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ThrowghAway74/r/seduction28/05/22 02:11 AM
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Yep, my ex kinda messed my confidence up pretty badly. Constantly fighting with liking myself since then tbh
/r/seduction11/10/22 03:09 AM
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None because I’m not that kind of guy. I’m not purposely going to flirt with other women when she is present. If that’s what I need to keep her interest then she can kick rocks. I don’t want to have her coming up to me and giving me shit for flirting with other women just so she is constantly reminded I have options. To me that sounds like a damn headache. I text the other women separately. If I’m at the bar I’ll be friendly to others, but not with the soul intention of getting a rise out of her…
/r/seduction11/10/22 01:40 AM
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Yeah currently seeing around 3 different women including her. That in of itself is pretty taxing lol
/r/seduction10/10/22 11:38 PM
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Yeah I mean you’re probably right. Being that extroverted is tiring for me honestly. Being with this girl for the short time I have proves it tbh. I like mingling with people, but not all the time. At least not to the capacity she seems to like. Honestly the more I think about it the more I think it’s a fluke I even landed her.
/r/seduction10/10/22 08:26 PM
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See that’s the reality that scares the hell out of me. What you said makes sense. Thinking about always having to be “on” and be the guy that talks to everyone, guy or girl, sounds really exhausting to me. Just to keep her attention and not grow tired of me. Having to make her jealous to keep her attention sounds tiring and full of unnecessary drama. My past LTR’s had very little of that kind of stuff involved.
/r/seduction10/10/22 06:54 AM
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Fair points. It’s just that you can tell when a guy is blatantly trying to hit on her. Even if she is being friendly. Based on eye contact, topic, and overall body language. I’m sure she is aware of that as well too.
/r/seduction10/10/22 06:40 AM
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Honestly there’s been a few times where I am physical with her in public and when I go to the bathroom a guy has begun talking to her. I usually just go and grab a drink or walk over to my friends. I don’t care enough to deal with the awkwardness of confronting the guy and I don’t feel the need to assert my dominance over a random dude. She’ll usually just come join me afterward or give me a signal to come “save” her.
/r/seduction10/10/22 06:27 AM
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Nah she can’t text guy friends, don’t care about that. Not the kind of guy that tells her she can’t talk to certain people. Not what I’m about. Yeah I never feed her ego, it’s big enough already haha
/r/seduction10/10/22 06:23 AM
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If I were to give you more detail about her you’d probably understand better. If you met her you’d probably get where I’m coming from, but it sounds like you have already assumed the worst of me. I personally have never cheated on someone and have been lucky to not have it happen to me either. She on the other hand has been known to cheat from different sources that I’ve met at the bar. I trust my GF’s when they go out and drink without me. As I think that’s a basis for a healthy relationship. I…
/r/seduction10/10/22 06:18 AM
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Don’t like it when people use the term alpha male seriously… sorry
/r/seduction10/10/22 05:55 AM
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I literally haven’t done anything controlling though? I’m expressing to you all that I’m beginning to feel jealousy. I have told her that I don’t care if she talks to other guys. I would never be controlling, it’s not in me to be that guy. Honestly cringe behaviour tbh
/r/seduction10/10/22 05:54 AM
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She gets butthurt when I flirt with other women which I think is a fair reaction. If I’m just talking it’s fine for the most part. Unless like you said it’s a girl that she sees as a potential threat. I frequent a local bar on weekends and have met men and women there that recognize me when I go. A girl came up to me the other day to say hi when she was with me and she got all questionable about how I knew her and stuff. So in terms of showing value and that I do have options I think it’s pretty…
/r/seduction10/10/22 05:51 AM
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I mean probably, but it’s hard not to get a bit jealous when you’re at the bar every weekend with her and guys are constantly hitting on her in front of you for hours. It starts to take its toll on you
/r/seduction10/10/22 05:08 AM
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I feel like for the most part I’m following everything you’ve laid out there. Don’t react in any negative way to shit tests. Even though she constantly tries to get a rise out of me. If she talks to guys I let her and don’t get butt hurt about. It’s funny I can’t flirt with other women because then she gets all butt hurt and mad. The irony. Currently seeing about 3 women including her, so I have a circle that I can branch off to if it doesn’t work out. Just riding the wave out and seeing where i…
/r/seduction10/10/22 04:14 AM
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I mean yeah the order of things can help. I have a feeling she will cross them pretty soon. I’ll walk and that’ll be that. It’s no big deal to me. I know my worth. I’m a bomb ass bitch my dude.
