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I'll need some time to grieve and sort out the logistics, probably a few weeks. Then start a new life - going out, traveling more, bigger and better social life, spinning plates. I have some good people in mind who can to connect me to some interesting circles, and just being out there will have it's effect. I'll return to practicing some day game, this should be fun. Other stuff like career and gym will keep moving forward as planned.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/26 02:20 PM
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OYS 15 - The Breakup Last OYS 26, 5'9, 170 lbs. Read NMMNG, WISNIFG, TMMSLP, pook, Manipulated Man, Praxeology 1, The Rational Male. Lifts (for reps): RDL 240, BP 193, OHP 100, SQ 187. Missions Find and incorporate my passions in my life alongside my career. Build my relationships in a way that will make me content and satisfied. Gym & Personal Development I keep bulking successfully. After stalling a bit at my lifts I technique checked all of them, dropped weight in some, increased in others, l…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/26 09:36 AM
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What's the plan? We are renting together 50-50, it's not my apartment, so the first thing is having a backup place to stay at a friend's nearby. Then the plan is to make it known that I'm currently living dissatisfied and let it sink in a bit, then announce the separation in a week or two. I'm doing this because I'd rather mitigate the damage of "dropping a bomb", and I know I might be helping her monkey branch but at this point I don't care. If she leaves I get to stay and can calmly look for a…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/03/26 09:17 AM
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OYS 14 25, 5'9, 165 lbs, 3.5yr LTR -promoted from plate, 3 months living together. Read NMMNG, WISNIFG, TMMSLP, pook, Manipulated Man, Praxeology 1. Lifts (for reps): RDL 240, BP 187, OHP 94, SQ 187. Missions Find and incorporate my passions in my life. Build my relationships in a way that will make me content and satisfied. Passions, Hobbies, Gym Getting very intentional with my self development and hobbiest besides MRP. Started making focused time to make art I enjoy and to learn more about pe…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/26 02:27 PM
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In an age when everybody is so ok with mediocrity, it's important to hear things like that. Friends and family IRL will tell me that this is just life with a partner. You'll never be certain, you'll always have worries about making the right choice, but you still make it work. That's why it seems so illogical to leave. Everything seems so nice on the surface, most days we have fun and love is in the air, at least as much as other happily married couples I know. But when I go deeper and look at t…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/02/26 11:31 AM
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OYS 13 - 2 Months living with LTR. 25, 5'9, 164 lbs, 3.5yr LTR -promoted from plate. Read NMMNG, WISNIFG, TMMSLP, pook, Manipulated Man, Praxeology 1. Lifts (for reps): RDL 240, BP 187, OHP 88, SQ 180. Missions Find and incorporate my passions in my life. Build my relationships in a way that will make me content and satisfied. Gym & Hobbies Finally reached the heaviest I've ever been, the bulk is moving. Hoping to get like 6 more lbs in the upcoming months and consider a cut. Worked really hard …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/26 10:27 AM
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Yes, I'm reading TRM currently. My LTR cooks and cleans at least as much as I do. As I see it, I'm responsible for the house and chores according to my own standard and schedule, but of course I wouldn't be content if my LTR didn't take a significant part in it. Expenses are split 50/50, and we have equally strong earning potential as well as similar current salaries. I agree about the cons of shit tests and concentration currently, and I'm willing to give it some time and see if I can stabilize…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/25 12:23 PM
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because you haven't had the guts to be honest with this woman. Your actions lead her to believe you plan to marry her - yet you have no plans to do so. I have been honest with her. She knows I don’t intend to marry anytime soon, and I’ve always been clear that living together is a turning point that could lead either forward or to the end of the relationship.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/12/25 06:30 AM
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Thank you for your persistence. I'll make sure to think about it seriously.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/12/25 01:38 PM
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That's the thing about wisdom, you can use it without understanding. But I forgot, you're special so it's different. It's not about being special. I try to be the judge of my own behavior, so I do take any advice seriously and act on it only if I understand and see the point. When I reflect on my decisions at some point, I'll be there on my own. And when the next choice comes, I can't rely on Horns making it for me, but I can use what I've learned from his comments and posts. That requires under…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/25 08:35 PM
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They're trying to get you to see the bigger picture. I understand that the advice given here is based on hard earned experience and broader perspective, but from my side I can't really make use of it because I don't understand it yet. Otherwise I wouldn't be the one dictating my own life. As long as I'm the judge of my own actions I don't really have a choice but have a vision and a plan which makes sense to me. Maybe that means I'm headed for a tough awakening, but I'm for sure taking the advic…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/25 08:25 AM
