'm someone others might consider a "strong man" as I'm not passive or avoidant, but I'm more of a dick than what anyone would consider a hero. That being said, weak, timid women are usually a source of frustration than anything, as are weak timid male friends. Part of my appreciation for my wife is her competence; I'm more likely to have to help her bury a body than jump …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 05:25 AM
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Also from a liberal city; shit's just normal here. Maybe makes you top 10% in the country but not 10% in the city itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 01:45 AM
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Most of my friends are women and I've literally never heard that term. Hear sploosh a lot, among other relatively vulgar things. But onto the main point: I think being attracted to the person you're about to fuck is normal. If you're pushing for a scheduled pity-fuck session you're simply doing "passion" wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 01:35 AM
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Attractive people like attractive people? And?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 01:44 AM
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By OP's logic most people probably see him as one dimensional.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 01:38 AM
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If he did nothing then a video would exonerate him. If she was shoving a phone in his face and he's trying to get away from her saying "I only asked if you were ok, leave me alone" then she would look like a crazy person.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 09:30 PM
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Depends on the kind of help I suppose. If you ask someone if they need help and act based on their answer then that's normal and reasonable. If you ignore the person's agency and force your help upon them outside of situations that are immediately hazardous to life or limb that could rightfully get someone called a creep.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 08:25 PM
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Men that look like Quasimodo maybe, or if your idea of flirting is asking to see her feet.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 07:27 PM
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Some people never grow up, regardless of gender. sometimes it's trauma, other times they just aren't wired right.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 10:01 PM
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interesting adjective in·​ter·​est·​ing ˈin-t(ə-)rə-stiŋ ˈin-tə-ˌre- ˈin-ˌtre-; ˈin-tər- Synonyms of interesting : holding the attention : arousing interest driven adjective driv·en ˈdri-vən Synonyms of driven 1 a : having a compulsive or urgent quality a driven sense of obligation b : determined to succeed : highly energetic and motivated A meth head stealing bikes could match the true definition of these words.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 03:51 PM
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That's pretty normal unless you yourself are more attracted to broken people. Sometimes there's a clash of morals, like in modern politics where one side is blatantly and irrevocably campaigning for societal evil but think they're the scrappy underdog fighting for what's right and just. Could be that your idea of moral isn't someone else's. Worth adding that pure morals are usually more a potential deal breaker than a source of attraction. They're ideas. Someone that constantly does good through…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 02:54 PM
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Works out well for some people to be militantly good too. Think it's more that they like men who are passionate, interesting and driven. Granted there's definitely overlap between those traits and being inconsiderate and crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 02:50 PM
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You know what most of these broken men you've listed have that many sexually unsuccessful men lack? They're interesting. "Improve your personality" is just a nice way of saying either you're boring or people don't want to be around you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 06:06 PM
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Not to sound mean, but I'd go for a little bit of chub over having a face like a foot any day.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 01:39 PM
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Meh, saw emojies mixed in so figured it'd be a rant lol Most self identified "blue pill" people I see online are usually suggesting people elevate themselves till they're at or above the socially expected bare minimum and then expand their social circle. Become a normie, basically. As for TRP, confirmation bias I guess? I mostly see the self identified wallowing in self pity, creating an echo chamber of depressing world views. Why don't the successful red pillers stay amongst the community and g…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 01:26 PM
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Tl;dr plz I understand it as normies vs the socially disadvantaged. Normies suggest normie shit because it works for them whereas breaking out the pro gamer strats to talk to a girl seems a bit cringe. Redpill I see a strategy as opposed to universal truth, in the same way an undesirable woman would need to put in extra effort and try to figure out what your basic man might look for in a mate.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 06:17 PM
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Most people do like to complain that getting sex is the end all-be-all but it's refreshing to see your take. The bar for getting laid is on the ground. Someone liking you enough to want a future with you just hits different.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 05:21 PM
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Bluepill isn't about thinking women are flawless, but as seeing them as being as complex and real as men. Your typical blue piller is likely a social normie or attractive. When you have lots of women around it's easier for you to just vibe with them. Options are unlimited so your interactions aren't pressured by having a goal in mind or trying to figure out what they want. If they don't want you, there are many others that probably will.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 05:15 PM
