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that’s all exactly right and good advice. The bit i never quite get though, once well underway with the cut, and strength/weight is either slipping or super hard to maintain - when is a bit of muscle loss too much? When do you go, “i’ve done enough, the muscle is now being eaten into and time to reverse back upward?” Because I do lose strength, eventually, as I cut further....?
/r/askMRP12/10/18 05:21 AM
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Hey man i think these are great posts and really practical and helpful and interesting. Even if it happened last year- keep going! Well done.
/r/seduction06/06/18 10:52 PM
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Nice work, two quick questions: 1) Re the TRT - did you test for low testosterone and were ‘legitiimately’ recommended to it, or did you decide for yourself and then undertake? No judgement just curious; 2) with the fasting, any concerns/limitations about too great a window between protein intake? That is my one and only reservation about IF, that I’ll miss out on getting enough protein for muscle growth... Thanks man
/r/TheRedPill13/04/18 10:24 PM
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True - That is entirely possible. Thanks for your perspective.
/r/askMRP31/07/17 12:38 PM
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Mission is a happy and fulfilling marriage.
/r/askMRP31/07/17 12:32 PM
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Doesn't really seem an OK and human response. It really doesn't. I'm not baiting you. I defy anyone reading what I wrote, and your response, as human and reasonable within the curve of a well adjusted man in 2017, let alone a man proclaiming to be one who leads. Odd.
/r/askMRP31/07/17 12:28 PM
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The fisherman knows if he doesn't go fishing today, he will not eat tonight.
/r/seduction31/07/17 11:20 AM
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Good read, well done. Curious to know which of the million books on Game you found most useful/practical? I'm wading through a few of them but haven't really 'felt' any of them connecting yet... thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/17 11:05 PM
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Thanks mate -- that is great perspective and in line with other good advice in the thread. Time to dump both the car and the anger.
/r/askMRP13/05/17 12:55 PM
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Lose the anger. It has its place to get you through rough times, but it has no place in your life now This is great and a helpful little mantra that could help keep me on track from here. Thanks for the reply.
/r/askMRP13/05/17 12:55 PM
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Yep that nails it. I am keeping it because I'm clinging to something that feelz like a tangible, miserable symbol of proof of how far the Ve come... something I can use to show her and force her to acknowledge it t me, herself -- total validation seek. Shit. I sensed I had a 180 degree wrong attitude about all this, I could feel the rage boiling right at the surface... but it's self righteous rage and so I've let it blind me. Thanks. Your handful of words in response cut right to it -- exactly w…
/r/askMRP13/05/17 12:52 PM
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Thanks that helps. Yeah squatting & deads both, but plateauing on numbers as I near end if cut. You're 100% right - I have greatly restricted carbs this cut, but I think it's become a winning-battle/losing-war type thing: yes the last bit of fat is shedding, but at too great cost: lifts/strength, libido, not-hard-enuf dick, etc. thanks for advice
/r/askMRP13/05/17 01:18 AM
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This only helps with PE presumably? My issue, as I get older - 51 - (plus cutting fat), means it's harder to get hard and stay hard. Once I'm in it's all ok but that shit is changing and fucking with my confidence. I cannot get my head around that it could be viagara time, but who knows. I'm going to start a bulk cycle soon and hope that fixes it.
/r/askMRP11/05/17 11:07 PM
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That's great thanks. Yeah i'm doing all you list, so will persevere without (as much) fear that that the hard-won muscle will melt off if I leave food alone for a day. I'm in much the same boat as OP, closing in on final few BF%age points, determined to get to sub-10%, but shit is hanging on tight!
/r/askMRP28/03/17 10:26 PM
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I have no trouble w/IF and can go 24 hours pretty easily with nothing but water and black coffee. But, as you say, i do worry about muscle loss- anything can be done to prevent/minimise over, say, a 24 hour fast? I've read about BCAA but don't know if that will do the trick (conversely, if it's necessary). Appreciate any info.
/r/askMRP28/03/17 09:49 PM
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It's 1st of March down here mate. Let's go.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/02/17 09:50 PM
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In roughly same circumstances and curious about this too. What does the big change hold for us in this department?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/17 08:53 PM
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You wanted to make a point, and contribute to the conversation. However, you had a choice, and you chose to post this on AskMRP, rather than the main sub, MRP. However, you have no question to ask, but a point of view to propose. But you chose to not take the risk of greater scrutiny, higher standards, and more appropriate sub for points of view instead of questions to ask for learning. It's as if you were hoping to deflect harsh criticism of something you want to say, and tried to sneak it by t…
/r/askMRP25/01/17 11:29 PM
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Okay I accept that. But what I still don't get, why do you ask the question ”what am I supposed to do?" It's all right there. Look back over your post: I feel powerless at times with my wife... made her my emotional pillar... I was so naive to think that I could just let things be... So, if you've done any reading at all -- what does it say you should or can do to improve these things? Do you see the problem with your question? "I have read everything you guys have to say, now can you tell me ev…
/r/askMRP20/01/17 05:34 AM
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Wait are you saying that you've only been reading the sidebar for 24 hours? Do you really think everything can change literally overnight, esp. after 20 years? You have already been 'given feedback on how to change your circumstances": lift, read, implement. Do it again tomorrow. What are you not getting?
