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I just get lost in the noise of all her other matches. "Noise" is all the Tinder notifications she's getting. If you're contacting her via some other method, you're going to stand out by default.
/r/seduction27/09/22 06:58 PM
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Sounds like a pretty standard case of performance anxiety. You can usually work this out in therapy, but beta blockers are a safe and effective medication that may help as an adjunct to therapy. They basically just dull your body's response to adrenaline. Helps you slow down and think straight when you're in situations that make you nervous. They're an old gold-standard for performance anxiety and a much better alternative to heavy psych meds like benzodiazepines and barbituates.
/r/seduction14/09/22 11:46 PM
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You can't manufacture shit like this. It just happens naturally if you have a good time with someone. Manufacture a good time.
/r/seduction14/09/22 11:33 PM
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Attractive women know they’re attractive. They're also more experienced with men and therefore more comfortable putting themselves in risky situations. Unattractive women also know they're unattractive. If you come on too strong too fast, they're going to think you're being dishonest.
/r/seduction06/09/22 03:17 AM
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Art classes, dude.
/r/seduction03/09/22 04:45 AM
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We need to differentiate between "hobbies" and "pastimes". Pastime: Something you do to pass the time. Playing video games is a pastime. Women may find this attractive, but only if they share your passion for it. Hobby: Something you do (for fun) to exercise agency over your reality. Building your own gaming PCs is a hobby. Women will find this attractive even if they don't share your passion for it. Appreciating art in a museum is a pastime, creating art and hanging it on your wall is a hobby. …
/r/seduction03/09/22 03:48 AM
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At first she didn't want to tell me how many she had because she felt like there was a stigma Asking her was a mistake. As a general rule, I never ask my partners about their sexual history. If they start to tell me about it, I stop them and tell them it isn't something I want to talk about. If they tell me anyway, I consider it a crossed boundary and they probably aren't going to hear from me anymore.
/r/seduction11/06/22 11:07 PM
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Majority of women are fucking the top tier guys. Trust. Is there actually any evidence of this? We know that women consider only 10% of men attractive when presented with still photos. I'm not aware of any study or survey suggesting that this extends to how actual mate selection is distributed (among humans) in the real world.
/r/seduction11/06/22 10:29 PM
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everybody says it has gotten progressively worse over the years. Why is that When online dating first hit the scene, it was only being used by people who actually wanted to go on dates. Surveys at the time indicated more than half of all users had found at least one real date by using an online dating service. Over time, the following things happened: Scammers realized loneliness is a goldmine and started creating bots / fake accounts to ask for money or redirect users to malicious websites. Inf…
/r/seduction04/06/22 08:52 PM
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It's a yellow flag. Yeah, life happens, but almost any well-adjusted adult has some kind of backup plan they can fall back on when something goes wrong. The vast majority of homeless people are homeless because they are mentally ill. That doesn't mean they're bad people, but they probably aren't in the right state of mind to be a good date or romantic partner.
/r/seduction04/06/22 08:32 PM
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social hobbies that give you the opportunity to meet people Can you provide some more examples? I often think about "social hobbies" and come up with fuck-all. Almost every hobby has a social component in the sense that there are other people who like to do it, but most hobbies are also centered on individual growth. Gardening is a hobby, but most gardeners tend their gardens alone. Fishing is a hobby, but most fishermen fish alone or with very small groups of friends. Salsa or any other dance c…
/r/seduction31/05/22 06:44 PM
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Am actually good looking. Virtually every woman I have known, whether romantically, platonically, professionally, etc. has told me this in one way or another. Everything from married coworkers mentioning "You're not a bad looking guy..." to random women at bars rubbing my chest and exclaiming "you're so fucking hot!" I moved to a new state exactly one year ago and started using dating apps. All of them. Daily. In 365 days I've managed to land dates with a grand total of 8 women. All of them were…
/r/seduction31/05/22 06:33 PM
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When I started lifting for the first time, I started getting stared at for the first time. This again might just be a mental thing. Working out boosts your own libido, which makes you pay more attention to women. You may just be noticing more stares because you're spending more time staring back. I got laid plenty as a skinny dude, but I had to show off my mind to do so. When I got swole, I didn’t have to say a thing. This kind of confirms what I just said.
