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The average woman has far more experience with men than the average man has with women, unless you don't believe the hype that every half decent women has men throwing themselves at them. You jump from "average woman" to "half decent woman." The average woman is half decent and has men throwing themselves at her? I doubt that. I'm sure you'd like to believe that women have more experience with men than the reverse, but that's a claim you have no evidence for. This is simply not true. Most men wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 02:54 AM
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That makes sense. So you'd also more likely spread the information that the girl you know gave you about said guy as well, correct?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 02:49 AM
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With this, its more like: Man hears woman do something/respond in certain way. Man also hears similar cases of women doing something/responding in a certain way. Man asks question and gets a response or responses of women doing the same thing/acting the same way. He is more convinced that this is a behavioral trend among women. In my case, it's: woman hears something about man. Woman instantly believes it without question. Woman sees man and reacts differently toward him due to this information.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 01:00 AM
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That's bullshit, the "other woman" has plenty of experience with other men behaving the same. That would be an assumption, unless you're going to tell me that women believe that all men are creepy, abusive, murdering rapists simply because some men are, which I already know isn't true because they wouldn't go near men if they did. The women believe each other for the same reason as the men, because they've seen it from many other men, so it's equally likely that this dude, she doesn't know, is t…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 12:55 AM
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They don't know if Jenny is hypergamous, they have no confirmation of it, but they believe she is because some guy said all women are... No, they don't simply believe it because some guy said it. They believe it because they've seen it a lot of times in many other women, so while it isn't exactly going to be true for every single woman, it's more likely that it will be. How is that any different than some chick thinking Mike is a dick because some other chick said he is? Because the other women …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 12:43 AM
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No, it's not the same. At all. It may make sense in your head but it isn't. One is about noting behavior of multiple people and generalizing it to most or all women while the other is about hearing news about one person and believing it without confirmation.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 12:34 AM
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Men don't really do this though. Men are more likely to confront and confirm whereas women have issues with confronting people so they almost never do.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 12:29 AM
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No, this definitely isn't the same. What you're saying about goes something like: Male streamer: "Women are like this. They'll do X and Y and Z." Men: "Yeah that's true, I've had numerous experiences with them doing exactly that." The situation I'm talking about is more like: Woman: "Oh, do you know Michael? He did X and it made me so uncomfortable. He's such a creep." Other woman/women: "Oh my god! I don't know him very well but yeah he sounds like a creep. I'm glad you're okay and I definitely…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 12:27 AM
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You're talking about a specific group of men, whereas I'm talking about a large percentage of the female population. I don't think what you're talking about is comparable.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 12:17 AM
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Paying money to do what?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/23 12:04 AM
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So, you didn't confirm. You waited for some other claim different from the first and said "that proves it." Am I interpreting that correctly?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 11:56 PM
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I don't think that's a similar situation. I think that's just them saying that they don't like girl #1 and don't really care about anything she says. All other cases will end in groupthink.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 11:54 PM
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How did you confirm?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 11:52 PM
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Well good on ya. Wish other women didn't either, but that's why I gotta ask the question.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 11:46 PM
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Nudes only profiles?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 11:45 PM
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Typically? That's a pretty generous assertion, and one that I'd disagree with. "The devil's in the details," as it were. A lot of the time, people leave out important context which might include bad behavior on their part and only leaving the conclusion that X person is crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 11:44 PM
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That's not why they do it. Women seem more likely to accept information without confirming and then pass it around as though it were already true.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 11:39 PM
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I don't invest in crypto.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 11:35 PM
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No, this happens with complete strangers as well. Friend A has experience with a man that Friend B has met before but doesn't really know. Friend A makes a claim to Friend B about the man and Friend B begins treating the man differently because of it without ever asking what happened. I've noticed that this is a very common phenomenon with women so that's why I'm asking why women behave this way. I know that women are more averse and cautious of the world around them, but taking the words of som…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 11:34 PM
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I gots another hot question: Why do women simply listen to the claims of other people without question? Most commonly, if women are gossiping and one woman says something, the others instantly react to it as if it were true instead of asking probing questions to confirm. It happens a lot where men are involved as well. Woman makes a claim that a man was "stalking" her or abusing her or anything that sounds bad and the others immediately accept it at face value. Additionally, if they know the man…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 11:27 PM
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I'm saying if we were actually picking a gym girl, the on the left is the one we want, not the one on the right. Most guys just want their women to be attractive and make an effort to stay healthy. She doesn't have to be a gym girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 07:14 PM
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Hmmmmm... I'm not sure if I would agree. I've seen it go either way. Some people who have been traumatized develop the tendency to traumatize others. I think it's a defense mechanism to prevent it from happening to them again by becoming the aggressor instead of the victim. There are people who work through it and become better people but I don't know if that comes with age or because they're just more self-aware people.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 05:40 PM
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Why appreciate people with past traumas? Is that assuming that they have worked through them and are more aware or better people because of it?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 05:23 PM
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A friend of mine is considering trying to do that with this girl he was trying to be with and recently got away from. He says he wants to go back and I'm like 🤦🏽🤷🏽‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 05:22 PM
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Sounds like a plan.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 05:20 PM
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Sad part is there's a lot of undiagnosed people or people with a mixed bag of personality disorder traits out there and a lot of people aren't aware of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 05:19 PM
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Q4All: would you choose to be in a relationship with someone who you knew had a personality disorder (Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Borderline Personality Disorder, Antisocial Personality Disorder, Paranoid Personality Disorder, Histrionic Personality Disorder, Schizoid Personality Disorder, etc.)?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 05:05 PM
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Of course. Nearly all women are in their own world, innit?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 02:54 PM
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The difficult part is talking to the stranger, not walking up to them. That's usually where most people fail. Anxiety from walking up is caused by the dread of needing to speak. Its always worse to approach someone without a valid reason which is why nobody feels anxious about approaching a stranger to return something they dropped or because someone else was calling to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 04:55 AM
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From fear or anxiety, maybe.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 04:49 AM
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The problem with women "approaching" is that even when a woman approaches a man, she still expects him to act as though he approached her and move the conversation toward exchanging numbers and going out on a date. All that's basically going on in their mind is "Okay, here I am. I made it easy for you, now ask me for my number."
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 04:24 AM
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It's yamete and it means "please, daddy."
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 04:19 AM
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Well they're living a certain lifestyle with certain rules and restrictions. With what I'm talking about, you'd have a lot of your freedom but you'd have to provide mostly for yourself and if people want to give you something in return for your good deeds.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 04:18 AM
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Of course it is, but that's what makes it worth it. You can't do something for yourself and get the same outcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 04:16 AM
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No, they've bloomed. They just haven't amounted to much. Not all flowers are beautiful. "Late-bloomers" are people who do exactly that - bloom late.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 04:14 AM
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Most people are only doing those things when it's convenient for them though, like when they have nothing better to do or because they have something to gain from it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 03:55 AM
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Well yeah, that's what "living destitute" means here lol. You can't just work your regular job then come out at 6pm for an hour or two and then head back home. You gotta sacrifice a little more than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 03:53 AM
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I'm doubtful that I'd find them in most places. People be selfish.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 03:50 AM
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Yes, they will. With the media continuing to report and spreading the idea, and with people's mental health on the decline, there will be more cries for help in the form of violence against others. It's an inverse relationship of how people choose to handle stress. Some internalize, implode and hurt themselves while others externalize, explode and hurt others.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 03:29 AM
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Because you'd have more time to serve the public if you don't work most of the day. It's not about what's more convenient.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 03:26 AM
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If they do, it's because they're behind everyone else their age. They look at every other guy with a career and past relationships and looks like the typical image of a man in his age group, and then there's the late-bloomer who is lagging 5 to 10 years behind, maybe still in college, still hasn't gotten the career up and going yet, probably never been married yet, not too many relationships to speak of, still looks and dresses younger than he "should," etc. In other words, they don't fit the ae…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 03:24 AM
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I mean, have you ever taken any of the good advice you've been given? Depends on whether or not I thought it was good advice. A lot of people just have advice that worked for them but not most other people, so it is a lot of wasted breath in that regard. I don't have a lot of general advice for dealing with anxiety or mood changes, but I'm good at giving situational advice with relationships and other social situations. Writing letters or journaling isn't something that would work on me so I'd b…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 03:16 AM
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Understandable. It's not the choice for most people, surely.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 03:12 AM
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For sure. What I imagined was more like a disciple of Jeebus who did things for the good of humanity rather than the physical reward. It's definitely not a path that most people would take, but I'm curious to see who would.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 03:10 AM
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For sure, I think it would be interesting especially if it gained a bit of a following like the failed "Pay It Forward" movie movement back in 2000. I'm also pretty confident in my skills as a level-headed thinker and advice-giver.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 03:08 AM
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This scenario I created is mostly focused on the work being done for the sake of helping others. Most people are only doing a job helping others because they get paid to do it, not because it's their genuine passion to help others, so I took away the financial part to see who would continue helping others for the sake of doing good instead of being compensated for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 02:50 AM
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Why not? :(
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 02:29 AM
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Damn you stole my automod response.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 02:28 AM
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Noice. Glad the Chavs are at least doing something other than shivving people in the streets.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 02:27 AM
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Q4All: would you live a destitute life of servitude helping others as long as you never went hungry? Basically, you are single, make a meager income, and your "Job" is essentially that you work for free helping people with random acts of kindness that you're capable of doing, kind of like an unofficial wandering volunteer. You might work an actual job part-time to help pay bills, but during your off-time, you're going to a new location everyday and helping strangers. I just thought of an idea wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 02:21 AM
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Ay it's a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 02:03 AM
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Same experience of women approaching in Europe?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 02:03 AM
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Yeah but since when did their opinions matter?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 12:30 AM
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Stressing about dating isn't worth it because a lot of people are settling for the best they believe they already have, not the absolute best there is. Everyone is better off living their lives and not thinking too seriously about anything because a minority of people out there are actually worth stressing over. <sup>Beep boop.</sup>
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 11:36 PM
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I think they mean people having or expecting sex immediately when dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 11:30 PM
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I'd date her. She's cute, knows the smart thing to do in those questions about finances, and seems reasonable.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 11:20 PM
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Yes, some people can eat whatever they want and not gain any weight because of their genetics or metabolism or they have tapeworms.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 11:14 PM
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For Americans, it does.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 11:13 PM
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It looks like they grabbed the second dude off the street
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 09:58 PM
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I found a song for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 09:56 PM
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Right, but I'm talking about in regards to identity. It's fine to let kids know that gay, trans and "queer" people exist, although nobody needs to because they'll be able to see that on their own, but not to teach them about it as an identity. If they're curious about it, they'll go looking on their own. We don't need classrooms full of children being told that they might be gay or trans or any of the other 6736564 sexualities by some wacky liberal teacher bringing their identity politics into t…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 09:46 PM
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I personally don't think it's a good thing because it ends up with kids becoming confused about who they are if they don't fit neatly into either box (traditionally/stereotypically feminine or traditionally/stereotypically masculine). They need to grow into their own bodies first before considering that they "are _____" and trying to conform to that identity because they think it's who they are. Many lost and confused kids get influenced by the LGBTQ community into thinking that they're gay, bi,…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 09:37 PM
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Most women are naturally skinny without any exercise or dieting Lol no. Women that are "naturally skinny without any exercise or dieting" are barely eating to stay skinny or have some kind of eating disorder tied with their image issues. If you think that women can sit around eating all day and stay "naturally skinny without any exercise or dieting," you are delusional.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 09:26 PM
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I don't need a #GymGirl but it's a plus if she shows that she takes care of herself. Some regular exercise and eating healthy with few unhealthy things here and there is fine. I don't want a blob that comes home from work and eats for the rest of the day while watching Netflix/Hulu/etc. Edit: Most guys would prefer somewhere around here, not here.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 09:23 PM
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Uh no. If you're sharing money in an account and your partner is bad with money, that's a problem that needs to be addressed by either learning to manage money right now or by breaking up.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 07:27 PM
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Women are less violent, aggressive, and rapey than men no matter where they are in the world. They're also more empathetic, more self-sacrificing, and more generous. Not by choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 07:24 PM
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I mean this isn't really a controversial opinion. All men have to learn how to approach women since women don't really approach at all. That means that men bare the risk of making women uncomfortable and it then becomes a game of "How to approach a woman in the least conspicuous way possible." It would help if people could be more transparent and stop with the games, but we for some reason just can't have that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 07:20 PM
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Sounds like you're describing your own personal taste and applying it to what women like while your boyfriend is wrong about women liking Chris Hemsworth because you don't. I searched this Chishiya character and the actor playing him still has a certain type of face that women would go for. He has angular features but the hair gives him an androgynous flair. His more aggressive-looking features would pop out without it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 07:16 PM
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Psychology today is pretty often cited in informal spaces Yes, usually by people who quickly googled something and copy-pasted the first or second search result without reading it because they think it says what they want it to say. I was aware of the research but I had to find a citation. 2015 isn't a long time when it comes to scientific research. It is when your own source doesn't draw any conclusions at all. Further down the page, it basically says that they're guessing as to what the reason…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 07:10 PM
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I can see why you abstain from society. That's enough of a reason to right there.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 06:02 PM
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Jeebus. Sounds like you got tossed into a barrel and rolled down a hill for the first part of your life. Hope the rest ends on a much better note with a free buffet and sexy hookers at the bottom of that hill.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 05:34 PM
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I see women on social media saying it irl so they're out there saying it irl. I suppose it might be situational as well. When they're out and feeling good about themselves, they're "10s," but when they're chilling with their friends, the number is still probably not accurate but more modest.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 05:29 PM
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No probs
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 05:18 PM
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Dang. That is both interesting and rough. I can't imagine starting puberty at 15. How has that been?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 05:18 PM
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Maybe
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 05:12 PM
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A large percent of the population uses social media and most of them are women.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 05:12 PM
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That's a magazine article from 2015 lol. You just Googled that on the spot didn't you? I can tell.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 05:07 PM
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How can they know a stereotype is wrong if it's not really a stereotype and seems to be common among people enough to see it regularly?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 05:05 PM
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Know what though?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 05:02 PM
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I mean, it is true though. I understand that men's and women's hormones will be (inversely) proportional to their biological sex, but women on average do have lower libido compared to men. Their libido is also functionally different as said in a different comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 05:01 PM
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Men are the ones who rate themselves higher looks wise. This is an assumption. Where proof?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 04:57 PM
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Ah, okay. Had to doublecheck. I mean, comparatively, that is still high within the "normal" range. I believe around 500 is considered the "average" for men while men who have 800 are noticeably different from men around that average.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 04:54 PM
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Interesting. Thanks for the info. However, according to another comment, a woman's T level at 50 would be considered higher than normal, so I think that would have similar outcomes that anyone with higher than normal T levels would experience (given that everything is still balanced).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 04:49 PM
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Not exactly. They're both steps in the learning process. Knowing something is right above internalizing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 04:41 PM
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I say this a lot here. The biggest problem dudes have on this sub is you are trying to hard to make this logical and scientific. Y’all analyze your way into celibacy. Had to jump on the computer for this one. We are talking about the process of sex, like the actual process and how it works. Basically, we're the same as mechanics talking about the specific, technical ins and outs of how cars work. Then here you come saying "My dude listen. It doesn't matter. Cars can take you places. They have en…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 04:39 PM
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Yeah idk about that. Doesn't seem to really be a stereotype anymore when a large group of people report seeing the same thing. If we can acknowledge that men and women have different, distinct behaviors, then we can also admit that some of them might not be good behaviors.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 04:24 PM
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I have seen demonizing of women for no reason at all in other cultures, Also equally possible that you just didn't know the reason?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 04:18 PM
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This seems to be a species-wide problem though. Men and women both give women passes for almost no reason. I'm starting to think it has something to do with infantilization and the desire to protect.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 04:12 PM
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But they also are way smaller. Not "way" smaller. Most women are only a few inches shorter than most men. The other reasons you're listing are because they have less testosterone. They don't have less testosterone because they're smaller. can have less testosterone and still have the same sex drive. No. It's functionally different. Women's sex drives are more reactive than active, meaning that an attractive man will turn them on just like an attractive woman turns men on, but most women don't ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 04:06 PM
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I got a hot question: Why is it that women are mostly assumed to be doing everything right or putting in their share of effort automatically? Women assume themselves to be "worth it" while men have to prove it. Women all rate themselves very highly ("I'm a 10") without any justification. Women are assumed to be putting in their share of the effort while dating, in relationships, in the bedroom, etc., while any failure or dissatisfaction with any of these things usually falls on the man to accoun…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 03:53 PM
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Noice.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 02:46 PM
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Depends on how you do it. I got a decent amount of compliments and positive responses when I dressed in solid color dress shirts, pants and dress shoes in college. As long as you don't look like a bag of ass or a McDonald's manager, I'd encourage men to do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 02:39 PM
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That's the zoomers lol. When I was 12, I was looking at hentai and nude pics because the porn quality sucked back then.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 02:32 PM
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Untrue. Glasses make some people look better. It's also shown that glasses make people appear smarter because in general, people with higher intelligence have poorer eyesight for some reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 02:26 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 02:18 PM
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Depends on what European country you live in, but in Europe, the culture is mostly the opposite of the US, in that women do the approaching.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 02:17 PM
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Yeah, those "right person"-s seem to be abusive and manipulative men.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 02:13 PM
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A woman would go absolutely nuts if she had the testosterone equivalent to a low T man. Most women DO have the testosterone equivalent to a low T man. Hormonally speaking, women are low-T men.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 02:12 PM
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People have always been pretty fickle. Hard times and lowered social standards have just allowed people to act how they really want.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 02:07 PM
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No. I know it's different.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 01:19 PM
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It can but that's usually called "going dutch" as opposed to "splitting the bill" right down the middle and both people pay half.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 05:49 AM
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No, it doesn't. You're both paying for each other at different times when you pay in turns. Splitting the bill is paying for yourself except one person is paying partly for the other if they both didn't buy the exact same things. Otherwise, there wouldn't be a point in splitting the bill.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 05:42 AM
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Yes, it is payment. Both people spending money on each other doesn't cancel everything out as if neither of you did.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 05:36 AM
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Mostly money but things acquired with money also count.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 05:34 AM
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In a way, you did, yes. Dating is transactional in that way. Neither of you got where you are now for free. The real question is whether you could have.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 05:30 AM
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Well there ya go.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 05:23 AM
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Yeah if the women like you. It's not really based off anything objective. If they like you, you're good (even if you're not), and if they don't like you, you're either a weirdo, a creep, an asshole, or all of the above and you also have a small dick (even if none of that is true except for the last part which was a lucky guess).
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 05:21 AM
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The inverse reality. Gotta love it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 05:18 AM
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Mostly yeah, but it comes in verbal form when someone has to tell you to read the room.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 05:18 AM
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"Read the room" means "be perceptive of what people are thinking and feeling." It's sort of like when you're walking into a room full of people after leaving a good time with your friends and everyone is standing around not saying anything with solemn looks on their faces. It's obvious that something bad happened but you're still in party mode and haven't noticed yet so you come in making a lot of noise and trying to be chummy with people until someone approaches you and quietly says "can't you …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 04:50 AM
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Man that's kinda scary, honestly. I think groups like that are problematic for dating because one bad experience with some crazy bitch means she's going to tell everyone that you're an asshole or some other person to avoid and of course women will take her at her word without ever confirming for themselves because that's what women do. Especially those types of women who join gossip groups.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 04:39 AM
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Then they eat each other out and that's free :D
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 04:35 AM
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I prefer Connect Once.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 04:34 AM
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Sounds interesting but be prepared because it sounds like the only women that'll be on there are paranoid drama-prone gossipers and crazies.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 04:32 AM
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The idea is that all men pay for sex in one form or another if they're with a woman. If he's spent money on you in the past, that counts. There aren't many women out there that a guy can simply talk to without spending any money on in some way, shape or form that will have sex with him on a consistent basis.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 04:29 AM
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If you don't get approached by women as a man you can safely assume you're *in North America.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 04:27 AM
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I'm only going off of the OPs post. The US is the fattest country in the world because of the dietary structure and unhealthy relationship with food, yes, but if that's what we're talking about, then we should stay on topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 04:25 AM
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Women asking has been trending upwards for decades. <1% to <5% isn't a huge jump. Not even worth mentioning, honestly. It will continue to increase in frequency. Time will tell, but probably not as much as is needed, and definitely not 50%. Equality is a BS concept that never applies to the people wanting it. What they really wanted was equity. Dating patterns take time to change. It's only been within the last 30-40 years that women have been able to gain more financial independence to pay for …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 01:44 AM
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How many people would agree that if you can take someone's value away from them (i.e., basically most physical things) then they weren't really that valuable? I'm of the opinion that most of a person's value comes from their internal qualities, like their outlook on life, their desire to want to see others happy and well, the effort they put forth to accomplish things, all of their acquired knowledge and understanding of the world around them, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 01:34 AM
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Which is almost always going to be men by default because women rarely ever ask. They know that men will because they expect men to, so this opinion is bunk.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 01:28 AM
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For sure. I guess what I'm saying is that self-centeredness or actual blatant selfishness from a partner or partners in a relationship is more a symptom of problems exiting than the cause of those problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 01:26 AM
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Which "discussions" are you talking about? There's the "I like overweight women because some of them are still hot" discussion that you reference in the top portion of the post, and then there's the "overweight women are gross and nasty" which are the unattractive overweight women you're referencing in the bottom of the post.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 01:14 AM
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Disagree to a point. From what I've noticed, people generally become more selfish in relationships when their needs aren't being met. If they're being neglected or abused by their partner, or have other problems outside of the relationship such as financial, career or social, they become more self-centered and that's what leads to more problems in their relationship. People seek out relationships typically for selfish reasons, but the focus is on the object of their feelings = the other person.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 01:12 AM
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Post is true. Women do this in many other situations to avoid saying the truth. The tactics are deflect by changing the subject detract focus by generalizing or whataboutism ad-hominem attacks
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 08:45 PM
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Yes, women are more needy than men. Women typically desire more expensive lifestyles than men, and typically want men around so they have someone to do things for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 08:32 PM
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Yes and no. Really depends on who you're saying it to. People who don't know what love is probably won't find it because they don't know what it looks like. Also, I think there are people who are just unlovable. Their personalities are so grating or toxic that nobody would want to be around them for too long. No matter how long they wait, love isn't likely to come to them. However, if you're a person that is making the effort to change and improve, then looking too hard for love might not be the…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 08:30 PM
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Then I'd say you don't know what "society" is.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 01:09 AM
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For sure, but it seems people have a hard time admitting that.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 01:09 AM
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Sorry but unless you're on the spectrum and don't understand, most dating communication happens non-verbally. Matter of fact, most of what we communicate to others is non-verbal. People aren't talking this out like you're imagining. They're making assumptions and waiting for the other person to do something that tells them how to respond next. There is no "hey, just to be clear, I'm only doing this because I'm interested and I want to be in a relationship with you in the future." Especially not …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 01:07 AM
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Apparently not.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 12:07 AM
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Lol. Someone reported me for harassment. If it was someone in here, grow up and maybe start living in reality if the truth hurts you that much.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 11:41 PM
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Transactional relationships require consent. I hope you realize this is all happening implicitly and non-verbally. Consent doesn't have to be a verbal admission. That's where the "covert" part comes in. Overt would be what you're talking about, where everything is all out in the open and plainly understood by both parties.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 09:58 PM
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Can't really argue for that when women see themselves as a resource. My point stands. If women don't want to be seen as a resource, they need to stop being the cause of that problem, and it's a quite a bit more than just "some women" here. Females of different species exchange sex for resources. Its a legit behavioral trait among animals, if you didn't know. There's also an experiment where chimpanzees were taught to use money and the females began exchanging sex for money. More proof for you th…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 09:31 PM
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I think you're confused here. The men and women we're talking about are already in the minority......
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 09:08 PM
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women being used as a resource against their will. That's the part you seem to be confused about. Multiple times it's been said already that women are not "being used as a resource against their will." They are willfully doing it on their own, to themselves. They are the cause of their own problem that the OP is stating.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 09:07 PM
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You can’t do this to attractive men because they have options. Lol. Are you speaking theoretically in your own opinion or are you speaking literally?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 08:57 PM
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Sorry but your logic still doesn't check out. "Woman-kind" aren't being used as a resource against their wills.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 08:25 PM
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That's not what I said. I'd recommend reading again. Depending on the woman, they'll make the attractive guys do the same too. Attractive men can still fail if they don't check the woman's boxes. Some women just have fewer boxes. That's probably what you're getting hung up on.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 08:23 PM
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Welp. When you're right, you're right.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 08:17 PM
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Actually no, the draft and voluntarily signing up for the military are not the same thing at all because the draft is forced and there is no choice. If women had no choice but to use sex to get what they wanted, then your comparison would be more accurate, but alas, it's not.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 07:54 PM
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I never knew society changed. Yes a lot of things have been happening over the last 30 years. Where’s the brochure for the update? Or should we just ask you how things work I'd recommend brushing up on recent and current events and history over the last 60 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 07:40 PM
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It can be both.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 07:28 PM
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It's by priority. Men being the larger demographic of the two makes it more of a priority to address their problems first.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 07:21 PM
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Not really, but you can think so if you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 07:18 PM
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If there are more men that are being affected by societal changes than there are women, then it makes sense to focus on men more since they're the larger demographic. Focusing on everyone equally when they're being affected by different problems isn't the solution or the answer to the OPs post.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 06:48 PM
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The men she wan't does not want her, Right, and because those women are only going after more attractive men who don't want them, that's why they are alone. It's not the same reason why their equals of the opposite sex are alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 06:30 PM
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Yeah, I disagree. If you're saying that there's just as many women as there are men sitting around sad and lonely because nobody wants them, I'm hesitant to believe that. In most cases, they're alone because they rejected the men that have shown interest, even if that number is much lower than their more attractive peers have been getting.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 06:08 PM
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Not true. Women do this with dating as well. They expect men to do certain things that cater to their fantasies and if they fail to do so, like plan "the perfect date" and be the perfect guy, then he's not getting in her panties. For the attractive guys, they've already fulfilled the biggest requirement, which is being attractive, and they may or may not have to do a little more, depending on the woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 06:04 PM
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this hypothetical woman never agreed to like some guy back because he was nice. And she doesn't have to. That's why it has nothing to do with consent. OP is claiming that the actual problem isn't the problem and injecting "consent" into the situation as though women have to consent to some perceived relationship that those men are trying to push onto women. In other words, OP is making women out to be victims here with a baseless claim that neither applies nor makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 05:53 PM
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No. It's basically a covert "quid pro quo" contract, as in "I expect x, y, and z to be done, and until they are done, you get no sex." Most commonly seen in marriage but can be seen all across the dating world as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 05:50 PM
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How about a different take: The world is like those men say that it is and there is no incentive for them to act differently or "mature" and improve themselves because there is no guarantee of success if they do. Many men improve themselves and mature and still fail, which points to the conclusion above. So, it seems more like society is the problem and those men don't have control over it, but society points the finger at them instead of itself because people feel justified in doing what they w…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 04:48 PM
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Look at the title and then reread the reply.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 04:26 PM
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Everyone has different values so the answers aren't going to be the same. Personally speaking, I think a "high value male" is a guy that is mature when it matters, knows who he is, what he wants and what's important in life, has good values, a sound mind and good judgement, and always seeks to improve and excel in all areas in his life. He doesn't have to be wealthy, conventionally attractive, and everything else that people might say in regard to this question.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 04:24 PM
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Sorry but women shoot themselves in the foot here by using sex as leverage, so if they don't want to be treated as a resource that is handed out for good behavior, then they should stop doing it to themselves first.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 04:16 PM
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I'm sorry but nobody is being forced into a relationship here, so consent is irrelevant. How exactly is it the woman that feels scammed here? The guys were likely told that all they had to do was "be nice" to women, so they were nice to women and nothing happened because that's not how it works. If anything, they were scammed. The woman had no intention of getting into a relationship so she's not being scammed out of anything she owns or possesses by accepting kindness from those men.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 04:14 PM
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Consent is just a word for permission or agree/agreement. I don’t think OP is directly talking about sex when they say that in title. "Permission" is not involved and not needed. OP talks like "nice guys" are trying to force women into a relationship and that's bollocks. I'm not sure what is hard to understand about that. Also, in most cases, these women were fine with going out with the guys until they began trying to steer things into a relationship. this hypothetical woman didn’t ever agree t…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 04:11 PM
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I'm sorry but you're confusing the effect for the cause. You're looking at men reacting/responding to the world and saying that they're the reason for the world treating them that way, which isn't really much different from a woman rejecting a man and using his reaction as justification for rejecting him. It's nonsense. It's a way to avoid saying the actual reason because nobody wants to take responsibility for being the reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 03:34 PM
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an old lady There's the problem. Nothing new here. It's easy to see that women have a trend of misinterpreting interest and are so ego-driven that they immediately start accusing instead of questioning whether they're viewing the situation accurately.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 03:25 PM
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No, the women don't like "nice guys" because the guys were just acting nice and expecting to be liked back because they were nice. It has nothing to do with "consent," which is a pretty nonsensical take, honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 03:19 PM
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Sounds like it's really all in her head.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 12:24 PM
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The 80's? No. Maybe the 50s and part of the 60s and 70s but things have gotten tougher for men as time progressed. It was easier before women started entering the workforce in large numbers because there was more jobs and the dollar was worth more.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 12:14 PM
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Sending dick pics is not a fetish. Exhibitionists would do far more than that, and not just to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 12:04 PM
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Maybe that never precludes you in believing in the next attractive stranger, I dunno. Well, I think a lot of people keep their hopes up if it seems like they can get attractive strangers, but the mounting failures will take their toll if it goes on for long enough. In my experience, women will keep holding out hoping for that one because that one is all they need, even if they're miserable until they get there.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 04:19 AM
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Lol. I guess the responses will be the same for nearly all of them unless you get that one Alaskan Bull Worm that's just too majestic and too glorious to give a generic rejection response to.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 04:14 AM
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Well if they did actually have a worm down there instead of a dick, I'd probably suggest the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 04:07 AM
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That would be great, but if there's any length of time spent around them, I'll start to get to know them and separate them by personality ("Sarah's a bitch, Jennifer is nice, I really like Rachel, Amanda is cool, etc,").
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 04:05 AM