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Do you plan to marry her within 6 months? Yes, or no? Definitely not. Spin some plates, take a few years. Then you'll understand why we only give very limited prescriptive advice. I'll be honest I'm not sure what you mean. If you're talking about spinning plates as in keeping women around who I could potentially sleep with if I wanted to, then of course, that's always great to keep around. If you're talking about actually sleeping with other women, as I'm in a monogamous relationship it'll invol…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/25 06:38 PM
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OYS 12 - moving in with my LTR. 25, 5'9, 160 lbs, 3.5yr LTR -promoted from plate. Read NMMNG, WISNIFG, TMMSLP, pook, Manipulated Man, Praxeology 1. Lifts (for reps): RDL 230, BP 187, OHP 88, SQ 165. Missions Find and incorporate passions in my life. Build my relationships in a way that will make me content and satisfied. Gym & Hobbies Getting back to my lifting stats before my long trip, feeling great looking big and strong again. Planning to use this momentum to keep growing and getting heavier…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/25 02:43 PM
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This is considerate of you, thanks. I do believe I learn a lot from everything I read and see the progress in how I naturally act and think, and try to internalize things better by actively using them, but of course always room for more. No plans to stop. I agree with pretty much everything you said. Before this relationship I've just started getting my shit together and I've had the opportunity to date women and enjoy being single. This taught me better than anything that they are all indeed no…
/r/askMRP15/11/25 08:58 AM
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Thank you, those sound like very important adjustments and do make a lot of sense, reminding me what Rian wrote in the last few chapters of Praxeology 1. I'll make sure to clear the vision and direction before the move.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/25 01:13 PM
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OYS 11* 25, 5'9, 155 lbs, 3yr LTR -promoted from plate, not living together. Read NMMNG, WISNIFG, TMMSLP, pook, Manipulated Man, Praxeology 1. Lifts (for reps): RDL 230, BP 187, OHP 88, SQ 155. Mission & Steps Realize my potential in terms of career and success - moving forward steadily. Build an interesting life & experiences in my 20's - curren step is traveling, and the next one will be getting more invested in my hobbies and passions. Build meaningful and satisfying relationships - I need to…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/25 10:22 AM
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Thank you, you made me think about it from some new angles. People who live together before marriage have higher divorce rates. It could be that the qualified level of commitment from casual cohabitation might incline some to seek divorce more readily and be less monogamy-committed. Whatever. That's very interesting. My guess is that it's a case of correlation and not causation, and it's interesting nonetheless, thanks. It's an illusion that living together is a good test of whether to marry or …
/r/askMRP23/10/25 10:34 AM
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Maybe it's a cultural or economic thing, but where I'm from it's the norm to have roommates in this stage of life/career. That way I can invest more money in stocks/savings, my house is well kept, and I like those girls. I did read the sidebar a few times throughout the years, and I post OYS when something's worth posting, but I understand your overall message. I'll keep working hard and things will click. Thank you for the advice.
/r/askMRP16/10/25 03:47 AM
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Where were those boundaries before when you were allegedly dating more than one girl? This wasn't a problem when I was dating more than one girl, it became a problem for me a few years into the LTR and it took me some reflecting to understand my boundaries better and express them in a way that satisfies me. give her a code that only works on dates/times you program, and tell her to go over at 3pm and have dinner on the table for you at 6pm in lingerie This is practically the current situation mi…
/r/askMRP16/10/25 03:19 AM
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Why are you seeing one girl twice a week instead of two girls once or twice a week each? Because I had more fun seeing this one girl twice a week than a few girls once a week each. Let them cater to you, let them earn your commitment. They will instinctively know the other exists and want to compete for your time and attention, especially if you've made it clear you're not exclusive. They did. And not instinctively, I overtly told them I had other girls. Later I chose monogamy out of this with m…
/r/askMRP16/10/25 02:39 AM
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Thanks. And quit asking for other people to make/validate your decisions for you, it’s pathetic. What would be a better way to learn from the experience of others who might've been in similar situations, or understand them better than me?
/r/askMRP16/10/25 02:26 AM
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To make sure I understand, your advice is basically to nuke the LTR I enjoy and go back to spinning plates because I need more experiences before investing in one any further than dating?
