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Women are more often the primary caretakers pre-divorce, so they u equally are granted custody more often as a result.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/25 10:40 PM
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Making friends with wives of dudes definitely brings you closer. The couple invites you to outside gatherings where they bring in friends from multiple sectors of their lives, neighbors, friends, coworkers, family. You open up access to entirely new social circles where you could meet people.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 09:51 AM
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Not all professional looking photographs are professional photographs. There are a lot of photography enthusiasts out there, hobbyists wanting to improve their skills, and photographers who aspire to become professionals. If you are a woman, especially one with even some attractive features like really pretty eyes, it's not uncommon for such friends to ask to use you as a model for practicing your craft, and in exchange, you get some awesome almost professional looking photos for yourself to use…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/25 06:40 AM
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Organically open up situations or discussions where you encounter their opinions, and observe/listen. Went on a couple of dates with a guy, things were going great. Watched some EPL, they were wearing rainbow laces in support of the LGBT community, I mentioned how I thought it was cool and how you haven't seen that sort of thing in the US, and he sort of brushed it off, saying he didn't care. Okay, yellow flag, need to investigate more. Layer that night we went back to my place, after many drink…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 12:59 PM
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A LOT of women do, maybe even just as much. But the activities are different. Many women opt for more practical exercises that don't require the special equipment you go to a gym for; running, walking, bands exercises, small weights, etc. there's also tons of group exercises that are heavily dominated by women, pilates, yoga, water aerobics, dance, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/25 12:33 PM
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I have dated a man who has paid for sex before. He went to a licensed and reputable brothel in a place it was legalized and regulated. It didn't bother me one bit because of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/25 08:35 PM
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I gave up on dating American men a while ago. I am happily partnered with a Dutch man now. A lot of it had to do with the intersection of relationships with career and money. I was successful back in the US, if I dated guys at or above my earning level or potential, it turned into a competition about whose needs were more important. Situations where my needs were seen as less important because the guy earned more, or guys pushing themselves way too hard to make themselves the higher earner to th…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 09:14 PM
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You do get the other way around, it's just not stated that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/25 07:30 PM
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It doesn't take skill to hold a vibrator up against clitoris. It's not a matter of skill, it's a matter if willingness. And yeah, for that minority who can orgasm from penetration alone, it does have to hit a certain point further down the cervix to make that happen, so if a guy doesn't have the length to reach it, it's not going to happen. So yes, technically for the minority of women who can orgasm through penetration alone, a guy with a larger member can get such women to orgasm without putti…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 07:31 AM
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I light BB cream and eyebrow gel never hurt anybody's attractiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 06:32 AM
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I've only said such things when a guy is being a massive prick Like when a guy has a souped up car and starts loudly revving their engine in a quasi residential area, I would make the joke "okay bei, we get it, you have a tiny dick" It's a put down of exhibitions fragile masculinity where a dude wants to negatively impact others to show off how he's a big tough guy or some nonsense like that. Guy wants to be a nuisance, tiny dick. Guy feels the need to flash his money around being a noxious abou…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 06:20 AM
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You're making up excuses. It's not creepy if during participating in an activity that you are generally interested to start up conversations about said activity while participating in that activity. Not at all. Just talk to the women the same way you would talk to a man participating in that activity, and there is nothing creepy at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 03:45 AM
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If a woman asks for the mama help, and he turns out to be a total creep type and tries to pursue even after you have lost interest, it's a lot more difficult to get out of the situation, and can end up a lot more hostile. If help is unsolicited,even if purposely attracted, if said creep attempts to pursue, you are in a much better position to tell him to fuck off.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 12:17 PM
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I mean, sometimes stuff is just a lot harder for a woman to do than it would be for a larger man, and the help is appreciated. But like... Just ask? I'm short, and often have trouble getting products from the top shelf when shopping. Now I am capable myself of stepping up on the bottom shelf, really stretching myself to use my fingertips to edge the product towards me and eventually get it close enough to the edge when I can grab it. If I have to, I will. However, doing so can lead to injury, a …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 12:12 PM
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Let's be clear, you are making a choice not to meet women in person. You enjoy cooking, cooking classes/workshops/events where they teach you new styles of cooking are very women dominated. You enjoy reading, you can go to book clubs, author meet and greets/speaking engagements. These are places you can organically meet women with a shared interest. It's not cold approaching and off-putting when you talk to another attendee about the activity you are both engaged in.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 09:19 AM
