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I thought the exact same thing. Never thought in a million years she would be unfaithful, but it looks like she was cheating all along.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/21 03:30 PM
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Shouldn't that be adjusted out of the equity of the house? Meaning if the house was 300k, repairs was 10k, the person would didn't pay should forfeit 5k out of their share?
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/21 09:26 PM
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Meh
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/21 02:54 AM
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Worth the money if I don't have to spend cycles on it
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/21 01:19 AM
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Why not?
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/21 12:38 AM
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I pay a lawyer for that. I'm strict no-contact.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/21 11:26 PM
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Well, the division of assets would be handled in the separation agreement. I bought my wife a car after we separated and my lawyer just deducted the cost of it out of her half of the equity of the house. I personally would never lease a car. Just buy something older.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/21 10:11 PM
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Red pill ecochambers are toxic
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/21 04:45 PM
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I had no idea there was a name for this. Also, please try to refrain from generalizing by gender. Both men and women are capable of being horrible people.
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/21 01:58 PM
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Yes. Typically 8k to separation agreement and about 1500-2500/month
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/21 04:20 PM
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Never jump into anything quickly. It's not healthy for you or your partner. It's filling a void rather than building something new
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/21 03:59 PM
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That's just an excuse. She's ultimately the one responsible for the affair since she was the one that was married. But you still pursued and took part in an affair. It doesn't matter if she "was looking for a way out" or not.
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/21 11:03 PM
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It's like communicating and treating your spouse like a person causes them physical harm or something.
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/21 08:16 PM
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Jesus Christ. I know you've been hurt, but god-damn.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/20 10:57 PM
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Holy shit man, look in the damn mirror.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/20 09:45 PM
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And it makes us all look like shit. People spil their hearts out here and if they see red pill shit it makes you look like some kneck beard peice of shit.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/20 09:23 PM
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That's like the definition of being sexist. You can't use a phrase like "today's women" and it not be sexist. Get your head out of your ass as do some self reflection.
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/20 09:12 PM
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It has no reflection on "the people we are up against" that's sexist as hell
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/20 09:10 PM
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Red pill doesn't belong on this subreddit. It's toxic, demeaning, and sexist
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/20 08:15 PM
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Is there any recourse where you're at since she's wasting so much money in legal fees? The car alone I bought her is almost a couple grand less than half the equity in the house. Plus we were 25k in credit card debt when she left with only 5k in savings/checking accounts.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/20 08:13 PM
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Her affair partner contacting me to gloat that he's driving the brand new car I bought her and she didn't have an issue with it.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/20 01:37 AM
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And I thought my life was a bad lifetime movie. I feel for you man. I have no advice to give.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/20 01:35 AM
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I'm open to reconciling. Everything points towards a massive midlife crisis. But her shacking up with essentially a teenager (we're about 40) is really disgusting. I've only just now been able to get her to acknowledge me asking her to file. But I honestly don't think she'll make a move for months. I'm tired of waiting for things to change. She just has no initiative to do anything.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/20 01:12 AM
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I wouldn't phrase it like that. My best self wouldn't have a wife that cheated on me with a child. I've always been cleaner, made more money, and had a better work ethic. Life is easier when you don't have to clean up after someone else and don't have someone that spends a lot more than they bring-in. I'm more successful but not happier.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/20 05:33 PM
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Why would you let it get to that point without going to counseling?
