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They are saying doubting constantly in a husband wife relationship will make life hell. Even my mom says that. (Although she's supportive of me ending this if I want to). But we JUST got engaged. So, just focusing on taking some time before calling off the November wedding. I honestly felt like taking my ring off at that moment. This triggers me on so many levels. Because last time, with my ex it took so long. I finally had my redemption when his father believed me with all the evidence I had an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 07:53 AM
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I did ask him on the lunch dinner alone time with opposite sex friends. He said he would always be ok because he trusts me. His mother and he said he would never share a room for an overnight trip with opposite sex. And any women there would be someone's wives! Or it would be a boys trip. He agreed to share his location. So, I was ok with public alone time lunches with friends (when I'm not around). He says he will take me to trips but it shouldn't be so that when I'm not around, say I'm at my m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 07:40 AM
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No, I've not yet. I spoke at length with him and his mother yesterday
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 07:23 AM
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Thanks. I did meet his mom yesterday and we discussed all of it. But with elders in on the conversation it's a little tough because they would give an excuse: Here's a note of my rant: However any facts supporting a deduction can be presented. 1) Trust me BECAUSE I trust you Logical fallacy. Trusting me does not make it obliging for me to trust you back. You can earn trust based on your actions. Not because you trust me (because of my actions). This cannot be accepted. 2) We come from respectabl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 07:22 AM
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No other red flags. Lately he's not been the most calm person in the world as he used to be after this incident. Today he made his mom in on this topic. Mother says they always had sleepovers infront of us. The childhood friend & his wife have just moved out. I guarantee you there's no homosexual relationship here. We are from a respectable family and people don't cheat on their partners. Just because it happened with you once don't worry about my son. My son will never do that. He now says he's…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 04:13 PM
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Yes. I'm cool with bromance...as long as there's nothing sexual or penetrative sex circle! I'll try to see what you've said...master chef ...AU Yes. While I did manage to bring him to the same page that FOR WHAT HE SAID,I still had a normal tone. He said I accused his friends of having sex with eachother (because I took the joke seriously) & that was an insult to the wife. I explained I simply repeated what YOU said. If anyone accused it was you. He said they could hear what you were saying (alt…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 01:30 PM
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😖 is there anyway to verify if my fiancé was not joking and is really bisexual 🥴
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 01:03 PM
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Is that a thing actually? It excites straight men?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 01:01 PM
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No, no he didn't make a joke about sharing me. But that the three men used to have this sacred penetrative circle up until now. (Before our engagement happened). i.e.a homosexual circle of the 3 childhood friends. Reddit is equally divided. Though in my culture such jokes are absolutely horrific and no one I know irl said has heard similar joke, the west seems to be ok about joking of having sex with brothers infront of fiancé. Now I don't know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 12:59 PM
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True. To that he says it's his mistake he realised later that I felt horrible. And he was just testing waters with the worst joke he could have ever shared to see how I react. But when you think I'm over sensitive, I'm so particular about loyalty, righteousness, why would you joke about having sex with anyone? Introduce your fiancé to your sexual partners and then say till now it was happening and expect her to be nice and cool about it. How? Expect her to believe it's a joke. Why?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 09:57 AM
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Thankyou so much. And he's going to be earning member. So, 10 years later if he wants to explore I'll be way more devastated. Because of my past where I blindly trusted and got so much cheating, abuse, violence , nearly died thrice....I've learnt with experience to be careful around every "friend", "fan" of the opposite sex. The so called "friends" turn out to be a lot more. Having a loyal bi as husband is not so much an issue on paper. But if he lied about being straight till engagement, then i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 09:51 AM
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You echo my deepest insides. I was feeling so bad he kept saying "I understand you're over sensitive. You're over emotional. You've trust issues from what your ex did to you (cheating, abuse, violence). But all men are not the same. I was just joking! I would have told you if I ever had a relationship with a man." You've to trust me. If you trusted the joke why can't you trust when the same person is saying it's not true, it's just a joke. And now we know we should never joke like that infront o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 09:41 AM
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Ikr. Why would you joke about having sex with male or female or anyone identifying in between other than your fiancé right infront your fiancé and then blame her for "reacting"? Saying she has behavioural issues because she reacted and couldn't take this joke.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 09:27 AM
