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The USA puts white women on more of a pedestal than other countries do, since although white is still the majority, there are enough other races that white women stand out. So in the USA all guys of all races are competing for the attractive white women, meaning that the attractive white women can be as picky as they want. In other nations that are less diverse, white women are on less of a pedestal since there are more of them and they are the nrom, therefore they are less picky because the men…
/r/askTRP15/11/15 04:58 PM
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Not trolling and not a 'nguyen' or any kind of asian, but also unfortunately not blonde. Just think asian guys are hot.
/r/askTRP14/11/15 07:52 PM
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Seconded. He is better looking than she is and could do better than her, even with better looking blonde girls.
/r/askTRP14/11/15 05:16 PM
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I try walking around topless/naked literally all the time. He's seen me naked so much it no longer has an effect. Men get tired of seeing/sleeping with the same woman over and over again. I don't have multiple orgasms (never been able to) but for some reason I'm still down for sex (with my bf) any time. Still, many people have said low T for my bf. I think this is definitely part of the problem and I've suggested multiple times he get this checked. Deadbedrooms is not a good sample, since it onl…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/15 08:13 PM
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1 hour in. Got to the sex section. Yeah, I'm now convinced I'm a man and my bf is a woman. Everything the dude describes about how men act/think and how women act/think is switched in my and my bf's relationship. It's a really weird feeling, how accurate but also how opposite. But one thing I 100% disagree with is when the guy says men should be nice to women in order to get sex. This actually doesn't work. And it doesn't work in the reverse, either, for women trying to get sex from men (or at l…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/15 02:56 AM
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I'm 45 minutes in. I agree with most of it (but of course not the part where men want sex more than women lol). I agree that men are more single-taskers while women are more multi-taskers, which makes evoluntary sense as men would hunt prey, focusing solely on that task, while women would gather food while also caring for children and interacting with other women. However, I'm not sold on compartmentalization vs a big ball of tangled feeling wire. I think every compartmentalizes, just to varying…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/15 12:10 AM
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I don't believe in marriage, so that's not the issue. The issue is more that he now may see me as a whore since I'm no longer a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/15 06:59 PM
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That makes sense, thanks :)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/15 06:58 PM
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lol been there done that for getting beat up. I went to a ghetto middle school.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/15 02:07 PM
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Let me clarify that me initiating isn't "aggressive" It's not me throwing him on the bed or anything. It's basically just asking him to have sex or like stripping and lying down on the bed waiting for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/15 02:05 PM
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He is the dominant one in bed. I've never been dominant in my life. Lol I was a kissless virgin before him, and even now I have no idea wtf I'm doing. He's always the dominant one.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/15 02:03 PM
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USA.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/15 02:02 PM
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True.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/15 02:02 PM
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I got banned from RPW because I said I wasn't interested in marriage and explained why lol. Not gonna go back their because their goals are not compatible with my goals. I'm not a talkative person, but I'll tone it down. Being in the periphery is kind of how our relationship is atm. We do our own thing but just in the same room--or sometimes in different rooms. Every girl says "I'm not like other girls" but I'm literally not like others girls, and I really wish I was because I have serious socia…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/15 02:02 PM
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But what else is there for a woman to offer a man besides sex, cooking and cleaning? Men don't care if a woman is intellectual, funny, smart, has hobbies, etc. Evolutionary and biologically all they care about is her fertility, beauty, youth, and ability to be a good mother and wife. I don't say this to disparage men as shallow, women are equally shallow in other ways. I'm just literally trying to figure out what men could want beyond sex and a meal. They have their male friends, their careers, …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/15 03:41 AM
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It's less nerves and more...almost detached certainty of failure. After being rejected so many times, I couldn't imagine not being rejected and so I fell in love with the first man not to reject me. He also happens to have most of the qualities I admire, which are rare, so I was doubly lucky. He is a very unique person, 90% of what I always wanted in a guy, and I've never met anyone else I respected and was attracted to as much as him. The chance of meeting someone like him again AND getting tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/15 11:22 PM
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Yes, unfortunately I am, I have the self insight to see that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/15 11:12 PM
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My dude is an engineer lol and religious. STEM church guys aren't unicorns. I don't feel the need to cheat. If I did, however, I would leave rather than become a cheater because cheating on someone is the worst possible thing you can do to them emotionally. The guilt of cheating would be more than even the pain of a breakup, so I would just break up at that point. I'm glad your husband was ready to settle at 21. He is a rarity. Most guys are not. And if they are, whose to say they won't change t…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/15 11:06 PM
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I see so many guys swearing they'd never marry anything other than a virgin. There are too many saying that to believe it's not actually like that in the real world.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/15 11:02 PM
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No, though he is in pain a lot. The ED randomly resolved itself though and I'm not sure why...