/r/askMRP20/01/17 03:17 AM
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Post itself confirms it's a troll.
/r/askMRP17/01/17 01:17 AM
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You're at 28% body fat, and you're a "6". You're not just average, but above average in sexual/masculine attractiveness and value. Try again. Lose the ego this time.
/r/askMRP16/01/17 09:31 PM
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It might be instructive to think about what you should do to get back on track. You don't list - but I have to assume - you've done the reading, have some muscle, are attractive, etc... So what would you do to move past/improve the situation? If you've done the reading, why are you so in her frame that you panic-lie the second something totally innocuous and even maritally-beneficial as reading that book, to make things better for both of you? What's your plan?
/r/askMRP09/01/17 10:14 PM
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Started lifting only a couple weeks ago. This is the number one thing, none of the rest matters, no matter how clever your 'game.' Plus, you didn't answer the Body Fat question, which bodes even worse. Be cool, be friendly, initiate but just be smoother and less up in your head, but more than anything else, put on some muscle, put down the fucking bacon donut and strip off that fucking fat.
/r/askMRP09/01/17 10:03 PM
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There's no difference - it's still a covert contract, the way you've framed it. That is, you're still in her frame. Doing shit not because it should be done, or that you want to do it, but so that she will do something for you. Change the frame of reference. You do something because it is the right thing to do for you - for you to be better, to improve, to be challenged and succeed, etc. She does not matter. Her response to what you do does not matter. The outcome and side-effects of what you do…
/r/askMRP28/12/16 10:13 PM
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huh, interesting show, good fun. The thing is, I think the fat guy didn't put in Split to troll him and have a laugh - I think it was him making good on his promise. He delivered, immediately and exactly, what he said he was going to do. Admirable. So, he maintained frame from the beginning, said what he was going to do no matter what the other dude did. Nicely played.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/16 07:12 AM
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Número uno on my top saved MRP posts: r/marriedredpill/comments/3qm961/verbal_intercourse_is_optional
/r/askMRP19/12/16 01:59 AM
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I am in the same boat as you, but for me, it's fucking her from behind. I love it, want it, and constantly try to flip her over and get in... but nope, nope and nope. Gentle, rough, loving, caveman. Total no go zone. Why? Dunno -she's mentioned a few times 'it's painful' but won't let me slowly go in a way that wouldn't be. Maybe self-conscious about her ass, but it, and her whole body, is taut, athletic, lean, hot. Control issues? Thinks it's somehow 'dirty'? Maybe, who knows. What I do know is…
/r/askMRP09/12/16 01:21 AM
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Why don't you text him your question and see what response you get?
/r/askMRP08/12/16 09:51 PM
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I don't want to beat the fuck out of myself anymore, for the sake of having a normal head and mind. The problem is, you want two mutually exclusive things. On one hand, you want 'abnormal' things: success, to be top X% of certain aspects, and to not ever experience insecurities or self-questioning or risk. And yet, you also say you want to have "a normal head and mind." But if you had that (speaking generally), then you'd be "normal" -- average. A video-game-playing, little/no ambition, beer swi…
/r/askMRP08/12/16 02:10 AM
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As most others have pointed out, you're in deep-doo-doo. So much work ahead of you, but the good news is - you've identified it, or at least, sense it/'feel' something is wrong and know you need to take action. Take heart that a fuckton of fatass Bluies out there have zero awareness that they're even allowed to attempt to fix their shitty life. Because you have so much to do, my advice is: break it down to bite size chunks, and determine what will give you MOST benefit and improvement right now.…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/16 10:08 PM
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She writes emails and letters more than says what's on her mind, unless/until I drag it out of her verbally. I'm sure it feels safer for her that way. But I don't answer them, or at least, answer with "we'll talk about it when I'm home." This time is a bit different, given the issue involved - in that, because I fucked up and showed butthurt this time when I usually don't, she'll go on the defensive and pull the Mother of All Trump Cards, "you must understand that no means no." Even though the s…
/r/askMRP28/11/16 02:15 AM
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Thanks. No does mean no if she's getting legit pissed about it. I get that, and have (and had) no issue backing off when it's clear. The gist of my question is more to do with, I did the "right" thing, but am still going to get shit-tested and attempted to be called out on it regardless. Just S'ing the FU about it when the lecture comes, feels like a tacit admission that I actually did something. Having said that, the other reply from Griever (delete it, i have better things to do) seems to be t…
/r/askMRP27/11/16 11:06 PM
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You sound very nervous about the feelings she feels, and tentative and nervous about how she views you, your choices, and how you live your life. Is this true? If so, why is that?
/r/askMRP11/11/16 05:12 AM
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Yep I'll cop that. My question is less about the concept, and more about the timing in between actions. But, yeah, there's no "countdown clock", it's simply about acting, calmly, in the way required at the time.
/r/askMRP19/10/16 01:31 AM
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Thanks, that's helpful and nuanced. It is just about reading what's going on, and acting accordingly.
