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Does that matter? I have been rejected by several men who moved on and selected other women. Wondering what qualities those other women might have is futile and frustrating. I have no control over who does or does not desire me, and there is nothing to be gained from trying to analyze those past situations (except pain/bitterness.) In your situation, I don't know what qualities the other men had. Perhaps they were thoughtful, inquisitive, intelligent. Perhaps they were not. Either way, does it c…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 01:12 AM
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I don't understand how you can believe anyone is limited or boring. Humans are remarkable, complex, infuriating, strange...never boring.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 11:42 PM
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If your cycles of self-improvement are whittling away at the pool of women you would be happy with, I have to question whether or not it is genuine self-improvement. Self-improvement - that is to say, betterment of the spirit and soul - ought to be widening your worldview, challenging your perspectives, opening your heart, inviting in deeper and richer experiences, and encouraging you to embrace the ineffable beauty of humanity, including all its messiness, all its "underdeveloped" members. True…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 10:46 PM
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Perhaps you ought to pursue different demographics of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 10:15 PM
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Hmm. It's almost as if working tirelessly in pursuit of worldly gains is ultimately meaningless, and anything you achieve in that realm will never offer true purpose or fulfillment. Who could have predicted that one.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 10:06 PM
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I have always assumed the label is useful to indicate "I will not want to sleep with you until I know you very well," which would be beneficial so nobody wastes their time. I don't really care about the flag part. But it seems like it's useful to know how quickly a person might be open to sexual activity.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 12:24 AM
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Why is it bad for women to do that to men, but not bad for men to do that to women?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 11:33 PM
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Why is demisexual a red flag?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 11:24 PM
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I will exercise ultimate control over my orgasms by never allowing myself to have one under any circumstances whatsoever. My discipline is iron-forged.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 11:22 PM
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I do wonder if women actually mean that when they say it, or if it's more of a defensive/coping statement.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 12:32 AM
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Nah, it's nowhere near as rare as people here make it out to be. But a lot of it probably depends on social circles/demographics.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/23 11:04 PM
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Locally might be tricky, depending on where you live. Comic book stores, game stores, if any places have tabletop game nights those might be worth trying. Classes, exhibits, any local nerd stuff (even if there aren't a ton of women there, awkward nerds know other awkward nerds, and you might get lucky with an introduction.) Cons, but somebody else mentioned they can swing very sex positive - it's a mixed bag. You'd probably have more luck finding what you want with the girls selling weird crafts…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/23 10:35 PM
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Boobs and belly button
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/23 10:24 PM
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I thought men used sex toys sometimes too.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/23 10:24 PM
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Shy awkward autistic nerds are a good start. Me and several of my close female friends are still virgins.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/23 10:22 PM
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I think it's a little overly optimistic to assume that existing anti-discrimation laws wouldn't have to be re-examined and reinterpreted as our culture's understanding of gender changes, or that no additional laws would need to be written to account for situations that were not as common before.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 05:18 PM
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I'm a little confused. If you are saying that the transgender population is so statistically insignificant that no laws regarding them are necessary, that would include laws regarding their protection and human rights - so how would you propose dealing with the examples of discrimination you laid out, if not through law?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 05:02 PM
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I'm not arguing about the specifics of said laws - I'm saying that I'm not sure population size is a relevant factor when determining which laws end up being made. ("Need for such laws" was in reference to accessibility, not transgender issues. I can't say one way or another whether there is a true "need" regarding transgender issues, but again, the need is independent of population size, imo.)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 04:53 PM
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I keep a list in my phone of all the shitty things about the guy I have a crush on. When I start feeling bad about it being unrequited, I read over them a few times. It really does help.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 04:52 PM
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I'm not sure if I agree with this particular sentiment...that's a bit like saying "it's bizarre that there are laws regarding the accessibility of buildings for wheelchair users." Yes, it affects a small percentage of the overall population, but there was still a need for such laws. I'm not sure population size is a relevant factor.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 04:48 PM
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It seems like you have met several in this thread who are telling you they do care about the n-count of their partners. I am also one; my n-count is 0, my preference in a man is 0-2. People are going to have different opinions, people are going to have different preferences. There is no majority "rule" to rely on, particularly when low n-count women are already likely to be a statistical minority.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 03:52 PM