/r/seduction15/05/22 09:55 AM
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You're doing something wrong by using Tinder. It's literally a slot machine built on casino odds. The house always wins. Find other ways to meet women.
/r/seduction03/05/22 10:32 AM
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Yes. Self-amusement is an extremely charismatic trait and if you actually want to talk about that, people will want to talk about it with you.
/r/seduction02/05/22 11:46 PM
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Bonus if the arcade has ticket machines and a toy counter. You can buy each other stupid little gifts with the tickets you win. This is a really fun/cute bonding experience and now she's going home with a cheap plastic dinosaur in her purse that reminds her of you.
/r/seduction02/05/22 10:09 AM
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Big age gaps like this are usually controversial because people make generalized assumptions about life experience and upbringing. "An older person is always a smarter person and a younger person is always vulnerable to their influence. There is an imbalance of power in the relationship and therefore it is predatory." This mindset doesn't take into consideration how intellectually/experientially diverse people can be regardless of their age. Example: A 44 year old man starts dating a 24 year old…
/r/seduction01/04/22 12:21 AM
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If you think something sounds fun, and your prospective date doesn't, do you really want to go out with her?
/r/seduction08/03/22 02:46 AM
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If you are having boring conversations with people, it's because those people aren't like you. They don't have the same worldview, the same interests, or the same methods of self-expression. If you are having a boring conversation, find a new person to have a conversation with. If you've had 50 boring conversations in a row, take inventory of the people you're approaching and ask yourself why you're approaching them.
/r/seduction08/03/22 02:44 AM
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Being in a good pop band with some sort of social following will get you laid. It isn't the musical talent, it's the social status. "I play bass." isn't the same as a woman seeing you get a raucous applause for your bass solo at a live event. OP's post supports this. They got attention from women because they were promoting their project and getting a good social reception, not because they were in a band.
/r/seduction08/03/22 02:30 AM
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if you’re ugly On the inside. This is a fallacy I see a lot of people fall for here. Looks only matter until you open your mouth. Then it's 100% personality. I have a short, 350lb cousin who can chat up random babes all day long because he's a genuinely cool, funny, intelligent, confident, and kind person. He doesn't think he's ugly, so he isn't.
/r/seduction01/10/21 01:02 AM
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Interests. Interests make people interesting. It's pretty simple. A diverse range of hobbies, passions, and lifestyle activities. Person A: "I work at a hospital so I don't have time for much else! I can tell you literally everything about x-ray machines though!" Person B: "I ride horses, I go hiking a lot, I like to read textbooks on philosophy, I have a huge pokemon card collection, I grow bonsai trees, and I cook great carribean food." Even if you LOVE x-ray machines, you would probably find …
/r/seduction01/10/21 12:52 AM
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There is a huge difference between making someone more interested in you, and making them chase you. Want to make her more interested? Be a more interesting person. Demonstrate your unique personal qualities, demonstrate confidence, and demonstrate a casual interest in her. Want to make her chase you? Be dishonest and manipulative. You don't want women to chase you, man. Trust me. It's fun until you get laid, then it's a huge pain in the ass. Be someone worth chasing, but look for someone worth …
/r/seduction01/10/21 12:36 AM
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I've cold approached thousands of women and slept with many hundreds of them. Anybody can throw a net in the shallows and dig up a pile of shrimp. I don't think that's why this sub exists, tbh.
/r/seduction15/09/21 04:30 AM
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I think most people here would consider this awful advice but it's the strategy I'm going to go with. I will probably word the note a little differently. She may not even be working next time I go in there, but I hardly know her so it's no big deal if nothing happens. I'll still get a cool pair of shoes.
/r/seduction16/08/21 10:56 PM
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Obviously nobody here but you knows the situation I think my post outlined the situation pretty well. She threw some IOIs, we share some common interests, but she is not in a position to give out her number in this particular environment. I understand the odds are lower when offering mine, but it's the only approach in this scenario and I'm going to shoot my shot. My general question to the board is: How can I optimize those low odds in a situation like this?