/r/askMRP19/10/16 01:29 AM
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Where does it state anywhere in any of the readings, It's tit for tat ? It's not ego, it's a frequent suggestion: she does this, you do that: r/marriedredpill/comments/3wb65z/you_should_stop_by_if_youre_not_busy_to_im/ Tit for tat (albeit slowly, not abruptly, from BPP - great post and germane to this discussion): r/marriedredpill/comments/3qplxm/the_husbands_dilemma_when_to_withhold_affection/
/r/askMRP19/10/16 01:26 AM
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Just ...a logistics thing. How is it used simultaneously when pounding? Isn't it an either/or type proposition?
/r/askMRP05/10/16 09:23 PM
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Yeah, I wouldn't worry about adjusting calorie intake for lift/non-lift days -- just keep consistent. Meal timing may have a little impact, but generally is pretty negligible and not worth it, I wouldn't stress. Especially given your gains goals are pretty modest at just 2lbs/month - that shouldn't be hard to achieve at all. 1.5grams protein/lb., is more than enough protein, you'll be fine. Just start, weigh in and keep an eye on your self and your scale, and adjust. 8 months is a lot of time so…
/r/askMRP03/10/16 01:01 AM
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You still living w/mums & pops, aren't you? Did you think about and more importantly do anything the guys advised you in your last whinge puke post? You are not serious about your life. You don't really care what happens to you. Why don't you just accept it and let shit happen to you? You clearly seem OK with that.
/r/askMRP20/09/16 06:38 AM
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I get the general principle you're espousing, but disagree with the tactics. You're trying to step-by-step coach the pathetic, to success. It will never happen, and even if it could, you'd have to focus on them, not you, to accomplish it. Pointless. However, the desire to help isn't bad or wrong (if it's genuine, and not coming from a validation-seeking place - Look at me! I did this!"). The most I do, is to point out logic of life - NOT couched in 'redpill' terms or any other niche-y internet s…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/09/16 11:12 PM
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It's interesting, your initial comment - 'not going to spoonfeed you the answer" -- was what prompted me to try to grapple with this guy's problem myself, by replying to him. It was generally obvious that shit was clearly wrong, but I did have to do some work to articulate, for myself, some of the specifics. That was helpful.
/r/askMRP08/09/16 02:13 AM
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What more is a woman supposed to offer? For a start, one that isn't: *actively hostile directly to your face for no apparent reason *one that isn't dismissive of your attempts to simply converse per a normal relationship *one that is respectful in recognition of your leadership *gracious in acceptance your efforts to imbue your family's life with fun and imagination *appreciative and acknowledging (spoken or not) of your contribution to safety and wellbeing of your family. I could go on. But hey…
/r/askMRP08/09/16 12:19 AM
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Very well predicted, 'cause that's exactly what just happened. Anyway, i have a soft spot for this guy because I fumble and stumble on my own similar scenario. Somehow so much easier when it's some faggot stranger on the internet instead of myself. Funny little fucker, the ego.
/r/askMRP07/09/16 11:42 PM
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So, good on you for responding with honesty, but still: strip away the verbosity, and here's what you're left with: What she offers you: Smart Ambitious Attractive Caring Thinks like you (clearly she doesn't at all, not anymore) History together Her family Likes your affection Doesn't look so great when you put aside things that she isn't (even if she used to be) and are not her (e.g., her family). A "smart, attractive woman." There are about 2 billion other ones of those out there. I don't give…
/r/askMRP07/09/16 11:37 PM
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Can you describe or list, as simply as possible, the top 10 reasons you love her soooooooo much? Screw that, just list the top 3. Nah, fuck that, let's make it REAL easy: What is one single reason why YOU do all you do in hopes of getting all those things you want from her. That will help us better see the Unicorn you so desperately wish to mount. Last exercise: List the single compelling reason why she should even look at you let alone talk to you let alone fuck you.
/r/askMRP07/09/16 10:32 PM
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back injury Say no more that's reason enough. Why take yourself out for the sake of a couple lbs. muscle that you can stack back on in a month once you're good again. FWIW (and going from memory), I noticed and noted your specific physical goals from a post a month or so back. 80kgs body weight @~10-12% bodyfat? It was you or u/thefamilyalpha. Either way, I'm on exactly the the same track, currently at 76kg/15%bf @ 5'11. So a ways to go yet. I have a suspicion I'm roughly twice your age though..…
/r/askMRP01/09/16 10:42 PM
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What? Not lifting heavy every day, whether cut or bulk? I thought that was sacrilege. How do you hold on to the muscle otherwise?
/r/askMRP01/09/16 10:32 PM
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Guess whose else clock is ticking? Yours. And mine. And everyone else's clocks, all who want stuff from life, and all who make choices and place their bets, and hope for the best... and whose shit, sometimes, just does not work out as planned. The main thing is, I am not going to say anything about if I think you're being 'selfish' doing this that or the other. I'm a fucking stranger on the internet. Fuck, I just might be your wife who's called herself "ThrowTheEgg"! (Wait, no, that would be Thr…
/r/askMRP26/08/16 05:58 AM
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It's a similar situation as with your wife. YOU do all this work for ME, and I will decide if I feel like rewarding you or not. Which I won't. But maybe I will if you just... do ... a little bit more? For me? Pleeaase? Fuck em all mate. Take control.