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I personally wouldn't trust porn companies not to improperly store (and mishandle) that data.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 03:40 PM
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You said "get the fuck out of here." Unless I am misinterpreting that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 03:36 PM
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Women with low n-counts who want low n-count partners aren't welcome to participate in discussions here anymore...?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 03:33 PM
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I am sorry if I upset you. That wasn't my intention.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 03:25 PM
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I could see how porn might feel like more of a risk. People tend to be ashamed of porn consumption (versus utilizing cars/bars) so having your name and face directly attached to it, particularly when security breeches and data leaks are so common...I understand why that would make people hesitate.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 03:25 PM
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He's one of the nicer people here. (That's not commentary on this thread, I don't really have an opinion here. Just saying he's a really awesome guy.)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 03:21 PM
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Damn. Can we at least cook dinner at one of our houses?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 02:18 PM
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Knowing how many men seem to be unable to function without sex, I likely wouldn't be able keep my hypothetical partner. Which would be unfortunate. I doubt our shared interests, my contributions, or any of my other qualities would matter to him at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 02:16 PM
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Where did they say anything about cooking or cleaning? I am very confused.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 02:15 PM
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The question is specifically about vaginas. So people provide a vagina-specific answer. If you want to discuss common interests, you could say "if you were unable to have sex with your partner, what other parts of the relationship would fulfill you?"
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 02:13 PM
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So now I'm gonna have to wait until I'm married to go to dinner with a guy? :(
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 02:07 PM
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Is wanting something you don't have considered hypocrisy now?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/23 02:05 PM
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I don't understand why people here say women are more shallow than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 10:40 PM
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Why do you want to connect with someone awful?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 09:04 PM
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Individuals on this sub have a very inaccurate understanding of how to properly structure or utilize an analogy. You all need to study your literary techniques.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 06:18 PM
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It's the same way with men. They like conventionally hot thin girls, but dress them up differently and you have "alt/goth," "artist," "nerd," whatever stereotype. But beneath the styling, they are all still conventionally hot thin girls, and are largely interchangeable.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 06:13 PM
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I don't care. You could have exercised discipline and left. But her being a genuinely bad person didn't matter to you. And that's fine - you're allowed to not care. But you still made a choice to overlook her disgusting behavior because she was hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 06:04 PM
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So far, you've gotten one answer saying "dominatrix," one answer saying "there is no difference," and 4 answers either leaning towards or firmly landing on "escort." Describing these answers as "mixed" at this point feels rather imprecise to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 06:01 PM
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No, you didn't have to tough it out. You could have left immediately upon learning that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 05:55 PM
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No. I would hope that everyone calls out misandry when they see it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 05:50 PM
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As somebody who doesn't like casual sex, both are pretty repulsive. But the escort is generally more repulsive.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/23 05:47 PM
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So when faced with a generalization that does not apply to you, and you feel your own deviation from said generalization is worth mentioning, what is the best way to handle that? Or is it never worth mentioning at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 11:29 PM
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I used to combat it by trying to leave supportive comments on subs like this, or to send men supportive messages when they seem to be struggling. But they tend to yell at me for that and tell me I am not being genuine, so I stopped.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 08:16 PM
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Why don't people just say "in general" if they mean "in general"? Timing myself typing those words, it takes less that a second. And clear communication in the initial argument helps to avoid unnecessary responses.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 08:12 PM
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Sort of. I rarely have reason to interact with men specifically, at least outside of the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 08:10 PM
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Yes, I personally assume emotional cheating is everything short of sex. Romance/dates/etc. But it seems like everyone is working from a different definition.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 06:54 PM
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Then yes, I believe the conclusion is that we have very different definitions of relationships. Which I assume does complicated the labeling of an emotional affair. To me, there is a line one crosses where a friend is no long just a friend, and my investment in them should not match my investment in the person I have vowed to stay beside forever. (Though I will also say that I view partnerships as unconditional love, as well as family. I do not understand why partnerships would be labeled as con…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 06:15 PM