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They're definitely out there, but I'd say only one or two out of a hundred. You may get lucky and find more if the women are horny, but that's about the average. Still, the more exaggerated the approach, the more exaggerated the response. Whether it's a big "worm" or a guy acting crazy and silly, women are more likely to respond than if it's a normal "worm" or a flat, simple approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 04:01 AM
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No I'm a man. But I feel like if I was in a woman's shoes this is how I would feel from like a strict game theory interpretation. Ah, I see. I mean you don't think they are questioning the motivations of an incredibly attractive guy approaching them if they are otherwise average? Not really. Logical thought usually goes out the window when an attractive stranger is talking to you. To the point I made in my original post, if some supermodel was interested in me, I'd know that it would be a one ti…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 03:55 AM
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They work with women who like them. It's more like fishing. They throw out the worm and see if they get a bite. There's a lot of waiting, but they eventually do get one if they've got the right bait and a good presentation.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 03:49 AM
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Men tend to go with what works or what they've heard works for other people, even if it doesn't work for them. Matter of fact, I think everyone does that. People do what they do because it worked for them or worked for someone else. Typically, the more exaggerated, abnormal or aggressive the approach, the greater the response, whether it be positive or negative, and most are hoping for the positive. Plain, boring and neutral is sure to get an equal response and nobody wants that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 03:41 AM
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Are you speaking from the perspective of a woman here? I don't think women are turning down supermodels or telling themselves that they're not attractive enough for people of that caliber. Whoever they catch looking and whoever is showing interest or approaching and trying to sleep with them - that's who they think they're good enough for, whether it be a shlubby guy or the supermodel. It's usually only when there is repeat failures with men that they want but can't get do they start thinking th…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 03:36 AM
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Meh. Once you're working together, you see more of who they are and less of what they look like. One semester in college, there was a very attractive woman in our class, like trophy wife material. Pretty face, slim, nice boobs, fat ass, all natural. Nearly every guy was zoned in on her while she was there at the start of the semester, but after being in class for so long, she just became a normal, albeit beautiful classmate.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 03:31 AM
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Then I shall pretend that you didn't. Your secret is safe with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 03:25 AM
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Maybe that's how those men show interest? Hate to say it but "Hey, how are you" doesn't get as much of a response as "Hi dear, show bobs and vagene please."
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 03:20 AM
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So you would then have diverging interests where you obviously want the most attractive man you could get, I'm not sure if any woman really knows what is the most attractive man they can (actually) get. If they're having sex with attractive men but can't get them to commit, then they can't get those men, try as they might. Maybe the most attractive man they can get is not all that attractive but they refuse to accept less because they think they can get better.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 03:17 AM
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I’ve noticed a lot of women posting memes and jokes about how they don’t believe in love or how fun it is to cheat. It’s even reached a point where I’ve seen Tik toks and had women admit that the men are starting to treat them better but they don’t care because being savage is a way of life lol. There’s even a trend encouraging women to hurt men when possible. Sounds like they love getting beat.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 03:13 AM
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It's not that they particularly "like" those traits. Men with those traits tend to be more charming because they have to be in order to manipulate people, and that's what the women like.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 03:09 AM
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Is them being attractive supposed to matter?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 03:07 AM
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It's because most men aren't gay. Therefore they cut men before they cut women. Women are also a bit more indecisive and more group oriented whereas men are a bit more individualized so no need for group benefits or affiliation.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 03:06 AM
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You absolutely can make fun of people who are fat. It's even easier to make fun of fat people because there is more of them to talk about.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 03:02 AM
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More than a handful of men would be interested in a committed relationship, but those women don't want those men for the committed relationship, and therein lies the problem of why nobody can be happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 03:01 AM
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Nah, it's everyone. Women aren't making up much of the difference there. Everyone needs to get up to the 120 or 130 range, which is one or two standard deviations, and would be a noticeable difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 02:59 AM
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Increasing the odds of something happening increases the likeliness you will experience luck I don’t know what you aren’t getting "Something happening" isn't luck. Unless you think that getting any woman to like and date a man is "lucky." Then you'd be correct. Do you think someone who isolated would have much opportunity to meet people and get lucky in meeting someone special? Or would a person who feels good about them self and likes meeting people have better opportunities to get lucky and me…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 02:57 AM
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Self-esteem does not impact luck. Luck happens apart from how you feel about yourself. You can't force luck to happen. Otherwise, it's not luck. It's only increasing your odds of something happening. Of course, you can say that you "miss 100% of the shots you don't take," but luck is something that makes an almost impossible shot happen. Luck is going about your life and something great happens unintentionally. You can't intend to be lucky. You have no control over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 02:01 AM
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Secretly 👁👁
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 12:47 AM
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Yeah. I thought not. Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 12:37 AM
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PCOS makes areolas larger and inner labia longer? 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 12:25 AM
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Untrue. Self-esteem doesn't have anything to do with luck. Some people are just more lucky and some people are unlucky. Their self-esteem doesn't contribute to it at all. It's actually more likely to be the inverse - luck boosts self-esteem. Self-esteem only has an effect on how you'll feel about your lot in life. Some people think poorly of themselves despite great success, and some people walk around with a smile and their head held high with almost no friends and the bare necessities.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 12:14 AM
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It's mostly all or a combination of these traits that I was talking about. Would you be fine with a woman exactly as described above just because she had long, dangly inner labia?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 11:59 PM
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How come women don't care if men have a physical preference, like big boobs or big ass. They do. They're heavily self-conscious about their bodies and how men's preferences make them feel if they're not included in those preferences. The most offended ones are the frumpy, egg-shaped women with small boobs, giant areolas, unusually thick body hair in non-typical locations like their ass, chest, neck, chin, and moustache area, and long, dangly inner labia, because they're not in anyone's preferenc…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 11:44 PM
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Yeah I would go see a doctor, if there isn't a specific instance that you can't pinpoint where or when it started happening.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 10:06 PM
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First day at the gym in a looong time. Feels pretty good to get your swole on. I think this period of leaving behind the shitty people in my life is going to be a good thing. Getting fit, reading all these goddamn books I have, learning Flamenco guitar and maybe a new language, focusing on my education and career situation, and just doing me. I also purchased "The Book of Disquiet" by Fernando Passeo after watching a YouTube video last night. Anyone familiar with it?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 10:04 PM
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She's got a nice body but face looks a bit manly. Don't know her personally so I can't say much more than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 09:58 PM
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Tell her that she made her choice a long time ago. Then Naruto-run away from her.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 09:55 PM
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Did this just start happening recently or has it been a long-time problem? I'm thinking maybe sickness related, like the flu or Cov, but not sure without more info.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 09:53 PM
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I don't personally think there is anything that anyone can deliberately do that will help their dating life. It's not as simple as "Do X, get Y." Relationships may be transactional and follow a logical pattern but attraction does not. There are people who are clinically depressed currently in relationships. There are people with mood and personality disorders currently in relationships right now. There are people who are near-broke or in poverty currently in relationships right now. There are pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 09:46 PM
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It's not just women. Both men and women cater their sexual advice toward making sure the woman is having a good time. I think it's just the natural tendency for mammals to want to protect the females at play here.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 09:18 PM
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Yeah but I think it was a normal weight for her before. She wasn't overweight at all and still looked better.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 09:05 PM
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Well it isn't but that's how people seem to handle sexual advice between men and women. Men: "Make sure she's comfortable and do what she likes." Women: "Make sure you're comfortable and tell him what you like."
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 05:18 PM
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Well sure but go better for who is the question.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 05:01 PM
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I'm also touching my search bar.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 04:49 PM
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The guys you're talking about here are having trouble just securing a date with a woman. You're going further down the line than their experience permits.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 04:44 PM
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Do you think if a woman asked the answers would be all about her comfort/pleasure? I've seen people basically respond the same way by saying "make sure you're comfortable and that you tell him what you want him to do." It's still mostly centered around the woman regardless of who asks.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 04:42 PM
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He's a virgin. The first time usually doesn't go very well. That's why he should focus on himself and getting used to it. Otherwise, he's only going to know how to please women and who knows what they're doing in return.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 04:40 PM
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Well unless the clit is on women's foreheads, it hardly has any relevance to talking and meeting up with women on a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 04:26 PM
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I suppose that's a normal thought but I'm asking why people generally focus all talk about sex on the woman, as if women are just passive participants.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 04:24 PM
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Very 👁👄👁
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 04:22 PM
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Well yeah but knowing what to do doesn't consist of information entirely geared and catered toward the other person.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 04:09 PM
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The clit is an urban legend. Search bars exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 04:08 PM
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Yeah but as a literal virgin, he should be focusing on himself more because he doesn't know what he needs to do with his own body. Just putting it in and having a seizure isn't going to make anything happen. He should be focusing about how he feels just as much as how she feels and it's really on her if she's more experienced to help by putting in some effort on her end.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 03:59 PM
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Well that doesn't make sense though.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 03:56 PM
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Yeah but it's like healthy weight vs borderline unhealthy weight in this case.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 03:55 PM
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Some people just look better with a little more bodyfat on them. Anne Hathaway is an example. She's currently pretty thin and doesn't look as good as she did in previous movies when she was a little thicker.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 03:50 PM
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Why does everyone's focus on sex seem to be centered around the woman? I saw a post last night where a 39 year old virgin man was asking for advice about having sex for the first time with his current girlfriend. Nearly every single reply was "be attentive to her and what she responds to" or "ask her what she likes" or "focus on the clit." Only a few responses with a few dozen upvotes were saying "it's your first time, don't worry about her" with some replies to them being "this is bad advice. M…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 03:48 PM
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Lol no. Maybe over some men but not "men."
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 03:43 PM
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Sounds like it would be a good thing as long as it didn't come with changed behaviors from her like she suddenly has new guy friends that she wants to go out with and seems hesitant to tell me about.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 03:43 PM
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Nah that's shitty. You communicated with them enough to want to go out with them and coordinate a date to meet up but you can't tell them you're not feeling it? Unless they did or said something totally fucked up during the date, I think you're still obligated to at least give them the courtesy text.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 02:39 PM
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I don't think you understand the difference between conditioning and evolutionary adaptation.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 02:35 PM
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Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 04:20 AM
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Time to wash everyone's feet.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 01:40 AM
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CMV: Ghosting is appropriate in certain situations, like when someone does something so bad that it doesn't even warrant a conversation or explanation, but when ghosting someone you've been seeing because you don't have the courage to break things off, that's shitty and you're shitty.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 01:40 AM
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10% of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 01:27 AM
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If she doesn't look like the Hindenburg with blimp boobs, blimp legs and a blimp ass, I don't want her.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 01:24 AM
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Even if women work, their husbands typically make more than they do. Hence, it's to their benefit that funds are shared in a joint account and bills are split.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 01:15 AM
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Yeah I think OP is vaguely referencing infatuation and young people feels here as well. The only people I see that are passionately kissing at any point in time are couples, people in romance movies, and goddamn teenagers who don't know anything about love yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 01:14 AM
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The problem with your stance is people can have no physical chemistry indicators, which is false. Well good because that's not what I said or implied. I said that people don't have to have your same indicator of chemistry though you seem to place a lot of value on it as an indicator, and making a claim that they must not be interested if they don't share your indicator.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 12:36 AM
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Ahh yeah that is incredibly niche. No chance of the average joe getting into that job.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 12:22 AM
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Still assuming that everyone kisses the same way. Not everyone immediately goes for tongue in mouth "passion" like you're describing out of some movie scene as the first kiss, nor do they have to as some indicator of physical chemistry. This post has the same energy as "If she doesn't put out by the third date, she's not really interested."
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 12:20 AM
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I've kissed multiple girls in less than 3 minutes of knowing them - some of the most passionate kisses I've had - like seriously my heart was like 200. You might say the girl was faking it - but I wasn't. Yes, I've seen young adults and teenagers doing exactly the same thing you're describing. Sounds like you were in your feels but it doesn't mean much of anything, really. Just surface-level feelings. Same goes for a lot of other young or inexperienced people in the same situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 12:17 AM
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The reasons for why someone might is they're either trying too hard, or they're faking it. "Passionate kissing" isn't a preference that people just do. It's something that most people either feel or they don't, and it's not likely that you're going to feel something like that with someone you've just met unless you're faking it for the romantic fantasy. A lot of people have ideas about dating and romance that they try to imitate in the moment because they think it's what they're supposed to do, …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 10:11 PM
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Lol. I guess it may have had the opposite effect then.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 10:05 PM
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Believe me, I've noticed lol. Guys notice women's fashion faux pas. We just don't say anything because we're still checking out what's visible and deciding whether or not we think it's attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 10:04 PM
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The first kiss is usually just a kiss. You can't kiss someone passionately the first time because you barely know each other. The reasons for why someone might is they're either trying too hard, or they're faking it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 10:00 PM
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That they do. I trust gay men just as much, if not more than I trust women for advice about looking good as a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 09:47 PM
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Lmao. Well at least our brains filled in the mistake for us enough to still understand each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 09:46 PM
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Again, it's not needed because one man proving something is true for all men is not a valid statement.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 09:44 PM
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You first point is about divorce and that is not my interest, my interest is the marriage itself. The first point talks about the marriage which provides stability and security to both people. Women gain security, typically gain access to shared resources, and all benefits that marriage provides including divorce benefits. The second point is why does sex distant to die? It's just something that happens when two people stay together for a long time. They get old, their feelings change, their bod…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 09:42 PM
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I'll look into that, although I think any stylist that's good with women's hair would fit. I've gone to one before and I'm pretty sure he's gay, but he did a good job all of the times I've seen him so I trust him.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 09:40 PM
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My boyfriend until we started dating again. He didn't want to attract attention or something apparently. Extreme introvert uninterested in women. I've been having fun playing barbie with him. Interesting. I can relate. My hair is long, dark and curly, so I've been thinking about going to a professional stylist and telling them to "make me beautiful."
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 09:34 PM
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Oh lol. For some reason, I read your previous comment as "hurting clothes" and figured that your clothes were either too tight or had some weird seams that hurt your boobs or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 09:33 PM
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I got downvoted for saying the same thing lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 09:29 PM
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Why are you asking for a counterargument to someone else's comment that obviously is not an argument?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 09:23 PM
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Hurting clothes, you say? Why didn't you go to the unhurting clothes section of the clothing store and buy the clothes there?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 09:22 PM
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Yes, it does benefit them. Marriage provides stability and security to both people in the relationship and makes all assets acquired during the marriage joint assets which are split and usually is to the woman's benefit. "The orgasm gap" doesn't refer to marriages, but sex life typically declines in both quality and frequency the longer the marriage continues.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 09:20 PM
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Anybody else here actually try to not look attractive at all to other people? I dress in a t-shirt, shorts and sandals most of the time and my hair is either in "just took a shower" or "whatever" - mode. I think guys who aren't looking for anyone can reasonably expect that women aren't going to approach them out in public so they should dress comfortably rather than to appeal to the general public. What say you?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 09:16 PM
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You can do it if you're speaking Spanish. "Aye, Mami, chupa mi verga."
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 09:08 PM
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Don't need one. You made a declaration that "women are the dominant sex now" and referenced Steph Curry as if he somehow single-handedly proves your claim, which he doesn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 07:06 PM
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This is quite literally how insurance is supposed to work. Then you do understand the physical limitations of everyone expecting to receive more than they contribute, don't you? The only way this actually works is if there are people who pay into but do not utilize the insurance at all for long periods of time and people who utilize the insurance frequently, as is the case. However, that goes out the window for people whose medical care costs much more than dozens of people combined. Hence, why …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 07:03 PM
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Why do you think women aren’t capable of going at it alone? Biologically speaking, women are more inclined to seek out protection and provisions from men or from groups, as that is how we adapted and evolved to survive. Men don't share that same inclination although group affiliation increases individual survival as seen in most other animals. Aren’t most single parents moms? Proving that women are in fact more capable of going at it alone and providing for their family at the same time? No, act…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 06:53 PM
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Keep simping if you want to, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 05:31 PM
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Men want and desire sex, companionship, and interaction with the opposite sex FAR more than the other way around. That's because of supply and demand, mostly. The supply is far greater than the demand so it appears as though women don't want it as much while men want more because a lot of men's supply is almost non-existent for that same reason, which drives the demand up even more. Men are still at the top even if there are far fewer of them than there are near the middle and bottom.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 05:12 PM
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I disagree. Women will always be in the market looking for men as much as men are in the market looking for women. The clincher here is that women will always need someone around for their own individual survival and wellbeing (i.e., usually a man), but men don't need women in the same way, as men are capable of and more willing to go it alone. Thus, as with most things, men are at the top and bottom of the hierarchy, and the only men who say that women are above them are the ones looking up.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 04:59 PM
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That's not how it reads.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 04:32 PM
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It's a joke. Instead of "monolith," I wrote monorail.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 04:24 PM
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False. It may appear that women have control of the dating market from the average man's perspective because he struggles to get attention from most women, but it's actually attractive, wealthy and capable/successful men who have total control of the dating market.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 04:17 PM
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The higher your intelligence, the more trouble you have with romantic relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 04:12 PM
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Not even pets love unconditionally. You give them food, scritches and security. They don't love you automatically unless they've become conditioned to associate you with someone else who has given them these things. Anyway, I don't think it's prudent to generalize "men" from the responses of men from this particular subreddit. Everyone who enters into a relationship is doing so with an expectation that it won't be a short-term thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 04:10 PM
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Learning what I've learned about people thus far, I'd take the career.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 01:28 PM
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Women vetting men doesn't include exes sharing private contextual messages of their relationship to strangers. It's up to those current partners to vet the man themselves. A former partner going out of their way to make someone's new partners think they're a bad person says more about the ex than it does about the person they're trying to smear.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 01:24 PM
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Yeah I'm gonna have to disagree. Some women just don't have the genetics in them for thickness and so they remain small and thin no matter how hard they try. Others just don't have the right shaped ass to make it look good with exercise. It'll look okay. It'll look like an ass, but just not a good-looking one.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 03:26 AM
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Idk about that unless you're including plastic surgery for the ass as well. I've seen fit women that just have a skinny, average ass. You have to have the genetics to build muscle and already have some ass to get the ass you're talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 03:19 AM
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I agree there but that's why I'm an ass man. Boobs are fine no matter what size they are but a small ass just doesn't do it for me beyond a certain size because they lose shape as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 03:13 AM
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Good to know
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 03:11 AM
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Same here but there definitely are nice fake tits out there. Just depends on how big the women want them and how much extra skin they have to allow for the implants to fit. Skinny women wanting big tits generally doesn't work out too well, but if they're bigger women with smallish tits, they'll look better with proportional implants.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 03:08 AM
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I would've expected you to say armpits > everything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 03:06 AM
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Depends on how big they want em but good tits can be faked too.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 03:01 AM
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Not true. Tits can be built by men now.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 02:57 AM
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Idk. Looks like "bussy" is the winner there.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 01:38 AM
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CMV: Ass men > Boob men
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 01:24 AM
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Right, but OP mentions that he's getting women who "would be on most scales HB 9's" and neither of them are.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 01:10 AM
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What are people with aspergers supposed to do? Pray, and also look for unconventional/non-"normie" women. Normie women are a waste of time and energy for men with ass-burgers.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 01:07 AM
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No. He'd struggle to get the same women without money and fame. He's a fairly average, generic-looking guy and doesn't strike me as someone who can smooth-talk women like that, so his attractiveness to women is mostly in boosting their own image and status by association. Also, his current GF is cute but not anywhere near a 9. More like a 6 at best. Ex-gf is a 7.5.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 01:03 AM
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Then there are also incredibly niche trades that require a lot of intellectual and people skills that pay so well you can retire comfortably by the age of 50. Such as..?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 12:51 AM
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I don't even know how or why you keep tabs on this many female celebrities. A lot of them I've never even heard of.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 12:48 AM
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Not really. Friendships like that are often fake. They don't really like you for you. They're just talking to you hoping that you eventually confess your love to them, and if it seems like you aren't going to, then they find a BF and slowly start fading away from your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 12:46 AM
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The newer ones suck. Now, if you're talking about shows like All That, Kenan and Kel, The Amanda Show and Clarissa Explains It All, then you have my attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 12:43 AM
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Depression is the longest covid.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 12:41 AM
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Nearly all people who died of Cov died inside of a hospital. Coincidence? I think not. I heard rumors that hospitals were killing Cov patients and that hospitals were also being given money for each person admitted with Cov and even more money if they were placed on ventilators. Sounds like there was some incentive there.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 12:40 AM
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It's not about being "fair to the insurance company," you baked potato. It's about the insurance company needing a certain amount of money to be able to operate/ cover other payouts and expenses, though I wouldn't expect anyone with zero financial or business sense to understand that. The dumb masses think it's as simple as "I pay my few hundred dollars per year and the insurance company shells out the thousands/tens of thousands I need to pay for medical expenses" while understanding nothing el…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 11:47 PM
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Were they?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 11:01 PM
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Yes but how and why?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 11:00 PM
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And there be the problem. Division creates dissent and leads to destruction.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 10:07 PM
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What values are good is a matter of debate. I think we can agree that good values are ones that promote or maintain growth when anyone adopts them. "Good" values like honesty and hospitality are accepted as good for that reason, while the same is true for the reverse. Some of the ideas you see as foreign are also very much American. I recently had to listen to my Eastern European uncle rant about how America is pushing progressivism on our country. He also thinks it a psyop, but that you guys ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 10:05 PM
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Well that is sad and troubling.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 10:00 PM
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Right but men who are isolated, lonely and impressionable are more likely to adopt the views and values of people that they like and want to emulate, which means they are more likely to start wanting to practice and convert to Islam.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 09:52 PM
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Someone's experience while cold approaching depends on a few other things, like who they are and where they are. If you're a conventionally attractive man, you're not going to have too many problems cold-approaching anywhere, unless it's in different countries with different cultural values. Men don't approach women in Europe, for example. If you're an average guy approaching in a big city, you're going to get shot down most of the time. If you're average in a smaller town, you may have better l…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 09:50 PM
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The US may be made up of immigrants, but after the US was conceived, it created its own culture in the coming centuries afterward. It being a nation of immigrants doesn't mean that it has had a problem with conflicting cultural differences in the past. It's only been within the past hundred years that this has become a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 09:45 PM
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Lol. You know what the topic at hand is, right? But you keep on trying to change the subject so that you could say women are weak. No, nobody has changed the subject. We're talking about someone claiming that women are mentally weaker and you're disagreeing with that while I'm giving examples as to how women are mentally weaker. I think you are doing what you are claiming what women are doing. Being able to admit things requires strength too. Just like you’ve said. I only admit things when I'm a…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 09:42 PM
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Yeah, I don't know about that. I'm not totally unaware of things like psyops and shadow government agencies operating behind the scenes. Erosion of hegemony certainly would allow influence from foreign entities but to actually be influenced by those entities is another thing. I'd say it's bad for a country to give up or discard something that makes them distinctly different from other countries, and also what contributes to making them as good as they are. If I were to, for example, give up a pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 09:37 PM
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I mean.... it's problematic when a woman doesn't act mature in that she simply assumes what she wants to believe or speaks about things with other people instead of confronting the person directly and addressing whatever the situation is with them. If men can do all of the "mentally strong" things that women can do but women have trouble doing a lot of the things that men are capable of doing, we would conclude that as being weaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 09:30 PM
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Hasn't this been in discussion since the McCarthyism era thing Yes, but not reaching mainstream popularity like it seems to be now, as the population grows stressed and frustrated with the economic situation. America is a country of immigrants and different cultures mixed together. The "original American culture" comes from the Native Americans. Most of the stuff that's claimed to be American culture comes from kids who grew up on old western movies The US used to have its own values as far as I…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 09:27 PM
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I mean it's K-pop, korean dramas, anime and anime conventions, comparisons of the US to Japan, and there's a few "Muslim" chaps on streaming services promoting traditional Islamic values and saying "haram" to things like female promiscuity.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 09:20 PM
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Men are too thirsty and oversaturate the market with their dicks. A lot of men out there do need to work on and gain more control over themselves and their emotions.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 09:15 PM
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I think what you listed is a direct result of being the weaker sex physically. Yes, and that has mental ramifications as well. Women are averse to confrontation and conflict in situations where they don't even need to be. It's just the natural mental inclination for them. That's why they're considered weaker than men in most capacities. Tolerating and raising children or being patient with certain things aren't really factored in there.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 09:12 PM
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Ah. Noted.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 09:09 PM
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Don't know what I'll find, but I shall.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 09:09 PM
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Anyone notice the strange pushing of foreign cultural ideologies out there lately? In the US, there is currently: "Socialism and communism good, capitalism bad" "Progressivism good, conservativism bad." People openly displaying Nazi germany ideology Influential popular male streamers basically promoting Islam and saying things like "Haram" to lost, alienated men Weird sudden normalization of Asian popculture It's almost like there's a concerted effort being made to erode or dismantle cultural va…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 09:04 PM
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You can always buy a shed and then renovate it with tile floors and a "full kitchen" with marble countertops and rent it out for $1500 a month. Seems to be what some people are doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 08:47 PM
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Pretty common.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 08:44 PM
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I think the "weaker mentally" means that women are generally more scared, more fearful, more avoidant/averse, etc., which is true. Less intestinal fortitude for things not related to being nurturing in the context of a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 08:41 PM
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Never heard any jokes like that but sounds like some of them are inside jokes made at the woman's expense for other men. It's the same with women who flirt with or ask men out as a joke to have a laugh with their friends who were in on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 08:34 PM
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Or just say that other people understand what you don't and take the L.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 08:07 PM
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Idk. Apparently more people agree than disagree with me, so I'll focus on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 07:12 PM
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Sorry, but no, things haven't changed that much. Not for thousands of years, nor even the few hundred thousand years that humans have been humans. You can want to believe that humans evolve in half a century, but it would be you that's choosing to ignore reality, not me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 06:11 PM
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I'd have kids but not get married because there isn't really any point to marriage despite women wanting it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 05:59 PM
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So, women aren’t doctors or engineers or engineers these days? Of course they are. In stark minorities, yes. And if you want to include blue-collar jobs, many more women are entering those fields as well. The bottom line is that the majority of women are working and making their own money. For some reason, red-pillers completely dismiss this fact and act like it’s still the mid-twentieth century. Many it helps your egos to fantasize about a time when women needed you guys for financial reasons. …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 05:55 PM
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So being "around" is sufficient? Yes. Ok, maybe I'm not being clear in what I am asking. Let me rephrase... HOW does a guy become our rock? Not "How does protection work AFTER you're our rock?" He's been with you for long enough that you feel reassured when you're with him because you've seen him handle situations already. Women also "test" men while in relationships with them to reassure themselves that they're with the right guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 05:37 PM
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That's awesome. Always happy to hear when people find their places. I'm still struggling to find mine but that's mostly because I neglect myself for others a lot of the time, hence my career path. Hopefully everything works out for the both of us lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 05:22 PM
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I did. When you're around, they're calm, comfortable, and look to you when questionable situations happen because you're expected to make them feel secure and protected. You're "their rock." Single women feel vulnerable most of the time when they're alone so a lot of them seek out other women or relationships to help get rid of those feelings of fear and uncertainty.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 05:19 PM
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By making them feel secure in their mind, as in there is nothing wrong or that could go wrong with you around.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 05:04 PM
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Hmm
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 05:02 PM
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They don't. By default, most men look masculine, because they are men. Looking masculine doesn't have anything to do with masculinity. Anyway, I'm not going to sit here and argue with you over a word that has no objective definition anyway. You can believe whatever you want is "masculinity."
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 04:57 PM
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Physical... mental.... financial.... All of the above.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 04:54 PM
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What, my heart's calling? Alternative dispute resolution. Mediation, restorative practices, conflict coaching, pretty much anything that encourages people to find common ground instead of taking it to the courts/knifing each other. So similar to therapy or counseling? That's where I'm headed. I'm going to be broke for a long time doing this and you know? I think I can accept that. If I do it for 10 years where I'm at, I get my student loans forgiven. :) Sounds like a good deal lol. I'm not famil…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 04:53 PM
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"Ick" doesn't have a distinct definition. It's literally anything that turns a woman off.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 04:49 PM
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Yes. Do you not understand the difference between looking masculine and being masculine? Or do you think that they're the same?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 04:44 PM
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Normies with a twist are where it's at, my lad. :) Difficult to find though, unfortunately. I come here because I like the debates and I can't get similar elsewhere -- and then I go to work and follow my heart's calling and get even more validation from that. I lean a little nerdy but yeah, for the most part I'm the norm, not anyone with a major social media presence. What might that be, if I may ask?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 04:38 PM
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Looking attractive or masculine has nothing to do with masculinity. What's difficult to understand about that?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 04:33 PM
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Yes, men get "icks" from women like if they're coming off as desperate and start whining about why the guys didn't do something pertaining to them, for example.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 04:08 PM
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So what you're saying is you're moving the goalposts. No. They're just additional men that were implicitly included but not mentioned, as women typically reject and discard those men. That said, the small penises would be fine. Not Mr. Childlike, though. I'm profoundly disinterested in children. Hairy isn't an automatic no, provided he's willing to manscape (after all, I shave). Fat is out, dad bod is still in. Short is dependent on attitude and how he makes me feel -- I like between 5'6" and 5'…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 04:02 PM
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Exactly that. Women want to feel safe and secure, and that her bodyguar.... I mean boyfriend will step in and save her during any situation that makes her feel unsafe or uncomfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 03:57 PM
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Negative. Feelings are not logical. Women can get icks for many different, silly reasons. Similar to when women call men "creepy," there's no objective features or behaviors present that makes the guy "creepy." It's whatever the woman personally feels in response to the man she's labeling as creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 03:56 PM
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By immature I mean "child-like," doesn't have their life together yet, makes stupid jokes or has an immature sense of humor, or still has childish hobbies like playing video games or with Legos. Oh, I forgot to mention a lot of them might not be very attractive, too. Overweight, hairy, short, insecure, and/or have small penises. You still up for that?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 03:50 PM
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Engrish?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 03:29 PM
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I can't speak for "most people" but I'll say that I'm content with being single. I think there are things to be "happy" with on both sides: getting to do what you want vs spending time with someone of the opposite sex that gets you. Some people simply focus on the good sides of whatever they're doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 03:27 PM
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The reason why women are often so contradictory and complex communicatively is in my opinion because they are the selectors. Women and men are both the selectors, currently. My question in this context is: why is dating advice always be considered sexist? No matter how slightly we psychoanalyze women it will always be downplayed and shamed. Certain tendencies are simply very frequent and can most often only be recognized by men because they are more aware of such behaviors. In my opinion men rat…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 03:09 PM
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"The ick" happens when a woman's perception of a man doesn't match who he ends up being. If she thinks he's cute or handsome and masculine-looking but he ends up being an immature nerdy dork: ick. If she thinks he's mature and level-headed but he ends up road-raging while driving places: ick. Doesn't really have anything to do with masculinity.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 03:03 PM
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So, send me the men who have never had children. :) You sure you want them? A lot of them will be a little weird, immature, some of them autistic, or just kind of awkward. But I'll ask a question I've asked elsewhere: what, to you, is an eligible woman? Of any age, not just the one you're looking for? An eligible woman is a woman who is mature, honest, kind, knows what she wants, takes care of herself, puts in effort, is mentally stable, and not promiscuous.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 02:54 PM
