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| 156 | Well boys, I'm done | Throwaway19891953 | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/04/24 08:30 AM | |
| 50 | SBXW super friendly triggering me | Rant | Throwaway19891953 | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/04/24 12:04 PM |
| 36 | I'm such a chump but just can't take it anymore | Throwaway19891953 | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/12/23 12:47 PM | |
| 18 | Cheating STBXW wants to play happy family for kids | Throwaway19891953 | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/11/23 02:52 PM | |
| 16 | Any advice? | Throwaway19891953 | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/03/23 06:02 PM | |
| 15 | She just won't stop hurting me and the kids | Throwaway19891953 | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/10/23 08:30 AM | |
| 8 | Any experience with Family Therapy with cheating STBXW? | Throwaway19891953 | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/09/23 12:06 PM | |
| 6 | Advice needed pls - kids miss having "1 home" | Throwaway19891953 | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/01/24 08:53 PM | |
| 3 | Need advice - the gift that keeps on giving | Throwaway19891953 | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/07/23 12:36 PM | |
| 2 | Best child custody arrangements (3 and 5) | Throwaway19891953 | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/06/23 09:44 AM |
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| 2 | What Men Actually Notice When Choosing a Divorce AttorneyHave at least 4 free consultations. Use that time wisely; prep to give a summary of your situation which won't take more than 2-3 min and then ask them how they would approach it. Ask who will handle your case day to days. Often you have partners run the meeting but they may pass it on to a junior right away. Do research beforehand so you can ask targeted questions - 30 min flies by. Then go with your gut. Don't necessarily trust online reviews. And fire them if you don't feel like you're gettin… | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/12/25 08:45 PM |
| 3 | WwydThis was all amazing advice! Needed to read that. Thanks bro. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/08/25 09:43 PM |
| 1 | Do you divorce if there's no attraction left because your spouse aged like milk?No agreeing with Op's stance but for what it's worth, I'm (involuntarily) in that position - recently divorced due to cheating wife with young kids - and the point of females not being attracted is plainly wrong. I've been with/ dated many smart, beautiful and younger women. Misogynistic as it is, (most) women don't care about about me having kids. The other way round is def true tho, most men won't date women with kids | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/10/24 10:36 AM |
| 1 | How I Got Through This HellBravo mate. Sick read and glad you're in a good(ish) place! | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/05/24 03:02 PM |
| 1 | Officially Divorced! BOOM!You know why divorces are expensive? Because they're worth it 😉 | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/04/24 12:12 PM |
| 2 | Well boys, I'm doneAmen bro. I kept the house and mortgage too. Partially because it's my dream home (formerly our) but also for stability for kids | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/04/24 08:13 PM |
| 1 | Well boys, I'm doneThanks bro | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/04/24 11:10 AM |
| 4 | Well boys, I'm doneI'm more annoyed by the amount of non-divorced ppl who never went through this but feel like they can tell me how I should act towards ex wife. Nope, keep your opinion to yourself man | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/04/24 06:10 AM |
| 2 | Well boys, I'm doneThanks dude and yeah good point! Stoicism is great for this crap | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/04/24 07:46 PM |
| 1 | Well boys, I'm doneExactly. Hurt a bit but I had no problem cutting them out. Reality shows you who you're real friends are | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/04/24 07:45 PM |
| 2 | Well boys, I'm doneI'm sorry to hear that mate. Other than what I said in my post, maybe look into getting new hobbies where you can also meet new friends? I started golfing again and having a blast. Also lost a few friends but as I said, don't really care as doubled down with those friends who matter. And am much closer to family now as well | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/04/24 08:12 AM |
| 1 | Well boys, I'm doneReconciliation | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/04/24 07:49 AM |
| 2 | Well boys, I'm doneGood luck in your journey bro | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/04/24 07:49 AM |
| 3 | Well boys, I'm doneThanks brother! | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/04/24 07:49 AM |
| 2 | Well boys, I'm doneThanks dude! | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/04/24 09:38 PM |
| 3 | Well boys, I'm doneI like anything on 2 wheels so agree have fun! | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/04/24 07:24 PM |