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/15 11:00 PM
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"Decent" guys don't always turn out to be "decent" in the end. Why marry when there is ALWAYS a risk of him cheating or leaving me?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/15 10:59 PM
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Then go for it, but be careful of civil lawsuits that parents can bring regardless of consent laws. Also, don't lie about your age to bang a 16 year old (not just because it's immoral, but also because it can turn into a "he raped me"). And accept it gracefully if the 16 year old turns you down. Don't stalk or harass her on the internet or in-person because you're sure you've found your 16 year old unicorn. Yes, that does happen a lot. When I was in high school some guys in their mid to late 20s…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/15 08:18 PM
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16 is underage, though. If it's 16 and 21, then it's no big deal...but 16 and 50 is a little iffy. 18 is a legal adult and so fair game.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/15 08:10 PM
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It may be a 'kink' but if it is, he's not aware of it and has never said anything about it. How could I bring this up?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/15 08:08 PM
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He is doing it for me and that's the problem. I started enjoying it and he shut down.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/15 08:07 PM
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Good point. I never thought of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/15 08:05 PM
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Because I already "wasted" my virginity on him. What man would want me now? I literally can't get married because I'm no longer a virgin. Thankfully, marriage is not important to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/15 08:05 PM
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Glad it's not all guys, then. I never thought it was, but I do think it might be a majority, say 60%.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/15 08:04 PM
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But he's the only guy I've ever slept with. I don't bring up other guys because I have no romantic/sexual/dating experience besides him. My point is that now that he's taken my virginity, he may be less attracted to me. Basically, the opposite of what you said. Now that he has sole 'ownership' of me via my virginity, he no longer wants me. I don't think men want to 'own'. I think they want to 'hunt'. And once they capture/own, the game is over and so they move on to the next hunt.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/15 08:03 PM
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I get what you're saying but a 25 year old man isn't ready to settle down. I want a man who is done dating/sleeping around and ready for a long term relationship. Most 25 year old guys are not interested in that (or pretend to be only to get sex). That's why I'm dating an older man in the first place. 25 year old dudes want to fuck around (no judgement, but that's not what I'm looking for).
