| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 5 | Crap!!!! What Should Be In My Physical and Mental Bug Out Bag? | ThrowForChristSakes | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/08/23 03:29 AM |
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| 2 | Did you guys ever let one get away, bc I did and it makes this betrayal + divorce 10X worseBecause “She never got to have a ho phase…” You see that logic everyone in a while. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/07/26 01:42 PM |
| 4 | Did you guys ever let one get away, bc I did and it makes this betrayal + divorce 10X worseCame here to find and second this. Everyone changes. OP, don’t beat yourself up, why do you this and similar subs exist? | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/07/26 01:40 PM |
| 5 | I may be the biggest idiot but I decided to stay in my step kids livesAnd yours. If they turn out to be halfway decent young men and have been paying attention, they will recognize what was up when they were younger and appreciate how you carried yourself despite it all. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/07/26 07:23 PM |
| 1 | I (M26) hooked up with a girl (F28) twice over the weekend. When should I reach out again?She probably has the same cold. | /r/seduction | 26/06/26 02:31 AM |
| 1 | Why do lots of divorced men who hookup try to hookup with cougars and single moms when there are younger women to have sex with?Just turned 57, but has been saying it years. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/06/26 10:58 PM |
| 3 | When did you know your marriage was over?Hahahahaha! Same! The delusion is strong with this one…. Sorry, man. I went thru the same thing. She said she wasn’t going back because he “screamed at her” about needing individual therapy to work on her issues. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/06/26 09:51 AM |
| 4 | Why do lots of divorced men who hookup try to hookup with cougars and single moms when there are younger women to have sex with?Exactly… my wife is an older woman, and we’ve been headed for divorce because she wants nothing to do with sex, and thinks I shouldn’t want it either. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/05/26 12:15 PM |
| 3 | Since when is child support until 21?NYS child support can be mandated by the court up to age 26 if child is special needs. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/05/26 03:54 AM |
| 9 | An UpdateYou are gonna find out that you were wasting the next few years of your life trying to make this work. You will never be able to trust her again. It would be easier if it was a one night stand. The kids will pick up on the fact that you two are not as close as everyone thought, and it will affect them down the road. Move out of that town. Seems like just about all the women or vipers and the men either. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/05/26 01:06 PM |
| 1 | Wife’s Having An Affair.And how about the men who cheat, same reason wrt women, in your opinion? | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/05/26 01:03 PM |
| 1 | Wife has moved on-big timeOr, better yet, he’ll have another poly girl friend… | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/05/26 08:07 PM |
| 1 | What actually makes a man feel “naturally confident” in social situations?Whenever I think about whether or not, I want to put myself out there in a situation I asked myself “How long am I going to be dead?” In that context, there is typically no hesitation. | /r/seduction | 20/05/26 02:42 AM |
| 3 | Wife’s Having An Affair.Good Luck, please keep us posted. Updateme | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/05/26 01:53 AM |
| 1 | Am I being unreasonable asking for jewellery to be valued during separation?Jewelry… hers… | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/05/26 12:45 AM |
| 3 | Need advice . Wife agrees to go our separate ways and live apart for good , but still wants to fuck exclusively .Do tell! | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/05/26 11:51 AM |
| 1 | Female boss shit-tested me yesterday — did I pass or fail?Then say, “But I think I’d like to take you on a ‘Test Drive’ first, before committing to a date.” In an equally flirty way, then add: “Or we can continue with the games, it’s up to you” | /r/seduction | 23/04/26 01:34 PM |
| 8 | Wife planning "girls holiday"Start preparing your own Stag Trip and see what her reaction is….. “Hey that reminds me, me and a few of the guys are going to book a three day excursion to….” Updateme | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/26 02:19 AM |
| 5 | Today I RealisedGet you’re testosterone checked, if this is indeed part of the problem, increasing your juice might help solve SOME of you poor mental perspective as well as help you straighten out again. I’m not a Dr, just an experienced blockhead on Reddit, but you are too young to take injections in my (non-medical) opinion. Prolonged and constant high stress levels such as being in a crappy relationship, getting cheated on, and then going through a messy divorce will depress your body’s ability to produce t… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/03/26 01:12 AM |
