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| 42 | Just walked back from the club alone again and feel so depressed and don't know what to even try anymore. | Field Report | Timely_Fishing2560 | /r/seduction | 19/10/24 06:21 AM |
| 7 | Dealing with intense loneliness and clubbing not helping (yet)? | Inner Game | Timely_Fishing2560 | /r/seduction | 17/10/24 11:04 PM |
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| 1 | I feel like this "always stay persistent, it’s your fault if she’s not interested" mentality is messing up my headCoach is wrong. Case closed. What you'll find, if your personality isn't trash you'll always have like 1/5 women that are receptive, maybe my fraction is wrong, but a non-trivial amount. Everything else is just not up to you, could be age, job, personality, etc. Some women just don't sleep around, some are looking to settle down, etc. etc. etc. | /r/seduction | 31/10/24 07:37 PM |
| 2 | Just walked back from the club alone again and feel so depressed and don't know what to even try anymore.huh. I mean yeah I guess. Fuck man but we all know we're here for the end prize. But yeah actually right now I feel pretty proud about that | /r/seduction | 25/10/24 02:15 AM |
| 1 | Just walked back from the club alone again and feel so depressed and don't know what to even try anymore.no friends who club | /r/seduction | 20/10/24 02:26 PM |
| 1 | What to talk aboutTalk about interesting things in your life or ask about things in her life. Ask more questions than tell, I heard someone hear say 70%ask+listen/30%tell which sounds good to me. But share things that make you unique. At the end of the day a lot of it is just value proposition, if you make music tell her that, if you write poems tell her that, I don't think it really matters what, just as long as you convey it with passion and genuine interest it will be attractive and make you look unique and at… | /r/seduction | 20/10/24 12:27 AM |
| 12 | Had her for a night, lost her due to mental instabilityHonestly dude I think it's best to just leave it alone. Idk I wouldn't want to mess over someone going through a mental health crisis for a quick lay. And I haven't had sex with a woman ever | /r/seduction | 20/10/24 12:23 AM |
| 2 | Need my boys to hype me upgive it time! Once you do it a couple of times you'll realize you're getting yourself worked up for nothing, lol, but i get the first time's stressful and I wish you the best | /r/seduction | 19/10/24 07:53 PM |
| 1 | Just walked back from the club alone again and feel so depressed and don't know what to even try anymore.what do I say then? It's just small talk? | /r/seduction | 19/10/24 06:29 PM |
| 0 | Just walked back from the club alone again and feel so depressed and don't know what to even try anymore.damn good point, I can try to find other ppl to club with | /r/seduction | 19/10/24 06:28 PM |
| 1 | Just walked back from the club alone again and feel so depressed and don't know what to even try anymore.huh good point, I'll try and get more involved in the uni social scene, I just don't want to mess up my reputation yet. | /r/seduction | 19/10/24 06:27 PM |
| 2 | Just walked back from the club alone again and feel so depressed and don't know what to even try anymore.not happy but comfortable is a nice way to put it. Really I do feel myself become more social so I feel it is helping. I feel optimistic now | /r/seduction | 19/10/24 06:26 PM |
| 1 | Just walked back from the club alone again and feel so depressed and don't know what to even try anymore.thanks | /r/seduction | 19/10/24 06:25 PM |
| 3 | Just walked back from the club alone again and feel so depressed and don't know what to even try anymore.Maybe they can sense the neediness, but truly I'm a lonely dude and so I am needy, I try to mask it but ig they can still sense it? I can't be indifferent to the results, because I really care about all this a lot, if I was totally indifferent, why would I even be on this subreddit? Honestly I try my best to mask all these doubts but idk maybe they can sense it? | /r/seduction | 19/10/24 06:24 PM |
| 4 | Just walked back from the club alone again and feel so depressed and don't know what to even try anymore.yeah I guess really I just want that instant gratification of a quick lay and when I don't get it, it really messes with my self-image | /r/seduction | 19/10/24 06:22 PM |