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/15 08:01 PM
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It's not performance anxiety because he didn't have this problem when we first met. And now he suddenly no longer has it again (no explanation that I'm aware of). He is his mid/late thirties. There may be T levels involved. Perhaps he has done something about that without mentioning it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/15 04:47 PM
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Well, some of it happened when he was young. This all happened over the course of about 15 years, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/15 04:45 PM
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That's probably true. Thankfully, that problem has been solved.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/15 04:45 PM
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Could be true. I'm not OP, so I can't say for sure whether I feel the exact same thing he does. All I know is that "emotional connection" is not really as important to women as everyone (women and men) pretend it is, as well as other status symbols. If a guy is attractive, he's attractive. The other stuff is icing on the cake. In my experience, I can tell if I'd be willing to sleep with a guy just by looking at him in a few seconds. All the reasons I don't just grab him right then and there and …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/15 02:18 PM
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For me, it is the guy's face and not his body.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/15 04:40 AM
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Many, many reasons: -I'm in a relationship -The person is in a relationship -Person is not attracted to me -Pregnancy possibility -STDs -The person may be good looking but not be compatible personality-wise with me -Person may be an abuser/killer -Social stigma for random hookups -Social anxiety -Insecurity about my looks -And probably more I can't think of at the moment But if there was a dream world or anonymous virtual reality where none of these applied, then of course I'd go for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/15 04:37 AM
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Many, many reasons: -I'm in a relationship -The person is in a relationship -Person is not attracted to me -Pregnancy possibility -STDs -The person may be good looking but not be compatible personality-wise with me -Person may be an abuser/killer -Social stigma for random hookups -Social anxiety -Insecurity about my looks -And probably more I can't think of at the moment But if there was a dream world or anonymous virtual reality where none of these applied, then of course I'd go for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/15 04:35 AM
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I can't speak for all women, but I definitely do. However, the caveat is it's only completely hypothetical. I can see a guy and think "yes I would" or "no I wouldn't" but if I was actually in the position to have sex with a "yes, I would" I wouldn't actually do it for various reasons--though in an alternate universe where those reasons did not exist, I would.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/15 12:46 AM
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True. But many guys can get it up for even the ugliest of girls, simply because they want to have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/15 06:48 PM
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His is due to age and chronic pain, as far as I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/15 06:48 PM
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I absolutely respect him, which is why I won't be leaving. I can't imagine loving or respecting any other man, to be honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/15 06:48 PM
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True.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/15 03:06 AM
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True.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/15 03:06 AM
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More so than 40 year old divorcee or single mom, though? But I see your point.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/15 03:06 AM
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125, 5'5"
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/15 03:06 AM
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Okay. But why that instead of just not getting married at all? Not to beat a dead horse.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/15 09:08 PM
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I was against marriage years before the ED thing began, in fact before I even met him. However, I do see your point. Still, I don't have "one foot out the door", if I did I would be gone already to be honest. The question was hypothetical, more an insight about how a woman's value is lost along with her virginity, and so even if she is sweet and submissive to her man, anything can happen in a relationship to cause issues, if the relationship ends due to those issues, she is worth less since she …
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/15 09:07 PM
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Why? Can't it just be an individual thing? There is no one size fits all. Marriage isn't for everyone, nor should it be. But why would you recommend that I do? And can you explain what is gained from a marriage that cannot be gained from a committed and loving LTR?
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/15 08:52 PM
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True.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/15 07:04 PM
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The thing is he's not that kind of guy, and still mentions marriage often, and was the one to initially bring it up. I told him my reasons for being against it. He stuck around anyway, since he knows I'm committed to him. Maybe this is a rare case?
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/15 07:03 PM
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That is probably true. Maybe a case for delaying marriage until 40s?
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/15 07:01 PM
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Yes, it is basically the label. A divorcee is someone who failed at marriage. A failure. To me that would be the ultimate embarrassing label, right up their with single mother (except by widowhood). To me that would be less embarrassing since we didn't publicly declare our commitment in a wedding ceremony in front of everyone we know, and the government, only to later go back on that public commitment. That is my opinion only. Getting dumped as a single long term girlfriend is less embarrassing,…
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/15 06:30 PM
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That is a definite reason in my reluctance to get married, however it is not the only nor the first reason. The first reason, before ED issues ever arose, was the risk of divorce, which is still the most important reason in my eye. If I could 100% guarantee I would never get divorced or cheated on, I would consider getting married, despite ED. But since it's impossible to do that, I'm against marriage for ME personally--no one else. "Men" don't need to oblige me fully, since there is and only ev…
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/15 06:24 PM
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"I would be willing to bet that they would be suddenly pro-marriage if their men did an about-face." Not true in my case, though I can't speak for anyone else. I brought up those reasons to my man when he suggested marriage, not the other way around. "Ironic thing about this is that the women who stay in in this type of relationship are probably the least likely to divorce their men anyway." Very true in my case. However, the man is still able to divorce the woman. I truly cannot understand why …
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/15 05:37 PM
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Well, I don't think I would be in a relationship with a man like that to begin with honestly, no matter how wonderful, since that really isn't my "type". Still, I respect that you and your husband formed a deeper bond through marriage. For that to happen, both parties have to truly believe in marriage. I think I am too disillusioned with the concept to believe in it fully, which is another reason it would be disingenuous for me to marry a man who marriage was very important to, since it isn't im…
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/15 05:28 PM
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Agreed, though marriage itself is slightly skewed in favor of the woman, as well, in my opinion. What benefit can a man derive from it that he can't from a committed LTR?