/r/askMRP16/10/25 02:20 AM
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OYS 10 25, 5'9, 160 lbs, 3yr LTR -promoted from plate, not living together. Read NMMNG, WISNIFG, TMMSLP, pook, Manipulated Man, Praxeology 1. Lifts (for reps): RDL 230, BP 187, OHP 88, SQ 155. Mission & Steps Realize my potential in terms of career and success - moving forward steadily. Build an interesting life & experiences in my 20's - curren step is traveling, and the next one will be getting more invested in my hobbies and passions. Build meaningful and satisfying relationships - I need to …
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/25 10:04 AM
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OYS 9 25, 5'9, 163 lbs, 3yr LTR -promoted from plate, not living together. Read NMMNG, WISNIFG, TMMSLP, pook, Manipulated Man, Praxeology 1. Lifts (for reps): RDL 230, BP 187, OHP 88, SQ 155. Mission Realize my potential in terms of career and success. Build meaningful and satisfying relationships, and eventually become the "chief of my village" - current steps are building a social life, and decide if my LTR is fitting to be the mother of my future children. Build an awesome life. What do I wan…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/25 09:37 PM
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Hey Rian, appreciate hearing from you. It's been months and you haven't answered the only question worth asking "What do I want?" Yes. It seems like multiple answers might bring me the fulfillment and I am generally happy regardless. I'll spend the following week narrowing down what I want and choosing a path, I've been thinking about it a lot. As you're saying, only consequences are in my head. I'm having a hard time understanding some of your assumptions: that's how your girl is going to cajol…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/25 12:45 PM
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Oh I see. Maybe it wasn't clear, I don't have any discipline problems and I pursue a lot (too many?) hobbies, I have a vision problem, or a knowing-what-I-really-want problem. I understand what you're saying though, appreciate it.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/25 07:11 PM
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Why did you promote her from a plate? They became increasingly boring in comparison to her, she was the most fun and checked all my boxes far better than all my previous plates. You clearly lament the sexual opportunities you missed being single - which were missed for a reason- and your LTR doesn't fuck you much. I also know the grass always seems greener on the other side, I was already bored with plates before. Plus I'm having fun, and she does fuck me a lot. Some days more than I can handle.…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/25 06:24 PM
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Real men can vet women in a few dates. And yet it is preached here to vet women for at least 6-12 months, to let the facade fade away. My goal is to feel this type of life, and if Rollo's right and it's suicide for my sex and fun life than I got my answers and go back to being single. Earn respect and decide after you unfuck yourself. Why is this so hard to get? I actually know the answer but want to see what you come up with. Tbh I don't even understand what you mean, what respect needs to be e…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/25 06:13 PM
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Thanks. This is just you assuaging your anxiety to try and answer a question for yourself that can’t possibly be answered Probably, I think I should be somewhat anxious about who I'm making kids with. That's the one thing I don't want to make a mistake with, especially with reading the things happening in this sub. To make sure I understand your point, you're saying living together for a while won't help me understand better if that's what I'm looking for in life? If you’re going to ignore the l…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/25 01:51 PM
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Although it might be my inexperience, I might disagree with Rollo on this one. Even with a few years of LTR, I don't think it's enough to say if a woman is suitable to be the mother of my children and future wife before I live with her for a good while. This will actually show what life together looks like, and the risk / investment is very low because I don't buy property and can easily move on. This is basically "advanced vetting" - I need to see that she's capable of the role before she gets …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/25 01:01 PM
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OYS 8 25, 5'9, 162 lbs, 3yr LTR -promoted from plate, not living together. Read NMMNG, WISNIFG, TMMSLP, pook, Manipulated Man. Reading Praxeology 1. Lifts (for reps): RDL 230, BP 187, OHP 88, SQ 155 (getting back after knee discomfort). Mission Realize my potential in terms of career and success. Build meaningful and satisfying relationships, and eventually become the "chief of my village" - current steps are building a social life, and decide if my LTR is fitting to be the mother of my future c…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/25 08:35 AM