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Yeah I'm not with you there. Healthcare is a service provided by others that people need to pay for. You can't give people "a right" to someone else's service.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 05:32 AM
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i mean, yeah, sure, if you're being disingenuous you can say people have the Freedom: like the freedom to refuse an ambulance and take an Uber to the Emergency Room to save on cost. That's not disingenuous to say because it is true. Also, ambulances are emergency services, not rights that people don't have to pay for. Nobody is owed the right to someone else's service for existing no matter who they are. You want service? You gotta pay for it. There's no reasonable expectation to be provided fre…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 05:30 AM
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Woman elbows 🥵
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 05:23 AM
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But here's the key point: They sure as fuck don't have the Freedom and Liberty that you talked about They do though. They had the freedom and liberty to be where they were at the time, and they have the freedom and liberty to choose how to handle it. Their lack of financial planning and preparation doesn't negate their freedom or liberty either. That's probably the main point here that you and others don't understand: having one or two less choices doesn't mean you have no freedom. Also, medical…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 03:51 AM
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That's a lot of writing to be swept away with a simple question: why did you need the stitches? Being responsible for your health means being more careful to avoid injuries. Also, depending on where the cut was and how big it was, you probably wouldn't need stitches anyway. All that writing for nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 03:34 AM
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I'm aware of those things but not exactly sure what stipulations they have placed on their funds by the government. It kind of seems like organizations spend a lot of money on BS like this to avoid legal fines and fees or taxes, similar to billionaires holding a lot of their wealth in stocks because the government can't touch it the same as if it was in their bank account.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 03:31 AM
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What about it? They'd pay just the same as anyone else would have to, or find donors, grants or insurance that would help them pay for treatment. It's difficult to say whether something was congenital unless it was discovered at birth, or that a disease wasn't connected to how well someone took care of themselves because anything they could've done at one point in their lives unknowingly might've caused it. You can get HPV from running barefoot in the street, apparently, but someone who didn't k…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 03:25 AM
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Aww but reverse cowgirl is the best 🤠
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 03:19 AM
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And plenty of lube.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 03:07 AM
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I understand things like not having enough money to provide certain things to people. Do you?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 03:07 AM
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I agree. I'm not for universal healthcare because I think health is a personal responsibility and everyone has to lie in the bed that they make for themselves in that regard, whether it's a clean bed or littered with soda bottles and greasy fast food containers.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 02:46 AM
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Car collision insurance already has medical coverage options, doesn't it? I mean it kind of makes sense why health insurance wouldn't include car collision injuries if automotive insurance already provides coverage for those things. As for the chemo, those are one of the costliest forms of treatment and it is ongoing, so I think that's more of a protective measure on their end since having hundreds or thousands of people seeking treatment for chemo would likely dry up a lot of the available fund…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 02:42 AM
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Underwater cave diving. The women are at the end of the cave.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 02:29 AM
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Muscle is sexy on everyone. Nothing beats a fit, toned body.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 02:28 AM
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Right. Pick your poison. People don't realize it but a country like the US with as many people as we have in it - most of them fat, sick and ignorant about their own health and wellbeing - would cost an astronomical amount of money in medical services and healthcare every year, and it would very likely be a waste of money because dependents remain dependent. There would need to be some kind of incentive - if not outright force - to keep costs down because people suddenly having healthcare isn't …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 02:25 AM
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Maybe she realizes it's just a movie and not real life? Teenagers have a harder time telling the difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 02:17 AM
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Normie friends are all married with children and look miserable a lot of the time in-between the fun distractions from their work life and relationships. People may look at me like I'm the loser because I'm the single guy with no kids but I'd rather have my life than theirs.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 02:15 AM
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I wouldn't consider myself "conservative" but I think everyone is responsible for their own personal health. The government tends to stay away from most things involving people's personal lives because we have concepts like "freedom" and "liberty" that everyone has a right to, and the government doesn't want to fund people's personal lives in any way (social safety nets aside). So, except in matters like reproduction and where children are concerned, the government allows people their freedom, w…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 02:10 AM
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I'd argue that there aren't very many actual eligible women out there either but the focus always seems to be on whether men are eligible or not while women are always assumed (or assume themselves) to be eligible by default for whatever the reason. Also, the reality here is that most men in history have not passed on their genes, which means that a subset of men from each generation ends up reproducing while the others do not. Of course, this means that there will invariably be people left over…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 01:57 AM
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Hard to say because I haven't met many. Most are not virgins by the age of 17, so I'd probably think of virgin women as young, inexperienced, immature, don't know what they want yet, and have a long, hard road ahead of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 01:49 AM
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Whats your point? I lost it after you excluded blue collar jobs. The roles that women choose are roles that typically would be considered female roles anyway. They aren't going into those fields because they're forced to or feel they need to. They willingly choose those fields because they're easier for women to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 09:45 PM
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Those are usually not "gendered" jobs unless they're something like school teacher which are typically women or something along those lines.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 08:15 PM
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They don't need to be but they typically are where women gravitate toward because a lot of "men's work" is either too demanding or too physically difficult for women to keep up with in the long-term.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 07:19 PM
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All hail the infinite pointlessness!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 04:59 PM
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Not really.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 04:31 PM
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I guess there isn't one. My question was pointless as well because the answer achieves nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 04:21 PM
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She probably doesn't like the way it's worded because it clashes with her perspective/beliefs about what relationships are, even if it's an accurate way to phrase it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 04:19 PM
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Is it nihilist to come to the conclusion that most actions are pointless in the end?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 04:17 PM
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There isn't really any "attractive jobs" that women can pick, but if I had to give an answer, I'd say something that involved working with kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 02:52 PM
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I'm a different kind of chav, savvy?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 02:04 PM
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I'm convinced that's also mostly a problem for the dumbs as well. Apparently less intelligent people are happier than intelligent people but I think more intelligent people are better at controlling themselves or figuring themselves out so that it's less of a problem for them than it would be for people that lacked the self-awarenss needed to do so. So yeah, it would be a lot better if the collective IQ of the world was higher than it is right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 04:35 AM
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I think the cause is the same. Immature, dumb, not striving for improvement, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 04:27 AM
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The root cause of society's problems is the average level of intelligence being too low.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 04:12 AM
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So you went digging through my post history and didn't bother to even read the source you're providing to prove your assumptions? That's funny. Might want to try harder next time.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 03:49 AM
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Competition. They have to justify that they're good enough to be working there somehow, and that way is to talk shit about their female coworkers.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 02:52 AM
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Everything that society does to women is misogynistic because "patriarchy."
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 02:45 AM
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You can't be taught to distrust or fear a whole group of people. Women are innately fearful or insecure about a lot of things in life - men would qualify as one of those things. The impact of this fear or distrust in dating is that the guys who are good at maneuvering around women's security walls are the guys who they end up with, whether the guy is a decent guy or a lying abusive manipulator.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 11:10 PM
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That's by choice. Sorry to disappoint.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 09:24 PM
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Depends on what you mean by "that bad." It's heavily dependent on location but online dating is a terrible experience in general for everyone due to how people treat it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 06:50 PM
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There's more available people out there at 30 and beyond, yes. That's the age where people get washed back out into the dating world due to old relationships/marriages ending. There are fewer people around at younger ages because everyone is dating ("love is wasted on the young").
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 06:46 PM
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Yeah changing my hairstyle isn't going to suddenly make people think I'm friendlier. The problem like I said before is my face.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 06:15 PM
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A man of culture, I see.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 06:13 PM
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In this case, you would be talking about plastic surgery because they also digitally alter faces to fit the role as well, which is not an option for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 06:02 PM
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You should read the original post more carefully. It does not say "look" or "style" anywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 05:43 PM
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Interesting. Fat clits too, or no?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 05:21 PM
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Depends on what you consider reasonable. I'm not about to change my style just to look friendlier to strangers. "Reasonable changes" would be things like "try to smile more and be aware of your facial expressions around others."
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 05:20 PM
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Ah so like the annual swingers ball. Understood.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 05:15 PM
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I can try I suppose.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 04:53 PM
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I mean I do smile when I meet eyes with people but I'm not smiling when I'm just walking down the street.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 04:52 PM
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I mean so far people just tend to avoid me unless they see that I'm really not a bad person. Helps that I'm kind of a loner and introverted anyway but only if I want to stay alone for the rest of my life, which I'm on the fence about.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 04:44 PM
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Yeah that sounds kinda fake and forced. Not really my style.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 04:38 PM
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Well I suppose it's just something I'll have to deal with throughout my life then.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 04:38 PM
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Yeah I do move on frequently and try not to think about it too much but it seems like something that follows me everywhere so i just continually move on from everyone who reacts negatively and keep around the few that got to see past it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 04:30 PM
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Idk honestly. I have a villain face with an intense stare so it probably does just look like I'm an angry guy who might kill someone without warning even though I've never fought anyone in my life. It's a pretty tragic situation to be in.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 04:27 PM
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I'm not one to smile without a reason though.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 04:23 PM
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Sounds rough. I'm not there but we'll see in a few years lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 04:22 PM
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So shave my head completely, including eyebrows and lashes, and walk around with a big fake Joker smile. Got it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 04:20 PM
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Not sure if that would work. Some people just have natural friend or villain faces. That's how they type actors for roles in movies.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 04:19 PM
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Yeah I've seen people's demeanors change instantly after I smiled at them. Apparently I look friendly when I smile but mean when i don't, so ill have to walk around smiling like a clown if I want people to think differently of me.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 04:17 PM
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Q4All: what would you do if it seemed like people were responding negatively toward you and treating you poorly because of your face? I don't have a friendly face and I've overheard some women in college say that I look mean as they passed by me. I've even had some women look scared of me like they think that I might try to do something bad to them. I guess I have a "villain" face. What would you do?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 04:03 PM
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Yes, that's me 🤖
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 03:40 AM
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Nope. Unless I bring it up myself, they say nothing. Always. Never had a single woman ever say "So...what's going on/why did you turn me down?" They likely don't want to hear the answer so they don't ever ask.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 03:10 AM
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Yeah, that never happens. Women always go through all of this stuff non-verbally. A lot of them have been foreigners so I assumed that the potential marriage/citizenship route was among the reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 01:51 AM
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Depends on what they want. All the guys are looking for is sex so that's what they push for. For the women I've encountered, I don't know exactly what they were after, but they definitely wanted to have sex before I was able to find out.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 01:40 AM
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I'm more of a magna cum laude - kind of guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 01:39 AM
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I'm faced with the age-old question that men ask themselves everyday: "To cum, or not to cum, that is the question."
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 01:31 AM
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Nope. Same degree. In my experience, women that have been interested want to have sex much faster than was possible for me. Not having sex with them saved me from a lot of drama and wasted time. If something about them seems a bit off, I hold back and wait to see if I was right.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 01:26 AM
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Full-blown narcissistic personality disorder, psychopathy, etc. The lies, the gaslighting, the physical, mental and emotional abuse, the destruction of property.. all of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 12:16 AM
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Mostly amateur stuff. I hate the fake scripted porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 12:14 AM
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It works on women too.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 12:06 AM
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It's cross-cultural. Women all over the world find taller men attractive. Height is something that has been studied in the social sphere and taller men are automatically seen as more attractive, more capable, and more of an authority figure than shorter men are. That's why you typically won't see a short man as a chief executive or most high-status positions.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/23 12:05 AM
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Would've probably taken the same amount of effort to write something else about them other than how good at sex they are, honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 10:43 PM
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Yeah I'd just prefer to know if this woman is a real person or an advanced sex robot
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 10:25 PM
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Why is her only attribute sex-related? Like were these women raised in a brothel their entire lives or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 10:18 PM
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Yep. I have one right now. We talk occasionally. She used to be interested in me and I think she still kind of is but she's married to a transman.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 10:16 PM
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Country sucks though. It's for mopey people who enjoy feeling sad. I went through a phase where I listened to it but I prefer dance/electronica and R&B over country.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 05:16 PM
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Doing mental gymnastics is sometimes better than doing physical gymnastics.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 05:12 PM
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Assuming that attraction is completely logical.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 05:09 PM
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Not really. They're just the loudest group. Don't confuse that with "dominating the mainstream."
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 05:03 PM
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Negative, Sir. All love is conditional. I'm not talking about unconditional love. I'm talking about once you love a person, you choose to continue loving them because you do, not because you were attracted to them or because it was convenient for you, as is the case with relationships. A lot of my friends don't do much for me and they're not very good friends, but I continue doing things for and being there for them because I actually love them and want to see them happy and well. That would be …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 05:01 PM
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It sounds like comfortability and familiarity, which aren't themselves love. If said partner left you, would you still love them the same, or is your idea of love based on the condition that they have to be with you in order for you to love them? If it's the latter, I wouldn't call that love.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 04:47 PM
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Such as actual love. Have you not been following this entire time?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 04:35 PM
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Yes. What most people call "love" is just attraction, which is a complex group of things that our brains have programmed to help us survive (and pass on our genes). I'm suggesting that there's a conceptual love that goes beyond that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 03:47 PM
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Genuine love, like I said in the first post.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 03:39 PM
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As opposed to relationships with more substance, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 03:37 PM
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Nope. All love is conditional on at least something, like a person or idea of a person existing. I'm only saying that what people in relationships think is love isn't really love, and that's why most of them fail.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 03:35 PM
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Not what I said. I said people end up with someone because someone is better than no one in their case.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 03:30 PM
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Love isn't based on compatibility or feelings of similarity, and doesn't involve being in a relationship with someone at all either. You're talking about attraction, not love.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 03:24 PM
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You don't have to be in a relationship to love someone either. That's why I say that people who claim to love someone but would love them less or not at all if that person wasn't reciprocating don't actually love them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 03:23 PM
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Yes and they're dumb, virtue-signalling hypocrites.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 03:18 PM
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People being satisfied or content with someone over no one doesn't exactly give credibility to the idea that there are people who are meant to be together or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 03:16 PM
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Yeah sorry but I don't believe in "the one" or "soulmates." Whether you were the right person at the time for someone or not seems to be the deciding factor in how long it worked out for you and that's it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 03:07 PM
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Idk about that. There are many people out there that something like that could happen with, not just one, even if that's all people feel like they need.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 02:57 PM
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Could be 🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 02:56 PM
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I think you can love someone and still be incompatible with them. Of course. Loving someone isn't about your compatibility or based on how good they treat you. If it is, it's not love.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 02:56 PM
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Feelings that are deeper than and go beyond the possessiveness of simple attraction. Actual love is about wanting the other person to be happy and well regardless of where they are or who they're with.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 02:54 PM
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You don't need to be attracted to someone to love them. However, that only helps make my case that attraction isn't love and thats why relationships based mostly on attraction fail pretty quickly.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 02:50 PM
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Because women like men who are able to do things. They expect men to be able to do things. Things that they can't or won't do. They're attracted to men who do things because those men are useful, and we like things that are useful.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 02:42 PM
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Most relationships fail because they aren't based on actual love. Agre or disagre?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 02:37 PM
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It is obvious. The cognitive dissonance has been smacking people in the face for the same amount of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 01:57 PM
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"This just in-ed: sexually dimorphic species prefer mates that are sexually dimorphic. More on this breaking story at 11."
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 01:52 PM
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All of them except top right.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 01:39 PM
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Uhh yeah..? Where have you been lol. Women have been saying that for quite awhile now.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 12:46 PM
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I didn't say that you could. You can exaggerate it a little bit though. There are muscles that can be worked out around the hip area that would add size and some shape to the hips.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 12:39 PM
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Most women you see in your life won't look like that naturally. It would take genetics and exercise and/or PEDS for women to have that hip curvature. Either that or surgery.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 04:17 AM
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I like all of them although the bottom pics seem a bit exaggerated to the point of being altered or cosmetic surgery.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 03:56 AM
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Don't forget the vinegar.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 03:38 AM
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Being a person worthy of social proof can be separate from actually having it. It's the same as having any ability to do something without needing to be seen doing it. Someone who is interested in you will be able to notice who you are without having other people there to give you their stamp of approval. Someone who needs the stamp of approval from others is probably someone who needs approval from people in general (i.e., no mind of their own, so pass).
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 03:37 AM
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It's because feelings override logic and reason. People pick apart everyone for the tiniest things before they ever go on a date with them, but once they're hooked, they're more forgiving of things that would have sent them running in the beginning. That's often why people hide the unsavory parts about themselves until later in the relationship when the other person is more likely to overlook them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 03:34 AM
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Yeah he's not the type to do all of that. He's more like a spineless doormat until he gets angry.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 03:31 AM
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I'd rather be honest because again I'd be able to walk away with a clean conscience. If someone doesn't want to be with me because they think I'm some kind of weirdo, freak or a bad person, they can think that. At the end of the day, I know who I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 03:15 AM
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Nah she's crazy. She was on visa here in the states and they were talking. Soon as he went to her country, she became a different person.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 03:13 AM
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I mean it's not good to lie to people you claim to love, in general. That's why I don't do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 02:54 AM
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Interesting. Hiding stuff like what?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 02:53 AM
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He's kind of codependent so yeah women like that are a bit hard to break away from. Plus he has some addictive tendencies too.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 02:52 AM
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Not even. She apparently doesn't want to have sex with him, but gladly accepts him paying for literally everything, of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 02:28 AM
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Foreigners to mostly first world countries.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 02:28 AM
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what's considered mentally healthy is subject to definitional politics. Uhh.. not really. What's considered mentally healthy (or just healthy in general) depends on the level of harm or negative consequence to the individual or to those around the individual. If someone is not physically healthy, there are certain objective markers for that, like irregular heartbeat or arterial calcification. If someone is not mentally healthy, their mental health is measured in certain parameters that determine…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 02:14 AM
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Uhh..... right....
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 02:05 AM
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Ah, interesting. From a few of my own personal anecdotal and some friends' experiences with people from South America, I noticed that they seem to have some narcissism flowing around down there. A friend of mine that's seeing a woman in Chile is describing her as a narcissist and I have family I know of from Brazil who a few of them display some narcissistic traits as well. That's why I'm asking what other people's experiences with foreigners having some type of personality abnormality or disord…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 01:52 AM
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Idk about that "loving relationship" part because that's never a guarantee unless you're just talking about the appearance of it, but yeah, I don't like lying to people so I wouldn't lie about particular questions that arose in conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 01:45 AM
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Oh, so you just won't mention stuff that doesn't affect you or your partner, right? Just like the woman who's not a virgin won't mention that fact, because it doesn't affect her or her partner. They're different things. A fetish or fantasy is something that would affect a partner if they agreed to it. Past partners is something that could potentially affect a future partner without them knowing. I know nearly everyone on the planet has at least one form of herpes right now but that doesn't mean …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 01:31 AM
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I explained that "Mentally normal" = mentally healthy or "not having some kind of personality disorder at a level that would be diagnosable." If nearly everyone in a particular place had some kind of clinical level personality disorder, that wouldn't be a good thing, or in this context, not "normal."
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 01:27 AM
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Uhhh...... I mean fetishes or fantasies don't need to be brought out into the relationship. I'd still want to do some things like have sex in public places or outside, but the other stuff that doesn't involve me or my partner doesn't need to be mentioned at all. I don't think I'd try to hide what I like but I wouldn't want to be judged as if one particular thing was the only thing I was into, which people have a habit of doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 01:23 AM
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Got a serious topic to talk about here that I'd like input on. For those who have experience with foreigners, how was the experience? I ask because there's a bit of a hypothesis that people with personality disorders run rampant in other parts of the world. In places where people have to be socially crafty to survive, personality disorders might give people an advantage over those who don't have one, and when I say "personality disorder," I mean things like Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Soc…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 01:16 AM
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I'm 100% honest about myself so yeah, I don't need to feel shame for being single.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 12:53 AM
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Depends on your definition of "curvy." If curvy is code for "obese," then no, but if you mean a slim woman with an hourglass figure, then yeah. I like both but hips that are too narrow don't look very appealing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 12:52 AM
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No. You don't have to have sex to cheat on your partner. Anything sexual would be considered cheating, but if they didn't have sex, then they didn't have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 12:41 AM
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Never said it wasn't. Just that most women never orgasm from actual sex so it would seem like sex "sucks" for women based on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 12:33 AM
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It is. You can refer to it how you want, but unless you have intercourse, it's not sex. Anal is the only blurred-line in there because there's penetration involved, but still not really sex. If some guy told you he had sex and you asked him what happened and he said he only ate a woman out and then she sucked and jerked him off to finish, most people wouldn't consider that "sex."
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 12:31 AM
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Pretty sure sex is short for sex. Only to the people who don't know the difference. No one is going “sure he ate out like 12 girls and did butt stuff with his ex. But she’s never “had intercourse” so hes a sexless virgin.” If he didn't have intercourse, then yeah, he would be a virgin. Eating out 12 girls or even most of the women on the planet wouldn't count as "sex."
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 12:22 AM
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It's a part of sex, yes, as in a sexual act that people do in the midst of sex, but it isn't sex. Sex is intercourse. You can't say "we had sex" if you only used your hands to get each other off.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 12:19 AM
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No. "Sex" is short for "sexual intercourse," not sexual acts. Anytime someone says "we had sex," they mean "intercourse." If they didn't have intercourse, then they're using the word wrong because nothing else is "sex." Handjobs are not sex. Oral is not sex. Manual stimulation is not sex. Eating ass is not sex. Using toys on each other is not sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 12:16 AM
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Yeah, that's not sex. I think you misunderstand the difference between "sexual intercourse" and "sexual acts/activities." Sexual intercourse is a sexual act, but not all sexual acts are sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 12:08 AM
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Yes, that would be the sex part. Licking, rubbing or stimulating the clit wouldn't be considered "sex."
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 12:03 AM
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Yeah, some people just need to be strapped to the nose of an airplane for a non-stop flight around the world. Sucks but there's a lot of codependent people out there too who get caught up with these psychopaths and they're like a match made in hell.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 12:01 AM
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I consider that to be part of it. A friend of mine recently met a woman from Chile and went over to try to have a relationship with her, but it seems like she's been a real nutjob ever since he got there. He pays for everything, basically gives into all of her manipulation BS, doesn't stand up for himself, doesn't call her out on her bullshit because doing so "makes her feel sick," and refuses to leave before he planned to. I had to explain everything to him that he's been doing wrong and he sti…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 11:29 PM
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There is no hope. Prepare for the terminator bots to come delete.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 11:24 PM
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Yeah. It's a little late to be still trying to grow up when you've been an adult for over a decade. Even worse for two decades.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 11:20 PM
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A better question would be what women don't get out of relationships with men. They get nearly everything they want unless they pick some schlub or the typical fuckboy that takes advantage of them and splits.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 11:14 PM
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Well most women don't orgasm from the actual sex part, so it would seem that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 11:12 PM
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I mean, there's diabetes on both sides of my family and I don't want that. That's rough. I can relate. Both sides of the family have problems too so I'm trying to avoid those as well. I can't imagine nor stomach the thought of having to give myself insulin shots everyday. Both my grandmothers did. I try to eat low-carb and/or stay away from added and processed sugars. Nobody knows if it will all be for nought one day though. Could be Thanos diabetes.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 11:08 PM
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I mean.... it's not outside of the realm of possibility to continually encounter bad people or assholes. That whole "If everyone you meet is an asshole...." quote does exactly that. It's a way for assholes to flip the blame onto others as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 10:55 PM
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I mean that's all well and good, but I meant more doing it for yourself. I do intermittent fasting, stay somewhat active and use a lot of supplements because I like feeling good and being healthy. I don't think I'd ever change the way I look for someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 10:31 PM
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For sure. Principled people seem to be more difficult to find out in the wild, as a lot of other people are only appearing responsible and principled to find someone. Then a year into the relationship, they look sloppy and gained 50 pounds. Seldom ever fails.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 10:23 PM
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Sad. You can see that on the "datingover___" subs. I honestly thought older people would be more mature and have done the work to grow up, but apparently a lot of them have not, and it's very shitty and discouraging for the people that have.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 10:19 PM
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They sure have, unfortunately. It seems like the more people I meet, the more reason I have for staying single. If I meet a decent woman and things fall into place, I'll welcome it, but most encounters are definitely not with people who have worked on themselves, or still need work. I don't make time for people who are only going to bring me down with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 09:40 PM
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Generally yes but it depends on what sticks out more. If she has other good qualities like she's mentally stable, mature, knows what she wants, is intelligent, responsible, etc., then those will play into how I see her, but if she's the typical, average middle-aged woman as described above, then it'll most likely be a no-go. People like to harp on about giving older women a chance, but the ones with the other good qualities don't have problems finding stable long-term relationships as they age, …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 09:28 PM
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Just realized that the "Divergent" series was basically "The Matrix but with female protagonist."
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 07:38 PM
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Sounds kinda hot if there's chocolate syrup or whipped cream involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 06:40 PM
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Yes there's an implication that women are weaker, because they are. Has nothing to do with misogyny or homophobia. It's just men bullying other men by likening them to women, similar to when women bully other women by likening them to men in some way - usually in their appearance or mannerisms.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 06:31 PM
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No. Only a feminist would think like that. Bullying is something that exists in nature. That's it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 06:24 PM
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for the men; what do y'all imagine happens in nightclubs? People dancing, some hunting for potential marks, some enjoying their night out, a small handful potentially cheating on their partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 06:19 PM
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Around 40 years old, looks 45, overweight, at least one divorce, at least one child, works in an office, in a relationship/working on second or third marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 06:15 PM
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Yes, but in the context of past societies, this doesn’t really hold up. Which past societies? I think this holds true for almost every society. Younger people are always seeing what they're capable of by engaging in risky behaviors while older people know that they're not as capable as they once were and seek safety and stability. Sex is one of the biggest drives so I think who we choose in the beginning is a more accurate reflection of who we find desirable viscerally. I think you're making the…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 04:43 PM
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I think that depends on how old and/or mature they are. Young and immature people choose thrill and older/mature people choose stability.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 04:28 PM
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With what? Men expect women to function the same way, yes, but are either confused or accept it when they don't, depending on their understanding of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 02:45 PM
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Tell that to the feminists.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 02:39 PM
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Relationships form in the moment. That's why you have to be attentive to social cues or you'll miss the opportunity. Best not to think about it too much though because this is how the average person gets into a relationship and most relationships fail anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 02:32 PM
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Yes, women are fickle. It's been talked about for quite some time. Their feelings are situational. Nothing you can really do about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 02:26 PM
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You're welcome
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 12:29 PM
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Will do 🙏
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 03:30 AM
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Hmmmm..... I'm only familiar with androgyny being referenced to appearance, not personality. I do agree in general with that theory though, as long as it's the same conceptual ideas of masculinity and femininity that I'm thinking of and not what most other people might define them as.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 03:28 AM
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Thanks, me too 🤞
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 03:19 AM
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Ah well that's great. Hope that my move will be similar although I don't seem to have as good of luck as I'm apparently supposed to, so it'll be a crapshoot whether I survive and make it or end up under a bridge with nowhere to go.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 03:05 AM
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Oh wow. That's quite the distance. They must've been pretty bad to make you want to move on the opposite side of the world. I don't think I'll move that far away but it will definitely feel like I did. Hopefully you've found a new family since moving.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 02:56 AM
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Because the people that say this are women and simps.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 02:50 AM
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That's actually a tough question, and I don't think the answer is a simple one. In order to hold yourself in higher esteem, you have to show yourself that you are an esteemed person. Try pushing for higher accomplishments like being truthful, knowledgeable and more capable. The more accomplishments you see yourself making, the more esteemed you'll view yourself because you've done the work to earn it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 02:49 AM
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Anybody ever feel like people trying to be solely masculine or solely feminine ends up with those people being incomplete, or in need of their "other half?" There is a bit of folklore in Japan about these birds that are essentially born with one wing and they must seek out their counterpart with the other missing wing in order to be able to fly together, which is a metaphor for men and women looking for their "soulmates" or however you want to view it. There are also other conceptual ideas like …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 02:32 AM
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It's called normal sexual attraction. Hypergamy refers to wealth and status only. It doesn't refer to physical appearance or natural physical attraction triggers. The only thing I can think of would be if a man is attracted to a woman who shows good motherly traits or likes and cares about children, but that's not to say that men automatically don't care about children or don't have the same capacity to care for and raise children also.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 02:17 AM
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Can be, but usually aren't.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 02:13 AM
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They aren't attracted to bad role models. They're attracted to people who have what they want. It's a misconception mostly made by stupid people that they have to be like those people or do exactly what they did to be able to obtain the same or similar lifestyle as the bad role models. Oftentimes, those same stupid people are the ones that contributed to the bad role model's success without realizing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 02:12 AM
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How did it work out, and did you just up and leave without telling anyone?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 12:58 AM
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For shore
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 12:37 AM
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No need to cause drama. It's not worth the effort honestly, even if some of them need to be told off for being shitty humans.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 12:13 AM
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Yeah something like that then. Sometimes I wish aliens would come take me away to their planet, or like some energetic being comes and takes me away to another dimension to serve a higher purpose.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 11:49 PM
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Luckily I don't have one so I don't have to worry about that. Just a "Now you see me, now you don't" with my "friends" and family.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 11:46 PM
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Full isekai, I guess, if that means leaving behind everyone and everything I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 11:45 PM
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Man I cannot wait to disappear from my life and start a new one somewhere else. Call me David fkn Copperfield.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 11:37 PM
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Your partner's needs are about your partner, of course, but not totally about your partner, if that makes sense. Your partner's needs are likely subject to being a compromise if you don't want to meet them, and that's totally fine. However, this is likely going to cause some friction in the relationship (not the good kind) if needs start going unmet. The most important thing is for people to be compatible so that needs don't have to be fulfilled at the expense of the other partner's desires.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 11:35 PM
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It can be depending on what effort it took to get those words. If you had to spend time looking for sources and formulating a way to word these that fit your thesis, then it can be. I get pooped out by writing because it's a lot of mental work.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 08:35 PM
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I'd be flattered but wouldn't respond to the second part so it wouldn't be necessary. I'd say "thanks" and continue my workout.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 08:33 PM