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Men don't get called any of these things as a result of the frequency at which they are having sex. Correlation doesn't equal causation. It comes down to the way they treat women. Guys that get called creeps, aren't called that because they are not getting laid, they are called creeps because they persist even after being rejected, they stare, they visibly obsess over women nearby. Guys get called F boys not because they get laid a lot, they get called that because they treat women like objects …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 09:11 PM
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Lol, there are a ton of very ugly men who aren't down for commitment. A lot of men who work out at the gym, and ate built up, but do nothing to improve their grooming/presentation that think they are hot shit just because of their bodies, but leave everything else hideous.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 07:26 AM
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I think the confusion your having is with the way you are defining casual sex. Casual sex isn't just random hookups, it's all instances of having sex outside of building a relationship with the intention of making somebody your lifetime partner if all works out. You can have two people who are monogamously having sex with eachother for a year or even years, and it still never progresses to a relationship where you are actually building a life together. I have been in such a relationship myself b…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 09:12 AM
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So if you didn't want to be offensive, you could have said that you want a woman who has a similar communication style to yourself, and finds joy in the silence not the chatter. That would not have been offensive. For centuries, the patriarchy has oppressed women by stating that women ought to be quiet, so stating that as your preference, along with other preferences rooted in the same patriarchal standards of what a woman ought to be, without anything else, is offensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 09:24 PM
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If she is your neighbor, and you have seen eachother before, you can ask about something pertaining to living in said neighborhood.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 09:45 PM
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He has to be approaching me as a person, not as an object. Complimenting or commenting on part of my outfit or something I have with me, commenting on the weather, hell even asking me for directions or the time. Basically, it shouldn't involve him saying anything that he wouldn't feel comfortable saying to a straight man who could easily overtake him in a fight.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 09:42 PM
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The definitions of rape mentioned require the victim to be penetrated in some way, for an individual without a vulva and cervix, this penetration would typically involved oral or anal penetration of the victim in order to be considered rape. In 2013 started collecting data on "forced to penetrate" as a separate category which involves when an Individual is forced to insert a part of their body in an act of penetration into the perpetrator.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 03:45 PM
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Of course there is, the life coach wants to get their clients to succeed in order to get new clients through referral. The pickup artist wants their clients to fail so they can keep luring them back in to spend more money.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 03:34 PM
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They don't call them PUAs, they call them dating or life coaches. Totally do exist, and some people .ake entire livings off of coaching seminars and self help books
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/25 07:29 AM
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It depends on the efforts taken to ensure that the sex worker was not somebody being trafficked in any way. I did date a guy who was a virgin into his late twenties, and eventually went to a place where such sex work was legal and regulated, and went to a licensed brothel to engage in sex for his first time. I didn't have a problem with that whatsoever.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 06:56 PM
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And which side was being critiqued by this satire?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 06:59 AM
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You do realize that when we are talking about ancient Greek theater that comedy doesn't mean the same thing as when we use to describe movies, right? Comedy doesn't mean haha-funny, it's just the opposite of tragedy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 09:45 PM
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Yes they should be, upon rigorous genetic testing that also involves the testing of the mother. The most accurate tests involve also taking DNA samples from the mother, but this also ensures that it isn't a rare case of children getting switched at the hospital and the like. However, the father should also have the right to file for at least partial custody or visitation even upon separation from the partner. The grounds for suing for money invested in the child would come with a lot of paperwor…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 11:06 AM
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It's perfectly alright to acknowledge that you have not yet experienced attraction towards a person of a given race. It's also perfectly to say that you are not attacted to a specific woman who you have encountered who is a member of said race. It's even fair to say that you would likely would not be attracted to a woman of said race who you have not encountered yet on the basis of having never felt attraction towards women of that race. Where it crossed the line is saying things like "I'm not a…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 12:36 PM
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This is one of the language used in expressing preferences or rejecting somebody matters. There is nothing wrong with saying that you do not want to take on the extra inteacacies or responsibilities of dating a woman from another country. It's another thing blanket saying Yoh don't want to date foreign women, or won't date a woman because she is foreign. When speaking about preferences, it's all about putting the shortcomings of such a pairing on yourself rather than the other person.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 12:27 PM