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It doesn't make them mentally, emotionally or socially capable though. Guys still act like they're trying to date in videogame or something. Grind out enough reputation points or do her personal quest and put on the necklace but then throw their controller at the wall when their "Hey BB want sum fuck?" fails to charm.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 04:54 PM
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Careful, you're gonna scare someone bringing that normie shit around here! lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 04:48 PM
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Mommy nature kink
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 04:44 PM
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Buy a gun. That's basically an extra 20' or more of unga bunga
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 04:25 PM
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If you're a normal looking dude doing online dating you're a diamond in the ocean
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 04:11 PM
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A 10 to my understanding is usually the heavily edited imagery meant to make an already beautiful person more so. It's less the top percentile and more the perception of it. You may see perfect 10's with some frequency in magazines and on the internet, but if you travelled the world you'd likely not see any even if you had met the same people.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 02:22 PM
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Many men would fuck a tree if it had the confidence to approach them first.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 01:42 AM
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10 is an impossible ideal. If you're somehow a 10 you probably cheated on the test.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 12:36 AM
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How can you expect someone to change your view when you're going off on things you have no experience in to begin with? Throughout my life, my women having male friends has been a net positive. Either they're a proper fucking bro and I gain a friend or their bitch-boy orbiter shit has the unintended effect of making me look exceptional by comparison. Granted if you have more in common with the latter than the former then yeah, these guys would be a threat. Personally I have more female friends t…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 12:08 AM
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I've only been out of my 20's a couple years but most of the women I've dated wanted a relationship. The ones that made sure to tell me to the point of excess that they didn't want a relationship with me were ironically the ones who got the most bent out of shape over other women in my life. Personally I've never noticed this perceived shortage of single or single-ish women. Could be because I'm in the city
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 08:35 PM
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A 1-2 punch of both is how socially healthy normies do it. You date someone because of physical attraction and then spouse them up because you love them. Could try things out with a good number of people before you find one that you really click with and want to spend your life with. Going the other route doesn't make sense. Attraction is the bare minimum. If that's not there then what ties you to this relationship? The prospects of the occasional pity fuck in the hopes you might catch feelings?…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 01:47 AM
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They probably believe they are competent, to be fair
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 12:18 AM
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It just makes them sound inexperienced. Everyone wants that forbidden fruit until they get it and realize it's kind of "meh." Maybe it's just because I've gotten that all out of my system but I'm much happier with someone who's there for me as opposed to keeping a few people at arm's length. The latter is much more headache than it's worth, and in some part was likely due to a self fulfilling prophecy in that I considered myself inherently unlikable as a person. Easier to have a few replaceable …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 03:06 PM
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Where are you getting your information? Pretty sure most studies point to the opposite.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 05:18 PM
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I don't see where I implied these comparable women were doctors and engineers.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 01:08 PM
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I get involved in other people's shit all the time; can't just walk by or watch in good conscience regardless of the genders of the people involved. I care about my community and am pretty active in the night life circles. Both verbal and physical interventions, supplying the night staff of our downtown strip with pepper spray, running interference to get drunk girls back to their friends and away from the local date rapist, occasionally beating up the local pedo until he stopped coming around, …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 12:16 AM
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No different than a dude going for the crazy chick because she'll actually say yes to them, catching feelings and then getting burned when she cheats on them. Suddenly all women are trash when their only experience with women was a mentally ill young adult. Both genders pull this shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 01:38 PM
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They're usually the same dumb questions posted ad nauseum every week. Sure, you could in good faith take the time to dismantle their poorly structured argument and explain how it isn't in fact society's/women's fault that they have the social grace of a beached trout or you could throw down a quick "OP's a cuck" to see how spicy things get.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 03:46 AM
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TRP flavoured CMV arguments tend to usually be either strawmen or the guy's shadowboxing so hard that you'd think he's responding to the wrong person. In the rare event you have the guy actually engaging what you're saying it's usually just parroted talking points from some grifters vlog, which they usually refuse to cite a source for. Assumably out of shame or embarrassment. Edit: LOL @ OP being torn a new one in the comments