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Do you have romantic feelings for your friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 06:12 PM
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Being in a romantic relationship with someone is not necessarily separate from family, imo. As someone who views dating as strictly for marriage, I would not draw a line between "this is the person I am going to marry one day" and "this is my family." They are part of the same unit, and thus all ask for a similar type of investment - BUT that being said, my partner would come before other family members, and I would promise them more of my dedication, compassion, etc. (I will admit that this par…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 05:19 PM
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Yeah, this thread is making me realize that either my definition is very different than most - or maybe everyone has a different definition, and when this issue comes up, we are all debating different things. Personally, I would never call a crush an emotional affair, since nothing is really happening. And I figure almost everyone has those from time to time.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 05:06 PM
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Okay. So I suppose the issue lies in my definition of emotional affair, which is "an individual in a committed relationship falls in love with a third party, and regularly expresses that romantic investment to the third party." Which does strike me as a betrayal, insofar as I would not like to remain in a relationship wherein my partner was consistently expressing their love and desire to someone else. But perhaps that is not the commonly used definition.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 05:02 PM
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So are you arguing that the statistics in the earlier comment indicating that the majority of men have emotional affairs are inaccurate? (That is to say, everyone has "emotional affairs" to some extent, and measuring them accurately is a pointless endeavor?)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 04:55 PM
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Maybe I am confused. My definition of a romantic relationship is drastically different from "friendship + fucking" insofar as a romantic relationship requires an incredible degree of intimacy, vulnerability, willingness to compromise, patience, tolerance, availability, compassion, etc. that is simply not asked of most friendships. Romantic relationships form a cohesive unit that is a level beyond friendship, and that unit is not merely formed via sex. If I found out my SO was offering those thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 04:50 PM
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How do you prove a physical affair, short of catching them in the actual act? I assume it's the same thing. Is seeing a message where your SO tells someone "I love you more than anyone else and I wish I could be with you" really better than seeing a message where your SO says "I can't wait to fuck you tonight"?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 04:46 PM
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So your definition of an emotional affair is not "someone develops romantic feelings for a person they are not in a relationship with, and they act on those feelings"? I assumed that is what's commonly referenced when the term "emotional affair" is used.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 04:38 PM
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The capitalizing is what gives me pause. I understand the kink, but why would someone want to capitalize off of their intimate moments?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 04:35 PM
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Even if it makes it clear that your partner does not love you?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 04:27 PM
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So if the woman you were with was acting as if she was in love with someone else and not you, you would not see it as a problem?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 04:26 PM
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Why is your husband encouraging that?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 04:24 PM
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Yes. Everyone is struggling with all kinds of shit every single day.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 04:23 PM
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Can someone please explain to me how emotional affairs are not a dealbreaker? I am shocked to hear some people don't consider them to be that big of a deal. If you are with someone you are in love with, and you find out that they are in love with someone else, and they are treating that person with the same sort of affection that used to be reserved for you, why would you stay in a relationship with them? Isn't an emotional affair basically just a way of saying "I no longer love you, I now love …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 04:20 PM
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I don't really understand why I need to take extra steps to maintain peace of mind. Relationships can be painful, that's just the truth of it all. The guy I meet will likely hurt me at some point. I either deal with that hurt, or the hurt crosses a line and I try to find someone else. For me, "I am falling in love with someone else, and consistently talking to that person in a way that makes it clear that I love them, and they likely reciprocate those feelings for me" is crossing a line. It does…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 04:14 PM
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It is a dealbreaker. I don't understand what you mean by "cope," though. If someone eventually hurts me that way, that's very unfortunate for me. I will keep trying to find someone who hopefully does not.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 03:03 PM
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I would imagine at least 3-4 years would be necessary, to make sure you're well out of the initial excitement of it all.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/23 02:52 PM
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Well, it's my ideal, not yours. I would be very content in a world where sex never happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 10:53 PM
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I don't know where mutilation or dehumanization factor into my ideal. I think the world would be much better off if our only connections were platonic/communal, and non-romantic or non-sexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 10:39 PM
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Is your sister a middle/upper middle class, slender, conventionally attractive, college-educated individual? If so, she's likely what most men on PPD think of when they discuss girls in context of dating. If not, then most men probably don't think of her demographic when they are talking about girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 10:38 PM