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/15 05:24 PM
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Okay. I accept that.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/15 05:24 PM
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I don't think I'm that rare actually. I don't think I would divorce him, since I don't believe in divorce, but there is always a chance he would divorce me or cheat on me. I can only control my own behavior, not his, so I'd rather not put myself in a situation in which I could be divorced. That is solely my opinion, I'm not advocating other people to make the same decision as me.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/15 04:37 PM
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I am a woman lol. Those are all reasons women don't want to be married, as well. Why would they only be reasons for men? Only men can care about an unfair system? Only men can not want children? Only men can be nonreligious? RP women don't have to be clones. You can be submissive to man without being married to him. I, personally, don't want to participate in a system unfair to men, which marriage is. Still, I don't disrespect women who do, for whatever reason(s). What I do raise my eyebrows at,…
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/15 04:03 PM
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Or, you're not married because you don't agree with a system that favors women over men, aren't religious, don't want children, and don't need a paper to force commitment that is already there (and wouldn't be somehow stronger by a contract).
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/15 02:55 PM
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lol okay
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/15 01:46 AM
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An unattractive girl can have sex with hot guys, so that's not the issue. Lots of hot guys have low standards for hookups. I'm not ugly nor am I hot. I'm average in looks. I just can't enjoy sex if I don't have an emotional connection with the guy, so that's another reason why I'm not screwing around with randos. Don't know what a Claudia Schiffers is, but you're probably right. I hate competition and would not feel comfortable being in a relationship with a man who has women throwing themselves…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/15 11:55 PM
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Good idea. Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/15 11:20 PM
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I'm not fucking around in my 20s because I'm a girl, obviously. If I was a guy things would be different. No, I'm not interested in super hot guys at all. Or even moderately hot guys. I would not want to deal with the competition that comes with dating super attractive guys. Looks aren't really important to me, or rather, I have a very unique type that most girls would not consider "hot". My bf looks young for his age. People mistake him as 10/15 years younger. That's why he dates young. Women h…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/15 11:19 PM
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I think it is stress-related and also chronic-pain related. He is not able to exercise anymore, due to pain, and so lack of circulation may be another cause, as well. He doesn't watch porn, and I don't think he gets hard when he masturbates.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/15 10:17 PM
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TRP tends to advocate such an age difference, no? I see guys as old as 50 saying they have 20-something year old plates or LTRs. I thought it was normal... Guys in their 20s are not looking to settle down and have LTRs, guys in their late thirties are. That is why I went for an older guy (not to mention they are more attractive in looks and personality). The only guys looking for commitment in their 20s are guys who can't get multiple girls, in my experience. Besides, what 20-something is actual…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/15 10:16 PM
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He's 37, though, so not that young. He's also religious. He wouldn't go for the escort thing, though it would be interesting to see the result if he was willing to.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/15 10:04 PM
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I'm 21. There wouldn't be much of a difference. It's not because I'm old. He can't get it up for porn, either.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/15 09:08 PM
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That makes a lot of sense. This began when my bf started being unable to exercise due to pain.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/15 08:52 PM
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I don't think you're not nice. Did you actually love the guy you left though? I love this guy so I can't just leave him over this, also it's been three years so there is an element of sunk cost, as well. He also has issues beyond his control causing the ED so he's not doing it on purpose. It would be cruel of me to leave him over something he can't control.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/15 08:51 PM
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You're the only one who actually answered the question. Thank you :)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/15 08:48 PM
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Yes. But if I do that how do I make sure the next guy doesn't have ED or doesn't develop it later on? That was my question.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/15 08:47 PM
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He can't exercise due to pain. He does not believe he has low T, doesn't want it checked and also thinks viagra will not work on him.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/15 08:46 PM
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Well what happened to me is he started out getting erections at everything, then over the course of three years lost the ability to get hard at all. Total bait and switch. I don't want that to happen to me again.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/15 08:45 PM