| 1 | Apparently ripped the screen door window off my neighbors house to get in because my key wouldn't work and passed out in the lawn because I couldn't get in because I though my ex stole my key.Classic line, Sir, nice job.…. I may need to steal it! | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/03/26 03:26 AM |
| 7 | Saddest Day of my LifeTry to separate your sadness from the fact she does not want to be with you anymore. It’s not easy, but treat it like a death. It is what it is. It is sad, and you can mourn the death of the relationship. And you can feel sad about it. This like all things shall pass, though it’s much easier for me to say all this, than you to actually live through it. Also, don’t beat yourself up and put too much thought into the reasons she gives for wanting to divorce. She is likely just throwing reasons out … | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/03/26 10:52 PM |
| 1 | Wife agreed to work it out? Can I trust her to not change her mind?I disagree, this will be the bridge that has been burned for OP. This will be affirming for him that he needs to act . | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/03/26 01:30 PM |
| 2 | Wife agreed to work it out? Can I trust her to not change her mind?This is gold! | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/03/26 01:28 PM |
| 7 | Wife agreed to work it out? Can I trust her to not change her mind?I think one of two things happened. 1- She decided she was done before she did any research, and reality smacked her in the mouth. 2- She was cheating and perhaps her AP wasn’t thrilled when she told him that she told you she was ready to separate and divorce? I would proceed with the divorce as quickly and calmly as possible. There’s no coming back from what she said when she initially sat you down. Do you want to lay next to her in bed (I know she’s on the couch) knowing that she feels that wa… | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/03/26 01:18 PM |
| 2 | Need help to stop this urge to find women for sex.Settle up with reality, life is too short… Run through the hoe phase hoes in the bars, and get it while you can. Lower your standard as these women want sex without commitment. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/03/26 03:24 AM |
| 8 | Feels like a stab to the heart.Just a heads up, keep an eye on the horizon, because she will most definitely be coming back for you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/03/26 02:15 AM |
| 1 | How do you go out to bars/clubs alone and still meet women without looking awkward?This is the way… | /r/seduction | 21/02/26 01:50 AM |
| 1 | MenopauseSorry to hear this…. Good Luck. Updateme | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/02/26 05:50 PM |
| 6 | I found my ex wife in sexually explicit promotional materials for her jobAnd yet, she’s still got a room, rent free, in your head. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/01/26 03:19 AM |
| 1 | Divorcing because of infidelity. But why do I forget that?True | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/01/26 11:08 PM |
| 4 | Divorcing because of infidelity. But why do I forget that?Or before reconciling, get a post-nup that throws eveything your way if she cheats again. Edited for clarity. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/01/26 11:04 PM |
| 3 | The 'after-divorce' trapYet, here you are, it’s OK. Good Luck! | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/01/26 11:23 AM |
| 1 | Ex wife invited me to Christmas day activities.Good luck. Updateme | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/12/25 01:36 PM |
| 4 | Wife started calling me "weak" and talking about divorce after I had a rough couple of days this weekHow and where is he going to find a good woman? They are, as you stated, extremely few and far between…. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/12/25 10:13 AM |
| 1 | The feeling of being replaced.Of course, good luck! | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/12/25 07:31 PM |
| 9 | The feeling of being replaced.Was going to say same. You got divorced for reasons. Remember what those were! | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/12/25 10:18 PM |
| 5 | Lawyer told me in a divorce I’d be financially wrecked. Wife is emotionally gone. Any dads survive getting hit with this reality?Do you have any statistics that prove this? | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/12/25 03:13 PM |
| 10 | Bumped into ex todayI agree silence is the best response. But… If you feel you must respond, I think saying something along the lines of “I don’t see any point in doing that” to your ex’s suggestion of introducing yourself to the AP or her to your new partner. Edited to add: If AP does offer a hand to shake at some point in the future, I think I’d respond with an uninterrsted “Nah, I’m good.” | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/12/25 03:41 AM |