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Women aren't using abortion as their primary means of birth control. It's used as a back up form of birth control when others fail. It's expensive, and physically painful, and something worth avoiding. But not all individuals view the beginning of life and the beginning of personhood as the same points of time to begin with. If that's what your religious/religious equivalent beliefs dictate that they are, then good on you, follow your belief system. But for some religious/religious equivalent be…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 07:15 PM
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Bro, condoms can come off without somebody even meaning to take it off. If a woman is on the ring, it can get caught and yanked off the man. Some women have strong enough muscles in the cervix that it can pull a condom off a guy, especially if a guy is wearing a magnum for comfort when that isn't the proper size for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 07:03 PM
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The blaming it in the autism is a huge problem. I'm neurodivergent myself, and have grown up with many friends with autism, and will always adjust my word choice/behaviors/etc. in order to accommodate those on the spectrum. In my negative experiences that I've had, I have always been very clear and direct about what I do and do not consent to, repeated multiple times, and generally been very accommodating to their autism when articulating my boundaries, and then they go and cross them anyway, an…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 07:47 AM
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So when you got pregnant and were deciding wether you were going to get an abortion or not, what was going through your head? What was your thoughts process behind whether or not you would get an abortion?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 02:38 PM
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Lol I mean it's the reason why I had an abortion. If it was entirely about not wanting to undergo a pregnancy. If I was down to go through a pregnancy, and just didn't want to be a parent, I would have just carried the child to term and given it up for adoption. But no, I didn't do that, only because I didn't want to go through pregnancy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 06:48 PM
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No, abortions are primarily about avoiding pregnancy. Adoptions exist for people to carry a child to term and avoid parenthood. Abortions are for those who choose not to carry to term.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/25 10:28 PM
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In terms of straight cis men, easily 90%, maybe more like 95%
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 05:06 PM
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I'm certain he left that date with more creative thinking about where he can do a good first date without breaking the bank (the venue was my idea as it was close to my office). It was a point of discussion that he wouldn't have thought of something like this before
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 11:25 PM
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I did a date once where we met up in my city's botanical garden, which was free. We walked around and talked a bunch, even joked about how the gardens as a first meeting space would make a romantic story if it worked out. He did end up buying me a $2.50 soda when we got parched, so I guess that's a $5 date not including transportation. We ended up not vibing and not seeing each other again, but it was a good enjoyable time.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 02:13 PM
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The financial aspect is really only limiting if the man lacks ingenuity and creativity in coming up with date ideas. There are plenty of fabulous dates which can be pulled off for under 10 and under 20 dollars.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/24 09:21 AM
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I cannot speak to which gender falls victim the most, but I can speak to which gender seems to be more likely to seek alternative means of rectifying the predicament the scammer claims to be in, and that would be women Until recently I worked in a government oversight capacity where we would help people navigate government entities and bureaucratic processes. We would get calls from the victims of romance scams asking for help with scammers claiming to be picked up by ICE needing to pay money fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/24 11:12 AM
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No it doesn't. When women are looking for a partner, they do take into account whether their financial resources combined with their potential partner's resources will be enough to finance a home. This ends up LOOKING like hypergamy most of the time, as women generally make less than men since women-dominated fields are paid less than male dominated fields, the gender part gap, etc. A lower paid woman needs her partners salary to be higher than hers in order to make a home function. Among high e…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/24 11:13 AM
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The average age of menopause is 52. A woman in her mid thirties has plenty of time. And let’s not forget that men also have their own fertility issues as they age, starting at 35.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 11:23 PM
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I mean - if you have a hang up on only having children that are the outcome of your own sperm, just say that. There is no need to dehumanize and devalue women just because of your own hang ups.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 11:04 PM
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Bro - we are talking about women in their mid 30’s tops here - not post-menopausal women or even perimenopause which doesn’t start until ones 40’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 07:22 PM
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So, men started building these hierarchies millenia before women actually had the ability to choose their partners. Up until about the 18th century, women didn’t have a say….. so I don’t see how that would be the primary incentive to build these hierarchies given that a woman’s attraction dindnt matter one bit in partnering.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/24 06:05 PM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 12:05 PM
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Gay men resist women the same way that straight men resist other men. Their bodies and brain chemistry just don’t allow for that attraction to manifest at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 12:16 PM
