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ThrowThisOneInTheBin/r/askTRP01/08/15 11:35 PM
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I think it's practice. I've only had 1 girl in my life since my divorce about 1½ year ago. I still have a slight case of oneitis for this girl and we still talk and hang out. She knows everything and we're not together because I'm not alpha enough (we tried though). I'm focusing on trying to get other women and improving myself, and she's helping me with this. Both by talking with me about RP but also by being honest with me and confirming 80% of the RP stuff I read in her prioritizing, reaction…
/r/askTRP31/01/16 01:33 AM
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The good thing is one doesn't have to follow the rules if one doesn't wish to do so. In my view you can become good at whatever you practice. Only experience can tell you if you want to heed or disregard this piece of advice.
/r/askTRP24/01/16 09:49 PM
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That's what I'm trying to accomplish but it's an uphill battle. Could you talk a little about your journey?
/r/askTRP23/01/16 08:24 PM
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Thanks, you're so right. It's an issue I've been fighting as long as I can remember. I'm doing the thing where I forget about all the positive stuff I'm capable of. When I'm in my element where I'm comfortable things go well and I act with confidense, more so than with strangers at least. My boss even keeps joking about girls only coming to my office to talk to me, even if their issue is tiny (i do IT support). My 2 biggest hurdles are confidence and how I feel like I need validation from girls …
/r/TheRedPill23/01/16 08:05 PM
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Of course you speak the truth. It's the sort of thing where I know what's right to do, but I'm a fucking chicken. How do you know end up as the weird guy sitting in the corner by himself?
/r/TheRedPill23/01/16 04:46 PM
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Well done. Really. Going out and doing something like that still scares the shit out of me. Good analysis.
/r/TheRedPill23/01/16 04:10 PM
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His delivery is less than courteous but he speaks the truth. If you read everything in the sidebar you'll learn a lot of valuable lessons and everybody here expects people asking questions to have read these things. That way we all have common ground as a basis for asking further questions.
/r/askTRP21/01/16 09:57 PM
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Thanks that's good to know. I guess my hunch was correct - that's a form of validation
/r/askTRP19/01/16 05:48 AM
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As someone who's like that I'd really like to know if such a need fades as tou become more invested in yourself? I've always gotten complaints about being way too cuddly.
/r/askTRP18/01/16 09:29 PM
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I know the situation. I've managed to get invited to 2 bachelor parties in relation to weddings I wasn't invited to. My ex wife had the exact same reaction as yours. The way I see it, I have no way of knowing the motives behind it. It's happened lots of times that I got angry about something and when I finally found out the reason behind that something it was a perfectly good reason. Both of those weddings was for childhood friends. I realized that I didn't hang out with them that much anymore. …
/r/askTRP11/01/16 10:26 AM
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Never really did. I've always liked what I deem the scientific approach. The world and how people behave is like it is - it's my job to learn what I can about it. I had this approach to other things in my life before I learned about the pill so it came naturally to not be angry about things. It was more of an "aha" experience - learning how things truly are. Just like a fox isn't evil for killing a mouse, women aren't evil for acting like they do. It's a system based on instincts and if I know h…
/r/askTRP11/01/16 07:27 AM
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It all depends on your own feelings on the subject. There's no right and wrong. Personally I don't care if other people do it, but I will think less of them for doing it. That's because I see a relationship as an agreement. Unless otherwise specified I assume the default agreement in a relationship is monogamy because that's the norm whether you like it or not. If I enter into a monogamous relationship then I also agree to those terms and I should not cheat. That's why I don't like it when peopl…
/r/askTRP10/01/16 02:45 PM
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I like to tell myself that "If I don't like the results I'm getting in life, there's only 1 person to blame". This is because my experience with RP so far is that with every single doubt/question I have, the answer seems to be "keep working on yourself".
/r/askTRP04/01/16 11:09 AM
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Isn't it basically RP but with a choice to not pursue women? They seem to use the same terms and everything.
/r/askTRP04/01/16 02:55 AM
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To some people it is but that just means you have to become a rocket scientist.
/r/askTRP01/01/16 06:50 PM
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I have a female friend who confirms everything posted here. She's fucking guys left and right - provided they act like this subreddit prescribes. The thing is she's just being honest with me. Many girls are like this too I believe. In fact I respect this friend. She's very intelligent and has been one of the most positive things to ever enter my life. I was a sceptic at first too. I invite you to read the sidebar. It might seem hateful to you but try to look past that. We don't all look down on …
/r/TheRedPill30/12/15 11:58 PM
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You've come farther than I have in almost a year. I have some basic human stuff I need to sort out. Anyway - just wanted to offer encouragement. You're doing well. Just take these experiences as lessons. Before TRP you'd probably just go "oh well that was awkward" and be on your way. Now you have the opportunity to analyze the shit out of things and that offers new opportunities to internalize lessons. In my language there's a saying: "Nothing is so bad it's not good for something". I think that…
/r/askTRP30/12/15 03:29 PM
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Social skills is, in my experience, one of the most important factors.
/r/askTRP26/12/15 10:24 PM