| 4 | Well boys, I'm doneAwesome man. Honestly think we as a gender have forgotten how to be men from all the woke agenda / patriarchy crap and it hurts us as girls don't want that either. Be string bro. They'll dig it | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/04/24 07:23 PM |
| 1 | Well boys, I'm doneEnjoy man! And remember ATGATT. Gotta look good for the next honey | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/04/24 07:21 PM |
| 1 | Well boys, I'm doneNo I haven't. Any recommendations / links? | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/04/24 07:20 PM |
| 5 | Well boys, I'm doneAmen bro. Better happened now in my 30s than in my 40s or 50s | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/04/24 07:19 PM |
| 1 | Well boys, I'm donehttps://youtu.be/a4m7XwIaOyo?si=b5X9qYOxVVcdwf18 Do it bro. Wont regret it | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/04/24 07:19 PM |
| 3 | Well boys, I'm doneYup. Cunt is a serial cheater and had a reputation which my ex wife was warned about buy hey ho hoes gotta be hoes | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/04/24 06:47 PM |
| 3 | Well boys, I'm doneFuck yeah bro. That feeling of liberty is unbeatable. Have had mine for years actually so just said that so others can experience it when most needed! | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/04/24 06:46 PM |
| 2 | Well boys, I'm doneMan and woman! | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/04/24 06:44 PM |
| 1 | Well boys, I'm doneThanks bro | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/04/24 05:55 PM |
| 4 | Well boys, I'm doneYup. And dropped again after the ol' pump and dump for a few months later. Guess it wasn't as exciting anymore sneaking behind my back and having her freely available 🤷🏻 | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/04/24 05:55 PM |
| 2 | Well boys, I'm doneHope it helps | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/04/24 05:53 PM |
| 2 | Well boys, I'm doneKeep fighting bro. Don't let these women ruin us | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/04/24 05:53 PM |
| 4 | Well boys, I'm doneChump lady is a genius. Also check out her website if you haven't yet | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/04/24 04:48 PM |
| 2 | Well boys, I'm doneAmen 🙏🏼 | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/04/24 04:47 PM |
| 1 | Well boys, I'm doneReconciliation | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/04/24 04:47 PM |
| 3 | Well boys, I'm doneI promise I don't get paid by them (even though I should seeing how many times I recommend them!) but really check out TrueClassic if you're feeling low. I get compliments all the time and feel great, which helps fighting the feeling when you're down | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/04/24 04:46 PM |
| 2 | Well boys, I'm doneCheers and good luck on your journey mate! | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/04/24 04:45 PM |
| 3 | Well boys, I'm doneLikewise. We are all in this together bro | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/04/24 04:41 PM |
| 2 | Well boys, I'm doneThanks Mase! | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/04/24 04:40 PM |
| 2 | Well boys, I'm doneThanks! | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/04/24 04:40 PM |
| 1 | Well boys, I'm doneThank you gentleman | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/04/24 04:40 PM |
| 2 | Well boys, I'm doneThank you. Mind you I still have bad days but its getting better slowly but surely | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/04/24 04:40 PM |
| 1 | Well boys, I'm doneCourse not. Hit me up whenever | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/04/24 04:39 PM |
| 1 | Well boys, I'm doneMany thanks! | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/04/24 04:39 PM |
| 1 | Well boys, I'm doneThanks! | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/04/24 04:38 PM |
| 1 | Well boys, I'm doneBest of luck brother | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/04/24 04:38 PM |
| 2 | Well boys, I'm done50/50 | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/04/24 04:37 PM |
| 1 | Well boys, I'm doneThanks!! | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/04/24 11:42 AM |
| 1 | Well boys, I'm doneGood luck bro | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/04/24 09:35 AM |
| 5 | Well boys, I'm doneNo we do have spousal support and child maintenance but I managed to avoid both | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/04/24 09:35 AM |
| 3 | Well boys, I'm doneHaha thanks bro - you too! | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/04/24 08:59 AM |
| 2 | SBXW super friendly triggering meThat was super helpful, thanks man. Realky appreciate it. Hope you're good brother | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/04/24 10:07 PM |
| 8 | SBXW super friendly triggering meHaving slept on it / read all these comments I think it really is just her trying to alleviate her guilt by pretending everything is good and rewriting the past. But fuck that. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/04/24 06:44 AM |
| 3 | SBXW super friendly triggering meThose will be great memories if you can pull it off - best of luck brother | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/04/24 06:43 AM |