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Yes, it wasn't a good time. I've learned.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/25 01:03 PM
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OYS 7 25, 5'9, 162 lbs, fit. 3yr LTR -promoted from plate, not living together. Read NMMNG, WISNIFG, TMMSLP, pook, Manipulated Man. Reading Praxeology 1. Lifts (for reps): RDL 230, BP 187, OHP 88, SQ- Subbed for other exercises to take care of my knees. Mission Realize my potential in terms of career and success. Build meaningful and satisfying relationships, and eventually become the "chief of my village" - current steps are building a great social life, and decide if my LTR is fitting to be th…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/25 10:18 AM
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OYS 6 25, 5'9, 158 lbs, fit. 3yr LTR -promoted from plate, not living together. Read NMMNG, WISNIFG, TMMSLP, pook, Manipulated Man. Reading Praxeology 1. Lifts (for reps): RDL 230, BP 187, OHP 88, SQ- Subbed for other exercises to take care of my knees. Mission Realize my potential in terms of career and success. Build meaningful and satisfying relationships, and eventually become the "chief of my village" - current steps are building a great social life, and decide if my LTR is fitting to be th…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/25 10:00 AM
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you want her to be more into you I know she is into me, we always have great sex, it seemed like an issue of prioritizing the LTR in front of other areas of life. The prize doesn't have to convince women to spend time with him. Right, but the prize can directly say that if X is not happening, he's out. You really should read the rational male. I'll make sure to do so after the current book. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/25 04:06 PM
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This is a boundary. I explicitly said that I'm not willing to continue if this will not improve notably. I'm ready to eject if it won't work, no reason to stay in a LTR if we don't see each other.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/25 11:07 AM
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I am not doing LTR with a woman who's not willing to make efforts and sacrifices to see me. If the LTR is not a high enough priority it's not gonna work.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/07/25 06:37 AM
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OYS 5 25, 5'9, 158 lbs, fit. 3yr LTR -promoted from plate, not living together. Read NMMNG, WISNIFG, TMMSLP, pook, Manipulated Man. Reading Praxeology 1. Lifts (for reps): RDL 230, BP 187, OHP 88, SQ- Subbed for other exercises to take care of my knees. My mission Realize my potential in terms of career and success. - currently going well with job and education progress. Build meaningful and satisfying relationships, and eventually become the "chief of my village" - current steps are building a …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/07/25 01:00 PM
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I agree. And in the instances when she does move towards you it may be helpful if you didn’t act like a bitch. Because those were words, not actions. How does "I miss you" help if the excuses not to meet keep coming? Stop begging her to invest. Go out explore life and make other connections. That was laying a boundary. No reason to nuke it before a boundary is set, am I wrong?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/25 06:03 PM
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I won't agree time is wasted, most of this time the relationship was hot, sexy, and fun, plus I've become a much better captain in those 3 years, but yes like all things it's probably coming to an end.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/25 04:04 PM
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25, 5'9, 158 lbs, fit. 3yr LTR -promoted from plate, not living together (yet). Read NMMNG, WISNIFG, TMMSLP, pook, Manipulated Man. Reading Praxeology 1. Lifts (for reps): RDL 230, BP 187, OHP 88, SQ- Subbed for other exercises to take care of my knees. My mission Realize my potential in terms of career and success. - currently going well with job and education progress. Build meaningful and satisfying relationships, and eventually become the "chief of my village" - current steps are building a …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/07/25 09:03 AM
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Thank you Horns, insightful advice as always! I am wondering though, at what circumstance then one realizes this is not a good way to spend his years? If the storm goes on for too long, or it's too frequent, won't it be right to assume some things won't change and spending months in dissatisfaction isn't a fitting life for a man with self respect?
