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RantThrowawayToAskHardQs/r/Divorce_Men13/09/24 07:15 AM
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Need SupportThrowawayToAskHardQs/r/Divorce_Men02/08/24 09:24 PM
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Was that a Guardians of the Galaxy reference? If so, you got a chuckle out of me (which I needed)
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/24 04:03 PM
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I appreciate this response. Working on my personal walk with Christ and how I respond to the situation, rather than trying to control it.
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/24 04:00 PM
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Absolutely agree - I believe in therapy (have a great therapist!) and have been training for my first ever 5K. Mental, physical, and spiritual health all tie together in my opinion. I mean in terms of giving control of the situation to Him. To each their own beliefs, so I appreciate the kind response.
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/24 03:58 PM
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I just want someone in her life to shake her by the shoulders and help her realize how insane her behavior is - but that's not how alcoholism works...
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/24 03:56 PM
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Yup, letting go and giving it to God. I can only work on me in this season.
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/24 03:52 PM
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Not done yet... Our state requires a year separation. And the kids conversation was, "I don't want to have kids yet, because I don't know if one day you'll get drunk and leave me." (If only my investment portfolio predictions were as prescient as that statement...)
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/24 03:03 PM
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I'm still praying for her healing. Prosperity comes in navy different forms, and if this season doesn't glorify God, then I don't want it.
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/24 12:34 PM
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I would like the third, logical option: she gets sober and stops her insanity....
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/24 12:33 PM
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Still my monkey legally and emotionally... We have 10 months to go for our state.
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/24 08:12 AM
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Praying that your wife can get sober. I'm praying the same for mine.
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/24 07:44 AM
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Does my STBXW have a clone? Because this is basically exactly what I'm going through.
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/24 07:17 AM
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Yep. So now to wait out the year of separation, and pray for God to work in our lives. I'm learning how to let go and give it to Him, and that's been a real struggle. Basically praying, "I believe you can heal us, help my unbelief." And if over the next year, we reconcile, it will be for the glory of God.
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/24 04:31 AM
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I am a Christian, and my view of marriage is pretty conservative. I'm really feeling disheartened because I know that the Bible tells me that my wife and I should reconcile. But her actions are anything but. Every day is a battle, where I just pray that God will take this from me. I am completely exhausted from five years of protecting her reputation, trying to grow myself, and fighting for our marriage. So in your analogy, my hardened heart is my prison, and I'm praying to be softened in this s…
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/24 03:58 AM
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I'll be praying for you both. I hope my wife comes to the same place.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/24 12:47 AM
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This. 100% this. My MIL is a great woman, but dumb as hell, so she's just standing up for her daughter. My FIL is a retired cop - once you give a man a badge and a gun, they view every problem in life as something to litigate or shoot. He's ignored every request for help I've sent him. Drunk driving, abuse, infidelity, he's turned a blind eye for his little girl. He'd rather command others how to live their life and get drunk in his retirement pool.
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/24 02:21 AM
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My STBX-in-laws have been so disrespectful to me over the years, I'm honestly not surprised mine are behaving the way they are. Hell, my FIL has a tattoo of my wife's deceased ex-boyfriend. They've wanted me out since she and I met, and now they're champing at the bit to oust me. It's really disheartening.
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/24 02:15 AM
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Is this "bi-wife-throws-marriage-away-to-do-whatever-she-wants" just a thing we all face?
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/24 02:04 AM
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I wish it felt like my best. No one teaches a college course on how to address alcoholism in relationships. The signs were all there, I just couldn't piece them together.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/24 07:03 PM
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I wish I'd gotten her more serious help five years ago. I just thought we were dealing with poor self control and poor boundaries. Now I see the alcoholism for what it is.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/24 07:01 PM
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I only realized how little they cared about me recently. I didn't reach out to mine because they live across the country. Hers is 15 minutes away. But to text them to let them know she was driving home drunk and I needed help, only to have them now tell me I am the reason she drank.... That stings, even though I know alcoholism is a disease.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/24 07:00 PM
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I think the thing that hurts is that she also claims to be a believer, and yet she's not seeking reconciliation. Philemon comes to mind for me. And yet, reconciliation requires two parties... Forgiveness only requires me. I'm going to struggle with this for a long time.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/24 06:58 PM
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I know now how little respect she has for me. I think that makes it sting even worse. I tried to grow - and I did. But the goalposts were moved, and she intentionally crossed boundaries. Doesn't make it any easier at this stage...
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/24 06:56 PM
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