/r/askMRP26/08/16 05:03 AM
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get my shit together in 6 months so she can have a kid or shes gone. What, exactly, does she mean by this phrase? Let's take all your beta excuses - "We live w/parents so we can save money", "I work hard, I'm attending to our debt in a planned, methodical and challenging way so that we can later have a better life".... etc. So again, even if we acknowledge your excuses as valid -- what does she expect you to do? You should see that she wants a magic trick - for all the pain and work to magically…
/r/askMRP26/08/16 04:49 AM
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What, exactly, do you mean when you say you "swallowed the red pill"? You sat down with yourself and MAPped out what you've done and doing right, and what you've done and are doing wrong, in your life and your marriage? You lift, daily, heavily, and diet's on point? You've got yourself to 12% or so body fat? You're now leading yourself, your wife and your family to a solid, strong and clear future where you're fulfilled and content, your wife is comfortable that your lives together are solid but…
/r/askMRP21/08/16 10:33 PM
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That's a good attitude to have. Good luck.
/r/askMRP16/08/16 01:40 AM
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what are you now? 24? Good god. Here's what you do. Do SPECIFIC stuff. Forget about "the road's toooooo looooonggg" shit. Bite size chunks little man. If you can't yet get your head around simple 'theoretical' reading in sidebar, go for one of the more practical books, esp. "Mindful Attraction Plan". That lists, item by item, things to look at in your life, and how to better them. What's weird is that you make no mention of a wife, LTR or any female in your life you need help dealing with. Is th…
/r/askMRP16/08/16 01:02 AM
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I think you are exactly right and that this is precisely what's going on. Again, she sees 'hard work ahead' (keeping up/doing what has to be done) and, consciously or not, finds it easier to shut down and be 'depressed' rather than do the work. As I've replied to others, yesterday she walked into a GP, and walked out w/Zoloft prescription. She went in fully planning to request/demand them. So, if she is executing a plan exactly as she has seen it, then so be it. If she is so certain that she is …
/r/askMRP15/08/16 10:55 PM
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She does/has all those things: very fit, very healthy, diet on point, looks great, doesn't get sucked down the Facebook hole, got an advanced degree, found work in new 2nd-career field. On paper, life is perfect. IRL, her life somehow isn't right.
/r/askMRP15/08/16 10:52 PM
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The Shrink didn't decide (although she is going to go). No, it was the GP who wrote her a prescription for Zoloft, after a 45 minute consultation. Not happy with this outcome but need time to process what I think and do from this point.
/r/askMRP15/08/16 10:50 PM
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Yeah, I am with you 100%. She, however, is not: she walked into doctor yesterday (GP), and walked out w/script for Zoloft. It's like I can see the future unfold right before my eyes. But there are many ways to view the future.
/r/askMRP15/08/16 10:49 PM
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Thanks for reply. Sounds right.
/r/askMRP15/08/16 10:48 PM
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That is great advice, very clear, logical perspective. Thank you for taking the time to give me your view.
/r/askMRP14/08/16 02:37 AM
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You need to care more about YOU. About YOUR life. About working - applying effort, attention, care and value - to everything you do. EVERYTHING. Don't start trying to improve your wife. Start by improving this post. It's awful and you communicate for shit, even though it's clear that you can speak and write English. Start again with this very, very simple but important exercise. Hit the "Edit" button in your post. Go through the entire post, and write full coherent sentences. Make your points cl…
/r/askMRP12/08/16 12:39 AM
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This is very good. Coming from someone still too much on this side of the process. The problem I've defined for myself (and you've just spelled out) is that I have yet to grasp or articulate "the actual goal" as you phrase it. I say I'm not scared of hard work. But for me, the hard work is seeing, and saying, what my goal actually is. And I'm not doing it.
/r/askMRP10/08/16 10:32 PM
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it's an interesting point (and relevant username given the topic): Altruism in humans and other animals exists as as a selfish strategy. cf: The Moral Animal (and Non-Zero, too), both by Robert Wright. I've got some extra food, I'll be "nice" and give you some when you fail at the hunt. And you better fucking give me some back when my spear misses the pig next time. Was I being a "nice guy" and "covertly contracting" when I gave you some of my pig, when you had none? Or was I genuinely giving yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/16 05:57 AM
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it would help if you reformatted so the links were clickable -- can't be fucked cutting and pasting.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/16 12:34 AM
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As long as you weren't, all good.
/r/askMRP04/08/16 10:27 PM
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That's an interesting story and should be instructive for you. What will happen when (if) that guy crashes and burns with his "stupid shit"? Will it look differently to you then - that 'risk-taking', while you admire some aspect of his choice now, later 'isn't worth it' if he crashes out? What will your girl think then? Will you give a shit? The advice, EVERYWHERE, is "take risks." And I agree. But (purely my POV) what should be stressed as much if not more is: get ready for shit to FUCK UP when…
/r/askMRP01/08/16 11:47 PM
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He didn't have time, what with all the load blowing going on
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/16 08:32 PM
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Sure, here's one: I am going to take a permanent HOLIDAY from being a pussified beta fatass dadbod wanker. Hold frame Outcome Independent Lift bro Initiate always Don't DEER A&A/AM YOU - that's it. How'd I do, honey?