/r/askMRP25/06/25 12:00 PM
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Appreciate the response. I see your point about moving in. My assumption was that she is into me because I do see passion and love. because you had the tools and didn’t use them. frameless, excuse making bitch self of a man gets it together and builds up a man he himself respects, why would any girl do so? I guess you're saying that I shouldn't put up with a situation like this, and you're right, I'm just confused. I don't know if I should express my boundary here: "I don't want to spend my time…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/06/25 08:16 AM
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Thank you for the reply. You got a line of plates you are stacking and fucking, if the answer is no then stop mentally masturbating with lines like this. I had a rotation of plates. I switched to one relationship. But I do understand how the way I wrote it can come off as mental masturbation. Congrats, she is probably fucking a few other people and you are just now catching on. Always ready for an option like this. Awalt. you havent internalized a thing. You have no value for yourself, everythin…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/25 12:14 PM
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OYS 3 25, 5'9, 158 lbs, fit. 3yr LTR -promoted from plate, not living together (yet). Read NMMNG, WISNIFG, TMMSLP, pook, Manipulated Man. Reading Praxeology 1. Lifts (for reps): RDL 230, BP 185, OHP 85, SQ- Subbed for other exercises to take care of my knees. Becoming a Beta Robot: Reflecting on my actions in the relationship lately, it seems like although I'm getting more and more attractive as a person, I filled my head with too much reading and tools and it made me a bit autistic. Instead of …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/25 08:47 AM
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Thanks, this is what I did have in mind when thinking about STFU. Maybe the only thing I don't agree with is "I've got it babe", as to me it seems like commiting to change, when most of the time I won't agree with the criticism or commit myself to change based on it.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/25 05:10 PM
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Do you think she cares if you do what you think is best. She probably cares, but I agree with you that I shouldn't care what she feels. Is "I'll do what I think is best" not compatible with STFU? STFU betch I probably don't understand STFU correctly then, but it seems way too autistic to just go ok. ok. ok or stand there in silence like a mute. "I want you to change this" - ok. "What are you gonna do about it?" - no answer. "Can you please answer me?" - no answer. "Is this gonna keep going?" - n…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/25 08:15 AM
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I love this post, and generally agree, this can happen for example when we're at my house, and I won't leave my own house just because she's bratty, so I need to find other ways to exit a broken record situation. Usually it's me fogging and her stating again and again "It doesn't help me unless you say you're gonna change your behavior". I guess the best option is just to be frank and say "I'll do what I think is best, as always", then just overtly refuse to keep the conversation going "I won't …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/25 04:02 PM
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Appreciate your posts Horns, a good reminder here. After some thought and mental models I think that I understand "providing escape" better now. It's not giving her fun in the dancing monkey way, but it's providing her the OPTION to enjoy my company, which means in the situation I've had where I've gifted her with my time but she's not up to do anything with it I **do** go mind my own business, and not worry about being a man who "doesn't provide an escape like Horns taught me", because it's her…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/25 10:14 PM
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OYS 2 25, 5'9, 158 lbs, fit. 3yr LTR -promoted from plate, not living together (yet). Read NMMNG, WISNIFG, TMMSLP, pook, and some others. Reading Praxeology 1. Lifts (for reps): RDL 230, BP 185, OHP 85, SQ- Subbed for other exercises to take care of my knees. The bulk is getting some results finally. Family told me I'm getting too big and need to slow down - yeah right. It's just the beginning. Lately: Working on a bit of a 'rule 9' to my own life. Focusing more on myself, more DNGAF, busier in …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/25 09:05 AM
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Also you may have read some books, but you clearly haven’t done the work necessary to internalize shit. I agree. I do work hard, and I need to keep going. I do intend to change… you have no idea the sexual beast thats about to get unleashed tonight. Those are indeed shit tests, and as I've said my most common answer is naturally AM, but how many times in a row can you hear a broken record of "stop making jokes, can you be serious for once?" before it's not funny anymore and you just leave? For m…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/25 08:24 PM
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25, 5'9, 158 lbs, fit. 3yr LTR, not living together (yet). Where do I stand I've been reading for a few years. Read and really enjoyed the sidebar, NMMNG, WISNIFG, TMMSLP, pook, and some others. It took me a lot of time and some dumb askmrp posts but I've learned to STFU, to fog, I've been lifting and building myself to look good, and it seems like it's going well, but I'm not content yet. I have a lot to learn and I want to work even harder and get better. I have a lot of goals and a lot to lea…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/25 07:28 PM
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As I replied to another guy here, it comes a bit cringey and trashy for me, so I don't like it. The same way I'd feel if she'd do something embarrassing or tactless in public, it makes me feel awkward or uneasy.
/r/askMRP28/04/25 07:48 AM
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the problem is that they come off as petty and reactive. I agree, This is exactly what was going through my mind when I tried to imagine different ways to express a boundary. Sincere question: Why do you care if she posts provocative photos on social media? Does it make you feel insecure? I like classy women. Posting provocative photos comes a bit cringey and trashy for me, so I don't like it. The same way I'd feel if she'd do something embarrassing or tactless in public when I'm with her, it ma…
/r/askMRP20/04/25 04:50 AM
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This is a very clear breakdown of what I wanted to understand, thank you!
/r/askMRP19/04/25 06:31 PM
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If this isn't a deal breaker for him, then there isn't a boundary to enforce. If there's no boundary to enforce, then he needs to STFU. So you're basically saying if a problem is not big enough to be a "deal breaker" - which is in my understanding to dump your girl over, or start arranging divorce papers, there's no real problem? That's what I'm trying to understand. Maybe those should be considered boundaries as well, but then I'm having a hard time imagining how I express my actions if a bound…
/r/askMRP15/04/25 05:45 PM
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