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Did I say I was a feminist?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 10:33 PM
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Spent part of Valentine's Day talking to my crush. We both ranted about how the wedding industry is a toxic, how engagement rings are a scam, and how marketing has turned wedding ceremonies into soulless displays for social clout. Feels good.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 10:20 PM
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Because I'm not pro-borg. A low-tech society with no sex and no gender expectations would be my ideal.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 10:11 PM
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Just make sure you leave room for the holy spirit.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 06:41 PM
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My absolute ideal would be entirely sexless/genderless. No meaningful distinctions between man and woman, no romantic connections, no sexual reproduction. A society with robust communal connections/investment in its members outside of romantic pursuits, and one that is largely removed from modern civilization as we recognize it today. Obviously it would not be a sustainable society, but seeing as that is not a requirement you mentioned, I'm assuming it's an allowable answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 06:39 PM
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People on the internet are way too open about their sex lives sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 06:28 PM
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Am I a woman? Or am I simply an arrangement of atoms and cells that happens to fall into the vague pattern of a person, but is ultimately meaningless and without true purpose? Who knows.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 06:07 PM
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Don't most men want the exact same traits? Thin, good waist-to-hip ratio, petite height, clear skin, healthy hair, etc. There will be some deviation between individuals, of course - but by and large, I would assume most men are looking for the same physical markers when it comes to attraction. (I imagine the primary argument here will be that height is not a marker of health in the same capacity as the other traits that I listed - I acknowledge and accept that, but I do think the baseline argume…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 06:03 PM
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Unwarranted sexual contact that you appreciated is still unwarranted sexual contact.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 05:39 PM
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I firmly believe that men, especially men on this sub, are envisioning a very narrow demographic when they discuss the behavior of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 05:36 PM
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I would take that a step further and argue that the girls men want to fuck are often the only ones who actually qualify as "girls" in their mind. All other human females are nonentities.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 05:31 PM
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That is absolutely sexual assault.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 05:16 PM
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What is your recommendation for individuals who cannot take care of themselves? Children who cannot work to provide for themselves, disabled individuals who cannot work to provide for themselves, etc.?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 04:19 PM
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"Valentine's Day, as it is presently expressed in our culture, is commercialized nonsense profiting from the commodification of genuine human connection. Companies present hollow gestures as aspirational in order to sell more products. We are encouraged to be lazy, to avoid doing the meaningful day-to-day work of building relationships, and use this one day to "make up" for our failings and complacency - and if our inauthentic gestures do not measure up against the judge of social media, we are …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 04:11 PM
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And you don't think that's a touch overly idealistic?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 04:02 PM
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What kind of woman are you expecting to appear at this finish line?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/23 03:48 PM
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Why do you feel that it is appropriate or decent to use either term?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 06:15 PM
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I don't think so. But if enough people here say something, it starts to make me doubt my perception.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 05:43 PM
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If it is an inherent part of my femininity, then nothing I do can change it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 05:22 PM
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Very bad/isolated due to a lot of difficult circumstances outside of my control. So it's likely a situation where coming here is just amplifying that external badness.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 05:10 PM
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I honestly don't know. I like to think I am not those things, but I have never had a clear perception of myself. They make me think that maybe I have misunderstood my motivations and over-inflated my value as a human.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 05:08 PM
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Yeah I guess something has just happened to shift it from "entertainment" to something else. Reading it is making me hate myself, hate being female, hate other people, etc. I don't know what happened but it's bad and probably a sign that I need to stop checking in
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 05:06 PM
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I wish I could say that. Reading about how disgusting and worthless and shallow I am, and seeing my "holes" referenced starts to hurt me after a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 04:57 PM
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Internet forums tend to be an amplification of the real world, and therefore reflective of real life sentiments. Everyone is probably thinking these awful things in real life, they just don't say them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 04:54 PM
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How do you all consistently post in this sub without hating yourself? I used to be able to at least read the daily thread and it felt chill/interesting, but now it feels like every comment is a reminder of how awful things are
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 04:47 PM
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