/r/seduction10/10/22 03:50 AM
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Oh 100% exhausting. Feels like a learning experience to some degree. It’s like constant practice whenever I’m with her. She constantly tries to irritate me or make me jealous and the less I do it the more she wants me. It’s the weirdest thing man. I’ll never understand it as I would never want to do that to a partner of mine.
/r/seduction10/10/22 03:31 AM
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Yeah, like I said above we discussed what’s expected from one another. I told her I won’t put up with certain actions. She knows. If she crosses them then I walk. It’s that simple.
/r/seduction10/10/22 03:16 AM
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Basically this. You can tell she loves attention from men. The few times I have flirted with other women or texted other women with her around she gets rattled. The double standard is extremely annoying. Like you said though she said to me “This comes with the territory, if you’re going to date me you have to get used to it”. Lol
/r/seduction10/10/22 03:15 AM
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She kept bringing it up
/r/seduction10/10/22 02:55 AM
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Honestly don’t see much long term at all, she’s fun and I’m just riding the wave tbh
/r/seduction10/10/22 02:55 AM
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She says she is scared of confrontation so if they ask for her number she will give it to them. Most recent one was a guy that drove her home from the bar the other night. He then tried texting her to hangout when I was around with her and she just showed me and laughed. I was like “Looks like the guy is shooting his shot, good for him.” He then sent 6 messages in a row that were all completely ignored by her and laughed at by me tbh. Guy was relentless.
/r/seduction10/10/22 02:54 AM
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Yep, basically what I’ve been doing. She hits me with basically 100 shit tests throughout the night and I just don’t react to them. Basically just make fun of her for them or just reject the reaction she is trying to get out of me. Seems to be working, but man it gets tiring when it happens all the damn time
/r/seduction10/10/22 01:12 AM
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I mean due to her nature of how she has been dealing with things I haven’t completely severed the other women I’m talking to. As I think she hasn’t done the same with the guys she’s talking too.
/r/seduction09/10/22 11:27 PM
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We have already had that talk. Basically I told her what my boundaries are and if she crosses them then it’s over. I’ve been clear about that. I’ve learned in the past not to get walked on and I won’t let it happen again trust me.
/r/seduction09/10/22 11:26 PM
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Yep pretty much what I’m dealing with. It’s really tiring watch every guy in the bar try to sleep with her, or pull her away somewhere “quieter”. It’s exhausting. I on the other hand like to flirt, but out of respect don’t do it in front of her. It’s just really annoying to deal with and honestly I’m already beginning to feel burnt out by the whole thing.
/r/seduction09/10/22 11:25 PM
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Probably right
/r/seduction09/10/22 11:23 PM
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Never looked through her messages. Just see guys text her and she will tell me that they’re texting her.
/r/seduction09/10/22 11:22 PM
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More power to that dude, if he knows about the BF and proceeds then his morals differ a lot from mine. I couldn’t go through with it after finding out.
/r/seduction06/09/22 04:42 PM
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Yeah that’s where my head is at. She has my number she can reach out if she wants. Throughout the night it’s clear she is going to cheat on this dude eventually. I just couldn’t bring myself to be the guy that does it. I’d feel guilty.
/r/seduction06/09/22 04:40 PM
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Nah slept with attractive women before, just thought she was hot. Ultimately decided against it as my morals wouldn’t let me do so, and I’d have serious guilt the next morning. Felt really bad for the BF if I’m being honest.
/r/seduction06/09/22 04:37 PM
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If I had to guess my main mistake was definitely taking her for granted. Just thought she’d never leave me. I tried communicating and working on issues, but she had made her decision and didn’t try and make things work. I had also struggled with depression and anxiety which I think she decided she didn’t want to deal with anymore. You’re right about her beauty. She was gorgeous IMO, friends and family all agreed. With the ongoing joke being how did I land her in the first place. Met her through …
/r/seduction25/08/22 05:13 PM
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I mean not sure what else I could have done tbh haha. Never really had any past GF’s or partners ever say I was bad. I’m extremely generous and don’t finish until they do. I also always go down on them. Ask about what positions they prefer. Can control how long I last. I basically get off more when they do. Not sure what else I can really work on that I haven’t already. Still what you said could be a determining factor. Always ways to improve. Still I’m beginning to digress from the topic haha. …
/r/seduction15/08/22 11:28 PM
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I mean you could be right. She did cum once or faked it really well. Went for about 30mins or so. Don’t think it was terrible by any stretch, but who knows.
/r/seduction15/08/22 11:19 PM
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I just hate texting though. What would do in this situation then? Atm it feels like they’re losing interest so idk what to really text or say
/r/seduction03/08/22 12:25 AM
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Are you saying this purely on how her body language was? Or mainly because she hooked up on the first date?