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Yes, it one guy in particular. He's the only man I've ever been with and I love him completely...but I really need sex. However, I don't want to throw away an otherwise perfect relationship with the man who took my virginity and the only man I've ever loved, only to have the next guy I date also develop ED.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/15 08:43 PM
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Sorry if this seems like trolling. I'm being serious. I'm still with him because I don't want to leave him, find a new guy, and then have the exact same issue again. I am deeply in love with this man and don't want to leave him over ED, only to have the next guy I date also develop ED.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/15 08:41 PM
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Well, I'm trying to find out how common it is. At this point I've only ever been with one guy in my life. I don't want to go to another guy if the same problem will just happen again. If the same ED thing will happen I might as well stay with this guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/15 08:40 PM
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I'm not fat. Or ugly. He literally has actual ED.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/15 08:39 PM
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Well, it's only been one guy. I'm not overweight or ugly. Like probably 6.5 or 7/10.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/15 08:38 PM
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I was being a little facetious. Too many guys use AWALT as "all women are evil hamstering sluts" rather than all women have the same basic drives (and all men have their own basic drives, as well). Saying not all RPers are all alike sounds too much like "each RPer is a special snowflake". RPers do have A LOT in common, in addition to what you said. It is a certain kind of man that finds TRP, agrees with TRP and actually puts it into use. The majority of men have problems with women, but only a s…
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/15 05:54 PM
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Agreed, for the most part, but the causal relationship between less beautiful and more hobbies might run both ways. Some girls might avoid hobbies, instead focusing on their looks and on socializing, because hobbies don't attract men--looking good attracts men, and socializing is how they meet men to attract. If girls are inside writing or knitting or whatever, they're not meeting men. Reading a book doesn't make a woman more beautiful and so I don't blame girls who don't bother. Guys can't slee…
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/15 03:05 AM
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Guys who want girls with substance are hard to find, too, but luckily, I feel like they do find each other in the end. What's your novel about?
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/15 09:58 PM
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I think that the girls/women that the men/boys who frequent TRP think don't have hobbies or seem not to have hobbies because they're the kind of girl that most guys typically notice--hot party girls. They're always at bars, clubs, parties, etc, which is their major hobby, along with possibly makeup and shopping, and that is where guys see them and base their point of reference upon. Many girls do have hobbies, but those are usually the girls who aren't at the parties/clubs/bars and so guys on TR…
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/15 07:07 PM
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Thank you for your sympathy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/15 08:37 PM
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No he doesn't take ED drugs and doesn't want to, he thinks they won't work and told me he used them in the past and they didn't work. I believe you that he probably doesn't want to have sex with me at the point.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/15 03:57 PM
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Well, he's not exactly "refusing" he will use his hands and mouth. But I really want to see that he desires me, so if he's just going down on me, I feel like it's a chore to him and he isn't attracted to me, so that's why I want him to fix the ED.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/15 02:57 PM
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I think it is both depression and stress.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/15 02:14 AM
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I think he is depressed. He can't exercise anymore due to chronic pain. I really don't think he masturbates, he might, but if he does he does so without getting hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/15 02:11 AM
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In the context of that comment, yeah, but that was only once. He normally doesn't say stuff like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/15 02:11 AM
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lol thanks :)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/15 12:27 AM
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Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/15 12:26 AM
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Well, when we started dating I didn't realize he had these issues and also the issues were less serious. As time went on some problems he had got worse and I couldn't just abandon him for that. I don't want to "fix" him, just the ED. Of course I want him to completely recover from all his problems but it would be impossible for me to do that, so I'm not trying to. I'm honestly just trying to solve my own problem here, which is not getting sex. It's not 100% altruistic that I want to fix his ED. …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/15 11:26 PM
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Well male in control is usually--not always--the ideal for most females. I wish my bf was more like that. He used to be somewhat, but not at all anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/15 11:23 PM