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She wants validation and you're giving it to her for free every time you show her you're annoyed at her. Either ignore it to show you don't give a fuck or block her completely and only exchange polite pleasantries if you cross each others' paths.
/r/askTRP22/12/15 01:29 PM
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People generally do this. They don't want to look inwards because it's hard. Much easier to just point your finger and yell at somebody.
/r/TheRedPill22/12/15 11:58 AM
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I went out with a friend and some of his friends. We eventually started talking about pickup. One guy was inexperienced like me. He watches RSD videos (not sure if he reads RP or anything). He'd gotten into his head that if he cold approached like 5000 women he'd become a pickup master. He then proceeded to approach a bunch of women, butting in on conversations, not reading their body language, going on to the next girl before finishing conversations etc. He was like a piece of corn being popped…
/r/askTRP22/12/15 10:48 AM
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It sounds to me like you look to others to form your opinion. I think you need to work on yourself. Find out what you actually think yourself about these things and then stick to it no matter what other people say. You may not respect girls but that doesn't mean you should think badly of them. Maybe you should try and write down what you want to work on with yourself. You say you're a social retard - so am I (to some extent). Focus on one thing and the study the shit out of it, and try it out. B…
/r/askTRP22/12/15 08:07 AM
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I read somewhere that you should have role models. I've always been a big time fan of Indiana Jones. I have no idea why I didn't think of him. This is brilliant and the post is brilliant.
/r/TheRedPill22/12/15 07:44 AM
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r/stoicism is probably a more informative place to go.
/r/askTRP22/12/15 07:25 AM
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Yeah I'm usually alone in the gym though and I don't think I'm pressuring myself enough. The only thing that's changed after 3-4 months is that I eat 200-300% more than when I started. The plan is to start in a real gym on a team of some sort. This will give me a chance to meet new kinds of people I've never hung out with before, practice social skills and I'll get pushed enough that my SMV will change.
/r/TheRedPill22/12/15 04:26 AM
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I have a girl in my life. I was a 100% beta when I met her. We hung out all the time and eventually she jumped my bones. We tried to see if a relationship would work but it was a disaster. She has daddy issues and as such is cock hungry as fuck so I'm pretty sure that says more about her and girls with issues than betas getting laid. Does answer the question though and the sex was fucking fantastic and she was hot as fuck because she has such a craving for validation. The interesting part of it …
/r/askTRP22/12/15 04:19 AM
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Thank you so much. Not an hour ago I was thinking "why have I not seen a post about a guy who goes to a bar alone and explains everything like I'm an idiot?" (not sarcasm).
/r/TheRedPill22/12/15 04:09 AM
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At the end of the day I think those are jusr excuses. The root cause is they're not feeling the tingles anymore. Might be you, a branch swing in progress or whatever.
/r/askTRP22/12/15 03:59 AM
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Sounds good. I love history. Tou're right about the instincts and stuff. Everytime I realize I've internalized something new it feels like I'm getting closer to my true self. Peeling off layers of the fake armor society has made me wear.
/r/TheRedPill22/12/15 03:54 AM
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I hope he at least got laid for it. Probably not though.
/r/MGTOW22/12/15 03:39 AM
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Yeah. I'm just impatient I guess. Every time I feel there's no progress something seems to happen that acts as a milestone to show me I've actually come far.
/r/TheRedPill22/12/15 03:12 AM
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Thanks I'll do that.
/r/TheRedPill22/12/15 03:10 AM
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I'm reading way more than I'm applying. I'm actively working on it though. Trying to gain the skills to build a life I want after being beta for 30 years and avoiding improving those needed skills. Improving my SMV, getting more friends, improving my social skills, going out more etc.
/r/TheRedPill22/12/15 02:45 AM
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In my limited experience it comes from experience. You can't read your way to not caring about something. You have to experience shit. In that I guess it's kinda like a vaccine. Every time you have something bad happen you get better at dealing with it (especially armed with RP knowledge) and st some point I think you stop caring about the things.
/r/askTRP22/12/15 02:43 AM
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I've been reading tons of material and books for about 8 months but I still consider myself new. I feel like I'm stuck in some weird place between beta and alpha land. I know too much to go back but I'm not alpha at all yet. It feels like wandering around in a desert with sand blowing everywhere. I know my destination is somewhere in the horizon and that I will get there someday though. Is there any material on this part of my journey? A word for it maybe?
/r/TheRedPill22/12/15 02:37 AM
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Wanting something is the basis of human interaction I think. Whether it's physical resources, insights, comfort, sex or whatever. I've come to realize that relations are basically a trade. The way I see it that's just how it is. By realizing this I feel I have a better shot at improving my social skills. This also means that you get something out of it and that's not so bad is it? Maybe if you try giving to the right people you will in turn receive.
/r/askTRP22/12/15 01:57 AM
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I wonder if this applies to men too?
/r/TheRedPill21/12/15 08:16 AM
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If you want an open relationship, this might be the girl for you.
/r/askTRP20/12/15 07:18 PM
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In all of this RP stuff my mantra has become: "If you're not getting the results you want, you're at fault. Work on yourself".
/r/askTRP17/12/15 01:36 PM