| 2 | SBXW super friendly triggering meAny app recommendation? They all seem clunky and expensive so thought I'd delete her on everything and just interact / text via email and WhatsApp | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/04/24 06:41 AM |
| 3 | SBXW super friendly triggering meShe did cheat me in the worst way so yeah will treat her accordingly | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/04/24 06:40 AM |
| 2 | SBXW super friendly triggering meHoover lol. Yeah makes sense. Not my job anymore love | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/04/24 06:39 AM |
| 4 | SBXW super friendly triggering meThanks so much, all rings true and will keep doing NC. And yeah agree the men also come off badly here. Had a bit of a go at her yesterday as she wanted to change pre-agreed arrangements which would make me pay more for sth. Now that I'm close to the end of the divorce, feels like I can hold back less | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/04/24 06:39 AM |
| 4 | SBXW super friendly triggering meThanks bro - agree and def will do | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/04/24 09:54 PM |
| 3 | SBXW super friendly triggering meSorry but disagree. Being in a no fault country you had to take the back foot for a year. Just need to get the truth out there for my sanity. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/04/24 09:53 PM |
| 2 | SBXW super friendly triggering meI so understand the temptation. Had a whole text prepped. But then remembered the wisdom behind NC. Thanks bro | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/04/24 09:50 PM |
| 3 | SBXW super friendly triggering meThat's the end goal brother and hope to get there too. All the best | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/04/24 09:48 PM |
| 2 | SBXW super friendly triggering meEnd in sight bro. Good luck to you too. Already got plans for one last night of self-pity on day of divorce, and then make a steak next evening and get reborn. Had 13m of this trauma and need to move on. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/04/24 08:07 PM |
| 3 | SBXW super friendly triggering meOnce divorce is final next week, I'm sending her famiky a message on SM with my side of the story aka the truth. Then I'm deleting the bitch on everything. Hope you're doing OK and great you see behind the mask | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/04/24 07:46 PM |
| 5 | SBXW super friendly triggering meThanks brother - helps to hear. She is still attractive so will def find someone to keep the bed warm but serious relationship? Maybe with someone 10y older (like AP). Meanwhile I'm dating girls in their early 20s... 😉 | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/04/24 07:44 PM |
| 6 | SBXW super friendly triggering meSuper helpful, thanks dude and completely agree | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/04/24 07:41 PM |
| 6 | SBXW super friendly triggering meFuck that's a big one. I'm sorry to hear that brother. And yeah great you have your son with you! At least when men have a midlife crisis we buy a fucking bike or Porsche instead if destroying our families!! | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/04/24 06:22 PM |
| 3 | SBXW super friendly triggering meThanks man, I need to do that too. Light at the end of the tunnel in sight! | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/04/24 06:20 PM |
| 2 | SBXW super friendly triggering meSuper helpful and inspiring bro, thanks! | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/04/24 06:18 PM |
| 3 | SBXW super friendly triggering meIt's ridiculous, innit. Fuck off out of our lives! | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/04/24 04:46 PM |
| 7 | SBXW super friendly triggering meThanks man and well done ignoring your ex. Seems like they all want to weasel themselves back into our lives to make themselves feel better about their shitty live choices | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/04/24 01:48 PM |
| 4 | SBXW super friendly triggering meHahaha | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/04/24 12:14 PM |
| 15 | SBXW super friendly triggering meAmen bro. I am completely certain she has just entirely supressed what she did and now just wants to play happy family again | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/04/24 12:13 PM |
| 3 | I’m not going to callThis is terrible advice. Op needs to make sure post-divorce life is good for him. Don't get ne wrong, it has taken all I got not to punch AP's face into the sidewalk and scorch his life and I'm sure it'll feel temporarily great but then what? Firstly while APs are cunts by definition, it's always the wife who fell for it and betrayed you. Blame lies completely with her. Secondly (in my case AP was her boss), if I do anything to jeopardise her job and hence income I can be on the hook for spousal… | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/03/24 09:24 PM |
