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If they sound impressed by independence, then they don't share traditional values.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/26 03:09 PM
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Most men lose attraction, though they don't want to admit it. I spent most of my life being a pick-me and hanging around men more than women, the only benefit this had was them sharing with me things they would never tell their spouse or partner. Everything I have taken from the things men actually think has decimated, utterly fucking decimated, my openness to being that vulnerable with a man. I share the same fears as you and they are 50x more magnified.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/25 11:58 PM
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Enjoy the trip, realize he's a loser, move on when you get back, profit.
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/25 02:20 PM
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The simplest thing about this is that he was okay with this and suddenly isn't. He no longer sees you as worth the investment. I'd "quiet quit" the relationship and let it go. Above 30 men do not operate in relationships with the same ideals as younger men, and that is to be more hopeful about long- term love. He probably already has other prospects.
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/25 02:08 PM
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IMO the issue doesn't sound that clear. Your boyfriend is keeping around someone who bad mouths you and doesn't respect your relationship. You said he defended you but clearly not enough to set the other girl straight. If the situation is true to how you describe, that would be a pink/red flag to me. You say you trust him, but I don't think you do. I think the fact that this behavior continues silently reinforces a lack of trust for you. You don't have to be submissive for things that truly cros…
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/24 04:01 PM
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OP I will not judge, it is fine to want and evaluate others for what works in your life. I will say this though...based on you being here in this sub, I think there is misalignment between what you are after and your own value system. Our culture has wildly normalized a lot of things that should not be considered normal, and I think OF is one of those things, for both men and women.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/24 02:25 PM
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OP as some people said, yes, it's going to be hard to give advice without a picture. Feel free to DM if you want unbiased advice/feedback. But overall: average or below average ratings don't mean anything, imo. It is how you carry yourself, conduct yourself, and style yourself in harmony with your looks. your own assessment of dressing well and doing makeup well may not mean anything (just being honest). You might think this but in actuality you are coming off like someone who does OF for a livi…
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/24 02:13 PM
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I would try to chat and ask about his interests, current lifestyle, what he's looking for in a woman, what he wants in his future, and see if those things align with a traditional lifestyle. I would be sure to not ask with any leading questions as he may build off you, intentionally or unintentionally, and cause you to misread his values. As an example I was chatting with a guy, and this is how our convo went: Guy: "Yeah I am pretty traditional" (used a half-assed qualifier, lax tone, I already …
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/24 05:53 PM
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This is just my personal opinion but I think nearly 2 months of dating is enough time for someone to know if they want to be exclusive or not. It is important to respect the pace at which someone is making a decision like that, but not at the expense of inadvertently letting someone waste your time. In terms of person or phone...that really depends on the level of interaction between you two and your ease and comfort level in either of those modes of communicating.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/24 07:56 PM
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If exclusivity is a priority for you in your dating process, you should not compromise on that whatsoever. You should find a way to bring this up that is mature and doesn't put pressure on him. If you're at dinner and can lead into it, "I wanted to talk about how things are going between us. I am ready to be exclusive, does that seem like a move that you are ready to make?" You should be prepared to stand your ground and be willing to let go of him if that is not something he wants. If he says n…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/24 07:05 PM
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I agree with you there, I do think men aren't really considering these things when they are shaping their view of you when dating. And who can blame them, right? It's not entirely fun to see the woman you're dating as just suited to being a mom and nothing else. My current advice would be (and always subject to change with the more I learn) that while dating it should be a fine balance between demonstrating those things I mentioned (and I left a more involved response to OP as well) and the best…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/24 05:16 PM
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I'll be honest, I find this very hard to answer realistically from the current zeitgeist of gender ideology that even men's perspective is shaped by. I think for a while now the average male has not been operating with this type of value system in mind. When I dated in my 20s, men would pressure me to be more sexually active--even if not with them, they were always belittling me for not having more sexual partners and "experience", every interaction was very sex-centric. Fast forward 10+ years, …
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/24 04:55 PM
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I think the ultimate thing a woman can bring to the table is being able to lead her family like a true matriarch. I think all the femininity, domestic skills, loyalty, etc. are great but should always fall within the context of the greater purpose of leading a family alongside her husband. Men carry on their lineage through a woman, and I believe it is the greatest act of service to one's husband and to life in general to be able to raise capable adults who can go on to have successful marriages…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/24 03:33 PM
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Hmm, I would be inclined to trust your gut instinct honestly. A rule of thumb that I never knew when younger is that men speak through their actions, and a lack of action still speaks volumes. You understand the pace at which you guys were talking, you are attuned to the nuances there to be able to read into his behavior. And also being busy has never kept a guy from expressing and demonstrating his interest, imo. I will say though, a week is still a fairly short time to feel that way conclusive…
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/24 03:35 PM
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Not sure if you have seen the other replies from OP, but she mentioned him wanting her to dig into the 10K he wants her to live off for 3-5 years to help cover the costs of a first class trip to Europe. At this rate, I wouldn't even trust him to handle a joint account. I think he would literally dig into her 10K, accelerate depleting it, then double down on the gold digger logic when she will actually need money from him. So weird. I would not trust him, the guy making 4.5x what she makes, with …
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/24 03:02 PM
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I was with you throughout your post and all the comments and replies, but this is really weird. He's wants you to dig into your 10K savings to cover the costs of a first class flight to Europe (assuming he didn't offer to pay outright) and also keep digging in to the same 10K to cover costs for the family (despite the disproportion in your salaries)? Is your husband delusional with money? I am so confused. Maybe you need to hire a financial advisor/mediator where you can bring these matters up t…
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/24 01:22 PM
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I'm the same age as you and have been feeling the exact same way as you, I want you to know that you are not alone in that. I think other women here have given helpful advice for you looking forward, but it's helpful to look backward with discretion as well. Like you, it can feel borderline demoralizing to look back on my 20s wondering why the fuck I did xyz instead of abc and wasting so much time. But then I have to stop and look at things realistically. In my 20s I had a lot of physical health…
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/24 05:26 AM
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