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I'm still on the way to becoming truly red pill but the way I see it RP is a toolbox. My aim is to remain a nice guy while remaining true to myself. I guess you could say my priorities have just shifted. I still like to do things for others, but not if it's at the expense of what I want in life.
/r/askTRP17/12/15 08:54 AM
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The way I see it plate status is about what you do with her, not how many you do the same thing with. If you only have sex and don't talk she's a plate. If you talk and have fun, maybe even non-sexual hangouts, then she's a FWB.
/r/askTRP16/12/15 02:38 PM
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Seems rather normal to me. I used to, like many others, be extremely beta. Even I developed crushes for other people and my ex wife even caught me in one of them. It pissed her off but didn't leave me. In a matter of no time it'd passed. This is one of the many reasons why I think if I ever enter into an LTR again I would want it to be an open one.
/r/askTRP16/12/15 01:28 PM
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I think that in a year she might not even remember it happened. Women care about how you can make them feel. I have a female friend who I talk about RP stuff with (she's a natural basically). We were talking about how women love and how they evaluate relations. She explained that when she was considering someone's worth she basically listed up all the perks of knowing a person, assigned scores to each perk and if the overall result was well in the plus range she'd want that person in her life. B…
/r/askTRP16/12/15 11:23 AM
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The past is the past. You can't change it now. You fucked up, that's that. Just use the experience to make sure you do your best to avoid repeating the same kind of mistake again. I don't think this one fuckup will break your relationship. If you're generally alpha in how you interact with her I think you're good. Unless it's a huge fuckup I think it's the sum of your beta/alpha actions that have a say. People will fuck up sometimes - that's life.
/r/askTRP16/12/15 10:10 AM
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she hasn't said anything yet She's waiting for you to take charge. You're the man, you're supposed to lead. You pick the time and place.
/r/askTRP15/12/15 12:01 PM
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I think people hate non-conformity in general. When things in life don't fit into neat little boxes they become hard to deal with so it's easier to just reject anything that doesn't fit.
/r/TheRedPill11/12/15 01:11 PM
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Cheers man. Getting things done is a hell of a thing. I'm about 7-8 months in and still struggling with not giving a fuck, especially when it comes to the one or two people in my life I call special. Getting better though. On my journey I've come to realize that no matter the question, the answer seems to be "keep working on yourself". That's what I'll keep doing and urge everyone else to do too.
/r/TheRedPill11/12/15 01:09 PM
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On that note I think that actually gives you power. Don't like how something turned out? The ball's in your court and if you really want something you just have to decide to play and it will happen.
/r/TheRedPill10/12/15 07:44 PM
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Seems to me if you say something like that you want more than sex. Probably looking to get upgraded maybe?
/r/askTRP10/12/15 12:41 PM
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I have a friend with whom I've dealt with the same sort of thing. I failed miserably, but the experience leads me to say she's hamstering all over the place. I believe she wants you to lead. You're the man after all. You need to show her the way. How you do that I don't know. That's something I have yet to learn unfortunately.
/r/askTRP10/12/15 09:58 AM
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It's my impression that women like a man to be clear and concise so they know where you stand. A direct approach would probably be good. Maybe just tell her you're taking her on a date. If she declines you won't have wasted any of your precious time.
/r/askTRP09/12/15 12:27 PM
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Attraction could be the answer. I've never met anyone who turns me on as much as she does.
/r/askTRP08/12/15 06:25 PM
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I'm clueless on the subject so tou could be right. It's just that it normally takes me a couple of hours before I can even consider going again.
/r/askTRP08/12/15 03:05 PM
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My interpretation: He's tolerating it because he's put her on a pedestal and is blind to her wrong doing. He might not even believe he could do any better. He's a source for validation and resources. If she went on the CC once she will do it again, especially if she realizes she can do what she wants. Personally I don't have a problem with a girl on the CC but if she's wrapping this guy in the illusion that she's exclusive with him, then I don't like it.
/r/askTRP08/12/15 02:14 PM
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I'm not sure if that's the same thing but I was having sex once, doing her from behind. I felt I was about to cum so I tried to stop before it happened but didn't succeed. I pulled out and stood still for a bit, and came on the carpet. After a couple of minutes I realized I was still hard and we went for round 2. Not sure what happened or how I did it but it was nice.
/r/askTRP08/12/15 01:58 PM
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Absolutely fucking trust me - do NOT arrange your life after someone else's wishes. It will seriously fuck you over. I ended up living with my mother in law for 8 years because I accepted a situation I didn't want that benefitted her. She might like you for it to begin with, but eventually it will shine through that you're not into it. Your relationship will suffer. You will be miserable. You can only truly be happy in life if you're aligned with your own desires. Her happiness is NOT your respo…
/r/askTRP08/12/15 12:35 PM
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I have a friend with whom I've had sex a bunch of times. When we did it the first times I was still really blue. I was so cautious and timid she was actually afraid of letting all her inhibitions loose because she thought it would scare me. The last time we had sex it was rough - slapping and stuff and it felt natural to me. The only thing I've done between those two times is keep focusing on myself and trying to get rid of beta behavior. I think it comes from realizing you're worth something an…
