ThrowAwayRants36 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
21	D-Day		ThrowAwayRants36	/r/Divorce_Men	07/05/26 03:26 PM

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1	D-Day That’s the hope my friend - just trying to make it to the other side. Exactly how it feels though, like I’m checking my phone every few minutes for her name that’s not there. Something’s empty. Just taking everything one step at a time right now	/r/Divorce_Men	08/05/26 05:47 PM
1	D-Day Thanks brother - feeling small is a uniquely great way to put it. Never thought she would be the one…	/r/Divorce_Men	08/05/26 05:46 PM
1	D-Day Hit **	/r/Divorce_Men	08/05/26 05:46 PM
1	D-Day Love to hear this man! And you’re right I just need to continue to do what I love doing - even though those things don’t feel exciting in the slightest right now. But you’re right, need to remove the pedestal she’s on. Hope the baseball league is going well, but some dingers!	/r/Divorce_Men	08/05/26 05:45 PM
1	D-Day Jesus brother… I’m sorry to hear this as well. Fucking crazy they can just flip like this. What have we done for this to be so common! I’m battling between the logical end of logistics conversations and the emotional side of just losing it and saying wtf are we doing here! I tend to think logically in all aspects of life except my romantic relationships apparently…	/r/Divorce_Men	08/05/26 05:44 PM
1	D-Day This is great perspective too. At the end of the day it’s 100 percent right just hard to see it that way when I feel like my life was flipped upside down. Trying not to see the last decade as all sad memories now is going to be tough. But they clearly weren’t sad when we were experiencing all Of them together	/r/Divorce_Men	08/05/26 05:41 PM
1	D-Day Really appreciate this perspective too. I think the concept of just not having a “say” in my own life bothers me to a level I can’t really put in words. But you’re absolutely correct on owning my own shit and working forward. Likely should have stated above in my OP that I do take real Ownership for the things on my part that led to her leaving - and the people I’ve told in my personal life would account to I haven’t talked down / shifted blame from me at all. Just felt like in her mind this was…	/r/Divorce_Men	08/05/26 05:39 PM
1	D-Day That’s what I’m hoping man, appreciate this! For my sake, praying that clock started after the first convo - but fear that could have been a false start and I’m back in the starting blocks lol	/r/Divorce_Men	08/05/26 05:32 PM
1	D-Day Trying to brother - keep up the good fight as well! Easier for them to accept when not facing what actually transpired I guess.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/05/26 05:31 PM
1	D-Day “Will want a shot at the champ” just made my whole day haha appreciate you man!! Hoping it’s the latter of all the above after this shit ya really never know. For the streets! insert Future meme	/r/Divorce_Men	08/05/26 05:31 PM
2	D-Day Sorry to hear you’re dealing with this too. So tough to just keep going and my STBX is the exact same way - is so outgoing / personable she will find a new partner very quickly, if not already. That alone breaks me. Stay strong my friend!!	/r/Divorce_Men	08/05/26 05:28 PM
1	D-Day Appreciate these words brother! Just trying to take it one hour at a time right now lol. One small thing over another	/r/Divorce_Men	08/05/26 05:25 PM
1	D-Day Can’t imagine with a daughter involved! I’m going nuts and that’s just over my dogs lol. The lack of care, like a light switch turned off, is one of the most baffling aspects… just doesn’t make any fucking sense to me after everything we’ve been through.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/05/26 05:25 PM
2	D-Day This is exactly how I feel too man. I do fear it was going on for longer than I’m probably willing to mentally accept, but she was (was - operative word of course) so damn loyal prior. Who knows now. But, I think you’re right. In her mind to your point she likely thinks all these things were addressed - which they were over the course of our relationship - but objectively never with an angle of overall relationship / marital unhappiness or any talks of leaving or wanting to go our separate ways……	/r/Divorce_Men	08/05/26 05:23 PM
1	D-Day Its all just so surreal. But I do feel the same way in regards to dating - I have 0 game haha - gives me hope!	/r/Divorce_Men	08/05/26 05:15 PM
1	D-Day First night alone was tough to say the least… but had the dogs with me so silver linings. Glad to hear today’s been a good one brother!	/r/Divorce_Men	08/05/26 05:14 PM
3	D-Day Appreciate the words, and glad to hear you’re coming through it! I feel exactly like you with the feeling like 20% of a human. Like I’m hollow inside or a ghost or something. I thought the same with thinking we were perfect for one another. She has always handled things with toughness but this is like relief for her which I just can’t understand - was never communicated in such a regard as wanting to be gone. Man…	/r/Divorce_Men	07/05/26 05:52 PM
1	D-Day Honestly there was just no rush and that’s the best way I can put it - we were pretty unorthodox in that regard. Engaged during covid, kinda waited things out, then bought a house, she went back to school, bought another house - and then looked up one day and said it’s probably time lol. That said her leaving directly after the legal concept of marriage (we have no prenup - I’m a moron) makes you pause…	/r/Divorce_Men	07/05/26 05:47 PM
3	D-Day I’m fairly active now - swim / work out and do play in a few sports league and have some golf buddies. So I have support Forsure and again totally fortunate there with a good family too. She was just my rock. Gotta be there for myself now. On the job front I’m done fairly well at my employer and in a good position - would be tough in this basis alone. I just wish she realized how fucked that was….	/r/Divorce_Men	07/05/26 05:44 PM
2	D-Day Thank you man! Not that I’m a romantic person per say but I think I’m right there with you in terms of never being amble to fully open up / trust / love a woman like that again - it broke something in me - and honestly I just want that haha I want / wanted the wife and kids life with her. She was never truly in for kids, until this divorce convo, and is open to the idea of to kids now apparently… fml	/r/Divorce_Men	07/05/26 05:42 PM
2	D-Day Appreciate that! And you’re right, you’re about the 5th person I’ve had tell me the same about the kids end lol. Know I’m fortunate there.	/r/Divorce_Men	07/05/26 05:39 PM
1	D-Day I appreciate the words my man - and the cheating part is such a grey area because I don’t truly think it occurred prior to said divorce conversation (but man I could just be stupidly hoping that’s true) - though it did that situation occurred about a month out of convo when we’re still sleeping next to one another every night.. and ya know, still married. I’ll never know the full story to that but those small glimpses / reactions from who I thought was the most loyal girl broke me as much as i s…	/r/Divorce_Men	07/05/26 05:38 PM