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Hmmmmm... I'm not sure if I would agree. I've seen it go either way. Some people who have been traumatized develop the tendency to traumatize others. I think it's a defense mechanism to prevent it from happening to them again by becoming the aggressor instead of the victim. There are people who work through it and become better people but I don't know if that comes with age or because they're just more self-aware people.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 05:40 PM
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Why appreciate people with past traumas? Is that assuming that they have worked through them and are more aware or better people because of it?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 05:23 PM
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A friend of mine is considering trying to do that with this girl he was trying to be with and recently got away from. He says he wants to go back and I'm like 🤦🏽🤷🏽‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 05:22 PM
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Sounds like a plan.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 05:20 PM
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Sad part is there's a lot of undiagnosed people or people with a mixed bag of personality disorder traits out there and a lot of people aren't aware of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 05:19 PM
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Q4All: would you choose to be in a relationship with someone who you knew had a personality disorder (Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Borderline Personality Disorder, Antisocial Personality Disorder, Paranoid Personality Disorder, Histrionic Personality Disorder, Schizoid Personality Disorder, etc.)?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 05:05 PM
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People have always been pretty fickle. Hard times and lowered social standards have just allowed people to act how they really want.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 02:07 PM
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Yes, it is payment. Both people spending money on each other doesn't cancel everything out as if neither of you did.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 05:36 AM
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Mostly money but things acquired with money also count.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 05:34 AM
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In a way, you did, yes. Dating is transactional in that way. Neither of you got where you are now for free. The real question is whether you could have.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 05:30 AM
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Well there ya go.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 05:23 AM
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Yeah if the women like you. It's not really based off anything objective. If they like you, you're good (even if you're not), and if they don't like you, you're either a weirdo, a creep, an asshole, or all of the above and you also have a small dick (even if none of that is true except for the last part which was a lucky guess).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 05:21 AM
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The inverse reality. Gotta love it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 05:18 AM
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Mostly yeah, but it comes in verbal form when someone has to tell you to read the room.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 05:18 AM
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"Read the room" means "be perceptive of what people are thinking and feeling." It's sort of like when you're walking into a room full of people after leaving a good time with your friends and everyone is standing around not saying anything with solemn looks on their faces. It's obvious that something bad happened but you're still in party mode and haven't noticed yet so you come in making a lot of noise and trying to be chummy with people until someone approaches you and quietly says "can't you …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 04:50 AM
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Man that's kinda scary, honestly. I think groups like that are problematic for dating because one bad experience with some crazy bitch means she's going to tell everyone that you're an asshole or some other person to avoid and of course women will take her at her word without ever confirming for themselves because that's what women do. Especially those types of women who join gossip groups.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 04:39 AM
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Then they eat each other out and that's free :D
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 04:35 AM
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I prefer Connect Once.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 04:34 AM
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Sounds interesting but be prepared because it sounds like the only women that'll be on there are paranoid drama-prone gossipers and crazies.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 04:32 AM
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The idea is that all men pay for sex in one form or another if they're with a woman. If he's spent money on you in the past, that counts. There aren't many women out there that a guy can simply talk to without spending any money on in some way, shape or form that will have sex with him on a consistent basis.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 04:29 AM
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If you don't get approached by women as a man you can safely assume you're *in North America.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 04:27 AM
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Women asking has been trending upwards for decades. <1% to <5% isn't a huge jump. Not even worth mentioning, honestly. It will continue to increase in frequency. Time will tell, but probably not as much as is needed, and definitely not 50%. Equality is a BS concept that never applies to the people wanting it. What they really wanted was equity. Dating patterns take time to change. It's only been within the last 30-40 years that women have been able to gain more financial independence to pay for …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 01:44 AM
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How many people would agree that if you can take someone's value away from them (i.e., basically most physical things) then they weren't really that valuable? I'm of the opinion that most of a person's value comes from their internal qualities, like their outlook on life, their desire to want to see others happy and well, the effort they put forth to accomplish things, all of their acquired knowledge and understanding of the world around them, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 01:34 AM
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Which is almost always going to be men by default because women rarely ever ask. They know that men will because they expect men to, so this opinion is bunk.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 01:28 AM
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For sure. I guess what I'm saying is that self-centeredness or actual blatant selfishness from a partner or partners in a relationship is more a symptom of problems exiting than the cause of those problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 01:26 AM
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Disagree to a point. From what I've noticed, people generally become more selfish in relationships when their needs aren't being met. If they're being neglected or abused by their partner, or have other problems outside of the relationship such as financial, career or social, they become more self-centered and that's what leads to more problems in their relationship. People seek out relationships typically for selfish reasons, but the focus is on the object of their feelings = the other person.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 01:12 AM
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Then I'd say you don't know what "society" is.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 01:09 AM
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How about a different take: The world is like those men say that it is and there is no incentive for them to act differently or "mature" and improve themselves because there is no guarantee of success if they do. Many men improve themselves and mature and still fail, which points to the conclusion above. So, it seems more like society is the problem and those men don't have control over it, but society points the finger at them instead of itself because people feel justified in doing what they w…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 04:48 PM
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I'm sorry but you're confusing the effect for the cause. You're looking at men reacting/responding to the world and saying that they're the reason for the world treating them that way, which isn't really much different from a woman rejecting a man and using his reaction as justification for rejecting him. It's nonsense. It's a way to avoid saying the actual reason because nobody wants to take responsibility for being the reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 03:34 PM
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an old lady There's the problem. Nothing new here. It's easy to see that women have a trend of misinterpreting interest and are so ego-driven that they immediately start accusing instead of questioning whether they're viewing the situation accurately.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 03:25 PM
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Sounds like it's really all in her head.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 12:24 PM
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The 80's? No. Maybe the 50s and part of the 60s and 70s but things have gotten tougher for men as time progressed. It was easier before women started entering the workforce in large numbers because there was more jobs and the dollar was worth more.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 12:14 PM
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That would be great, but if there's any length of time spent around them, I'll start to get to know them and separate them by personality ("Sarah's a bitch, Jennifer is nice, I really like Rachel, Amanda is cool, etc,").
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 04:05 AM
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Meh. Once you're working together, you see more of who they are and less of what they look like. One semester in college, there was a very attractive woman in our class, like trophy wife material. Pretty face, slim, nice boobs, fat ass, all natural. Nearly every guy was zoned in on her while she was there at the start of the semester, but after being in class for so long, she just became a normal, albeit beautiful classmate.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 03:31 AM
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I’ve noticed a lot of women posting memes and jokes about how they don’t believe in love or how fun it is to cheat. It’s even reached a point where I’ve seen Tik toks and had women admit that the men are starting to treat them better but they don’t care because being savage is a way of life lol. There’s even a trend encouraging women to hurt men when possible. Sounds like they love getting beat.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 03:13 AM
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It's not that they particularly "like" those traits. Men with those traits tend to be more charming because they have to be in order to manipulate people, and that's what the women like.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 03:09 AM
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Is them being attractive supposed to matter?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 03:07 AM
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It's because most men aren't gay. Therefore they cut men before they cut women. Women are also a bit more indecisive and more group oriented whereas men are a bit more individualized so no need for group benefits or affiliation.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 03:06 AM
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You absolutely can make fun of people who are fat. It's even easier to make fun of fat people because there is more of them to talk about.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 03:02 AM
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Nah, it's everyone. Women aren't making up much of the difference there. Everyone needs to get up to the 120 or 130 range, which is one or two standard deviations, and would be a noticeable difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 02:59 AM
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Yeah but I think it was a normal weight for her before. She wasn't overweight at all and still looked better.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 09:05 PM
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Yeah but it's like healthy weight vs borderline unhealthy weight in this case.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 03:55 PM
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Some people just look better with a little more bodyfat on them. Anne Hathaway is an example. She's currently pretty thin and doesn't look as good as she did in previous movies when she was a little thicker.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 03:50 PM
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Lol no. Maybe over some men but not "men."
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 03:43 PM
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Sounds like it would be a good thing as long as it didn't come with changed behaviors from her like she suddenly has new guy friends that she wants to go out with and seems hesitant to tell me about.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 03:43 PM
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Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 04:20 AM
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Time to wash everyone's feet.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 01:40 AM
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CMV: Ghosting is appropriate in certain situations, like when someone does something so bad that it doesn't even warrant a conversation or explanation, but when ghosting someone you've been seeing because you don't have the courage to break things off, that's shitty and you're shitty.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 01:40 AM
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10% of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 01:27 AM
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If she doesn't look like the Hindenburg with blimp boobs, blimp legs and a blimp ass, I don't want her.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 01:24 AM
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Even if women work, their husbands typically make more than they do. Hence, it's to their benefit that funds are shared in a joint account and bills are split.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 01:15 AM
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Yeah I think OP is vaguely referencing infatuation and young people feels here as well. The only people I see that are passionately kissing at any point in time are couples, people in romance movies, and goddamn teenagers who don't know anything about love yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 01:14 AM
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The problem with your stance is people can have no physical chemistry indicators, which is false. Well good because that's not what I said or implied. I said that people don't have to have your same indicator of chemistry though you seem to place a lot of value on it as an indicator, and making a claim that they must not be interested if they don't share your indicator.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 12:36 AM
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Still assuming that everyone kisses the same way. Not everyone immediately goes for tongue in mouth "passion" like you're describing out of some movie scene as the first kiss, nor do they have to as some indicator of physical chemistry. This post has the same energy as "If she doesn't put out by the third date, she's not really interested."
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 12:20 AM
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I've kissed multiple girls in less than 3 minutes of knowing them - some of the most passionate kisses I've had - like seriously my heart was like 200. You might say the girl was faking it - but I wasn't. Yes, I've seen young adults and teenagers doing exactly the same thing you're describing. Sounds like you were in your feels but it doesn't mean much of anything, really. Just surface-level feelings. Same goes for a lot of other young or inexperienced people in the same situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 12:17 AM
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The reasons for why someone might is they're either trying too hard, or they're faking it. "Passionate kissing" isn't a preference that people just do. It's something that most people either feel or they don't, and it's not likely that you're going to feel something like that with someone you've just met unless you're faking it for the romantic fantasy. A lot of people have ideas about dating and romance that they try to imitate in the moment because they think it's what they're supposed to do, …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 10:11 PM
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Lol. I guess it may have had the opposite effect then.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 10:05 PM
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Believe me, I've noticed lol. Guys notice women's fashion faux pas. We just don't say anything because we're still checking out what's visible and deciding whether or not we think it's attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 10:04 PM
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The first kiss is usually just a kiss. You can't kiss someone passionately the first time because you barely know each other. The reasons for why someone might is they're either trying too hard, or they're faking it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 10:00 PM
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That they do. I trust gay men just as much, if not more than I trust women for advice about looking good as a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 09:47 PM
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Lmao. Well at least our brains filled in the mistake for us enough to still understand each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 09:46 PM
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You first point is about divorce and that is not my interest, my interest is the marriage itself. The first point talks about the marriage which provides stability and security to both people. Women gain security, typically gain access to shared resources, and all benefits that marriage provides including divorce benefits. The second point is why does sex distant to die? It's just something that happens when two people stay together for a long time. They get old, their feelings change, their bod…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 09:42 PM
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I'll look into that, although I think any stylist that's good with women's hair would fit. I've gone to one before and I'm pretty sure he's gay, but he did a good job all of the times I've seen him so I trust him.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 09:40 PM
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My boyfriend until we started dating again. He didn't want to attract attention or something apparently. Extreme introvert uninterested in women. I've been having fun playing barbie with him. Interesting. I can relate. My hair is long, dark and curly, so I've been thinking about going to a professional stylist and telling them to "make me beautiful."
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 09:34 PM
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Oh lol. For some reason, I read your previous comment as "hurting clothes" and figured that your clothes were either too tight or had some weird seams that hurt your boobs or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 09:33 PM
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Hurting clothes, you say? Why didn't you go to the unhurting clothes section of the clothing store and buy the clothes there?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 09:22 PM
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Yes, it does benefit them. Marriage provides stability and security to both people in the relationship and makes all assets acquired during the marriage joint assets which are split and usually is to the woman's benefit. "The orgasm gap" doesn't refer to marriages, but sex life typically declines in both quality and frequency the longer the marriage continues.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 09:20 PM
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Anybody else here actually try to not look attractive at all to other people? I dress in a t-shirt, shorts and sandals most of the time and my hair is either in "just took a shower" or "whatever" - mode. I think guys who aren't looking for anyone can reasonably expect that women aren't going to approach them out in public so they should dress comfortably rather than to appeal to the general public. What say you?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 09:16 PM
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You can do it if you're speaking Spanish. "Aye, Mami, chupa mi verga."