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A message = I will be willing to go on a date with a date if after chatting a bit he seems like somebody I would get along well with/have good conversation usually.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 12:11 PM
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That’s not what I said. The reason they message below average guys is because of how they fall in love. The reason they don’t message super attractive men is another matter entirely. Those are two different points, not one.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 01:41 AM
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It could be any combination of several factors. Some women will straight up avoid the most conventionally attractive men purposely, either because of bad personality experiences with such men (a lot of super hot guys are complete d-bags), they are hot enough to make them feel insecure about themselves, or they don’t want to deal with a higher likelihood of rejection. But that’s just why they don’t message those above average as much, but why go for below average - that’s the bigger thing. It’s a…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 01:19 AM
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Men that they view as below average yes. It’s all in the numbers of the study summarized here https://techcrunch.com/2009/11/18/okcupid-inbox-attractive/
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 12:51 AM
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In the same OK Cupid study this stat is from - it also shows that women most frequently message men who they view as below average.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 12:12 AM
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So, you’re confusing the concept of privilege with fortune on this list. Privilege is about underlying circumstances that impact the likelihood of outcomes. The outcomes you listed, are just that, outcomes, and outcomes are the result of fortune, influenced by privilege. I lacked a lot of social privilege growing up, because I have a neurological disability that made making friends more difficult, I had strict parents that didn’t allow me to participate in activities that were the norm for my pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 02:49 PM
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Right - but what a person values and is ultimately looking for in a relationship is not limited to what they list out themselves when asked. To put it in TRP terms, if a person is out looking to purchase a car, they will list out things they are looking for “I want a car with low mileage, good horsepower, etc.” but let’s say they come upon a car that meets every single specification that they list, which has a feature that cannot be disabled which attempts to eject them out of the vehicle every …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 08:03 PM
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By the amount of men in here complaining about partners becoming jealous and overbearing, domestic abuse against men in relationships, women taking large sums of wealth through divorce, and the need for women to take on child caring roles, I would beg to differ.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 04:47 PM
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Interesting, I know a lot of men personally who say otherwise
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 04:40 PM
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They gain value. One of the most prominent and universal being wisdom and emotional intelligence, which is very important to maintaining a healthy, stable, long term relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 04:08 PM
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Yikes 🚩 It’s as though you don’t recognize any of the value that women gain from being older and more experienced in the world within a long term relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 03:55 PM
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On the women set, it’s not true. The standards are not lowered or raised, but are instead a different set of standards entirely.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 06:38 PM
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At the end of the day, dramatic age gap relationships are doomed for failure and divorce. Just look at the statistics. If a younger individual is getting into such a relationship under the understanding that it will not be a lifelong relationship, and something more temporary, I have no problem with that in theory, so long as the likely temporary nature of the relationship is being openly discussed and acknowledged. However, once one side, particularly the younger partner starts making major lif…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 04:33 PM
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I dress nice when I’m alone too! I still have to see myself in the mirror walking around the house, I don’t want to go “ick, I look like crap” every time I get up to get a drink or go to the bathroom.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 12:52 PM
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There are several things to consider here: For one, even if it’s cold outside, the place a woman is going to is most likely someplace indoors, where it is much warmer. Many women would much prefer feeling too cold on the trip to their destination than feeling too hot and sweaty while she is at her destination which she is spending much more time at. This is especially true for women who may be prone to mini hot-flashes during specific times of the month, or situations where she intends on being …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 12:49 PM
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When did I say that it made non-consensual medical procedure right? I literally agree that circumcision should not be performed, and was merely calling out that many men do say they prefer female genitalia which has been altered. SMH.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 10:19 PM
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Episiotomies are given without consent during labor all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 09:38 PM
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I’ll start by making it abundantly clear that I am vehemently against circumcision. It is a cosmetic procedure which a consenting adult can choose to get, but I feel it should not be done to infants. That being said, it is wholly unfair to suggest that men do not say they prefer women who have undergone any form of FGM. Everything from jokes about the “husband stitch” after pregnancies, to disparaging women with large labia minora as being “worn out.”