/r/askMRP21/07/16 09:56 PM
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It is in the reading, however. NMMNG.
/r/askMRP18/07/16 10:59 PM
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I saw your reply to someone else below: "Action it is then." That's the way. Nice one.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/16 05:01 AM
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Hmmm, that's a tough one. But, just my 2¢, I'd say that you absolutely should have "The Talk" now. In fact, don't waste another minute. Why? 1) Because, you've been doing this already for a whole week! Good job, by the way! Some guys don't even last a couple days! So, you definitely have a good handle on all the major concepts, and probably know most of the detail. Everything else from here on is just extra filler, and probably not really necessary, at least, not enough to keep you from having T…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/07/16 01:25 AM
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4 words. Completely summarised both situation and gave perfect advice. Genius reply well done.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/07/16 11:43 PM
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I'll have this post bouncing around the grape for a bit. nice, up voted for this phrase alone mate
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/16 08:48 AM
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most of us came in here never had the hands-on relationship with awesome men Ha ha careful mate that's fodder
/r/MarriedRedPill15/07/16 08:34 AM
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yeah, fair enough. Whatever it takes. You've got to enjoy the stuff you do, so I've found the mental picture of fat dripping off my ass as I sweated it out to be motivating, if not accurate. Plus I get to look at that hot 24 y.o. bitch's black-lycra-clad ass next to me as I do. The main thing is, it took me years to find out these simple, mechanical steps (esp. the info about caloric intake, limits and macros/ratios). It is not at all hard to understand. But I got blindsided for years by all the…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/16 02:01 AM
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You have defined a goal - sort of - for yourself. That's something. "Get ripped." OK. What does that mean? If you don't know, you won't 'get ripped'. Quantify it. How? Well, that's your fucking job to figure out, not mine. Here's a hint. 10-12% body fat is the general definition of 'ripped.' Once you've defined a quantifiable, measurable goal, then you figure out the steps to achieve it. Hint: You have 0 - that is ZERO - hope or chance of getting anywhere NEAR 12% body fat - 'ripped' - in 7 week…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/16 10:55 PM
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Yeah, sorry can't help, if you want it legally, so far as I could tell. TBH, it is literally not available, via any service, in my country (not USA), so I really didn't have the option to purchase. If you're in US, is it not on iTunes?
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/16 12:53 AM
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I finally got around to tracking this down, thanks for the lead. Wasn't easy to locate, but I eventually tracked it down (and the subtitles file too). I don't quite know what to make of this movie. Outside of the context of MRP, It's sort of just a light entertainment, but I still found it to be really well done, in a made-for-TV kind of way. Not great 'cinema' but completely held my interest from start to end, characters were written and played authentically and believably, the situations were …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/05/16 10:49 PM
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Oh! Didn't realize that, you should have said so before. That's fine then, no need to read books or learn anything new, we'll take care of everything for you, and quickly spell it out in a short reply that should only take a minute or two for you to read. Brb...
/r/askMRP01/05/16 01:22 AM
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This is a reply to another person, but applicable to you as well. You may be doing this, but probably not since you've stalled: the number 1 (and 2, 3...100) thing to understand and commit to is figuring out your TDEE (how many calories you burn a day), and eat ~500 fewer calories than that, daily. And get your macros right (you need enough protein to grow muscle - sounds like you know that). More here: http://www.muscleforlife.com/tdee-calculator/ http://www.muscleforlife.com/build-muscle-lose-…
/r/askMRP26/04/16 07:36 AM
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No worries mate. Wish I'd had these when I was starting, would've saved me 2 years of dicking around. 'But I just ran 8k every day this week, why am I still fat?! By the way, can you pass the pizza?"
/r/askMRP16/04/16 12:29 AM
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Nice one mate. You're now one step closer. Quick but critical note on the "Food" item. All your actions are right, but the number 1 (and 2, 3...100) thing to understand and commit to is figuring out your TDEE (how many calories you burn a day), and eat ~500 fewer calories than that, daily. And get your macros right (you need enough protein to grow muscle). More here: http://www.muscleforlife.com/tdee-calculator/ http://www.muscleforlife.com/build-muscle-lose-fat/ good luck
/r/askMRP15/04/16 12:51 AM
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Sounds like a good start. But right now only sounds like one. Will it actually become one? Here's a clue. List here 3 very, very specific steps for your "priorities": exactly what and how you're going to achieve them. Fuck that. List one item for "Lifting." What are you going to do, exactly? When are you going to gym, how often, and what are you going to do when you're there? Then do that. Then do it again.
/r/askMRP14/04/16 11:09 PM
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might need to think about improving this shit or that.... Ha ha, yeah, you just might want to do that! Think real hard about it! Be sure to let us know how those massive gainz and wife's moistness are going, what with all that thinking you're doing there...