| 1 | Separation in UK- RantHey bro - you'll see on here time and time again that women don't leave relationships (esp marriages with kids) without someone else there for them on stand by. Monkey branching it's called. Play amicable, but get a lawyer ASAP (shop around and do at least 5 free consultations), then do what's the best for you and your children which means getting the best deal possible for you and 50/50 with the kids. And as hard as it sounds, try not to think ab9ut them when they're with her / AP and be the be… | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/03/24 04:16 PM |
| 1 | LonelyI am flabbergasted by your therapist's statement. That's a huge generalisation. They may get a better deal in most divorces but I'd like to believe men come out the other side better | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/03/24 04:11 PM |
| 2 | She was having an affairI had a bunch of free consultations with various lawyers in my city. Ended up really connecting with a very intelligent Partner at a mid-sized firm. She had loads of ideas, advice and is hungry. She leads my case herself instead of passing me onto an Associate. Costs a lot more but worth it, alone with some of the mistakes she found from previous lawyers. Process to change was v easy. They can guide you through that also | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/02/24 11:22 AM |
| 5 | She was having an affairEveryone is giving amazing advice here. My adds: 1) Use this forum. It's been a life-saver 2) SHOP AROUND for both lawyers and individual therapy. I've had to change both throughout the process. Re lawyers, make sure you get senior exposure ie Partners. More expensive but pays off in the end. Re IC, make sure they are experienced in trauma and do not push you to Reconciliation. You had zero role in her cheating. There is no justification. She could've always broken things off with you first but … | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/02/24 05:11 PM |
| 1 | She was having an affairPerfect advice | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/02/24 05:07 PM |
| 11 | Wife confessed to affairIn case you haven't come across it yet, read chumplady and "cheating in a nutshell". Best there is. Be strong bro | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/02/24 03:35 PM |
| 13 | Did your Wife start seeing a Therapist before she filed for Divorce?Yup here too. STBXW even claimed her therapist thought her cheating on me may have been something she had to do (ie justifying that crap) | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/02/24 09:49 AM |
| 2 | Advice needed pls - kids miss having "1 home"I'm sorry, but I disagree completely. Not once did I imply they don't like spending time with me. If anything they open up to me more and have a lot more issues and fights with their mom. I will never not be in their lives as much as I can | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/01/24 08:08 AM |
| 2 | Advice needed pls - kids miss having "1 home"Agreed, thanks bro | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/01/24 09:51 PM |
| 4 | Advice needed pls - kids miss having "1 home"Thanks man. Kids are already in therapy. I may be gullible, but I don't think this is coming from her. She's way too proud to admit her mistakes and probably still thinking she can do better. Will ask my lawyer tho | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/01/24 09:23 PM |
| 1 | Advice needed pls - kids miss having "1 home"Thanks man. The benefits of two days etc worked for a while but now they're complaining that they don't like the constant swap overs and just want everyone to be together which sucks... Good point on what to say tho. Cheers | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/01/24 09:16 PM |
| 2 | What are your communication boundaries?Yeah thanks but no thanks! Haha how stupid of an idea. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/01/24 10:53 AM |
| 10 | What are your communication boundaries?I go NC insofar possible with shared small kids. I only ever talk to her about kids and then only via text unless it's urgent eg medical issues. Originally she wanted to have a weekly call re kids organisation but I killed that off as don't want to hear her voice. Swap overs mostly done via Childminder so don't need to see her more than once per week for weekend swap. Don't talk to mutual friends who took her side (how?!) or play Switzerland as don't need that in my life (I have enough good frie… | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/01/24 01:03 PM |
| 1 | Who has gone to a female therapist during divorce and what was your exoerience like?I fired my first (male) therapist because he was advocating reconciliation indirectly and talked about how I should have sympathy for the cheating STBXW when she got sad. Second (female) therapist was much better. Hope that helps | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/12/23 06:04 PM |
| 1 | I'm such a chump but just can't take it anymoreThanks bro - appreciate it 😊 | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/12/23 09:07 AM |
| 1 | I'm such a chump but just can't take it anymoreThank you. User name checks out 🤣 | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/12/23 06:36 AM |
| 1 | I'm such a chump but just can't take it anymoreMore like a shit sandwich 🤣 | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/12/23 06:58 PM |
| 3 | I'm such a chump but just can't take it anymoreBumblerinas hahaha 🤣 Thanks again dude | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/12/23 06:58 PM |