/r/askTRP08/12/15 10:32 AM
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After learning about RP I actually changed my mind about the military. It would have done me so much good you couldn't believe it. I wasn't drafted because of medical issues. I grew up with a single mother - no male role models. No surprise class mates actually thought I was gay at one point.
/r/TheRedPill08/12/15 10:25 AM
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The way I look at this is that it's a game. People are different but I think there are enough things with how women act to generalize about it (which I think is why RP is a thing). I grew up having such impaired social skills that I thought for years that I was autistic. Look at it like any other system. If you do A, B will usually happen. It's your job to decipher what B is, which is done by getting experience. I don't know if this is of any use as I don't know what it's like to be autistic, bu…
/r/askTRP08/12/15 08:27 AM
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All I know is that my ex wanted everything I'm trying to become even if she didn't know it. Thinking back she hinted at it multiple times when we were together and I was completely blue. I have a close friend who is completely aware of what she wants in a man and that's also aligned with what I'm trying to become. That's only a sample set of 2 but everything I observe in the world now says RP is true.
/r/askTRP08/12/15 08:10 AM
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Oh that makes perfect sense. I guess it's all in the delivery. Thanks :)
/r/askTRP07/12/15 07:57 PM
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I know the "scared like a dog" feeling. You have to learn to ignore it. Rome wasn't built in one day. The way I see it feelings like that come when you focus on the end result and not the here and now. The way you want to be will seem daunting at first, but if you take small steps and make sure you're always going towards your goals you will eventually end up at your destination. Only compare who you are now to who you were before.
/r/askTRP07/12/15 07:31 PM
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Serious question: If I was in that situation I would feel like an asshole for reacting in any of those ways. I would actually want to make her not feel like shit. I can't figure out if that's just the beta side of me that's still kicking around or what? Surely you can sleep with a bunch of girls and not have them feel bad about it?
/r/askTRP07/12/15 06:49 PM
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I'm not trying to be harsh but here's how I view things in regard to women: If they're not attracted to me, it's my "fault". My SMV is too low, my social skills aren't good enough etc. - whatever. Women react to what they see and feel as a result so if you're not inducing interest you need to take a hard look at yourself. No reason to be resentful towards women. They're just doing what women do. You don't resent a lion for eating a gazelle either. It's just the natural order of things. If I want…
/r/askTRP04/12/15 09:14 AM
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Personally I hate uncertainty. It claws at one's brain, so I prefer to just deal with it. Whether I like the consequences or not I prefer knowing where I stand. If she means something to you, I'd probably just confront her in a calm and relaxed manner. If she says something about you not being right, maybe just ask her to leave and be done with it. Keep any emotional outbursts to when she's gone.
/r/askTRP03/12/15 06:29 PM
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I have yet to achieve actual abundance mentality so I'll just say what I've been thinking so far. As I improve myself I notice increased attention from the opposite sex. It's subtle little things but as I improve and these things happen, I can feel my ego being boosted a tiny bit over time and I feel closer to the mindset I want than before. I really think the answer is: keep working, and focusing, on yourself and everything else will follow.
/r/askTRP03/12/15 10:50 AM
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pua-zone.com has some very nice and insightful people imho.
/r/askTRP02/12/15 08:53 AM
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Without knowing more it's kind of hard to help you. I'd say read the sidebar. Keeping frame and all the things RP inform you about can be used for more than dealing with the opposite sex.
/r/askTRP01/12/15 02:42 PM
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Yeah. We still hang out and we're pretty honest with each other so we've talked about it and what happened. This was about half a year ago so I wasn't that far along in my development. The guy friends were pretty alpha, especially compared to me, so I think I was visibly intimidated. That didn't help. I was totally aware of this and tried to not let it affect me but it did. I just didn't have the tools to handle the situation. I'm pretty sure they don't get why she'd bring someone like me, but t…
/r/TheRedPill01/12/15 07:26 AM
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Very nice thread. Just wanna confirm - I've actually had a girl friendzone me after spending a day with her friends. Luckily I'm making rapid progress but man it sucks getting rejected for such an intangible thing. Never the less life goes on and I keep improving.
/r/TheRedPill30/11/15 09:27 PM
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Yeah my ex' husband is from the states and his mom is like that too.
/r/TheRedPill30/11/15 05:14 PM
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This kind of behaviour seems completely insane to me. I've never heard about anyone doing batshit crazy shit like that here. Doesn't mean it can't/doesn't happen of course. It just seems like something out of a movie or something. I can't believe adults will act like that. Hope things turn out well. At least as well as they can.
/r/TheRedPill30/11/15 12:40 PM
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I think this is what's involved in becoming experienced. I've come very far by reading, but it can only take you so far. You have to get out there and do, make mistakes, reflect on the mistakes and then try again. Every time you do this you come closer to the RP stuff replacing your beta instincts.
/r/askTRP30/11/15 10:28 AM
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This is a theory, and I'm no expert. My take on it is this: The logical part of her brain tells her she needs to focus on her studies, but the feely part of her brain says she wants to spend time with you. She wants to listen to the latter, but knows it's "wrong". She wants you to alleviate her dilemma, take responsibility and tell her to spend time with you because then it's your fault when bad stuff happens.