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 09:08 PM
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Women vetting men doesn't include exes sharing private contextual messages of their relationship to strangers. It's up to those current partners to vet the man themselves. A former partner going out of their way to make someone's new partners think they're a bad person says more about the ex than it does about the person they're trying to smear.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 01:24 PM
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I agree there but that's why I'm an ass man. Boobs are fine no matter what size they are but a small ass just doesn't do it for me beyond a certain size because they lose shape as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 03:13 AM
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Good to know
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 03:11 AM
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Same here but there definitely are nice fake tits out there. Just depends on how big the women want them and how much extra skin they have to allow for the implants to fit. Skinny women wanting big tits generally doesn't work out too well, but if they're bigger women with smallish tits, they'll look better with proportional implants.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 03:08 AM
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I would've expected you to say armpits > everything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 03:06 AM
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Depends on how big they want em but good tits can be faked too.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 03:01 AM
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Not true. Tits can be built by men now.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 02:57 AM
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Idk. Looks like "bussy" is the winner there.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 01:38 AM
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CMV: Ass men > Boob men
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 01:24 AM
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What are people with aspergers supposed to do? Pray, and also look for unconventional/non-"normie" women. Normie women are a waste of time and energy for men with ass-burgers.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 01:07 AM
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Then there are also incredibly niche trades that require a lot of intellectual and people skills that pay so well you can retire comfortably by the age of 50. Such as..?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 12:51 AM
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I don't even know how or why you keep tabs on this many female celebrities. A lot of them I've never even heard of.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 12:48 AM
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Not really. Friendships like that are often fake. They don't really like you for you. They're just talking to you hoping that you eventually confess your love to them, and if it seems like you aren't going to, then they find a BF and slowly start fading away from your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 12:46 AM
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The newer ones suck. Now, if you're talking about shows like All That, Kenan and Kel, The Amanda Show and Clarissa Explains It All, then you have my attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 12:43 AM
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Depression is the longest covid.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 12:41 AM
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Nearly all people who died of Cov died inside of a hospital. Coincidence? I think not. I heard rumors that hospitals were killing Cov patients and that hospitals were also being given money for each person admitted with Cov and even more money if they were placed on ventilators. Sounds like there was some incentive there.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 12:40 AM
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Yes but how and why?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 11:00 PM
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Someone's experience while cold approaching depends on a few other things, like who they are and where they are. If you're a conventionally attractive man, you're not going to have too many problems cold-approaching anywhere, unless it's in different countries with different cultural values. Men don't approach women in Europe, for example. If you're an average guy approaching in a big city, you're going to get shot down most of the time. If you're average in a smaller town, you may have better l…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 09:50 PM
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Anyone notice the strange pushing of foreign cultural ideologies out there lately? In the US, there is currently: "Socialism and communism good, capitalism bad" "Progressivism good, conservativism bad." People openly displaying Nazi germany ideology Influential popular male streamers basically promoting Islam and saying things like "Haram" to lost, alienated men Weird sudden normalization of Asian popculture It's almost like there's a concerted effort being made to erode or dismantle cultural va…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 09:04 PM
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Never heard any jokes like that but sounds like some of them are inside jokes made at the woman's expense for other men. It's the same with women who flirt with or ask men out as a joke to have a laugh with their friends who were in on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 08:34 PM
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Normies with a twist are where it's at, my lad. :) Difficult to find though, unfortunately. I come here because I like the debates and I can't get similar elsewhere -- and then I go to work and follow my heart's calling and get even more validation from that. I lean a little nerdy but yeah, for the most part I'm the norm, not anyone with a major social media presence. What might that be, if I may ask?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 04:38 PM
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Yes, men get "icks" from women like if they're coming off as desperate and start whining about why the guys didn't do something pertaining to them, for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 04:08 PM
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So what you're saying is you're moving the goalposts. No. They're just additional men that were implicitly included but not mentioned, as women typically reject and discard those men. That said, the small penises would be fine. Not Mr. Childlike, though. I'm profoundly disinterested in children. Hairy isn't an automatic no, provided he's willing to manscape (after all, I shave). Fat is out, dad bod is still in. Short is dependent on attitude and how he makes me feel -- I like between 5'6" and 5'…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 04:02 PM
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Negative. Feelings are not logical. Women can get icks for many different, silly reasons. Similar to when women call men "creepy," there's no objective features or behaviors present that makes the guy "creepy." It's whatever the woman personally feels in response to the man she's labeling as creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 03:56 PM
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By immature I mean "child-like," doesn't have their life together yet, makes stupid jokes or has an immature sense of humor, or still has childish hobbies like playing video games or with Legos. Oh, I forgot to mention a lot of them might not be very attractive, too. Overweight, hairy, short, insecure, and/or have small penises. You still up for that?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 03:50 PM
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I can't speak for "most people" but I'll say that I'm content with being single. I think there are things to be "happy" with on both sides: getting to do what you want vs spending time with someone of the opposite sex that gets you. Some people simply focus on the good sides of whatever they're doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 03:27 PM
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The reason why women are often so contradictory and complex communicatively is in my opinion because they are the selectors. Women and men are both the selectors, currently. My question in this context is: why is dating advice always be considered sexist? No matter how slightly we psychoanalyze women it will always be downplayed and shamed. Certain tendencies are simply very frequent and can most often only be recognized by men because they are more aware of such behaviors. In my opinion men rat…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 03:09 PM
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So, send me the men who have never had children. :) You sure you want them? A lot of them will be a little weird, immature, some of them autistic, or just kind of awkward. But I'll ask a question I've asked elsewhere: what, to you, is an eligible woman? Of any age, not just the one you're looking for? An eligible woman is a woman who is mature, honest, kind, knows what she wants, takes care of herself, puts in effort, is mentally stable, and not promiscuous.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 02:54 PM
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I'd argue that there aren't very many actual eligible women out there either but the focus always seems to be on whether men are eligible or not while women are always assumed (or assume themselves) to be eligible by default for whatever the reason. Also, the reality here is that most men in history have not passed on their genes, which means that a subset of men from each generation ends up reproducing while the others do not. Of course, this means that there will invariably be people left over…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 01:57 AM
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Hard to say because I haven't met many. Most are not virgins by the age of 17, so I'd probably think of virgin women as young, inexperienced, immature, don't know what they want yet, and have a long, hard road ahead of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 01:49 AM
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I'm a different kind of chav, savvy?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 02:04 PM
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I'm convinced that's also mostly a problem for the dumbs as well. Apparently less intelligent people are happier than intelligent people but I think more intelligent people are better at controlling themselves or figuring themselves out so that it's less of a problem for them than it would be for people that lacked the self-awarenss needed to do so. So yeah, it would be a lot better if the collective IQ of the world was higher than it is right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 04:35 AM
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I think the cause is the same. Immature, dumb, not striving for improvement, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 04:27 AM
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The root cause of society's problems is the average level of intelligence being too low.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 04:12 AM
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So you went digging through my post history and didn't bother to even read the source you're providing to prove your assumptions? That's funny. Might want to try harder next time.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 03:49 AM
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You can't be taught to distrust or fear a whole group of people. Women are innately fearful or insecure about a lot of things in life - men would qualify as one of those things. The impact of this fear or distrust in dating is that the guys who are good at maneuvering around women's security walls are the guys who they end up with, whether the guy is a decent guy or a lying abusive manipulator.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 11:10 PM
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That's by choice. Sorry to disappoint.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 09:24 PM
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Depends on what you mean by "that bad." It's heavily dependent on location but online dating is a terrible experience in general for everyone due to how people treat it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 06:50 PM
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There's more available people out there at 30 and beyond, yes. That's the age where people get washed back out into the dating world due to old relationships/marriages ending. There are fewer people around at younger ages because everyone is dating ("love is wasted on the young").
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 06:46 PM
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A man of culture, I see.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 06:13 PM
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Interesting. Fat clits too, or no?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 05:21 PM
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Q4All: what would you do if it seemed like people were responding negatively toward you and treating you poorly because of your face? I don't have a friendly face and I've overheard some women in college say that I look mean as they passed by me. I've even had some women look scared of me like they think that I might try to do something bad to them. I guess I have a "villain" face. What would you do?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 04:03 PM
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Yes, that's me 🤖
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 03:40 AM
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Nope. Unless I bring it up myself, they say nothing. Always. Never had a single woman ever say "So...what's going on/why did you turn me down?" They likely don't want to hear the answer so they don't ever ask.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 03:10 AM
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Yeah, that never happens. Women always go through all of this stuff non-verbally. A lot of them have been foreigners so I assumed that the potential marriage/citizenship route was among the reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 01:51 AM
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Depends on what they want. All the guys are looking for is sex so that's what they push for. For the women I've encountered, I don't know exactly what they were after, but they definitely wanted to have sex before I was able to find out.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 01:40 AM
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I'm more of a magna cum laude - kind of guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 01:39 AM
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I'm faced with the age-old question that men ask themselves everyday: "To cum, or not to cum, that is the question."
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 01:31 AM
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Nope. Same degree. In my experience, women that have been interested want to have sex much faster than was possible for me. Not having sex with them saved me from a lot of drama and wasted time. If something about them seems a bit off, I hold back and wait to see if I was right.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 01:26 AM
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Full-blown narcissistic personality disorder, psychopathy, etc. The lies, the gaslighting, the physical, mental and emotional abuse, the destruction of property.. all of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 12:16 AM
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Mostly amateur stuff. I hate the fake scripted porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 12:14 AM
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It works on women too.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 12:06 AM
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It's cross-cultural. Women all over the world find taller men attractive. Height is something that has been studied in the social sphere and taller men are automatically seen as more attractive, more capable, and more of an authority figure than shorter men are. That's why you typically won't see a short man as a chief executive or most high-status positions.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 12:05 AM
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Would've probably taken the same amount of effort to write something else about them other than how good at sex they are, honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 10:43 PM
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Yeah I'd just prefer to know if this woman is a real person or an advanced sex robot
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 10:25 PM
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Why is her only attribute sex-related? Like were these women raised in a brothel their entire lives or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 10:18 PM
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Yep. I have one right now. We talk occasionally. She used to be interested in me and I think she still kind of is but she's married to a transman.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 10:16 PM
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Assuming that attraction is completely logical.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 05:09 PM
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Not really. They're just the loudest group. Don't confuse that with "dominating the mainstream."
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 05:03 PM
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Yes and they're dumb, virtue-signalling hypocrites.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 03:18 PM
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It is obvious. The cognitive dissonance has been smacking people in the face for the same amount of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 01:57 PM
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"This just in-ed: sexually dimorphic species prefer mates that are sexually dimorphic. More on this breaking story at 11."