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Thanks a lot for saying protect your heart. So that happened infront of me as if it was their recurring joke. But (now that I've reacted, clearly upset at this) he says they just made it up on the spot to tease me. I don't see how that's "teasing". But he says I've been honest with you all along. I would have shared if I had a relationship with a man. He said you can talk to my mom and his parents. They know we are childhood friends and joke like this. We don't actually have any sexual relations…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 09:22 AM
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Thanks for saying that. Here I was only worried if he's bi. Now...oh God...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 09:19 AM
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Omg. What is even my life. I am so lucky I didn't know this movie existed. Now it makes the situation way worse..Oh god why did I even Google the movie...🤢🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 09:19 AM
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This is the first time he said something like this. Reddit is divided on this though. Some are saying it's absolutely normal to joke like this in the west. Some are equally appalled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 09:08 AM
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Didn't understand that. Wasn't Trump all about women though?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 09:06 AM
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One of them (the husband) is his childhood friend. So, I don't think there would be an "eventually" involved here. If it's true, he would have already done it. And then he blames the fiancé for being reactive and not taking a joke nicely and insulting the friends by simply repeating what he just explained in detail by the penetration circle... All she said was you have sex in your group and I don't want open marriage. How is a penetrative circle not having sex in the group? He literally just sai…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 09:05 AM
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True! That's my biggest nightmare
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 09:01 AM
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Exactly! I've been wondering just that. She initiated "Did you tell your new fiancé about the sacred circle yet?" He maintains it's just a joke and he wouldn't say it ever again infront of the fiancé as she's not comfortable. He says I honestly told you about all my relationships before you. If there was any man, in them, I'd have shared, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 09:01 AM
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True. I'm just extremely worried if the woman in the group married the friend only to hide this male threesome happening?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 08:59 AM
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No, it's a real situation. He maintains it was just a joke! And ALL MEN apparently joke like that. Update: have postponed the court wedding
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 08:57 AM
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God Damn it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/20 01:54 PM
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Yes, exactly! Medical science has ABSOLUTELY no test for males unless they've visible growth or symptoms. So, unknown carriers will give you HPV and women will get cervical cancer. The UNWANTED pills often cause a CYST. Which can later be fatal,i.e. legit kill you...or have chances of removal of ovaries....not to mention the cost of the surgery.( Have seen with my own eyes irl. Direct info from gynaecs of 40 years of experience). Why don't they teach these in schools!After getting so old none of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 05:26 PM
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Same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 09:54 AM
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For me, I didn't even finish except once or twice with him yet it was the most surreal experience in the world. It was so spiritual since deeply madly in love changes it all. So, withdrawal syndrome yes. Stockholm's syndrome. Yes. But honestly 8 months now. No one. No machine nothing. Never did anything to myself. And I'm happy. I'm fine. I didn't lose it like I thought I would. I'm fine. I don't even get a single thought about it. And I'm fine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 09:52 AM
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Well...can't stress enough that it is not worth it to just lose it with a garbage human being..Going through it first hand, hospitals, doctors, I realised not many know a major thing : Condoms don't prevent 99% of STDs. If your partner has just one other partner it's enough to get it. Also, must weigh in the chances of getting impregnated by a gigolo just in case & what you'd do after that. I'm sure they would have it in their contracts. But be careful if it's a young man just starting out his c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 09:47 AM
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This really makes me smile with you, for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 12:56 PM
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Thanks for the upvotes. What do you suggest? Is it ok to do that? Share a poll?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 09:20 PM
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I totally agree. I infact have not gathered the courage to tell my whole story ...but seeing abuse i said leave him in oneafterinfedility and I had forgotten it's for reconciliation. My whole idea is to post it there where no one can say leave him but they will if they read all he's done. Challenge. I even thought i should go with a poll post leave him or stay
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 09:55 AM
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Omg. I just had a visual of the restaurant example...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 09:41 AM