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/24 03:14 PM
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When it is stated in a rejector- first way of speaking. One should accept that a person just isn’t interested at face value and move on. When you say, “no, you’re too fat,” or “no, you’ve slept around too much,” that is not acceptable behavior.” It’s not hard to say “no, I’m just not attracted to you in that way” if you want to reject somebody.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 08:18 AM
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I reccomend watching the episode of young Sheldon where both Sheldon and missy are being studied by a local research facility on their levels of intelligence. Sheldon starts scoring high on intellectual intelligence, while Missy scores well on emotional intelligence, and it does a good job of breaking down the two firms of intelligence and juxtaposing them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 07:57 AM
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There is nothing wrong with simply rejecting somebody that you don’t want to be in a relationship with for whatever reason. However, there is a massive problem with disparaging those who you are rejecting for their qualities, when those qualities are not something that makes them a bad person. Nothing is wrong with saying “I’m not into you like that” or “I’m looking for something different in a relationship,” or “I’m not feeling it” or even “I’m looking for somebody who is more similar to me in …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 10:03 AM
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Before I met my Mr. Right - it depends on the political beliefs. Differences in opinion on import taxation of non-food agricultural products? nah, I won’t sweat it. Differences in opinion on the ideal zoning and street construction in livable communities? Ehh, it’s going to depend, if he’s open to living in a mixed-use zoning area and the like it should be alright, but if he’s going to be insistent on living in suburban sprawl type areas that aren’t walkable and won’t consider anything else, I’d…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 02:54 PM
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I think you’re hitting the nail on the head here. It seems that a lot of men pushing this narrative are inaccurately viewing things like caution about men and activism citing oppressive actions taken by mainly men (such as restrictive abortion bans being passed by predominantly male legislators) as misandry.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 10:57 AM
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Yes, there are instances where the wedding date is fast approaching, and then one partner pops the prenup up last minute. Misrepresentation and false promises are prone to happening where there is not the presence of a separate attorney, which is part of why not having a separate attorney is considered coercion.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 02:38 AM
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Varying reasons for divorce affecting percentages of assets awarded can be put into a prenup.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 02:26 AM
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Funny enough, leaving somebody completely destitute is a common reason for a prenup to get thrown out, especially if they become so destitute that they will rely on public services to get by.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 02:26 AM
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Coercion often happens when somebody is rushed to sign a prenup without having a separate attorney representing them review it. Misrepresentation and making false promises to exclude/include certain things is also considered coercion, Not all coercion is somebody holding a gun to your head.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 02:24 AM
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So you’re not justifying sexual assault against all women, just women who want protections against sexual harassment in the workplace?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 02:35 PM
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That’s a really long way to say that you think women are to blame when they are sexually assaulted by men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 02:30 PM
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So part of the problem is that many of these progressive and left leaning spaces are working to address issues that predominantly affect men, and that’s the major part of the issue of why it can feel as though the left doesn’t focus on just men’s issues at all. Most men’s issues out there needing to be addressed also affect some women, albeit a much smaller, but not wholly insignificant number. Additionally, many of the solutions to these issues involve addressing the issue as a whole for both g…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 08:43 AM
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You do know democrats tried to get female conscription pushed through in the last defense funding bill, and a bunch of republicans threw a hissy fit right?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 12:52 AM
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No, because I found my life partner. If I hadn’t though, it probably would. Not a permanent barring, but it would depend on the motivations and the like, and where their opinions and beliefs are at during that moment of time. A lot of good men have been conned into supporting Trump, and I don’t hold that against them, it’s not their fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 11:52 PM
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Pell grants are equally available to men and women, if you’re talking about individual scholarships that schools and other orgs offer, that’s not federally controlled. Democrats did try to add women to conscripted service, but republicans threw a hissy fit: https://thehill.com/policy/defense/4730560-senate-democrats-require-women-draft/ CDC changed language to recognize being forced to penetrate as a method of sexual violence to better track statistics and reporting of this predominantly female …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 11:12 PM
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The Biden administration actually has done lots to address all the men’s issues that have a federal component that you mentioned. The Harris campaign just did a piss poor job of advertising how these things are benefiting men specifically, which was the actual failure. The ALL INside initiative was a key part of a strategic plan to reduce homelessness by 25 percent by 2025 Biden’s administration put out tons of funding to promote educational achievement, as well as massive investments which have…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 06:46 PM
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Well, then you would have benefited from expanded access to mental health and counseling services under a Harris Administration. Such services can do a lot to help you build strong interpersonal relationships within your life, including such relationships with women, leading to potential long term relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 10:55 AM
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Let’s not forget on the job market point, that Trump has a history of rolling back OSHA protections!!! Making these jobs even less safe and more dangerous!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 10:26 AM