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 01:52 PM
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All of them except top right.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 01:39 PM
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I didn't say that you could. You can exaggerate it a little bit though. There are muscles that can be worked out around the hip area that would add size and some shape to the hips.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 12:39 PM
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Most women you see in your life won't look like that naturally. It would take genetics and exercise and/or PEDS for women to have that hip curvature. Either that or surgery.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 04:17 AM
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I like all of them although the bottom pics seem a bit exaggerated to the point of being altered or cosmetic surgery.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 03:56 AM
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It's because feelings override logic and reason. People pick apart everyone for the tiniest things before they ever go on a date with them, but once they're hooked, they're more forgiving of things that would have sent them running in the beginning. That's often why people hide the unsavory parts about themselves until later in the relationship when the other person is more likely to overlook them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 03:34 AM
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Nah she's crazy. She was on visa here in the states and they were talking. Soon as he went to her country, she became a different person.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 03:13 AM
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I mean it's not good to lie to people you claim to love, in general. That's why I don't do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 02:54 AM
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He's kind of codependent so yeah women like that are a bit hard to break away from. Plus he has some addictive tendencies too.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 02:52 AM
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Not even. She apparently doesn't want to have sex with him, but gladly accepts him paying for literally everything, of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 02:28 AM
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Idk about that "loving relationship" part because that's never a guarantee unless you're just talking about the appearance of it, but yeah, I don't like lying to people so I wouldn't lie about particular questions that arose in conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 01:45 AM
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Oh, so you just won't mention stuff that doesn't affect you or your partner, right? Just like the woman who's not a virgin won't mention that fact, because it doesn't affect her or her partner. They're different things. A fetish or fantasy is something that would affect a partner if they agreed to it. Past partners is something that could potentially affect a future partner without them knowing. I know nearly everyone on the planet has at least one form of herpes right now but that doesn't mean …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 01:31 AM
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Uhhh...... I mean fetishes or fantasies don't need to be brought out into the relationship. I'd still want to do some things like have sex in public places or outside, but the other stuff that doesn't involve me or my partner doesn't need to be mentioned at all. I don't think I'd try to hide what I like but I wouldn't want to be judged as if one particular thing was the only thing I was into, which people have a habit of doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 01:23 AM
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I'm 100% honest about myself so yeah, I don't need to feel shame for being single.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 12:53 AM
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Depends on your definition of "curvy." If curvy is code for "obese," then no, but if you mean a slim woman with an hourglass figure, then yeah. I like both but hips that are too narrow don't look very appealing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 12:52 AM
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It is. You can refer to it how you want, but unless you have intercourse, it's not sex. Anal is the only blurred-line in there because there's penetration involved, but still not really sex. If some guy told you he had sex and you asked him what happened and he said he only ate a woman out and then she sucked and jerked him off to finish, most people wouldn't consider that "sex."
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 12:31 AM
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It's a part of sex, yes, as in a sexual act that people do in the midst of sex, but it isn't sex. Sex is intercourse. You can't say "we had sex" if you only used your hands to get each other off.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 12:19 AM
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No. "Sex" is short for "sexual intercourse," not sexual acts. Anytime someone says "we had sex," they mean "intercourse." If they didn't have intercourse, then they're using the word wrong because nothing else is "sex." Handjobs are not sex. Oral is not sex. Manual stimulation is not sex. Eating ass is not sex. Using toys on each other is not sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 12:16 AM
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Yeah, that's not sex. I think you misunderstand the difference between "sexual intercourse" and "sexual acts/activities." Sexual intercourse is a sexual act, but not all sexual acts are sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 12:08 AM
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Yes, that would be the sex part. Licking, rubbing or stimulating the clit wouldn't be considered "sex."
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 12:03 AM
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I consider that to be part of it. A friend of mine recently met a woman from Chile and went over to try to have a relationship with her, but it seems like she's been a real nutjob ever since he got there. He pays for everything, basically gives into all of her manipulation BS, doesn't stand up for himself, doesn't call her out on her bullshit because doing so "makes her feel sick," and refuses to leave before he planned to. I had to explain everything to him that he's been doing wrong and he sti…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 11:29 PM
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Yeah. It's a little late to be still trying to grow up when you've been an adult for over a decade. Even worse for two decades.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 11:20 PM
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A better question would be what women don't get out of relationships with men. They get nearly everything they want unless they pick some schlub or the typical fuckboy that takes advantage of them and splits.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 11:14 PM
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Well most women don't orgasm from the actual sex part, so it would seem that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 11:12 PM
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I mean.... it's not outside of the realm of possibility to continually encounter bad people or assholes. That whole "If everyone you meet is an asshole...." quote does exactly that. It's a way for assholes to flip the blame onto others as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 10:55 PM
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I mean that's all well and good, but I meant more doing it for yourself. I do intermittent fasting, stay somewhat active and use a lot of supplements because I like feeling good and being healthy. I don't think I'd ever change the way I look for someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 10:31 PM
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For sure. Principled people seem to be more difficult to find out in the wild, as a lot of other people are only appearing responsible and principled to find someone. Then a year into the relationship, they look sloppy and gained 50 pounds. Seldom ever fails.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 10:23 PM
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Sad. You can see that on the "datingover___" subs. I honestly thought older people would be more mature and have done the work to grow up, but apparently a lot of them have not, and it's very shitty and discouraging for the people that have.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 10:19 PM
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They sure have, unfortunately. It seems like the more people I meet, the more reason I have for staying single. If I meet a decent woman and things fall into place, I'll welcome it, but most encounters are definitely not with people who have worked on themselves, or still need work. I don't make time for people who are only going to bring me down with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 09:40 PM
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Generally yes but it depends on what sticks out more. If she has other good qualities like she's mentally stable, mature, knows what she wants, is intelligent, responsible, etc., then those will play into how I see her, but if she's the typical, average middle-aged woman as described above, then it'll most likely be a no-go. People like to harp on about giving older women a chance, but the ones with the other good qualities don't have problems finding stable long-term relationships as they age, …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 09:28 PM
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Sounds kinda hot if there's chocolate syrup or whipped cream involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 06:40 PM
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Yes there's an implication that women are weaker, because they are. Has nothing to do with misogyny or homophobia. It's just men bullying other men by likening them to women, similar to when women bully other women by likening them to men in some way - usually in their appearance or mannerisms.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 06:31 PM
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No. Only a feminist would think like that. Bullying is something that exists in nature. That's it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 06:24 PM
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for the men; what do y'all imagine happens in nightclubs? People dancing, some hunting for potential marks, some enjoying their night out, a small handful potentially cheating on their partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 06:19 PM
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Around 40 years old, looks 45, overweight, at least one divorce, at least one child, works in an office, in a relationship/working on second or third marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 06:15 PM
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Yes, but in the context of past societies, this doesn’t really hold up. Which past societies? I think this holds true for almost every society. Younger people are always seeing what they're capable of by engaging in risky behaviors while older people know that they're not as capable as they once were and seek safety and stability. Sex is one of the biggest drives so I think who we choose in the beginning is a more accurate reflection of who we find desirable viscerally. I think you're making the…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 04:43 PM
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I think that depends on how old and/or mature they are. Young and immature people choose thrill and older/mature people choose stability.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 04:28 PM
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You're welcome
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 12:29 PM
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Will do 🙏
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 03:30 AM
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Hmmmm..... I'm only familiar with androgyny being referenced to appearance, not personality. I do agree in general with that theory though, as long as it's the same conceptual ideas of masculinity and femininity that I'm thinking of and not what most other people might define them as.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 03:28 AM
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Thanks, me too 🤞
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 03:19 AM
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Ah well that's great. Hope that my move will be similar although I don't seem to have as good of luck as I'm apparently supposed to, so it'll be a crapshoot whether I survive and make it or end up under a bridge with nowhere to go.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 03:05 AM
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Oh wow. That's quite the distance. They must've been pretty bad to make you want to move on the opposite side of the world. I don't think I'll move that far away but it will definitely feel like I did. Hopefully you've found a new family since moving.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 02:56 AM
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Because the people that say this are women and simps.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 02:50 AM
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That's actually a tough question, and I don't think the answer is a simple one. In order to hold yourself in higher esteem, you have to show yourself that you are an esteemed person. Try pushing for higher accomplishments like being truthful, knowledgeable and more capable. The more accomplishments you see yourself making, the more esteemed you'll view yourself because you've done the work to earn it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 02:49 AM
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Anybody ever feel like people trying to be solely masculine or solely feminine ends up with those people being incomplete, or in need of their "other half?" There is a bit of folklore in Japan about these birds that are essentially born with one wing and they must seek out their counterpart with the other missing wing in order to be able to fly together, which is a metaphor for men and women looking for their "soulmates" or however you want to view it. There are also other conceptual ideas like …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 02:32 AM
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It's called normal sexual attraction. Hypergamy refers to wealth and status only. It doesn't refer to physical appearance or natural physical attraction triggers. The only thing I can think of would be if a man is attracted to a woman who shows good motherly traits or likes and cares about children, but that's not to say that men automatically don't care about children or don't have the same capacity to care for and raise children also.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 02:17 AM
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They aren't attracted to bad role models. They're attracted to people who have what they want. It's a misconception mostly made by stupid people that they have to be like those people or do exactly what they did to be able to obtain the same or similar lifestyle as the bad role models. Oftentimes, those same stupid people are the ones that contributed to the bad role model's success without realizing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 02:12 AM
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How did it work out, and did you just up and leave without telling anyone?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 12:58 AM
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For shore
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 12:37 AM
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No need to cause drama. It's not worth the effort honestly, even if some of them need to be told off for being shitty humans.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 12:13 AM
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Yeah something like that then. Sometimes I wish aliens would come take me away to their planet, or like some energetic being comes and takes me away to another dimension to serve a higher purpose.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 11:49 PM
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Luckily I don't have one so I don't have to worry about that. Just a "Now you see me, now you don't" with my "friends" and family.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 11:46 PM
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Full isekai, I guess, if that means leaving behind everyone and everything I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 11:45 PM
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Man I cannot wait to disappear from my life and start a new one somewhere else. Call me David fkn Copperfield.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 11:37 PM
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Your partner's needs are about your partner, of course, but not totally about your partner, if that makes sense. Your partner's needs are likely subject to being a compromise if you don't want to meet them, and that's totally fine. However, this is likely going to cause some friction in the relationship (not the good kind) if needs start going unmet. The most important thing is for people to be compatible so that needs don't have to be fulfilled at the expense of the other partner's desires.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 11:35 PM
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I just explained it. It's the longer half of the reply. Starts with "but in the friend-zone..."
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 07:06 PM
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Being "friends" is different from being "friend-zoned." If you're actual friends, you both don't know where you stand on the idea of things potentially becoming romantic, but in the friend-zone, it's clear that the other person will never be anything more than that, unless that friend is being used and made to think that they can become more than friends by doing things for the one who friend-zoned them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 07:01 PM
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Gym girls with natural genetic booty > natural genetic booty
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 04:19 PM
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Stop generalizing what one guy does with all guys potentially doing it. Every person is an individual, so you should treat them as such and avoid this "all guys are the same" stuff because it's an easy, lazy excuse to stop putting in effort. Also, stop being averse to confrontation and communicate directly with guys you like. You're not doing yourself any favors by dropping hints or being subtle and expecting them to do it for you. It's more likely that decent guys will not respond to your hints…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 02:30 AM
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Most don't or are unable to. It's usually the gf moving into the bfs place.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 10:09 PM
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Will do 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 09:31 PM
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Interesting. I'll have to tell them about that. Thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 09:15 PM
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He already gets disability pay from the VA but it's not enough to afford a place to stay. Especially with wannabe landlord "entrepreneurs" inflating the cost of rent everywhere right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 09:09 PM
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Sadly those aren't in any of the friend's options. They'd be homeless if they left their current living situation at least for a little while.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 08:35 PM
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They're just not very good at "selling themselves" because they're genuine and humble and don't really believe in gassing the interviewers up just to get a job. They're a disabled vet with an honorable discharge and work very hard. They have positive reviews with all of their recent former employers but have done some bouncing around so I think employers look at them like they're an unstable hire.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 08:25 PM
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Must be nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 08:22 PM
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Eh my friend is against welfare. They definitely are employable and have a good work ethic but have trouble convincing interviewers of that, so it's been hard finding work for them. They're only not homeless right now because they're staying with family but that family consists of deplorable idiots so its a pretty unstable situation they're in.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 08:16 PM
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Not really. I just look for improvement and personal growth. Better to be a person that others can look up to than someone who is just thought of as "masculine."