| 2 | Just walked back from the club alone again and feel so depressed and don't know what to even try anymore.honest to god I do, I'm so comfortable talking to the dudes and they're so friendly, I've exchanged numbers with hella dudes. But with women is actually crazy difficult, and I can't even blame them because a good portion of the dudes like me are trying to hit so yeah | /r/seduction | 19/10/24 06:21 PM |
| 1 | Dealing with intense loneliness and clubbing not helping (yet)?Idk man I don't have a purpose I think that's why. I'm going to harvard but I don't know if I want to stick with my major and I'm trying to make music and start a dropshipping hustle on the side. I feel like women aren't really going to mess with me until I'm really rich and can buy nice clothes and things. Until then I have to keep gaming ig. | /r/seduction | 18/10/24 11:13 PM |
| 1 | Dealing with intense loneliness and clubbing not helping (yet)?I don't know. I wish someone wanted a genuine, romantic emotional bond with me. I think that's what I want and what I'm looking for when I go clubbing, but also sex | /r/seduction | 18/10/24 10:57 PM |
| 1 | Dealing with intense loneliness and clubbing not helping (yet)?I haven't done that but I've done escorts and I feel terrible every time after | /r/seduction | 18/10/24 10:57 PM |
| 2 | Dealing with intense loneliness and clubbing not helping (yet)?LOL sexual frustration is probably why I feel so terrible. I mean I guess it motivates me but I'm only motivated to stop my sexual frustration | /r/seduction | 18/10/24 10:52 PM |
| 1 | Dealing with intense loneliness and clubbing not helping (yet)?damn good point. It's so competitive on a college campus bc I feel like a lot of the dudes here have so much going on so I'm not at the top of the totem pole. Yeah I could have conversations shit just takes time I guess and the club seems like a fast way, high way, if I can just perfect my technique. I'm kind of hyped tonight tho because I'm going to the club so that's exciting | /r/seduction | 18/10/24 10:52 PM |
| 1 | Dealing with intense loneliness and clubbing not helping (yet)?I don't know man all the rappers I listen to talk about all the club girls they get and you hear it a crazy amount on this sub, I'd like to think that my self-worth is independent of my social experiences but if I hear about everyone else's success and I'm not replicating that, it only logically leads me to question my own self-worth. I feel confident I will convert one of these weekends, but I mean until then I'm real sexually frustrated. | /r/seduction | 18/10/24 10:49 PM |
| 1 | Dealing with intense loneliness and clubbing not helping (yet)?I don't know if I have the luxury to choose friends but yeah I will try and meet people. It's just hard right now. I think I'm just depressed I'm going to try to get out this weekend and not just sleep in and cry | /r/seduction | 18/10/24 05:37 PM |
| 2 | Dealing with intense loneliness and clubbing not helping (yet)?maybe the expectation makes it difficult after. But when I do get a girl back it makes me feel really good. Not that I have but I expect it will | /r/seduction | 18/10/24 05:36 PM |
| 2 | Dealing with intense loneliness and clubbing not helping (yet)?well yeah that's what I'm doing. I guess it'll work eventually but is difficult now | /r/seduction | 18/10/24 05:35 PM |
| 2 | Dealing with intense loneliness and clubbing not helping (yet)?Good point I'm just so sexually frustrated right now I think it's causing me depression | /r/seduction | 18/10/24 03:11 PM |
| 1 | Dealing with intense loneliness and clubbing not helping (yet)?I love the energy at the club it's just when I come back home I feel so alone | /r/seduction | 18/10/24 03:10 PM |
| 1 | Dealing with intense loneliness and clubbing not helping (yet)?There's no frats where I'm at but I'm trying to find clubs and groups, honestly. It's difficult bc today I don't feel like getting out of bed but idk maybe later I'll go to the club and feel better | /r/seduction | 18/10/24 03:10 PM |