/r/seduction16/08/21 10:49 PM
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That isn't an excuse to avoid approaching her. It's a diplomatic strategy to make the approach easier for her. I think you're either ignoring the logistics here or trolling. Do I have the balls to ask her for her number? Yes. I ask women for their numbers all the time. Does she have the balls to write her number down and accept a date while a line of customers impatiently waits for her to ring up their shoes? Probably not. I wouldn't expect her to, either.
/r/seduction16/08/21 10:36 PM
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Girls at the bar are just that type - girls that go out all the time. There is almost always some girl just like you who got dragged out with her party-hard friends and isn't having a good time. Find that girl. EDIT: I submitted a post here a few days ago about my first attempt at cold-approaching women by myself at a crowded bar. It went way better than expected. You should try it. Just make sure you pick a busy place with a lively atmosphere. Get there at peak hours when everyone has had a few…
/r/seduction16/08/21 10:22 PM
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The women u approach don’t know about game. Every woman on earth knows about game unless she's a virgin or autistic. There's a reason this sub has 650k readers and the female sub has 7k.
/r/seduction16/08/21 10:14 PM
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she'll figure you're not MAN enough or CONFIDENT enough to just ask for hers. What seems more confident and masculine to you? Asking for something valuable, or offering something valuable? You ask for her number in a busy, high-visibility workplace setting while her manager is breathing down her neck, there's a 9.9/10 chance she'll say no because she isn't allowed to do that at work. You offer her your number discreetly after confidently stating your intentions, there's a 9/10 she'll never messa…
/r/seduction16/08/21 10:02 PM
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I think this depends a lot on environment. My last home was in a large metropolitan city. Women keep their head down in the street and generally focus on their immediate group of friends when at a bar or club. My new home is in a very small town. Women almost always make eye contact and smile when you pass them on the street. Same thing at bars.
/r/seduction16/08/21 08:55 PM
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I moved down here about six weeks ago and I plan on staying forever. It's a great place. I'm actually visiting Melbourne in a couple weeks to meet up with a friend.
/r/seduction16/08/21 02:19 AM
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She sounds nice. I'm certainly interested in meeting new people down here.
/r/seduction16/08/21 02:13 AM
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I'm about an hour from Melbourne lol.
/r/seduction16/08/21 02:07 AM
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Sounds like you need to screen better, man. daddy issues ghost for 2 weeks You knew before you even met her, but chose to pursue something anyway. You did fine on the date, but you didn't pick good date material. I make this mistake myself sometimes. I think most men would agree "sticking your dick in crazy" is a guilty pleasure. Just try to be more disciplined in the future.
/r/seduction16/08/21 01:15 AM
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You need to personalize every approach based on the circumstances. If you rely on pre-canned pickup lines you're playing the lottery.
/r/seduction16/08/21 01:07 AM
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The bottom line is that no amount of bodybuilding will make up for bad genetics, and your genes are really the only thing that matters when it comes to physical chemistry. Getting jacked might make you look better in photos, but once you're standing in front of a woman that's one of the last things she's subconsciously evaluating. The way you smell, the way you move, your eyes, the tone of your voice, your skin and hair, your height, your bone structure, etc. are all giving her much more informa…
/r/seduction15/08/21 11:58 PM
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Yeah I was, but the crazy party atmosphere wasn't very conducive to my usual ladder. We were definitely touching each other a lot the whole night. Like I said, she kept rubbing my bare chest and complimenting how I looked in her shirt. That seems like a strong "go" signal to me. Inviting me into the backseat of her car also seems like a pretty strong signal. I think maybe she just had a last-minute realization that she should slow things down. She just met me two hours ago, she's drunk, her frie…
/r/seduction15/08/21 11:00 PM
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ive never had an issue with coffee dates feeling fun. For sure, you can just flirt your way through it, but the maximum potential for bonding is lower in an environment like that. Your warm-up should be the initial approach conversation and getting her number, imo. There should already be some chemistry established before you bother meeting someone and paying for their good time.
/r/seduction17/07/21 11:21 PM
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Some of the most attractive people are also the most self-conscious. They're either thinking "I have to look as good as I possibly can because I have nothing else to offer", or they're thinking "Nobody notices anything about me other than my looks".