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Gotta have the right hair. Mine is dark and curly.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 07:09 PM
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If you're actually self aware it is terribly annoying how it easy it is to do acts of evil when you're a guy. I find it to be the opposite but I've always had a pretty strong moral compass throughout my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 07:07 PM
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I just explained it. It's the longer half of the reply. Starts with "but in the friend-zone..."
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 07:06 PM
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Being "friends" is different from being "friend-zoned." If you're actual friends, you both don't know where you stand on the idea of things potentially becoming romantic, but in the friend-zone, it's clear that the other person will never be anything more than that, unless that friend is being used and made to think that they can become more than friends by doing things for the one who friend-zoned them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 07:01 PM
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Gym girls with natural genetic booty > natural genetic booty
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 04:19 PM
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Ah I see. Thanks so much 🙏
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 02:33 PM
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He's been recently expressing interest in wildland firefighting but he would have to move to a region where there's actual jobs open at the moment so idk what he'd be able to do about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 01:58 PM
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Ah I see. Thanks, I'll pass the info along to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 01:54 PM
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Ew. Weddings are big waste of money. Might as well use all of the bills that you'd spend on a wedding as decorations for the wedding in the backyard.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 04:29 AM
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Anybody ever think of doing something extreme, like swearing off sex and relationships for life or taking a vow of silence? As I get older, the reasons for people choosing to do these things becomes more clear.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 02:59 AM
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He's already done Amazon when he was out of a job but said it wasn't worth the trouble. Amazon overworks and underpays their employees and no benefits.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 02:44 AM
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No. I think most of the population is less moral and more instinctive. Morality is correlated with intelligence, if I remember correctly.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 02:40 AM
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Ah I'm not sure if he knows about those. Are they only for older people? The guy in question is around my age, mid-30's, and not fully disabled.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 02:34 AM
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Stop generalizing what one guy does with all guys potentially doing it. Every person is an individual, so you should treat them as such and avoid this "all guys are the same" stuff because it's an easy, lazy excuse to stop putting in effort. Also, stop being averse to confrontation and communicate directly with guys you like. You're not doing yourself any favors by dropping hints or being subtle and expecting them to do it for you. It's more likely that decent guys will not respond to your hints…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 02:30 AM
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Most don't or are unable to. It's usually the gf moving into the bfs place.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 10:09 PM
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Will do 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 09:31 PM
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Interesting. I'll have to tell them about that. Thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 09:15 PM
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He already gets disability pay from the VA but it's not enough to afford a place to stay. Especially with wannabe landlord "entrepreneurs" inflating the cost of rent everywhere right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 09:09 PM
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Sadly those aren't in any of the friend's options. They'd be homeless if they left their current living situation at least for a little while.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 08:35 PM
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Of course, because you have a bias on this topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 08:28 PM
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They're just not very good at "selling themselves" because they're genuine and humble and don't really believe in gassing the interviewers up just to get a job. They're a disabled vet with an honorable discharge and work very hard. They have positive reviews with all of their recent former employers but have done some bouncing around so I think employers look at them like they're an unstable hire.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 08:25 PM
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Must be nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 08:22 PM
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Eh my friend is against welfare. They definitely are employable and have a good work ethic but have trouble convincing interviewers of that, so it's been hard finding work for them. They're only not homeless right now because they're staying with family but that family consists of deplorable idiots so its a pretty unstable situation they're in.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 08:16 PM
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Not really. I just look for improvement and personal growth. Better to be a person that others can look up to than someone who is just thought of as "masculine."
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 08:07 PM
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Guys don't typically post on social media for attention, so their stories will probably reflect their actual lives instead of farming for likes.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 08:06 PM
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Q4All: How would you handle an unstable living situation with very little emergency funds to avoid being homeless? Asking for a friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 08:03 PM
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Men have to find their own way forward, unfortunately. There is no path that society can pave for them that will end up with positive results because that would usually involve disenfranchising or discriminating against others to make it happen. We can't all be equal and happy. That's a fantasy that idealists dream of.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 08:01 PM
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Stereotypes aren't relevant to answering this question either.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 07:59 PM
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We're speaking of the general experience, not the extreme, uncommon experiences, ma'am. In the worst cases, women assault men, try to hold them captive, try to coerce them into having sex under threat of false claims, or murder their reputations. We can argue outliers all you want but in the end, the answer will be the same, which is that women also suck at handling rejection.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 07:43 PM
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The question is "Do women also handle rejection poorly, or is it mostly men" to which the answer is "women handle it poorly too." Your response to this is "but men handle it worse" which literally does not matter at all. Women typically handle it just as poorly as they say men do, but deflect with things like "men handle it worse" or "women have to fear for their safety when rejecting men so getting mad at being rejected is justified."
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 07:05 PM
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Because it illustrates how they can't handle it. The intensity doesn't matter at all. Women having a problem with being rejected is unrelated to murder or assault.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 06:44 PM
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That's not what the question is asking for though so it is irrelevant to the answer. What is relevant is that women also suck at handling rejection and it is a baseless assumption that women will make excuses for.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 06:22 PM
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The post title reads "Are men the only ones who can't take rejection. Or is that a baseless assumption?" "Murder or assault" isn't relevant to that question.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 06:12 PM
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Times get hard = people become selfish. That's what happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 05:31 PM
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It's a baseless assumption that only seems that way because men do the majority of approaching so there's far more rejections on the men's side to look at which makes it look more like men can't handle rejection. In my experience, women are terrible at handling rejection too. A lot of them get angry or take offence to it, but only men who are being pursued by women will ever see it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 04:51 PM
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Hard to know or understand something that you have no experience with. Dudes who are young and/or have only been to strip clubs a few times get fleeced for money, and some just outright go to blow their paychecks at the strip club because it's "fun" to give strippers their money, apparently.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 03:24 AM
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I'm only familiar with the massage parlors being brothels. Never the clubs. Only in Mexico have I been to an actual "Gentleman's Club" that included the full-service lapdances.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 03:11 AM
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Not familiar with any in the US. My experience with US strip clubs is girl convinces guy to go in back and get lapdance "and maybe more" for an agreed-upon amount of money. They go back and he gets lapdance and nothing else. He gets upset and the bouncers step in, or she finesses him for another $100 - $200 and maybe touches his dick. That's about it. Now, in countries where prostitution is legal, you'll actually get what you paid for.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 03:09 AM
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Nah. A lot of guys go into strip clubs not knowing what they really are and end up leaving $500 - $1k poorer than when they went in because they thought if they threw out enough money, one of the strippers would have sex with them, but that doesn't happen too often.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 02:56 AM
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Well now's your chance to make other friends and then pretend like you don't know her when she comes back. Just like in High School.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 02:24 AM
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Strip clubs suck, actually. Any guy who isn't naive knows that it's all fake attention. The girls don't actually give a fuck about you. They're saying whatever you want to hear so you'll give them an extra $200 to dance on you while you watch and then not deliver on the handjob or blowjob they finessed you into thinking you were going to get.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 02:20 AM
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I'm not familiar with any gym like that around here. I'll have to look because it seems like a lot of the locally owned, non-franchise gyms are kinda shitty and not even on the radar.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 12:00 AM
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What's an example of a hard-core gym?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 11:54 PM
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If a man likes a woman well enough, he'll look past that, but men usually don't have much reason to like a woman too quickly to not get a feel for her views about sex first.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 10:17 PM
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If sex isn't on the table yet why would I get into it? Because if you want sex to be on the table, the other person needs to know some things about you first, like how sexually active you've been with strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 10:08 PM
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Yeah I'd prefer to be able to do things at home but I don't have the space. Bought one of those nylon strap homegym sets with the Olympic rings for bodyweight strength training and don't have a place to use them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 10:04 PM
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It doesn't have to be a deep dive unless someone history really is that deep. Having similar views on sex is important for a relationship and if someone doesn't want to answer, that's usually a bad sign because people with nothing to hide don't try to hide things.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 09:51 PM
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Be on your toes/look for the signs, start thinking about your state's land and climate and have a place to go to before shit hits the fan, because you don't want to be stuck in your neighborhood when it does.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 09:31 PM
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Yeah that question wouldn't get brought up unless someone was socially inept or just looking for someone to satisfy their kink. How many sexual partners someone has had would be a relevant and valid question, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 09:19 PM
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That's not a boundary. Boundaries are more like "be respectful, calm, not pushy or aggressive, etc." If your boundary is "you can't ask me anything that might cause you to judge me negatively," then you probably shouldn't be dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 08:36 PM
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Ah okay. I'm leaning more toward martial arts though, not wrestling or MMA specifically.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 08:33 PM
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I've been there too but can't go because people that I'm currently having a falling out with are going to the one in my area. I'd have to drive an extra 15 minutes to a different location.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 08:19 PM
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That would require two different memberships. Haven't seen any all-in-one fight club gyms yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 08:18 PM
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Been there before but it is a little bit of a drive to get to one.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 08:17 PM
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Opinions on best gym to go to? I've been wanting to get back into working out but I don't know what gym would be the best for me. I want to be able to lift weight but also focus on functional fitness too. There are plenty of regular gyms around my area but also cross-fit gyms and combat gyms that practice MMA or Muay Thai, but the latter utilizes mostly cardio and HIIT with no weightrooms or traditional gym equipment.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 08:11 PM
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Very few dates are actual 50/50. Most dates, the man pays. Some, the woman pays. Free stuff is a cheap date that most women don't prefer to go on unless they're already well past the initial dating stage, so not really worth mentioning here.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 07:59 PM
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I agree. If you start off dating someone with "that's none of your business," that's not a good look for a healthy, transparent relationship. People just don't want actions to have consequences anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 07:58 PM
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Uncertainty, confusion, mass chaos. Better start prep-a-leppin.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 07:56 PM
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You're free to have whatever opinion or perspective on how dating should be, but it's not what it currently is. Dates are not 50/50.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 07:54 PM
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So in the end, you agree and justify women offsetting their own costs onto men. Nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 07:09 PM
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Oof. Well best of luck to you then. Hopefully you'll have some priority or protection as a govt lackey.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 07:06 PM
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Suit yourself. Better to stay off the radar for the future events that are coming down the pipe in the next 10 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 07:00 PM
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Those things are just biometric data hoarders. You gave them your face for a rating.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 06:55 PM
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“According to what?” Is this not a question? I’m confused? I didn’t concur anything based off what you said. I answered what I thought was a question posed by you. There was a mix-up. I asked you according to what standard do women put in equal effort and you said "according to modern dating." No, that's according to you/your opinion. "Modern dating" is not a person capable of measuring effort. Women have more to do and more to lose. No, not really. Women have everything to gain from dating in t…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 06:53 PM
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They work because they illicit more of a visceral reaction from women whereas normal, average, everyday men do not illicit as much of a reaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 06:44 PM
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Nope it’s proactive as well. A big chunk of it is appearance oriented because if a man doesn’t like how you look nothing else matters. There’s more to it than that though. They advise on how you should conduct yourself, how you should speak to him, how to fill up your time to be more socially interesting and appealing to different types of men, where to go to meet them etc. Yeah, that's all mostly reactionary. Why ask that then lol? I didn't ask anything. You concurred that what I was describing…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 06:30 PM
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Another interesting tidbit of info, if you haven't heard, each planet has a sound and they've been recorded.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 06:26 PM
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There's a lot of good YouTube videos about "sacred sound" or illustrating how everything in the universe is basically sound or vibration in motion. It's like the universe is it's own symphony if we could hear it all.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 05:48 PM
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False. I’m assuming you’re a man? Probably a straight one? Correct me if I’m wrong. There’s conventional dating advice centered around catering to men as well. Yes, I know what it looks like. It's mostly reactionary. The action-oriented advice that women get is centered around their appearance. Men's advice is mostly action-oriented because we're the ones expected to do everything whether it be plan the date, lead the convo, pay, and/or make the date enjoyable for the woman. According to modern …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 05:46 PM
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Music is the universe.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 05:39 PM
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Yeah, music is probably the one thing that makes me happy to be alive sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 05:32 PM
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Interesting. Thanks for the new info.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 05:31 PM
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All women aren’t quality by default. Both men and women know that. Most men just don’t care if all they want is sex. If she’s not a quality woman they’ll just pump and dump her. Not true. Most conventional dating advice and opinions you will hear from people center all attention on the man catering to the woman, not the other way around, or even mutual effort from both people. For most interactions with men, women care about the guys quality to varying degrees and the level of effort she puts in…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 05:28 PM
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Yes, all of this is focusing on the guy being a quality guy while assuming that all of the women are quality women by default. If you're going out on a date, you should be evaluating the other person, not simply trying to appease them. Be wary of the person that appears to want something from you, because they probably do, and also be wary of those who are entitled to other people's time and attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 05:18 PM
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Hypocrisy is "rules for thee, but not for me," or double standards. If someone says that another person must do X for them while they don't have to do X for anyone else, they're a hypocrite, or if doing X makes someone else a bad person but they aren't bad when they do X.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 05:13 PM
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Hard to want to find chemistry with someone if you have a list of things to do when interacting with them instead of being able to enjoy your time. Men's experience is the former while women's is the latter, so that's why women don't understand what it feels like to date from a man's perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 04:50 PM
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The second one
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 04:30 PM
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Disappointment, mostly.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 04:22 PM
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Same. I know that feel. Maybe we should gather everyone who feels that way and start a new civilization somewhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 04:03 PM
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The men that see women as humans are the men that women don't pay much attention to. They want the guys they like to see them as humans, which are the same guys that smash and dash and treat them like poop. Go figure.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 04:01 PM
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Yeah. I just had an appointment a few days ago but it was only an intake so not very helpful when you might need to talk to someone now.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 03:52 PM
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In short, better to just avoid dating conventionally altogether if you're a man. Otherwise, you'll have to deal with this and "get good at reading women" while women don't have to remotely put in the same amount of effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 03:50 PM
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It's down there next to the Illuminati hand signal
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 03:45 PM
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I've gone before but not consistently. Damn appointment times are always at least a few weeks out.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 03:29 PM
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It be doing 🖖
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 03:28 PM
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The world can make you feel that way. Anyone who is a little different will eventually start to notice people responding in certain ways to them that makes them feel like something is wrong with them. Happens to me a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 03:27 PM
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Greetings, fellow shape-shifter 👽
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 03:14 PM
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Ah yeah the latter applies to me. Been wanting to talk to someone about it for a long time but just haven't been able to.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 03:11 PM
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Same. Maybe this place attracts misfits and unconventional people. I've noticed a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 03:04 PM
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I don't mean temporarily.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 02:56 PM
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Ah. Sorry to hear. I've been feeling that way since I was your age too.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 02:39 PM
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Has anyone ever dealt with feelings of not belonging anywhere in the world?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 02:32 PM
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So just out of curiosity, how many astrology/enneagram/chakra/reiki/crystal - loving women do we have in this sub?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 05:18 AM
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You can get diseases from non-sexual contact. No sharing straws, cups, silverware, or food and drinks. No sharing bongs, bowls or other pot-smoking devices either. Beware of idiots with dirty hands, and I say that because I think I caught herpes from my idiot brother playing video games.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 05:08 AM
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She secretly wants that old pruny shrimp wiener.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 05:05 AM
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In my experience, women get sexual too soon. Well, too soon for me, at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 11:30 PM
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Pornography is not "sex education." It's not supposed to be educational. It's for fantasizing and busting a nut. If you have sexual views or habits that are unhealthy, then you are unhealthy. Don't blame porn. It's no different from when fat stupid people blame their food for being unhealthy rather than admitting that they're ignorant about their own unhealthy eating habits.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 11:19 PM
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Nope. Sorry ladies, but alimony is not adult child support. It's your fault if you can't support yourself without the assistance of your ex.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 11:13 PM
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Well it's not so much that they have empathy. It's that they're mature and their decisions don't hinge on the other person doing something first in order for them to reciprocate. It's called "tit for tat" behavior and not a good sign in any relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 05:14 PM
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Sunflowers are underrated. I get them for the women in my life all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 04:30 PM
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Unless this decision would force women to step up their game. It would. That's why men should do it. It's petty and childish to say "I won't do Y unless you do X first."
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 04:27 PM
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Men are most valued for what they can do for a woman, whether that be giving her feelings of happiness and excitement just by seeing him, or whether he can do things that benefit her life, or both.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 04:23 PM
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Yeah, that’s definitely not been my experience. Yes, most people don't have very deep relationships with people other than their sex partners and maybe some family, so they think most of it happens in sexual relationships when it doesn't. Communication with a romantic partner often involves a level of heightened emotion that just isn’t present in platonic relationships. The intensity doesn't matter. Whether you talk to someone like an intimate partner or a stranger, you're still communicating th…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 04:20 PM
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There's compromise and communication in every relationship. You don't need romantic relationships to learn about those things. If you can't do either, you're probably going to suck at relationships. There's very little exclusive features of romantic relationships that wouldn't apply to relationships with friends or family.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 03:29 PM
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They can, but that all depends on the person. You don't even need to be in a romantic relationship to learn about relationships because all relationships function on the same ground. Romantic relationships just involve more specific activities like sex and sexual intimacy, whereas the others don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 02:44 PM
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We may not be entitled to friendships but I think we're at least entitled to explanations from our friends or long-time former friends for some things.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 02:36 PM
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Or it could just means a lot of incompatible relationships and one compatible one. Doesn't really imply any knowledge of relationships on their part. I'd say the person who knows more is the person who can do it the least amount of times for longer than others can. If you've been in multiple, short relationships, it's either an indicator that you were too different, or that one or both people suck at relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 02:28 PM
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Being in a relationship doesn't automatically mean someone knows about relationships. Especially if they've been in multiple relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 02:14 PM
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Late-bloomer maybe?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 01:30 PM
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Awesome. It looks pretty short so I'll make quick work of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 12:36 PM
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Jeez. Just sounds like a bad dad or someone who's a bit irresponsible and sucks with kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 12:34 PM
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I don't have it. It's something I saw in passing and made a mental note of.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 04:57 AM
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It's referring to married couples also, not young dumb zoomer relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 04:47 AM
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Nah. Inside the US maybe within the last 20 years or so.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 04:45 AM
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Interesting. Must be some level-headed ones out there amid the ones who are in it for the cash and prizes.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 03:26 AM
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Many feminists still seem to assume that childcare should be a woman's job. That's strange. Still adhering to sexist gendered stereotypes as a feminist. How do they keep the left and right sides of their brains intact?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 03:16 AM
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Noice. Hope it's got some good info then because I could use a little shift in perspective as the guy that's always there for his friends yet few are there for me when it counts.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 03:07 AM
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Idk about that. I remember seeing a study briefly which said that most couples are split in their official parties but share similar views or are able to see and respect their partner's differing views without becoming angry or emotional.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 03:06 AM
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Boredom is going to be part of everyone's lives, including relationships. If people can't deal with the boredom or boring parts of relationships, then they probably shouldn't be in relationships. It's not a partner's responsibility to make things fun for someone who's bored.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 02:46 AM
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Wonder where they hid all their nuggets...
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 02:45 AM
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There's no right or wrong way to live our lives but there are good and bad ways, or better and worse ways. Some people don't care and some people want to do better. That's all. I'd rather learn stuff that can help make my life easier and help make life better for others than to do whatever I wanted and make things bad or worse for myself and others.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 02:45 AM
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Sounds interesting. Probs because feminists are largely against men and the book talks about women being and doing what they can as women, it appears.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 02:43 AM
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It's a common thing that men hear women complaining about as "the worst thing." It's what leads to all sorts of issues that men end up complaining about, such as being in a relationship with a woman that's bored, because that means he's either going to have to do something to entertain her, or she's going to go looking for fun somewhere else (i.e., probably talking to another guy).
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 02:35 AM
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Ah that sounds kind of interesting. Can't go wrong with Montana saloon gold rush hookers.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 02:28 AM
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Perhaps. Not surprising though to hear that there's nothing worse than a woman being bored though.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 02:23 AM
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Idk about that. There's a lot of good self-help and self-transformation books out there for people looking to grow. Granted, there are self-help books out there that are like the alpha male courses you're referencing, and some even have "alpha male" in the title.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 02:22 AM
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This is a non-issue. Women might say that they dislike conservative/Republican men but most couples are woman/democrat and man/republican. They were able to put aside their differences because they didn't make their political party their personality like some of the wackjobs out there do.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 02:12 AM
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I don't think boredom is an emotion.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 02:07 AM
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Spontaneously decided to go to the bookstore today and found a book called "No More Mr. Nice Guy." The introduction appealed to me so I bought it. Good book or no? What's in your current reading list? Also, how to deal with a woman who misleads others into thinking you're a bad person yet refuses to talk with you about what her problem is, aside from wrestling her into a straight-jacket and hauling her off to the crazy home?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 02:04 AM
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College is for exploring the world No. College is for figuring out where you want to go in life, and then once you graduate, you explore the world and find where you fit in.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 01:59 AM
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I don't think it matters as long as the woman herself is mature and knows what she wants, but the less amount of sexual partners, the better. If a woman has to go through countless relationships and sexual partners to learn about the world and herself, she's not the one.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/23 01:58 AM
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Both?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 08:58 PM
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Yeah. People are usually looking for dates or something that could lead to sex or romance on those apps so it probably wouldn't work out as well for guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 08:30 PM
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Sad
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 08:01 PM
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Interesting. How did Bumble BFF work out for you? Is it different from dating?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 08:01 PM
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It is, believe me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 06:41 PM
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I mean they don't have to be frequent and reliable. Quality over quantity for me. I just have to feel like going places in order for the spontaneity to happen, and I usually don't. Depression is a MFer.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 06:22 PM
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Meh. Me not beggar.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 06:17 PM
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I mean the best interactions that I've had with people were genuine and spontaneous, not forced. The forced ones usually never work out too well, or maybe weren't meant to work out if I'm bringing my personal philosophy into it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 06:16 PM
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Absolutely. The unquestionable truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 06:14 PM
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Absolutely.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 06:14 PM
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That makes sense for some people I suppose.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 06:14 PM
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Sad
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 06:12 PM
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Lies. Haven't you heard what reddit says about dads?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 06:11 PM
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I've volunteered at the library before and I enjoyed it. Not much of an avenue for socializing though.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 06:09 PM
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But the original question is how does one go out to make friends or meet people without feeling fake about it. They obviously have some motive that they're using to approach people or conversations with that will be geared toward moving those interactions in the direction that they want, typically. I don't think many people go out and "just be themselves" in this case.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 06:04 PM
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And if they don't watch sports?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 05:57 PM
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How do people go out and try to make friends without feeling fake about it? I've gone out to join some meet groups before for socializing and making friends but everyone seemed like they were just waiting for something to happen or like they were asking "so when does the making friends start?" It really ruins the experience when you go out looking for genuine human interaction and everyone seems like they have some kind of motive that they're hiding, whether it be finding someone to spend time w…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 05:43 PM
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Yeah I don't agree with people's criteria of what these things are. Wanting children is not "feminine" and being assertive is not "masculine." They're states of mind that pertain to an individual's wants or desires. Nothing more.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 02:58 PM
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What do you mean? What's there to agree with? It's just a way that people choose to express themselves. There's no right or wrong way to express oneself. There will only be disagreements on what people think masculinity is.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 02:41 PM
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I'll help if you still need it
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 02:36 PM
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Yeah, I like women. The good things about them are good but the bad things about them are bad. Gotta accept both if you want them around.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 02:30 PM
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There aren't any. Masculinity is masculinity. It doesn't have a particular look.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 02:27 PM
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Trolling and ranting and creating outrage?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 04:28 AM
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A sad state of affairs?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 04:24 AM
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<3
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 03:38 AM
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Ah maybe I should make a female profile and try that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 03:31 AM
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Ah. Well at least you have us to warm the fire in your heart when the nights are cold.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 03:09 AM
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"Somebody help! This lady is crazy! She needs the leash bed!"
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 03:06 AM
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Sounds like you also have no one else to talk to then lol
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 03:00 AM
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Ah but of course. Wonder what she'd actually say if she could talk.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 02:48 AM
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It's okay. Pets are nice but I think they're more like distractions and I have the internet if I want a distraction, but distractions don't help very much.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 02:47 AM
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Eh. Been there done that already. Sometimes not even those people can help you after a certain point of growth. I just don't know where else to turn right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 02:36 AM
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Ah. Not sure how much that would help honestly. The world is looking more and more like an increasingly cold and lonely place everyday.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 02:25 AM
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Ah. Never heard of it before. Just asking because I've been losing people in my life lately and now have nobody to turn to. Maybe I just need time to acclimate myself but it's always rough for the first week or two.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 02:23 AM
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Wat that?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 02:17 AM
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Does that help at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 02:03 AM
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Interesting but doesn't sound very helpful.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 02:03 AM
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Ah yes, always reliable.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 02:03 AM
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That's when you have no one else to talk to?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 02:03 AM
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Delusional. You can't undo that which has already been done.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 02:01 AM
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Because u r 2 dum 4 dem
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 01:57 AM
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Q4all: who do you go to when you have no one else to talk to?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 01:55 AM
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I don't think pent up aggression plays a role here. It's just a different reason or additional reason for the action. Guys still allegedly assault women out in public for various reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 01:53 AM
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That's a 2 hour long video lol. Anyway, I'm not so sure that you need to know a woman to lower her value, and I'm not sure it works that way because I think guys assaulting or date raping women at parties can accomplish the same thing, and they don't have to know each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 01:50 AM
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I'm not sure about that. Never heard that before.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 12:32 AM
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Well yes they weren't in a verbally agreed relationship but that's still a relationship beyond non-intimacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 11:57 PM
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What does "been seeing" mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 11:50 PM
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🤔
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 11:47 PM
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He has never been a stranger to everyone though. Abusers get out of a relationship and into another relationship as a stranger. That doesn't mean they're no longer abusers until they abuse again, which they probably will.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 11:45 PM
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Obviously, they couldn't have, so they'd be on the side with the other guys who have never abused a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 11:30 PM
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It's different for relationships though. We can assume that in the context of a relationship, the man approached the woman or initiated the interaction and the woman allowed it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 11:23 PM
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Because being attracted to someone is different from having the urge to fuck. Women who are spreading their legs for everyone will have guys lining up, and not because the guys are attracted to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 11:20 PM
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He's paying for an apartment for both of them plus half of the rent on a cottage that she just moved to for a job a few hours away from where she left him at the original apartment. He's broke because he pays for everything despite her being crazy one day and normal the next. I told him he's being manipulated and should leave the country but he continues to stay.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 11:10 PM
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Being told to be afraid of someone isn't a good nor automatically valid reason to do so. In the context of the above, it doesn't make sense to be afraid of strangers when there's more reason to be afraid of someone you know.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 11:08 PM
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That's a valid concern but that means you can't assume either of them. They're like a Schrodinger's Assaulter.' However, I think that if we group together the men that have been in a relationship before with the men who have abused a partner, we'd get a pretty significant overlap with the culprits being in the center and the guys who have never abused a partner off to the side.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 11:04 PM
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I wouldn't label men gravitating toward women who are putting out as "attraction."
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 10:54 PM
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The first one. I've learned to be happy with little and prefer quality over quantity.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 10:51 PM
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Ah. I was on mobile and didn't notice. My apologies.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 10:50 PM
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Q4Women: Any of you ever notice that it seems like women are afraid of the wrong guys? Statistically speaking, most assaults that happen to women are by current or former partners. That means that those men passed through all checks and barriers to make it to the spot where the woman is most vulnerable, only to abuse her later on. Meanwhile, there are guys out there that wouldn't do that to a woman but because they're strangers, they're automatically sus. I think its funny that a lot of things r…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 10:49 PM
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That doesn't have much to do with your previous comment about it being immature or lacking attentiveness. I'll tell you that being a quality person will take you further than looking the part any day of the week. Who you are matters more than what you look like, but people place more focus on the latter since that's all they might have control over.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 09:24 PM
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That’s a good reason to reject, not dressing well suggests lack of maturity and attentiveness Pfft. Or it just means you prefer personal comfort over appealing to strangers. Quite a silly assumption to make about another person.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 08:25 PM
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I disagree with some of these points. Women will reject men for stupid reasons like their style of dress or their shoes. There is no magic one-size-fits all approach to attracting women and finding relationships, and that's what makes it difficult.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 08:17 PM
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Kind of. My mum introduced me to the dark side of women and ever since then, I've struggled to find a woman that doesn't share her toxic traits, so I've come to accept that most women are just like that and I'm searching for one that probably doesn't exist or is always in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 08:14 PM
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If all of your experience is in sex, that's likely all you'll have to offer someone when they do come around. I'm fairly sure that my experience with people becoming more or less attractive depending on their personality isn't unique to me, so I'd suggest that people work on becoming better people rather than gaining bedroom experience, and when I say "better people," I mean good moral compass, honest, attentive, mentally stable, healthy, focused on growth and personal development, enriches the …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 08:11 PM
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I'm not the one getting all flustered.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 07:32 PM
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It's "generalities," and yes, it does work like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 07:08 PM
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You're not missing much new stuff. The older stuff though is great, like anything 2016 and older.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 06:50 PM
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Guessing you don't watch anime. You're missing out if you don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 06:42 PM
1