/r/seduction01/08/22 11:13 PM
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Have to hard disagree with a lot of this mate. Shit tests are there for a reason. Even if she finds you attractive. You need to prove to her that you’re worth her time. The hotter the girl the more options she has. She needs to weed out all the AFC’s otherwise she’d sleep with every guy that walks up to her. Shit tests in a way is playful teasing. The ones she gave me weren’t rude or disrespectful in any way. Even ugly chicks will shit test you, but if you want to deny that reality then that’s a…
/r/seduction04/07/22 11:52 PM
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Yeah, honestly I just worry I won’t be able to find someone that attractive again. I honestly doubt myself. Feels like sheer luck I landed her in the first place
/r/seduction03/07/22 11:51 PM
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I dont do that boring how was your day because like you said it’s lame. I usually just poke fun with something on there profile. Then gauge there reaction after that. I feel asking for a number to soon will leave you ghosted most of the time. Because other guys have ruined that for the rest of us by sending dick pics and shit. So I have no idea lol. Appreciate the response.
/r/seduction30/06/22 09:08 PM
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Have to disagree with you here. Nothing wrong with conveying you had fun on the first date. I don’t need the girl to stew over whether or not I like her. I don’t play games like that. Most likely scenario she takes my lack of texting as a sign of disinterest and moves on. I don’t think me sending one text makes me putty in her hands lmao, it’d be different if I hit her with a bunch of texts. I usually wait a bit after sending that text to follow up on a second date.
/r/seduction26/06/22 03:42 AM
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We had a time constraint as she had to be home by a certain time as she works early. I also feel I tried to escalate as best I could, but she wasn’t really reciprocating and I didn’t want to come off to pushy. The location of the date wasn’t really near my place either so pulling would have been hard. That’s on me.
/r/seduction26/06/22 01:26 AM
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I’m not sure how else I could have escalated. Not saying you’re wrong, but she wasn’t really reciprocating. So I didn’t want to come off as overbearing. Just the kiss at the end kind of threw me off to be honest. I don’t plan on texting her again until she reaches out like you said. I guess time will tell :/
/r/seduction26/06/22 12:05 AM
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Yeah, I’ve read your past comments, feel bad for women that date you tbh. You see them as nothing more then a place to put your dick. Just sad
/r/seduction15/06/22 04:02 AM
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I have no idea mate. I feel I’m anywhere from a 5-8. All seems to depend on how I’m feeling that night and the women I talk too. Attractiveness is subjective after all
/r/seduction09/06/22 04:50 PM
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I appreciate it, don’t be sorry about giving solid advice. Just last question so I’m clear. When you personally set a date and time, you never shoot a text saying like “I’m on my way” or anything? You just show up? Like I usually shoot a text like that with friends and family to just give a heads up or reminder
/r/seduction07/06/22 11:39 PM
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I honestly do most of what you said in your reply. Which thank you for the detailed response btw. If I’m working, at the gym, or eating I won’t reply as I’m busy. I just feel a bit like an asshole when they ask me a question or reply in let’s say an hour and I get back to them in like 2 hours+. It’s not that I’m outcome dependant, I just don’t like people feeling like I’m ignoring them. I’m the same way with friends and family. Generally like you said I hit them with like 3 to 4 causal messages …
/r/seduction07/06/22 10:55 PM
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I like going to clubs. It’s a good time. Usually it’s to hang and party with friends with girls being an added bonus. I was just looking for a way to approach certain women like the ones mentioned above. As explained I did find a girl at the end of the night. Not sure where you read I was having a bad time, far from it really
/r/seduction06/06/22 02:02 AM
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I get what you’re saying, but if she’s pulling me through a crowd like a dance floor, it’d be a tad weird to make people move out of the way so I can join at her side.
/r/seduction03/06/22 04:38 AM
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Again you’re right. I’m to much in my head. Need to just go with the flow and just live in that moment.
/r/seduction28/05/22 07:47 AM
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Okay, just curious. If you’re shooting the shit and you don’t click do you generally just say have a nice day and leave? Or do you say fuck it and ask for the number anyway? You’re right though. I go in with high expectations. All these things I want to accomplish. Want to make her laugh, Want her to like me, Want her smile when I compliment her, Want her number, etc. With this laundry list of things I want out of the interaction it just paralyzes me with fear when I consider approaching. With e…
/r/seduction28/05/22 07:00 AM
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Yeah I’ve begun talking to strangers to help with building that confidence. As soon as I put the frame of hitting on someone though it immediately throws me off.