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 08:07 PM
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Guys don't typically post on social media for attention, so their stories will probably reflect their actual lives instead of farming for likes.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 08:06 PM
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Q4All: How would you handle an unstable living situation with very little emergency funds to avoid being homeless? Asking for a friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 08:03 PM
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Times get hard = people become selfish. That's what happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 05:31 PM
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I'm not familiar with any gym like that around here. I'll have to look because it seems like a lot of the locally owned, non-franchise gyms are kinda shitty and not even on the radar.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 12:00 AM
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What's an example of a hard-core gym?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 11:54 PM
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If sex isn't on the table yet why would I get into it? Because if you want sex to be on the table, the other person needs to know some things about you first, like how sexually active you've been with strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 10:08 PM
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Yeah I'd prefer to be able to do things at home but I don't have the space. Bought one of those nylon strap homegym sets with the Olympic rings for bodyweight strength training and don't have a place to use them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 10:04 PM
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It doesn't have to be a deep dive unless someone history really is that deep. Having similar views on sex is important for a relationship and if someone doesn't want to answer, that's usually a bad sign because people with nothing to hide don't try to hide things.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 09:51 PM
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Be on your toes/look for the signs, start thinking about your state's land and climate and have a place to go to before shit hits the fan, because you don't want to be stuck in your neighborhood when it does.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 09:31 PM
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Yeah that question wouldn't get brought up unless someone was socially inept or just looking for someone to satisfy their kink. How many sexual partners someone has had would be a relevant and valid question, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 09:19 PM
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That's not a boundary. Boundaries are more like "be respectful, calm, not pushy or aggressive, etc." If your boundary is "you can't ask me anything that might cause you to judge me negatively," then you probably shouldn't be dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 08:36 PM
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Ah okay. I'm leaning more toward martial arts though, not wrestling or MMA specifically.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 08:33 PM
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I've been there too but can't go because people that I'm currently having a falling out with are going to the one in my area. I'd have to drive an extra 15 minutes to a different location.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 08:19 PM
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That would require two different memberships. Haven't seen any all-in-one fight club gyms yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 08:18 PM
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Been there before but it is a little bit of a drive to get to one.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 08:17 PM
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Opinions on best gym to go to? I've been wanting to get back into working out but I don't know what gym would be the best for me. I want to be able to lift weight but also focus on functional fitness too. There are plenty of regular gyms around my area but also cross-fit gyms and combat gyms that practice MMA or Muay Thai, but the latter utilizes mostly cardio and HIIT with no weightrooms or traditional gym equipment.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 08:11 PM
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I agree. If you start off dating someone with "that's none of your business," that's not a good look for a healthy, transparent relationship. People just don't want actions to have consequences anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 07:58 PM
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Uncertainty, confusion, mass chaos. Better start prep-a-leppin.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 07:56 PM
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Oof. Well best of luck to you then. Hopefully you'll have some priority or protection as a govt lackey.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 07:06 PM
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Suit yourself. Better to stay off the radar for the future events that are coming down the pipe in the next 10 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 07:00 PM
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Those things are just biometric data hoarders. You gave them your face for a rating.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 06:55 PM
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They work because they illicit more of a visceral reaction from women whereas normal, average, everyday men do not illicit as much of a reaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 06:44 PM
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Nope it’s proactive as well. A big chunk of it is appearance oriented because if a man doesn’t like how you look nothing else matters. There’s more to it than that though. They advise on how you should conduct yourself, how you should speak to him, how to fill up your time to be more socially interesting and appealing to different types of men, where to go to meet them etc. Yeah, that's all mostly reactionary. Why ask that then lol? I didn't ask anything. You concurred that what I was describing…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 06:30 PM
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False. I’m assuming you’re a man? Probably a straight one? Correct me if I’m wrong. There’s conventional dating advice centered around catering to men as well. Yes, I know what it looks like. It's mostly reactionary. The action-oriented advice that women get is centered around their appearance. Men's advice is mostly action-oriented because we're the ones expected to do everything whether it be plan the date, lead the convo, pay, and/or make the date enjoyable for the woman. According to modern …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 05:46 PM
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Interesting. Thanks for the new info.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 05:31 PM
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All women aren’t quality by default. Both men and women know that. Most men just don’t care if all they want is sex. If she’s not a quality woman they’ll just pump and dump her. Not true. Most conventional dating advice and opinions you will hear from people center all attention on the man catering to the woman, not the other way around, or even mutual effort from both people. For most interactions with men, women care about the guys quality to varying degrees and the level of effort she puts in…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 05:28 PM
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Yes, all of this is focusing on the guy being a quality guy while assuming that all of the women are quality women by default. If you're going out on a date, you should be evaluating the other person, not simply trying to appease them. Be wary of the person that appears to want something from you, because they probably do, and also be wary of those who are entitled to other people's time and attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 05:18 PM
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Hypocrisy is "rules for thee, but not for me," or double standards. If someone says that another person must do X for them while they don't have to do X for anyone else, they're a hypocrite, or if doing X makes someone else a bad person but they aren't bad when they do X.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 05:13 PM
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Hard to want to find chemistry with someone if you have a list of things to do when interacting with them instead of being able to enjoy your time. Men's experience is the former while women's is the latter, so that's why women don't understand what it feels like to date from a man's perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 04:50 PM
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Disappointment, mostly.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 04:22 PM
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In short, better to just avoid dating conventionally altogether if you're a man. Otherwise, you'll have to deal with this and "get good at reading women" while women don't have to remotely put in the same amount of effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 03:50 PM
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So just out of curiosity, how many astrology/enneagram/chakra/reiki/crystal - loving women do we have in this sub?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 05:18 AM
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You can get diseases from non-sexual contact. No sharing straws, cups, silverware, or food and drinks. No sharing bongs, bowls or other pot-smoking devices either. Beware of idiots with dirty hands, and I say that because I think I caught herpes from my idiot brother playing video games.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 05:08 AM
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She secretly wants that old pruny shrimp wiener.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 05:05 AM
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In my experience, women get sexual too soon. Well, too soon for me, at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 11:30 PM
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Pornography is not "sex education." It's not supposed to be educational. It's for fantasizing and busting a nut. If you have sexual views or habits that are unhealthy, then you are unhealthy. Don't blame porn. It's no different from when fat stupid people blame their food for being unhealthy rather than admitting that they're ignorant about their own unhealthy eating habits.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 11:19 PM
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Nope. Sorry ladies, but alimony is not adult child support. It's your fault if you can't support yourself without the assistance of your ex.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 11:13 PM
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Men are most valued for what they can do for a woman, whether that be giving her feelings of happiness and excitement just by seeing him, or whether he can do things that benefit her life, or both.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 04:23 PM
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Awesome. It looks pretty short so I'll make quick work of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 12:36 PM
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Jeez. Just sounds like a bad dad or someone who's a bit irresponsible and sucks with kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 12:34 PM
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I don't have it. It's something I saw in passing and made a mental note of.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 04:57 AM
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It's referring to married couples also, not young dumb zoomer relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 04:47 AM
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Nah. Inside the US maybe within the last 20 years or so.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 04:45 AM
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Interesting. Must be some level-headed ones out there amid the ones who are in it for the cash and prizes.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 03:26 AM
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Many feminists still seem to assume that childcare should be a woman's job. That's strange. Still adhering to sexist gendered stereotypes as a feminist. How do they keep the left and right sides of their brains intact?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 03:16 AM
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Noice. Hope it's got some good info then because I could use a little shift in perspective as the guy that's always there for his friends yet few are there for me when it counts.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 03:07 AM
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Idk about that. I remember seeing a study briefly which said that most couples are split in their official parties but share similar views or are able to see and respect their partner's differing views without becoming angry or emotional.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 03:06 AM
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Boredom is going to be part of everyone's lives, including relationships. If people can't deal with the boredom or boring parts of relationships, then they probably shouldn't be in relationships. It's not a partner's responsibility to make things fun for someone who's bored.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 02:46 AM
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Wonder where they hid all their nuggets...
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 02:45 AM
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There's no right or wrong way to live our lives but there are good and bad ways, or better and worse ways. Some people don't care and some people want to do better. That's all. I'd rather learn stuff that can help make my life easier and help make life better for others than to do whatever I wanted and make things bad or worse for myself and others.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 02:45 AM
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Sounds interesting. Probs because feminists are largely against men and the book talks about women being and doing what they can as women, it appears.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 02:43 AM
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It's a common thing that men hear women complaining about as "the worst thing." It's what leads to all sorts of issues that men end up complaining about, such as being in a relationship with a woman that's bored, because that means he's either going to have to do something to entertain her, or she's going to go looking for fun somewhere else (i.e., probably talking to another guy).
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 02:35 AM
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Ah that sounds kind of interesting. Can't go wrong with Montana saloon gold rush hookers.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 02:28 AM
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Perhaps. Not surprising though to hear that there's nothing worse than a woman being bored though.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 02:23 AM
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Idk about that. There's a lot of good self-help and self-transformation books out there for people looking to grow. Granted, there are self-help books out there that are like the alpha male courses you're referencing, and some even have "alpha male" in the title.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 02:22 AM
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This is a non-issue. Women might say that they dislike conservative/Republican men but most couples are woman/democrat and man/republican. They were able to put aside their differences because they didn't make their political party their personality like some of the wackjobs out there do.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 02:12 AM
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I don't think boredom is an emotion.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 02:07 AM
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Spontaneously decided to go to the bookstore today and found a book called "No More Mr. Nice Guy." The introduction appealed to me so I bought it. Good book or no? What's in your current reading list? Also, how to deal with a woman who misleads others into thinking you're a bad person yet refuses to talk with you about what her problem is, aside from wrestling her into a straight-jacket and hauling her off to the crazy home?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 02:04 AM
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College is for exploring the world No. College is for figuring out where you want to go in life, and then once you graduate, you explore the world and find where you fit in.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 01:59 AM
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I don't think it matters as long as the woman herself is mature and knows what she wants, but the less amount of sexual partners, the better. If a woman has to go through countless relationships and sexual partners to learn about the world and herself, she's not the one.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 01:58 AM
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Yeah I don't agree with people's criteria of what these things are. Wanting children is not "feminine" and being assertive is not "masculine." They're states of mind that pertain to an individual's wants or desires. Nothing more.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 02:58 PM
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What do you mean? What's there to agree with? It's just a way that people choose to express themselves. There's no right or wrong way to express oneself. There will only be disagreements on what people think masculinity is.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 02:41 PM
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Yeah, I like women. The good things about them are good but the bad things about them are bad. Gotta accept both if you want them around.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 02:30 PM
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There aren't any. Masculinity is masculinity. It doesn't have a particular look.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 02:27 PM
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Trolling and ranting and creating outrage?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 04:28 AM
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A sad state of affairs?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 04:24 AM
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<3
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 03:38 AM
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Ah maybe I should make a female profile and try that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 03:31 AM
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Ah. Well at least you have us to warm the fire in your heart when the nights are cold.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 03:09 AM
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"Somebody help! This lady is crazy! She needs the leash bed!"