| 1 | Dealing with intense loneliness and clubbing not helping (yet)?I mean yeah I go to events and put myself out when I have time but I'm new to college and even tho I'm pro-active about making friends I don't actually have any friends yet, maybe that'll change with time, but yeah dude I'm feeling hella lonely these past couple of weeks | /r/seduction | 18/10/24 12:06 AM |
| 2 | Speech Autisim Person, How to start conversation with a girl who is Jogging, or Walking? Need Openerdude like everyone else said, maybe smile or wave at her for when you see her for the first 2-3 times, then go in and introduce yourself once you've built that familiarity; don't get hooked on this girl tho lol all you know abt her is she jogs, talk to other women too bro | /r/seduction | 17/10/24 03:02 PM |
| 1 | Speech Autisim Person, How to start conversation with a girl who is Jogging, or Walking? Need Openerbro's playing on hard mode fr wtf haha | /r/seduction | 17/10/24 03:01 PM |
| 0 | Got a date for the first time in forever, help a guy outNo; and don't expect a woman to give you genuine feedback. I'd say it was just my own personal reflection and journaling, alongside discovering this subreddit. I could see my mistakes, like coming on slightly too sexually aggressive during the first date, misinterpreting signs as if she was wanting a ons, and lastly I felt I lost my frame towards the end as I was worried I was losing her (I was, but my sort-of begging didn't help). Also, if you're in college, you need to keep in mind reputation … | /r/seduction | 16/10/24 11:27 AM |
| 1 | Got a date for the first time in forever, help a guy outHonestly, I agree with this. Try to be yourself and fuck it up. But I want to add, take away lessons from it also. About a month ago, I had a date with a really cute girl that a miffed, and I was just being myself. I don't blame myself for it, but I can confidently say I learned so much about dating from that mistake that it was well-worth it. I've gained more general social awareness, alongside an idea of what works/doesn't work with certain women, and I've started talking to so many more women… | /r/seduction | 16/10/24 03:53 AM |
| 1 | Reminder: end game requires inner frame, which requires real workyeah just don't beat yourself up though, we all make mistakes including these women. yeah hope you're doing well now fr | /r/seduction | 15/10/24 06:33 PM |
| 1 | Reminder: end game requires inner frame, which requires real workthat's kind of interesting to hear. I always felt like the reason dudes get stuck on certain women is bc they aren't talking to enough women. For me personally, I've gotten really hung up on certain women (like one woman, I dated for a month in December and got hung up until this Sept on her) , but since I've started really being pro-active about approaching I feel like I have so many options and opportunities for even better women. Do you feel like you're looking for a closer bond with these wo… | /r/seduction | 15/10/24 06:31 PM |
| 1 | Reminder: end game requires inner frame, which requires real workhuh sounds like you've thought about this alot | /r/seduction | 15/10/24 06:28 PM |
| 1 | Reminder: end game requires inner frame, which requires real workI've been in similar shoes too. I'm not a simp, but I've apologized to women too for saying dumb things. Never have they 'turned around', but, I think it helps my conscious, knowing that I let them know I feel regret about my actions. | /r/seduction | 15/10/24 04:01 PM |
| 1 | Reminder: end game requires inner frame, which requires real workGood thing to work on yourself. But dude, I'd genuinely also say pursue other women. To some extent we all need female validation, and I really think it'd help you get over her if you start talking to new women. Of course, that's just my take. Hope you're doing better now wishing the best for you bro. | /r/seduction | 15/10/24 03:59 PM |
| 1 | Reminder: end game requires inner frame, which requires real workWTF hahaah. I know a dude that dated a girl for a year never slept with her, and then she cheated on him. Sad shit haha | /r/seduction | 15/10/24 03:56 PM |
| 4 | Reminder: end game requires inner frame, which requires real workNot necessarily insecure to ask that. But the way OP writes it sounds like he got too personal too fast, especially being emotional. He lost frame ig, that's what it sounds like, and it probably was spurred by some insecurities. That's what I'm guessing, based off my own personal experiences too really similar to OP's. I've been overemotional with women bc of insecurities, and each time it leds to a fumble and they leave. I like to be optimistic abt it - if it wasn't for the fumbles I wouldn't h… | /r/seduction | 15/10/24 03:55 PM |