/r/askMRP14/04/16 11:02 PM
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Not sure how I would function on 3 hours a sleep a day Nice one. "Answer" one excuse by cleverly setting yourself up with a fall back excuse. But if I did this, then that would happen! But IF I could do it, I'd be awesome! But I can't. It's not my faulllllllt!" Why the fuck are you going to bed at 12:30am instead of 9:30pm? (Cue next excuse.). Get your shit together, shut the fucking excuses up and man up. Or don't. Your life not mine.
/r/askMRP14/04/16 10:57 PM
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Jesus foresaw 'all this'? Ha ha -- dude was proto-beta from my read on it. Still - great reply, that was fun to read! One of a kind certainly.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/16 11:39 PM
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Exact same situation for me. After a bunch of shitty whiny posts in DB, Somehow came across MMSLP and that was where it all started... It's been a verrrry slow process for me. That's not to say it hasn't been enjoyable in almost every way. Difficult, but enjoyable.
/r/askMRP06/04/16 10:48 PM
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I didn't really read any back-patting in the little analogy, and actually found it well spoken. While in a sense, the deadbedroom situations are not easy for the frustrated chump (I.e., me) psychologically, what Gargantua is saying, compared to these (RP) efforts, the BP "logic and talk" so-called 'solutions' are easy. Can't I just talk about how much more sex I need and how important it is to me? Then she'll understand and do it? Can't I just wash the dishes "extra hard" in the brilliant phrasi…
/r/askMRP06/04/16 10:41 PM
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Getting what you really want .... most of the guys here don't know what that is... That is a supremely interesting point, and to my mind has not been discussed, in a significant and analytic way, on this sub -- even though it is by definition the very foundation for all other action. There is a massive amount of advice and mentions about 'your mission' and 'leading.' Few if any describe their mission. Many say they lead but don't define what and where it is they're leading themselves and family …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/04/16 10:41 PM
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Ha ha, nice one BP dude/ette. You just trolled, trawled, and caught 16 comments and counting ...
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/16 12:06 AM
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what? what a weird post. What do you mean "manipulated himself to appear muscular?" Pec implants? what?
/r/TheRedPill31/03/16 02:36 AM
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I could go into detail about recent events I am interested in the detail if you're able to post it. I am finding it very, very difficult to surmount the emotional obstacle of NGAF. I understand the need and the benefit for doing so, rationally. But, at the deepest level, I still do (GAF that is) and cannot 'think' my way into not caring. I continue to search and work for a way for my emotional reaction to reflect my rational understanding. Hence I find other cases and histories of how others hav…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/16 09:48 PM
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I like this post because it reminds me of where I am
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/16 09:59 PM
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I'm married to a foreign woman, and living (past 15 years) here in Aussie. I'm US, but moved here w/work before meeting her. I love Australia and feel more at home here than I did in US, so my only marriage challenges are with the woman herself, issues of nationality, or who's chasing whom, have never factored in. We moved back and forth from US to Aus, a couple times, so she didn't have any issue living there (nyc). Not sure if I have any advice for you, since I want to live here, rather than d…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/03/16 11:03 PM
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This was a great response that I've been dwelling on since your reply, and it deserves a note of thanks and my own reaction. What they don't mention is the covert contract that they have - the one where they want their wives to want them as well This is where I am, if I strip away my own ego and bullshit. This pretty much nails it. One way I have of dealing with the emotional aspect of these things I'm doing, is to write. I have no one but me, but that doesn't mean I don't find it helpful to tal…
/r/askMRP02/03/16 09:59 PM
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This is good, practical advice. The gaming and positive atmosphere are there most of the time. It's a natural transition to fooling around. Makes sense to keep it up, and not withdraw until "I've improved." By virtue of taking action and starting the process, I have improved. So, as you say, sex will happen now, or later. Or not. In any case, I'm still good.
/r/askMRP29/02/16 11:50 PM
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Will check it out. TBH I'm seriously surprised i haven't yet been called out on thinly-veiled victim puking. I know the answer to all this shit.
/r/askMRP29/02/16 06:12 PM
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That's the one. Scalpel-edged, blindingly spot on direction in a few words. Thanks
/r/askMRP29/02/16 06:10 PM
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"...then one morning I told her..." I told her... I told her about... I asked her... I told her ... I told her that... I laughed and told her that... I said to her... Talk talk talk. Her her her. Good luck mate. I did the same. Looks like a very long way to go.
/r/askMRP19/02/16 09:21 PM
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holy shit dude...this is the kind of shit I needed to hear. it fits my situation to a T and yet: (I've applied some of principles of theRedPill to my marriage and it's done more harm than good) Which is it? Because they're exactly the same thing.