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 03:06 AM
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Sounds like you also have no one else to talk to then lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 03:00 AM
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Ah but of course. Wonder what she'd actually say if she could talk.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 02:48 AM
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It's okay. Pets are nice but I think they're more like distractions and I have the internet if I want a distraction, but distractions don't help very much.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 02:47 AM
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Eh. Been there done that already. Sometimes not even those people can help you after a certain point of growth. I just don't know where else to turn right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 02:36 AM
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Ah. Not sure how much that would help honestly. The world is looking more and more like an increasingly cold and lonely place everyday.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 02:25 AM
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Ah. Never heard of it before. Just asking because I've been losing people in my life lately and now have nobody to turn to. Maybe I just need time to acclimate myself but it's always rough for the first week or two.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 02:23 AM
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Wat that?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 02:17 AM
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Does that help at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 02:03 AM
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Interesting but doesn't sound very helpful.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 02:03 AM
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Ah yes, always reliable.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 02:03 AM
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That's when you have no one else to talk to?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 02:03 AM
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Delusional. You can't undo that which has already been done.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 02:01 AM
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Because u r 2 dum 4 dem
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 01:57 AM
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Q4all: who do you go to when you have no one else to talk to?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 01:55 AM
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I don't think pent up aggression plays a role here. It's just a different reason or additional reason for the action. Guys still allegedly assault women out in public for various reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 01:53 AM
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That's a 2 hour long video lol. Anyway, I'm not so sure that you need to know a woman to lower her value, and I'm not sure it works that way because I think guys assaulting or date raping women at parties can accomplish the same thing, and they don't have to know each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 01:50 AM
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I'm not sure about that. Never heard that before.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 12:32 AM
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Well yes they weren't in a verbally agreed relationship but that's still a relationship beyond non-intimacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 11:57 PM
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What does "been seeing" mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 11:50 PM
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🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 11:47 PM
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He has never been a stranger to everyone though. Abusers get out of a relationship and into another relationship as a stranger. That doesn't mean they're no longer abusers until they abuse again, which they probably will.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 11:45 PM
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Obviously, they couldn't have, so they'd be on the side with the other guys who have never abused a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 11:30 PM
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It's different for relationships though. We can assume that in the context of a relationship, the man approached the woman or initiated the interaction and the woman allowed it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 11:23 PM
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He's paying for an apartment for both of them plus half of the rent on a cottage that she just moved to for a job a few hours away from where she left him at the original apartment. He's broke because he pays for everything despite her being crazy one day and normal the next. I told him he's being manipulated and should leave the country but he continues to stay.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 11:10 PM
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Being told to be afraid of someone isn't a good nor automatically valid reason to do so. In the context of the above, it doesn't make sense to be afraid of strangers when there's more reason to be afraid of someone you know.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 11:08 PM
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That's a valid concern but that means you can't assume either of them. They're like a Schrodinger's Assaulter.' However, I think that if we group together the men that have been in a relationship before with the men who have abused a partner, we'd get a pretty significant overlap with the culprits being in the center and the guys who have never abused a partner off to the side.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 11:04 PM
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The first one. I've learned to be happy with little and prefer quality over quantity.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 10:51 PM
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Ah. I was on mobile and didn't notice. My apologies.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 10:50 PM
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Q4Women: Any of you ever notice that it seems like women are afraid of the wrong guys? Statistically speaking, most assaults that happen to women are by current or former partners. That means that those men passed through all checks and barriers to make it to the spot where the woman is most vulnerable, only to abuse her later on. Meanwhile, there are guys out there that wouldn't do that to a woman but because they're strangers, they're automatically sus. I think its funny that a lot of things r…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 10:49 PM
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That doesn't have much to do with your previous comment about it being immature or lacking attentiveness. I'll tell you that being a quality person will take you further than looking the part any day of the week. Who you are matters more than what you look like, but people place more focus on the latter since that's all they might have control over.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 09:24 PM
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That’s a good reason to reject, not dressing well suggests lack of maturity and attentiveness Pfft. Or it just means you prefer personal comfort over appealing to strangers. Quite a silly assumption to make about another person.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 08:25 PM
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I disagree with some of these points. Women will reject men for stupid reasons like their style of dress or their shoes. There is no magic one-size-fits all approach to attracting women and finding relationships, and that's what makes it difficult.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 08:17 PM
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Kind of. My mum introduced me to the dark side of women and ever since then, I've struggled to find a woman that doesn't share her toxic traits, so I've come to accept that most women are just like that and I'm searching for one that probably doesn't exist or is always in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 08:14 PM
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If all of your experience is in sex, that's likely all you'll have to offer someone when they do come around. I'm fairly sure that my experience with people becoming more or less attractive depending on their personality isn't unique to me, so I'd suggest that people work on becoming better people rather than gaining bedroom experience, and when I say "better people," I mean good moral compass, honest, attentive, mentally stable, healthy, focused on growth and personal development, enriches the …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 08:11 PM
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Don't you get it? The only reason women are "doing fine right now" is because men are approaching. If men stopped doing that, women wouldn't be fine anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 02:21 PM
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so the reason women don't approach men is because approaching sucks and they don't have to, men will approach them it is in the interest of men as a collective to change this, so they should stop approaching women Yes. however the man, singular, is as you said thirsty as fuck and his actual on an individual level his best option is to continue approaching women No. In this case, what applies to the group applies to every individual in that group. If not approaching women is good, then the indivi…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 03:42 AM
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Dunno, I feel as though women are always bombarded with messages about how to keep your man happy (be sexy for him, be feminine and delicate, don't nag, be pleasant, cook, clean, smile, don't complain, be slutty in bed, be submissive, respect his decisions, compliment him, don't contradict him etc etc). Well there's the problem - women are following a script. Doing a bunch of general things isn't going to be an automatic solution, which kind of prove the point that women don't know what to do ex…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 03:35 AM
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Heard of it but not too familiar with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 03:31 AM
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I've noticed that foreign women are either a bit weird or just plain crazy, depending on where they're from. If they're from a 3rd world country, they're likely going to be in some state of survival mode so they're going to be more manipulative to the point where it looks like they have some personality disorder, which may also be a possibility. Have a friend like this who left the US temporarily to try a relationship with a woman in South America. I told him not to go unless he really wanted to…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 03:28 AM
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I think a solution to men's problems would be to stop approaching women but some of them are going to do it regardless because they're convinced that they have to or they're thirsty af. If most men stopped approaching and focused on polishing up their personal philosophy on life, I think most women would notice the difference and come running back.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 03:21 AM
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Ah well there's my problem - I'm not social. Also, don't approach women. Women need to get used to the idea that they can't expect someone else to do the things they want for them, and that it's time to do it themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 03:04 AM
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Yes, only a real man can break through their tough outer exterior to reach the soft, sweet woman inside, kind of like a tootsie pop.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 12:20 AM
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It does though.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 10:57 PM
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No. They're a big waste of money and an environmental hazard.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 10:40 PM
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(WhiskeyOnASunday93) is cringe
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 10:40 PM
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"Greetings, fellow Americans! Happy Independence Day! Let's celebrate by... (checks notes) polluting the environment!"
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 09:47 PM
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If you think only nice, kind, mentally stable women are in long term relationships This was never said or implied. Maybe you should brush up on your reading comprehension before engaging with others. "Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak and to remove all doubt."
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 08:15 PM
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Those appearances have to be defined in order for someone to properly choose. I'd pick a "3" if she was still actually a 5, but probably wouldn't pick an actual 3, like this woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 05:53 PM
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Yeah I wouldn't consider them 3s. I'd have sex with more than half of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 05:09 PM
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Okay? Lol. A woman can be overweight and still have a pretty face. I wouldn't consider a pretty woman to be a 3 just because she's overweight. I see a lot of pretty, overweight women that I'd still have sex with.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 04:57 PM
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So.. just regular, everyday women?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 04:50 PM
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Depending on what the 3 actually looks like, probably neither.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 04:11 PM
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Believe what you want but men aren't going to commit to some bitchy woman or aggressive ratchet hood rat over a nice, kind, mentally stable woman. The ones who are relationship material get put in the "potentials" box and the ones that aren't get put in the fuck zone.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 04:10 PM
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Whoever they want, but I think they usually end up as trophy wives or a relationship centerpiece for wealthy men with status, or they end up with some regular guy because they realized that it's better to be happy with someone that values them as a person than in some aesthetic relationship with someone that doesn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 03:53 PM
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Didn't work. I still roared and also committed a war crime.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 04:14 AM
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Nah. Just one very hard flick. One Flick Man style.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 02:00 AM
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Improper jerking. 5 yard penalty. 3rd down.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 01:58 AM
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I want to flick it into outer space.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 01:54 AM
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Nah. They don't deserve the satisfaction. They deserve to stay miserable.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 01:54 AM
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There's not enough arm movement to consider it a jerk, so you can't jerk off a clitoris.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 01:53 AM
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What's there to jerk off on a woman? Jerking off is something done to dick, not the penis fly trap.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 01:44 AM
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Might work if they had a dick, but they do not.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 01:40 AM
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If she's becoming a hoe at any point in her life, 100% parenting wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 01:30 AM
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How to fight the desire to tell someone off?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 01:29 AM
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More like a hot useless post. Copy and paste the relevant info so people don't have to go searching for the subject matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 11:55 PM
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I'd say that men should focus on self-confidence and not dating. Dating in the US is a poop party. There aren't many mature people out there who can simply go out to meet someone to mutually get to know them as a person. Nearly everyone is going in with some motive to satisfy a personal need (i.e., most of the unhealthy, immature, inexperienced people are dating). You'd be saving yourself a lot of time, energy and trouble focusing on yourself and waiting to encounter someone you meet in your eve…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 05:14 PM
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I don't believe anyone has ever said otherwise. Overweight women are largely unattractive. Their health is a different issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 04:07 PM
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Do things that keep you centered. If you want to be centered but you're living a lifestyle that veers heavily off the direction you want to go in life, you'll have a hard time centering yourself because you know that you're seeking two different things. We can't have it both ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 04:05 PM
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What song are you talking about? I haven't heard of anything like that lately. Women should be allowed to admire tall, lean and strong guys with great hairlines. We shouldn’t get shamed for it? When we fawn over certain men, guys will call us out? Again, men aren't usually making songs about frumpy gremlin women or ugly bitches. Most music that I've heard by male artists talks negatively about women's behavior, while conversely, female artists talk positively about men's behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 02:51 AM
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Lol. Talking positively about specific traits is much different from talking negatively about others. That would be the difference here. Men are talking about what they want ("thick hips, slim waste"). Women are talking about what they don't want ("Scrubs/Short dick man").
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 08:40 PM
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I mean, if they've been dating around and in relationships for a decent amount of time and are still single, that's usually the logical conclusion. In my case, I've been rejecting women for a long time because I don't want the obligations that being in a relationship comes with. I enjoy my freedom, and unless a worthwhile woman comes along, I'll continue enjoying it. I also don't date either so I may be out of the loop with non-verbal dating behaviors (knowing what to do and when I'm "supposed t…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 08:28 PM
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So did you not read my comment, not understand my comment, or reply to my comment by mistake?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 02:45 AM
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Ever got in an argument with someone over text where you were more polite than you should have been and want to give into that nagging feeling to text back a few days after you've had time to process everything and really lay into them? I am currently there.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 02:27 AM
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This doesn't have much to do with her. All you can do is focus on yourself here. If you're happy and your girlfriend is happy, then what is the point of worrying? What are you even worried about? Unless there's actual suspicious behavior going on, there's no cause for concern. You should definitely talk to someone about your feelings, though. Keeping them inside will only cause them to fester and you'll never get over them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 02:22 AM
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Because both sexes are trying to get stuff from the other without giving much, if anything at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 02:17 AM
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It's like the MBTI for emotional expression. Naturally, women will automatically give it more consideration than it deserves.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 02:15 AM
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Romance is exaggerated in cinema, so it's representative in what women are looking for, but it is a bit unrealistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 06:47 PM
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In most cases, men don't care about women's salaries. It's not a factor that makes our penises hard. A hypothetical morbidly obese Only Fans model that makes six figures is just a morbidly obese woman in men's eyes, and that's not attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 03:25 AM
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Where do women say/indicate that they believe their salary makes them more attractive to men? It's voiced in the dating requirements and complaints of the high-earners and "career women." They think that men should want them more because they have status and have worked hard to achieve success and blah blah blah. That's something that women value in men, not vice versa. Almost all the women I know and observe understand that how they look and perhaps how appealing their personality traits and in…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 03:20 AM
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Depends on the man, but that's not even the point. The point is that some women think that their high salary raises their perceived sexual value to men in the same way that it raises their perception of a potential mate's value, and it does not. A shorter, average looking man with an egg-shaped body will look better to women if he makes a lot of money, but a woman that looks like a parrot-nosed librarian will not look better to men no matter how much money she makes.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 02:09 AM
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No, it's that women seem to think that their salary = men wanting them more, and it doesn't. They project their own desire for financial status onto men and then get confused when a man doesn't want a woman that looks like a bird making $90,000/yr.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 01:51 AM
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Fart
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 01:45 AM
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Say thing clearly so people no misunderstand because misunderstand cause more problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 10:29 PM
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I was exaggerating a bit for sarcasm, but if you can say less, say less, unless you also mean generally which I agree with.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 10:23 PM
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Communication is key, ladies and gentlemen. Always remember to word everything you say to someone in a way that makes it impossible for them to misinterpret it. This is your responsibility. Otherwise, the other person might misinterpret it, not ask for clarification, make assumptions, and then you have your obligatory falling out where one person must relent being stubbornly assured that they aren't at fault. Thus sayeth the Lord.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 10:08 PM
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If gets easier the more you do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 09:52 PM
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It's not going to be a "night and day" difference in the drop off, but a lot of women are going to cluster around a certain age. Mid 20s is just an easy marker.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 09:31 PM
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Yerp
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 04:47 AM