| 10 | Ex regrets separation/divorce, looking for advice.Here is an idea from left field, tell her you want to go through with the divorce, and then start over, clean slate, etc. That way, all liability, financial, legal obligations other than what was determined in the divorce decree are gone. You’ll also have a place of your own, where you can go back to if things go south. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/11/25 01:18 PM |
| 6 | Divorced Men, My wife cheat, we divorced, She’s happy, I’m sad. What is your advice?And may have never existed as you thought her to be. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/10/25 09:49 PM |
| 3 | Wife ComparisonOn the new sofa | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/09/25 08:06 PM |
| 0 | Wife left me todayAnd recognize she was able to do it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/09/25 04:03 AM |
| 4 | Just realizedYou forgot APs…. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/09/25 04:57 PM |
| 5 | Post Divorce Shower ThoughtsYou Go, Boy!!! | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/08/25 05:43 PM |
| 4 | 4 weeks and looking up a mountainHurry up and gain ground while she’s in the affair fog. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/07/25 12:00 AM |
| 2 | Former doormat here getting divorced and trying to be better. Anyone know any other good channels like SSM?Agreed, most times I have to go back and listen to them again because there’s so much to take in. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/07/25 06:28 PM |
| 8 | Post Divorce GuiltDon’t look at parts of the picture that was your marriage and think she is right. Step back take it all in, and you’ll remember the full picture. There’s two people in every relationship, and despite what one of them thinks/says, there is usually plenty of blame to go around. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/07/25 03:46 PM |
| 3 | Wife went psycho tonightThis!!!! | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/07/25 09:49 AM |
| 3 | Former doormat here getting divorced and trying to be better. Anyone know any other good channels like SSM?Yes | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/07/25 12:02 AM |
| 2 | A reflection on a 35M who experienced work burnout and divorce in less than 60 days.Agree wholeheartedly | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/06/25 12:22 AM |
| 6 | As a woman who started following this subreddit 4 years ago…10,000% | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/06/25 04:08 PM |
| 2 | She bought lingerie…Updateme | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/05/25 01:37 AM |
| 5 | 45M, Law Firm Partner, $350k/yr — Planning Divorce, SAHM Wife — What Does My Future Look Like?I heard you can stop once you’re dead. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/04/25 05:07 PM |
| 2 | Wife suddenly left me and my world is crumbling apart.Would be curious to see what the work colleague’s wife thinks happened… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/02/25 09:29 PM |
| 14 | Well the affair partner just called me.If a husband is going to be in this position, this is the way it should be, no questions, no mystery, just solid, free intel. Good luck. Update me | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/02/25 10:22 AM |
| 7 | I’m abusive for telling the truthRemember, logic in any form, does not apply…. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/02/25 10:58 PM |
| 2 | Got access to her WhatsAppHire a PI | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/01/25 02:50 AM |
| 2 | Living with a Cheating Spouse: Lies, Betrayal, and Feeling AloneHire a PI and Updateme. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/11/24 01:07 AM |
| 2 | Wife suggesting we won’t make it as a married couple. All because of Trump.Cutting out one set of grandparents, aunts/uncles and cousins isn’t great for kids either, particularly when they realize why. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/11/24 03:32 PM |
| 5 | My Wife Is In A ComaSame, great feeling that your wife would be relieved should you die, no? | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/10/24 05:07 AM |
| 6 | My ex hates my gutsAnd every guy here with these stories had no clue, so how do you expect a 20 something guy to figure that out in real time. An ounce of prevention (don’t get married) is worth a pound (divorce) of cure!!! | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/09/24 01:44 AM |
| 21 | My ex hates my gutsAfter reading the posts here I want to grab every 20 year old male I see and force him to read this and swear that he won’t get married. Just play the field and keep an arms length away from any kind of commitment. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/09/24 01:41 AM |
| 10 | Wife admitted to not loving meWell, sounds like you served your purpose. Look in the mirror and reflect… Change what you don’t like to see, and go talk to someone, it’s going to be rough. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/09/24 08:05 PM |
