| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 781 | She quit her job and is live-in childcare for her husband’s affair baby and is now being asked to cancel her birthday trip to babysit | FDS RESCUE MISSION | Throwaway__FDS | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 05:19 PM |
| 122 | They aren’t even hiding the fact that they want to be babied into adulthood. 🚩MOMMY ISSUES🚩 | THINGS SCROTES SAY | Throwaway__FDS | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 09:50 PM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|
| 2 | The FDS Love SpellThank you so much for this! I am currently not ready to date, as I’m still in school, but something compelled me to search this sub for a love spell I can try when I am ready. And I found my answer. Blessed be, sister! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/22 05:36 PM |
| 12 | My boyfriend (31) says he wants to move in with me so he can “save” and is not talking about going half on bills. How can I tell him that I expect him to pay bills if he moves in with me ?u/skysthelimit224 what is his current living situation? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/22 05:30 PM |
| 18 | Run run run far away girl 😱she doesn’t even find it funny | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/22 06:57 PM |
| 3 | FDS seems to be catching on, on Reddit : good job ladies!most of the ladies in my life are leveling up, but it could just be who I surround myself with 👑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/22 05:42 AM |
| 46 | The ad I got on a video about domestic violence. On International Women’s Day!I saw a woman tweet once about how she’d rather drag her bare pussy on the pavement than propose to a man and I agree | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/22 08:02 PM |
| 173 | Above all, FDS has taught me to value my time. Following FDS would have prevented this from even happening imoanother reminder to lurker scrotes: being wealthy doesn’t automatically qualify a man as HV. you’ve got cases like these. and many cases so, so much worse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 07:03 AM |
| 122 | Above all, FDS has taught me to value my time. Following FDS would have prevented this from even happening imoif he was so rich and wanted to talk about his money the entire date then why’d he agree to a coffee date? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/22 07:01 AM |
| 149 | This. Is. Horrifying. Husband thinks it’s okay her sister was physically abused and went to the hospital by her boyfriend. Wife hasn’t mentioned leaving him in either post (that I’ve seen)There’s something I feel is so powerful about getting a guy to confess depraved shit, pretending like you agree, and then cutting him off. he’ll be blindsided wondering what went wrong, and leaving shitty men like that confused and sad helps me sleep at night. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 07:25 AM |
| 2 | Which book impacted you the most and would be your first pick as a gift to someone?I found it for a couple bucks used on Amazon! Thanks for the synopsis! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 06:50 PM |
| 2 | Which book impacted you the most and would be your first pick as a gift to someone?what’s “all men are jerks until proven otherwise” about? I gave my sister Lundy Bancroft’s Why Does He Do That? and she loves it and is learning so much from it after leaving her last boyfriend, so I’m browsing this thread for her. She’s reading it so fast lol I want to find her another book! I can’t find the best synopsis online though :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 04:40 AM |
| 30 | No 🥰The answer is NO, it was exhausting trying to get that guy into some kind of trade school so that I wouldn’t make more quadruple his salary once I graduated. I realized that me making 4x as much as him wouldn’t light a fire under his ass, it would make him more comfortable. And y’all, it was a LDR and he wanted ME to relocate to HIM, probably so that I’d have no family or friends to support me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 11:15 PM |
| 64 | he has abs and attends uni, so because of this he believes he should be drowning in attractive women. proceeds to whine for several paragraphsthat translated to “smithing” in my head. maybe he should get into blacksmithing instead of spending all his free time in the gym. it would probably make him more interesting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 03:55 AM |
| 18 | This man is 24. His “best friend” was 14 while he was a 20 year old man waiting for her to be legal to call his GF. This man is a pedophile.He looks like a pedophile AND a serial killer. I think it’s the glasses and the haircut. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 12:10 AM |
| 8 | Perfect example of men having issues with your pets being a red flag! And this queen response!!!this dude is fr beefing with a damn cat 🙄😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 12:11 AM |
| 10 | The kids are gonna be alright! (Scroll for comments)I love TikTok for this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/21 06:08 AM |
| 2 | Automatic dealbreaker for me, but are men who use intentional misspellings lv/nv?we don’t use flip phones anymore, they don’t need to be abbreviating texts because it takes 0.5 extra seconds to type “are” vs “R” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 07:50 PM |
| 20 | A first year of not downloading Tinder out of boredom and depressionI’m 21 (almost 22) and I’m not sure when I deleted all of my dating apps, but I think it’s been about a year and a half at this point. I’ve never been more content with it. I’m focused 100% on finishing nursing school, dating apps and desperately looking for a relationship is the last thing on my mind. Congrats on being Tinder-free! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 05:25 PM |
| 18 | What are your thoughts on changing your name after marriage?I’m not doing it. I have a unique last name to my family and will be graduating with my bachelor’s degree under MY last name. I couldn’t bear to change my cool and unique last name to something like Smith or Jones. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 11:48 PM |
| 2 | I have no wordsI have curly hair and I use a special t-shirt towel. I wouldn’t let ANYONE use that towel on their bodies. I need it anytime I have to take a shower. I can’t use a regular towel or my hair gets frizzy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/21 10:00 PM |
| 151 | Another reason why we should never date men who don’t clean and proactively manage their health: this woman’s husband has poorly managed IBS and she’s getting shamed for being disgusted (“IN SICKNESS OR IN HEALTH!”) because he makes her clean up his literal shit.That’s exactly what I was thinking. Even with normal bowels, if you eat nothing but shit foods and never eat fiber or vegetables, you’re bound to have similar symptoms. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 03:11 PM |