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 03:32 AM
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The bar for simply getting laid is on the ground. You could tag someone new every week if you're not feeling particularly choosy. Also, the fuck's "capping"? I'm assuming slang for yapping but if you type the way you speak it's no wonder you struggle.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 08:49 PM
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Skill issue. Most men aren't so ugly that their looks disqualify them from a relationship. They simply can't lean on them like a crutch.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 07:45 PM
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It's not super hard to meet interesting people worth hanging out with. I moved to a new city 9 years ago and made it a priority to just start meeting people. I kinda just know everyone that frequents the area at this point. Sort of just introduced myself to people I'd see frequently, say hi when I see them, stop and chitchat sometimes, then I just kinda started getting invited to shit. Wasn't ever looking for someone to "be with" but it just happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 06:47 PM
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Fuck and here half the women I'd date would always be pushing to move in after a month. So far the only one I said yes to on that front is now my wife. Realistically, don't men usually want the same things? A woman they're attracted to and that checks their sometimes arbitrary boxes?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 04:42 PM
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Fair, my bad
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 04:32 PM
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Well, this is the world we live in. Can go one of two routes in that you adapt to everyone's heightened sensitivity to perceived slights or simply stop caring about people getting offended. Seemed to me that you do care that people get offended and are bothered by it which is why I said what I said.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 03:56 PM
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He flew into a rant when it wasn't even what I was saying so clearly it struck a chord.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 03:26 PM
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Being needlessly ill mannered isn't masculine; it's childish.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 03:25 PM
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Sometimes it depends on how you phrase it. "No whores" is pretty cuntish but "I'm saving myself for marriage and want someone with the same values" is reasonable. Instead of "no fat chicks" or "I only date thinner girls", articulate it as "I want someone who values their health and fitness as much as I do." Make it less about her body and more about shared values.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 03:06 PM
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Depends on the standards. Some people throw out a CMV about their "reasonable standards" and come across as completely unhinged. Sure, a few shitty men agree with them but that's parallel to the shitty women who agree every time another woman whines about her unrealistic standards
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 01:51 PM
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It's probably the most common complaint from women; bad hygiene followed by general lack of ambition. You may have noticed, had you ever interacted with any. dehumanizing, braindead rhetoric. Coming from a red piller? That's cute Edit: worth adding that I was giving an example of something that might be given a pass short term but would probably doom the relationship if the behaviour isn't worked on. It wasn't meant as the personal attack you seem to have taken it as.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 12:26 AM
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And that doesn't matter outside of online dating; online dating isn't real life. When the only cards in your hand are a few selfies and a bio nobody reads unless they think you're pretty it's hard to make yourself stand out. You probably look a lot better in person and animate than you would on your profile unless you're in the top 20% of taking pictures and you're likely more interesting too.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 02:56 PM
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Depends on the standard she's lowering? Some you can live with and they won't bother you but if you have crap hygiene, smelling like BO all the time and all the accumulated mouth-cheese filling the gaps between your teeth she'll probably eventually choose loneliness over you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 01:45 PM
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If it's a fact for you then maybe you need to work on yourself a bit? The reality is that it isn't a "fact" for most people.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 01:37 PM
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The idea that "Betas" get settled for is a key part of their ideology.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 01:29 PM
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OP ponders the moral and societal ramifications of behaving like a normie in public.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 01:17 AM
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I feel like the bar is pretty much on the ground, but that's just me. Some of y'all just living that deep in the dirt.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 01:06 AM
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Yes, that's generally what people mean when they say it.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 04:31 AM
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Your 'boundaries' aren't normal or reasonable unless this is new, unusual behaviour in a pre-existing relationship. If they were already like that before you got in a relationship and you knew already then you're a bit of a doo-doo head and are rightfully getting called out. Now the funny thing with boundaries is that they don't extend past yourself. You can certainly leave if there are things you don't like but trying to coerce/guilt/bully/intimidate/threaten the person into conforming to your …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 07:45 AM