| 1 | I'm such a chump but just can't take it anymoreI will learn from it. Shits though tho. Thanks man, appreciate the kind words | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/12/23 06:57 PM |
| 2 | I'm such a chump but just can't take it anymoreHarsh but I needed to hear this. Thanks dude | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/12/23 06:56 PM |
| 2 | I'm such a chump but just can't take it anymoreThank you man. This comment actually made me emotional 😅. Really appreciate it | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/12/23 06:55 PM |
| 1 | I'm such a chump but just can't take it anymoreThanks dude - will do | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/12/23 06:54 PM |
| 1 | I'm such a chump but just can't take it anymoreArgh man that's one mental image I wish I didn't have! Thanks tho lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/12/23 04:17 PM |
| 1 | I'm such a chump but just can't take it anymoreVery good analogy, thank you. Needed to hear that | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/12/23 04:16 PM |
| 2 | I'm such a chump but just can't take it anymoreMaybe I shouldve done that too. Wouldn't be in this place then.... | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/12/23 04:15 PM |
| 4 | I'm such a chump but just can't take it anymoreThis really helped me to read, thanks again | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/12/23 03:13 PM |
| 5 | I'm such a chump but just can't take it anymoreThanks Wild. Really appreciate it. I think my main problem is that I opened myself up to being vulnerable again and as someone else pointed out she leaned on me but when this is done she'll be in bed with the next guy | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/12/23 03:11 PM |
| 3 | I'm such a chump but just can't take it anymoreThanks mate - made me feel better ☺️ | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/12/23 02:45 PM |
| 4 | I'm such a chump but just can't take it anymoreGlad you pulled through mate. And sure hope it won't take 6 yrs for me to get to that place 😬 | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/12/23 02:21 PM |
| 5 | I'm such a chump but just can't take it anymoreBrutal and direct, exactly what I needed to hear 😅. Thanks! | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/12/23 02:19 PM |
| 12 | I'm such a chump but just can't take it anymoreThanks Sak - very helpful. She kept on saying she is "sorry" and that she's suffering daily but as I mentioned, no remorse. That hurts | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/12/23 12:59 PM |
| 2 | Cheating STBXW wants to play happy family for kidsHahaha I love this! Thanks man, appreciate the long response | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/11/23 07:17 AM |
| 1 | Cheating STBXW wants to play happy family for kidsAmen bro | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/11/23 10:48 PM |
| 1 | Cheating STBXW wants to play happy family for kidsThat's very helpful, thank you and hope you're (and the kids) OK now or as ok as can be | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/11/23 05:05 PM |
| 2 | Cheating STBXW wants to play happy family for kidsSpot on my thoughts | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/11/23 04:21 PM |
| 1 | Cheating STBXW wants to play happy family for kidsReally good advice, thanks! | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/11/23 03:44 PM |
| 1 | Cheating STBXW wants to play happy family for kidsDamn man that sounds rough. Hope you're getting through this OK. And yeah the cards are definitely stacked against us... | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/11/23 03:43 PM |
| 3 | Cheating STBXW wants to play happy family for kidsEx claims this is for kids only and that she wants to help them. How did / do you do handovers? I focus 100% on kids, talk to her only if anything urgent (everything else can be dealt with via text) and that's it! | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/11/23 03:18 PM |
| 1 | She just won't stop hurting me and the kidsJust wanted to say I've read your previous posts and they're great / insightful! | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/10/23 07:46 PM |
| 1 | “What if?” The prelude to affairs and divorceThis is brilliant mate | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/10/23 05:39 PM |
| 1 | She just won't stop hurting me and the kidsExcept she's pulling us down with her 😔 | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/10/23 07:35 AM |
| 1 | She just won't stop hurting me and the kidsI'd have thought she's out of the fog now (8 months after leaving)... but yeah makes sense | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/10/23 07:34 AM |
| 1 | She just won't stop hurting me and the kidsHahaha thanks | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/10/23 07:34 AM |
| 5 | She just won't stop hurting me and the kidsNo child support payable either way as we do 50/50 and earn similar amounts | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/10/23 11:07 AM |