/r/seduction17/07/21 01:02 AM
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Seconding this. Play is essential on a first date. You go to a bar, coffee shop, restaurant, etc. you're going to get stuck in an interview. The only way to avoid that is to have something to do. Mini-golf, billiards, bowling, arcade, carnival, etc. You want a fun, lively environment, a sense of friendly competition, and reasonable excuses for natural physical contact or close proximity.
/r/seduction17/07/21 12:58 AM
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You just want to have a fun date. Then only schedule fun dates. Tell her you don't drink coffee and you aren't in the mood for a restaurant this week. Let's go do mini-golf and go-karts instead. You are immediate dad material if you show her you can have fun doing childish stuff and she'll have a way better time than she would giving you a coffee interview.
/r/seduction21/06/21 08:06 AM
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Ah, the cheapest and easiest solution.
/r/seduction21/06/21 08:00 AM
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Younger girls tend to lie about this a lot. If there's any doubt in your mind you need to figure out a way to discreetly ID them.
/r/seduction21/06/21 07:58 AM
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First Base has a very, very low chance of rejection and very low severity. If you are rejected at this stage, finish the date as a friendly exchange and move on. She isn't attracted to you. Rejection at this stage looks like: Incidental touch never happens because she is keeping a safe distance from you. (Note that apologies for incidental contact are not a rejection. This is just a habit people have. Ignore it.) She may discreetly "escape" attempts to touch her back or arm by quickly changing p…
/r/seduction21/06/21 07:34 AM
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The lack of sexual attention from girls makes me self-conscious about my physical traits and makes me think that there must be something wrong with me for no girls to be interested. They're not interested because they think you're not interested. That's the part you need to work on. You've probably read a basic escalation ladder before but I'm gonna lay out my own to explain how it ties into fear of rejection and building confidence: First Base is socially acceptable touch that does not imply in…
/r/seduction21/06/21 07:34 AM
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Better advice: Don't bother with women who shit-test you by intentionally distancing themselves. This is toxic af and usually indicative of a personality disorder.
/r/seduction21/06/21 03:39 AM
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It's a form of survey bias. Sometimes what works on paper doesn't work in practice. "Would you bang Jack Sparrow?" Girl: Of course. He's a hot, wild, charming pirate! "Hey, meet my friend Jack Sparrow!" Girl: This guy smells like shit, he's drunk, and he's poor. Get me the fuck out of here. EDIT: To be fair, men are guilty of this too. Nobody is immune to it.
/r/seduction21/06/21 03:14 AM
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When meeting for the first time, always select a date you wouldn't mind doing by yourself, and always go on that date by yourself if they stand you up. If you go home, you fail and take a blow to your ego. If you stay, you have a good time and build more self worth.
/r/seduction19/06/21 07:38 AM
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People rarely "plan" to flake. It's usually a last minute impulse decision based on a lack of interest. OP's advice is solid because it will generate more interest in staying in touch with you.
/r/seduction08/06/21 06:08 AM
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Calling and texting have separate utilities: Texting is good for short exchanges throughout the day. She might be busy, or you might be busy, but you can still communicate in short bursts via text. Phone calls are a good thing to do at the end of the night or on weekends. Most women love phone calls if they are genuinely interested in you. Use both in their appropriate context if you want to develop a well-rounded bond with someone.
/r/seduction08/06/21 03:49 AM
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Step 1: Stop assuming attractive women require a different approach. They don't.
/r/seduction08/06/21 03:45 AM
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Because she isn't respecting your boundaries. If you tell a woman "I don't have sex with new partners for six months" and she says "sorry, that isn't for me", she is respecting your boundaries. Disrespecting this boundary would be asking you for sex anyway. OP admitted he allows women to do this, so he is actively seeking women who don't respect his (artificial) boundaries.
/r/seduction06/06/21 04:14 AM
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"Oh I thought your were siblings". BRUTAL
/r/seduction06/06/21 04:07 AM
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Leverage your rapport with her to meet other people. Don't bother trying to pick her up. She's your wingman now. People will notice if you're friends with the staff.