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Lol it's the woman version of the "bad boys" they like to bitch about. They like her image but hate all of her behaviours
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 07:33 AM
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The sheer amount of people putting their insecurities on full display as they try and convince everyone they're not insecure is hilarious. Fact of the matter is, they wouldn't be drawn to TRP ideology if they weren't to some degree.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 07:28 AM
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The source your article cites is a dead link.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 11:42 PM
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Could probably look up the aggregate results of your country's census, if they do one.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 02:28 PM
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Dude, I get approached and I'm definitely on the busted side of normie. Nose damn near punched off my face which I set wrong plus a fucked up hairline from being partially scalped in a fight as a teen. Big, kinda hairy and scars all over plus no rizz due to a TBI. My wife calls me her lumberjack and while I get hit on/ asked out by both genders I think it's just because I present as very masculine.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 02:13 PM
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I think some people were raised by repressed people that drilled into them that sex is bad and will make magic sky daddy angry. Once they get a little bit older and realize that's all make-believe it's sort of like a rebellion. It's like drinking. American kids are getting alcohol poisoning in parks when they're in college while European kids usually don't make a big deal about getting to drink because they've been allowed alcohol since they were young. Men definitely do it too. Sometimes you re…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 01:52 PM
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It is pretty comical that you can usually tell the askers haven't had any "normal" interactions with women
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 01:28 PM
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Gonna have to back the other guy here. A good relationship is like having alone time but better. If both partners are self sufficient it's effortless. Now having kids- that's work.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 12:33 AM
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Because people don't treat men like that. /Thread
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 01:45 PM
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Gobsmacked that none of the nerds agonizing over how this is possible have concluded there's simply more men than women at his school.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 05:05 AM
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So what you're really saying with your over exaggeration is that there are way more men than women at your school. Like either around 1/3rd the amount of women as men or the men changed their clothes and were mistaken for new men, throwing the average off.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 05:00 AM
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It isn't. Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/23 04:56 AM
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How many times hace you met someone with a memorable and unique personality? Fuck, fairly often? At the very least them being memorable makes them stand out from the chaff.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 12:32 AM
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90% of their ideology is a cop out. "Is she disinterested because I have the social skills of a beached trout? No, it's my niceness that has her drier than the desert. Gotta be that I'm just too great of a person."
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/23 08:57 PM
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Those ones usually out themselves pretty early on so you can eject if that life isn't your preference. Date around and you're bound to find someone with matching values eventually. As they say, gotta slay a few dragons before you save the princess.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 04:29 PM
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Men want women to work too, for the most part. One income usually isn't enough for 2 adults and kids unless you're in the 3rd world somewhere or the man's in the top 1%. As top 1% implies, there aren't enough of these men for your average women to build a life with.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 10:19 PM
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Makes assertion; gives examples that point to something else entirely. As you described, it's realistically more late-stage capitalism than Feminism. Plenty of people would be starting families if it was possible for them to own a home and survive comfortably off of one income for several years. As it stands being a parent either requires your household to be on the brink of homelessness or otherwise take a drastic reduction to your quality of life. It might seem like a positive correlation if y…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 04:57 PM
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Tells date he's 5'13" Shows up to date and is actually 6'1"
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 04:25 AM
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Whatever floats your boat man, but she would probably benefit from CBT and mood stabilizers. My wife has BPD and she's probably the most sane and rational person I've been in a relationship with, but she's medicated and has coping skills from years of therapy.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 02:18 AM
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Less so than in the past but there's a heightened perception of it in modern times. And some men generally do.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 02:03 AM