| 13 | She said, "You could just pick up the dog poop without me asking. You see it just like I do."You Sir, assumed that logic applied to her, her life, and in her mind. Shame on you! | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/08/24 09:29 PM |
| 8 | Another thing I won’t miss from the ex….Never having to smell pumpkin spice in your own home again would be worth it for me!! | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/08/24 08:24 PM |
| 2 | Rough dayAnd she’s now his problem… | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/06/24 08:31 PM |
| -1 | Thinking of leavingSo, basically he should settle… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/06/24 03:19 AM |
| 2 | Claiming Alcohol Issues (CA, US)Thanks! Good for you, hopefully that super-power lasts! | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/01/24 01:59 AM |
| 2 | Claiming Alcohol Issues (CA, US)Age? | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/01/24 01:43 AM |
| 7 | Wife cheated on me with my fatherOP, I understand the knee jerk reaction of embarrassment for you, but I see this no differently than being hit by a drunk driver. Tell everyone, it will not reflect poorly on you. It will reflect poorly on them and them some, particularly to anyone with half a brain and a sense of empathy and propriety. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/01/24 09:30 PM |
| 4 | Grew an inchAnd trim the shrubbery. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/01/24 02:53 PM |
| 3 | Got My SockAge? | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/01/24 02:01 AM |
| 3 | Wife wants divorce, but promised if I changed we’ll be back together.Agreed,But I was given the ultimatum, agreed, and gave one right back. Since then (will be two years in Jan 2024) I have changed, owned and addressed my shit and yet the issue that was thrown in my face as “the reason” has continued to shift and dwindle (anger issues, then to “You correct me when I relate our stories in mixed company”now). The goal posts keep shifting, and I knocked off those of substance after the first few shifts as I agreed they needed to change. Now it’s laughable. My therap… | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/12/23 10:24 PM |
| 5 | Any legal ways to earn money that ex can’t touchStart a laundering business. Laundering money. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/11/23 07:44 PM |
| 1 | Xmas tree shopping w ex?And don’t do (for the most part-you still need to be there for your kids) what makes you uncomfortable and unhappy. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/11/23 09:20 AM |
| 1 | Sex with exWTF is this crap? Make sure she’s on top!?!?! Unless you’re recording the video, it’s her word against yours! The whole premise of your suggestion is that she’ll lie about being assaulted unless you make sure she’s on top… ya blew right past the fact that you think she’s a liar first and foremost! | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/11/23 04:16 AM |
| 1 | Wedding ring after divorceAgreed, I imagine there can be no worse feeling than regret on one’s deathbed. And I’ll bet it’s not about things done, rather things not done, said or acted upon. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/11/23 12:00 PM |
| 2 | Updated info!! Might be meeting my ex wife's AP... AndAsk her “Are you pregnant? It looks like you’ve put on a few pounds.” Or just outright congratulate her and say as much in the follow up conversation. Either way the reaction might be entertaining… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/10/23 09:55 AM |
| 2 | She fucked another manTake advantage of her being in the new relationship fog and get as good a divorce settlement as your lawyer thinks you can get. Quick! Before one of them snaps out of it and reality sets in for a 41 F Soon-to-Be-Ex-Wife! | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/10/23 02:10 AM |
| 2 | I need help badly. I don't think anyone is facing what I am facing.Can you approach the ethics boards for the state entities that license mortgage loan officers and rear state agents to go after your ex and SIL? Contact their respective employers and file a complaint if you believe any of those illegal transactions were run through their offices. Also would notify the title companies involved. They are now accomplices to fraud if they were involved in any of the transactions. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/10/23 02:58 PM |
| 1 | Ex flexing over settlementThey are exes for a reason. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/08/23 10:32 AM |
| 2 | Moment of clarityInitially posted this comment above, more appropriate here… It will come around… Be patient. | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/08/23 12:00 AM |
| 2 | Moment of clarityIt will come around…. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/08/23 11:59 PM |
| 1 | Crap!!!! What Should Be In My Physical and Mental Bug Out Bag?This is why I’m still here. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/08/23 01:19 AM |
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