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/20 10:32 PM
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She said, specifically, she left the home because of her father. She told her father, specifically, that this was because of him. She wrote this down and gave it to me.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/20 05:40 AM
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She ran away from home stating that she could not live near her father. She told me this directly plus telling her mother and father that it was because of him and not me/
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/20 05:30 AM
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The title is incorrect. She had an affair. I was faithful. My boss tested positive and I've been showing heavy symptoms. She abandoned the house 18 months ago but I've kept a shared OneNote current with all our financial information current. Even all passwords for private bank accounts, stocks, etc current but I'm uncomfortable with sharing if I'm infected or not. If the test comes back positive, should I even tell anyone besides my boss? I'm planning on moving all her remaining possessions or h…
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/20 05:28 AM
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I thought we were partners. I don't know anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/20 05:19 AM
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You're handwaving away responsibility and accountability. It's not okay to ruin lives because you find a new hole exciting. His wife just went through cancer for God sakes. Just because a large amount of marriages end in divorce. Cheating is a choice. If I cheated on my wife I'd expect my friends and family to kick my ass because it's one of the worst things you can do to a person.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/20 05:34 PM
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If you only see a marriage as a legal contract then you shouldn't be getting married. It's a lifetime commitment that goes far beyond just being a contract
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/20 04:13 PM
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That would be the "affair fog". Every new relationship is a whirlwind. Marriage is hard because you have to learn to fall in love all over again every once in a while to keep things fresh.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/20 11:39 AM
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Probably both.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/20 06:45 AM
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It sounds like you're having a midlife crisis
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/20 09:09 PM
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Mid and quart life crisis are a thing. With how much pressure everyone is under its easy to feel trapped and if you're not in the place you need to be. I'd suggest taking some meaningful time off from work, start up a new hobby, and spend more time with family. It could also be time for a career change or simply move to another company.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/20 09:25 PM
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If you're thinking about one. Don't do it
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/20 02:17 AM
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This seems kinda picky. It's wise to avoid being in public when possible and to practice social distancing, but they aren't going to die by picking up some milk and bread.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/20 05:07 PM
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One and done.
/r/Divorce_Men15/03/20 05:04 AM
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If she doesn't want marriage counseling then she's hiding something. If she sprung this on you with you being oblivious then she's not communicating. You need a mediator for her to be honest.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/20 02:51 AM
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Never hide. Never be deceitful. Doesn't matter if it works in your favor or not.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/20 02:48 AM
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Suffering in silence is a self fulfilling prophecy. You're either working on fixing something or working on breaking something apart. There isn't a middle ground.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/20 03:05 AM
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If your question is if something is "shady" then it probably is. Just because something could be technically legal doesn't mean it's the right thing to do. If it's a joint account, be up front, talk about it, then go to the bank together and transfer half to each of your individual accounts. Don't be dishonest and subversive.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/20 03:46 AM
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I didn't notice any bias with my marriage counselor. She seemed very unbiased.
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/20 04:53 PM
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I don't think there's much of a lesson to learn. Sure, there's always the opportunity to put in more effort, but it wasn't your choice the other decided to cheat. The other person decided to. Made the choice to. That isn't any way your fault. If anything it's a cosmic lesson to them. But they're unlikely to listen. EDIT:// I guess the best lesson to learn is to how not to let the worst thing in the world change you. How to maintain your sense of self and empathy for others even when you're betra…
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/20 12:52 AM
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You could be giving her a few mixed signals here. Your not enforcing the boundaries you're trying to get across. From the sound of it, when she violates your boundaries then you're either swallowing it or running away.
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/20 10:06 PM
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Have you talked bluntly with her about the issues you're having? Sometimes a mediator like a marriage counselor can help get the message through.
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/20 08:40 PM
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That would work well. Let's say a max of $400 since it'll be on your off days. That'll bring you to about $3200 a month. That'll have your existing budget at something like 81%. That should provide some monthly flex money to do fun things with your daughter. The first thing I would do, would be to get a comfortable buffer. I call it the Scre-you-fund. Three months living expenses so you can drop your job at any time and find another before it runs dry. Also helps for the unexpected car or health…
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/20 07:56 PM
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You can get your personal food budget lower. You can lunch for $1 and dinner for $3. Also consider dropping the Xbox live and Netflix. Just use a Mohu style antenna rent the occasional game from Redbox when you have time. Is your car good enough to do Uber on your off days?
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/20 07:29 PM
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You don't have consumables listed. I budget at $10/day for food and then break out all the standard comsumables (toilet paper, detergent, toothpaste, etc) to as consumed by month. I would also add a generic $100 for "entertainment" to cover unknown expenses, then have the final total to be no more than 90% of your take home. That would be $2520. Easiest thing to cut back on would be food. Bring that down to $10/day. That would get you close to 90%. Then see what you can do with utilities. Probab…
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/20 05:41 PM
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