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For most of the things you've listed a man can have some agency over them. I'm sure you see the self help shit posted all the time so I'm not going to patronize you with haircuts etc, but generally the introductory level PUA lessons are pretty on point for overcoming the general shyness. Stuff like giving genuine (sexually neutral, no commenting on the assets) walk-by compliments, like if they clearly spent hours doing their hair or makeup for a show, tell them it looks amazing and then keep wal…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 10:48 PM
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The inconsiderate assholes are more than likely nice to them in all the ways that count, as being nice to them is a pretty low bar in of itself. Hell, that bar is on the ground and people still trip over it. Kind of like bragging about brushing your teeth; you're just expected to do it without a pat on the back. Likely other factors are at play, like being shy to the point where interactions are awkward. It can be endearing in some situations but for the most part getting nervous also makes the …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 09:03 PM
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Username checks out
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 05:48 PM
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Women just mistake being shy and kind for a pushover. Lays down Uno reverse card
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 05:33 PM
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Probably depends on where you live. I mean shit, my old coworker Philly looks like a hobgoblin but has unfathomable levels of confidence. Probably the best ladies man I've ever met. Wheeling constantly. Hell, I'm not much of a looker either and am probably on the spectrum yet I've had women around pretty much my whole life. Have had various girlfriends since I was 14 to my early 30's when I got married in addition to quality friendships with women
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 05:31 PM
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Be as shy and kind as you want but don't be a pushover then? "No" is a complete sentence.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 05:11 PM
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While I agree that many posts unironically belong on r/niceguys, poorly socialized teenagers are kind of the target audience of TRP ideology to begin with. Can cut them a bit of slack as they ham-hand their way through the most awkward phase of their lives. Still going to have to hard agree that "boring judgmental weirdo" isn't at the top of anyone's fuck list even if he's situationally nice or has adequate hygiene.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 05:05 PM
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I don't think anyone truly gets rejected for being "too nice." It's likely a kinder way of saying they're uncomfortable with being put on a pedestal or you're trying way too hard to the point of love bombing. "Normal people nice" is a net positive, ugly can be looked past but generally weirdo vibes when your object of affection isn't also a weirdo will usually tank chemistry unless you have other outstanding redeeming qualities. Being nice probably ranks somewhere around brushing your teeth. Kin…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 04:43 PM
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Should come across as incredibly sus if a woman's constantly asking for shit. Like an emergency happened and they need a lift? Sure. Constantly asking you to be their chauffeur though should be a tip off.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 04:26 AM
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I suppose it depends where you live. I moved to a new town short of a decade ago, relationship I moved here for tanked and I didn't know a soul, but did go out of my way to get to know people because it got a bit lonely. Around now I borderline question my sanity because people here think we grew up together in town. I imagine if you go a little too urban or too rural it might get kind of shitty. Either too closed off and impersonal or stuck with the social hand you've been dealt respectively.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 04:22 AM
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They put on their cute jacket that goes with their outfit and was just warm enough for when we left but not for 2 am. I prepare accordingly for some of my friends, wear a heavy sweater and jacket, unzipped with the sleeves rolled over each other so I don't get hot, knowing they'll be freezing to death later. I definitely appreciate that my now wife wears practical shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 03:57 AM
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May have responded to the wrong comment but buddy you're responding to seems quite the opposite of a simp
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 03:31 AM
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The sad boys don't realize that treating women as people actually drastically expands your dating pool
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 03:26 AM
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I know a few men who have this issue and it always seems self imposed.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 03:25 AM
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Right? My gal friends are sweethearts. Treat them like a proper bro and they're good to you as well. Then again, it sounds like you and I aren't trying to dick down every woman we talk to and actually appreciate them as people.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 03:12 AM
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Friendships are give and take, going beyond is a choice. I've had female friends that travel out to my neighborhood and make me food or otherwise pay for their own shit, hang and have a good time. Likewise I'll go see them and while I can't cook for a damn I can adjust a closet easily enough and don't mind in the least because they're my buddy. If they're broke-ass and I still want to hang out and do shit I'll take my friends out regardless of gender because my finances allow me to but it isn't …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 03:06 AM
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Having nonsexual friendships is normal and healthy. If feelings develop there are tactful ways of broaching the topic that don't come across as "disgusting" or "frightening" even if you have the sex appeal of a moldy zucchini. Responding to your edit: You're probably catching a bit of flak because this reads like a trauma dump. Likely you got horny, put the moves on a friend, rolled a bunch of 1's and it blew up spectacularly. It's like trying to debate that doors are dangerous because you've sl…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 07:53 AM