Like in JJBA part 4?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 06:32 PM
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K. I'm part of that general, so I responded with a comment about me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 06:22 PM
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I don't tolerate toxicity at all. Guess that's why I'm a single loner.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 06:02 PM
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Yes, in government buildings and stuff, and maybe some people's exes.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 06:01 PM
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We already know about them. We're just waiting for them to come out.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 05:04 PM
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Hard to say because you have to evaluate the information, not the person giving it, and if you don't know, then you're going to believe it based on your own views. That's why the podcast guys attract so many viewers. They say what aligns with the viewer's experiences, and the viewers are willing to listen to almost anything they say.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 04:25 PM
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Ah I see. That's understandable.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 04:18 PM
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Do you see those people on a regular basis and hold some kind of relationship with them? If so, then why continue? I don't waste my time or energy on people who think poorly of me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 04:12 PM
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I think that if everyone knew people could only tell the truth, they'd start asking the important questions that most people avoid.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 04:11 PM
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That might also lead to women telling men that they're not interested because the guys are not attractive, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 04:10 PM
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For shore.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 04:09 PM
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Would they go out of their way to tell me these things? No, of course it would come up situationally in the moment. One thing usually leads to another and a lot of stuff would likely be said in a single conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 04:08 PM
1

I wonder how many relationships and "friendships" would instantly hit the fan.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 04:02 PM
1