| 1 | PSA: seduction =/= basic social skillsThis is actually really good advice. I've thought alot about this and I do notice some people are more active than passive in socializing, like cracking jokes or starting conversational topics. Personally I've been bullied alot younger so that's why I feel I'm more passive, but I see how a more active and outgoing personality garners more friends and women. It's something I'm really trying to cultivate. | /r/seduction | 15/10/24 02:45 PM |
| 1 | PSA: seduction =/= basic social skillslmao | /r/seduction | 15/10/24 02:42 PM |
| 1 | PSA: seduction =/= basic social skillshaha so funny. Sad thing is alot of these guys are going to be stuck in that loop until they get the balls to just put themselves out there. | /r/seduction | 15/10/24 02:42 PM |
| 6 | PSA: seduction =/= basic social skillsThat's interesting. A lot of the advice here is to not pursue women who don't display interest, so your take on true seduction feels against the grain. I've personally have never pursued a woman who didn't show me SOME interest, so it's just interesting to think that guys can have success with women who show no interest, through mastering seduction | /r/seduction | 15/10/24 02:40 PM |
| 5 | PSA: seduction =/= basic social skillsnot true at all | /r/seduction | 15/10/24 02:37 PM |
| 2 | PSA: seduction =/= basic social skillsHonestly though, that's pretty important. I feel like hygiene is a thing slept on by guys who are not actively pursuing women (e.g. wearing cologne, styling hair, etc.), so I see how it could be really useful | /r/seduction | 15/10/24 02:37 PM |
| 0 | 10/10 in gymLike someone else suggested, just keep it friendly from now on, and definitely don't press it. You'll see her again and again as you both go to the same gym and the last thing you'd want to do is make it anymore awkward - keep it really friendly, honestly. | /r/seduction | 15/10/24 02:35 PM |
| 1 | Do this if she leaves you on readdude honestly, I go up to women in the subway and just ask for their numbers. You could say that's weird, but it's really one of those things that's only as weird as you make it. No, it's definitely not the ideal location to ask, lol, but my point is that there are more opportunities than you think if you're willing to put yourself out there. | /r/seduction | 15/10/24 02:33 PM |
| 1 | Do this if she leaves you on readnot with that attitude | /r/seduction | 15/10/24 02:30 PM |
| 9 | Why online dating is the holy grail for introverted/shy dudesI wouldn't agree with this advice entirely. However I've never been with a woman | /r/seduction | 10/10/24 04:29 PM |
| 1 | Start approaching again after 3 months "pause" ?Nobody likes mixed signals so keep that in mind. I think keeping it flirty is good, but honestly I wouldn't escalate to a kiss immediately. Just be flirty and if you like her ask her if she'd like to hangout or for her phone number. If you want to do something sexually, definitely look for signs from her before escalating. Some women are very unconfrontational and if they don't like you doing something they wont tell you, just ghost after. So really make sure you're aware of body language when y… | /r/seduction | 10/10/24 03:20 PM |
| 1 | Stop being factual in your questions - it is not "what" but "how".Exactly! This is solid advice, the best way to connect is to ask 'feeling' questions. Idk if I should be giving advice as I have a small social circle | /r/seduction | 10/10/24 03:14 PM |
| 1 | Do this if she leaves you on readwait but what if she lost interest? Then taking that away wouldn't affect her, right? I agree not to waste time with women who don't return, but I don't think removing that will get a girl back, right? | /r/seduction | 09/10/24 02:35 PM |
| 2 | Should i have been more stubborn?yeah he probably should've just went for the number/insta and if there was another excuse then she wasn't interested | /r/seduction | 08/10/24 04:06 PM |