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It's probably sounds like an accolade to someone who doesn't fuck but realistically the bar for getting laid most of the time is pretty low. Putting up a front so people will sleep with you also has the implication that if they were to experience the real you, you'd be unfuckable.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 10:20 PM
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Hubby, likely being a grown ass confident man is probably incapable of caring
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 10:15 PM
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Kind of outlandish, I know, but it's possible to want more than just the vagina in your life. Some of us appreciate the rest of the woman. Might come across as a bit patronizing but you should probably talk to a therapist about your frankly weird sexual hang-ups.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 10:03 PM
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That does appear to be a response to what you wrote. Many households teach their kids that boundaries are bad. The examples may be similar but forcing someone to stay when you're doing something they dislike is also abusive. Say they don't want to date a pot head and you're a heavy smoker. If they say it's a deal breaker, you tell them tough titty and they leave, that's them exercising healthy boundaries. If they don't leave and instead try and nag you into submission or otherwise try and force …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 06:26 PM
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But it stops being controlling if you treat it as a deal breaker and leave. I don't mean threaten to leave and have a fit of impotent rage if the emotional blackmail doesn't work mind you. Simply leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 06:20 PM
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So what? People get blasted for anything on the internet. That's a perfectly fine boundary for him to have and I doubt any real life people give a shit or are talking about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 06:15 PM
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The way you phrase the question implies that normal people think sane men's boundaries are toxic. Healthy boundaries don't appear toxic to anyone; things like "not allowed to have friends," curfews, or sex quotas aren't healthy boundaries. They come across as unhinged and toxic because they are. What kind of healthy boundaries did you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 06:13 PM
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Most people I know of that struggle to ever meet people tend to be friendless shut-ins. I know a fella locally; so autistic that he's on disability. Not exactly a looker and is less than the height men around here obsess about. Struggles to hold a conversation that isn't about fish- you get the idea. Great dude though. Has that Forrest Gump kind of personality. Always out with people and doing stuff. Also always either has a gf or a girl or two he's 'kinda seeing.' Make of that what you will.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 05:24 PM
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Most people have many boundaries related to what they perceive as being a stable and trustworthy partner. For me a lot of it is trust based. I'd introduce my girlfriend to my female friends as I would expect to be introduced to hers. If I had female friends I couldn't introduce her to that'd be pretty sketchy and I wouldn't blame her for not trusting me
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 02:01 AM
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Call it my toxic masculinity but I'm probably gonna have to take a hard pass on watching Barbie. You can give me a quick rundown of what you mean- up to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 11:16 PM
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Fair point. I imagine a good portion of men who think they're gonna go out and slay now that they're single usually just go full goblin mode. Most of the perceived options were probably someone being nice to them. Suppose it depends. I'm of the camp where a relationship should compliment your life and not simply be putting up with someone's shit in order to not be alone, but then again being alone is usually my preference. You don't exactly get a full preview of who someone is until you spend ti…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 11:12 PM
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Can anyone really debate you without understanding why you want to debate in the first place? Seems like an odd thing to care about as it's likely just twitter people stroking each other off, but you seem to care quite a bit about what they think despite the sheer improbability of such insignificant and far away people meaningfully impacting your life. I don't mean to come across as demeaning if this is something truly affecting you
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 10:16 PM
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Why do you even care?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 08:39 PM
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Man that's crazy. You can still make the most of your options ethically by breaking up with the person instead of cheating. I don't think 2-3 relationships per year is a crazy turnover but sometimes you have to try a few people out before you find someone you want to wife up. Then again, I live in the city so options are pretty standard
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 08:35 PM
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Man literally doesn't have links though
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 08:29 PM
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I think you're reaching a bit. This shit happens regardless of gender. Acceptance is far off; you're engaging with a minority that's likely front and center because they make up a disproportionate amount of the user base for that particular board. I have no doubt that many participating in a forum about assholes and drama are likely fueled by drama themselves. So what if someone calls you controlling or some other label for having reasonable standards? Granted if you're being an unreasonable tit…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 07:48 PM
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