/r/askMRP04/02/16 11:41 PM
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Forget everything you have ever heard or read about sexuality and romance.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/16 07:51 AM
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I get your point. They are not contradictory because they happened at different points in time. I didn't make my point clearly. I am saying that, prior to discovering RP, I assumed upping fitness and income would have been sufficient. In other words, I didnt 'refuse' to change behaviour, I didn't realise (or assume) that was necessary. I am learning differently. So, at a later point in time, I discovered RP and understand the point that in addition to those things, 'personality & behaviour' (to …
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/16 11:45 PM
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To my mind, this paragraph encapsulates nearly the entirety of the - whatever you want to call the discussion around TRP/MRP. Debate. Conflicting views. Opinions. Ignorance of the facts. I say that because it is AWALT idea/fact that divides so many. Yes, AWALT applies to many more aspects of women than sexual behaviour. But in the context of this post, either: We have to be ready to accept the fact that not all woman are built the same Or, they are indeed "built the same." AWALT. Not just hormon…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/01/16 09:04 PM
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Any suggestions that are more ’grown up'? Have wasted time and downloads on listening to too many idiotic college boys fucking around and laughing about their 'game'. Thanks
/r/askMRP28/01/16 06:34 PM
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I think rareblurs point is, the guy couldn't have known. So if he went out, that is a reasonable response, not 'failing a shit test'. If she later TOLD him he was being tested, or he somehow found out, then absolutely, run don't walk from that lying bitch. Which I hope he did. That's the real test of him, surely.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/16 12:27 AM
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Yes, of course. That's helpful. Thanks for the lengthy and considered reply. Little else to say at moment than I find it accurate, insightful and helpful. Will work to apply the ideas.
/r/askMRP22/01/16 07:14 PM
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I don't follow this point - can you clarify: be unfazed - a big part of which is acceptance of the reactions that you already know you're going to get - i.e. internalizing AWALT and the consequences this entails, which ultimately means you can leverage reactions plus the amusement you can derive from said reactions
/r/askMRP22/01/16 07:00 AM
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let me know what your assessment is Nice one. OK, it's pretty easy. I was just trying to give you a kiss. That's where it is. Utter, total bullshit. That was, and is, exactly that. I wanted to fuck you. I tried to fuck you. I stopped when you said Don't fuck me. I spun out some bullshit to try and cover my tracks ego. Bullshit squared: "No, no, I didn't do anything, YOU did it. Resolving bullshit: Think about what the fuck you're doing, enact your plan if that's what's needed, and the outcome - …
/r/askMRP21/01/16 07:54 AM
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Keep going. Where do you see most bullshit? It's less about me trying to protect my ego, and stems more from confusion/uncertainty about which beta instincts to override/overcome.
/r/askMRP21/01/16 07:39 AM
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Don't make excuses for initiating, DON'T apologize for being sexual. This is the worst thing I see in your post. Well spotted and I agree. That is the single point in the exchange last night where my brain was screaming STOP NOW. DO NOT TAKE THE BAIT. DO NOT SPEAK. SHUT. THE. FUCK. UP. NOW. I spoke.
/r/askMRP21/01/16 05:02 AM
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Exactly. Have gone to re-read The Professor's 12 Levels just a bit ago, and putting L1 into practice starting now.
/r/askMRP21/01/16 02:18 AM
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Ok thanks, it's good advice. I know it, I just have to bloody remember it now.
/r/askMRP21/01/16 12:57 AM
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Ha ha granted a stretch, but don't you think ideas start, or are fostered, somewhere?
/r/MarriedRedPill19/01/16 11:58 AM
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Do you ever see some artsy vegan girl dating a (generalizing) dumb football jock who's never read a book in his life? How do you know it's not the other way around? That the reason they "never" hook up (apparently) is because HE rejects HER for not being up to scratch? Why would a (generalising) dumb football jock waste time with a skinny arty vegan boring judgemental hippie chick?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/16 11:09 AM
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Similar experience here. Out of curiosity, how far do you go between bulking and cutting? In terms of both timeframe, and BF%?
/r/TheRedPill18/01/16 03:14 AM
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Effect of the divorce on the kids has been bad because of her attorney’s shenanigans. I try to be the stabilizing force in their lives, and they know that daddy is the one really taking care of them can you elaborate? Why, if the kids know you're the one doing the work, would they benefit from having her back with you? They must have seen/be seeng what she's been up to, so what is the practical effect of allowing wife back in? They have seen it's broken, and see that she broke it -- so how will …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/16 02:06 AM
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What happens when no friends appear? Nothing/doesn't matter, because now you're under way already? It's a good tactic I have to say...
/r/seduction16/01/16 08:53 AM
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Pretty measured response and makes sense. Apply it when appropriate, natural, and when I want to, in the way I want to ... But in a way that's not full-on over the top.
/r/askMRP15/01/16 10:19 PM
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Ah, right. Yes, if/when I've decided I'm getting fucked tonight, I'll kino from roughly when getting home from work, and up it little by little. Still strikes me as covert though, "I'm doing this now therefore you should respond as hoped later, etc"... Having said that, it works more often than not. The mixed message I get in these various answers and the mrp sub in general is, A) use kino sparingly and appropriately, vs. B) apply that shit all day every day from the minute she wakes up. Differe…
/r/askMRP15/01/16 10:01 PM
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Makes sense... Don't prolong and give her opportunity to test control. I like it.
/r/askMRP15/01/16 03:15 AM
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You'll have to clarify, I don't follow
/r/askMRP15/01/16 03:14 AM
1

Yeah have to admit fair point and good advice....