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Same way that women justify asking for a good man when theirs is.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 02:22 AM
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Happens on both sides. Women do their little things and then expect more and complain when they don't get as much as they thought, and men do their stuff and get mad or frustrated when women don't reciprocate at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 02:11 AM
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Well who does that in the beginning of a relationship or pre-relationship? Everything is usually covert contracts in the beginning.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 05:19 PM
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That's weird. Usually when I hear people complain about love being transactional, they're complaining about giving it out and not receiving the same or anything in return.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 01:18 PM
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And compassion and understanding.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 12:32 PM
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Depends on the idea of what "sexy" is, but everyone has their own idea. Some like the old nude Victorian Era women, and some prefer Thotimus Prime.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 02:57 AM
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Nope. Friends can be any age as long as they're real friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 02:53 AM
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The women you're describing don't sound like they have a mental illness. They sound like they found and are dating the man that they're told women should want/look for, but are unhappy with and feel guilty about it. In other words, they're not mentally ill, just kinda dumb.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 07:34 PM
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It's a wild world out there. To make matters even worse, the vast majority of people seem complacent about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 05:00 PM
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A lot of diseases are intentionally released. That's the only way they can combat population growth and make efforts to ensure it can't be linked back to any specific person or group of people. I've heard stories of mysterious boxes suddenly appearing and exploding in public places and suddenly there's a viral outbreak spreading.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 04:24 PM
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There's never going to be a right guy. Whatever they're looking for at the time is what they'll be going after. People are never going to treat one person like they're the only good one on the planet. They'll make do with what they can find as long as their perceived needs are being satisfied.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 04:20 PM
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There won't be a resolution as long as you continue equating doing one thing with doing another thing, or giving one task or job more points because you believe it's more essential than another. You set out to challenge the notion that men built society when they literally did exactly that. The buildings and architecture, which is what "society" is in that sentence, was built by almost all male workers. Literally. It's a fact. You can say "well I think women contributed equally to building socie…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 03:53 AM
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Some people don't need to be rich to be happy, bruv.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 03:32 AM
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You're moving the goalposts now. It really doesn't matter if you think they are "more essential" here because the fact is still that one group of people literally built nearly all of the manmade structures you see outside of your windows. Even the grocery stores and brick and mortar shops that house the food you're arbitrarily assigning more value to.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 03:30 AM
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And where did those workers come from? And I'm not just talking about birth, but also being raised up as well as having the common needs? Constructionists need food and other needs before and during work That's not related to the task being described, so irrelevant. I am very much aware that construction work takes a lot of energy and I have no disrespect for them. However, it should also be noted that jobs that deal with food also have lots of hard work lut into it such as back-breaking farm wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 03:18 AM
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And in order for men to be able to literally build, they need to have the time and resources. They did. Where do you think all of these buildings and streets came from? If common needs such as food and other work were not addressed first, those would be builders would need to take care of those first, but they such work would need to be constantly maintained. That's why I credit women as well as men who have worked on taking care of basic needs. They helped free up labor for those architects to …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 02:58 AM
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Negativo. Women don't give feedback to a particular romantic partner that pertains to many other women, only herself. Therefore, if a man has been with a dozen women, he will have a dozen responses that are likely to be different. If you want sexual or romantic advice that will more likely apply to a broad group of women, a man with experience would have that information.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 02:47 AM
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Men and women have different jobs and roles in the creation of things, such as children, but there are obvious and apparent facts as to who bears most of the work or effort in those situations. With childbirth, women have no choice in who does that. The female mammal gestates and births the young. However, in regards to building a civilization = planning the layout of the infrastructure, drafting blueprints, procuring the resources, laying the cement and brick, etc., men mostly did that. I hope …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 02:41 AM
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I'm assuming you mean an actual legal tenancy, right? If so, that's not normal for people in a relationship to do. If you both just agree on what bills and financial obligations you're covering without a tenant/landlord relationship dynamic, that would be normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 06:48 PM
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No. We're either equal, normal partners who split bills and duties like adults or we live separately.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 05:57 PM
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More time to explore things they may need to know. Relationships slow everything down.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 05:44 PM
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The Sexual Revolution is not a movement in itself. It's a marker of a period of time. Those who get caught up in whatever corporate America is trying to sell to them are the fools whose money they doth part with.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 12:51 AM
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Gotcha. I appreciate your input.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 12:40 AM
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Not really because this one has devious intentions behind it. Women aren't being devious about telling men what they want. As the OP said, there's an implication that they're already attracted to the guy when they're talking about a feature of his that they like. The problem is that women suck at separating those two things, so they end up saying "I like guys that do X" when what they really mean to say is "I'm attracted to this particular guy that has done X."
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 11:55 PM
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Yeah I've come to that conclusion myself already, though I'm not sure if any relationship prospect is ever certain to end favorably or positively, so I thought maybe I could try to go against those feelings and see if something good might come of it. Thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 11:02 PM
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Ah, yes "normal" lol. Sometimes I forget that we use that word all wrong. It would be "normal" to just ask her out and go the typical dating order of operations. It would be "mentally sane and well-adjusted" to do the above.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 10:34 PM
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From how you've been talking about things it feels like there's just a lot of uncertainty. You've known her several years. If you're not fairly confident this is the one, or she might become the one who got away it's not worth it. Yeah I'm just not sure lol. There's a lot of variables with this one. I'm going to have a talk with her in a few days to explain some stuff and ask her what she wants. Things will be settled likely after that, whether they go toward relationship or stay the same. As lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 10:31 PM
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Yeah, I concur with everything here. I've thought about having a talk with her and explaining all of this but I'm just not sure how that would pan out because it's not the usual way people would approach this situation. Maybe that's for the best though. I'll have to plan a time in the next few days to have that conversation. Thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 10:13 PM
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You guys could try to get closer as friends before seeing if you actually want to pursue something serious, but that depends on how much progress you've already made, her own timelines, etc. I mean I've been trying despite brushing her off over the past few years, but she seems to be waiting for things to happen while I'm trying to bridge the gap. If you don't date fast forward a few years and you could maybe try things out then if you're both still single. Yeah I don't know. She's expressed tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 10:06 PM
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Men aren't required to either. Yes, they are. Women outright say that men are "supposed to" approach them and that it's "their job." However, when we start talking about women's job and responsibilities pertaining to dating, there's not much to say. Why do you think that is? If they don't want to approach or date, that's their choice. It's not a choice if men who don't approach don't date. That's how it goes, because women don't approach. But then don't complain that you don't get laid, or expec…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 10:00 PM
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I mean I agree with you, but my issue is that you are blaming the fool for being fooled by the lies, instead of pointing out that there are liars who are lying. If the lies are pretty obvious, then we can blame the fool. Educate the fool for sure, but the only real solution is calling out the liars. You can do that too. That's what we're doing now.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 09:56 PM
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The process isn't the same for every person or every situation, bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 09:01 PM
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I'm planning on moving in the next few years. I'm more concerned about potentially destroying the relationship I've made with them. I plan on still keeping in touch with them after I move, but not if the above happens. Also, I like her, but although we've known each other for so long, we don't know much about the other. It's been a pretty surface-level relationship for the majority of the time, but it's started to get a little deeper as of the last year or two.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 08:57 PM
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Yes. Without attraction, all relationships are basically friendships or business partnerships.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 08:53 PM
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Sorry but why do you think that would be a bad idea? You're assuming a lot of the situation but not saying much except the usual "go ask her out" and "don't communicate with her because it'll backfire on you."
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 08:51 PM
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Yeah. I am planning on moving away from here in the distant future (within the next three years, or when my grandfather finally passes), but it's not just a fallout between neighbors. It would be a fallout with people who I've come to know and grown to love over the years. I remember and always go over to celebrate their birthdays, visit on occasion, etc., so it's more like a familial situation. Plus, this girl seems to really like me and IDK if I should let her go and break her heart or do some…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 08:46 PM
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Okay so depending on her dad he might be unhappy. As much as he seems to like you now. Possibly. Wasn't sure if it was a you are much older and picking up vibes that aren't there. It happened to a friend who got a letter from a guy at her church and the whole thing was super weird. No lol. I'm sure she's been interested for awhile as she's been quite obvious about it. I've just been brushing her off this whole time, but the thing I'm not sure about is what she wants or why she's interested. If i…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 08:29 PM
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Thanks anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 08:23 PM
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It's not as simple as "Just ask her out."
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 08:10 PM
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She's early 20's and I'm early 30's.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 08:08 PM
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Pretty close to her mom. Her dad is a pretty stern guy that seems a little tempered at times and keeps to himself a lot. Doesn't really talk or express himself well, so he's not the easiest to talk to.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 08:07 PM
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I mean yes but doesn't that go to show that women are at least just as shallow as men and care about appearance and attractiveness just as much as men? Yes. Only a fool would think otherwise. Women are just bad at telling the whole picture because they aren't aware of how much their emotions affect their thought processes. They do it with a lot of things.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 08:06 PM
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I've been feeling like I should go ask her what exactly it is she's looking for or what she wants to happen and go from there. We've known each other for a long time, so it's not like we have to handle it the way strangers do.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 08:03 PM
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Only if I break her heart, I'm sure, but I'm not sure how they'd feel about their daughter dating an older guy. The other thing I didn't mention is that there's a pretty large age gap between us, which is what stopped me the first time I noticed her being interested, but now I'm starting to think maybe it shouldn't matter as much as people say it does.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 07:59 PM
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Sure they do. I asked out my first husband. Sounds like you're an older woman then. We're talking about younger people here, like 30's and below. People don't give af as they get older so that's why older women don't have a problem with making moves. Plus they probably might have to start putting in effort as they get older because older men don't have time for the games. A lot of women will chat up a man they find attractive. And many more don't/won't. Or they will make eye contact or smile at …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 07:56 PM
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I mean l wouldn't even bother investing in a relationship because as you said she's out here with multiple guys casually I never said casually. She's been dating and seems like she's looking for a relationship but nothing's worked out with the guys that I've seen over at her place. She was dating one guy for a few months but he was too insecure about her whenever they weren't together so that didn't work out either. If you just want sex then ask her out on a date when she's free I don't give adv…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 07:50 PM
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So what is it that they do exactly besides show up and/or give subtle hints and signals? They don't approach, they don't ask anyone out, they don't make the first moves..... They don't do anything. They wait and make themselves available. That's all they do. The women who DO put in effort are a very small minority.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 07:46 PM
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Kinda lame, honestly. She already knows/can tell that I like her so there's no point in redundancy right now. I can go ask if she'd like to do something but I don't know if that would be the right thing to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 07:44 PM
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They don't do much else in the process. Why should they get to have it so easy?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 07:29 PM
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Alright. Probably not the best place to ask for advice but I have nobody else to turn to. At least until my appointment with the therapist that can't arrive fast enough. Might be a little bit of a lengthy post but I'll try to keep it short and sweet. So there's a younger woman that's been interested in me for quite awhile. We've been neighbors for a long time. I've noticed that she's been dating around but never the same guy for long. Anyway, I kind of like her as well but this is a complicated …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 07:23 PM
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"Like" doesn't mean "attracted to." Sure, we all like people who are nice to us and treat us well, but women don't go express interest or go after men that they like who just treat them well. That's the bare minimum that women expect in a potential partner. If he's not attractive, it doesn't matter how nice and well he treats a woman. He's going to be ignored and rejected most of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 07:02 PM
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OP is saying that women can be boring and uninteresting and still find someone/not be negatively affected by it in their dating lives, which is true. Should've left off the financial portion because that's all that people are jumping on in the post.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 05:43 PM
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No, I think this is one of those misdirection tactics. Women aren't without their flaws or their areas where they tend to screw things up either, so to suggest that women would make better leaders simply because men have higher sex drives than women or that they need to orgasm or else they might get too aggressive and accidentally nuke Denmark because they didn't get their dick touched? That's a leap. It would be equally bad if the same quality of women held power and influence. Being a good lea…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 05:30 PM
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The relationship suffers when one person loses enough attraction or interest to stop putting in effort or communicating. That's all you have to worry about. Don't think too hard on this because it's silly and pointless to be nit-picking. For the people who don't know, everyday in a relationship is going to be different. Some days, you'll be feeling affectionate and expressing it openly to each other, and some days are going to be rather unexpressive, blah and boring. It doesn't mean that one per…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 04:28 AM
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No. It would be insulting if they were desperate and went for you despite never expressing interest before. It's like saying that you're only good as their last resort. It's also kind of self-destructive behavior because they're entertaining just about anyone when they should deal with whatever issues they're having by themselves, preferably with a professional, before starting to date again.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 04:13 AM
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I think this only applies to strangers and people who lead with their egos. It's definitely better to be honest about your feelings if you've known each other for at least a little while. You don't need to hide anything or play any games. I'm genuinely confused by people who even think approaching strangers is a better way to meet someone than getting acquainted through mutual friends or interests and going from there.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 10:06 PM
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Not sure. It feels good to be desired and to know exactly how much they're attracted to you, like giving you longing looks before one of you leaves, turning around just to look at you before they leave, glancing at you as they walk by, listening or waiting to hear you talk and hanging on your every word, etc. It's a totally different atmosphere when there's obvious attraction to both someone's personality and their appearance.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 09:59 PM
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Nutrition pertains to biology, not morality. If they're not eating right or exercising and getting their sun and proper sleep regularly, then the end result will be physical signs of the lack of those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 06:15 PM
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And if that doesn't change her behavior?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 05:00 PM
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What do you expect me to do with an adult child? Ground them? Send them to time out? Take away their phone? Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 04:53 PM
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Saying it's creepy isn't dictating anything. Right, but telling younger women that they shouldn't date older men or are making a mistake for those who are in relationships with older men, it is. People are allowed to make bad choices and other people are allowed to judge them for it. Their behavior goes beyond pure judgement. If they just kept it to themselves, that would be one thing, but they're taking action by voicing their opinions and actively trying to convince younger women to avoid or b…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 04:25 PM
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Your assumptions are purely imaginary. Also, you're misreading or misconstruing the details of the hypothetical couple in the previous comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 04:23 PM
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They can be concerned about strangers. They just can't start dictating the lives of strangers. Big difference here. Makes it sound more like they're just projecting themselves onto young women and then taking action that assumes the men are automatically bad or have bad intentions without any evidence or reason to believe so.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 03:18 PM
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Negative. You're mixing and matching different comments to create something I didn't say. I said women don't need to use makeup or "ornate themselves" if they're attractive. Unattractive and less attractive women do. Then, speaking generally about women, I said that women could learn about nutrition instead of covering up their lack of a healthy lifestyle with makeup, which applies to the women that do so. Anything other misunderstandings that need clarification?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 03:11 PM
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Again, unless those younger women are their children, it's none of their business who younger strangers date. That's where the question becomes "Is it legitimate concern, or are they merely projecting themselves onto those younger women? Or are they just jealous?"