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Sure, I'm not hot but I'm not hideous, either. I don't think my looks are the problem in this particular case. He used to go crazy over my body before this started happening.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/15 11:22 PM
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I didn't mean to imply he was being disloyal. I don't think he's cheating on me at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/15 11:21 PM
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He doesn't even jerk at all anymore. He's having multiple issues that are contributing to this problem, but that isn't one of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/15 11:21 PM
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I know for a fact that it does. So what can I do?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/15 11:20 PM
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I'm no 10, but I am 21. He hates makeup and has gone on hour long rants about how makeup is a lie and should be illegal, so I can't really do that, either. Still, I should probably lose 10 pounds to be at my ideal weight. He doesn't like porn, or even blowjobs, really. He thinks porn is stupid, blowjobs are 'meh'. I have been suspecting what you call the Coolidge Effect. I do believe that he is bored of me after 3 years, whether he realizes/admits it or not. But since I don't wear makeup or perf…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/15 09:23 PM
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Also, he is almost 40.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/15 09:19 PM
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I truly wish it were that simple. If I believed he wasn't into me/didn't love me, I would already be gone. But I know for a fact that he is and he does love me, so leaving him would literally destroy him at the worst possible period in his life (health issues, chronic pain, stress, etc). I can't and won't leave him, especially for something like this that he can't control. (If he cheated I would leave, though, since that would prove that I'm wrong about the ED and about him truly loving and bein…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/15 09:19 PM
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He's not on depression meds and won't take any kind of medicine, even advil. I tried many times to tell him to get his testosterone checked but he doesn't want to and doesn't think that is an issue. He also can't work out at the moment due to chronic pain from working out.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/15 09:17 PM
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I understand. Are there any home remedies? He doesn't want to use viagra or any of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/15 09:13 PM
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Not fat, but I do have a chubby stomach. I haven't gained weight during the relationship, when it first started he was super into my body (and still claims to be) and couldn't take his hands off me. Now, two years later, it's the opposite. He may have high blood pressure, but definitely not diabetes. Not gay. He doesn't dress well enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/15 09:12 PM
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He's not exactly young, though, he's in his late thirties.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/15 09:10 PM
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What should the girl do?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/15 08:01 PM
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Yes, can you please say what the female should do. I'm a girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/15 08:00 PM
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I love him and don't want to leave him. He loves me and leaving him would emotionally destroy him, as he is also going through many other issues beyond ED. I can't leave him.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/15 07:59 PM
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I don't think he even jacks off anymore, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/15 07:58 PM
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Because I tried to ask RPW, they deleted it. I tried to ask AskTRP and they told me to ask here.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/15 07:57 PM
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I'm a girl in an LTR with a guy who has lost interest in sex and suffers from ED for multiple reasons. What should I do?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/15 07:34 PM
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well specifically what should the girl/woman do? I didn't want to do the "as a woman" or "woman here" thing, so I didn't say my gender. RPW doesn't let people post questions without first participating/posting in other discussions--but I can't do that since I don't have to knowledge to post anything intelligent in those discussion since I haven't had my questions answered yet. That's why I'm here not at RPW.
/r/askTRP16/10/15 04:11 PM
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I will look into those. he does like order stuff online, including meds, so he might be more open to that than traditional doctor ED meds. Thanks for the suggestion :)
/r/askTRP13/10/15 10:09 PM
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1-all these men obsessed with sex and I fall in love with the man who doesn't want it and can't have it lol 2-can't leave him because no hymen, no diamond and he took the hymen, plus leaving would be AWALT since it would be another woman abandoning a man at his weakest moment when she needs to be supporting him and helping him 3-legitimately surprised at how many men are interested in marriage and children, and would want it if not for modern circumstances ...oh wait, it's not a what if anymore.…
/r/askTRP13/10/15 10:08 PM
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To be honest, one of the main reasons I want to be in a relationship is to have sex. But also, I love him. There is also a fear of being alone, too.