/r/askMRP15/01/16 01:34 AM
1

What are you going to do next?
/r/askMRP12/01/16 09:30 PM
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Are you logging every single thing that goes in your mouth? Truly and accurately? From your numbers, you are a large man ... Which means even your TDEE is up there (even your cutting cals, 2300, is a fair amount of food per day), so that is a lot of tracking you need to be doing. Eyeballing it will not work; you'll be way off, guaranteed. So, if you lift whatever you have handy, but shed that fat as your number one, laser-focus goal, you'll be in good shape. It will take a while so take the long…
/r/askMRP12/01/16 09:04 PM
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Interested in sources if available. I have wondered about effects of Fap, on both T and on libido levels. I don't know if the relationship is causal, correlated or unrelated. But conventional wisdom seems to hold that if you don't wank, you'll feel/be hornier; seems to be the case w/me, but maybe a kind of placebo effect?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/16 09:39 PM
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I'm interested in what you're saying as I find I have similar reactions to others, and internal self-talk in social settings. Definitely a natural introvert, but not at all "shy"... I love engaging with others, but completely zone out when they don't seem to be contributing what I perceive as 'value'. One perspective I can offer - and from the few words you've written, there's no way to know so don't take this wrong but - is more humility, and interest in things that YOU don't know about, but th…
/r/TheRedPill23/11/15 06:54 AM
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She is taking anti-biotic after sex, and while that does prevent the UTI, it is also a steady diet of anti-biotic (esp. if we go at it as frequently as I'd like to). So while a once-in-a-while solution, not an ideal long term option.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/15 12:07 AM
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Yeah could replace that, for forever, I guess. Still... not appealing as the only thing for the rest of time, but as I said, currently no other solutions.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/15 12:05 AM
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Yeah we've gone through all the options, that one included. Sometimes it (UTI after sex) doesn't happen, but nothing's proven foolproof, i don't think there is anything that can guarantee it won't happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/15 05:11 AM
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No i totally agree. I wasn't clear, and really my comment isn't even relevant to this thread. It's not "cheating" (in my view) if you are upfront about your need to go out of marital contract due to illness, and she agrees. Totally different thing. Stupid comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/15 03:01 AM
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Except when it's not. In my case, horrific UTI's suffered by wife after nearly every instance means... what? We never have sex again? No more PIV ever again? I (and she) go without, forever? Yes we've talked/done everything we can, no doctor and no treatment or preventative can stop them from occuring. And yet, if I went outside, because she (rightly) doesn't want 5 days of bent-over pain from one instance of sex... that too would destroy her and I wouldn't be happy about it - I 'simply' want to…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/15 01:24 AM
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This is one of the best, all-time responses on Reddit or anywhere of all time. Awesome brevity and full impact.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/15 12:48 AM
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"It may work for you, but we're not going there, either."
/r/seduction08/11/15 11:18 PM
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Do you have other dreams, goals and plans for yourself?
/r/askMRP07/11/15 08:42 PM
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Awesome point. If there's one thing chicks love, it's a dude who's up on the finer points of spelling and grammar.
/r/seduction06/11/15 12:36 AM
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fair point.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/15 10:21 PM
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I've often thought of tracking down every single article that ever listed/advised "hubbys, doing more around the house will really light her fire!" (even fucking "men's" magazines). Cutting them out, wallpapering the shed with all of them, and unleash a holy hell arsenal of poison-tipped darts into each and every one of them. And making sure a big, fat photo of my face is in the middle of it all and gets the most darts lodged into my forehead for ever, EVER falling for this mother fucking bullsh…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/15 09:38 PM
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You wrote this: I cut all sugar and ALOT of alcohol out of my diet. You didn't write this: Calorie deficit did not exist You didn't write a clear and comprehensive post, so man up and admit it rather than all the butt-hurtage. Own your shit, as they say.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/15 11:15 PM
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I still don't get your point. You just said, explicitly, that you cut A LOT of calories from diet (whether you 'watched them' or not. So ... More calories out than in = you lost weight. What's mythical then about CICO?
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/15 05:36 AM
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what was the dumb talk show clip?
/r/TheRedPill18/09/15 11:00 PM
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Ah, got it. And makes sense - bare minimum effort to keep it from spiralling away but no more. The thing is, that tactic probably goes against much of the RP theory that I've read (although I could have it wrong). she calls out "come back" and I do ... and she LOVES it. I think RP would say 'you don't get sucked into the vortex even one iota', 'maintain frame' i.e., "I am a man, don't bother me with these trivialities woman". But again, there are many areas of theory I've read (granted not a lot…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/15 01:41 AM
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Good to hear there's others out there like you getting similar reaction and having similar questions. Could you clarify the last bit? Are you saying, just kind of nodding your head now and then about the latest domestic crisis is enough to get her out of shit-test mode, and more receptive to giving you what you want (attitude and physically)? Did I understand you right? Edit: just re-read your response, I think you're saying just the opposite of what I wrote above. That you used to jabber along,…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/15 01:07 AM
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thanks for response, I'll do that next time.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/09/15 11:48 PM
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