Really puts into perspective how bad the world really is behind all of the fake pleasantries.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 03:59 PM
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They be attracted to the toxicity and don't want to admit it. Pretty common to find gaggles of women in social circles that do nothing except talk shit about everyone behind their backs.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 03:54 PM
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Being in a relationship isn't an automatic sign of authority. A lot of people fall into relationships or didn't do anything particularly specific or special to find them. There's a woman I know that's been in quite a few relationships yet she's a steaming hot mess. I saw her in action one time trying to get the attention of a guy that obviously wasn't that interested and it was hard to watch.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 03:53 PM
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QforA: What do you think the world would look like if everyone was only able to tell the absolute truth for a week?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 03:50 PM
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Don't you get it? The only reason women are "doing fine right now" is because men are approaching. If men stopped doing that, women wouldn't be fine anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 02:21 PM
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so the reason women don't approach men is because approaching sucks and they don't have to, men will approach them it is in the interest of men as a collective to change this, so they should stop approaching women Yes. however the man, singular, is as you said thirsty as fuck and his actual on an individual level his best option is to continue approaching women No. In this case, what applies to the group applies to every individual in that group. If not approaching women is good, then the indivi…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 03:42 AM
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Dunno, I feel as though women are always bombarded with messages about how to keep your man happy (be sexy for him, be feminine and delicate, don't nag, be pleasant, cook, clean, smile, don't complain, be slutty in bed, be submissive, respect his decisions, compliment him, don't contradict him etc etc). Well there's the problem - women are following a script. Doing a bunch of general things isn't going to be an automatic solution, which kind of prove the point that women don't know what to do ex…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 03:35 AM
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Heard of it but not too familiar with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 03:31 AM
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I've noticed that foreign women are either a bit weird or just plain crazy, depending on where they're from. If they're from a 3rd world country, they're likely going to be in some state of survival mode so they're going to be more manipulative to the point where it looks like they have some personality disorder, which may also be a possibility. Have a friend like this who left the US temporarily to try a relationship with a woman in South America. I told him not to go unless he really wanted to…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 03:28 AM
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I think a solution to men's problems would be to stop approaching women but some of them are going to do it regardless because they're convinced that they have to or they're thirsty af. If most men stopped approaching and focused on polishing up their personal philosophy on life, I think most women would notice the difference and come running back.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 03:21 AM
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People make dating too convoluted these days so people should just do whatever they want and stop with all of the implicit messages and covert contracts.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 03:08 AM
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Ah well there's my problem - I'm not social. Also, don't approach women. Women need to get used to the idea that they can't expect someone else to do the things they want for them, and that it's time to do it themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 03:04 AM
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Yes, only a real man can break through their tough outer exterior to reach the soft, sweet woman inside, kind of like a tootsie pop.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 12:20 AM
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It does though.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 10:57 PM
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No. They're a big waste of money and an environmental hazard.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 10:40 PM
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(WhiskeyOnASunday93) is cringe
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 10:40 PM
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If you're not wanting to have any duties other than enjoy yourself and spend your partner's money, then you have to be at least very physically attractive. If not, you probably won't find someone willing to provide you this kind of lifestyle unless they're desperate and have money to blow.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 09:49 PM
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"Greetings, fellow Americans! Happy Independence Day! Let's celebrate by... (checks notes) polluting the environment!"
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 09:47 PM
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If you think only nice, kind, mentally stable women are in long term relationships This was never said or implied. Maybe you should brush up on your reading comprehension before engaging with others. "Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak and to remove all doubt."
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 08:15 PM
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Those appearances have to be defined in order for someone to properly choose. I'd pick a "3" if she was still actually a 5, but probably wouldn't pick an actual 3, like this woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 05:53 PM
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Yeah I wouldn't consider them 3s. I'd have sex with more than half of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 05:09 PM
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Okay? Lol. A woman can be overweight and still have a pretty face. I wouldn't consider a pretty woman to be a 3 just because she's overweight. I see a lot of pretty, overweight women that I'd still have sex with.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 04:57 PM
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So.. just regular, everyday women?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 04:50 PM
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Eh. I am unapologetic but that also makes it harder for me to get along with people, as I either come off as an arrogant asshole or just some weird guy that they don't know what to think of.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 04:14 PM
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Depending on what the 3 actually looks like, probably neither.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 04:11 PM
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Believe what you want but men aren't going to commit to some bitchy woman or aggressive ratchet hood rat over a nice, kind, mentally stable woman. The ones who are relationship material get put in the "potentials" box and the ones that aren't get put in the fuck zone.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 04:10 PM
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That's not on the guys. If a woman is looking for marriage commitment before the relationship even starts, they've got to show that they're marriage material.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 04:00 PM
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Are some people just naturally loners? Yes, even though they may not want to be at times.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 03:59 PM
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Aw that's nice. I suppose I just come off as a bit of an oddball because people don't know where to place me in their mental filing cabinet, which is unfortunate because it seems like I constantly get judged as being someone I'm not, and all because they didn't really know me as well as they thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 03:57 PM
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Whoever they want, but I think they usually end up as trophy wives or a relationship centerpiece for wealthy men with status, or they end up with some regular guy because they realized that it's better to be happy with someone that values them as a person than in some aesthetic relationship with someone that doesn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 03:53 PM
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Noice. It's been weird for me because I tend to get along better with people that are older than me or people that are younger than me. People around my age are..... different.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 03:49 PM
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Feels like making friends when you're older is the same situation for any romantic relationship. People are all just looking to satisfy a personal need. I come across few people who seem genuinely open to meeting other people. They're either being polite and don't really care or they're acting friendly because they want something. I've never had too many friends because I only vibe with certain people and seeing so much fakeness from others makes me wary of and avoid people who show any kind of …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 02:53 PM
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I think people often downplay how difficult it is for older people to make friends. Older people are more set in their ways and typically already have "a life" that they don't deviate from very often, and that includes their set social circle of people that they engage with on a regular basis. That makes it harder for other older people who are looking to make friends become part of someone else's circle. Also, it's easier to make friends when you're younger because people don't have much experi…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 02:36 PM
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I've been losing friends recently and I didn't have many to start with. Guess I'll be part of that statistic soon enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 02:31 PM
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Didn't work. I still roared and also committed a war crime.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 04:14 AM
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Nah. Just one very hard flick. One Flick Man style.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 02:00 AM
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Improper jerking. 5 yard penalty. 3rd down.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 01:58 AM
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I want to flick it into outer space.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 01:54 AM
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Nah. They don't deserve the satisfaction. They deserve to stay miserable.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 01:54 AM
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There's not enough arm movement to consider it a jerk, so you can't jerk off a clitoris.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 01:53 AM
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What's there to jerk off on a woman? Jerking off is something done to dick, not the penis fly trap.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 01:44 AM
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Might work if they had a dick, but they do not.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 01:40 AM
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If she's becoming a hoe at any point in her life, 100% parenting wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 01:30 AM
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How to fight the desire to tell someone off?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 01:29 AM
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More like a hot useless post. Copy and paste the relevant info so people don't have to go searching for the subject matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 11:55 PM
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Yeah, I suppose that might be the route that some people have to take. I should try that instead. Or after a few therapy sessions to see if the counselor can offer a different perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 09:59 PM
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All of my previous experiences point to the latter being not likely :(
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 07:11 PM
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Doesn't really help honestly. I do this and it seems like most of the issues are things that I can't control. I have problems with certain social situations but I refuse to change certain things about myself that would result in discarding my morals or principles just to get the desired outcome that I want.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 06:47 PM
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I'm asking because I have a therapy appointment in 2 days. I know they don't sit and tell you nice things about yourself, but they won't be able to help you if you're able to explain everything to them and it checks out. Also, I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing to be hard on yourself, but a therapist will help determine whether the degree to which you are is warranted or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 06:44 PM
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Can't say for certain. I think therapists tend to have certain personalities or personality traits that make them more suited to that job. It's not something that anyone can simply go through college and do as good as someone who is already like a therapist but without the degree.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 06:42 PM
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Ah that's very good. Glad that at least some people are finding it helpful.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 06:40 PM
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............and solve the problem Negative. Therapy alone doesn't solve problems. The individual has to solve the problems themselves. The therapist only offers potential methods to achieve that. People mistakenly thinking that therapy is supposed to solve their problems is the reason why they say "therapy doesn't work." Thinking that you are 100% self sufficient, 100% introspective, is an issue in itself. I'm sorry to say this but you are not special, everyone thinks they are introspective, the…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 05:48 PM
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You should.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 05:43 PM
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Sounds more like brainwashing or positive gaslighting if the person isn't totally delusional about themselves. However, if someone is level-headed and rational, and the things they say about themselves make sense, then it becomes a situation where you're basically talking to them and there is no progress to be made. Sometimes people's solutions really are just outside of their own reach.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 05:38 PM
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Damn. Sucks when that happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 05:36 PM
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Interesting
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 05:35 PM
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I didn't say that it did. People go to therapy to help identify the root of their problems with someone else who is a third party, and thus not under the influence of their emotions or clouded judgement. People who are introspective and more self-aware are likely to know the root of their problems but not be able to find a solution for them. For example, I know what helps and doesn't help me because I know myself, so when the therapist offers a suggestion for something I could do, it's probably …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 05:35 PM
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Is there anyone out there who feels like they're so self-aware and introspective that therapy doesn't really help them since the problems that people typically have and seek therapy for stem from their lack of self-awareness and introspection?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 05:18 PM
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I'd say that men should focus on self-confidence and not dating. Dating in the US is a poop party. There aren't many mature people out there who can simply go out to meet someone to mutually get to know them as a person. Nearly everyone is going in with some motive to satisfy a personal need (i.e., most of the unhealthy, immature, inexperienced people are dating). You'd be saving yourself a lot of time, energy and trouble focusing on yourself and waiting to encounter someone you meet in your eve…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 05:14 PM
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I don't believe anyone has ever said otherwise. Overweight women are largely unattractive. Their health is a different issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 04:07 PM
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Do things that keep you centered. If you want to be centered but you're living a lifestyle that veers heavily off the direction you want to go in life, you'll have a hard time centering yourself because you know that you're seeking two different things. We can't have it both ways.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 04:05 PM
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What song are you talking about? I haven't heard of anything like that lately. Women should be allowed to admire tall, lean and strong guys with great hairlines. We shouldn’t get shamed for it? When we fawn over certain men, guys will call us out? Again, men aren't usually making songs about frumpy gremlin women or ugly bitches. Most music that I've heard by male artists talks negatively about women's behavior, while conversely, female artists talk positively about men's behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 02:51 AM
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Lol. Talking positively about specific traits is much different from talking negatively about others. That would be the difference here. Men are talking about what they want ("thick hips, slim waste"). Women are talking about what they don't want ("Scrubs/Short dick man").
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 08:40 PM
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Probably, yeah. Women have friends and other people for social support so they can do without relationships while men are usually lacking in both.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 08:35 PM
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I mean, if they've been dating around and in relationships for a decent amount of time and are still single, that's usually the logical conclusion. In my case, I've been rejecting women for a long time because I don't want the obligations that being in a relationship comes with. I enjoy my freedom, and unless a worthwhile woman comes along, I'll continue enjoying it. I also don't date either so I may be out of the loop with non-verbal dating behaviors (knowing what to do and when I'm "supposed t…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 08:28 PM
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Congrats. My point still remains valid though.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 02:56 AM
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Ah. Woman confirmed.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 02:47 AM
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So did you not read my comment, not understand my comment, or reply to my comment by mistake?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 02:45 AM
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Ever got in an argument with someone over text where you were more polite than you should have been and want to give into that nagging feeling to text back a few days after you've had time to process everything and really lay into them? I am currently there.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 02:27 AM
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This doesn't have much to do with her. All you can do is focus on yourself here. If you're happy and your girlfriend is happy, then what is the point of worrying? What are you even worried about? Unless there's actual suspicious behavior going on, there's no cause for concern. You should definitely talk to someone about your feelings, though. Keeping them inside will only cause them to fester and you'll never get over them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 02:22 AM
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Because both sexes are trying to get stuff from the other without giving much, if anything at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 02:17 AM
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It's like the MBTI for emotional expression. Naturally, women will automatically give it more consideration than it deserves.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 02:15 AM
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Nah. There are still places on all ends of the country that offer affordable living situations. Problem is only if you want luxurious comfort. If you're a woman, your opinions make sense. Women are usually the ones that desire more expensive living conditions.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 02:12 AM
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Negative. You're painting this in black and white (either you live outside of your means or you live in cheap, boring destitution. Sorry, but no. You can afford a reasonable annual vacation and rent in a place outside of the major innercity, phone bill, car insurance, and a used car with $60k per year. If you want to lease a nice new car, have a $2500 studio in the inner city, take multiple vacations a year or just one expensive one in a resort somewhere, eat out multiple times a week, and basic…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 01:13 AM
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Not even. Comfortable is comfortable. People who make excuses like that are people who would be broke even if they were wealthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 12:33 AM
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What? Not sure what planet you're living in but a single person can live off of $60k comfortably if they're not living above their means and throwing money away on a bunch of luxuries like new car payments and a $2500/month one bedroom apartment in a metro area.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 10:04 PM
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Hotter? Maybe in certain regions but not everywhere. Especially not England, bruv.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 09:36 PM
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Romance is exaggerated in cinema, so it's representative in what women are looking for, but it is a bit unrealistic.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 06:47 PM
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Ah. That's pretty common too. Sex creates feelings that aren't really there. That's why I suggest people not have it too soon, though they always seem to want it early.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 03:40 PM
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Well all this time, you've probably understood as "I don't know. They're just so nice and caring and supportive, etc." All the stuff that happens after the attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 03:25 PM
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Could be pheromones. Who knows? Combination of stuff: proximity, familiarity, FOMO, attraction to certain features, etc. The important thing to remember is that you don't have to partner with everyone you're attracted to. Especially if they're bad news. Of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 02:19 PM
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A lot of people forget the fact that attraction isn't logical and people will rationalize why they're attracted to someone when asked because they're unaware of what features or traits their brain is subconsciously responding to. The science of attraction is actually very silly and only makes sense through the lens of our species, as we adapted and evolved to survive, not for our mate choices to make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 03:53 AM
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You don't want to know what you can find on OF - not that I'd know, but I've heard.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 03:43 AM
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I agree with a lot of his thinky stuffs.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 03:42 AM
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Because the truth has been hidden from the boiz for too long. Suppressed by mainstream media, the Illuminati, and the Rockefellers.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 03:37 AM
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YA-HUH!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 03:36 AM
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Depends on the type of lifestyle that the woman wants. If it's a $100k lifestyle and he only makes $60k at that moment, then he's going to have to find a wife that is satisfied with a $60k lifestyle. People usually work with what they got anyway, so I guess the answer is yes. Also, the hypothetical was realistic, as fat OF models who make too much money exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 03:34 AM
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Real men know that the ultimate dress hack to attract women is a pair of moon shoes.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 03:31 AM
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Men and women will continue to fight for dominance until the end of time?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 03:28 AM
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In most cases, men don't care about women's salaries. It's not a factor that makes our penises hard. A hypothetical morbidly obese Only Fans model that makes six figures is just a morbidly obese woman in men's eyes, and that's not attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 03:25 AM
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Where do women say/indicate that they believe their salary makes them more attractive to men? It's voiced in the dating requirements and complaints of the high-earners and "career women." They think that men should want them more because they have status and have worked hard to achieve success and blah blah blah. That's something that women value in men, not vice versa. Almost all the women I know and observe understand that how they look and perhaps how appealing their personality traits and in…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 03:20 AM
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Depends on the man, but that's not even the point. The point is that some women think that their high salary raises their perceived sexual value to men in the same way that it raises their perception of a potential mate's value, and it does not. A shorter, average looking man with an egg-shaped body will look better to women if he makes a lot of money, but a woman that looks like a parrot-nosed librarian will not look better to men no matter how much money she makes.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 02:09 AM
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No, it's that women seem to think that their salary = men wanting them more, and it doesn't. They project their own desire for financial status onto men and then get confused when a man doesn't want a woman that looks like a bird making $90,000/yr.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 01:51 AM
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Fart
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 01:45 AM
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Say thing clearly so people no misunderstand because misunderstand cause more problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 10:29 PM
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I was exaggerating a bit for sarcasm, but if you can say less, say less, unless you also mean generally which I agree with.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 10:23 PM
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Communication is key, ladies and gentlemen. Always remember to word everything you say to someone in a way that makes it impossible for them to misinterpret it. This is your responsibility. Otherwise, the other person might misinterpret it, not ask for clarification, make assumptions, and then you have your obligatory falling out where one person must relent being stubbornly assured that they aren't at fault. Thus sayeth the Lord.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 10:08 PM
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If gets easier the more you do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 09:52 PM
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It's not going to be a "night and day" difference in the drop off, but a lot of women are going to cluster around a certain age. Mid 20s is just an easy marker.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 09:31 PM
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Question for everyone: Is it entitled to want an "experienced" partner? It seems like in this context a lot of people treat dating as a sort of job market where they have a certain amount of experience and that experience automatically warrants a partner with a similar level of experience, so that they can just enjoy the relationship without having to work together to address the disparity. If someone with a lot of relationship experience would not accept someone because they lacked experience b…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 05:20 AM
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What does she like? Find something meaningful related to that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 05:07 AM
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Yerp
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 04:47 AM
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Same way that women justify asking for a good man when theirs is.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 02:22 AM
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Update to my advice request from two days ago: Everything exploded beautifully. I found out from the girl's older sister whom I've also known for a long time that their family has never really liked me that much and yet never communicated anything about it to me. They were being fake nice to me for years. Needless to say, nothing of value was lost.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 02:19 AM
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Happens on both sides. Women do their little things and then expect more and complain when they don't get as much as they thought, and men do their stuff and get mad or frustrated when women don't reciprocate at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 02:11 AM
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Well who does that in the beginning of a relationship or pre-relationship? Everything is usually covert contracts in the beginning.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 05:19 PM
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That's weird. Usually when I hear people complain about love being transactional, they're complaining about giving it out and not receiving the same or anything in return.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 01:18 PM
4