/r/askTRP10/10/15 07:40 PM
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So is it over? Should I just leave and find a guy my own age, regardless of any pain I cause him and myself? Would that be better for us both in the long run?
/r/askTRP10/10/15 07:04 PM
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What effect does eating a lot of fruit have on testosterone?
/r/askTRP10/10/15 07:03 PM
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Maybe I should try to fix my other issues instead. I don't want to give him an ultimatum because I'm afraid he'll just leave rather than fix the ED problem. Is it wrong to like older men, do you think? Like physically, I find a few wrinkles and a little gray hair attractive. I always have, even before I was truly aware of it. My favorite characters in TV and movies would always be men 30s to 50s, and I just could never understand the allure of teenage and 20s guys, even when all my friends were …
/r/askTRP10/10/15 05:09 PM
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Yeah, I don't think he was on steroids then. He has some muscle but nothing extreme. Idk if his testicles are normal size tbh though since they're the only ones I've ever seen XD and I really don't feel like googling pictures to compare. You're probably right, it's just him getting older. It's been this way for about a year and a half now.
/r/askTRP10/10/15 05:01 PM
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I honestly can't say for sure if you and her are done for good. She will probably be really happy to see you again if you're super sexual with her. She will be happy because she will no longer feel undesirable to and rejected by you. But at the same time, that affirmation may give her the confidence to walk away again. She might think "okay, I got him to be attracted to me again, I win" and then think "now that I got him to want me again, it's time to get revenge by making him feel how I felt" S…
/r/askTRP10/10/15 04:58 PM
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Really? where can I get these?
/r/askTRP10/10/15 04:55 PM
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Yes, that makes sense. I need to pay more attention to what people do rather than what people say. I definitely have more value than sex, since my bf is with me despite not even wanting sex lol. But yes, I'll keep up my body and mind. Still, I don't want to leave him and find another guy. I want to be with him and have him value me for sex as well as other things.
/r/askTRP10/10/15 04:54 PM
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FeelWhatIFeel, 15 isn't really old enough to be my father (biologically yes, but socially, no). Though, I understand why that makes you uncomfortable. I don't have "daddy issues" though I may have general self-esteem issues. Also, I just find older men more attractive than younger men. I've never been attracted to men my age for whatever reason. But I honestly don't believe that you've never seen a single (or multiple) men on TRP express that women older than 25 or older than 30 are worthless. A…
/r/askTRP10/10/15 04:53 PM
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I'm sorry your girl just left you, and only after a week, too. But then, from what I read on your post, your relationship with her was shorter than mine is with my bf, so there is less of a sunk cost. As a girl self esteem is basically based on whether men are attracted to us. And so, when a woman's significant other can't get it up for her, her self-esteem is shattered and she is devastated. She either has to stay, knowing she is ugly and so suffering, or find a new man who is attracted to her.…
/r/askTRP10/10/15 03:35 PM
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Do you think he could have secretly been taking steroids?
/r/askTRP10/10/15 03:23 PM
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I don't think the age difference is a problem. This kind of age difference is what TRP suggests. A woman's peak is 18--23, a man's is 30--40. I don't know how long you've been reading TRP but most RP guys won't date a woman over 25, let alone over 30, even if they're over 30 themselves. Therefore, I can't leave this man. The chances of me finding another good one in 2 years before I turn 25 and hit the wall are extremely low. Still, I understand what you're saying about how he's ignoring me. He …
/r/askTRP10/10/15 02:57 PM
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That's going to be very hard to do, as it offends him, but I will try again.
/r/askTRP10/10/15 02:53 PM
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It's true that religion originally made him anti-sex, but by the time we met he had long gotten over that. Maybe he somehow regressed back into that thinking? I don't think he's naturally asexual. When we first got together he was very sexual. He is willing to do 'alternatives' as you put it, but part of my problem is the lack of desire from him. It's hard to enjoy anything when I know sex is a chore for him and he doesn't desire me like he used to.
/r/askTRP10/10/15 02:53 PM
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