/r/askTRP30/11/15 10:23 AM
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Yeah me too shudders keep it up :)
/r/askTRP29/11/15 12:00 AM
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The way I see it TRP is a tool to be used for many things. If you wanna use it for an LTR you can do that. Keeping frame, working on yourself and all that doesn't become irrelevant in a relationship.
/r/askTRP28/11/15 08:10 AM
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That's fine though...unless you're beta ofc
/r/askTRP28/11/15 12:19 AM
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Is it bad if she learns that though? I can see that it'd be exposing weakness, but on the other hand taking strong significant action is good too if you ask me. Showing her that he won't put up with bullshit. What do you think?
/r/askTRP26/11/15 11:04 AM
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Here's how I see it: 1) They're not necesarily looking at you because you're an upgrade. I think it's more likely that they're looking at you because, at a glance, they find you attractive. Subconsciously they want to see if you're worth branch swinging to. 2) The world functions as it does. This is neither bad or good. It's up to us to interpret it how we see fit. My personal aim is to become as aware as I possibly can about how things work, nevermind if I like it or not. By doing that I can na…
/r/askTRP26/11/15 09:53 AM
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I'm no expert but couldn't she also just be communicating that she wasn't interested in you?
/r/askTRP25/11/15 07:58 PM
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After reading Black Dragon's book, and browsing RP forums for half a year I didn't think No More Mr Nice Guy would bring anything new to the table. I was wrong. I couldn't even imagine how much in depth it goes. It's an amazing book.
/r/TheRedPill23/11/15 08:40 AM
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I've seen a drug called finastiride or something mentioned. Apparently it's supposed to inhibit the type of testosterone that makes you loose hair. I've considered it but personally I'm not comfortable with a drug that messes with your body's natural hormone balance. They claim there are hardly any aide effects though. For now I've shaved it off. It's my impression that if you just own how your head looks it doesn't matter if it has hair or not.
/r/askTRP22/11/15 08:11 PM
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Take this with a grain of salt. I don't know much about pakistani and arab culture and I'm still a noob in regards to Trp. If we assume what she says is correct (a big if because as trp says - observe what she does and not what she says) there must be an external factor. She obviously cares for you. Do you think her family would respond positively to you two getting married?
/r/askTRP22/11/15 01:00 PM
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I don't really plan my time. After realizing I was wasting my time when I wasn't doing anything constructive I just kinda only do activities that are meaningful (reading about Trp, making music, mifting etc).
/r/askTRP21/11/15 09:05 PM
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I know exactly how you feel. I think a stoic approach is the best. Analyze your past and learn from it what you can, but also recognize that it's the past. You can't change it. Feeling negative emotions because of it is not productive. Try to strip the past of emotions, divine what lessons you can from it and move on.
/r/TheRedPill19/11/15 12:42 PM
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I agree. As a noob this is the type of FR I look for. It's very educational.
/r/TheRedPill19/11/15 08:50 AM
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I think it's different for everybody. It depends on which internal demons you have to slay. The way I see it, it all comes down to how much you want to change. I'd say you should focus on small steps. Don't expect anything big immediately. After a while you'll start seeing results, especially when you compare yourself to your earlier self. People will start noticing you're different to. The more progress you make, the more thirsty for change you become (at least that's how it is for me).
/r/askTRP18/11/15 12:37 PM
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I think that's why they don't look inwards. It hurts and it's hard. I heard about a study where most people would rather receive pain than be left alone to their thoughts for 10 min. That's frightning.
/r/TheRedPill15/11/15 01:32 PM
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Some people suggest finding a couple of movie characters you like (maybe James Bond, McClane from Die Hard or whatever) and then watch those movies a bunch of times paying attention to how they act and such. Maybe you could try that.
/r/askTRP13/11/15 10:28 AM
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I'm probably being a bit slow here but does this mean that taking the drug and thus increasing your hair growth will decrease your sexual aggressiveness?
/r/askTRP09/11/15 02:18 PM
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The girl I'm kinda with right now is very red pill naturally. Everything she wants in a man is a 100% straight out of RP. She's very aware of everything and it continues to be extremely helpful. I wouldn't be where I am now without her help. Not only is it helpful to my relation to her but one of our frequent conversation topics is how I can get other girls. So yes - it's very helpful.
/r/askTRP06/11/15 05:20 AM
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I love the way you explained it. Thanks. I really want to raise my smv as it's basically low on all counts which is shit. Apart from the fact that I've started lifting I think it's fucking hard to raise it. Started to dress better though, with the help of my ltr or whatever she is, which has helped as I've gotten a lot of attention for it.
/r/askTRP04/11/15 05:19 PM
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This seems strange to me. Everything I've read says that drive and ambition is important to one's SMV (had this confirmed by a close female friend too). Even doing the thing I like best and spending resources and time on it doesn't give me tingles. Not sure what to do about it.
/r/askTRP04/11/15 10:00 AM
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How the hell do you come up with something like that on the spot? Practice?
/r/askTRP22/10/15 05:44 PM
1