And compassion and understanding.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 12:32 PM
2

Depends on the idea of what "sexy" is, but everyone has their own idea. Some like the old nude Victorian Era women, and some prefer Thotimus Prime.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 02:57 AM
9

Nope. Friends can be any age as long as they're real friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 02:53 AM
7

The more people you meet, the more you realize that a lot of people are shitty people disguising themselves as good people.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 02:52 AM
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What about them? They're rich. They've had their problems. I think it's valid to say that they're staying together because of the image and the money, not because they're some super swell people that love each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 08:13 PM
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They're interested in men, but for different reasons, and also for sex. They might not want sex as much as their male counterpart does, but they're still drawn to physical attractiveness like most other people are, unless they are part of the minority of asexual people out there that don't respond to physical traits or sexual stimuli.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 07:40 PM
1

The women you're describing don't sound like they have a mental illness. They sound like they found and are dating the man that they're told women should want/look for, but are unhappy with and feel guilty about it. In other words, they're not mentally ill, just kinda dumb.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 07:34 PM
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If they still end up in poverty despite being the majority recipients of marital assets after the divorce, then it sounds like their problem, no? I wouldn't be very surprised if I saw an old-timey newspaper headline that says "Woman with no good career aspects divorces husband - goes broke." She is returning to the financial state that she was probably in before getting married because she had nothing to sustain that wealth with, and that's not the husband's or the marriage's fault. That's their…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 07:18 PM
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It's a wild world out there. To make matters even worse, the vast majority of people seem complacent about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 05:00 PM
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A lot of diseases are intentionally released. That's the only way they can combat population growth and make efforts to ensure it can't be linked back to any specific person or group of people. I've heard stories of mysterious boxes suddenly appearing and exploding in public places and suddenly there's a viral outbreak spreading.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 04:24 PM
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There's never going to be a right guy. Whatever they're looking for at the time is what they'll be going after. People are never going to treat one person like they're the only good one on the planet. They'll make do with what they can find as long as their perceived needs are being satisfied.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 04:20 PM
2

Trying to keep things the same. I do flexercises on some nights to make sure it keeps it's title as the hardest substance on the planet.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 01:21 PM
2

Ah. Well I did it a lot when I was younger and never fractured anything. Maybe as I get older, it'll stiffen up, like most things do.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 01:13 PM
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Nope. I had unnaturally good muscle and soft tissue flexibility when I was younger so I could stretch and bend and move things in ways that other people couldn't, but not double jointed. I could tuck it and it would spring right back up. Not sure about now though. Might be uncomfortable or hurt a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 01:01 PM
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Nope. I had unnaturally good muscle and soft tissue flexibility when I was younger so I could stretch and bend and move things in ways that other people couldn't, but not double jointed. I could tuck it and it would spring right back up.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 01:01 PM
2

Nope. I've only heard of the usual tricks like thinking of something else or flexing the leg muscles. I can't really imagine what you're describing though because I used to be able to tuck a boner between my legs in case I wasn't alone or needed to go out around the house without anyone noticing. I can't imagine someone fracturing theirs like that though.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 12:54 PM
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Relationship-oriented, honest, loving, caring, genuine, thoughtful, maybe a bit old-fashioned. Someone who seems like a real, well-adjusted, good-natured person.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 12:44 PM
1

I think there are intelligence brackets where people are fixed on certain things. People in lower intelligence brackets tend to focus on base level survival things like creature comforts (food, sex, money, relationships) while people in higher intelligence brackets focus on more conceptual things (behavior, how things work, ideas, etc). Coincidentally, there is a correlation with intelligence and sexual partner count, so that could one of the things at play here, but to answer your question, mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 12:33 PM
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Personally speaking, it's just not a good look if they're claiming to want a serious relationship. I don't know how a guy is supposed to take that kind of behavior seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 08:24 AM
1

Again, not being conscious about what they're doing. "I have herpes so I should probably be more mindful about passing my body fluids to others." Guarantee that thought never crosses their minds, or they might be completely unaware that they even have herpes as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 04:18 AM
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It's actually thought to be higher than that, but most people don't get it from dating.... Correct, they get it from not being conscious about what they're doing. Lots of people who smoke weed and have herpes pass it around on their bongs to their friends without either of them knowing, and people who share food pass it on to others as well. Most of the planet has it Yeah. Dang disgusting mfers walking around.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 04:16 AM
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Alright. I'm only telling you what "built society" mean in that quote. When you hear "men built society," that's what it means.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 04:08 AM
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There won't be a resolution as long as you continue equating doing one thing with doing another thing, or giving one task or job more points because you believe it's more essential than another. You set out to challenge the notion that men built society when they literally did exactly that. The buildings and architecture, which is what "society" is in that sentence, was built by almost all male workers. Literally. It's a fact. You can say "well I think women contributed equally to building socie…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 03:53 AM
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Some people don't need to be rich to be happy, bruv.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 03:32 AM
2

You're moving the goalposts now. It really doesn't matter if you think they are "more essential" here because the fact is still that one group of people literally built nearly all of the manmade structures you see outside of your windows. Even the grocery stores and brick and mortar shops that house the food you're arbitrarily assigning more value to.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 03:30 AM
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And where did those workers come from? And I'm not just talking about birth, but also being raised up as well as having the common needs? Constructionists need food and other needs before and during work That's not related to the task being described, so irrelevant. I am very much aware that construction work takes a lot of energy and I have no disrespect for them. However, it should also be noted that jobs that deal with food also have lots of hard work lut into it such as back-breaking farm wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 03:18 AM
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Had a conversation today with a female friend about younger women playing the field and weighing their options. I said it doesn't make sense for a woman to have her eyes on a particular guy but still be having different cars parked outside of her place constantly. My friend said a lot of guys end up being duds and it makes the women end up looking like sluts, so I told her that if they're doing things that sluts do, like have sex with multiple different guys before they even really know them, th…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 03:08 AM
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And in order for men to be able to literally build, they need to have the time and resources. They did. Where do you think all of these buildings and streets came from? If common needs such as food and other work were not addressed first, those would be builders would need to take care of those first, but they such work would need to be constantly maintained. That's why I credit women as well as men who have worked on taking care of basic needs. They helped free up labor for those architects to …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 02:58 AM
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Negativo. Women don't give feedback to a particular romantic partner that pertains to many other women, only herself. Therefore, if a man has been with a dozen women, he will have a dozen responses that are likely to be different. If you want sexual or romantic advice that will more likely apply to a broad group of women, a man with experience would have that information.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 02:47 AM
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Men and women have different jobs and roles in the creation of things, such as children, but there are obvious and apparent facts as to who bears most of the work or effort in those situations. With childbirth, women have no choice in who does that. The female mammal gestates and births the young. However, in regards to building a civilization = planning the layout of the infrastructure, drafting blueprints, procuring the resources, laying the cement and brick, etc., men mostly did that. I hope …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 02:41 AM
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I'm assuming you mean an actual legal tenancy, right? If so, that's not normal for people in a relationship to do. If you both just agree on what bills and financial obligations you're covering without a tenant/landlord relationship dynamic, that would be normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 06:48 PM
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No. We're either equal, normal partners who split bills and duties like adults or we live separately.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 05:57 PM
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It's because there is still a lot of misinformation and incorrect information on the subject. In case anyone wasn't aware, population control efforts are being utilized and it wouldn't be conducive to the goal if everyone was physically and mentally healthy and informed about the opposite sex. Anyway, a lot of this information involves genuine life experience and experience with people. Men who aren't seeking out those experiences or aren't being given the opportunity to share those experiences …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 05:52 PM
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More time to explore things they may need to know. Relationships slow everything down.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 05:44 PM
1

Magnesium supplement will probably clear up any future constipation.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 03:21 AM
1

Thoughts?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 03:14 AM
2

The Sexual Revolution is not a movement in itself. It's a marker of a period of time. Those who get caught up in whatever corporate America is trying to sell to them are the fools whose money they doth part with.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 12:51 AM
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Gotcha. I appreciate your input.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 12:40 AM
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Not really because this one has devious intentions behind it. Women aren't being devious about telling men what they want. As the OP said, there's an implication that they're already attracted to the guy when they're talking about a feature of his that they like. The problem is that women suck at separating those two things, so they end up saying "I like guys that do X" when what they really mean to say is "I'm attracted to this particular guy that has done X."
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 11:55 PM
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Yes, they would be the female equivalent of men that women ignore completely. It's a lot more frustrating when a woman is the one who is interested yet still waits for the man she's interested in to make the first move. It's like wanting to schedule a doctor's appointment but waiting for them to call and ask.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 11:48 PM
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Yeah I've come to that conclusion myself already, though I'm not sure if any relationship prospect is ever certain to end favorably or positively, so I thought maybe I could try to go against those feelings and see if something good might come of it. Thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 11:02 PM
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You also can't speak for the entire population of women, which you are doing. Most women factually do not approach or ask men out regardless of you asking your first husband out. We can debate this all day but you will still be wrong because you are attributing the actions of yourself and a small portion of women to the entire population of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 10:57 PM
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Ah, yes "normal" lol. Sometimes I forget that we use that word all wrong. It would be "normal" to just ask her out and go the typical dating order of operations. It would be "mentally sane and well-adjusted" to do the above.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 10:34 PM
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From how you've been talking about things it feels like there's just a lot of uncertainty. You've known her several years. If you're not fairly confident this is the one, or she might become the one who got away it's not worth it. Yeah I'm just not sure lol. There's a lot of variables with this one. I'm going to have a talk with her in a few days to explain some stuff and ask her what she wants. Things will be settled likely after that, whether they go toward relationship or stay the same. As lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 10:31 PM
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Completely jumping over the original point now. Just admit that women do nothing and won't have to deal with the same results that men do when they do nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 10:27 PM
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Yeah, I concur with everything here. I've thought about having a talk with her and explaining all of this but I'm just not sure how that would pan out because it's not the usual way people would approach this situation. Maybe that's for the best though. I'll have to plan a time in the next few days to have that conversation. Thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 10:13 PM
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You guys could try to get closer as friends before seeing if you actually want to pursue something serious, but that depends on how much progress you've already made, her own timelines, etc. I mean I've been trying despite brushing her off over the past few years, but she seems to be waiting for things to happen while I'm trying to bridge the gap. If you don't date fast forward a few years and you could maybe try things out then if you're both still single. Yeah I don't know. She's expressed tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 10:06 PM
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Men aren't required to either. Yes, they are. Women outright say that men are "supposed to" approach them and that it's "their job." However, when we start talking about women's job and responsibilities pertaining to dating, there's not much to say. Why do you think that is? If they don't want to approach or date, that's their choice. It's not a choice if men who don't approach don't date. That's how it goes, because women don't approach. But then don't complain that you don't get laid, or expec…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 10:00 PM
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I mean I agree with you, but my issue is that you are blaming the fool for being fooled by the lies, instead of pointing out that there are liars who are lying. If the lies are pretty obvious, then we can blame the fool. Educate the fool for sure, but the only real solution is calling out the liars. You can do that too. That's what we're doing now.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 09:56 PM
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I don't think you're grasping what's being said. Assuming they're the same or similar age, they both had time to work on their careers after they graduated high school, with a little bit of a headstart for the guy if he's a year or two older, but yet he still somehow makes more than her, typically. Why? What was she doing for those years that she's behind? Not birthing and rearing children, that's for sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 09:07 PM
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The process isn't the same for every person or every situation, bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 09:01 PM
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I'm planning on moving in the next few years. I'm more concerned about potentially destroying the relationship I've made with them. I plan on still keeping in touch with them after I move, but not if the above happens. Also, I like her, but although we've known each other for so long, we don't know much about the other. It's been a pretty surface-level relationship for the majority of the time, but it's started to get a little deeper as of the last year or two.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 08:57 PM
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Yes. Without attraction, all relationships are basically friendships or business partnerships.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 08:53 PM
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Sorry but why do you think that would be a bad idea? You're assuming a lot of the situation but not saying much except the usual "go ask her out" and "don't communicate with her because it'll backfire on you."
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 08:51 PM
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Yeah. I am planning on moving away from here in the distant future (within the next three years, or when my grandfather finally passes), but it's not just a fallout between neighbors. It would be a fallout with people who I've come to know and grown to love over the years. I remember and always go over to celebrate their birthdays, visit on occasion, etc., so it's more like a familial situation. Plus, this girl seems to really like me and IDK if I should let her go and break her heart or do some…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 08:46 PM
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Okay so depending on her dad he might be unhappy. As much as he seems to like you now. Possibly. Wasn't sure if it was a you are much older and picking up vibes that aren't there. It happened to a friend who got a letter from a guy at her church and the whole thing was super weird. No lol. I'm sure she's been interested for awhile as she's been quite obvious about it. I've just been brushing her off this whole time, but the thing I'm not sure about is what she wants or why she's interested. If i…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 08:29 PM
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Thanks anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 08:23 PM
1

It's not as simple as "Just ask her out."
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 08:10 PM
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She's early 20's and I'm early 30's.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 08:08 PM
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Pretty close to her mom. Her dad is a pretty stern guy that seems a little tempered at times and keeps to himself a lot. Doesn't really talk or express himself well, so he's not the easiest to talk to.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 08:07 PM
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I mean yes but doesn't that go to show that women are at least just as shallow as men and care about appearance and attractiveness just as much as men? Yes. Only a fool would think otherwise. Women are just bad at telling the whole picture because they aren't aware of how much their emotions affect their thought processes. They do it with a lot of things.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 08:06 PM
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I've been feeling like I should go ask her what exactly it is she's looking for or what she wants to happen and go from there. We've known each other for a long time, so it's not like we have to handle it the way strangers do.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 08:03 PM
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Only if I break her heart, I'm sure, but I'm not sure how they'd feel about their daughter dating an older guy. The other thing I didn't mention is that there's a pretty large age gap between us, which is what stopped me the first time I noticed her being interested, but now I'm starting to think maybe it shouldn't matter as much as people say it does.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 07:59 PM
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Sure they do. I asked out my first husband. Sounds like you're an older woman then. We're talking about younger people here, like 30's and below. People don't give af as they get older so that's why older women don't have a problem with making moves. Plus they probably might have to start putting in effort as they get older because older men don't have time for the games. A lot of women will chat up a man they find attractive. And many more don't/won't. Or they will make eye contact or smile at …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 07:56 PM
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I mean l wouldn't even bother investing in a relationship because as you said she's out here with multiple guys casually I never said casually. She's been dating and seems like she's looking for a relationship but nothing's worked out with the guys that I've seen over at her place. She was dating one guy for a few months but he was too insecure about her whenever they weren't together so that didn't work out either. If you just want sex then ask her out on a date when she's free I don't give adv…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 07:50 PM
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So what is it that they do exactly besides show up and/or give subtle hints and signals? They don't approach, they don't ask anyone out, they don't make the first moves..... They don't do anything. They wait and make themselves available. That's all they do. The women who DO put in effort are a very small minority.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 07:46 PM
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Kinda lame, honestly. She already knows/can tell that I like her so there's no point in redundancy right now. I can go ask if she'd like to do something but I don't know if that would be the right thing to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 07:44 PM
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They don't do much else in the process. Why should they get to have it so easy?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 07:29 PM
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My condolences. I know that feel. I just don't understand why dating has to be so fast. Maybe people have just made things that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 07:25 PM
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Alright. Probably not the best place to ask for advice but I have nobody else to turn to. At least until my appointment with the therapist that can't arrive fast enough. Might be a little bit of a lengthy post but I'll try to keep it short and sweet. So there's a younger woman that's been interested in me for quite awhile. We've been neighbors for a long time. I've noticed that she's been dating around but never the same guy for long. Anyway, I kind of like her as well but this is a complicated …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 07:23 PM
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"Like" doesn't mean "attracted to." Sure, we all like people who are nice to us and treat us well, but women don't go express interest or go after men that they like who just treat them well. That's the bare minimum that women expect in a potential partner. If he's not attractive, it doesn't matter how nice and well he treats a woman. He's going to be ignored and rejected most of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 07:02 PM
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If they had a similar amount of time before meeting each other to get their careers going, sounds like she didn't have one for some reason, so that wouldn't make sense or be a likely answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 06:59 PM
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I wouldn't call myself "demi," but I do like to take things slow and get to know each other before I decide to pursue something more serious regardless of how attractive they are. Everything else in the post mirrors my experience in that I wait a long time while the other guys don't and the girl is already talking to multiple guys or dating one by the time I make a decision. It's nerve-wracking and it's a shitty spot to be in.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 05:47 PM
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OP is saying that women can be boring and uninteresting and still find someone/not be negatively affected by it in their dating lives, which is true. Should've left off the financial portion because that's all that people are jumping on in the post.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 05:43 PM
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No, I think this is one of those misdirection tactics. Women aren't without their flaws or their areas where they tend to screw things up either, so to suggest that women would make better leaders simply because men have higher sex drives than women or that they need to orgasm or else they might get too aggressive and accidentally nuke Denmark because they didn't get their dick touched? That's a leap. It would be equally bad if the same quality of women held power and influence. Being a good lea…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 05:30 PM
2

