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Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
4	How to deal with demands and them being annoyed?	Inner Game	Throwawayd2nd	/r/seduction	01/10/24 09:57 PM

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4	6 Dates In: A Humbling Experience From my experience that doesn’t usually work. Many girls I know stop speaking when they feel the pressure is on, and just remain silent. Or, the conversation starts feeling forced. I react well with whatever they say, and am able to keep a conversation running, but many girls don’t speak or interact, they don’t know how to, not because they don’t want to. That is one thing I’m still trying to figure out.	/r/seduction	26/10/24 01:35 PM
2	Just read the book 'Models' by Mark Manson, and it highlighted how neurodivergent I actually am. A lot of these make sense, I got a lot of what you mentioned, I do pick up sports and games fairly quickly, though I’m not very athletic. I do have significant amounts of trauma, abuse in addition to ADHD and anxiety, and they all play a part in social interactions. On the other hand, I rarely see girls I like enough for me to approach, and most of the ones I like are married already. When I do see one I like, I do great with them, am forward, open, joking, flirting, straightforward, and I do ha…	/r/seduction	26/10/24 09:19 AM
8	Just read the book 'Models' by Mark Manson, and it highlighted how neurodivergent I actually am. I got both, anxiety, ADHD, plus a whooping lot of trauma and abuse. Just convincing myself that I’m not a creep or a monster or socially inept took many years of work.	/r/seduction	26/10/24 09:11 AM
3	Just Get a Girlfriend. I’m married, my wife thinks I’m uncool. I’m here to change that basically.	/r/seduction	22/10/24 10:01 AM
3	When did women gain so much leverage? Shit dude, I’m married and logically I can explain to my wife all the good things I do to her and that I’m literally doing what she’s demanding of me at the moment already, but she can’t even see it. She subconsciously feels like I’m being short with her, not treating her well enough, not caring about her because I’m not turning it up to a 10 at all times! Today she literally argued with me about how I don’t care about her and never listen to what she says because she said I look uncool when I d…	/r/seduction	14/10/24 02:22 AM
1	How to deal with demands and them being annoyed? You’re absolutely correct about all of my exes not liking their life, and being generally unhappy people, each in her own way. And what makes me more upset, is that whatever is out there is much better. I’m yet to find a girl I’m truly compatible and comfortable with. Why I liked them? With my ex it was simple, she basically has this persona of the perfect woman, she was intelligent, quick witted, showered me in attention, good at her job, treated everyone with kindness, showed me her art that s…	/r/seduction	05/10/24 03:05 PM
1	How to deal with demands and them being annoyed? Work(my ex), university (before that), through relatives (my current one). I learnt what narcissistic personality disorder is, the hard way because of my ex. Sadly, it was only after we broke up and it made sooo much sense! Tried to deny it as hard as I could, but it was irrefutable. Not sure what I’m supposed to learn from my current girl. Perhaps how to spot if a chick isn’t interested in you but just can’t break up due to to whatever reason, so she tries to change you into something/someone e…	/r/seduction	05/10/24 12:48 PM
1	How to deal with demands and them being annoyed? I wish it was even like that, that they were hot girls :’) The way they get me is that they mimic everything I like, initially. They claim to be saints, and not fussy, and are down to do whatever They talk about their humanitarian side and how they love helping others and all the things they do to the kids. Me being naive I just believe it, and soon after, the mask falls, and escaping is that much more difficult. My ex was super toxic no amount of magic words would suffice, but at least I felt s…	/r/seduction	05/10/24 04:22 AM
1	How to deal with demands and them being annoyed? Yeah, I stopped bothering. I talk a bit about something interesting, joke around a but, if she talks I go on, if not, I remain silent. Sometimes she’ll fine, but it is not very often. I feel like I’m playing Russian roulette on the daily, you never know what’s coming at you until you pull the trigger and see.	/r/seduction	05/10/24 03:25 AM
1	How to deal with demands and them being annoyed? Leads to them getting even more frustrated and bothering me even more about it, and then they act sad, block me, etc.	/r/seduction	04/10/24 11:17 PM
1	How to deal with demands and them being annoyed? Doesn’t work over text. I’m never angry, but unless I display upset she won’t listen. I can ignore her “why are you ignoring me” text and just go on, Or I suppose I can check her when she cuts me off mid-conversation to start something else. But it usually comes as a shock to me because of how rude it is. I don’t even remember my crazy ex doing something like this.	/r/seduction	04/10/24 11:16 PM
2	How to deal with demands and them being annoyed? She only listens to me AFTER I get upset, that’s one issue. Was the same with my ex. I feel like a magnet to chicks with issues. The texts I missed that got her pissed, I was literally mid explaining why I couldn’t text back and she goes like “Can I understand why you’re ignoring me”, and here I was telling her how I’m juggling 4 or 5 different issues at once. But I guess I didn’t frame it in a way that makes her the centre of attention, so she never paid any attention in return. I’m just tired …	/r/seduction	04/10/24 11:12 PM
1	How to deal with demands and them being annoyed? Your last sentence captured the essence of what I feel— I hate the feeling that I’m someone’s dancing monkey. Sometimes it leads to nice conversations, sometimes people listen, I know I can be charismatic, well articulated, and interesting, but with my current girl it feels like— pearls at swine, for the lack of a better word. All I am is a validation vending machine.	/r/seduction	04/10/24 11:09 PM
1	How to deal with demands and them being annoyed? I learnt what you told me the hard way with my ex. She just wants reassurance, and wants to feel safe. With my current girl it feels different, it just feels like she doesn’t give an F about me, what I care about or anything. The texts I missed, it was literally just a stream of photos of furniture I’m never gonna buy, which we had just seen and just decided it doesn’t fit my place. It was minutes after I texted her that I was gonna pick her up and take her out despite my hectic schedule that da…	/r/seduction	04/10/24 11:07 PM
2	How to deal with demands and them being annoyed? Thank you for your answer, it makes so much sense. My issue with this girl is that she doesn’t speak, I ask about all the stuff you mentioned, I tried asking about specifics, I tried asking about friends, hobbies, heck, I tried asking about the book she was reading, and she said she doesn’t like giving summaries. It’s always short answers. Sometimes she’ll complain relatively at length about uni, but that’s it. Today I tried talking a bit about a book I read about eroticism, no nibble on that ho…	/r/seduction	04/10/24 10:50 PM
1	How to deal with demands and them being annoyed? Oh okay, makes sense. How would I make it up to them without looking needy, or getting them to abuse this by acting upset every time they want attention though? I want to be nice, while avoiding being exploited. What would be signals of a larger issue?	/r/seduction	01/10/24 10:23 PM
6	Former insecure people when /how did you accept you are attractive? Except for my wife, she wants me to wear heels. I’ll die before doing that for her.	/r/seduction	23/09/24 06:35 PM
3	Former insecure people when /how did you accept you are attractive? Regarding the parents, I’m in a pretty much identical situation. With my dad it’s like he’s in a competition with us “You went to the gym and you think you’re strong now!? you’re just a wuss/wimp, you’re just wasting my money for the food you’re eating” When I stopped going he was like “oh why did you stop? You look skinny AF, your body looks scary, you need to workout and eat better“ To your day he still interrupts and ridicules me constantly whenever I speak to others, and I’ve addressed this …	/r/seduction	23/09/24 06:31 PM
2	What are your usual responses when women challenges you? I like this, might try it out. I need to practice my jokes in reply to such comments, especially since I get them a lot from my girl [shirt, food taste, the way I laugh, my height, hobbies etc.	/r/seduction	19/09/24 06:43 PM