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If you’re concerned about the rates of involuntarily celibacy in men, electing a candidate under whom access to abortion and reproductive health services isn’t the move though. All you’re doing is making women less willing to engage in sexual encounters as the risks in doing so are much higher.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 10:23 AM
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No, Harris was in fact the better candidate for basically all the men’s issues that you see brought up in this forum, way beyond Trump. I’ll give some examples: Men’s mental health and the loneliness crisis: the Biden Administration was pouring tens of billions of dollars into expanding access to mental health services across the country and increasing insurance converge parity of mental health services. The Trump administration tried to roll back access to healthcare services Men’s occupational…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 10:18 AM
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Kamala Harris actually had a lot in her platforms about improving access to mental health services. So far under the Biden administration we had seen a lot of actions with direct impacts in this space, such as expanding the Mental Health Parity and Addiction Equity Act to hundreds of more health insurance plans across the country, including provisions strengthening mental health services across privately administered Medicaid plans. as well as changing Medicare rules to allow for Licensed Profes…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 10:06 AM
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Sounds more like a question made in bad faith.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 01:23 AM
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What is this question? WHO hurt you?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 09:15 PM
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Nope - that’s not it. Try again.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 01:14 PM
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Do you understand why so many women wanted her child to be a girl and not a boy? Yes, the people making jokes about aborting the boy and the like are taking it way too far, acting inappropriately, and need to stop. But the broader reasoning why people wanted to see her child be a girl isn’t coming from a place of misogyny. What is your interpretation of why women feel let down that she’s having a boy and not a girl?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 09:57 AM
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No I can’t. Because it lacks passion. I’ve already stated this. There are no exceptions. And I stick with my answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 01:03 AM
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This doesn’t work, because they are literally one and the same? Like, the pathway to orgasm isn’t some RPG game where you hit certain buttons and you get orgasm. The passionate connection does need to be there, otherwise the orgasm isn’t happening. So if I had to choose between the two situations you put out there, I guess I’d choose #2 because at least I’ll have a chance of reaching orgasm? This question is weird
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/24 12:37 AM
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It didn’t when I was on it back in the day
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 10:14 PM
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You forgot to mention all the grooming and tailoring of dress styles to flatter the body.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 12:12 PM
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From a woman’s perspective, OK Cupid was awful. The ability for people to just message you without you first consenting to them from messaging you was what made it so terrible. You would get too many messages to keep up with, and god forbid you missed a guy, or didn’t message him back fast enough, many would just turn ugly, start calling you names and really vulgar and horrendous shit. This is a general problem with abundant app, but it’s why women get so selective on them. Some of the men just …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/24 01:25 AM
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Bro - even catcalling falls under the umbrella of sexual violence. Sexual violence is a very very broad umbrella that includes any unwanted sexual contact at all. Coming into the bedroom pretending to be a woman’s husband is straight up rape, which falls under the umbrella of sexual assault, which falls under the umbrella of sexual violence.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 06:57 PM
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https://www.cdc.gov/sexual-violence/communication-resources/sv_surveillance_definitionsl-2009-a.pdf “Fraud such as lies or misrepresentation of the perpetrators identity” is listed as a tactic for perpetuating sexual violence.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 01:22 AM
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When did I say it was criminal? Not all sexual violence is criminal.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 01:10 AM
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It’s not genetic qualities, it’s perceived genetic qualities. Basic things like dressing to suit one’s figure, the colors one wears, grooming techniques such as flattering haircuts, beards, and eyebrow shaping, and posture / body carriage make so much more difference than TRP gives credence to. My ability to attract men changes entirely based on what I wear and whether or not my eyebrows are overdue for a shaping. For example, I have a lot of the same outfit pieces in different colors. If I wear…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 11:45 AM
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The U.S. department of Justice are feminists? Hah! That’s laughable. If you don’t like the terms, how about go to university, get a PhD and start conducting publically funded research and the like, and then you can have a hand in redefining what sexual violence entails. In the meantime, stop twisting universally defined terminology to fit what you think it ought to be, and use the accepted terminology so that people know and understand what you are trying to get at.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 09:06 AM
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That would be a question for the CDC, WHO, US DOJ, and all the other experts in the field.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 08:18 AM
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Okay - I think the differentiation between sexual violence and sexual abuse needs to be clarified here, as there are established and rather universally agreed upon definitions when it comes to research in the subject. All sexual abuse is sexual violence, but not all sexual violence is sexual abuse. Sexual violence is an umbrella term for people using tactics to attempt to engage with an individual in a sexual manner who would otherwise not consent to the engagement. The umbrella term extends all…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 01:28 AM