/r/seduction06/06/21 03:51 AM
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She ain't cool with that? Well she isn't worth your time. And why isn't she worth your time? Because she has a normal human libido and wants to be intimate with you? OP already admitted this isn't an honest strategy. The guy breaks his own rule the second the girl indicates she wants to have sex with him. It's a weak and manipulative lie. Doesn't belong in this sub and should not be practiced by anyone with a good conscience.
/r/seduction06/06/21 03:33 AM
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You can ask her about her first kiss, or her craziest sexual experience. Great job, you have already signaled to this girl that you are thinking about sex on the first date. Now go ahead and try to convince her you only have sex with women after you've been seeing them for 6 months.
/r/seduction06/06/21 02:54 AM
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Yeah, just don't have sex with her or ever mention sex to her for six months. Don't ever explain yourself either. She'll love that. /s
/r/seduction06/06/21 02:52 AM
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I understand this in theory, but six months is unreasonably long. Most people, male or female, do not want to wait six months to determine whether or not they are sexually compatible with a potential partner. Even many of the highest quality women are going to: Assume you aren't attracted to them and move on. Assume you are hiding a sexual dysfunction and lose interest in you. Date other men during that six months (you can hardly blame them), which is going to complicate any bond you are attempt…
/r/seduction06/06/21 02:51 AM
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What would be the downside of this approach? You can get kidnapped and robbed blind on your first date. Don't be an idiot, dude. You don't tell women how much money you have until you're moving in with them or putting a ring on their finger.
/r/seduction06/06/21 02:05 AM
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Yeah so for example: Let's say you're the quiet guy who doesn't speak up much in class. That's totally fine too. Just leverage your other talents. Can you cook? Bring some bitchin hamburgers to the party. Don't say a word about it. Just dump a big tray of food on the table and say "Have at it, guys". Presto. You're the hero for the night. People will approach you to compliment the food. Humbly thank them, and if they seem interested in talking to you, you can strike up a good conversation about …
/r/seduction06/06/21 01:50 AM
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"Trying" isn't the point. OP said this is just his natural behavior. It wont work if you're trying to do it. Discover your own natural behaviors, identify what gives that behavior social value, and leverage it.
/r/seduction06/06/21 01:23 AM
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Seriously. You WANT to be that guy who raises his hand all the time in class. That guy knows all the answers. That guy has the highest status in the classroom. Women look at that guy and think "I hear his voice the most. He has good rapport with our teacher (an authority figure). He seems intelligent and confident, and he isn't afraid to ask questions." Embrace it. That's the most attractive type of man you can be.
/r/seduction05/06/21 06:21 AM
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If you are getting numbers but they aren't leading to dates, the girls aren't interested (and you probably aren't either). If you are both interested, the conversation will not dry out, you will ask her on a date, and she will say yes.
/r/seduction05/06/21 06:12 AM
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You aren't a rare earth metal. Scarcity does not increase your value. It just makes you more interesting (and, paradoxically, less attractive). There are other ways to make yourself more interesting and more attractive at the same time: Diversify your hobbies and interests. Read more books, listen to more music, watch more movies, learn how to make art, learn how to fix things, become skilled in some form of physical activity (biking, kayaking, climbing, sports, etc.). Start trying new things AL…
/r/seduction05/06/21 05:56 AM
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Finding a partner should be secondary to your main life. I dunno man. You are effectively rejecting your hard-wired natural purpose by taking this stance. "Find food and fuck." That is literally all your brain is concerned with. There is no escaping it. Every living animal on the planet is motivated by the imperative to mate. I do, however, agree that you shouldn't bother chasing women. Chemistry is the only thing that really matters. If a woman wants to be near you, you will never have to chase…
/r/seduction28/05/21 02:05 AM
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As another guy said, get cool with a female bartender. Pick a bar you like with a decent crowd of regulars. It doesn't matter if you're alone and don't know anybody. Go to this bar regularly. Sit at the bar and make small talk with a female bartender. Don't try to pick her up. She's going to be your wingman. Tell her some jokes, make small talk, and be her friend. Tip her very well. After a few weeks she'll be happy to see you, and other people in the bar will notice the pretty bartender is alwa…
/r/seduction28/05/21 01:47 AM
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