| 3 | It beginsI'm sorry you're here bro. Similar situation with STBXW wanting to move out to "find herself'. Upon my (female) boss's suggestion I did some digging and found out she was cheating on me for months. It's gonna suck reading this but chances are yours did too, if only emotional affairs. You read these stories over and over again on here. Women monkey branch and don't leave a relationship before knowing they have sth else they can pursue. Your comment about having to 'play nice' until divorce also r… | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/10/23 07:57 PM |
| 1 | She's Not Yours, Its Just Your TurnWhat did I just read? 😅 | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/10/23 11:54 AM |
| 1 | She's Not Yours, Its Just Your TurnI resent that statement (no offence) as it puts the woman on a pedestal. Like a talk show where the woman goes round deciding who she gets next with the men having no power. It may be true in divorce but I think ilthose women that do this are just poison. Somehow I still haven't given up on the idea of true love and thatbthere are goof women out there. Naiive, yeah I know... | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/10/23 06:52 AM |
| 1 | Any experience with Family Therapy with cheating STBXW?Hah nice one | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/09/23 06:37 AM |
| 1 | Any experience with Family Therapy with cheating STBXW?We tried that but it was v difficult. Also have a smaller one who suffered a lot from 7 days | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/09/23 09:35 AM |
| 1 | Any experience with Family Therapy with cheating STBXW?5y and we're doing 2-2-3 | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/09/23 08:37 AM |
| 1 | Any experience with Family Therapy with cheating STBXW?Yes all agreed and my child knows what the living situation will be but complains about having to swap houses all the time between Mom and Dad... | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/09/23 07:49 AM |
| 3 | Any experience with Family Therapy with cheating STBXW?Thanks all. Appreciate it! | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/09/23 07:30 PM |
| 1 | Just found out my ex-wife had a babyI love my kids to death and will never ever regret having them with cheating STBXW but as others say, it's a blessing that you didn't have kids with her cuz it makes everything so much shittier. The daily contact with the ex prevents you from going full NC. The kids crying at swapovers. The "I miss mommy" at bedtime. It sucks so hard. Be glad it wasn't with you bud some other poor douche who will now have to go through that... | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/09/23 06:50 AM |
| 5 | What's the worst part for you?This one hit me hard about feeling like a failure to your kids. I also always viewed divorced families negatively / sad for the children and tried my best to never make my own kids go through it. STBXW wanted kids before marriage, I said no because I wanted the reassurance of (what I thought) marriages give you. Alas she cheated on me anyway after marriage and 2 kids... now she destroyed my kids' foundation and they're suffering heavily. Breaks my heart | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/09/23 08:30 PM |
| 7 | The toxic friendSimilar here also. Fucking crazy how we all have the same experiences. STBXW's best friend had been complaining about her guy for a good year to us. Shirtly after our separation (she cheated with her boss, gas lit me, trickle truth, the whole common shebang), her best friend also dunped her own guy. Almost certain they planned on doing it together. Funny enough her friend got back together with her hubby and my wife's AP dumped her. I'd enjoy the karma if my kids weren't suffering so much.... | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/09/23 08:16 PM |
| 1 | If your wife returned what was said?No according to my lawyers they don't count in my country... | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/09/23 12:42 AM |
| 3 | If your wife returned what was said?I'm the same boat as you also. The entire loss of control is a big theme for me in the divorce. SHE trickle truthed me, SHE decided what SHE thinks I should know about the affair even after she finally admitted it, SHE has all the power in the financial settlement in my country. I can't even tell her how much I hate her for what she's done to my and our kids for fear of repercussions in the settlement. Its just so unfair. I too want the opportunity to tell her to f off if she ever tries / mentio… | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/08/23 03:44 PM |
| 9 | Still AttractedI'm in the same boat. 3 months past d day and I hate myself for still being attracted to her after all the shit she did to me and our kids. What helps me is to remember (i) all her negative sides and clear character flaws i.e. she's not a nice person and (ii) I had her in her prime all the way through her twenties and early 30s and she's deteriorating fast now and (iii) her AP is a good 10y older than her at least and I'm meeting girls 10-12y younger than me (they're all in their 20s) hahaha Goo… | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/06/23 07:42 PM |
| 2 | Best child custody arrangements (3 and 5)Thanks all - appreciate it | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/06/23 02:31 PM |