| 48 | Funniest/smallest/strangest Seinfeld-like red flag 🚩 you personally had with an ex?It’s always so telling the way men react to people protesting or supporting any cause or fundraiser. Not only for the generosity aspect, but sympathy for an issue. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 07:49 AM |
| 44 | Funniest/smallest/strangest Seinfeld-like red flag 🚩 you personally had with an ex?My NV narcissistic ex would always get so weird about how I prepared food in the kitchen. Like his way was the only way to do things. I had to kick him out while I was cooking multiple times cause he stressed me the hell out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 07:44 AM |
| 34 | Funniest/smallest/strangest Seinfeld-like red flag 🚩 you personally had with an ex?I had that experience too, my cat has boundaries. You can tell she didn’t grow up in a good home. Took me about a year to gain her trust, and now she loves the hell out of me. It was slow, and I did so by learning when she gets overstimulated (it’s not obvious and it’s quick) and keeping petting sessions relatively short. That’s not the case anymore though, cause she trusted me and hasn’t bitten me in over a year. This guy I was seeing didn’t want to take the same approach. He said if we moved i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 07:41 AM |
| 28 | Conservative men can be so misogynistic that I can no longer tell the difference between reality and satire.I was confused when I read that at first, I had no idea what size he was referring to 😂 probably because I haven’t worn a size 6 shoe since I was in middle school | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 07:45 PM |
| 18 | Conservative men can be so misogynistic that I can no longer tell the difference between reality and satire.SIZE 12 TO 16 WAIST 🤣 I don’t even think that’s possible | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 07:42 PM |
| 8 | Timing question when it comes to exclusivity?3 dates within 2 weeks isn’t much time at all for him to have a mask on if he’s love-bombing you. This is probably my main concern for you and is key to vetting that I feel often goes overlooked because the man seems HV. Is the connection seemingly deep within a short period of knowing you? I’d actually say that if he asks you to be exclusive this early into the relationship, that’s a major red flag. I was exclusive with my narcissist ex within 3 weeks of knowing him, and that’s definitely not e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 06:20 AM |
| 27 | Be Wary Of Male DoctorsI draw the line at seeing male therapists too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 06:03 AM |
| 1 | Men really out here thinking having a wife is being "romance scammed" in a thread about a "girl" on bumble potentially robbing a guy.oh the HORROR 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 05:03 AM |
| 11 | What's everyone's MBTI type?of course most of us are intuitive dominant | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 06:43 PM |
| 19 | Let’s create a megathread: What is one of the best pieces of advice you’ve learned from this sub that has blown your mind or had the greatest impact on your life?firstly, I’m truly sorry for your loss. I sometimes catch myself in “oh shit” moments too where on impulse I say too much and forget what FDS has taught me. it’s a learning curve, and by no means will we be perfect at it right away. glad you were able to catch the LV behavior in the moment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/21 06:22 AM |
| 76 | “Coersion isn’t Consent”Thanks to this list I found out I was actually sexually assaulted. We were supposed to go to a car meet that was apparently “cancelled”. Went back to his place (because he was driving) and he escalated things. Thankfully it didn’t go all the way but it had always left a weird feeling. He even apologized after when he was taking me home that he didn’t ask for my consent because he thought it would’ve been awkward in the moment. I was so naïve back then. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/21 05:39 AM |
| 41 | Coworker wanted to set me up with her son.Idk why they see us asking them to get therapy is an insult. Vent to someone who’s paid to care. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 03:13 AM |
| 96 | FDSers who are married to or dating HVM, what brought you here?thank the universe I found this sub in my 20s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 02:53 AM |
| 119 | Coworker wanted to set me up with her son.She paints her son is such a bad light lmao. I’ve dated guys with “depression” who refuse to receive help for it. I’m nobody’s therapist, I don’t get paid for that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/21 01:59 AM |
| 2 | If he pulls away, don't give him space...my recent pick-me self gave my ex a break when he wasn’t communicating well with me and had the audacity to call me clingy for asking for the bare minimum as his girlfriend. he was “going through a tough time with work”. I initiated the break as a punishment for his behavior. he reached out to me when he saw me out getting dinner with a friend (we were long-distance and shared our locations with each other). I stupidly took him back. said I loved and missed him and shit. he didn’t change though.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 08:52 PM |
| 12 | Of course the grown husband is taking notes on how to clean along with the kids 🚩Who wrote that one? I’m trying to compile a list of FDS-style books. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 07:47 AM |
| 29 | What to do when you see a Pickmeisha receiving terrible advice on other dating subsI’ve only put one woman onto FDS unfortunately. Would really love to see more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 07:06 AM |
| 38 | [deleted by user]One way I’ll never fall for lovebombing again is asking myself if something is too good to be true. I too have a mix of dismissive/fearful avoidant attachment style and unfortunately drew in a covert narcissist as my first long-term boyfriend. He wowed me right away with a seemingly deep connection in a short amount of time. This isn’t normal. By 3 weeks we were official and I’d already slept with him. I used to tell myself before that I had to be in a relationship for a couple months before I d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/21 07:04 AM |
| 2 | FDS Going Private For Monthly Cleanup - Sept 1st and 2ndThis sounds like a great idea, I appreciate all that you ladies do! I also thank you for approving me to comment today! This is my favorite group on Reddit | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 11:36 PM |
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