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It is problematic, especially if you don’t hold the same standard for cis women who have undergone hysterectomies. Like, a fully transitioned trans women would have an obligation in a long term relationship to disclose that she is unable to bear children if her partner indicates to her that he wants to have biological kids one day, the same way a cis woman who had a hysterectomy has that same obligation. Same thing if a cis male long term partner indicates they are considering getting a vasectom…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/24 01:15 AM
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It’s not my definition of sexual violence that I’m using, it is not a definition that is exclusive definition that I came up with myself. It is the definition used by the WHO, CDC, the U.S. department of Justice, advocacy organizations in the sexual violence space, and a multitude of other governmental entities and NGOs. It’s pretty universally agreed upon. Not all forms of sexual violence are punishable by the law. And sexual abuse is only one form of sexual violence.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 10:17 PM
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Yes, lying to get somebody to sleep with you is a form of coercive sex which is a form of sexual violence. Do you have questions or confusion about the established definition of sexual violence? Because the way you are questioning my logic makes it seem as though you do not understand what falls under the wide umbrella of sexual violence.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 09:15 PM
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It would be no less consensual than a cis woman who has had a hysterectomy not disclosing that she has had a hysterectomy. Sure, it’s something that should be disclosed in the early stages of a long term relationship at least by the time one would discuss whether or not you want to have kids one day. But when we are talking hookups and the like, then the absence of a cervix and uterus doesn’t make a difference, so if that absence matters to a man, then the responsibility should fall upon the man…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 09:11 PM
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No - not the same, because the trans woman has led the man into engaging into sexual contact with a penis, when he thought he was consenting to vaginal intercourse. That’s different from the push up bra comparison, because regardless of the push up bra, a man consenting to have contact with boobs is still having contact with boobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 08:45 PM
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How? If the trans woman has already had a vaginoplasty, the cis man is consenting to vaginal sex, and what she is giving him is vaginal sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 08:40 PM
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A trans woman who has not had a vaginoplasty not disclosing to a cis man who is under the assumption that they are a cis woman would cause harm, because they have tricked them into having a sexual contact they did not consent to. A trans woman who has had a vaginoplasty would not be causing harm because she would be engaging in the vaginal sex the cis man assumed he was consenting to.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 08:38 PM
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Non disclosure can violate consent if the non disclosure is something that has a reasonable likelihood of causing harm to a rational person. For example STDs. The trans situation does become more complex, to where a lot will depend on if they are post op or pre op in terms of genitalia. Like if a trans woman still has a penis, and their non disclosure has resulted in a man consenting to engage in what he believes will be sexual activity with a vulva and vagina, only for that woman to have a peni…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 08:24 PM
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Tricking somebody into having sex they otherwise wouldn’t is a form of coercive sex/sexual coercion, and coercive sex/sexual coercion is a form of sexual violence. So yeah, lying to get somebody to sleep with you who otherwise wouldn’t sleep with you is a form of sexual violence.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 08:00 PM
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Individuals are r sensible for their own reactions towards reasonable level headed critiques amongst grown adults. And I say this as somebody who suffers from rejection sensitivity dysphoria. When somebody says “hey next time can you do X instead of Z because Y?” and you go around moping going on about “oh I must be terrible at this! Guess I suck at that too!” BS, that’s an emotional response that you need to work on. That’s not the responsibility of the person giving the critique.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 12:38 AM
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This is true - can confirm.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 06:32 PM
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It was 1903. This was the advice given to men. Women on the other hand were given a big book of strict rules and regimes to be the “perfect woman” and the like. Fast forward 120 years, this is still the advice for men, and women are given a laundry list of contradicting standards to live up to.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/24 07:30 AM
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So, firstly, you should nix your second source under “two more numbers” because the program that report is referring to was not extended and has since ended. Secondly, you make some great points on the federal level, but what you’re failing to address is state budgets, because a large part of the funding for these programs is paid for by the State, and the amount of federal funding provided by each state’s program is done on a matching basis, where the amount contributed by the federal governmen…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 11:00 AM
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There are women that can tell. A lot of them. It shows so much in the facial expressions and body language. You don’t want to be trying to put on a Tony-award-winning acting performance trying to hide it, it makes it awkward.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 11:13 PM
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It’s not just a weird distinction, but a telling one. To consider a woman who adopted and raised children as “childless” while likely considering a single woman who had a child and gave them up for adoption to not be childless. Like, what does that say about their views of parenting, and what makes a mother? Does DNA really matter more than actually influencing the growth and development of a child into adulthood?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/24 12:05 AM
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I know that - but if they are bringing a personal responsibility element into it, then it’s no longer strictly about the sanctity of life. Once you start making exceptions based on a notion of personal responsibility, you are adding an entirely different ethical motivation behind your pro life stance, because there are two seperate ethical concepts instead of just one. I do t understand what part of this logic you are not understanding.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 09:08 PM