It'll pass quickly and your body'll get used to it. Being sore isn't that bad.
/r/askTRP21/10/15 08:09 PM
1

This is just a guess but I'm thinking that since you don't necesarily get a woman pregnant on the first try it might be a solution for getting two people to try multiple times thus enhancing the chance of a pregnancy occuring.
/r/askTRP19/10/15 12:12 PM
2

Holy fuck that was amazing. Great learning material. Reading is great but sometimes you need to see things in action.
/r/askTRP18/10/15 03:14 PM
4

Don't focus on the big goals so much. That's like comparing yourself to Da Vinci after picking up a brush for the first time. Focus on the little steps you take. When a year or something has passed you'll be amazed at what's happened to you.
/r/askTRP17/10/15 09:17 PM
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I disagree some of the way. I saw a study (think it was BBC, not sure) where they had a bunch of people of different nationalities. They made them eat the same things, have the same activity levels and all that. Everybody but the asian gained weight. That said - even if they have an advantage I know an unhealthy life style will get you every time.
/r/TheRedPill11/10/15 12:27 PM
2

I don't think anybody actually looks at the amount of friends you have, and how many of them are female. If anything, I'd imagine the effect you're looking for comes from said girls actually interacting with you publicly on Facebook. That said, I think there are better ways to spend your time.
/r/askTRP11/10/15 08:47 AM
2

The way I see it, what people think of you is a result of averages. If you handle most situations in beta ways, and some in alpha ways people will still think you're beta. If you've known her for years while you were beta, handling things the alpha way for a couple of months isn't gonna change her mind. What you need to do is to keep doing what you're doing and improve yourself. In time people will start to realize you've changed. If anything, look at it as incentive to continue improving. If yo…
/r/askTRP11/10/15 07:47 AM
2

Very much obliged. People always like me if they get to know me. It's fine at work and stuff. With online dating I need to get over this hurdle first and to do that I gotta pique people's interest. I think your reply will lead me towards that goal. Thanks!
/r/askTRP01/10/15 05:33 PM
1

See if you can find a place to train Wing Tsun. It's kung fu. No tournament/sporty bullshit like with Taekwondo or karate. It's what Bruce Lee trained before inventing Jeet Kun Do.
/r/askTRP01/10/15 12:03 PM
2

If I had half the creativity you show in that post I'd be a happy man...
/r/askTRP01/10/15 11:25 AM
4

Yeah thankfully it's doing very well. Listen to it every day.
/r/TheRedPill01/10/15 11:10 AM
5

I've wondered about this. Rock music today is nothing but whiney bullshit. In the 1970s and 1980s rock music had balls and attitude. Like a back alley cat. Today that cat's been neutered and had its nails clipped. I wonder if there's a connection between this and the feminization we're seeing?
/r/TheRedPill01/10/15 06:51 AM
1

I'm where you are. I'm about to write back to 2 girls who'e written me on a dating site. I've had some limited success back when I was completely beta but I realized I still don't know what the hell to do in this regard. I feel like I'm on stage and I forgot all my lines. I have a female friend who I'm very comfortable around. We kid around, flirt etc. I'll be trying a strategy for communicating online that goes "how would you reply if you were talking to your friend?". Basically a matter of try…
/r/TheRedPill30/09/15 09:16 AM
6

Thanks for this post. I've been feeling like an impostor for the last month and I've started doubting if I'll ever become alpha even though I know change is always a slow process. I started thinking back yesterday. About a year ago I was talking to a girl on a dating site. This was around the time of my divorce. My divorce was calm and had no drama. I remember having agreed to hang out with my ex and I actually said to the girl from the dating site that if she didn't like it I wouldn't go. We ha…
/r/TheRedPill30/09/15 09:11 AM
1

Not a day goes by I don't ask myself that question. Apart from the standard beta rationalization it's the fact that we have a good friendship and she's useful to my RP progress. When I started dating her she'd give me advice because I was really beta. When I started learning about TRP and stuff I realized that everything she'd advised me to do and improve on was straight out of TRP. She knows what she wants in a man, and what she wants is everything TRP says. That makes her uniquely suited for h…
/r/askTRP25/09/15 10:02 PM
1

I hadn't really thought of it that way though you're probably right. Such a waste but I know my oneitis would explode if I did anything with her. Last weekend I tried kinoing a bit (slapped her butt playfully, acted like I wanred to bite her neck). She was receptive to it all but after she went home my oneitis was through the roof again like it was some months ago. It's back down to a nice level now but I really need some abundance mentality before I proceed I think.
/r/askTRP24/09/15 06:42 PM
1

I was hanging out with my oneitis a couple of weeks ago. Her and I didn't work out because I was so beta it's embarrassing to me now even though there's still a lot of work to be done. She has abundance mentality due to the fact that she's really hot so she's moved on. Anyhow we were drinking and getting drunk. Eventually she looks at me and basically expresses her wish to have sex. I told her that on account of my oneitis (she digs red pill theory) that wasn't gonna happen. After "breaking up" …
/r/askTRP23/09/15 08:38 AM
1

After I've really gotten my priorities straight playing games has automatically become something I practically don't do. Not because I actively choose not to, but because it simply has less of a priority than constructive endeavors. I did go to a LAN party this weekend though. Normally I'd have hooked up my computer again sunday evening. 3 days after it's still standing in my hallway. After work I'm going lifting and I don't suspect I'll hook it up today either.
/r/TheRedPill22/09/15 11:59 AM
3

I see TRP as a philosophy. A way to achieve things you want. I honestly think a majority of girls won't like most of this stuff. I have a friend who doesn't want to do anal (neither do I) but she did ask me to choke her this one time. As Laere said - different people like different things.
/r/askTRP13/09/15 07:34 PM
1

Interesting. I kinda think I have it the opposite way. I've always known something was off about the way the whole male/female dynamic was portrayed. I could tell people who were getting laid knew something I didn't but I never figured out what. At some point along the way I started getting into self improvement so when I found TRP it was almost 2nd nature to me (to change myself that is, doesn't mean I don't have a lot of work ahead of me). What we do have in common though is the abundance ment…
/r/askTRP08/09/15 06:02 PM
1