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You're most welcome. It takes courage to gather evidence and more courage to save new ones. Most of you is shattering inside, trembling, yet the flicker of spirit is alive. But to keep it together, it takes a lot of courage. I'm proud of you. (:
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/20 04:01 AM
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Same. Still recovering. Calling a gold medalist stupid all the time...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 08:46 PM
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Oh dear, you really are blessed. The financial stability should have given you the courage to move on. It is very nice. I don't drink or smoke anyways....and it's very very hard. There's no point kidding it's easy. After seeing the red flags, there's the zone of trying to change him for the better..sigh Check r/WeWantNames and https://instagram.com/wewantnames Maybe we all can support eachother. It really is assuring to know we are not alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 07:45 PM
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I just learnt these phrases now. I learnt that there's a word for what happened to me alone with physical violence and cheating.. Gaslighting SA is a jargon used here on Reddit, meaning sexual addiction. What did your therapist advise you...I don't have access to therapy and it is really hard.... Somedays I finally feel I'm ok but if I see new victims...I get the panic attacks ....which is why I want to make a positive difference...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 06:33 PM
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I'm proud of you. No one will tell you that. We really have nothing to gain from saving another. Except humanity. It only proves he didn't drain every inch of life we had in us. Every bit of fight we had left in us. I know what I've been through shaking, shivering.....my heart burning to ashes as I confront him lovingly .....(recorder on)....and he admits oh, no one other than you matters...I don't care where those women's nudes goes...It's just this addiction you know...it's not love. I love yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 06:18 PM
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I know. I feel your pain. SA does burn a lot of women along. I'm always advised, let it be. Don't worry about others. You've to fix yourself. Have a life. But, doing nothing and letting him enjoy the pattern, feeling he can do the exact same thing with someone new really gets me feeling a lot of emotions I cannot explain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 06:10 PM
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I see what you're saying and it is usually natural if she's been subjected to his sweet words for long. Look at us. Would we have believed? I would have if I had seen proof. Trust me, have spoken to a few (one last night) and it seems I could save some women. Feels great. If she walks in after seeing evidence then there's nothing we can do, you're right.. If someone told me this when I first met him I would have been saved. I really remember Reddit post about a fb group having some place, someth…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 05:11 PM
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Anyone else noticed the lady behind her? Her eyes ... Yes, it was a moving, very well done, articulate and much needed conversation to be had.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 11:45 AM
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100% yes. And I've just come to realise everyone's experience is like mine because there's a horrible pattern. These men get away with doing this over and over again. If you know any new targets of his and have all the evidence, contact them. r/Wewantnames or https://instagram.com/wewantnames
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 11:32 AM
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But we shouldn't allow them to suck fresh blood and there we are growing this community of us victims. There should be solution. r/WeWantNames https://instagram.com/wewantnames
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 11:30 AM
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Oh I have a similar response. After blocking, he sends a blocked text to not delete his data on HD I had given him. Like, after all this? Seriously?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 11:28 AM
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Exactly and this is exactly what needs to stop. Gather evidence and then join r/WeWantNames or the insta handle https://instagram.com/wewantnames We must let the new women know. The cycle has to stop. Gather evidence and show. These men should not just walk away freely after ruining our lives.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 11:25 AM
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Yeah hourglass bodies with exactly what they want, plus brains, and love (Looks like nobody even cares about that, anyways....)....with all of this and of course an extremely tall height, a woman looking for a taller man is said.."You've extremely high standards." or "You're narrow minded".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 06:45 AM
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Me: i love red roses He: here's 400 red flags Me: yes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 07:46 PM
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Hi. Having nearly died thrice because of him, I have been through a lot. I did tell his family eventually after years and they're trying to control him but can't. His dad said he would take him to a psychiatrist but hasn't been able to yet, (as he ran away). But he keeps texting and calling other women. I can't be sitting and watching other women's lives ruined just as mine was. I had once read in Reddit that there was a place to post names so that women have a community background check of "see…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 06:26 AM
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That - was an awesome roast. It just unanimously sums it up so beautifully, I doubt there can be a better draft of this. Literally made my soul smile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 06:05 AM
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