| 1 | 🥴 Female Fickleness Explained10k approaches is insane, wow. I'm impressed | /r/seduction | 08/10/24 04:04 PM |
| 2 | Do this if she leaves you on readyeah sorry I don't mean to give the impression that it's easy. None of it is. But it's possible | /r/seduction | 08/10/24 03:47 PM |
| 3 | Do this if she leaves you on readI mean honestly it's not that easy also, it takes weeks with the same women to build the relationship to that level and it takes confidence, but I feel it's a guaranteed success route (i.e. a romantic relationship of some sort).. | /r/seduction | 08/10/24 03:46 PM |
| -1 | Do this if she leaves you on readwhat do you have to back this up? | /r/seduction | 08/10/24 03:43 PM |
| 2 | Do this if she leaves you on readwow that's sad to hear | /r/seduction | 08/10/24 03:42 PM |
| 2 | Do this if she leaves you on readApps don't work but just talk to women in your everyday life lol, or try clubs. | /r/seduction | 08/10/24 03:42 PM |
| 9 | Do this if she leaves you on readGood point. I think it honestly requires a level of self-control that wasn't necessary back then before text messaging and everyone being so connected. Often times you couldn't contact the girl you were chasing but now everyone's a text away. I agree though, if she isn't interested (and I've learnt this the hard way), no amount of chasing on earth will win her back. Rejection is such a painful feeling so I understand why men chase but it really does require that self-control to stop, cut your lo… | /r/seduction | 08/10/24 03:41 PM |
| 11 | Do this if she leaves you on readthis is gold | /r/seduction | 08/10/24 03:37 PM |
| 17 | Do this if she leaves you on readFacts, and also it's easy to build a bad rep with women, especially if the girl you're talking to is popular and gossips. Reputation plays such a big role esp. in college so keep that in mind. | /r/seduction | 08/10/24 03:37 PM |
| 3 | Is the text spamming really that bad?Agreed. I sent a couple of thirsty texts which got no response, and I sent a next one apologizing and she responded. Of course that isn't game at all lol but it shows that a woman can ghost and then respond. I think it depends honestly on the woman and the vibe you get from her, and how much you feel it's worth it. | /r/seduction | 08/10/24 03:35 PM |
| 1 | Spam approaching?you're making it sound simplistic, it's really not | /r/seduction | 04/10/24 02:42 PM |
| 3 | Spam approaching?I was going to say something against this, but actually I agree. OP, girls TALK. If even with one girl, and she's particularly popular, you give a bad vibe to, it's highly plausible a good chunk of women will think you're a creep - or, not a creep, but strange. I think it is GOOD, that you have the confidence to cold approach. But, I think the next step is calibrating. Throw out subtle feelers to women and see how they take it. | /r/seduction | 04/10/24 02:42 PM |
| 2 | The one cruel thing about cold approach that no one told me.I don't know. I don't think one can ever get over completely the fear of the cold approach, as it will necessarily induce some anxiety. I mean, you're putting yourself out there, in public? Anyone concerned with reputation would care. I think what the real advice is, is to project confidence (i.e. fake it), know what you want to say, and have a plan on how to respond to acceptance/rejection. I don't see how anyone can be naturally 'confident' in the cold approach, and I've done it probably ten o… | /r/seduction | 03/10/24 07:37 PM |
| 4 | 3 Texting principles that consistently get me laid with online datingthat's retarded talk to women dude | /r/seduction | 03/10/24 07:33 PM |
| 2 | 3 Texting principles that consistently get me laid with online datingWait I'd like to hear more about this elite first message game, lol. I'm in college and trying to improve my game. DM's? | /r/seduction | 03/10/24 07:33 PM |
| 3 | 3 Texting principles that consistently get me laid with online datingDid she suggest another time? If not that's a subtle indicator she isn't interested. Women flake, and people lose interest especially when they realize they can have someone. Maybe you showed too much interest, idk. Me personally, I'd move on. Of course though, you know your relationship with her better. | /r/seduction | 03/10/24 07:31 PM |
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