douchey This here, people. When a man calls another man a douche, he's recognizing superior frame. Always. "Asshole" and similar words can mean other things - douche and douchebag always mean "I'm intimidated by your frame".
It's counterintuitive, but I find I actually get more confidence from the understated frame of "I'm just a man" than I do from trying to impose a narrative onto myself that I'm some kind of high value alpha. It's really not when you look at things from the right filter. The frame of being superior can be broken easily by any external event that means the opposite. It happens - boom, cognitive dissonance, new frame is necessary. You break out of frame. "I'm just a man" is an ego-less frame. Prett…