I don't know if this is useful for you. I have a female friend I have oneitis for (we tried dating and it didn't work). She knows about TRP and is extremely supportive of me and what I'm doing with it. What I found has helped me is to keep learning about TRP. Every time I make progress my oneitis diminishes a little bit and I feel better. I think this comes down to abundance mentality. If you don't have that, you need it. Also make sure you have something in life that drives you. You can't let t…
/r/askTRP08/09/15 01:56 PM
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Yeah it's amazing. I kind of had a similar experience last year. This was before I learned about TRP and stuff though. It was New Year's Eve and I was with a bunch of fellow nerds. There was 1 girl who wasn't taken. For some reason she touched me before I even said anything. That got me thinking that if I knew how to go about it I might've had a chance. I was contemplating how to go about it, but almost every other guy kept swarming her. They basically sat in a circle around her. "Fuck this shit…
/r/askTRP07/09/15 06:01 PM
0

Yeah I know :-/ Must've won a race or two by now... So far I'm just doing what I think best, working on my stuff so I can get to where I need to be, but it's nice to get someone else's opinion.
/r/TheRedPill07/09/15 12:03 PM
0

It wouldn't really be gaming though. She knows exactly where I stand and all.
/r/TheRedPill07/09/15 04:54 AM
1

I agree. I was just trying to come from the same stand point as I thought you were. I was dealt some cards and I decide how to play them. I spend a lot of time focusing on my short comings so I can improve them. The past is the past - if I'm aware of something it's my job to change it. The past is just where you come from, not where you're going.
/r/askTRP07/09/15 12:17 AM
2

Seriously? For some it's not easy. I grew up with a single mom who taught me next to no social skills. It's pathetic but it's the truth. It is the single biggest obstacle I have. I'm very good at trying something, analyzing why it didn't work and improving next time but still it's hard. Not everyone learned crucial life skills growing up.
/r/askTRP06/09/15 08:30 PM
1

I have a question I hope someone can answer. What if you're an orbiter/friend but she wants you as part of the CC? I have oneitis for a very good friend. We're so blunt towards each other that she's stated clearly that she wants to fuck me again when my oneitis is over. An exchange like this happened on messenger: Her: <sends a picture of a carpet from Ikea she thinks I should get>. Her: "Bang on" (roughly translated, meaning it's got strong colors). Her: "Bang on it" (needs no translation). Me:…
/r/TheRedPill06/09/15 07:30 PM
0

Not trying to tell you what to do, but the way I see it TRP is about listening to yourself, becoming your own king. Organized religion, in any form or shape, will tell you what to do and shape you according to them. That's how they function. I don't see the two as being compatible. Jesus didn't really say "...and thou shalt spin plates like none other before thee".
/r/askTRP05/09/15 07:22 AM
1

So true. I'm in a good place though. They simply don't have my interest at the moment. Updated my original comment to elaborate.
/r/askTRP03/09/15 08:36 PM
3

I was googling for ways to get over my oneitis and stumbled on this and Black Dragon's blog. Since then I've become more focused in life. I can't remember the last time I've played a video game and I'm happier and more satisfied with my life and I'm just getting started. To actually answer the question about my mission... I write music, but I like other stuff too. Too much stuff it turns out. I read black dragon's book and started thinking about my goals. I had lots of things I wanted to do but …
/r/askTRP03/09/15 12:37 PM
-1

Why not just use it as a goal? I think you should focus on the future. I think it's kinda cool for anyone to experience that kind of sex, and so you should focus on the fact that you will some day have it.
/r/askTRP02/09/15 10:49 AM
1

I like Black Dragon's way of looking at alpha males: http://www.blackdragonblog.com/the-alpha-male-2-0/
/r/askTRP01/09/15 10:09 AM
1

I still don't see what there is to confront them about though.
/r/askTRP31/08/15 11:09 AM
1

Why should you care? She's your ex. What she does is her business. How would you come off if you confronted any of them about anything, as opposed to how you'd appear if you acted like it didn't affect you at all?
/r/askTRP31/08/15 10:43 AM
1

To me it's about becoming a man, not about getting girls. They're an inevitable consequence of that. I've spent half my life trying to build myself up to become and awesome person, and TRP has put that process into overdrive. It's about making goals, taking aim and shooting and then actually hitting what you want to hit. Before I was very aware of myself, but I ultimately still just drifted around. In essence - it's about making my life a lot better, being honest with myself and my needs and try…
/r/askTRP29/08/15 08:46 AM
5

I'm 5.11" which, apparently, isn't that attractive. On one of the most used dating sites here in my country every single girl I click on's profile shows that I'm not tall enough for her taste. They're almost all looking for beta providers anyway so it doesn't matter, but it says something about what's in demand physically I think. I have my first lifting session today though so I'll see if that can make up for it.
/r/TheRedPill27/08/15 02:54 PM
1

Thank you so much. This is exactly the kind of stuff I need!
/r/TheRedPill27/08/15 02:52 PM
1

You can use more than your dick for such activities. Just focus on having a good time, trust your intuition and nothing else. She's coming over to try and have fun. You should too.
/r/askTRP23/08/15 08:48 PM
1