/r/seduction28/05/22 06:29 AM
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This made me chuckle and smile mate. Thanks for the words of encouragement. You’re absolutely right
/r/seduction28/05/22 06:28 AM
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I personally love how edgy you’re. It’s super cool. I don’t think I was whining, more so explaining where I’m coming from. My thoughts and doubts. Eventually leading to asking for advice. At no point did I complain or bitch about about not being able to pick up women or it being to hard. Just frustration in myself. If gaslighting is how you give advice I’ll look elsewhere edgelord
/r/seduction28/05/22 03:24 AM
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My god it’s a big jump though XD
/r/seduction28/05/22 03:21 AM
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Appreciate the post mate. I’ve been talking to strangers more, but I like that video you posted. I think it’s great at getting out of your head and just practicing by greeting everyone to build up that confidence level. Going to implement that and hopefully move up to the big leagues. Thanks again!
/r/seduction28/05/22 03:21 AM
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What helps me the most is make conversation with EVERYONE. That means the 68 year old guy behind you in line at the gas station. That means the mother of two waiting at the crosswalk next to you. That means asking about the delivery drivers night when they drop food off. Make approaching and talking to strangers part of who you’re. It’s the best way to get yourself loosened up and become more comfortable with approaching. It’s done wonders for me my friend. People can tell when someone is genuin…
/r/seduction26/05/22 09:11 AM
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Noice so I’ll take it as a win haha
/r/seduction26/05/22 09:08 AM
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The most helpful piece of advice I’ve read and implemented is try to avoid questions. Always try when you can to make assumptions. It can be about literally anything. If you have a smile and maybe a self amused laugh they will almost always respond positively. For example the shy girl. I just said “your feet look like they’re in pain right now,”. Her response was a cute chuckle and a head nod in agreement, then proceeded to tell me how long her day has been. I then just said I bet she can’t wait…
/r/seduction26/05/22 09:06 AM
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Appreciate the post. I had struggles even just approaching other guys tbh. Plus the headspace I was in feels like I’d come off rather quiet and calm and not really match the atmosphere. I also found myself looking for to many signs of attraction, mainly eye contact from women. So that I could convince myself they wanted me to approach. The reality of it is most girls won’t as if they did this to a lot of guys they would be swarmed all night, so I get it. Need to just say fuck it next time and ap…
/r/seduction14/05/22 05:43 PM
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I am extremely insecure about dancing. So don’t know how to be there guy tbh. Need to work on that for sure
/r/seduction14/05/22 05:23 PM
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That’s exactly it eh. I only ever go to bars/clubs with friends so this was pretty overwhelming for me. With friends it’s extremely easy to relax and have fun. Once you don’t have them there as a buffer it’s an entirely different experience
/r/seduction14/05/22 05:20 PM
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Yeah that’s totally valid advice. When I got to the mall it was closing in 30mins and relatively dead. I’ll for sure try to avoid employees next time
/r/seduction12/05/22 10:14 PM
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Eh don’t think I’m anything special. Struggled with body dysmorphia most my life due to some pretty bad bullying in my youth. I still struggle with trying to like my appearance, but I do put a lot of effort in trying to look my best. I go to the gym 6 days a week, get a haircut every 2-3 weeks, whiten my teeth, update my wardrobe fairly often. It also helps to be 6’0 175lbs too I guess 🤷‍♂️
/r/seduction12/05/22 06:37 AM
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Humour is a difficult thing to convey to someone. My humour in particular is pretty simple. I either make strange associations that barely make sense, over exaggerate, or ask a really cheeky question that’s obviously a joke. Examples I used with the girls Strange associations: First girl mentioned a cologne had a “spicy” smell to it. I replied “So more of a Habanero or Jalapeño?” Over exaggerate: Second girl suggested I try this one cologne that had a cowboy picture behind it. I said “I like thi…
/r/seduction12/05/22 06:09 AM
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She honesty ticked every box on my list in terms of what I look for in a women. Funny, intelligent, extremely attractive, and many other things. We also shared many of the same hobbies. She was a gas lighter and verbally abusive, but I’d put up with most of it because I loved her. It just got worse as the relationship lasted and I slowly began letting her walk all over me so you’re right about that. I’m not happy I let it happen either. I’d stand up for myself about something’s, but not to other…
/r/seduction08/05/22 04:22 AM
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Yeah we were together for 3 years. I really fell head over heels for this girl. I honestly had the proposal and everything planned right before she ended things. She then used me for sex and companionship until she springboarded into the next relationship. Which I allowed to happen. I was desperate and needy as all hell and I regret all of it. I was just so overcome by lust and hope that I couldn’t stop myself. It’s so embarrassing thinking back on how I acted around her in the end. Truly a comp…
/r/seduction07/05/22 09:33 PM
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