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 03:07 PM
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24 and 18 are at very different stages in their lives. Not really. I think that's something you've chosen to believe. The only differences are likely to be financial, if any. 32 and 26, less so. It's about power dynamics much more than actual numbers. So yeah, it's about older women's perceptions of younger women being taken advantage of. They, however, don't dictate who has the advantage in the situation and who people should be with. They should mind their own business unless there's some othe…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 02:53 PM
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No. That's not how women work. Someone else dating a guy does not make me go "oh damn that's one less for me!" Women just flat out don't treat each other like that. Why do individual women always speak for "women?" "I don't" != "Women don't." Anyway, we know it's possible that women can be both jealous and judgmental about age-gap relationships, because women like to be the PC Police in social situations even if it might make them look hypocritical. 24 year old guy with an 18 year old woman? "Pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 02:41 PM
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Or...... You should go for the women/people that you actually like. Going for the most attractive women possible, or even just the attractive women, won't have any effect on the outcome. So, men who are looking for something might have better luck with women that they may already have favor with. Edit: To add, most people get rejected or turned away when they approach because there's no reason to want to pursue something further with a stranger simply because they asked. It makes sense once you …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 02:15 PM
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Women's desire for an LTR with men reveals that men practice hypergamy in this type of relationship: Firstly, womens' desire doesn't "reveal" anything about men's behavior..... Secondly, the word was used as far back as the late 1800's to demonstrate women's desire to marry up within social castes. Over 100 years later, nothing has changed, unsurprisingly. Research on the subject shows that women globally engage in hypergamy, which is the desire to marry up in wealth and status. Men do not engag…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 02:06 PM
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She'd get ridiculed just the same. At some point, you have to accept that people are who they are, daddy issues and all. She wants to screw up her life despite people telling her she's making bad decisions? Oh well. Nothing anyone can do about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 01:42 PM
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??? Misinformation agenda?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 01:34 PM
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If anything, there might be a ploy in there somewhere to brainwash parts of the population into intermingling with Asian people so that we can do some political merger with China. Y'know, part of the push for globalism and the dismantling of world powers. Tin-foil hat hour is here.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 05:33 AM
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Yeah who gets to decide what that is? Before long, it would turn into "My child needs a tub of ice cream and new shoes, now give me more money." They estimate the costs of the child per month and decide the pay accordingly. It's not going to be dependent on what the mother says the baby "needs."
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 04:25 AM
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Yes, they are old and salty that men their age are looking at younger women instead of them. It's tough coming to terms with old age and being sexually invisible to most of the world but we all have to cross that bridge at some point.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 04:17 AM
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I don’t think I know a single woman who is into K-Pop or would prefer to date non masculine Asian dudes. Mostly weeb women who watch anime and are into Korean dramas. I know one or two.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 04:09 AM
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I don't think this has anything to do with masculinity. Younger women and teenaged girls have always been attracted to androgynous ("cute") guys who veer toward the softer, romantic side (See: every boy band ever). As a guy with androgynous features, I can confirm. Those K-pop stars (who also have a lot of plastic surgery done btw) have a mix of feminine and masculine features which is what makes them attractive, and the plastic surgery was done to make them look that way. Androgynous features a…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 04:07 AM
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You do understand that child support isn't supposed to cover all of the child's costs leaving the woman with no financial obligations toward their child, right? It's support. A little bit of it goes to everything, or all of it goes to one or a few things while the other parent supports their child with the rest.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 04:00 AM
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I've seen women without makeup plenty of times, and I see them regularly so I prefer their real face over their caked up one. Makeup is also used to hide or mask genetic deficiencies as well, so it doesn't matter what the exact reason is. They use it to make themselves look better than they actually do.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 02:40 AM
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A lot of these aren't "intrinsic." They definitely vary by culture, as many behaviors and attitudes do. You also use the word "considered" which means it's subjectively weighed. There's no intrinsic definition there. We can argue all day but these are undoubtedly qualities that men want from women which are beneficial to those men, not inherently feminine.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 02:17 AM
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It's not built off gender but in most cases, the men in the equation make more money so it is they who pay. I'm sure it's also based on whoever will be housing the child as well, which is also usually the woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 12:50 AM
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Apparently it depends on the state. In my state, child support isn't determined by whoever has more custody. One parent will have to pay, and in most cases, that's the father.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 12:39 AM
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He can love them and still not try to fight against a biased court system.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 12:38 AM
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These particular words don't have definitions because the definition changes with whoever is defining them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 12:37 AM
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Yeah I have a thing for brunettes with full lips and resting bitch face, apparently, but my god when I first saw her in Bring it On, ....... mmmph.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 12:13 AM
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Correct me if I'm wrong but 50% custody as a man still ends with him having to pay child support in most cases, so it doesn't matter whether or not he fights for custody because he's going to pay anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 12:10 AM
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Child support is for the children. Supposed to be. Doesn't always get spent that way though. Women are most often the custodial parent so your last question doesn't matter that much, but yes, it would apply to women which is why there's no such terminology for deadbeat mothers. Always deadbeat dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 12:06 AM
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Simple: poor diet and lifestyle choices often manifest on a person's body. Pale/Uneven skin tone, blemishes, wrinkles, etc. The things women hide with makeup and their bathroom of cosmetics. Also, it's in the term you just used: "Made-up" = fake, illusory. Makeup creates an illusion of features that don't exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 12:02 AM
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That's weird. It's always been my impression that relationships were based on desire, whether it be desiring the other person, or things from the other person.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:53 PM
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You mean those same single mothers (often the primary custodial parent) that use WIC, food stamps and other government assistance programs to feed their children? How does that money enter into the equation, and I'd wonder what the child support money is being spent on in that case. In a lot of other cases, the mother is not single and has the child support plus the new guy's income to help cover the other expenses like rent and bills, leaving that child support money to be spent on who knows wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:50 PM
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I'm not really concerned with how men here define it. Those sound like qualities they personally want in a woman, not a list of qualities that are feminine. In this case, "feminine" is whatever someone wants to attribute as being feminine, so there is no definition.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:46 PM
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I don't make it a point to remember the names of attractive men that I've seen, or find out what their names are, but I can see why women would like them. Since I can't think of any, I'll just name some attractive women from my list: Fairuza Balk, Eliza Dushku, Sanaa Lathan, Anne Hathaway, Hailee Steinfeld (pre-plastic surgery), Ana de Armas, and your mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:41 PM
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Right, and that's typically where the accounting stops. Wonder what we'd find if we followed the money.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:28 PM
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No he wouldn't, she is responsible for using the money for the child, And therein lies the problem here. Women aren't held accountable for using the child support money on the child. Only the men are held accountable for not putting it in the mother's pocket. Btw, paying rent/mortgage or utilities with child support money is 100% taking care of the child on the mother's part. Negative. If her usage of utilities accounts for more than the child's (which I'm going to go out on a limb and say that …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:24 PM
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So how come single mothers are the poorest demographic of these men were magnanimously paying to maintain a child? Single mothers aren't known for their intelligence and decision-making skills. They're often working entry-level jobs or still in school when they have children. That's one major reason why. Another would be the men that they had children with are also broke so there's no way for them to make up the difference with a percentage of their wage. Men with money are usually smart enough …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:20 PM
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No one mentioned extra money, only child support. The extra money IS the child support in this conversation, ma'am.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:09 PM
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I'm sorry, is that supposed to invalidate my comment above in some way? Lol. My mother lived like a teenage queen off of my father's child support money while he lived in a tiny efficiency for awhile when he wasn't at his mother's house until he remarried. I know because we went to visit him often. Women like to downplay child support like it's nothing, but men know better.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:06 PM
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My father paid child support. Guess where it all went? My mother lived off of it until we were all 18. Barely worked. We even lived at our grandparent's place (her parents) for years while she spent a good chunk of it. 3 kids worth of child support. She got used to that lifestyle and is now gold-digging wealthy old men for money.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 10:54 PM
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Ladies. It's 2023. We know where most of the child support goes: And your food, rent, and other bills. Please stop trying to tell us otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 10:44 PM
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He's not being responsible for the child by giving money to the mother. We all know that the child support money just gets added to her income, not how much of it actually goes toward being responsible for the child. He would be a deadbeat if very little or none of it was going toward the child, technically, while the mother spends it on things that support her.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 10:13 PM
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Nah. It's not caring for his child that makes him a deadbeat dad. Not giving the baby mama extra money to pay her bills doesn't make him a deadbeat.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 10:10 PM
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Women's lives outside of dating have nothing to do with their dating life. Saying that women have it easier in dating is a valid claim that can't be refuted with "But women have periods and have to worry about being out alone after dark." Also, to directly address one of your claims, unattractive/less attractive women have to ornate themselves to be appealing to men. Attractive women don't. Maybe start focusing on nutrition as well and women wouldn't have to cover up their lack of a healthy life…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 09:57 PM
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Lol. Yes, of course, not giving up the extra source of income to the lady makes him a deadbeat.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 09:43 PM
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There are many different types and it takes two people mutually working together to have any love but Imo people kinda overthink it on here. We don't necessarily choose who we love either, it just develops. To me at least Definitely. I'm not sure if some of the people on here know what love is, but being in this place is a pretty obvious sign. Either that or they just have their perception of romantic love from TV and movies or whatever they've been led to believe about it and they can't connect…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 09:31 PM
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Single mom's can be criticized for their choices, which seem to be the deadbeat dads. Also, a guy isn't a deadbeat dad if he refuses to have any contact with a psycho bitch that he impregnated. Sometimes that's the reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 09:08 PM
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Yes, "love" is a thing. A lot of people have their own definitions of love and how they express it, so you might not get anywhere by asking people about it. I'm still trying to find someone who actually does "love" me, but because of the above, it's difficult. People seem to have this notion that love is infatuation, so when they're infatuated with someone, they call that "love," but isn't - it's much deeper than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 09:04 PM
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I disagree. Being in a relationship involves growing with your partner. You don't have to "be the best version of yourself" already because: That's not likely to happen at a young age, implying that nobody should date until they're much older. Nothing to grow or improve on could also mean stagnation in your relationship as well. One thing you learn about life as you grow older and gain more experience is that not much is going to be ideal. There's never going to be a perfect time to do anything …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 08:55 PM
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Terms that people use to attribute perceived male and female specific thoughts, attitudes and behaviors to men and women. They don't mean anything to me, personally. Just words. Edit: I'll add that there's some mature undertones that both of the words have. It's about a man or woman being comfortable enough in their own bodies to express themselves accordingly. People mistake masculinity with "not giving a fuck about anything or anyone," or "not backing down from a fight," and femininity as "bei…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 07:28 PM
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Tell her I forgot my wallet at my ex's house so she's paying for the date.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 04:54 PM
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Did I?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 03:52 PM
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The only way slut shaming will go away is if sluts go away.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 03:51 PM
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Femininity is valued. A lot of people just seem to have trouble defining and/or understanding what it really is (along with masculinity). It's not looking a certain way or adhering to some list of agreed upon behaviors or character traits deemed to be "feminine."