If you want to help him I think you should offer advice in small bites. I also don't think you should present it as TRP but rather just try to explain actions and consequences to him in plain words. Test the waters and see if he is receptive. He might not even want to hear it.
/r/askTRP23/08/15 08:43 PM
2

This comes directly from a female friend of mine: "So what if a man can't get hard? There are many ways to please a woman". If she doesn't care about that, it seems she's sets the framework for your activities as opposed to either you or the both of you together. I really think you should consider nexting.
/r/askTRP23/08/15 06:44 PM
1

Maybe she's not into monogamy but expects you to be because most people are? It's kinda hard for a person in such a situation to just outright say that she digs you but wants to keep sleeping around even if she has feelings for you.
/r/askTRP23/08/15 09:02 AM
3

Greetings. I just wanted to wish you well in your endeavors. It truly is an awesome thing to get started on. I feel like I'm learning to speak a whole new language. One that I've seen 100s of people speak my whole life but that I couldn't decipher. It seemed like magic to me that you could walk up to a girl and be in her pants an hour later. It's transformed the way I looked at the world and I love it.
/r/TheRedPill22/08/15 11:02 AM
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With the last girl I was with I was still totally beta (I'd get nervous just asking her to hang out, even though I knew she wanted to). This worked to my advantage in that she had issues getting close to me and things went slowly. Eventually she just kissed me and things went from there. Eventually we realized it wouldn't work because of me being so beta. That was the exception where being beta works. It's a long process and you might not even get anything out of it. That's what I like about thi…
/r/TheRedPill20/08/15 12:03 PM
3

Don't worry I know that comes from within but thanks. I'm doing it to make me proud of myself and to up my SMV.
/r/TheRedPill19/08/15 03:35 PM
9

This thread really hits home with me. 90% of the people I know do nothing but play video games all day. After starting on my TRP path I don't even remember the last time I did that. Everything I do now ties into one of my goals. I've not really been social in the past so now I have very few people to do alpha type things with, and the one guy I know who's alpha has a family now (I'm 30). How the hell do you find a group of alphas to hang out with? I'm thinking maybe by joining a gym and befriend…
/r/TheRedPill19/08/15 08:00 AM
9

I agree. I kinda see TRP as a guideline. Most of it happens to make sense to me though, but if there's something I don't like about TRP I'm not going to do it just because it's labelled TRP. There's no Pill Police that'll take you away if you break the TRP law.
/r/askTRP14/08/15 05:59 PM
2

Yeah I think that guy is on to something good with what he writes about. I can recommend his book too. I think there's a difference between his philosophy and TRP though. TRP seems to be what he refers to as alpha 1.0 where he talks about what he calls Alpha 2.0. There are a lot of overlapping thoughts/theories though.
/r/askTRP11/08/15 07:18 AM
1

Don't even get me started. Some months ago a friend and I tried to see if we could turn our relation into a LTR. It broke apart because I was too beta (she was awesome about it all though and she thinks the red pill is an awesome concept and is helping me get there). That's fair enough, but she had some issues too. At one point she was like "this and that happened in the past so now it's hard for me to commit, and I know I'm gonna push you away sometimes". I told her that's fair enough if she wa…
/r/askTRP10/08/15 07:06 PM
2

That sort of thing takes practice. Any time you want to change something about yourself it's hard. Apparently I'm at a point where just reading about TRP makes it so people have started commenting on how I've changed my behavior. There's a long way to go still. Anyway.... What I've done previously when I wanted to change something about myself is this: 1) Learn something new (like TRP theories). 2) Think about past situations where you'd have acted differently if you had the knowledge you're try…
/r/askTRP10/08/15 08:42 AM
2

Try this: http://www.blackdragonblog.com/2012/07/29/the-three-types-of-women/
/r/askTRP10/08/15 08:30 AM
1

I'm reading a book and just read a chapter on this very topic. It seems what I wrote is an over simplification. As you say - men and women function differently.
/r/askTRP08/08/15 04:00 PM
1

I've been in a similar situation. If RP men can have desires to hook up with multiple women why can't women be like that without there being something wrong? Maybe she just likes sex. It's my understanding that if you manage to swallow the red pill completely you can get to a point where you're ok with it. If you truly have feelings for each other you'd know it was just sex. Try reading this: http://www.blackdragonblog.com/2014/02/06/the-relationship-boxes-concept/
/r/askTRP08/08/15 09:43 AM
2

I got married around 23. I can't speak for you at all, but I can tell you what happened to me. I had no clue what I wanted in life. If asked a question about how I'd feel about a future change I didn't know. I simply couldn't tell. On that premise, I got married, bought a house with the ex wife and lived with her mom and brother too. Massive mistake. I was already a blue piller, but her mom pound me into the ground. I was a husk of a man. My relationship with my exwife was good, but ultimately s…
/r/askTRP08/08/15 09:34 AM
1

I'm in the process of swallowing the red pill at the moment. I have a different view though. I got married early (I think I was 23) and always suspected something was off. If I was supposed to be monogamous why did I still look at girls? I stayed monogamous though because I felt if I entered into an arrangement I was obliged to honor it. I've since gotten divorced after 10 years and then I met a girl. She's basically living the RP life. She tried explaining it to me and I didn't understand compl…
/r/askTRP06/08/15 09:19 AM
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