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That’s fine if they do, but then don’t say that it’s all about sanctity of life, because it’s not, you’re throwing in a second set of moral values there.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 06:36 PM
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Right - but here’s the critical difference, you’d face manslaughter for killing a PERSON. Unborn fetuses are not people, they are a life but not a person. The beginning of life and the beginning of personhood are two seperate events. It’s like when you pull the plugs on somebody who is fully brain dead in a vegitative state. Yes, you are ending their life, but you’re not killing a person, because the person was already gone long before you pulled the plug. We don’t put people in jail for killing…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 06:34 PM
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If you hit somebody with your car and die instantly in the crash and you are at fault, and the person in the other car needs a heart transplant in order to survive the injuries that you caused, and you happen to be a match with the victim, they cannot take the heart out of the dead corpse you left behind unless you already consented to it during life. Why should a dead corpse have more rights to their bodily autonomy than a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 06:08 PM
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It’s fine if you feel that way - but don’t say that it’s simply about the sanctity of life, it’s about punishing women for engaging in consensual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 05:55 PM
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Under that reasoning, it’s not about just the life then, it’s about punishing woman deciding to have consensual sex. If it were truly about just the sanctity of life, you wouldn’t be making exceptions for rape, because the life of a child conceived through rape is just as valuable as the life of a child conceived through consensual intercourse.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 05:53 PM
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So it’s not about life under your reasoning, it’s about accountability for actions. If it’s about the sanctity of life, you wouldn’t be making exemptions for rape, because a child being conceived through rape is no less human than I child conceived through consensual intercourse.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 05:51 PM
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I don’t feel this is accurate - they may explain it as the right to life should begin at conception, but then advocate for exceptions in cases of rape. If it’s about life, then the circumstances under which the conception occurred shouldn’t matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 01:56 PM
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When we are using the term “men trying to control women’s bodies” we are talking about the legislatures. Take West Virginia for example, who recently passed a near-total abortion ban. In that state, 87% of the state legislature who passed that bill, and the Governor who signed it into law are all men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/24 01:54 PM
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We don’t talk about it, there is no need to beyond the STI screening I did after my last partner before him. We both know there is obviously a sexual past, but there is really no need to discuss it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 02:40 PM
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Somebody that gets into fights is a definite red flag. Making minimum wage at my age is also a red flag except in some very exceptional circumstances.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 10:47 AM
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They haven’t had dating experience, and don’t know what they themselves want in a partner yet, you learn that from experience. When women are starting out in dating, they go for what outside influences such as media, have informed them they should be looking for in a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 10:44 AM
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It’s clear that you have a gross misunderstanding of how women’s sexual attraction works for a plurality of women. For a lot of women sexual attraction deepens and increases over time with their partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 10:42 AM
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So you want women to choose you while they are immature and still trying to figure out what they want in a life partner? When they are not ready for a mature relationship yet?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 10:08 AM
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The man that a woman decides to make her life partner becomes her first priority rather quickly. Circumstances outside of that are outliers and not the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 10:05 AM
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Women don’t get a roster of every single man they will ever meet in their lifetime and start picking from that whole list. How the hell is a woman supposed to pick you first when she starts off her dating and relationships journey, when she hasn’t even met you yet?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 06:53 AM
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We get it, but we also know that it comes from a severe misunderstanding of how female attraction changes over time, and how women build bonds with their partners. When women meet their life partner, they may be the “safe” option first, but with the way that women develop love and bonding, that man still becomes the best option, the only option she can imagine, and the most attractive option within a short span of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 06:48 AM
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The onus is on the man because the tightness of a woman’s vagina depends wholly on how aroused she is.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 05:31 PM
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Yeah - that’s because being right means the woman isn’t aroused. When you say you want it tight you’re saying that you want a woman who doesn’t even get aroused, much less orgasm.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/24 05:16 PM
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And you are welcome to set a similar boundary regarding erotic fantasy with your partner if you so choose.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 05:44 PM
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The boundary that could be set is “if you watch porn, I will consider that equivalent to cheating and will break off the relationship as a result”
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 08:51 AM
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Women say this specifically to get men to leave them alone. Even single women who just don’t want to be bothered. The reason women do this is because they have found if they give any other reason, that men will use that as an opportunity to try to change her mind, but if there is another man that pursuing her would be disrespecting, then he will not do so. It’s not even about being gentle, it’s about the fact that many men will respect a potentially fictitious man more than a woman’s own autonom…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 04:37 AM
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