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 03:50 PM
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Being a short man is still better than being a woman though.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 03:36 PM
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This applies to people in general. Everyone is a machine capable of providing something to someone else, and that's all most people treat others as.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 12:43 PM
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Shit in my house If you insist.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 12:41 PM
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Guess I'll start setting up an exit plan for a couple years down the road since there's still stuff I need to take care of where I'm at.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 05:34 AM
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They don't dictate how I feel. I would feel sad about leaving them under those terms because it just seems selfish even though it would be the "right" thing to do. If I slowly stopped speaking to them because I got busy (i.e., "life happened"), then that wouldn't be something that I'd feel bad about. That's what everyone else seems to do to avoid any negative feelings on either side.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 05:22 AM
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I’d agree that it it’s hurts you more to beg but to clearly communicate how you feel about your treatment when they may not know otherwise actually helps to keep healthy relationships. I think that's only if the relationship is strong already, like long-time actual friends. If it's a weak relationship, like people you don't know very well but have known for any length of time, I think it would just hurt that relationship. I don’t recommend your approach because they may not pick up on your subtl…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 05:16 AM
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but only if they are received occasionally. That would be the problem in this case, in that they aren't being received at all, really. I'm confused why you think I'm seeking approval though in my social sphere when I haven't explained the nature of my relationship with any of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 05:02 AM
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Well I don't expect anything back, but to have some reciprocity from people that consider themselves "friends" would be nice. It's going to suck even more if I do disappear and they start to wonder or say to themselves that I really was after something and never got it as the reason for my disappearance.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 03:49 AM
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Because men are all thot destroyers in some form or fashion. Some men destroy thots with their genitals and others with their words.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 03:26 AM
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Welp cheers to that. Guess we're riding the Titanic into the iceberg together.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 03:20 AM
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I mean, I'm of the opinion that you can't ask or beg for people to start treating you better. It's not a good look, and it basically sounds like you're accusing them of doing something wrong when they didn't know or think that they were doing anything wrong. It's not like we can set what level of reciprocity or friendship our friends function at. Anyway, I think I could maybe just ask them what they'd do about a hypothetical situation (mine) and voice how I feel in a general way that applies to …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 03:11 AM
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Meh. I'm okay. Have an appt. set up in the not so distant future to speak to a therapist about this and other issues, but the long and short of it is that I don't have many friends and my family is not very large either, so for the small group of friends that I do have in my life, I treat extremely well. The problem is that it isn't reciprocated. Often times, I feel like some of them are appreciative but don't want me around longer than they feel necessary, while some others think that I want so…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 03:05 AM
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Question 4 all: What would you do if you felt undervalued and underappreciated by everyone you know? Dump all of them and disappear? Cuz that's what I'm leaning toward.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 02:38 AM
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Sounds like she's projecting.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 02:34 AM
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Men know that it's better to be born male. The guys that are complaining are the ones born into unlucky situations. That is, their genetics suck. They're top-heavy, smooth-bodied unathletic, geeky, acne-prone, patchy facial haired guys who's faces look like a pareidolic pile of rocks.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 02:31 AM
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Yes, there is. Step 1: Find mature woman. Jokes aside, you have to find one that you can be yourself with, not one that you put on some persona to get. Soon as you start acting out of character, she's going to be looking for the door. As for your second question, women are very emotional themselves, and men who are dramatic are the best at evoking emotion from women. Women really want to feel their feelings and those of their partner in a relationship. If there is none, they'll start to second-g…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 02:23 AM
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Sad, but I know some that have. The old-fashioned people are still out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 02:13 AM
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It's being half red and half blue, or what another person on here might say, neither red nor blue. It's its own distinct thing with no relation to its parts whatsoever. Anyway, it's being able to see the other side and not just one side's opinion as being the most valid or true, or recognizing that there's some truth on both sides.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 04:00 PM
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Ye. Glad to hear that life is going well for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 03:48 PM
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K
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 03:46 PM
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What does knowing yourself mean ? Exactly that. A lot of people lack mindfulness or introspection in their lives because they're always so focused on other external things that they forget to connect with themselves. Thus they don't realize when their body is telling them one thing (often, horny) while their brain might tell them something else if they listened more (this person isn't right for you, don't get involved with them). How does knowing what you want relate to your perception of self ?…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 05:29 AM
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Courage is being afraid to do something (or uncertain of your ability to do it) but still doing it anyway. People standing up to others who have some kind of power over them is courageous. People risking their own lives to save others is courageous. Confidence is not courage. Confidence is knowing yourself and being able to make decisions based on that knowledge. A man has confidence when he knows what he wants in life and from others, and that includes being able to say no to the things he does…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 03:18 AM
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You're mistaking confidence with courage.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 02:38 AM
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Nah. Confidence is about knowing yourself and what you want. It has nothing to do with other men's capabilities or inadequacies.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 02:36 AM
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That's possibly because you have meaning attached to your idea of relationships that was implanted into your head by modern media (movies, books, romanticized perspectives from other people). There would be a reason for the other person to do this that you aren't really thinking about here. Nobody would do those things for you specifically "just because." The reason is because they like something about you specifically, such as you provide something to them, whether it be sex, mutual companionsh…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 02:15 AM
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I'm not the person you were responding to... but it is strange to assume this is the primary reason people want a relationship. At the base level, that's what it can be summarized into. The things you listed in the other two sentences below are derivatives of that. You want companionship (someone to be there with you when you want/need them there) and sex (same as companionship except with more physical sensation that feels good to you personally). Our brains rationalize it as something else, li…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 01:20 AM
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By "get anyone," do you mean relationship? If so, I think you might want to reflect on what exactly it is that you're looking for. A long time ago, I came to the conclusion that most people seek romantic relationships out of selfishness. That is, romantic love is selfish and pursued for personal satisfaction/gratification despite the focus seemingly being on the other person. You want someone who appreciates and values you because you feel like nobody does, so why don't you do it yourself? I kno…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 12:47 AM
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Yes. Far better to be alone in these times than to be with people who will drain you of your time and energy and rob you of your peace of mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 12:20 AM
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There’s lots of women who would value an average guy. Easy to say. Hard to show. He at least has to have something about him that sets him apart from other men that the woman may know. If he's plainly average in all categories (hypothetical scenario), then I don't think so, unless they're just looking for someone and the average guy is better than nothing. The problem here seems to be that all those average guys want above-average women!! Seems like the problem is the same for both sides. Let's …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 12:15 AM
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-facepalm- I don't think there's an analogy that would properly explain this to you in a manner you would understand, so I won't bother trying to explain anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 12:07 AM
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No, I'm saying that if you find yourself unable to be attracted to anyone whom you were previously not interested in after getting to know them, then you might probably be more shallow/materialistic than the average person.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 11:59 PM
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I’m speaking about this as a girl who had a major glow-up in college. Ah, that explains a lot. As for the rest of your post, I see a lot of superficial stuff, which again makes sense because you're a woman. You don't have to be a total package for a man unless said man wants a total package woman. Men have to more or less be a total package for women to come and stick around, unless she's one of those rare women that values the simple things and would stick by a pudgy, average-looking guy who br…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 11:55 PM
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an STI Disgusting people and their STIs.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 11:40 PM
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Being well-rounded is not that hard if you prioritize it. You can't prioritize natural life experience. It comes when it does, not when you want it to. I'm also not just talking about acting like a generally good person, either. I'm talking about a real, internalized, holistic understanding of life and people. You have to have your own polished philosophy on life in this context, and that can't be rushed.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 11:23 PM
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Not always and not with everyone. It doesn't have to be always or with everyone. That's not what the post was asking for anyway. In many cases, it can, and it does. In your personal case, it does not. You might just be a bit more shallow/materialistic than other people, and that's fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 11:04 PM
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Nah. Men need to stop fighting with women over their pussies and invest in their own personal growth. If a man does that, he will get women by proxy. It's simple. The reason for this is because women cannot physically compete with men, so it is and has been women's sexual strategy to invest in men who have the tools to obtain things which provide stability and comfort - thereby gaining access to the man and those things. Men who invest their time and energy into women are wasting their time and …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 11:01 PM
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Nah. It takes more than that. If they want to get and keep a woman, they have to be a total package, as well as in frequent proximity of those women. Do you know how much work is required for someone to look good, be mentally well-adjusted, financially stable, and have good social skills? It will take much longer than spending a few months at the gym. The "mentally well-adjusted" and "good social skills" parts will take years to gain that experience and knowledge. For some people, it'll take a l…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 10:49 PM
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In the case of a hypothetical 50% bisexual person, yes, it means they are equally straight as they are gay. They like both the same sex and opposite sex equally. However, in this case it would be more like 55% straight/gay and 45% gay/straight, as in "I like men and women, but I have a preference for _____." I'm just trying to explain it in a way that you'll understand, which is proving to not be easy. Also, being bisexual doesn't automatically give you insight or expertise in sexuality. Intelli…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 10:25 PM
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It still happens. A lot of people are old-fashioned when it comes to relationships. Less common with today's youth because they're not cultured and don't have enough life experience to weigh the differences, but there are plenty of Millennials out there who are old-fashioned.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 10:20 PM
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Lol. This thing you call a "spark" is bs. I laugh when people use that term because it means everything and nothing. If you find something particularly attractive about a person's appearance, great. If they're physically attractive, then there's probably many other people drawn to the same thing you are. There's nothing special about that because it's very common. The OP is asking whether or not people really think personality can override the lack of conventionally attractive physical traits, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 10:17 PM
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Negative. "Bisexual" would be closer to the middle of the scale. There aren't hard, rigid lines of "you're either 100% straight, like men and women equally, or 100% gay." People can be 90% straight, 80% straight, 60% straight, etc. Around 50% is what we'd call bisexual. To put things into perspective, I'm saying that men would usually cluster around the (let's say) 80% mark and above while women would be more scattered between the 100% and 50% marks. I hope that illustrates the situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 04:15 PM
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That would be true if the "sex" part of "Sexual Market Value" were present. Women are usually giving duty sex to men in these situations to protect their livelihood. They're not automatically sexually attracted to men who have money and status. They just want the money and the benefits that the man's status brings.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 04:06 PM
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I'll explain something to you, internet person. Physical attraction, once it passes through the filter of the mind, is not objective. That's the meaning behind the saying "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder." A person can be attracted to physically attractive and physically unattractive people for different reasons. The attraction in this case are feelings created by dopamine and oxytocin. They're released when looking at people, and also when having pleasant interactions or experiences. So, i…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 04:03 PM
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Women are more sexually fluid than men are. Men will be friends with other men, but men who are straight aren't going to start bending over for other men just for companionship. Women are a bit different in that regard. Even though they're "straight," it may not be a strong "straight."
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 03:24 PM
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Gross. This cultural attitude needs to die. "Be reckless and sleep with dozens of strangers because this is the only time you'll be able to in your life!!!" /s
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 04:16 AM
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All you're really saying here is "Let women be immature and act like teenagers with more legal freedoms to explore for an extra 10 years." Women should focus on bettering themselves and learning to identify and secure a good man in their 20's so they don't run the risk of having to settle for someone while playing catch up later on. Let's not advocate for a haphazard lifestyle absent of personal values and standards. People who hold themselves to values and standards in the face of a carefree "f…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 04:11 AM
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To be fair, people with no spine aren't respected by anyone, woman or man. In this case, we're just focusing on one half of the equation.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 03:59 AM
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Don't respect =/= hate.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 01:43 AM
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Because it's not as important for the former to be sexually attractive, while it is for the latter. A lot of fat women "become" lesbians just so they don't have to be totally alone. Gay men and straight women are also similar in that they focus on their own external appearance more than the people looking at them do.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 01:19 AM
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