| 2 | Divorce is just brutal.Then you should've divorced and started a new life. I see no reason whatsoever that justifies it. You have no idea the kind of trauma it causes | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/06/23 05:47 PM |
| 10 | Divorce is just brutal.Zero sympathies from me here mate. There are always other ways ie you could have divorced her. Cheating is a cowards way out. Most men on here deal with the aftermath of having their life crushed by their spouse and in my book you're one of the bad guys | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/06/23 03:38 PM |
| 3 | Dealing with SeparationMy wife said that also and then turned out she had an affair and clearly wanted to see which one to pursue (us or him). Don't do it. This is cheater textbook stuff | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/05/23 10:52 AM |
| 11 | Wife asked for divorce this week. Terrible feeling. Making slow steps to rebuild but am needing camaraderie and shoulders to lean on.Just a warning Bro, my wife said the same thing and turned out she had an affair | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/05/23 10:03 AM |
| 3 | Divorcing after 22 years of MarriageThanks for the reply! | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/05/23 01:31 PM |
| 3 | Divorcing after 22 years of MarriageThanks for sharing - that is very helpful to read. In my case it was 14 years (though only 7 married). May I ask whether you have kids and if so how you dealt with that? We do so unfortunately she'll remain a part of my life forever... | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/05/23 12:17 PM |
| 2 | Rough Day Today GuysThis may sound silly but I found a song that oddly really helps me. "I hope she cheats" from Tory Rines. Clearly its the wrong way around but still very helpful. Maybe check it out and the other divorce playlists on Spotify | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/04/23 07:39 PM |
| 4 | Rough Day Today GuysMan your post really hit hard. I hope you're OK Bro. Similar position here. Just trying to get my frustrations out at the gym and day dreaming about all the beautiful women I see 😊 | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/04/23 07:37 PM |
| 4 | So much angerMan I'm sorry. I think this her way of dealing with the guilt. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/04/23 12:38 PM |
| 2 | How do you guys deal with the fact your ex-wives could pick anyone up in a week, but it might take you YEARS (or never)?Agreed. Think they may be undergoing some sort of early midlife crisis. | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/04/23 07:43 PM |
| 3 | How do you guys deal with the fact your ex-wives could pick anyone up in a week, but it might take you YEARS (or never)?I have this fear also. My STBXW is def hot but she's also the one that cheated on me. She also ages terribly (wrinkles fought with Botox helps but saggy boobs and wrinkly tummy, not like you could tell when she's dressed up). Her mom looks 80 at 60. Like others said I'm hopeful that I'm a good package - mid 30s, high paying job, house, motorcycle, got my life on track and I'm not the cheater. My brother created a fake tinder profile so we could scout the area and there are so many beautiful wome… | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/04/23 04:13 PM |
| 1 | Reaching out for helpI'm so sorry to hear that OP. My wife just dropped the bomb also and she's Norwegian, we were married for an equal time and have kids the exact same age as you. It's haunting how similar our experience is! I mirror everyone's thoughts; stay around and think about your kids. Norwegians are very divorce heavy and I believe it'll cause damage to the kids no matter what but it is my job to provide them with stability and get the best life they can. Also sounds like she's not stable and this may make… | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/04/23 08:05 AM |
| 1 | Any advice?Thanks MR | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/04/23 03:11 PM |
| 1 | Any advice?Unfortunately you were all right. After some pressure she finally admitted she sleep with a guy at work. Some divorced guy who apparently stopped talking to her when his gf found out (so she was not the one to stop it). This was 2 months ago... | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/04/23 02:51 AM |
| 1 | Any advice?Thank you! | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/04/23 08:04 AM |
| 1 | Any advice?Thanks for the comprehensive response | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/23 08:01 AM |
| 1 | Any advice?She only got a job recently after extended mat leave | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/03/23 08:54 PM |
| -1 | Any advice?Thanks mate. None of that and I even have access to her phone etc but won't check as feels intrusive without any evidence. She hasn't booked Airbnb but I'm sure she'll tell me where. She offered to share childcare for the period of her staying away but agreed to my suggestion of leaving them with me so as to not disrupt their normal routines. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/03/23 08:09 PM |
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