Make sure to eat enough food, but not too much. Going to the gym and not eating right will make your gym time a waste of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 04:53 AM
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The relationship suffers when one person loses enough attraction or interest to stop putting in effort or communicating. That's all you have to worry about. Don't think too hard on this because it's silly and pointless to be nit-picking. For the people who don't know, everyday in a relationship is going to be different. Some days, you'll be feeling affectionate and expressing it openly to each other, and some days are going to be rather unexpressive, blah and boring. It doesn't mean that one per…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 04:28 AM
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No. It would be insulting if they were desperate and went for you despite never expressing interest before. It's like saying that you're only good as their last resort. It's also kind of self-destructive behavior because they're entertaining just about anyone when they should deal with whatever issues they're having by themselves, preferably with a professional, before starting to date again.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 04:13 AM
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It is on online platforms created in it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 02:01 AM
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The country where Reddit was created and currently based out of.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 01:19 AM
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Incorrect. I guess you aren't familiar with heredity and heritable illness or predispositions. If your family ancestors had conditions, you're also likely to have those conditions, and will pass that likelihood onto your children as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 11:58 PM
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We're talking about our country, not someone else's, and yes, public hospitals and insurance exist, but people have to pay for those services.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 11:35 PM
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Truth. Everyone is responsible for their own personal health. You either pay at the grocery store or you pay in the doc's office.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 11:30 PM
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I think the law says otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 11:28 PM
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Or have elderly relatives to care for.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 11:26 PM
1

See? What'd I tell ya?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 10:14 PM
1

That's only/mostly the older ones from New Jersey that use nothing but bronzer and look like a strip of bacon.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 10:13 PM
1

I think this only applies to strangers and people who lead with their egos. It's definitely better to be honest about your feelings if you've known each other for at least a little while. You don't need to hide anything or play any games. I'm genuinely confused by people who even think approaching strangers is a better way to meet someone than getting acquainted through mutual friends or interests and going from there.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 10:06 PM
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Not sure. It feels good to be desired and to know exactly how much they're attracted to you, like giving you longing looks before one of you leaves, turning around just to look at you before they leave, glancing at you as they walk by, listening or waiting to hear you talk and hanging on your every word, etc. It's a totally different atmosphere when there's obvious attraction to both someone's personality and their appearance.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 09:59 PM
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Appearances can be deceiving, bruv. Don't judge too quickly. I might say something retarded later on.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 09:49 PM
1

I'm not a nutritionist. Just someone who is health conscious and self-aware. I've been vegan and vegetarian, not that it matters here, but most people in the US have vitamin deficiencies that they're usually unaware of, both because our farming practices don't yield nutritious crops and because they're ignorant about health and their bodies. Nearly half of the US population is deficient in vitamin D and almost 3/4ths are deficient in magnesium, two of the most important nutrients in the body. No…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 09:46 PM
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Age is correlated with a lot of other things that don't sound like they were accounted for, bruv.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 08:52 PM
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That would probably be covered in the "experience" portion, as in more life experience, relationship experience, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 08:00 PM
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I do understand. I understand that women often neglect the importance of diet and nutrition in favor of things that make it look like they don't. Their bathroom full of cosmetics and facial/skin care creams is a blaring example of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 07:59 PM
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Nutrition pertains to biology, not morality. If they're not eating right or exercising and getting their sun and proper sleep regularly, then the end result will be physical signs of the lack of those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 06:15 PM
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Nope. My dad made good money but had to give most of it to my mother because there were three of us. She worked at a grocery store but quit her job and didn't work for most of our childhood. Just lived off of the child support money along with various forms of assistance at times. I remember being in a WIC store/office on a few occasions as a child. To answer your question, probably the second one. We went on a lot of trips to various places but my mom thought buying stuff substituted an actual …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 05:35 PM
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Might be the age factor. Older people are generally repubs or more conservative while younger people lean toward Democrat or liberal. Thus, older people are probably more satisfied because of their money and experience while younger people don't have much of either.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 05:28 PM
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Cuz marriage. Duh.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 05:25 PM
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And if that doesn't change her behavior?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 05:00 PM
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Again, that's more than expressing themselves. You can dance around the truth all you want, but interfering with people's lives because of a personal opinion is not just voicing their opinions. Also notice you keep moving the goalposts from "just saying it's creepy" or "judging others" to "expressing themselves." Just be honest and say you believe that women can meddle in other people's lives and relationships whenever they feel justified in doing so.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 04:57 PM
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What do you expect me to do with an adult child? Ground them? Send them to time out? Take away their phone? Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 04:53 PM
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Not in a way that is actively trying to influence a particular person's opinion. Women can express their opinions in a general, indirect way, but once they start confronting young women and saying "Your relationship isn't right. You should break up with him" simply because the guy is a bit older than her, that's crossing the line of "just voicing their opinions."
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 04:46 PM
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It does in some cases. The married guys with careers will fill you in on that. As I said in a different comment, my mother lived like a queen off of the child support she got from our father. Barely worked for decades.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 04:28 PM
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Saying it's creepy isn't dictating anything. Right, but telling younger women that they shouldn't date older men or are making a mistake for those who are in relationships with older men, it is. People are allowed to make bad choices and other people are allowed to judge them for it. Their behavior goes beyond pure judgement. If they just kept it to themselves, that would be one thing, but they're taking action by voicing their opinions and actively trying to convince younger women to avoid or b…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 04:25 PM
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Your assumptions are purely imaginary. Also, you're misreading or misconstruing the details of the hypothetical couple in the previous comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 04:23 PM
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They can be concerned about strangers. They just can't start dictating the lives of strangers. Big difference here. Makes it sound more like they're just projecting themselves onto young women and then taking action that assumes the men are automatically bad or have bad intentions without any evidence or reason to believe so.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 03:18 PM
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Negative. You're mixing and matching different comments to create something I didn't say. I said women don't need to use makeup or "ornate themselves" if they're attractive. Unattractive and less attractive women do. Then, speaking generally about women, I said that women could learn about nutrition instead of covering up their lack of a healthy lifestyle with makeup, which applies to the women that do so. Anything other misunderstandings that need clarification?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 03:11 PM
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Again, unless those younger women are their children, it's none of their business who younger strangers date. That's where the question becomes "Is it legitimate concern, or are they merely projecting themselves onto those younger women? Or are they just jealous?"
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 03:07 PM
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The custodial parent is the one who will be covering day to day expenses, so yes it is reimbursement. Negative, ma'am. That's not how it works. Being the one to make the purchase does not mean they are "covering the day to day expenses." If it's paid with the child support payments or some other form of assistance/support, the one who provided the money is "covering" those expenses. Child support is not, I repeat, NOT the woman's money. If a non custodial parent is rich then they should allow a …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 03:02 PM
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24 and 18 are at very different stages in their lives. Not really. I think that's something you've chosen to believe. The only differences are likely to be financial, if any. 32 and 26, less so. It's about power dynamics much more than actual numbers. So yeah, it's about older women's perceptions of younger women being taken advantage of. They, however, don't dictate who has the advantage in the situation and who people should be with. They should mind their own business unless there's some othe…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 02:53 PM
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No. That's not how women work. Someone else dating a guy does not make me go "oh damn that's one less for me!" Women just flat out don't treat each other like that. Why do individual women always speak for "women?" "I don't" != "Women don't." Anyway, we know it's possible that women can be both jealous and judgmental about age-gap relationships, because women like to be the PC Police in social situations even if it might make them look hypocritical. 24 year old guy with an 18 year old woman? "Pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 02:41 PM
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As it should be. Child support is support. It's not supposed to cover the entire costs of the child. The other parent needs to support their child too.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 02:25 PM
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Or...... You should go for the women/people that you actually like. Going for the most attractive women possible, or even just the attractive women, won't have any effect on the outcome. So, men who are looking for something might have better luck with women that they may already have favor with. Edit: To add, most people get rejected or turned away when they approach because there's no reason to want to pursue something further with a stranger simply because they asked. It makes sense once you …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 02:15 PM
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Women's desire for an LTR with men reveals that men practice hypergamy in this type of relationship: Firstly, womens' desire doesn't "reveal" anything about men's behavior..... Secondly, the word was used as far back as the late 1800's to demonstrate women's desire to marry up within social castes. Over 100 years later, nothing has changed, unsurprisingly. Research on the subject shows that women globally engage in hypergamy, which is the desire to marry up in wealth and status. Men do not engag…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 02:06 PM
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She'd get ridiculed just the same. At some point, you have to accept that people are who they are, daddy issues and all. She wants to screw up her life despite people telling her she's making bad decisions? Oh well. Nothing anyone can do about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 01:42 PM
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No, it isn't. Child support isn't reimbursement nor compensation for the other parent. It's still support for the child regardless of whether it's misused or not. Some fathers pay more because they have higher-paying jobs, and the child's needs don't increase with child support payment amounts.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 01:35 PM
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??? Misinformation agenda?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 01:34 PM
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*Average estimates of the monthly cost per child.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 01:33 PM
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If anything, there might be a ploy in there somewhere to brainwash parts of the population into intermingling with Asian people so that we can do some political merger with China. Y'know, part of the push for globalism and the dismantling of world powers. Tin-foil hat hour is here.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 05:33 AM
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Yeah who gets to decide what that is? Before long, it would turn into "My child needs a tub of ice cream and new shoes, now give me more money." They estimate the costs of the child per month and decide the pay accordingly. It's not going to be dependent on what the mother says the baby "needs."
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 04:25 AM
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Yes, they are old and salty that men their age are looking at younger women instead of them. It's tough coming to terms with old age and being sexually invisible to most of the world but we all have to cross that bridge at some point.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 04:17 AM
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I don’t think I know a single woman who is into K-Pop or would prefer to date non masculine Asian dudes. Mostly weeb women who watch anime and are into Korean dramas. I know one or two.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 04:09 AM
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I don't think this has anything to do with masculinity. Younger women and teenaged girls have always been attracted to androgynous ("cute") guys who veer toward the softer, romantic side (See: every boy band ever). As a guy with androgynous features, I can confirm. Those K-pop stars (who also have a lot of plastic surgery done btw) have a mix of feminine and masculine features which is what makes them attractive, and the plastic surgery was done to make them look that way. Androgynous features a…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 04:07 AM
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You do understand that child support isn't supposed to cover all of the child's costs leaving the woman with no financial obligations toward their child, right? It's support. A little bit of it goes to everything, or all of it goes to one or a few things while the other parent supports their child with the rest.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 04:00 AM
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I've seen women without makeup plenty of times, and I see them regularly so I prefer their real face over their caked up one. Makeup is also used to hide or mask genetic deficiencies as well, so it doesn't matter what the exact reason is. They use it to make themselves look better than they actually do.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 02:40 AM
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We're talking about child support here, which is not their own money, although men know that a lot of women consider child support as extra money that they can use on themselves if their child's needs are taken care of already.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 02:20 AM
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A lot of these aren't "intrinsic." They definitely vary by culture, as many behaviors and attitudes do. You also use the word "considered" which means it's subjectively weighed. There's no intrinsic definition there. We can argue all day but these are undoubtedly qualities that men want from women which are beneficial to those men, not inherently feminine.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 02:17 AM
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It's not built off gender but in most cases, the men in the equation make more money so it is they who pay. I'm sure it's also based on whoever will be housing the child as well, which is also usually the woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 12:50 AM
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Well I would expect as much. That's why it's called support. It doesn't cover the entire cost of whatever the child needs. The mother needs to support her own child too. She doesn't do that by just existing next to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 12:42 AM
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Apparently it depends on the state. In my state, child support isn't determined by whoever has more custody. One parent will have to pay, and in most cases, that's the father.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 12:39 AM
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He can love them and still not try to fight against a biased court system.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 12:38 AM
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These particular words don't have definitions because the definition changes with whoever is defining them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 12:37 AM
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Yeah I have a thing for brunettes with full lips and resting bitch face, apparently, but my god when I first saw her in Bring it On, ....... mmmph.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 12:13 AM
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Correct me if I'm wrong but 50% custody as a man still ends with him having to pay child support in most cases, so it doesn't matter whether or not he fights for custody because he's going to pay anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 12:10 AM
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Well that explains a lot. Not sure how child support shakes out in your country but in the US, it's questionable where the money is actually going.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 12:08 AM
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Child support is for the children. Supposed to be. Doesn't always get spent that way though. Women are most often the custodial parent so your last question doesn't matter that much, but yes, it would apply to women which is why there's no such terminology for deadbeat mothers. Always deadbeat dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 12:06 AM
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Simple: poor diet and lifestyle choices often manifest on a person's body. Pale/Uneven skin tone, blemishes, wrinkles, etc. The things women hide with makeup and their bathroom of cosmetics. Also, it's in the term you just used: "Made-up" = fake, illusory. Makeup creates an illusion of features that don't exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 12:02 AM
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That's weird. It's always been my impression that relationships were based on desire, whether it be desiring the other person, or things from the other person.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:53 PM
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You mean those same single mothers (often the primary custodial parent) that use WIC, food stamps and other government assistance programs to feed their children? How does that money enter into the equation, and I'd wonder what the child support money is being spent on in that case. In a lot of other cases, the mother is not single and has the child support plus the new guy's income to help cover the other expenses like rent and bills, leaving that child support money to be spent on who knows wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:50 PM
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I'm not really concerned with how men here define it. Those sound like qualities they personally want in a woman, not a list of qualities that are feminine. In this case, "feminine" is whatever someone wants to attribute as being feminine, so there is no definition.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:46 PM
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I don't make it a point to remember the names of attractive men that I've seen, or find out what their names are, but I can see why women would like them. Since I can't think of any, I'll just name some attractive women from my list: Fairuza Balk, Eliza Dushku, Sanaa Lathan, Anne Hathaway, Hailee Steinfeld (pre-plastic surgery), Ana de Armas, and your mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:41 PM
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Right, and that's typically where the accounting stops. Wonder what we'd find if we followed the money.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:28 PM
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No he wouldn't, she is responsible for using the money for the child, And therein lies the problem here. Women aren't held accountable for using the child support money on the child. Only the men are held accountable for not putting it in the mother's pocket. Btw, paying rent/mortgage or utilities with child support money is 100% taking care of the child on the mother's part. Negative. If her usage of utilities accounts for more than the child's (which I'm going to go out on a limb and say that …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:24 PM
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So how come single mothers are the poorest demographic of these men were magnanimously paying to maintain a child? Single mothers aren't known for their intelligence and decision-making skills. They're often working entry-level jobs or still in school when they have children. That's one major reason why. Another would be the men that they had children with are also broke so there's no way for them to make up the difference with a percentage of their wage. Men with money are usually smart enough …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:20 PM
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No one mentioned extra money, only child support. The extra money IS the child support in this conversation, ma'am.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:09 PM
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I'm sorry, is that supposed to invalidate my comment above in some way? Lol. My mother lived like a teenage queen off of my father's child support money while he lived in a tiny efficiency for awhile when he wasn't at his mother's house until he remarried. I know because we went to visit him often. Women like to downplay child support like it's nothing, but men know better.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 11:06 PM
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Yes, costs vary by age and child support is a percentage of a man's income with a state minimum that varies by state.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 10:59 PM
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My father paid child support. Guess where it all went? My mother lived off of it until we were all 18. Barely worked. We even lived at our grandparent's place (her parents) for years while she spent a good chunk of it. 3 kids worth of child support. She got used to that lifestyle and is now gold-digging wealthy old men for money.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 10:54 PM
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Well that might work for some men. Telling him, asking him out and/or going for the kiss is preferable. Like seriously, if you can tell a guy <sup>kind of</sup> likes you but isn't making a move, kiss him. He will probably want to do it again, and that will start getting the ball rolling. It's not as cut and dry as: guy asks girl out; she says yes; they go out; he pays for date; he kisses her; he asks her out again; etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 10:51 PM
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Ladies. It's 2023. We know where most of the child support goes: And your food, rent, and other bills. Please stop trying to tell us otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 10:44 PM
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He's not being responsible for the child by giving money to the mother. We all know that the child support money just gets added to her income, not how much of it actually goes toward being responsible for the child. He would be a deadbeat if very little or none of it was going toward the child, technically, while the mother spends it on things that support her.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 10:13 PM
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Nah. It's not caring for his child that makes him a deadbeat dad. Not giving the baby mama extra money to pay her bills doesn't make him a deadbeat.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 10:10 PM
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It should be if you're making that kind of assumption about the guys that do. Miscommunication is at the center of every missed opportunity.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 10:08 PM
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We're not assuming that all men who don't ask women out are non-problematic here. There definitely are guys with poor mental health and anger issues that aren't asking women out. Also, some of the guys that do ask women out end up in a long-term relationship. Doesn't seem to be the majority, but it's definitely majority of problematic guys doing the approaching.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 10:04 PM
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Ah. Well not much you can do then.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 10:01 PM
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Women's lives outside of dating have nothing to do with their dating life. Saying that women have it easier in dating is a valid claim that can't be refuted with "But women have periods and have to worry about being out alone after dark." Also, to directly address one of your claims, unattractive/less attractive women have to ornate themselves to be appealing to men. Attractive women don't. Maybe start focusing on nutrition as well and women wouldn't have to cover up their lack of a healthy life…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 09:57 PM
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I certainly hope that men who have asked me out have asked me out because they thought I was the best choice. Sometimes the reason a guy doesn't ask a woman out is more complicated than that. Simple things for simple folks, I suppose.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 09:51 PM
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Call for a health and wellness check?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 09:48 PM
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Sounds like it is. If women are drawn to problematic guys but aren't asking them out, then they won't have said problems, but if only the problematic guys are asking women out and they are accepting, then the problems they keep complaining about will continue.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 09:46 PM
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Lol. Yes, of course, not giving up the extra source of income to the lady makes him a deadbeat.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 09:43 PM
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There are many different types and it takes two people mutually working together to have any love but Imo people kinda overthink it on here. We don't necessarily choose who we love either, it just develops. To me at least Definitely. I'm not sure if some of the people on here know what love is, but being in this place is a pretty obvious sign. Either that or they just have their perception of romantic love from TV and movies or whatever they've been led to believe about it and they can't connect…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 09:31 PM
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Or you don't ask them out and let them settle for the next guy that will. Odds are that it won't be in their favor, because the guys that ask women out typically are the same guys they end up having a problem with later on. Notice the pattern? Ladies, if you know a good guy that you like, don't wait for him to ask you out. If he's single, stop with your subtle BS and do something bold.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 09:19 PM
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Single mom's can be criticized for their choices, which seem to be the deadbeat dads. Also, a guy isn't a deadbeat dad if he refuses to have any contact with a psycho bitch that he impregnated. Sometimes that's the reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 09:08 PM
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Yes, "love" is a thing. A lot of people have their own definitions of love and how they express it, so you might not get anywhere by asking people about it. I'm still trying to find someone who actually does "love" me, but because of the above, it's difficult. People seem to have this notion that love is infatuation, so when they're infatuated with someone, they call that "love," but isn't - it's much deeper than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 09:04 PM
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I disagree. Being in a relationship involves growing with your partner. You don't have to "be the best version of yourself" already because: That's not likely to happen at a young age, implying that nobody should date until they're much older. Nothing to grow or improve on could also mean stagnation in your relationship as well. One thing you learn about life as you grow older and gain more experience is that not much is going to be ideal. There's never going to be a perfect time to do anything …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 08:55 PM
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Terms that people use to attribute perceived male and female specific thoughts, attitudes and behaviors to men and women. They don't mean anything to me, personally. Just words. Edit: I'll add that there's some mature undertones that both of the words have. It's about a man or woman being comfortable enough in their own bodies to express themselves accordingly. People mistake masculinity with "not giving a fuck about anything or anyone," or "not backing down from a fight," and femininity as "bei…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 07:28 PM
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Tell her I forgot my wallet at my ex's house so she's paying for the date.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 04:54 PM
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Yeah just a degree to finish up and an elderly relative to care for. Thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 04:51 PM
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I have two important things keeping me in my current place. As soon as those two things are taken care of, then I'll be free to leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 04:16 PM
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Did I?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 03:52 PM
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The only way slut shaming will go away is if sluts go away.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 03:51 PM
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